Understanding Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Ignoring You- And How To Get Him To Stop

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Rea

April 4, 2016 at 1:13 pm

Hi! I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. For unclear reasons he just simply stopped talking to me for almost a month now. Before that happened I was always complaining about him not having enough time for me for months because of his job. We only talk to each other every Saturday and in other days just chatting or texting. The once a week call would nor even reach 1 hour because he’s tired and had to work overtime. If I’m upset about this he would usually try to apologize. However our last conversation/call did not even reach 7 minutes as he needed to sleep. So I told him the next day not to talk to me for awhile. A couple of days after I accidentally found out that he has a facebook account without my knowledge when I installed facebook messenger but when I asked him about it, he simply changed his account name and privacy setting. He did not even bother to explain. Five days after I messaged him if he’s angry in which he did not reply. Then I said sorry and brought up the facebook thing saying that he must be hiding something from me. No response as well. And two weeks after I sent him a message about something that remind me of him, and I asked him if this is really what he wanted. No reply still. I don’t know what’s going on exactly and I know he has read all my messages. I’m planning to send a break up letter. I don’t want to look desperate and I just want to move on with my life. Does it mean he does not love me anymore? I want him to tell me straight if he doesn’t love me anymore. Why just ignore me and act like I don’t exist? Why hide the facebook account? I just want to end this but I’m not sure if writing a break up letter would be the best thing to do. Obviously he does not care about how I feel anymore.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 4, 2016 at 3:05 pm

Hi Rea,

looks like that’s his style of breaking up.. It’s not right..
if sending the letter could help you have closure.. go ahead..

Annie

April 3, 2016 at 3:35 pm

Hi! My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said he just didn’t feel the same way he did when we first started going out. I did strict no contact on him for 21 days. He had texted me maybe 5 days into it but I didn’t respond. I broke the ice sending him a picture of something i knew he liked and telling him i thought he might like it. It was late at night and he was probably out so he answered back an hour and a half later positively/neutrally. The convo was short and he stopped responding. The day after I texted him again just to see how he was and I was getting pretty neutral responses. I asked him if everything was okay with us and he told me that yes and that hes good but that he texted me on this day and never got a response so he wasn’t sure. It’s frustrating because i’m so used to him being silly and just being able to talk to him about anything and I feel like I dont even know him anymore. We talked for maybe half the day but I feel like I was the one trying to keep the conversation alive. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 4, 2016 at 11:24 am

Hi Annie,

If he says you’re good then it’s ok that you’re the one initiating as long as you’re ending it ar a high point.. try jealousy tactics too

Eliza

March 25, 2016 at 10:07 pm

Hi! I broke up more than a year ago. However we kept talking and trying to figure things out until last summer. He went abroad and we he came back he didn’t want to talk to me or even to see me. He has been avoiding me, he didn’t answer my texts. I texted him and wanted to have the opportunity to talk but he just disappeared. I saw him a couple of weeks ago (by accident) and we exchanged a couple of words and he seemed friendly and interested in my life. That situation made me texted him and asked him if it could be possible to meet to catch up and he answered he is out of town and when he comes back he’ll be busy. I don’t understand why would he just disappeared and why would he consider I don’t even deserve an explanation. I haven’t been able to move on because I can’t close the cycle. I feel so rejected and unloved. We were best friends and we got along so well.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 2, 2016 at 2:01 pm

Hi Eliza,

It looks like that’s his way of breaking up.. and it’s not respectful.. If you want closure, you can text him about it.. text him that you’re just asking for a clarification, a confirmation. But don’t beg, if he does not answer, take that as a yes and move on.

