5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Sar

March 31, 2015 at 3:48 am

Hey Chris, I’m wondering if you are able to help me?

So there’s a guy that I’d been seeing for around 4/5 months and before that you could say that we were friends as well. Before we were friends he broke up with his ex of a year because he no longer had that special spark for her no more, and afterwards she just gave him grief even though he gave the relationship another chance and even a chance at being friends but she didn’t make it work. We spent much of our time together (as young lovers do) and if anything was wrong we were able to talk it out, give space and recover. We literally were/are best friends, shared our goals and inspirations with each other.

But recently something happened where I was hurt by him, so he gave me some time to get over it but still contacted me each day to make sure I was ok. Then once I was feeling ready to move on from what had occurred he had gone quiet, and whenever I texted him he was very sort in replying and I knew something was wrong. So asked him and he said that he met up with his ex (because they finally agreed to be friends) and his feelings had come back for her…And of course all hell broke loose.

Right now you’re probably thinking yeah he’s not worth it anymore, move on but there’s so much more to it! See he’s still an immature boy and he doesn’t like to share much of his problems with people so it all builds up in his head and makes him a very confusing person when it comes to these situations. I met up with his mum and she did not understand why all of a sudden his ex had come back into his life (not back together literally jus back in the picture) and she thought we were so great together (I know clique) that he looked so happy when I was around in his life, whereas when his was dating his ex before he wasn’t quite as bright and happy because his mum said the ex made it all about her and he seems to have a protective feel for her.

But right now I’ve only met up with him a couple of times due to the fact that he has become a busy person and I have a feeling he’s not as keen to see me because he finds it hard. I’ve told him how much I feel about him and that I don’t want to give up on us or lose him out of my life, but if he does choose her that I’d be willing to still be the best friends that we are. But all he could that he doesn’t know what to do or what to choose but he doesn’t want to lose me or hurt anyone and that we have to wait and see.
So after displaying desperate scenes in front of him, I decided that ill leave it to him to talk and catch up with me. I wouldn’t contact him for a period of time to see if he notices my absence and wishes my presence to return. It was very hard but it was the only thing that I could do considering that the ball is in his court, and whilst doing so I would work on myself to be a better person, and secretly post pictures on social media sites where I knew he could see them and see that I was having fun without him. But in return on snapchat on his story page (if you have heard of snapchat) he posted a pic of his ex eating dinner. At that moment I saw it I could only see red everywhere, enraged by the fact that he could throw away all the feelings that we had created for an ex that he broke up with! So I wrote a letter (because texting is just not the way to go for me and gets no where) considering the fact that he struggles to meet up with me and needs to actually absorb information. I wrote that I cant endure anymore of this where he throws away what we had and that im now considering moving on with my life because if I sat by it would only tear me apart and I got cocky saying that you will regret losing me and will find no one else like me.
The next day after posting the letter in his letter box, he saw that I posted pic on social media working at my new job so he ended up contacting me saying “why didn’t you tell me you got a job, congrats!” so obviously the secret and silent treatment had work some what, but I was still angry and asked if he had read my letter which he hadn’t at the time. So he ended up reading it and cracked the sh*ts with me, he didn’t think that I saw it from his point of view and how much stress was on top of him (but I do understand the pressure he just didn’t seem to understand my issue) and thought that I was making it all about me and pushing him for an answer (which I was not, I was trying to tell him that I thought I had decided to move on after what I had seen).

He said that writing a letter was stupid because I was hiding behind it and it wast allowing him to reply to it and that I should contact and arrange to meet up, which I have been doing so!! Just he always turns out to be so busy and texting is just ridiculous, he said that him and his ex where just meeting up to talk about stuff but now I don’t know anything anymore and I tried calling him but he wouldn’t pick up and told me to stop and that hed call me later (this was on Friday) and he hasn’t. My male friend says give him at least a week or two of space again and see if he contacts you again because we have to meet up and discuss things now. But I have a feeling that he wont contact me and still wont want to face it, which will hurt me a lot because we worked well together until his ex came back in the picture and now he looks in the worst condition ive ever seen.

I really want him back, he’s my best friend, my partner in crime and he believed that we fitted together like a puzzle. How does he not know that what hes done with his ex that he wont do with me where he decides to come back. Please help and give me some advice, I would really appreciate it

Thank you for your time in reading my letter. ps sorry for it being really long and complicated but that was as much as I could type and there is still more to it

Yours sincerely

Sar
Autumn

March 28, 2015 at 9:03 pm

Hey!

