5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

1,759 thoughts on “How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Letting You Go”

Shriya

April 29, 2014 at 8:13 am

Hi Chris! I am from India. My ex broke up with me in December 2013, after which I made all the textbook mistakes of begging and pleading. A month ago I decided to finally go into no contact at the end of March 2014 and have not contacted him since. The break up was mutual due to a lot of jealousy issues and fights towards the end. Recently around 2 weeks of no contact I got to know he got another job in a different city and he moved there..he dint tell me about it or tried to contact me. Is it futile to wait around for him? I have been reading a lot to try and get him back but now I feel disheartened. Do you think he misses me at all?
Lyn

April 28, 2014 at 8:51 am

Does this work even if he’s committed or screwing around with someone else?

admin

April 28, 2014 at 4:26 pm

It can work but I think in that case the chances of success are slightly lowered.

Serenity

April 24, 2014 at 5:54 pm

I’ve known my boyfriend for 6yrs, the first 4 of them we were friends (which he consistently chased and let his feelings known for me) and the last 2 we have been dating. I am a strong willed independent person, who never lets anyone in. When I did, I fell in love with him and in turn became needy. We have broken up several times, and everytime we got back together. The last time, was the start of this year, I didn’t contact him for a month (it was grueling, he has been in my life for 6yrs, we were bestfriends) On what would have been a month to the date, he called. He ranted like crazy and told me how much he missed me and our friendship and everything, we got back together right away. It’s now 3 months later and here we are again. He told me that he can’t be the boyfriend I want him to be, so we broke up. However, he told me that he doesn’t want to stop talking, he still wants to be friends and be able to see one another. I told him Absolutely not. He can not call me and he cannot see me. It would only be a reminder and obviously I need to move on with my life and if he was in it how would that be possible. (Why should he get that luxury I thought in my head? if i kept him around than he wouldn’t realize what he lost) I plan on applying the no contact for a month rule again. However, this time if we do get back together, I know that I need to stay independent and not let that fear make me needy which I know is what pushes him away. My question to you is how many times can you break up and apply this rule? I know he loves me, and I know he wants me in his life, I am the person he goes to when he’s down and when he needs someone so I know there is a good chance we will speak again. However, does it ever get to the point where the no contact rule just won’t work? Any other advice that you can give?

admin

April 25, 2014 at 11:09 pm

I think NC can still work even in your situation (when you have already done it.)

Shvni

April 22, 2014 at 10:00 pm

Chris,
I am from india. Nd i was datin this guy for like four years now. I am 18 nd hez 19. We were quite very intimate. Last year in july he started saying tat we should now start dating after5 years only nd we should take a break. I was so unsure about this. After that he didn’t answer my calls or msgs. Suddenly one day he started chattng on watsapp. I tried talking to him about us but he said that he loves but cant stay in relation as he wants to focus on career. But my boyfriend didnt tell anyone about this breakup. So all our friends even now think tat we r togethr. I was still waiting for him whn this friend of his one day contacted me nd said tat my boyfrnd was involved wid his girlfrnd, let us call her Z. He also asked me not to take his name in between. Nd thn he showed me all the chats between my boyfriend nd him. When i called my boyfrnd nd asked him if this was really true, he didnt say a word nd ended the call. Tat was the last time i heard frm him. STat night My boyfrnd thn txted this guy nd started askin him how did my girlfrnd come to know abt me and Z.. Only we both knew abt Z nd all. U very well know Z was just a timepass nd all..

ince thn no msgs no call. We were togethr for more than 4 years. Nd its hard for me to move on but i am confused. Plz help me. Please. This is driving me crazy

admin

April 23, 2014 at 3:48 pm

I did have trouble reading your message.

Are you saying that your ex has a new girlfriend.

chissy

April 20, 2014 at 6:35 pm

I have a big problem with an exboyfriend…are you around to help me with my question?
Tara

