7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Kathleen

May 20, 2014 at 7:05 pm

Hey! So I’m wondering what to do in my situation as well. My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago because he feels he loves me but isn’t IN love with me anymore. In my opinion, I think he’s hiding behind that excuse because of fear of commitment as he’s applying to law schools and I’m searching for a job and I asked him recently how that situation was going to work. I told him if he chooses a school out of state, it would be a huge risk for me to follow him unless he assured me he was really in this with me. We’ve been dating on and off for 4 years. We spoke about a week before the break up and he was so adamant about how much he loves me and that a break up wasn’t on his mind and that this was it for him and then a week later he claims he’s not sure he’s in love with me anymore?? Anyway, so we talked a couple days ago and I told him that this relationship deserves a try before he quits and that it’s normal for a relationship to hit a lull and that we just need to spend more quality time together. He responded that he just doesn’t want to try and isn’t going to change his mind. So, should I go ahead with the no contact rule? For 4 years we’ve been so in love and each other’s best friend so I really feel in my heart that this claim of his is just BS.

admin

May 21, 2014 at 2:23 pm

What does that even mean?

In my mind being in love and loving someone go hand in hand when it comes to significant others.

Shraddha

May 20, 2014 at 6:49 pm

i hav maintaind nc for two moths now….he has a lot of male ego n didnt try to contact even once…..i hav no way of finding out if he wants me back……..how should i start the conversation… n yes i broke up wid him…….

admin

May 21, 2014 at 2:22 pm

Did you read the male psychology article yet? That talks a lot abou tthe ego of a man.

jiajia

May 20, 2014 at 5:26 am

my ex still loves me but doesnt want back with me.we were together for 1.5 years. we still keep in contact 1-2 a week. sms/call. its been a week since we contacted each other.

what should i do when he calls/sms me. he seems distant when he sms me first.

should i be friendly when he calls/sms me even when after that he will go distant or should i be distant too? what should i say when he calls?
adrian

May 18, 2014 at 1:06 pm

I broke up wih my girlfriend about 3 months now, she broke up with me because a friend of her sent me messages from her phone telling she didnt love me, then i answered other bad things, she said she didnt want to be hurt thats why we broke up, we havent talked since 1 month but im talking again to her and i want to tell her how much i love her and i want to try again

admin

May 20, 2014 at 8:58 pm

Check out my other site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

DanishGirl

May 16, 2014 at 12:30 pm

Hi, I was wondering… my LD ex (almost a 4 week breakup by now) texts me and emails me now after i saw him on tuesday eve, and he wanted to have sex, but i said no and that i had to protect my heart and take it slow.. but we kissed. and he said i looked so beautiful and that he had missed me so much… I have been replying his texts/emails since tuesday (even though he knew I had to do an important assignment that i then didnt have the ability to concentrate on), because he asks questions, but i don’t know how i should reply now because i feel i should end the conversation and start a NC period again. But how do i do that? or do i do that? Or do i write him an I want more email, or one that awakens a positive memory/feeling? I am seeing him in 2 weeks time where we are going to the same celebration with mutual friends (i dont want to stay away because of him, cause they are my friends too)… in his last email he talks a bit about his feelings and asked me how my assignment went.

we’ve known each other for 10 yrs and been together/dating 4 times during these years, with other boyfriends/girlfriends in between and long periods of time with no contact. This time has been the longest and most serious- probably also because we are older (27 and him 30)..

xx Camilla

admin

May 20, 2014 at 7:22 pm

Youve read the LDR guide right?
DanishGirl

May 16, 2014 at 12:44 pm

ps. i’m moving to his city in 3 months time.. and really want to win him back before then, since we had travel plans etc over summer, and hope we can be together when i move there…