Some of what you write here totally resonates, cause I got suckered into it in reverse! I met a guy about two and a half months ago, and he very actively pursued me for the first month or so (we really connected, he’d text me when he got off work at 1am with apologies for the lateness, but he “just wanted to respond”). And then he started getting in touch less and less frequently, and like clockwork I got more and more invested!

We eventually had a chat in which he apologized for being non-committal, said he really liked me, really thought we hit it off, and definitely wanted to keep hanging out and see where it went, but was uneasy about going too quickly because he was only recently out of a long-term relationship. I said that wasn’t an issue for me, because I was seeing other people, but I agreed that I thought we hit it off and wanted to keep seeing him.

We only met up once after that before he started to ghost. I got one message apologizing for not getting back to me for over a week, that maybe suggested something had happened. At first I took it as a blow-off, but then like an idiot I started to wonder if he was okay, so I got in touch a week later to find out, at which point I got: “I’m just too busy to hang out right now, I need to do my own thing for a while, I’m not ready for a relationship” (which I pointed out to him was not what we were doing), and then “I think you’re really great, I really liked you, let’s maybe stay in touch a bit, maybe down the line”. It may have been genuinely that he realized he wasn’t ready for anything, but I’m inclined to think it was a blow-off because he just changed his mind and doesn’t know why — and for some weird reason really wanted me to agree to contact him every once in a while.

I told him that if he wanted to get in touch “down the line,” he was welcome to do so, but that I didn’t know what I’d be doing. And added that he shouldn’t expect to hear from me, because it didn’t seem to me like my communication was something he was interested in.

I genuinely have no idea if I’ll hear from him, although I don’t really expect to. I’m thinking of deleting his number so I can’t cave in later and think of reaching out to him: good or bad idea? I kind of feel like him coming back is the only way there’s anything in this, but it also is one of the weirder situations I’ve ever been in (I’ve started referring to him as “Whiplash” because he went from 100 to 0 faster than anyone I’ve ever been involved with). It’s been incredibly disappointing though, because I haven’t connected with someone this well for a long time — and from what he said, it sounds like he thought so too. So I keep hoping he was being genuine about not being ready (though I know I shouldn’t), and wondering if there’s something I can do …

admin

March 29, 2015 at 2:13 pm

Lets see what we can to get him to go from 0 to 100 now.

Have you been doing NC?

Have you identified what you can do to raise your status to an ungettable girl?

Carolina

March 28, 2015 at 4:32 pm

My bf and I were together almost three years. Back in November he broke up with me because of the stress of our fights. I promised him that I’d work on it. He called me the next day crying and begging me to take him back. so we were back together and I kept my word. They weren’t any bad fights until the begining of March where we had a really bad stupid fight and he dumped me. I said things I completely regret. I’ve admitted my mistakes but he’s only blaming me for the breakup. He makes himself the victim even though he dumped me. He did it because he was stressed of our supposedly constant fighting. That’s the problem we’ve only had three fights since the last breakup and he started the first two but the first one I started he said he can’t handle it anymore and leaves. We spend most of our time together at my house and everyone here agrees we rarely fight but he’s not listening to me. We were each other’s firsts and I really love him and want him back. I’m working on myself right now, working out, hanging with friends and stuff. We just broke up this month and he’s added a high amount of girls on Facebook that are complete opposites of me. I miss him so much and he says I give him heartache. I feel like he’s trying to forget about me completely and avoid dealings with his feelings. Please help. I tried no contact but I failed but I’m trying it again and I’m planning to stick with it but I’m worried that he’ll forget about me and move on. Help.

