The No Contact Rule: A Powerful Strategy That Works On Your Ex

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Charlie

December 30, 2015 at 3:22 am

No Contact, Day 13 of 30.
Is this the point when I go crazy?
My ex broke up with me in May of 2015. Over the phone because I asked a girl on his FB page to stop flirting with him in his or my posts. He called me and blew up. Broke up with me and because I was starting my month long business trip that day… My 30 days of NC started. We started being friends again after that and kept getting closer. Then on Halloween, we were drunk and I stayed over. He told me he missed me, that he loved me and he kissed me. I told him the same. And we agreed to talk about it in the morning.
We never got that chance to talk face to face. My life got turned upside down. My dog almost died, I got diagnosed with a treatable non-cancerous tumor, my friend committed suicide and work was awful. BUT I didn’t let anyone know, I kept to myself to deal with it. Then he meets a woman who JUST got separated and kicked her husband out. Then BAM, they’re dating after two dates. Their kids are now hanging out together. He stays over all the time. I find out he’s in a relationship when it becomes FB official… on my Birthday and the day she started divorce proceedings.
He called to see how I was doing and we talked for 3hrs.
-I still love you
-I still want you in my life
-We’ll still hangout and do stuff
-We’ll still do stuff with the kids(his).
For a week we still texted and talked everyday. Then he took our Star Wars Tickets so he could take her… and he asked if I wanted to meet her? Ummm, no. I’d rather have a degrading and invasive vaginal exam than meet her right now. That’s when I went to the earlier showing and texted him the MAJOR SPOILER. And he still continued to text after that.
That’s when I found Ex boyfriend Recovery and started my 30 days of NC. He’s texted and sent pics of things he’s seen that he thought i’d like. And I stayed strong. I’ve kept counting down the days like a high school student days away from Summer Vacation.
Now I’ve heard nothing from him. To make matters worse, his new GF tags him in every pic, post(even if he’s not there) professes her undying love for him and all that he does. How do I know this? Because the MENSA candidate that is his new GF has a public profile. She’ll bash her(still husband and not yet divorced) then brag about my ex/her current BF. She monitors his FB, she posts how much she misses him when he’s gone. She posts picture quotes about relationships that make me want to vomit.
She’s basically slid him into the role of new father and husband. I’m no expert, but this woman is not healed from her 10year marriage that produced 3 kids.
my Ex and I didn’t feel the need to be THAT FB couple. We flew under the radar. He hated that sort of thing This woman is the complete opposite of me. Maybe that’s why he’s with her. OR (insert your own judgement)
Now I know all this sounds like a telenovela and why would I want a guy like him? Well, the heart wants what the heart wants. I still love him and he’s worth fighting for and waiting for. He is also Bipolar and this is his Hypermania time(she has no idea of his BP. Just wait until it switches) I will hold to the NC rule and this play book and Text Your Ex Back (yes, I bought ALLLLLL the things!). I will continue to work on myself and become an even stronger Ungettable Girl.
SO my questions to all of you who have been there.
-how do you get through this NC time?
-how do you shake this doubt that he’s moved on and you’ve lost him forever?
-is he just a rebound for her?
-he promised to still be there for me during the treatment for my tumor
-he is showing her more affection/time/and love than he ever did to me? Did he even really love me?
-As of today 12/29/15. They have been together 24 days…. Are they still in that honeymoon phase? LOL WHEN WILL IT END?!?!
My gut says they’ll break up… but my gut is biased right now.

Any tips, advice, memes of a kitten holding on to a branch or telling me to live each day like I’m Glen Coco is greatly appreciated(from chris or anyone)

13 down. 17 to go…..

Charlie

February 22, 2016 at 6:12 am

GAH! CPR on my father 7 years ago. Not a week ago.
Whew, glad I cleared that up.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 23, 2016 at 10:39 am

Oh… well, you have to give it time again… because of she remains crazy.. he’ll probably get tired of it
Charlie