Sarv

March 23, 2016 at 9:32 am

Hi there
I’ve been reading about all these rules and possibilities of getting an ex back.. Mostly sound logical…
My 22 year old bf broke up with me a week ago. FYI, I am 32. We have been in a relationship for 3and half years. With ups and downs. During the past year we were on the rocks for almost like 40percent of time; and we lived in the same house. So after we have been apart for three months due to some administrative paper work that he needed to take care of, he came back to me so awkwardly, full of complexes and saying stuff from here and ther.. He said he admits this relationship is dead, there is life out there and he had fun. He felt trapped in a sittuation with limited people and repeatative activities, boring! And i couldn’t get my role in all that conflict. I kept listening and he confessed that he was worried and it is time for me to consider my future options to settle down, cuz of my age, and he is not ready to do so ( i never ever mentioned getting serrious even in future). Then i asked if he wants us to break up? He said i don’t know. He asked me to give solution. I suggested to continue and take it easy to see what can come up. He cried and became waaaay too emotional. Then after 2 months he started to get so close to his girl best friend which is a close friend of mine, and she is 33!! So they hanged out a lot, but i couldn’t find a single clue of infidelity. But once i brought the issue to my friend to help me realizing the situation by giving some time to me and take one step back so that i can understand my feelings for the whole situation( i have been under deppression for arround 6 months), i wanted to prevent complications by missjudging the stuff.
So she made my bf to get into this conversation.. Things got weird, they became far distant with me.. I became messed up and finally my bf , after having a nice and quiet day staying in, and spending time with me, left the house and in 2 hours texted me and broke up!!!
Later i realized that my friends were having fights over my situation, almost all the circle became tense without me knowing what is going on!!!
Then suddenly booom.. I sudennly became cool and texted back that i accepted. It is ok with me as well..I talked to him on saturday, that i put my guards off, i dont want the relationship anymore, but it is enough being all that weird and messed up, if there is any occasion that we have to be with mutual friends, i tend to not to have any conflict, enough is enough. And also i informed him that i will move out asap.. He said it is ok take your time bloblo…
Now we havent seen eachother since sunday. I immedately stopped contacts on thursday after he broke up. Still no contacts
He hangs out with that girl a lot, they go to school together and stuff.. I feel like there have been too much pressure. So i even dont wanna go near him for a while..
Literally im in nc phase. I just wanna know what are the chances that we can survive this mess??
Ps. This girl’s place is very weird in our relationship!!
Regards

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 1, 2016 at 9:11 am

Hi Sarv,

if you’re still in nc, continue to do so.. You need for yourself to have balance again.. I think it has a lot do with his and that you’re living together.. He’s young, he wants adventure and he feels trapped to be living together with you.. Although your friend is at the same age as yours, whether or not they’re together, she’s still a form of variety to his life right now…

Cas

March 21, 2016 at 1:34 am

My situation is kinda unique (which I’m sure everyone says) but my boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. My family was relocating across the country but I was staying where I lived for several reasons but the main one was him. He broke up with me saying that it was too much pressure on our relationship too soon and he felt like he was taking me from my family. Since the breakup, I haven’t felt any better and I’m kinda ashamed to admit that I’ve texted him. About 2 weeks ago I sent him a long message about how badly he hurt me because he said the break up was hard on him too. Is there anyway to come back from this?

Cas

March 22, 2016 at 3:54 pm

Do I need to wait for him to contact? I’m doing the nc right now, but do I have to wait until he sees that I stayed and then have him message me first? Because that probably won’t happen for months. :/ and also, when he broke up with me he told me that he didn’t love me even though less than a day before he told me that he did and that he always would. So what do you think that means?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2016 at 9:47 am

Nope, you can initiate contact after nc.. He may have said that out of emotion.
Cas

March 21, 2016 at 2:45 pm

Nope, since that long message like 2 weeks ago I haven’t said a word to him.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 22, 2016 at 11:51 am

If he’s really just pressured, in time when he sees you stayed and have other things you have been busy with and have you own life, he may feel less pressured.. if you have been productive in posting in social media during nc, he may see that
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 21, 2016 at 9:06 am

Hi Cas,

after that, have you texted again?