admin

March 29, 2015 at 2:24 pm

Well, you have to get through NC first.
Carolina

April 4, 2015 at 6:54 pm

And then what?
Carolina

April 4, 2015 at 10:58 pm

He keeps saying he only wants to be friends

Karlie B

March 26, 2015 at 7:00 pm

Hello, I have been seeing my on again off again guy/boyfriend of 11 years. We were together on and off for 3 years in college, tried to hook back up again a few years later (didn’t work), then towards the end of last year hooked back up again. It had been a great 4 months then 2 months of him ignoring my calls and texts. I finally took the advice of a friend and drove 1hr 45min to his house (long distance relationship) unannounced to talk to him. When he saw me pull up he smiled in disbelief that I actually showed up to his house and seemed flattered. Long story short, he said he wasn’t upset that I popped up at his house but that he thought it was kinda nice. After a heart to heart he said the reason he had been distant is because he had been working 16 hrs, trying to spend more time with his son, and that I had said something that really made him upset, so he said he distance himself and stopped perusing me. In this conversation he said that he (in but so many words) could see us being long-term, that he’s always gonna want me, but that due to his new schedule right now he knows that we would probably end up hurting each other if we took it to the next level in being boyfriend/girlfriend due to not being able to spend time with each other. He later mentioned that he is not going anywhere and wouldn’t waist his time with someone he couldn’t see being with long -term. After this conversation he initiated a long intimate hug and kiss where he looked very deeply into my eyes. The love connection was obviously still there. To date it has been almost 2 weeks and the same pattern continues (ignoring phone calls and texts). Just yesterday he wrote on my Facebook wall (Happy Birthday) for my birthday after ignoring me for nearly 2 weeks. How should I interpret his behavior. I love him dearly and am going to now implement NC. Although his words say he wants this, his actions make me feel like getting him back is hopeless. Any advice on how he is really feeling? Is he just comfortable thinking that I’m always going to be around. IDK.

admin

March 31, 2015 at 9:53 pm

I wouldn’t read too much into it.

It’s common to wish someone a happy birthday.

Definitely go NC.

Melissa Cleveland

March 26, 2015 at 4:09 pm

Hey Chris,

My boyfriend of a little over 2 years told me last night that he isnt sure he wants to be in a relationship and is going out of town for the weekend with some friends to have a little space. He says he doesnt know what he wants. We live together and pretty much HAVE to see each other. What do you suggest I do to help him not feel so smothered and hopefully see why he wanted to be in this relationship to start? A little back story; He and I were just hanging out on the weekends and texting all of the time. He always initiated it but always stood firm on he wasnt interested in a serious relationship. Well, it was getting to the point where my feelings were just too strong and I told him how I felt and that I couldnt continue the “friends” thing and would have to walk away but I told him I hoped we could be friends down the road. I didnt hear from him for a few weeks and started getting short texts from him and finally he told me he wanted to see how things would go in a relationship with me. Within a month he is bringing up us living together and that was pretty much all she wrote. It has been stressful because we both have kids with other people. My 4 year old daughter lives with us and his 9 year old daughter comes every other weekend. We have been stressed out and fighting a lot and that brings me all the way to the top of this post. He says he doesnt know if his heart is in it and just wants some space to re-boot. What is THE BEST thing I can do in this situation to try and salvage what may or may not be left of this relationship?

admin

March 31, 2015 at 8:54 pm

Well, if you do decide to do NC you might have to alter the rule a bit.

Anonymous

March 26, 2015 at 8:49 am

Hi Chris,

I’m a 27 yr old girl and was dating a guy a little over a year. It was a good relationship from what I saw on my end in the larger scheme of things. We did things normal couples did, family and friend gatherings, we seemed so happy and laughed a lot and was so loving and affectionate. He was a year younger and never had a girlfriend before, he had flings but nothing special and had travelled A LOT prior to me. So I thought he was done with all of that. He pursued me so much from day 1 and then at the drop of a hat, he left me over something very trivial on Sat night.

