130 thoughts on “She Got Him Back After Contacting HIM First After The No Contact Rule!”

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   Lisa

   March 2, 2017 at 11:54 pm

   Hi,
   How do I become a member of the private Facebook group?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 3, 2017 at 8:12 pm

   It comes with the exboyfriend recovery premium package.

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   Anon

   March 2, 2017 at 9:49 pm

   Hi, Amor and everyone!

   Okay. So I’ve done around 70 days no contact. I know that’s a lot…but I was actually thinking about doing 90 days. That seems like such a long time. But in my situation, I had done 30 day no contacts and we always reconnected. Always. Before I had ever done a no contact he refused to lose touch with me. So I thought maybe I need to do something drastic to really get his attention. We’ve never gone this long without speaking to each other.

   I’ve been very active this time. I’ve been meeting new friends, hanging out with old and new friends, restarted some hobbies. I’ve been very active on Facebook posting, showing off my “new look” and showing that I’m happy. And I actually am happy! I’ve been on several dates and even thought I was going to move on with one of them! I liked this guy a lot….but he just wasn’t the person I want. I still want my ex.

   My problem is…I don’t know how my ex feels. I think either my number is still blocked or he changed his number (not unusual for him. He’s never been a stable guy, he’s had 12 numbers since we met almost 3 years ago) I had blocked him on Facebook but when I unblocked him, I found out that he blocked me!! So the only way to contact him, I think, is through email.

   Has it been too long? He was so angry the last time we spoke I’m afraid to reach out and get burned. But, honestly, after the first week of this round of No Contact I had the intention of moving on. I wasn’t trying to get him back, I wanted him out. But now that thus time has passed, I’m no longer angry. I think I want us to have a chance at being together not just for us but for our daughter. I want her to know her father and be a family with us. But should I just move on?

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   Anon

   March 5, 2017 at 2:08 am

   Okay. It might come to just having to email because I do think he changed his number. He’s done that before when I was upset with him thinking that I would go crazy trying to get his new number (he did that three times. Twice while we were together and once after we had broken up.)

   I’ll think more about it before I act. I don’t want to make the wrong decision! I would hope that he would be more calm by now. But who knows. Sometimes I get angry at him still. But to be fair, he’s the one who left his girlfriend of 2 years to raise their newborn on her own.

   Thank you for your help, I’m sure you’re sick of seeing me comment!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 5, 2017 at 8:59 pm

   Of course not.. there are others who actually keep in touch even after they got their ex back. So, don’t be shy commenting.

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   Anon

   March 3, 2017 at 10:31 pm

   So if I decide I want to try to reach out, is emailing him okay? The last time we talked he said he hated me and to never talk to him again. That was in December…the day before our daughter’s first birthday.

   I’m scared to reach out, even though I want to. I think if we could at least be friends that it could be good for all of us. I’m just scared he’s still angry. Is email a bad way to reach out? Would I follow the same rules as texting?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 4, 2017 at 5:22 pm

   It would be better if it’s text or social media private message. Cross the bridge when you get there, if you can’t do those other options then yes, email him.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 3, 2017 at 8:11 pm

   Hi Anon,

   More likely over time, he will be less angry too. By that time, take it as a restart. That everything is behind and you’re starting over as friends.

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   Tasmin

   March 2, 2017 at 5:52 pm

   Hi everyone!

   So I have a little doubt about everything.. I only have 7 days of NC left (we broke up a month and a half ago) and I’m just seriously nervous to contact him.. I had 0 signs that he misses me, infact, he is enjoying his life.. ALOT. I’m really nervous to text him first, because I don’t want to be rejected. I sometimes talk to his friends and they told me he never even talks about me and if they ask if he misses me, his awnser is “No.”
   I’m just really nervous to text him and scared. I actually want to wait untill he contacts me, but I know that could take months or not even happen at all!

   What should I do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 3, 2017 at 12:27 pm

   Hi Tasmin,

   if you’ve been really active in improving yourself and in posting in social media, it’s ok if you initiate even he didn’t contact you during nc and he might be just being keeping an image with yourself…if you really want to wait, set a limit until when

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   Charna

   March 2, 2017 at 5:01 am

   Hi, I completed no contact, but my ex just got angry and told me to f** off forever. What to do?

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   Charna

   March 5, 2017 at 7:45 am

   Just a question about the 30 day NC followed by 45 day NC cos of anger, doesn’t that mean we’ll have passed the 66 day point for “breaking habits”? Thanks

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 5, 2017 at 9:11 pm

   Yes, but what you need is a restart. Right now, all he wants is for you to move on and stop chasing him.

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   Charna

   March 5, 2017 at 3:35 am

   Thank you that’s good advice

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   Charna

   March 4, 2017 at 1:07 am

   We have an anniversary of our first date coming up (it will be 22 days after our last interaction). I really want to send a “guess what day it is” message that day. What do you think?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 4, 2017 at 5:44 pm

   actually I recommended 45 days assuming you did chase, and you did for a month.. Don’t send that. That’s still saying you’re chasing him.

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   Charna

   March 4, 2017 at 1:04 am

   We broke up a week before Christmas, and I chased for about a month after. Why do you recommend 45 days?

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   Charna

   March 3, 2017 at 2:50 am

   About 4 months, he dumped me cos he fell out of love. I did 35 days. I improved a lot & made heaps of new friends. I asked him for help with a show I was put in charge of

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 3, 2017 at 8:16 pm

   Sorry I forgot to ask, but when did you break up? Did you chase him after? Right now, it’s either you do one last no contact of 45 days or move on..

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 2, 2017 at 11:45 pm

   Hi Charna,

   why did you break up? How long was the relationship, how long did you do the no contact rule and how much did you improve? What was the first text you sent?