February 22, 2016 at 6:09 am

Wow. It. Is. O-v-e-r 🙁 The telenovella has been canceled.
Worst Valentines Day Evaaarrrr! What a day for the ex to do all of this, not just because it was Valentine’s Day, but because he new that was also the day my father had died while I was doing CPR on him.
Messaged his GF to meet and said that we could talk about their camping trip that he invited me to come on this summer because “he needed me there”. She confronted him, he freaked out and called me (didn’t pick up, but called him back). He yelled at me over the phone and said “What the F*** do you think you’re doing??? That’s it. I am DONE! I am with ******* now. Yo u and I are never getting back together! Never contact me again!” He wouldn’t let me talk and then sent me a long voice to text denying everything he said to me, called me a crazy stalker and to get help. It was quite clear that his GF was there next to him. I was blocked from his Facebook and then she blocked me(even though I never friended her). His manipulative ex-wife defriended me too(we became FB friends because when we did stuff with his kids, I’d take pictures for him) I didn’t even try to call, email or text him back for fear that I was cut off in that way too. I took it much harder than I had ever thought I would. I literally felt like he died instantly in a car crash or something. I haven’t felt that type of pain from loss since my father died. I’m lucky that my friend lives down the hall and made sure to keep me company and just let me cry… ok bawl. Then he rallied my troops(my male friends) and they did everything to get me feeling better. A lil HALO, chinese food, Cards Against Humanity and many offers to beat him up( It was sweet, but no one is going to jail because of him lol). They also brought up some websites about narcissist. I’m really good at reading people, so how did i slip up and not see this? The lying, manipulating, gas lighting, the excuses, every ex was crazy, keeping exs phone numbers and still having them as FB friends. So many red flags! I didn’t listen to my gut. I’m 40 and never married. I was happy that someone loved me(did he even?).
The stress of the possibility of his GF and I meeting/comparing what he told each of us caused him to have a bipolar shift. I haven’t heard that much rage in his voice since the last shift. I knew he was telling each of us a different thing, I don’t think she knew. He erased texts. I did not. I have call logs and voice messages.
I’m afraid he’ll never let me back in his life. Even if we are just friends. I’m still friends with his sister in-laws and they told me that the GF is posting all the time about how crazy I am, some other choice words AND SHE POSTED WHERE I LIVE AND MY PICTURE!(seriously a lil scared) If anything their actions speak more about their character than mine.
I just hope he will be happy and finally get on his bipolar meds. If he wants to make healthy life choices, he must. I want to contact him, but I can’t. I have to respect his wishes no matter how much it hurts and take care of myself and move on… no matter how much it hurts.
Maybe in a year he’ll reach out, or I will. I don’t know yet. I wonder if he’ll ever unblock me from Facebook or if he’ll send a friend request or if he’ll accept one from me. I do know the time any of this happens(if it does) I will be at my goal weight and even more of an Ungettable Girl. I’m just having a hard time processing all this. But I’m putting me first.
So thank you Chris and Amor for all your insight, advice and articles/posts.
-Charlie
Charlie

February 14, 2016 at 6:24 am

Of course you can Amor!
It looks like I have met a worthy advisory in her…. She took him to midnight screening the night before. *slow clap* well played. Well played indeed lol. We still went and the entire car ride there, nothing but texts, FB tagging, FB messaging, and CALLS. During the movie his phone was on silent, but she persisted. His jacket pocket lit up so much it looked like he had an Iron Man arc reactor in there. Apparently *chortle* another “crisis” happened and she needed him there asap(don’t worry she texted and called the entire way home) so we could not do our post movie tradition, arcade games while discussing where the movie got it right or got it totally wrong from the comic.
1- he did not know she friend requested me. 2-She has now messaged me to try and set up a time for us to get coffee so we can get to know each other because “You are an important part of his life. And I want to know WHO MY BOYFRIEND keeps calling and texting and why you two still hang out as friends,”.
I still love his dorky a**, yet this woman’s neediness, insecurities and being a drama-holic has gone off the charts on the crazy scale. So it is making it very difficult to still want to fight for him when he’s sticking with this woman…. I think I may be his backup plan?
I like a challenge and I don’t give up easily. I can wait (yet still live my life!)
Thanks again!
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 14, 2016 at 9:16 am

ahahaha..You’re so funny!! I’ll talk to Chris after valentines and then I’ll update you 🙂
Keep the competition up on her toes girl! hahaha
Charlie