I felt the need to tell a white lie in order to impress him and that already is not good. I definitely realise my mistake and know I am a good person and being me is all you need. I’m so career focused as well and building my own empire, which I have started with all my investments as well as studying an MBA working full time as a Nurse Manager. So as you can see my plate is full on. However, he was so focused on money and retiring early (He was in finance), I felt I had to say something that might impress him. Whilst, I went along with the lie for a long time, he probably knew, he was poking and prodding at the situation for a couple of weeks and when I admitted it, he said he can’t be with me anymore after I gave him space. He didn’t have the balls to see me, I had to call. I felt like maybe he had made his decision a long time ago. We just came back from holidays a few weeks ago too and it was good fun, so I was in shock and absolutely baffled when he said he can’t do it anymore. I know I had issues with self- esteem and trust because of my previous relationships (All cheated, previous ex really tore me up good, so I was cautious) and I know he tried his best to respect my decisions, as he was into things like swinging but we never did do anything like that nor did he cheat. I fought my demons and his lies to stay with him because I loved him and he was so affectionate/ loving/ sweet and was everything a sweet guy could be but maybe he was just all talk. I started to see cracks in the relationship towards end of last year when he wouldn’t follow through with what he said from little things like “I can’t wait to ravish you tonight and doesn’t do it, to what we would do on the weekend, talk to me when you’re ready to move in, but to no avail when the time came, the list went on” and it made me question maybe this guy doesn’t really love me and he just says these things to keep the peace. He said I was the most beautiful, the most intelligent, beautiful girl he has ever had (Mind you he has had well over 50) and said he would NEVER let me go. Post 4 days of the breakup I consider myself in a better situation than the first day, as I was so distraught by it all, trying to fight for the relationship. I haven’t contacted him since he broke it off, saying we shouldn’t drag it out, it’s unfair to both of us.

I have been getting the most amazing support from family and friends. I feel like this time round, I know what to do than the last but it still hurts so much and I am already focusing on myself about how I can be the better version of me like a video game COD, better yourself to beat the same scenario if it came up.

I’m at the point where I’m thinking…. Will this guy ever regret his decision to leave me??? …..Whilst, I know he would never do this, well I believe he wouldn’t because he seemed so sure about his decision. It just makes me wonder you know…. because this time round, he had me convinced that I thought I would settle with this guy one day. We were supposed to go on a big trip to Mexico for his family reunion next March. I guess that stuff doesn’t matter, at the end of the day, I know I am better off. For him to walk away that easily after a good thing, seems like he was still boy and was not ready for a REAL woman.

Hope you can shed some light……

admin

March 31, 2015 at 8:29 pm

What was the white lie?

You got me hooked I am curious now!

uhhhhmmmm

March 25, 2015 at 7:07 pm

So I split with my ex about two months ago because he got drunk and hit me and smashed my car up.

Since then I have not communicated with him directly…. I changed my cellphone number the next day in fact to stop him contacting me. He rang me at work but I hung up. He got his mum to ring me at work but I hung up. I got my guy mates to drop his stuff back at his house.

He got his mum to come to my house but I slammed the door in her face and rang the police. At that point I also took out restraining orders against both him and his mum. He sent me emails telling me he just wanted to be friends. I ignored them. The police arrested him for how he’d hit me and smashed my car up. He got bail.

He waited at my train station for me and tried to grab me after work. I ran away and rang the police again. They arrested him again and this time he didn’t get bail. He’s been in jail ever since. He got his cellmate to write to me; I reported it again and the police have charged him for that as well. If he got the maximum penalties, he could be in there for up to ten years.

So…. on the face of it, I never want to see him again and rightfully so. I mean he literally beat the crap out of me and for no reason (all I did was try to tell him not to drink; he’d only just got his license back after dui and I’d been the one to support him through AA and rehab so I had reason to be concerned). But on the other hand – I really did love him so much and a huge part of me wishes it could go back to how it was when he was (seemingly) serious about getting sober. I don’t know if he is going to just hate me now, for reporting him and getting him sent to jail, but I know it was the right thing to do. And necessary for my own safety.

Still. What’s the chances of him being genuinely sorry and actually changing? I don’t want him back if he’s going to keep drinking. Even less if he’ll beat me up again. But I loved him when he was sober.

admin

March 31, 2015 at 8:06 pm

Hmm…

I can’t condone getting someone back like this.

Though if he takes the necessary steps and never picks up another beer at all then maybe there is a chance but I don’t have a lot of faith in men who hit women.

Z

March 24, 2015 at 2:10 pm

My boyfriend and I just broke up because of a mistake I made in the very beginning of our relationship breaking our trust. I really want him back and I’m attempting the no contact rule but I don’t want him to think I just stopped trying. I know that he is going to try to hook up with other girls (It was a long distance relationship, we’re both in college) and I don’t want him to forget about me. It’s only been a few days since the break up but he’s made it clear on social media stating that he’s single and kind of rubbing it in my face.
Would it be a good idea to send him a text half way through 30 days NC just to reassure him that I’m giving him space but in no position to give up trying to earn his trust back?
I know that I really hurt him but if he really loved me why is he making a joke out of me with all the things he’s posted on social media?

admin

March 31, 2015 at 6:42 pm

There could be a ton of different reasons.