Angel

May 16, 2014 at 8:13 am

My boyfriend started getting short with me on Saturday and I could tell something was wrong. And he’s all about communication. So I asked him if everything was alright and he didn’t reply to me for 2 days. So finally I told him if he didn’t want to talk to me that’s fine, he should give me my stuff back. Instantly he asked me to come over to his house to talk and I told him no that wasn’t a good idea. I called him after work and I explained how hippo critical he was being since he gets so mad at me when I don’t talk to him or call Him after work. He said he didn’t know what to say and that he was stressed out. Also he told me I didn’t try very hard to communicate with him to figure out what was wrong and all he wanted me to do was show him I cared. He wouldn’t tell me exactly what was wrong over the phone because he wanted to tell me in person. Right now all I know is that he’s having some financial issues. So he told me to come over to his house after work in 2 days to give him some time to figure everything out. We’ll the next day rolls around and he texts me first. I told him that I want him to fight for this and us. He tells me he doesn’t know what he wants. He said I expect to much and I don’t show him that I care so we broke it off. He is a huge texter. He wants me to know that he cares about me a lot and if I ever need anything I should give him a call. What I want to do is tell him how much I care about him and how this breakup was my fault. I miss him terribly and can’t sleep at night since he’s constantly running through my mind. I was starting to get real genuine feelings. How can I show him that I care about him and am sorry that I didn’t show how much he ment to me? I want to tell him how much I miss him since he didn’t feel I cared. How long till I should tell him how I feel

admin

May 20, 2014 at 7:00 pm

In other words, he got angry b/c he didn’t think you cared? Sounds very immature to me.

lisa

May 16, 2014 at 5:59 am

I broke up with my ex of 4 months.we’re both in college and I was his first kiss. He still wanted to be friends and I agrees because I still cared for him.and I always missed him, I broke up with him because I never knew how he felt or put any effort in. We’ve been talking almost everyday since I confronted him about he felt about me. We both admit we like each other and miss each other. But he doesn’t want to get back into a relationship because he’s afraid of.history repeating itself and thinks we don’t have the time to put into an effective relationship. I can’t tell if he’s messing with me, which I dont think he would, or he really believes It.

admin

May 20, 2014 at 6:57 pm

He never put any effort in or you never put any in?

bhumika

May 16, 2014 at 5:32 am

Me and my bf broke up 15 days back , basically I raan after him because he broke up with me due to fight issues we were dating since 4 years and it was not easy for me to let him go.. He has changed his number I have tried asking for his number from his friends but it went in vein no one gave me instead suggested me to move on , he has deactivated his facebook account. I have no contact with him . Does he still loves me ?What do I do now ?

admin

May 20, 2014 at 6:32 pm

Why did you break up? Just because of the fights?

Acire

May 16, 2014 at 5:03 am

It’s been three weeks since I stopped talking to the guy I was dating. We weren’t officially girlfriend and boyfriend, but the relationship we had sure felt like we were a couple. During the time we were dating I was kinda keeping my guard up due to my bad experiences in previous relationships. I honestly ended up falling in love with him, but I guess I realized it too late cause now HE doesn’t want anything with me. I have not contacted him since the day he asked me to not look for him. I really miss him and it’s killing me not hearing from him. I don’t know what to do. I tried working things out and letting him know that I’m willing to.give it another try and leaving everything that happened between us behind us, but it seems as if he’s ready to move on. What do I do?? I love him and miss him so much.

admin

May 20, 2014 at 6:31 pm

So, the two of you were never an official couple?

Fleur

May 16, 2014 at 5:03 am

Hi Chris. I’ve been reading your article for a while now and I thought I’d like some advice. Me and my ex have been in a relationship for nearly three years. We are both 20 this year and each other’s first, and we started dating when we were 18. We were rather different from the average couple, I would say, in a sense that we weren’t too mushy or overly expressive in our feelings to one another, and him so much so, more than me. Usually I will be the one showing more emotions as he’s an inexpressive person by nature. However somewhere along the way I lost sight of his qualities that made me love him (when he is sweet he melts my heart, and he’s also shown me lots of affection in spite of how clumsy he may seem) and started comparing him to my friends’ boyfriends. We had this quarrel and I was being all unreasonable and obnoxious and I asked him to change a little for me. He said that he used to want to change me, but he learned that he should accept me for who I am and that he did and that he loves me for who I am. Unfortunately I didn’t REALISE this until it was too late. We had an internship half a year back and both of us headed to different countries and we didn’t see each other for about half a year. We were still in a r/s though, but after we returned I became really scared and nervous of seeing him I didn’t initiate meeting him as much as before. Throughout our internship he dedicated a post to me on Facebook and it was very sweet since it was rather unlike him. I was touched to tears but me being the prideful one didn’t tell him that and instead I teased him for being mushy.

