40 thoughts on “Reasons Your Ex Won’t Talk To You (And What You Can Do About It)”

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   Sara Hinds

   October 2, 2018 at 9:18 pm

   This article opened my eyes a bit! I never thought about the trust concept you brought up, and I noticed I’ve done that since my BU. I have tended to think, like you said, that since we dated, I should be above everyone else still. I haven’t accepted the breakup. Thanks for writing this!

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   Chris Seiter

   October 3, 2018 at 1:10 am

   Hi Sara!

   Trust those feelings that whisper in your ear that you deserve to be treated with respect and consideration.

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   Nelle

   October 2, 2018 at 2:58 pm

   Big problem here, need help:
   – A year and a half since break up. Built rapport, two NC (he texted first) but we’ve been two months and a half without texting (NC has been our maximum). Last time wasn’t very good, he was giving small steps and then he changed his mind. He left my last text (answering him) unread for a month. I can’t initiate.
   – A year ago that was that girl obsessed with him. She didn’t get more than a friendship (and not very close). She is an attention w***e, childish and, above all, liar. SixSixHe months ago he got tired of her lies and blocked her in every social media. He even lost people last months when he tried to tell them that she wasn’t a good person. BUT I don’t even know how but I am afraid that in the last weeks she got him and this time, romantically. He still doesn’t have her in any social media but her statuses… My friends tell me that it’s only her pretending to have a boyfriend and my fear, nothing real but I am really, really afraid. She is a liar and a liar always have a bigger lie to fix the previous ones. I don’t understand how could that happen but I have to work with this situation. If it’s only my imagination and her lies, well, fine, but I prefer to fear the worst.
   – In two weeks I have an event and this girl will be attending. About him, I don’t know, buy it’s possible. It wouldn’t be likely that he went with her like a couple (they would only have been dating for two weeks right now) but I am very worried, till the point I don’t want to go but it’s almost impossible to cancel. If he went, it would be the first time we saw each other since before the break up (LDR).

   With all this, what can I do?

   VERY SORRY FOR THE LONG POST

3. 

   Sam

   October 2, 2018 at 4:28 am

   Hi Chris,
   Which resources do you think would benefit me the best? I’ve been listening to your podcast but I just feel like none of the situations in your blog or podcast really relate to what I’ve experienced so far in my breakup.

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   Chris Seiter

   October 2, 2018 at 4:41 am

   Hi Sam!

   Go check out my YouTube Page which you can reach via my website’s home page. Also, take a look at the eBooks I have written. While we will all have our own unique breakup story, with unique twists and turns….the principles, concepts, and strategies and tactics I recommend will almost always apply to a wide span of situations. By I also offer 1 x 1 Coaching services as well for more personalized help.

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   Sam

   October 2, 2018 at 12:51 am

   My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago, and it was pretty emotional and we were both crying and he said that he needs a break right now and that maybe in two months he’ll feel differently. I should have immediately started no contact, but instead, I nagged him and repeatedly texted and called him begging to get him back. Our last interaction was last Wednesday when he finally listened to my feelings after he got a letter of mine and he sent me a really sincere apology. However, after that, we got on the phone and a huge fight erupted, and he basically told me that we shouldn’t speak anymore. We unfollowed each other on social media so we have no way of checking up on each other through social media. We haven’t blocked each other on anything, but simply unfriended and followed on al social media platforms. I have employed the no contact rule since last Wednesday and set a day about 40 days after that I would try to reach out again. But, I am just unsure if it is even worth trying and if I made too many mistakes to ever get him back. I have taken the quiz and found I have a 74% chance to get him back, and I’m willing to do whatever it takes. But I feel like he’s going to ignore me when I reach out after no contact and that too much happened in the aftermath of the breakup for him to ever get over.

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   Chris Seiter

   October 2, 2018 at 4:04 am

   Hi Sam!

   Everybody makes mistakes Sam. What is best is having a sensible game plan so you have an idea of the strategy that might work best for you. Visit my home page as I have lots of resources there for you!

5. 

   K

   October 1, 2018 at 3:06 pm

   Hi,

   My ex and I broke up in last October. He broke up told me he still loved me but after his dad recently passing away.. school, work he just wasnt in the right state of mind to be a good boyfriend to me and it was unfair to me.. I have been through the whole process of no contact, texts, phone calls and dates. He has fear of commitment. He has been telling me that he is thinking about getting back together, that he still loves me so much .. but he is aware of his fear of commitment and is scared he would hurt me again for ex ..by distancing himself … and more
   For that reason, he said he needed time to think and make sure before officialising because he understand how much of a deal it would be to me. The thing is he was saying that he isnt sure he is ready still 3 days ago & today he asked me to get back together. I asked if he was saying that out of impulsion and he said I think it is the right thing to do and I dont want to keep wasting your time or lose you. It seems right now that I could ask him if he is sure 20 times and hed still say yes but I am still a little scared of the future (Im happy of course its what ive been wanting for so long but now that it is happening im scared he is saying that not because he is ready but just by fear of losing me) I know relationships are always a risk but how can I feel more reassured or prevent his commitment problems to get in the way of our relationship again. Is there any tips, ways to work on that effectively while being together?

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   Chris Seiter

   October 1, 2018 at 10:05 pm

   Hi K!

   So your ex has a lot going on in his head a break is probably a good thing so he can sort it all out and realize your value in his life. Now it seems he knows you value. So just ease back into the relationship. Treat it like you are both getting to know each other and dating, not spending all our time together in the early days. That way, you both don’t dive too deeply into the relationship and you can both get use to the feelings and both feel more secure this is the direction to go.