He sounds very immature.

Nope, I don’t think breaking NC early is a good idea.

Katrina

March 22, 2015 at 1:16 pm

Hey Chris,
During NC you said that you don’t like the idea of the set in stone 30 days. My boyfriend and I just broke up recently and I would love to do the whole “no contact” rule but you see the thing is, is that I work with him very often and he also gives me rides to work. What do you think I should do? Should I only contact him when necessary?

admin

March 22, 2015 at 5:54 pm

You are just going to have to make a few alterations to NC.

Brooke

March 20, 2015 at 5:08 pm

Hi Chris,

Firstly, I’d like to say that I love your website and your articles have often proven very insightful and helpful numerous times for me, so thank you! However, I also have a question on a situation I was in – I met a guy about three months ago, and unintentionally played hard to get for the first month and a half because I was seeing someone else. He pursued me and gave me the impression that he liked me and that we were moving toward something more serious (acted affectionate/possessive, texted/called me daily, we started seeing more of each other, etc), but to be sure I told him about my feelings for him a few days ago (at which point we had been seeing each other for about 2 months, and 1 month of sleeping together) and asked him if he felt the same way, and that I was looking for something more exclusive. He basically told me that he was happy with where things currently were, and that he didn’t know where his life would be headed in the upcoming months, etc etc. He then mentioned that he had slept with another girl about three weeks ago, and when I heard that I told him this wasn’t what I was looking for and left. He asked me again what I was looking for, I repeated myself, and said goodbye. He seemed very surprised throughout this whole interaction, asked me if we could still hang out and be friends, and texted me 3 times after (to basically repeat what he had already told me, and minimize the proportions of his fling with the other girl), but I never responded. I’m planning on moving on, but do guys ever regret doing stuff like this? And if he changes his mind, is it just out of loneliness?

admin

March 22, 2015 at 4:25 pm

All the time they regret stuff like this.

However, it usually happens down the road.
Brooke

March 31, 2015 at 11:50 pm

Thanks, I appreciate it 🙂

Serena

March 20, 2015 at 2:28 am

I was dating my boyfriend for almost two years (1.5), since the begginjng of 2013. It was amazing and we had a lot of moments together, I was his first real girlfriend and he was my first serious relationship and we lost our Virginity to each other. We both go to different colleges and work and it ended up getting difficult to see each other, given his state at home and with his parents he ended up lashing out on me and blaming all his difficulties on the relationship and not being able to handle it, but i know there was more to it. After all this I found out I was pregnant and given a number of factors needed help with dealing with it.. The baby did not survive past 2 months, however during this time we wrre in a very on and off relationship from September until December for the first time ever!!!!!

I realized I needed to give both of us space and stopped fighting to fix things and allowed for no contact with him for basically all of January … He eventually contacted me himself and for February we both slowly but surely tried to patch things up, it was a new start no discussions ablut the past. In between he was hot and cold and it was hard to communicate with him at moments but I played it cool and went with the flow. Then finally at the end of February he came around to take me out in which I ended up leaving on short notice after a few hours (due to a family emergency). He didn’t text or call after that and when I contacted him he told me he wanted nothing to do with me and that I had wasted his time and he wants to give our relationship no more chances (as usual).

I didn’t argue and ignored him, during the week I noticed small gestures from him such as comments on social media and snap messages. When I came down to msging him he had my number blocked and I eventualy got a hold of him which resulted in an even bigger fight in which he really harshly told me to leave his life. I sent him a long paragraph explaininf that he needs to take it easy and not be so focused on the negative and he replied saying he agreed and told me to take care. Again, I’m back to square one with active no contact but… this being said, I have no clue what to do. Or how to fix it. Given it’s the second time around how can I be sure he’ll ever try again.

Serena

admin

March 22, 2015 at 4:07 pm

Is this Serena Williams?