As he’s going into the military late this year I asked around for advice on how to be the understanding party while he’s in the military so as to not exert extra pressure or stress on him worrying that I may be cheating or whatsoever. I also planned a trip back to the country I was in for internship because I wanted to visit my friends, I have a separate solo trip that I planned with him as a surprise so I did not invite him. However one of my friends invited him and he came along and everything was just really horrible. We didn’t interact much and it was as if we were not in a r/s at all! It was really nasty and I thought of breaking up with him right then, but he and my other friends returned home while I stayed on for another week.

Throughout that one week all I wanted to do was get home ASAP because I knew I missed him so much. We haven’t had much physical contact since before our internship, and we’ve never had sex before because I felt like I wasn’t ready. When I got home I asked him why he wasn’t there to pick me up at the airport and he said he had some errands to run. I got really upset and told him that if he was no longer interested in us he should tell me. These were words I said on a childish whim, but I never would have thought that he would have broken up with me right then! He says that it’s not that he’s no longer interested, it’s that we are not working out. He says he tried but we didn’t work out, so he wants to end things.

I grew really hysterical and we met two days ago. His decision was final and he was somewhat cool, telling me to stop and that he’s tired of relationships. His reason is that he’s too selfish for one, and that he feels like he has to drag himself out of the house just for a date with me. I feel like this is my fault though for neglecting him after half a year of not seeing each other, and whenever we went on dates he has to come to my area and all we do is watch movies and have dinner. I broke down and told him about everything I had planned for us, and how I cried when I read his dedication, and how I told myself I have to pick up the courage to meet his family because we haven’t met each other’s kins after two years and more of dating. He said if I told him all these earlier he would feel like he’s in heaven, but it’s too late and he’s moving on. I started crying uncontrollably but he seemed to be a little annoyed and said if I’m not going to go off, then he is.

I kept asking him if he loved me during our talk and he asked me if I wouldn’t stop until he said he doesn’t, and he asked why do I want to hear such things? Then I asked him if he sees me in his future, and he say he did, but for now, he shook his head. I passed him his clothes. And a pair of shoes that I got for him for his birthday present (his birthday was over and I left the shoes in my internship area). I had wrote sweet cards and letters to him throughout my internship and I placed them in the shoe box. After I got home he texted me saying thanks for letting him go, and that he really loved me but for now he’s just tired of relationships. He asked to remain as friends, but I told him I couldn’t because it will eventually kill me if he gets into his next relationship, and his next girlfriend isn’t me. His reply was only time will tell.

After a few minutes he texted me again and asked me why I did not give him the shoes, the cards and the messages earlier. I explained and he said thanks for always loving me, and that he was going to go to sleep because there’s “too much” going on in his head. I told him same here, and good night.

That was two days ago and he did not respond; nor did I contact him. My question is, Chris, is it wise to employ the NC rule here? He’s not a very initiative nor expressive person and he keeps things bottled up to himself. He’s also very firm and steadfast in his decisions and I know it’ll be really hard to win him back… Because he says hes been thinking about this for months, and my guess is it started in the middle of internship where we were basically going through long distance. I pre-prepared our third year anniversary card and present earlier before this whole thing and I’m thinking if I should pass it to him because its killing me holding on to them… I really did see myself walking down the aisle with him and I want to still have a little faith no matter what everyone says.

Thanks for taking your time to read Chris and I hope to have some of your time and reply!

admin

May 20, 2014 at 6:31 pm

I definitely think it is wise!