February 12, 2016 at 6:48 am

LOL Chris, It’s like I’m in a bad telenovela.
The ex and I were texting, calling and doing great. THEN *boom* he stopped. He was hot and then cold. So it was like I had to restart from phase one. He did tell me that he’s been calling her my name instead of hers in normal situations and “happy-fun-adult-time” situations(yikes!). But in that time I did some thinking, went on more awful first dates lol (I like to think of it as dating scrimmage. Practice your dating behavior so your ready for the big game), and kept my distance… for now.
Well, the ex and I are going to a movie tomorrow because we had planned this since way back in oct.
Two days ago, he must have told her or she read his texts again because now she insists on coming along. I said no, this was our thing and he needed to maintain friendships he had BEFORE he met her and friends that were not hers originally. That she had been separating him from all his friends and large family. He agreed.
The next day, he asked if I had the tickets “Yes” what theater are we going to”Sure, it’s the 7pm show at Blah Blah Theater(20min south of his place).”
Now Chris, she’s playing Checkers and I’m playing Chess. I ACTUALLY have tickets to the 7pm show at the Yadda Yadda Theater(20min north of his place). How much do you wanna bet that she is planning to crash our one on one friend time lol.
Well today she sent me a friend request after I texted him after a date(he wanted to know how it went).
Here’s my question: SWEET CHRISTMAS! Why would she do that??? My FB profile is under my middle name(no last name) and I haven’t commented on anything of his since they started dating. Is she that insecure? Is she a manipulative and narcopathic love bomber? Because I’ve never met her. I don’t care to meet her anytime soon or ever.
My guts says just let her sit in Facebook Friend Request Purgatory. A place where only I can allow you access to my digital world and if I don’t, then you can just sit there, wonder and wait just like at the end of “The Social Network”
So Chris, a-n-y thoughts on this? You are my go to guru for all things ex related.
-Charlie
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 3:31 pm

Hi Charlie,

I hope you don’t mind me asking but if you really want I can forward this to him 🙂
Okay to your question, well she’s threatened.. so she’s keeping close yo know her enemy..lol
Charlie

January 20, 2016 at 4:27 am

Thanks for the reply Chris!
I can control myself and that’s about it. That’s all any of can every really control, ourselves and how we act and react.
Since the middle of November, I’ve
-Turned the dreaded 40.
-Lost 40# by working out even more.
-Whitened my teeth.
-Gone for and achieved career goals I’ve set for myself.
-Gone out with friends more and experienced new things and adventures. Basically, enjoy life!
-Gone on *gasp*…. two dates (different men). Both of which were awful lol, but you have to crawl before you can walk.
-Posted on my Facebook page about my accomplishments (humblebraged a bit). That’s something I rarely do.

At Day 31, I texted him and followed the formula and I got an immediate response. Then an immediate phone call from him. I should not have picked up… but I’m a sap, so I did. We talked. Not about his new GF or our past relationship, but as friends again. He told me that he had been keeping an eye on me by checking my Facebook daily and then he beat around the bush and asked me if I was “getting out.” “Yeah, I’m going out and doing things with friends.” “You know what I mean. Are you dating anyone?” I said I had been on a couple dates. “You should find a boyfriend. They’d be lucky to have you.” (this conversation and text the next day was the catalyst in a huge fight between him and his GF and because he still invites me to things, but I don’t go)
It’s ok to be single. It’s ok to be on your own. It’s ok to work on yourself so that when someone comes along (or comes back!) You are a better person than before and someone wants to be with the better you.
I’m continuing to follow the text guides and I’ll see how it goes. I’ll keep you posted.
So, thank you Chris. No really, Thank you for your tips. Because I had to resist my urge to be an obnoxious text gnat and keep my fiery latina temper and tongue in check.
-Charlie
Chris Seiter

January 16, 2016 at 11:07 pm

You know, I look for that meme everywhere but I couldn’t find it haha.

Ok, lets boil this down to it’s simplest form.

What are the things that you have the most control over? Lets focus on that. And that alone.

nina

December 27, 2015 at 12:39 am

Hello Chris, what if he is sorry before the 30 NC ends?
Short term

December 26, 2015 at 3:13 pm

Is NC still suggested if the relationship was only a couple of months?
Tiffany

December 22, 2015 at 3:35 pm

Hi Chris!

I’ve been reading your website for the last couple of weeks for advice, just like everybody else.

My ex boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. We were high school sweethearts, so on so forth. We fell in love hard and there was one breakup prior to this one. Long story short, we got back together and he said “something about me couldn’t let you go because no matter what happens I love you even if I tried to hide it, I couldn’t fight it.”

After high school, he joined the Army and of course I faithfully waited for him, then we got engaged!