Haha JK JK

Ok, I would like to push you over to the blocking page I wrote,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/

MiMi

March 11, 2015 at 4:59 pm

Hi Chris I just need some advice on my current situation me and first love ( I was also his first love) went out for about 2 months ( even though it wasnt that long we have an emotional connection) I didnt contact him after the breakup so about 5 months later we ended up dating again for about 3 months I ended up breaking up with him over a stupid argument and I didnt realize the mistake until it was too late so then later on he was confusing me by saying maybe we could date later then now says its over so never but yet he wants to be friends.But thinking that I was going to lose him i started begging and pleading hoping for another chance and to show him how I grew from that and how much I love him but all he did was keep on rejecting me and saying that its over but saying he cares about me and wants to try and be friends so idk what to do anymore so I started NC because I’ve been in contact with him ever since the breakup. But I just want him to get the same feelings he had for me before and for his opinion of me to change and for him to see what he lost so…….any advice

admin

March 13, 2015 at 7:28 pm

Well, if you do get him back you are going to have to realize that things are going to be different no matter what but that doesn’t mean it has to be a bad thing.

Lost Lucy

March 10, 2015 at 4:39 am

Hey Chris I know you’re super busy, but If you could please help me! I and my ex had been together since September of 2013, broke up in the 2nd week of November last year but got back together after 2weeks because he said he missed me but then we broke up again in the 1st week of January because I caught him cheating(we had been fighting somewhat a lot over stupid little things and that’s why he said he did it because he was tired of what was going on between us)Do you think I still have a chance of getting him back? I know he cheated but I am willing to forgive, is that ok?but because I feel the break up in November was when I should’ve done your no contact rule,(becoming the ungettable girl, and doing all that you said etc.)but I didn’t because I hadn’t discovered your site yet. Is there no chance anymore? and also the last time I spoke with him was the 7th of February, I called him drunk and left a not so nice voicemail, did that ruin my chances and the next day after that he texted me asking if im talking bs about him and I quickly responded saying that “no I don’t talk smack about him, if anything I just think of you”[I know that probly made me sound desperate and I don’t talk smack about him], but on that day is when I began my 30 day no contact rule and yesterday was when I could finally text him but I haven’t because i’m scared of failing! and also i’ve looked on his IG and seen that he comments a lot with this girl from his job, and I feel that he may be moving on with her can we still have a chance although there may be someone new in his life? im sorry for my long story I just really need help. Should I work on myself right now and continue no contact or should I try texting him?
Emma

March 8, 2015 at 12:08 am

Hello Chris. My boyfriend and I have recently split up after being together one year. We rent a place together and despite the split he has signed another six months so I can stay there. He reason for the split is because he works away and has decided he doesn’t want anymore children, even though this is something that he spoke a lot about when we first met, he even spoke about marriage to me as well. We haven’t really sat down and spoken this is something that he has decided. He has told me he doesn’t want me to be a stranger in his life and he still loves me but he doesn’t want to stop me having children. I’m so confused.

admin

March 8, 2015 at 2:58 pm

Well, the children thing is a scary thing for him probably because he has a few already and hes not with their mother so he doesn’t want history to repeat itself with you.

Also, children take time away from you.

ug

March 6, 2015 at 11:22 pm

hi chris
my bf of 7years left me out of the blue . iam absolutley sure not for another girl and now its been 3 months ..
he havent spoke to me in 1 month and a week
well my question i am absolutely sure he is stubborn and he is the one who hurt me so i dont want to be the first to talk to him
i see all his pictures going out only with friends no girlfriend at allll he is experiencing the world after a 7 years . he is 23 yeasr old and all i c is that his new friends are like 18 and maxxx 19 years ! no serious relation . and he is the type of guys who love to be commited and want always somthing serious
do you think he got bored and he want to clear his mind and just leave all the responsibilities aside ?
2- iam so sure that he compares every girl to me and none of the girls he knows now compares to my standards but when will he realize that he made a mistake??
3-do you think he should get into another relation to realize that none is like me ? or from the girls (friends) that he is going out with will ralize that none can be compared to me
arielle

March 6, 2015 at 6:07 pm

I really messed up…I bombarded my ex with texts and calls and messages on social media and I know its crazy. I have the hardest time letting go but I truly do love him and care for him but in return for doing what i did and the things I said he decided to lash out against me and I got really hurt. Do you think I would every have a chance of having him back.Or do you think I ruined my chances since I didn’t give him the space he needed in the beginning?

admin

March 7, 2015 at 6:04 pm

I think you have a shot for sure.