April 20, 2014 at 2:30 pm

So, I suppose I’ll start from the beginning and hope that by the end, all of this makes enough sense where you can tell me what to do. So my whole situation started three years ago, freshman year. I met this guy, Nate, and we ended up hitting it off. He had a girlfriend at the time but we both exchanged numbers at a party and we starting talking. Now, the problem was not only that he had a girlfriend, but that I liked him at the same time as my friend Erin. But, based off of the way Nate was acting, I thought he liked me. So I ended up talking to Erin about it and she told me that if anything happened, she was okay with it. So, sure enough, Nate and his girlfriend, Megan, broke up. And Nate and I continued talking and we ended up having our first kiss a week later. A few weeks after that, he asked me out, and we dated for about a month before things ended. I was crushed and we both cried because we had really liked each other, but Nate moved on to date my friend Erin shortly after. So, determined to get him back, I patiently waited, slowly but surely becoming best friends. We talked on the phone occasionally and we had a class together, so we would talk then. Around Christmas time, Erin broke up with Nate, and although he wasn’t sad about it, I was still there for him. We were slowly becoming closer and closer and we were beginning to really open up. He then started dating Lucy a month later. But I knew she wasn’t good for him- he started to become depressed and he wasn’t happy. But, they continued to date until the Disney trip. This was a band field trip that Nate and I went on together. We spent the entire trip together and we fell in love. But, he was still with Lucy so we knew nothing could happen. We returned from the trip, and he ended up breaking up with her. Nate and I kept talking but we did not start dating until a few months later. We dated through the summer and into the next year, sharing a lot of experiences and special moments together. It was wonderful, but that lasted about four months before we started to become stressed with school and jealousy kicked in. We ended up breaking up in October and it was heart breaking. That was the first time I ever saw him really sob. And at that point, we thought it was over. So we became friends again, best friends eventually, and he started dating a girl Emma. Emma and Nate did not become official until February/March. They ended up breaking up in June, and Nate and I re-connected again. We started hooking up and then acting like we were dating that summer, then officially we started dating in October. This time was different however. We physically became more intimate, we loved each other, we were older, and we were absolutely best friends. We had the perfect relationship, and we had our fights but we were happy with each other. Then, we ended up breaking up in March. He isn’t dating anyone now, however, he is taking another girl to prom. I am also going to his prom with another guy. We are currently friends and we have been talking but after reading this page I am so confused.
First of all, I’m 17, but I am telling you I know I love Nate. I would do anything for him and I want nothing more than for him to be happy. Really. I have never felt such a connection with another person before and I have completely opened up to this guy. He is absolutely my best friend and him and I are like the same person, with slight differences here and there. I know that we have dated three times, but I also know that there’s something different about him. And there has to be something about me too, because he has never come back to a girl twice, or even three times. He’s never loved another girl before and him and I physically experienced things for the first time together. He gave me a promise ring, and we talked about the future seriously, also things he has not done with other girls.
I know Nate seems like a jerk based off of the story, but I’m thinking of it more as confusion, and the fact that he is an 18 year old senior boy who doesn’t want to be serious yet. I don’t know…maybe I’m being stupid. But I guess I just need advice.
1. Is there any chance of us working in the future? I feel like he’s never really lost me which is why he doesn’t know what it’s like to be without me. He is a senior, however, and he is graduating and going to Virginia for college, whereas I am in New York. So distance is a problem. But he’s coming back for vacation, etc. so…?
2. We have two months left of school. Should I try the no contact rule and see what happens? I guess this all leads back to, is it even worth it? Is it going to happen again?
3. Why is it that he has failed to realize that he is losing someone who has suffered through hell and back, just in order to be here for him and to be his friend, no matter how emotionally painful it was. I guess I just hesitate with the no contact because we have never stopped talking. Not once since we met, and even when we break up, as I said, we stayed friends. And friendship has always led to something, so is that a better path for my situation?
4. Do I deserve better maybe? I mean…I love Nate. I love my best friend and I know he has flaws but he’s still amazing to me. I think he needs to grow up and go out in the world and realize what he wants…I’m not sure. Should I actually move on?

Obviously this is all very confusing and I apologize, I’m just still confused myself. If you could email me and help me out with this situation I would honestly appreciate it so much. I don’t know who else to turn to, or what the truth is about the situation anymore. Thank you.
Pinks

April 18, 2014 at 1:11 pm

Hi Chris,

My ex and I broke up over pretty much nothing. A series of misunderstandings and arguments and both our egos kicking in and eventually me being too pushy when he needed space. I left him completely alone and went no contact. He came back to me but under the pretext of wanting to make up, he actually only used me for sex and told me a few days later that it was no more than a booty call.

Needless to say, I am very hurt. I know I shouldn’t want him back after this little stunt and probably won’t take him back but I do want him to regret what he did and that he let me go. We have been NC since this happened.