I broke up with him in November 2015. For months, he had been complaining that we spent too much time together, so I told him that if you want more time to yourself then we’ll just take a break. Then I asked him “if you felt that we spent ‘too much’ time together, then why didn’t you want to take a break or break up with me?” and he replied “I don’t have it in me to leave you”

So we broke up, and within 24 hours of this happening… I regretted DEEPLY even mentioning this. Then I wanted him back. At first, I begged for him back. Then I stopped begging after that day. The day he moved out, we both said that we’ll always love each other and there’s no one else. Also, he didn’t take the idea of taking a break too well, he was immediately hurt and was shocked I was the one saying this.

Even though we broke up, we still had a college class together. He chose to sit next to me every time, and he was always smiling at me. Throughout the classes, he tried talking to me and even then, he would be somehow manage to touch me (i.e. *leans in, touching shoulder to shoulder* “hey can I borrow a pen?”) This went on for weeks. He even jumped in front of someone to sit next to me on the last day of class for the semester. Then he got me

My birthday is in the third week of November, and he still got me a birthday gift. He got me a hoodie and cotton candy. I know, cotton candy and a hoodie? That’s not romantic. Well, when I was a freshman in high school when we first got together, he used to surprise me from time to time, buying me cotton candy because I LOVED it! So perhaps he was trying to spring some nostalgia on me? Oh and I love hoodies, but… who doesn’t.

We hooked up 3 times after the break up, and I could tell he missed me but we never discussed it.
One time he texted me while he was really, really drunk and said some embarrassing things, including “show me the way home”.

Then as this last month progressed, he began partying and drinking just about every night. (“Oh look at me, I’m having a beer with everybody!”) He’s a binge drinker, by the way. This was painful to watch, so I stopped ‘following’ him on Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, etc. It seems like he’s having the time of his life around girls and his guy friends at the bars. Oh and we stopped hooking up, my guy friend told me to put an end to that because it would give him “power over me”.

People tell me that a guy goes out to party and drink to cover up his emotions so he doesn’t have to ‘deal with himself’. I almost recall reading something similar to that on this website. But is this true? Everyone knew I wanted him back, but after that one day I begged him back… I just stopped acting desperate all together to get him back. Internally though, I wanted to beg. But your website suggests to never EVER beg or plead or blow up his phone because that’s a no-no.

So I initiated the NC Rule a week 1/2 ago. I really came to grips and said if I wanted him back, I’m going to follow up on the NC Rule as told by Chris (you). I hope that it’s going to work. I’m working on myself and trying not to look for him at all, just cut him off cold turkey. People text me every now and then saying oh “I saw him at _______” And I live in a small town, so if he was actually dating someone, best believe someone would end up texting me asap.

Now that I’ve initiated NC, I actually have a 2 hour class with him next semester (Jan. 11)… and it would’ve been 1 whole month that I started the NC Rule. I don’t know how I’ll react when I see him in class for a whole semester, and I can’t believe its a 2 hour class to begin with. But should I continue to not contact him even if we have class together or since its been 1 whole month of NC (trust me, I won’t break NC) should I allow for some room of communication?

(Note: this class is a requirement for us both, and I don’t even think he remembers we have this class together)

And also, tell me what you think is going on here. More than anything, I want my ex back. I know I’m not saying “I’m dying without him”, but really, that’s how I feel.
Jessica

December 22, 2015 at 7:20 am

Hi Chris…I’m just very distraught over all of this, I don’t mean to be annoying and double posting but I posted a comment and now it’s gone…please help? Thanks.
Deborah

December 22, 2015 at 3:31 am

Hi Chris,
I think your site is awesome, and you have wonderful information! Just before lucking up on your site and the no contact rule, I’d just acted like a maniac with mt ex. We’d been together for over 15 years. Things have been bad with us for a while. He decided that he needed space, which I didn’t want but agreed to. We would still be in contact off and on. However, it was limited contact. He would say one thing and do another. We barely saw each other and I felt like he was avoiding me. I don’t know if someone else is involved or not. He says there isn’t but then would tell me things like “we need to talk,” or “I have something of importance to tell you.” However, he never did. When it came time to get together, or talk, there was always an “issue.” When, those “issues” surfaced, I would go ballistic – leaving countless text and voice messages. On this particular day, after my rant, I realized how crazy I was being, and decided to avoid all contact. That’s when I found out about the “no contact rule.” It gave me inspiration and a sense of empowerment. I felt much better. However, on the 25th day, I broke the rule, due to an “emergency” situation. I told myself it was okay, and I maintained diplomacy as I left a voice message. The problem is, he never responded – at all. Since, then I have been feeling like I did in the beginning – questioning, wondering, wanting answers. I’m feeling totally betrayed = he could’ve at least responded in a text (we’ve been friends for too long). The next problem, is that my “emergency” was actually resolved before I contacted him, so, I really didn’t need to go through with the contact, but of course, I did anyway. Now I feel like an idiot. What do I do now?
To be honest, I don’t know if I want him back. I miss him, but he took so much for granted. He has great characteristics, but I deserved better. Then, I’m concerned that there is a serious outside (of us) situation going on. I’m confused, but trying to remain committed to working on me.
The holidays and birthdays (both of ours) are coming up. Do I make any contact, start the no contact over, or just figure out how to work on me only? #confusedbutlovingmemore