Amber

March 6, 2015 at 9:22 am

Hi Chris,
Thanks for all the great insight. Great site, and because of it I think that only just now am I realizing that I was my ex-BF’s rebound. 🙁 He cut off after 6 months together without explanation but only days AFTER an event he attended where he saw his other ex, from which he was rebounding. It killed me…but have since then been building on a friendship with him as he didn’t reconnect with her. I took that as a good sign…and over time our “friendship” somehow got to long hugging, kisses occasionally(no sex), frequent calls/texts, “love you’s”, “miss you’s” and emotional intimacy. During this friendship period he wasn’t with his other ex, and he continued to tell me how much he hated her as she cheated on him. Fast forward 6 months from our breakup, deep into this supposed “friendship” when he just texts me one day to say “oh, guess what. My ex is here, she just showed up crying.” Keeping in mind that she was in Korea and we were in Thailand at the time. I got so very upset, I couldn’t restrain myself is letting him know and his response was, “What is your problem? I did nothing to provoke this type of reaction. We are just friends”. It ripped me apart, for a second time. And since then I’ve the NC rule in place…it’s been a very long and lonely week for me. The problem with this NC rule is that we work together, not in the same office but in the same company. Not a day after my emotional breakdown and telling him to stay out of my life as he was no longer invited to be a part of it he walked straight up to my desk, all smiles, and sat down for a 45 minute conversation (on work related items) where I had to act all smiley and professional (as no one in our office knew about us). He acted as if nothing had happened…again, I’m left hurt and empty at how very little I meant to him. How do I maintain the NC rule when I’m working with this person? We aren’t always in the same office (he works in the field) but we do have to email occasionally. I have now minimized those emails and only send things to him with other people on the email. I know it sounds mean but I want him to regret this, as I feel really used and sub-par in every aspect right now…can I do this even though I’m forced to work with him?
Thanks for any insight into his actions or how I should best execute the NC and regret thing given some of the challenges I have.

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:55 pm

How fast did he date you after the previous girl?

Kelsey J

March 6, 2015 at 7:04 am

So my ex and I broke up on January 1st and we were together for 8 months. Sadly the break up was clearly not mutual. I was gone the week of Christmas with my family snowboarding and my boyfriend and I were completely normal. we still said I love you at the end of the night and he gave me no impression that he wanted to break up. the only thing that I noticed that was different was the fact that we came home for Christmas break from college and he always wanted to go out to the bars. and I am not yet legal to drink so I always told him that if he needed a ride, to just call me and I would go pick up him and his friends. it was bothering me a little bit on how much he was going out to drink and that he stopped making any time for me, and it is partially my fault that I never told him it bothered me until we actually broke up. but leading up to the break up and cutting the story short, I found out that he cheated on me with his older sisters best friend (she is 3.5 years older than him) and at first I didn’t know about any of this because he told me he wanted to take a break and see if he could figure things out? and then I found out during our break what actually happened because one of his friends told me. And just two weeks ago I found out that he has been seeing this girl ever since we split up. This is why I don’t know if he will ever regret what he did or ever miss me enough to want to get back together, whether I would give it a second chance or not. I don’t think he has even had time to process our break up because he jumped to her so quickly? any thoughts on this would be extremely helpful!
Brooke

March 5, 2015 at 9:23 pm

Me and this guy were only official for a little bit but have been an on again off again thing for over a year. He says he’s not ready and he changes girls like he changes his underwear but it never lasts more than a month and they never really date and they usually are trashy not really good girls. I’m a girl that’s wife material and he and I always get along. We talk sometimes then sometimes we don’t. Sometimes he tells me he loves me too. I’m not like any of the other girls. I don’t interfere in his life we are civil to each other. I love him and I just want him to want me and regret losing me. We have all the same friends too. I dont want to be devous about anything either. He’s only 21 do you think maybe he’s just too young? Why does he date girls that are horrible and use him and then there’s me who doesn’t

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:41 pm

Probably because he is young and doesn’t realize a good thing when he has it.

Maya

March 1, 2015 at 3:43 pm

Hey Chris, thanks for the post! But I’m really stuck on what to do. After me and my ex broke up we were on good terms & talked a little everyday until he got really cocky & stuff and told me he wanted to minimize talking to help each other move on. And so I completely cut him off after that but last night I accidentally drunk texted him with a “hey” & instantly told him “whoops sorry ignore that.” And I feel like I broke everything I have built up and I don’t know where to go from here at all…

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