What do you think I should do?
RtMl

April 18, 2014 at 12:32 am

After 3.5 years, the bf who showed me he loved me with his actions and words, who treated me so good always, told me he didn’t feel the same and moved out. He said he cared but not in the same way. He is very emotional and was emotionally abused by a sibling, so I wonder if the NC will show him I’ve moved on. He’s not the typical male. No one believes he doesn’t love me anymore. My depression made me a different person and I realize my faults. Btw I’m 32 and he’s 29, not that it matters. Could he realize he still does love me? I’m feeling destroyed. He was so good to me and always wanted to make me happy. Can he still realize he loves me? What if time changes that since he’s a very sentimental guy? Thanks for your time.

admin

April 18, 2014 at 3:28 pm

Did you have any idea at all that he was losing feelings? There had to be signs along the way?
RtMl

April 18, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Thanks for replying, I bought your book yesterday! Everyday he showed me he loved me, he told me, he was affectionate and always attentive up to the day things went sour. See, I hid my depression by doing volunteer work and outreach, and I neglected him. Two weeks before breakup he told me I am the best that ever happened to him and he loved me, he told me he was sure that he loved me, the morning before the fight. Then the fight broke out, he slept in a different room then woke up saying he didn’t love me but he couldn’t look me in the eyes to tell me.
admin

April 20, 2014 at 2:15 am

Thanks for the purchase!!!

Why didn’t you just talk to him about how you were feeling kind of bad?
RtMl

April 20, 2014 at 10:35 pm

Thanks for replying! I tried, but I felt so involved in my other things I delusionally thought everything was ok. I asked him if he was happy and he said yes. He is a people pleaser, such a great guy. I am so sad about this, I regret neglecting him and letting our relationship fall into a monotonous hole. A friend told me he talks about me everyday in a good way. I’m feeling a loss of hope. See, he was psychologically and emotionally manipulated and controlled by a relative for years until I helped him stick up for himself. He has a good heart, he is one of a kind. He is confused, and I am afraid he will start to believe he doesn’t care anymore.
RtMl

April 22, 2014 at 4:04 pm

I sent him an email with my faults and how I saw I changed but I’m working on being the real me, before I began NC. He replied yesterday saying he still cares about me and I’ll always be in his heart, that we have a lot of growing and learning to do and hopefully things will work out the way we want them to, however that maybe. (?) He said he doesn’t want me out of his life for good. Does this mean I have a chance after NC? I’ve begun making changes, reading self help books, changed my hair, I’ve lost 30lbs in last month – I started when I was still with him, and with NC I’ve backed off. Please advise. Thanks Chris.

mgm

April 14, 2014 at 3:29 pm

I need advice please. I am 47 yrs old. My boyfriend who is my first love from 30+ years ago. We reconnected 4 yrs ago and he broke up 3 weeks ago. About 6 months ago he has asked for little space not seeing each other every day. I started to panic and became clingy obsessed and smothered him with my love. I realized what I did and I pushed him so far. I went 2 weeks no contact and I initiated first contact and we met yesterday. He complimented how good I look and admitted he missed me. I screwed up I think by talking about our relationship and he started to get frustrated. He says right now he just dont want a relationship with no one. I am hurting bad. I love him and want him back terribly. Now I plan to give him 30 day no contact. He still has my clothes at his house and I have his house key still so im still staying positive that there may be a chance again for us. He is a very laid back guy with a good heart and im not trying to make excuses for him either. I do admit I was the reason for the break up and I regret it. My friends have told me and warned me about my problem and I never listened. I wish I would have. So do you believe if I do the 30 day nc there still good chance for us?
Claire

April 12, 2014 at 9:13 pm

Hi Chris. Should I break the 30-day NC rule for my boyfriend? We broke up yesterday after a fight. The reason was because a month ago he decided to move back home to a different city due to change of his career goal. He never discussed this with me but simply told me he was gonna do it. Now he’s moving in two weeks. He wanted to meet up again before he leaves. Should I do it? Overall,how’s the chance that we will get back together?