Melissa

March 20, 2016 at 7:31 pm

My boyfriend now my ex, started acting distant towards me a week I broke up with him. He workes out of town and when he comesback we usually spend time together well this time he told me he was going to come over but I wanted toknow what the plans were going to be so I text and called him about 4 or 5 times not back to back to see where we were going to go he never answered. He finally called me at 9 at night and asked what i was doin. He didn’t answer me so I made planes, he got upset and hung up and I CALLED AND CALLED AND CALLED and he ignored my calls and messages. I finally got had enough and told him that by the way he was acting he was telling me he didn’t care about my feelings that he was acting childish, and that I wished him the best that I hoped he would find someone that didn’t mined being lied to. He never answed back or called back its very recent. The reason I explained the situation is to know if the no contact rule will work for me. FYI I did most of thr calling and set most of the luby duby messages. 5 Months with him, please help

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 21, 2016 at 8:37 am

Hi Melissa,
give it another week, let’s see if he cools down, if not count that as no contact and continuee on

Kelly

March 19, 2016 at 7:51 am

Okay so I need advice. The situation is complex but I will keep it short. I had a bad break up in the fall before Christmas. He said he needed space. I texted or called once a week so confused by what was happening. He was cold. Then he started talking to me again for some weeks. Then one day he got mad and told me to move on and get over him. Then two weeks later after not speaking he started contacting me again. We spoke everyday for a month. Then he went cold again. Recently he has started messaging or calling every few days. I just don’t get it or no what to do!! I want to do no contact but the break up was a while ago. What do you think I should do and why does he keep going hot and cold. Also I know when he stops speaking to me he is speaking to other girls.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 20, 2016 at 4:21 am

Hi Kelly,

if he stopa talking to you to talk to other girls, that’s not good. How long were your relationship?

alice

February 29, 2016 at 2:43 pm

does the no contact rule always work ? and also about the text after 30 days what if he don’t reply at all to the text then what do you do ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2016 at 12:49 pm

Hi alice,

no it doesn’t always work..We don’t guarantee it 100% and also because nothing really is a guarantee..if somebody told you they can surely get your ex back to you, that would be a lie.. but we have success stories from people who used nc and got their ex back because of it..

if he doesn’t reply at all then that means you have to move on

Jason

February 29, 2016 at 1:53 pm

The 30 day NC rule is not very good. I stumbled on this site by searching “if and how long I should be ignoring my ex”.

After 2 weeks you start losing affection for someone. By 30 days that person can be completely gone from your mind. If your boyfriend is the one that initialized the breakup, I don’t know if 30 days is a good length to wait, because by then, he has already moved on.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2016 at 10:56 am

Hi Jason,

Thank you for putting in your insight. Actually no contact rule is widely recommended by other relationship experts and therapists. It didn’t start from us. The difference with us is mostly we only recommend upto 45 days.. The shortest with others is 60-90 days.. We think 45 days only, so that we’re still in the 66 days rule of breaking or making habit.. So that your ex hasn’t broke the habit of thinking about you…

Sabrina

February 27, 2016 at 11:16 pm

Hello Amor,

do you have an email I could contact you on, I would like to talk about updates privately. I tried to email you on support@exboyfriend.com and it said that it was on hold then the email was rejected. Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 28, 2016 at 2:40 pm

Oh..it’s wrong.. it’s support@exboyfriendrecovery.com

Carolina

February 26, 2016 at 9:24 pm

Hey there, I really need your help. I have been with my ex for about 9 month, it was love on the first sight, we had a great relationship, everything was perfect, we made plans to move to another country and start a family this year. I am a very emotional person, but I never made a secret out of it, he knew from the beginning and promised me that my depressions never will drag him away from me. like 5 month ago after a nice weekend i saw him monday night and he just broke up. i couldn’t believe it, all in a sudden he said he was not the man for me to grow old with. we didn’t speak for a week and then he came by to pick up his stuff. he told me he just steps back and waits. a month later i called him, afterwards i texted him if we maybe should do a therapy together so he can understand me better. he said its too early, and then i texted him few times more to ask whats going on. He blocked me, on every social network at the same time, no way of communication. i haven’t heard from him since. he didn’t say happy birthday to me. i send him an email for christmas and new year. nothing. nothing. nothing. it feels like he died. i can’t deal with this.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2016 at 9:17 am

Hi Carolina,

As of now, you have no other choice but to do no contact and try to move on.. because that’s the best thing you can do for yourself.. focus more on healing for yourself and also to be emotionally stronger.. I’m not saying there’s no chance that he won’t talk to you but when he blocks you, it’s better that you’re more emotionally ready to talk to hin

Jenna

February 23, 2016 at 9:43 pm

Hey there! I recently broke up with my boyfriend because my best friend told me to and since I was already upset with him, I decided to do it. I feel awful, and i immediately messaged him and we met up and decided to first be friends before anything else. But then i told him about one of my friends that asked me on a date and asked him if i should go. I was never planning on going, but i was hoping he would tell me he wanted to be with me. Instead he got so mad and stopped talking to me after he called me to curse me out, and now i am just so hurt and upset. He will not even speak to me and allow me to explain anything. Do you think I have a chance, or should i just move on?

