144 thoughts on “If You Haven’t Talked To Your Ex Boyfriend In A Long Time Here’s What You Do…”

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   Amber

   September 22, 2016 at 3:18 pm

   What if you work with him but your breakup was caused by HR getting involved? Long story short- she basically tore us apart. Is there any way I should or could break NC? It’s been over six weeks since I spoke to him. We were on good terms but I just couldn’t deal with only interacting with him at work and one day I just didn’t respond to his wave and he got mad and never contacted me again (he only did so at work). I’ve noticed he doesn’t come upstairs anymore, our workplace is only about 100 people. Does he hate me? He’s 11 years older than me I’m 27. He’s divorced and has a daughter. I love him and even he stated that he and I never fought when we were together. We were together for four months. Also I’ve been working on myself, I lost 7 pounds, got a haircut, new wardrobe and am picking up yoga this weekend. It might seem bizarre but he’s my first real love, I’m fairly introverted and had always dreamt of meeting a man I could communicate well with and who just got me, he always did. While I’m not ready to date, I need some kind of neutral view on this because I have to move on with my life. I can’t continue to dwell on this anymore I love him too much and I want his happiness, even if it excludes me. Is he over me?

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   Amber

   September 23, 2016 at 2:38 pm

   Thank you for your response Amor, HR simply came after me. It sounds bizarre but the woman doesn’t like me. She found out and came after us with a long knife. The company policy says that only supervisors who directly or indirectly deal with an employee can’t date. But we’re both in different departments. And in his own department they just hired one of the guys fiancée. I don’t know what to do, I love him but I’m afraid to break NC. Today was the first time we’ve spoken in six weeks, he walked past me and I gave him a polite smile, he said good morning. I said it back. I bought the book and I’ve worked on myself. I just don’t know what to do from here? I love him so much.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 24, 2016 at 12:53 pm

   If that’s the case why didn’t he help with the situation? Why didn’t he fight for you? Was he afraid?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 23, 2016 at 2:29 pm

   Hi Amber,

   what did you mean that hr caused it? Is it because they don’t allow intimate relationships within co workers? If yes, then it’s not really the hr, it’s your circumstance. No matter who the hr is, the problem is still there. If it’s not really allowed then somebody has to get another job