We dated for two years. 1 year and a half long-distance and 8 months in the same city. I was really glad when we finally ended the long-distance situation and certainly not ready to go back to it after 8 short months. Our relationship was generally passionate and happy but with arguments at times. We broke up a few times due to silly reasons but got through them all. When I heard about his decision, I felt it was callous and lack of consideration. I was especially disappointed that he never discussed with me about any plans regarding our future after he moves, but he didn’t mention breaking up with me either. He simply wanted to see how things go and told me that he hoped I would still be part of his life. In the past month he was still making small efforts such as suggesting to do activities with me that he wouldn’t normally do to make me happy. But none of those mattered to me anymore since at the moment it seemed to me that our entire future was crumbling apart.
Now into the fight. As the date of his departure neared, I became more & more paranoid. finally last night I started a fight with him in his car. I pretty much “broke up” with him by telling him that he failed to give me a REAL relationship which is supposed to base on trust and communication, therefore what we had was no longer a relationship. He got really angry too and said a lot of hurtful things. He told me that he was not satisfied with my looks, my personality, my race, my humor,etc, and that I was not good enough for him to want to try, and that he certainly didn’t want to be in a long distance relationship with me again but wanted to date a COMPLETE different person. I asked him to stop attacking me. He said knowing me, he knew after the break-up I would cut him off completely anyway, so he shouldn’t even bother being nice to me now. Despite the hurtful words, I saw the pain and tears in his eyes. All my anger and vengeance disappeared immediately on the spot. I assured him that I would not cut him off and that i would always care about him with all sincerity. He said he had to see it to believe it and told me to leave when he still has respect for me. So I hugged him, wished him happy and got out of the car. When I was getting out, he told me I would see him again before he leaves. Then he drove away while I went back upstairs.
So that was what happened. You probably wonder, if I did want a future with him, why didn’t I talked to him the moment I found out he was moving instead of eventually exploded on it? Well that’s where I messed up. I was very much in denial. I was also afraid of rejection. In fact I’m graduating from college soon, I wouldn’t be impossible for me to move to his city if I want. But I guess it was the “entitlement issue” that you mentioned made me feel I had to have some sort of invitation from him, otherwise I considered myself rejected.
I regret my approach. I regret making that fight which lead to the break-up. A few minutes before it we were still making field trip plans. Now we are broken-up. I’m willing to use the 30 NC method to reflect and grow. But I do want us back together some time in the future. I definitely want to see him before he leaves to make things right. But I don’t know if it is worth it.

admin

April 13, 2014 at 4:44 pm

I think it will be worth it. Seriously, pressing for him back right now may not go as well as you planned. Give him some space and then slwoly try to get him back.
Claire

April 14, 2014 at 8:42 am

Thank you! 🙂 I’ll just make sure we are on good terms, then use your guid to slowly win him back. Again, thanks for reading this.

SHELLEY

April 10, 2014 at 11:54 am

So here it is. Divorced mom of two dating divorced dad of one for 15 months. Introduced kids after six months of dating. Have met each other’s families and friends and everyone gets along amazingly. Our kids adore each other as well as we adore each other’s children. We are each other’s first significant other since our divorces. A few weeks ago he expressed he felt that he needed a break. He felt like he wasn’t sure how he was feeling any longer. All along talking about things in the future like going crabbing on the boat in a few weeks when the weathers nice . Vacation down the beach for the summer. Just making plans in general from week to week. When he told me he needed a break. He ended up reaching out the very next day. Asking if I told the children and if this relationship to be repaired. I asked why he wanted to know if it can be repaired and he said he wanted to try. I was cautious. But we got back to our regular routine. Us and the kids spent this past weekend together. He seemed a little distant, but still making plans. Monday he seemed a little short via text and phone. No contact with me on Tuesday. Ended our relationship via text on Wednesday. Told me he couldn’t speak to me he was a mess I needed to keep himself together. I am 38 and he is 40 years old. My nine-year-old daughter wanted to talk to him. I suggested maybe making a video or sending a text. She made a short video expressing her feelings and saying goodbye. I sent him a text asking if he was okay with receiving the video which he replied sure. I he asked if he could speak with her when she was ready to talk. He called her and spoke to her Thursday night for about 10 minutes. Answering some of her questions and telling her he would see her sometime and that he would be in touch with me here and there via text or phone. She asked if this could be fixed and he responded with he wasn’t sure he couldn’t make any promises but maybe it was something we could try he needs time. I have made no contact since they spoke. So saddened for my children and myself and missing him and his son. Due to our schedules we only saw each other every weekend.
What should I do? What is going through his mind? He did mention he needs to feel he needs to see what else is out there? He felt that we were too comfortable together.
Advice of any would be helpful thank you!!!
Just a few more things… what’s upsetting there weren’t any arguments. I do feel he has some stress his ex-wife just got married St. Patrick’s Day weekend . He’s been waiting to hear about a new job for months that he is dying to get. He is having trouble refinancing his home and getting his ex-wife’s name off of it. Just hurt to hear that he wants to see what else is out there or maybe he just needs to be by himself. It’s been very difficult keeping no contact. What are the chances he’ll contact me? Still so mad that he ended the relationship and our age over a text. What should I do?