EBR Team member Amor

February 25, 2016 at 2:48 am

I really would like to talk to him and win him back. But he claims to others that he wants nothing to do with me. Do you think it is because it is so soon after?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 25, 2016 at 1:28 pm

Yeah, it can be that it’s too soon
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 24, 2016 at 10:50 am

Hi Jenna,

First you have to regain making your own decisions.. What do you really want to do right now?

Unloved

February 21, 2016 at 6:27 am

Hey!

So my ex boyfriend and I had been dating for 14 months, and we just broke up exactly two weeks ago. Although I broke it off, it was ultimately just because I didn’t feel like he cared about me as much as I cared for him, and I wasn’t a priority. We had had this problem ever since the beginning of the relationship, however, over time I became accustomed to his lower levels of affection. In fact, he hasn’t even said I love you yet (though after the break up his friend told me that he was about to, he was just afraid things would end). A lot of our friends began talking about their futures, and when I brought it up to him, his response was: “I really don’t know, but I feel like if you were “the one” I would care about you more. And although we are happy, I don’t want to settle for what’s comfortable.” Obviously, this was a pretty big blow, and though I said he needed to make the decision, I got pretty frustrated and wound up just breaking it off the next day because I didn’t feel that should be something you really need to think about. He’s pretty much been ignoring my existence since, but he did reach out last week to ask if we could hang out with our friend group together (we have the same friends). I responded with the fact that I thought it was still too soon. We did wind up hanging out with the friend group this past week, but the whole time he pretended I didn’t exist! Eventually I did manage to catch his eye, but he gave me such a sad smile… And then after I caught his eye again, he still gave me the sad smile, but then looked down and started smiling to himself!
So here are my questions:
1) was he just less able to show how much he cared? Did he really love me?
2) should I have not broken it off?
3) is his reaching out and ready to be friends mean that he has moved on?
4) is he now pretending like I don’t exist because he doesn’t want anything to do with me? And why does he look so sad every time he looks at me?

Thank you! I would much appreciate any response!

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 21, 2016 at 2:24 pm

Hi,
What he said,“I really don’t know, but I feel like if you were “the one” I would care about you more. And although we are happy, I don’t want to settle for what’s comfortable.” That’s what it exactly means…
At the time he said that, he doesn’t love you or he is taling you for granted… 1 year of no I love you is major.. But when you’re gone or distant, he will miss you.. I hope he realizes he loves you and not just missing your company…

Do you plan on doing nc?