Deborah

December 22, 2015 at 2:36 pm

Interesting…early this morning I get a text from him asking what I want for Christmas. It also says to text back bc he”s having problems receiving calls. What should I do now? I have not responded.

Sad and Confused

December 20, 2015 at 3:53 pm

I’m having a difficult time with accepting what happened between me and a guy, and I’m not even sure if it’s possible to get him back. We only dated for a few weeks, but we instantly clicked from day one. We were really into each other and have so much in common just like two peas in a pod. I would hear from him every single day. He said things such as he needed me, wanted to see me more, wanted me in his bed and to stay over so he could take me to breakfast, always wished me good morning and asked about my day every evening. And then all of a sudden, it stopped. He got busy with work and taking care of his kid, so he told me we had to take a step back because he was too overwhelmed to date anyone and doesn’t want an exclusive relationship. I believed him, but then I saw he joined a new dating site and said openly in his profile that he has time for a relationship and wants something that leads to a commitment. I made the mistake of pressing the issue and even begging him for another chance which really upset him. I don’t understand this. What happened? Before me, he divorced after a 15-year marriage and also ended a three-year relationship one year before we met. His 3-year girlfriend had a bad temper and also cheated on him. What are your thoughts? Is he afraid to settle down? Did I push him too hard for a commitment too soon in our relationship? Do I have a chance of getting him back so we can start fresh? I know a few weeks doesn’t sound like a long time to become attached to someone, but I’ve never hit it off so well and felt a connection and as comfortable with any man as I have with him. And the feelings were mutual on our very first date.
Celine

December 19, 2015 at 2:04 am

Hi Chris! Should we deactivate social media during NC?
Christine

December 19, 2015 at 1:16 am

Hi Chris, I just met this guy 2 weeks ago. The night that we met we flirted and he asked for my number. He took me and my sister to get a puppy with 2 of his friends. My sister knew one of his friends, thats how me and this guy met. Well when he dropped me and my sister off, not long after he texted and wanted to hang out but I couldn’t. We talked everyday and after 3 days passed he asked if I wanted to hang out and I said yes. We ended up just sitting in his car and talking. He even showed me where he worked. He seemed very sweet, he didn’t even push sex… But…. we did kiss a lot and hugged.. Cuddled. He told me to be more open and of course I did. It was going great. He did drink that night I didn’t, he just left a friends house when he picked me up. He said that he liked me and that he thought I was nice, a sweetheart, and beautiful. Well it started getting awkward when we were talking about our ex’s. He said his keeps contacting him and that he still loves her, but won’t leave him alone. That maybe it’ll take awhile to get over her. I asked him if I was just a rebound and he said no, then I asked if i was just there and he said yes but he didn’t want me to be. Well I told him that it sounded like he needed more time to think about things and that maybe he should talk to her and see where they go. I asked him to take me home so he could talk to her. When we get back to my house I start to get out of the car and he pulled me back in. He asked if he could have a kiss one last time. I gave him one and he grabbed my hair tie and said he was going to keep it so he didn’t forget me and kept telling me over and over that I was sweet and wasn’t like the other girls. He kept kissing me on the forehead and I got out of the car and haven’t seen him since. He seemed real interested in me. After that night I would text him almost everyday just to say hey what’s up just to see how he was and only texted me back once and ignored me the rest. I don’t get what’s going on? He’s still not back with his ex… I’m afraid I may have been clingy because I did get mad a few times for not answering me. Should I give him some time and see what happens or should I forget him completely and never talk to him again? Very confused???? Please Help!!!
Kate

December 18, 2015 at 3:46 pm

I’m having a difficult time figuring out which category I fall into for breakups. I’m not sure if it’s possible to get my guy back based on our situation. Is there any help I can get with this before deciding to move forward with XE Pro?
hawraa