admin

April 11, 2014 at 3:59 am

Do you think it was the talk of a future that scared him a little bit?
SHELLEY

April 11, 2014 at 11:07 am

I’m not sure if that scared him or not. It was more plans for each weekend and summer plans with the kids, usually initiated by him.
He does have stuff of mine and the kids at his place. What is the best way to handle getting those things back? It is day 10 of NC. It s so hard!
Any insight as to why he would do this by text?

Cathrine

April 7, 2014 at 7:41 pm

The relationship before my previous relationship was 9 months filled with tears, emotional and mental abuse. About a month before I broke up with my ex I met his friend. Lets just call his friend boyfriend#2 and call the previous previous ex boyfriend#1.
Boyfriend#2 witnessed much of what boyfriend#1 did to me and he seemed quite upset about it most of the time. As you can probably tell by the names I have given these two guys, I started liking the friend. What I DIDN’T know is that boyfriend#2 liked me as well. A lot. So, soon after breaking up with boyfriend#1, I started going out with boyfriend#2.

My feelings for boyfriend#1 had been completely eliminated, which was sorta surprising, considering how much I liked him and the fact that I chose to stay with him even after everything he’d done to me. So, I guess that proves how much I love this guy.
Let’s give boyfriend#2 a name. I guess we can call him Dillon.
Dillon and I were basically inseparable. We talked a lot, everyday. You could tell by just seeing us when we were together that we were in love. About 3 months after we had begun dating, things changed. He stopped talking to me almost all together. I stopped getting messages in the morning from him, I stopped getting calls, or night messages- everything. Just out of nowhere. He’d send a few, maybe 2-3 messages to me per day. Finally, he just went days at a time without talking to me at all. I kept bugging him about it, and finally he just told me that he’s been busy and hadn’t really been talking to anyone lately..
I accepted what he told me and then just went on about my week.
Well, I assumed that AFTER he told me that, things would change. But, I guess I was wrong. He still went days without talking to me at all. I’d text him first, sometimes he’d answer, other times not.
Finally I asked him again and he told me that I made it hard to talk to me. He said that basically, I’m too depressive((I have a bit of depression, but things are a little better with that)).
So after he told me those things, I decided that way to fix the problem would be to act happy.

I started acting really happy when I talked to him, I smiled more and told him I loved him even more than I usually said, which was a lot. That worked for a little bit, meaning a few days, but then he stopped talking to me again. Finally March 14th of this year, I went over to his house.
He seemed normal in person. Very normal. It was just US. The way we’d always been. We smiled, laughed, did stupid things and it was great. After I left that night he texted me and told me that he had been thinking a lot about me and how much he truly loved me. Of corse, that was the best reassurance that I could have gotten at the time being.

He still didn’t talk to me though.
I felt like we were only in a relationship in person.
14 days later on the 28th of the same month he messaged me. He asked me if I thought we were working out and he told me he didn’t think so. He said that there was just a lot going on and he was having to go through his parents fighting and some more things. He said he didn’t like me anymore in a relationship kind of way, but more of a good friendship kind of way. He said he didn’t have the mental capacity to care about anything other than his friends and family.

At this point I was sobbing and he was asking me told please not cry and saying he still wanted me to be a part of his life and he promised that he would still talk to me and be here.
I asked him if he thought we’d ever get back together and he responded with a “possibly. we’ll see what the future holds.”