Sabrina

February 15, 2016 at 7:16 pm

Hi, My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me a month ago. What happened was my fault: on the day of my birthday I thought I saw him with a girl in his car…I got SO angry and texted him awful things while he tried to prove me the whole day that it was not him. But I wouldn’t hear it I got cheated on in all the relationships I was in and they always found a way to talk me out of breaking up only to hurt me more again. That day he even reached out to my friend so she would talk to me but the more he tried the more I believe that it was him and that he was lying…I wouldn’t hear it. Until I calmed down at night and started to think and realized that he was telling the truth and indeed it couldn’t be him because of time framing and other capital details. Anyways when I have realized my terrible mistake I apologized but he said he was not coming back into the relationship. I waited two days and showed up at his place. I tried to talk but he refused even said he didn’t love me anymore and that he was tired of me fighting all the time. We did have issues lately because of misunderstandings but I would acknowledge my faults and what I needed to change which he never did in the 2 years we were together..Not that it would have made me feel better if he did but I thought that if we both talked our issues through we could fix things. Plus in between his mother passed away 4 months ago and I supported him he wouldn’t show his feelings but I know it hurt him really bad. Three days before my birthday and the incident he said how much he was lucky to have me and that even though we had issues he wanted to work towards fixing them and that he will never forget what I did when his mom was sick and passed. I had issues with my job that I hate and made me become a bitter person, that would not go out or want to do anything it even affected my sex drive which I tried to explain him but he thought it was because of him so we fought more and more lately. I didn’t really feel support from him when I had problems… Anyways after showing up at his house that day I texted him saying that I was shocked that he wouldn’t even listen to me while I was crying and begging he replied saying that I did it to myself. Then he said that given the way I acted when I showed up to his house I probably knew that this time I really effed up. I was wrong so I don’t know how he expected me to react other than apologizing…I left him alone 5 days then texted him asking how he was doing he replied and I asked him if he hated me he said no he loved me but couldn’t do this anymore and that he actually stayed cause he loved me but he had enough of the nagging…I said I understood. The next day I told him that I missed him and he ignored me…after that he kept ignoring I would stay a couple of days without contacting him then text and he would ignore me… One day I showed up at his place apologize and told him I was parked outside if he could come to talk …but he ignored me and left me out…later I apologized (again) for showing up while he was not willing to talk to me… Anyways after apologizing again and again one week ago I gave up and implemented NC…I am trying to do so to move on but at the same time still have hopes he will contact me…Yesterday was Vday and aslo our anniversary so it was tough and I was really hurt but I didn’t contact him. At this point I don’t know what to say anymore anyways and also know he will ignore me which will hurt more. I don’t get how someone can become that cold and also can’t forgive someone they love. We were talking about marriage recently, and at the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me while we were long distance. I forgave him I chose to and never brought it up but then here he won’t do the same for me and I didn’t even cheat…I don’t know what to do at this point sometimes I feel like he was just looking for a way out, or because the sex issue was something he couldn’t deal with since it changed greatly compared to before I had this job…I feel like he hates my guts…yet I still love him…I know I am an idiot…what would you advise me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 16, 2016 at 8:38 am

Hi Sabrina,

Continue with nc and let’s if it’s just pride that’s holding him back

Gin

February 14, 2016 at 11:51 am

Hi Chris and Amor!
I’m a girl from china. I’m wondering if NC will work in my case since we were not in a relationship. I met an American exchange student 2 months ago and we started dating. On the second date we had sex, and we promised sexual exclusivacy to each other. We had a great time until I found out he had dated a girl I know before and according to her he’s being a jerk to her. But when I asked him he denied and said it was another exchange student. I believed it but few days later I saw him in the pic the girl posted on instagram. I decided to break up. We argued over this and he eventually admitted that was him. But he explained he doesn’t like her at all cuz she’s ugly and he’s just too lonely…blahblah. And then he said it seems to be better to break up now. And I agreed. The next day we met for the last time and basically we were happy together so I’d say it’s a happy ending. But after 11days, I texted him for some trivia questions. Things went fine until I ended the conversation with an old joke we used to play: I sent him a selfie and said it’s for u in case you miss me. He answered with unhappy emoji and replied “don’t send me that. We already broke up so I can’t miss u. Good night. (unhappy emoji again)” The next morning I replied I was just joking! But I do miss you in some way…no specific meaning. Just want u to know it. And I got no reply.
Did I made a mistake? Why does he ignore me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2016 at 10:33 am

Hi Gin,

You did the right thing.. You deserve a man who is faithful, honest and loves you.

Ramona

February 11, 2016 at 2:29 pm

My ex and I had a very intense relationship and no issues for almost 1 year. He suddenly became more distant towards me and explained that he has a lot of work to do so is very busy. I trusted him because we were even following each other on “Find my friends” app so we knew where the other was anytime. But then one night I decided to test him using another girl’s Facebook profile, so I sent him a friend request and started talking. He immediately replied and was very enthousiastic about that girl and he asked her out for dinner. Then I confessed it was myself behind the screen and I ironically thanked him for letting me know the truth. When he saw that message he just didn’t reply anything back. No explanation, nothing. He’s been silent for almost one week. Why is he acting this way? We had minor fights and he always used to text me afterwards, he never let one day pass without making contact. I don’t understand…