December 18, 2015 at 6:33 am

Should i text him after 30 days and what shall i say ?or wait for him to text??
Lilian

December 18, 2015 at 6:06 am

Hi Chris, i love your site and station! I’ve comment before but didnt get a response from you. When 5 months ago my ex(33) and i (27)met, he just moved here and said he wanted to date around and see whos out there and didnt want a relationship but we were so happy together and had great connection/chemistry that we ended up being together. but not being able to date around here like he wanted was bothering him. So he broke up saying if we cont. he will marry me but then he’ll be unhappy for not dating like he wanted so he broke up saying he isnt ready..(he always says i have everything in a woman hed marry and always talks about babies) i did NC once for 2 weeks but broke it and text to see him, he told me how much he missed me and told me how much he cares and trusts and respects me. but said we cant cont.. i was persistent and cried bcuz i love him but hes stubborn about dating around.. i const. hear from several ppl that he const. talks about me such as how gorgeous, amazing, caring and strong i am,how much he cares and adores and respects me and etc. it doesnt make sense. im on NC again for a week and def. will keep going this time! Id appreciate it so much if you can help me!
Ju

December 17, 2015 at 11:56 pm

I slept with my ex during the no contact.

Chris Seiter

January 16, 2016 at 10:44 pm

Well, it’s not really no contact then…

A

December 16, 2015 at 9:48 pm

Chris,

I bought your book & have followed through with 30 days of no contact. He didn’t make any attempt to contact me at all during those 30 days. Today (day 31), I did the “I have a confession” text. He asked, “you do? What’s that?” Per instructions, I told him something light-hearted & cutesy, about how I had a particular food for dinner recently & it reminded me of him bc I had it for the first time with him. He didn’t respond… Should I do another week of no contact? Should I give up since he didn’t try to contact me at all during the 30 days & he isn’t responding after the confession text?
Lo

December 16, 2015 at 1:50 am

No comment
Melissa

December 15, 2015 at 4:59 pm

Hi,

I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. He said that he would like some time to work on his career and focus on the problems in his life. I begged and pleaded and told him that we could work on it together. He told me that he doesn’t want to work on it together especially because we are in a long distance relationship. About 2000 miles apart. He told me he loves me and that when everything is figured out, he’ll come back to me. Of course, I don’t believe this and right now I am in full blown panic. However, I told him my feelings–the good and the bad–and then told him he had his freedom.

I’m having a full blown breakdown right now considering that this all happened this morning. What I want to know is, will the no contact rule work for this? Let’s say I work on myself for two months: A full blown spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional makeover with zero contact and then go visit him after a month of talking. Will that work?

Thanks!
Lo

December 14, 2015 at 3:52 am

Would it work if he cheated on you?
Ashley

December 14, 2015 at 12:27 am

It’s day 27, can I contact him now?
I just want my baby to come home

December 13, 2015 at 9:14 pm

My boyfriend and I had an extremely honest and communicative relationship throughout the 2 1/2 years we dated. We told each other anything and everything. We went on a break starting 12/8. I’ve waited a couple days to see if he was going to do a quick rebound and come home to me but he hasn’t yet (it’s currently 12/13) so I’ve decided to try out your techniques. My #1 fear with the NC rule is that he will ask why I didn’t talk to him for 30 days and why I ignored his attempts to reach out to me. I fear once I start talking to him again he will be mad and upset that I left him out of my life. This 30 day break is going to be inclusive of the end of his first semester of his freshman year at college, his trip to Africa, my birthday, Christmas, New Years, and the start of his second semester at college. With so many big events, I fear he will be angry that I have ignored him throughout it all. After all, he DID want to stay friends, and I told him I’d always be there for him. So my question is, will implementing the NC rule have a risk of losing him completely? Or do you think it’s worth it?

Thanks
Nakita

December 12, 2015 at 2:40 pm

My ex boyfriend is my daughters father. We have broken up for a month. I really want to be a couple again. He still comes over to cuddle. He has told me he loves me. He does want me. I will always have him. He will always be by my side. We broken up because a cycle of events have taken place. He told me our relationship was stressful. He wanted us to mature more and break this ongoing problem cycle. He has cheated on me. I believe that’s why it is hard for me to believe that he is not seeing any other girls. He told me I was the only one. I really want my family. What do I do? The no contact is hard. He texted me sometimes & most time I initiate things. He is helping me with my apartment. He has a key as well. He told me he love coming home to us. How do I get him back.

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