So basically he told me he didn’t like me anymore..
He still BARELY talks to me, even though he promised.
Well, I’m friends with Dillon’s friend lets call him, Joseph.
Joseph likes me A LOT, but I don’t like him very much. He told me that Dillon had said he never wanted to be in a relationship, or even talk to me ever again. He then went on to say that the real reason Dillon broke up with me was because I’m over dramatic, blow things out of purportion and I overreact to things. I’m bipolar, by the way, but I have medication.
((by the way, all the things Joseph told me, he requested that I NOT talk to Dillon about, because he wasn’t supposed to tell))
He said that Dillon said all I do is complain about things. Well, I guess I believed him because Dillon WASN’T talking to me. I asked him about it and he denied saying it, and that Joseph was trying to make me get over him.
I asked him to call me when he were discussing this earlier today and he said he didn’t mind calling me and I went on asking him about things Joseph told me.
Dillon I guess asked Joseph about what I said he’d told me because I got a very angry message from him saying that he never wanted me to talk to him ever again because now Dillon is mad at him. After I told Dillon everything that Joseph told me, he stopped replying. So, I asked him to please call me later so I could ask him some things and so we could talk everything out, but he still didn’t answer, so I didn’t message him again. I’m really scared that he won’t call me and I don’t know what to do.

I could really use your help.
Please answer this if you get the chance. It would mean a lot, considering all the things that I DON’T have time to put in this comment. I am beyond upset, though.
Please tell me what you think about things and how I should go about getting him back in the future, or near future.

admin

April 8, 2014 at 5:29 pm

What makes you think he won’t call you?

Marionm

April 6, 2014 at 12:40 am

So, my boyfriend and I had almost been dating for a year and then I wake up to a text saying, “I think we should see other people” so obviously I called him and he said he still wanted to be friends and I was trying for the week after we broke up but then one night I broke down and begged for him back and obviously it didn’t work but he hasn’t ever ignored a text I’ve sent and he always replies really fast but right now I’m trying the NC thing. I’m scared that since I was kinda clingy for a week this may not work. He told me he still cared about me and that he still has some feelings for me but he just wants to be single. I think I just pushed him away more. The only thing is I still walk by him at school and I’m scared that the NC method may not work.
Molly

April 2, 2014 at 11:31 pm

So my ex and I had been doing really well and the we had a night out together.. drank too much and got in an argument. I thought we had everything resolved. I went out of town for a week and when I got back he was distant.. very obviously backing away. He kept saying we’d talk soon..and then put it off.. I finally got him to call me. He had already made his mind up that things just didn’t feel right and never did. This was news to me. It was like he had put this huge wall up around him. He wanted to set a time to break up officially in person. At that point it had been dragged so long I told him no. He wanted me to meet him for dinner to dump me. I couldn’t do it. We aren’t on good terms now. Not talking at all. My question is would this advice work on him? I feel like it’s a solid done deal. But would love another chance or at least for him to him regret this decision. He seems like he just lost all care for me completely. While I was on my trip he txt me asking how it was going. But seemed distant even then. Now he’s acting like he never wants to see me again. I’m heart broken about this. Any advice would help.
Sal

April 2, 2014 at 6:21 pm

Hey Chris,
So my ex and I broke up about a week ago.. We met up twice to return stuff/talk.. It went fine. But I want him back obviously, I said some mean things before leaving his place last night so I ended up texting an apology, he responded which was odd. But ya I’m gonna start bc today.. Do u think there is A chance?
Morgan

April 2, 2014 at 1:27 pm

My situation is complicated. My ex and I live together. By that, I mean he dumped me at the end of January and he’s the one that’s supposed to move out. He’s been working on building his finances and finally got his tax return,so it’s looking like May. Should I begin the NC once he has officially moved out? He’s already watching me move on and I can tell it’s driving him nuts. He makes comments about how long I spend getting ready to go out (without him). At the same time, there’s another female in the mix. He denies any relationship with her, which makes me assume she’s nothing more than a booty call, but it’s the same girl he runs to in every fight. I’ve installed a very good sms filter on my andriod phone to keep his texts out of my main inbox for now, but NC is impossible as I HAVE to see him everyday at home. We also work together, but not closely. He works on the other end of my building. I feel that can be advantage once he moves out. What do you recommend? NC starting now (minus when we HAVE to talk), or NC once he hands me his key? Thanks!
tanya

April 2, 2014 at 11:21 am

hi..
so me and my ex boyfriend had recently broke up because he lied to me. it was not a big deal like he cheated with another girl or like that but he lied to me more than 5 times during our relationship(we were together for 2 and half years). he always lied that he was sleeping but eventually he out drinking with his guy friend. after i had caught him lying, he regrets and promise to tell me everything and i have accepted him back. past one year he’s been good and I gain back my trust but recently he lied to me back. he said he went to gym but he out drinking with his friends. i don’t understand why would he lie to me for being with his friends? i’m very angry because he lied to me. so i broke up with him. i’m doing NC but he hadn’t contact me at all. deep in my heart i want him to contact me to prove that he is still loving me. i don’t know exactly what my feeling right now;still want him or moving on. but i love him because he’s also my bestfriend. please advise
Gail