Ramona

February 16, 2016 at 8:57 am

Amor, I did a mistake. After one week of NC I just couldn’t control myself and I texted him asking if he’s never going to explain what happened. He replied that he is very dissapointed in me because what I did was childish. He was angry that I only contacted him after 1 week and he told me it doesn’t matter what he feels right now. He told me he loved me and never cheated but at the same time avoided to explain why he was so flirty with that girl on Facebook and actually got angry when I asked if he really intended to cheat on me. I don’t understand this reaction. I mean I am aware that what I did was indeed childish but at the same time using this childish action I caught him flirting and asking another girl out. He blame it on me. Why? Why is he acting like this and what does he want to accomplish using this behavior?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 16, 2016 at 12:55 pm

Well it just means he doean’t want to admit what he did and trying to cover it up by blaming you
Ramona

February 12, 2016 at 3:59 pm

Thanks Amor! Truth be told, I don’t want him back. He was ready to cheat with another girl instead of communicating with me about his issues, so I can’t trust him anymore. But I want him to feel sorry and to chase me, so I can have the opportunity to refuse him! 🙂 NC can work for this purpose?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 13, 2016 at 8:35 am

Yeah of course.. When he he sees your improvement and how you’re hapoy without him, he’ll regret it of course.. 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 12:10 pm

Hi Ramona,

Did he became distant after you pretended or you pretended because he’s acting distant?

It’s probable that he’s silent because he got angry because of that and also ashamed too.

It’s hard to tell what the main reason of why he’s acting distant but it can because the relationship got boring for him..

Use the same way you used when you pretended, to texting once you start again after no contact. If you got him to ask you to dinner with that, you can get the spark back too in your relationship

charlottr

February 10, 2016 at 6:54 am

My ex bf has blocked me on all social media. This morning I got added into a whatsapp group with him. We don’t acknowledge what the other person says. I already messed up by already being a text gnat. But it was fine at first we were speaking non stop so I thought we’d work things out. But i pushed him for an answer then got mad when he was unsure. Told him not to waste my time and he then blocked me. I was going to do no contact but I’ve already been a text gnat. Now I’m in thi whatsapp group. Does it count as no contact if I’m ignoring his message but replying to other members in the group?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 9:45 am

Aas long as you’re not talking to him, thats fine

Beauty

February 10, 2016 at 12:15 am

Hi Chris,
So it’s been about a month since my boyfriend broke up with me. I tried reaching out earlier as friends, but he was treating me like absolute crap when he was talking to me, so I figured it was best to leave him alone because I was smothering him and of course the break up was still new. So I didn’t talk to him for about 2-3 weeks. In those 2-3 weeks he unfollowed me on social media. I assumed he was mad at me for some reason, and I didn’t know why. So, I just left it alone. Then a couple days after he unfollowed me he walked up to me and started talking, he thanked me for helping him study a couple weeks back which was odd because I had already told him it was no problem. I was also confused why he was talking to me when he unfollowed me on social media and he seemed angry. The next day he followed me back on social media. So I thought he was finally warming up to me as a friend, and I was slowly moving on. I thought that we were on good terms, and that this was our way of slowly opening up a friendship. But I just texted him, nicely asking a question and he never responded. I don’t get him!!!! What is his problem?!

charlotte

February 12, 2016 at 6:38 pm

I’m half way through no contact but what if he find a new gf on the dating app. I don’t think texting him after 30 days will work cos I’ve been a texting gnat
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 13, 2016 at 11:22 am

he finds a bew gf within 30 days? well, it’s either rebound or they would be in honeymoon phase but that doesn’t mean he will stop thinking about you
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 13, 2016 at 11:24 am

If he really doesn’t want a serious relationship because of his daughter, that means he will stop pulling away after she’s 18, the only thing you can do is decide whether to keep your relationship to him minimal or stop at all..

It’s easy to attract a person, in short just aim being the ungettable girl but if that’s really his priority, can’t do anything but respect that
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 9:30 am

Hi Beauty,

Let it go. If he really wanted to reconnect he would. If you chase him, he’ll go away more

charlotte

February 9, 2016 at 7:07 am

My ex and I broke up. I kept texting him every 2 weeks about insignificant things to speak to him and he would respond. I told him I wanted to make things work again he said no. I said he hadn’t given it any thought. He said I was right and wanted time to think. I didn’t speak to him for 2 weeks and asked him if he had an answer he said he needed more time as he was on holiday. He said when he comes home we could meet up to discuss. We started speaking everyday and it was really nice. It came to new years day and I again asked him for an answer and he didn’t know. I got really frustrated and told him he should know of he wanted me or not. He said I think we’re better off as friends but let’s continue to speak everyday. I said no and that he was being selfish. I told him to never speak to me again. He blocked me on all social media. I sent him a fbk message saying I was sorry and he said he had enough. I apologised and said let’s just discuss everything in person. He said you told me to leave you alone so there you go. I continued sending messages for a few days apologising. He didn’t reply. I saw him at a party and spoke to him and we laughed and then I asked him why he blocked me. He said it’s just easier this way. I said it was cruel. But I thought our conversation was alright. I thought he would have blocked me but he hasn’t. I sent him one last text saying I was done with trying to make peace with him and it was down to him. Looking back I know I became such a crazy texting gnat . I feel like even after no contact rule I can’t do the texting thing cos I’ve already sent soooo many. I’m assuming I definitely won’t be able to get him back cos he probably finds me annoying and he wants to be friends.

charlotte

February 13, 2016 at 1:59 pm

Thanks Amor for always replying straight away. Sorry for being such a mess! Really do appreciate it all!
Okay so its fine he’s on the app. He obviously feels a void. Wish he’d text me instead or searching for someone else. Only a month ago he was ready to work things out.

Thanks for all your help Amor! 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 13, 2016 at 5:45 pm

No, its ok… although I’m not saying it’s fine by not askin him.. It’s just that it might push him away further if he’s confronted..
charlotte

February 12, 2016 at 6:40 pm

I’m half way through nc and my ex bf is on a dating app. What if he finds someone else? I’ve already been a texting gnat. So sending him a text after 30 days would just add to me being annoying?
charlotte

February 12, 2016 at 1:48 pm

My friend my ex bf on a dating app. I’m panicking. Why won’t be just come back to me instead of looking for another gf? Cos over xmas he seemed like he wanted me back. Now to this extreme
charlotte

February 12, 2016 at 11:01 am

My friend found my ex bf on a dating app. Ahhh now I’m going into panic mode.
Only last month he was ready to work things out when he comes home from his holiday. Now he’s on a dating app trying to find another gf
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 3:03 pm

Don’t ask him about that now..
charlotte

February 11, 2016 at 8:09 pm

Ok ill do nc for 30 days then send a text. Really hate how I have to ‘chase’ him. If he really loved me/ valued me he would have come back straight away?
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 1:42 pm

You mean by texting first after nc? Well, it will only be apparent that you’re chasing of you keep texting one after another when he doesn’t reply.
charlotte

February 10, 2016 at 7:56 pm

Yes I would try no contact. Then try texting him again? Only issue is that I’m in multiple whatsapp groups with him. Should I remain silent in those groups? We ignore each other in the group and only response to our friends
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 11:41 am

Just remain like that while in nc
charlotte

February 9, 2016 at 7:09 am

I thought he would have unblocked me but he hasn’t **
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 10, 2016 at 11:58 am

Would you consider trying nc?

Shell

February 9, 2016 at 6:03 am

Hi, I broke up with my ex about a 2 weeks due to him cheating he denied it with everything in him but I knew he was lying.He even had the nerve to say it was my lost..lol Are you serious??HA! About a day after the beak up I texts and asked if he could give me my key back to my place; he agreed and said that he would meet me to get them. When time came to meet up I got no answer or returned call period. so I decided to kick into high gear and do the no contact thing. So far I’ve done pretty good with no contact. Ive blocked him on every social network so that he couldn’t do any peeking in on me. lol I want to know if I’m taking the right approach on this situation? I don’t plan to contact him period he has to learn his lesson.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 9, 2016 at 8:53 pm

Hi Shell

Yeah, definitely!

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