March 30, 2014 at 4:57 pm

My boyfriend and I are in our late 40’s. We were together for almost a year. I met his children and family and spent alot of time with them. He wound upon on a huge job in the fall on top of his regular work and his boss left him off the org chart of the job. He found out while reviewing the presentation. He was still expected to do his job regardless. I know this put a tremendous amount of stress on him & I didn’t see him for 8 weeks. He was working close to 100 hours a week. I wasn’t happy about it but I didn’t want to cause him any additional stress. After Christmas while he was on the business trip for this project, he then contacted me everyday (he initiated 90% of the communication) and even called me on New Years Eve. I thought we were back and I figured once he got home we would talk about it and decide how we would work this if it happened again. I saw him when he got home (even his kids) and two weeks later after being on the phone for 30 minutes he tells me we have a great friendship. Totally pulled the rug out from under me. I agreed to “be friends” but then called the next night and asked if we could meet and talk about it. He totally agreed and we met. I finally put my guard down and let him see the soft side of me. He told me I am everything he wants and that he wants to love me but doesn’t know what he can’t. I told him I felt he was going to lose the best thing that ever happened to him and that he was taking from me the best thing that ever happened to me. HE said that is what scared him most of all was losing the best thing that ever happened to him. I started NC without even getting to your website. At week 5 my dog got very sick and I called and left him a message about it in tears. He called two days later and we chatted for 30 minutes. I told him it was nice speaking with him and he said “it was really good to talk with you”. I called him two weeks later and said I walked out of my massage and smelled steak and thought of him. Just wanted to let him know the dog was doing better and that I hoped he was well. No word. Now what? I just ordered your books. Thanks
island

March 30, 2014 at 12:45 am

hey, me(island) n my ex girlfriend was dating for four years she then decided she wanted to take a break to experience other people. she now has a girl she claims that they are just friends but she n this girl spend an awful amount of time together. so is their a possibility that we will get back together. a couple weeks ago she came by an cried her eyes out saying she miss me an she dont feel worthy of me also that she’s sorry she haven’t been here for me like she should’ve. just the other day i went over to her house an i see the girl their laying with her an she totally rejected me. I was wondering is their a possibility that we will be able to rekindle that love we use to have??? also what necessary steps can i take to get her back?
Toria

March 25, 2014 at 1:12 pm

Hi Chris,
My ex boyfriend and i broke up in October, it was horrible for both of us. so to cut a long story short, We had a great relationship always spoke openly about things and then i fell pregnant but it was totally the wrong time…he was still going through a divorce(nothing to do with me)plus we had only been together about 9months at the time so it was completely bad timing and things were rocky at work as the company was potentially making redundancies. I lived with my parents and he lived with a friend due to not being able to buy a house whilst his diovorce was still in full flow. I kept it to myself for a while as i was a mess and didnt know what to do for the best. I decided to tell him but every time i built up the courage to speak to him he was always busy with his “Friend” (female) who he had been close with since highschool who i had never met because she used to bail whenever he had arranged for us to meet. He became very distant and the more he pulled away the more i tried to pull him back but ultimately pushed him away more. Anyway i had an abortion and never told him until we had a really bad fall out and i explained why i had been so off with him and why i had been poorly. He was devastated and soon after he broke up with me. I was a mess, the person i needed the most walked away from me. It has now been 5 months since we split up and i like most women made the mistakes of pleading and calling too much. I left him alone for a while and we have just casually text over the last few months and then two weeks ago we met up for the first time since our break up and went out for dinner and coffee, I kept the conversation lighthearted and positive, i looked nice but not like i was trying too hard and we had a lovely evening but never discussed anything more. We havent spoken since and its been two weeks. Im confused…he told me how amazing i looked (put time in to working out and improving myself)we laughed a lot and ended the evening on a good note. I havent text or called or Facebooked, snapchat or any other form of contact as i feel it is always me doing the work. So what do i do now? Im tempted to wait another 2 weeks until the 30 day NC is up. what do you recommened?

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