Miranda

May 14, 2014 at 4:14 pm

So I’ve been “dating” this guy for about 3 years now. All long while he was still seeing his ex of 4 years. We go to college in different states so who knows who else he is talking to. I have no doubt in my mind that he loves me but he’s torn between the two of us. I’ve been doing the no contact thing & even took it a step further to stay away from social media. He does contact me but not as often as I would like. When we do talk I ask him does he still talk to his ex says he doesn’t but her social media says otherwise. I’m tired of fighting for a spot in his, I’ve always been the girlfriend without the title. And that’s all I ever wanted from him, other guys lose my interest so fast. I want to fight for us but I refuse to do it alone.

admin

May 15, 2014 at 1:59 pm

The reason he hasn’t chosen between the two of you was that he loved the fact that he had two girls to go to.

Melanie

May 14, 2014 at 2:47 pm

After a year of dating, we broke up 3 weeks ago. -he initiated the break up but I think I was less of the mess the next wk, for sure. I implemented the NC rule, he’s already checked in via text a few times. I felt complete control. He called me last night Bc I had tweeted out to the universe “don’t let me fall asleep alone tonight” – I was too emotional and regret answering. The conversation was nice, about nothing specific again he was just checking in and said he saw my tweet and didn’t want me to fall asleep alone, he feels I’m sometimes directing them towards him whether that’s true or not. I didn’t let him hear me tear up, I tried to stay strong but I definitely wasn’t my strongest over the phone. I ended with “I love hearing from you but I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to call me anymore. It’s giving me a sense of false hope and I’m not sure that keeping in contact is really good for either of us” after a long pause I asked him what he thought and he said “your probably right, I guess I just didn’t want to say it out loud” then I fell weak and said “I’m afraid to hang up now, knowing I’ll never hear from you again” he says “well it’s getting late” so we said our goodnights and I hung up first. Why do I feel like I just lost all control? That conversation is now eating me alive. Did I do the right thing or will he find that a rejection and work on the moving on process.
Shania

May 14, 2014 at 12:44 am

So my boyfriend and i broke up almost a month ago and unfortunately due to drunk texts the whole no contact thing didn’t work for a while but now we haven’t been talking for a week maybe but i want to make him jealous because the only reason we broke up is because hes moving across the country nothing about us. He’s been hanging wiht other girls but when we were texting he said he missed me and that he wasnt over him. we have a national competition we’ll both we going to and will be together for a week and i just want him to miss me and want me back even if he can’t have me because he’s been a real asshole.

any advice??

Shania
Sierra

May 13, 2014 at 9:27 pm

My boyfriend of 7 months recently broke up with me a few days ago. He is 29 and I am 24. To me the relationship ended out of nowhere. We had just gotten back from a vacation that was amazing and attending a wedding which was also a good time. We made plans for another vacation soon and even for the next evening. He just said it to me in the car one day. I asked him if he wasn’t happy or if he didn’t love me anymore and he said he was happy and loved me but that we shouldn’t be together. No real reason, it was strange. I cried and pleaded but very briefly then I left and I haven’t tried to contact him at all and he hasn’t tried to contact me. He actually deleted me from all social media. I want to talk to him so bad but I want him to miss me and want to be with me. I dont really know what to do. I don’t want to look desperate but I do want him back.

admin

May 14, 2014 at 4:05 pm

NC?

Iina

May 13, 2014 at 7:04 pm

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me two days ago, our relationship have been fading away slowly for the past few months, which we have both felt. It made me very clingy and needy, trying to get any kind of attention from him. I know that’s where I made a mistake. When he broke up with me he said he’s been feeling lethargic and depressed lately, apologizing for being a bad boyfriend lately (he’s been lazy doing anything with me, most of the time we stayed in when we met up). First I was begging him to stay but then he replied that “were just comfortable”, and he can’t see us be together long term. We talked again last night, I had already read yours and other websites for advice. I told him very calmly that the break up was a good Idea, we both needed the space. I also explained I understand my neediness is partly the reason for the break up and I wish i would’ve realized it earlier. We talked for two hours last night, he was telling me how I should never doubt how beautiful I am, and how he’s crying atm, he also sent me a photo of me he’s taken, saying it’s one of his favorite photos of me. When we finished talking I said take care and I genuinely wish all the best for you. So I think we ended this well, this morning he had emailed me an article saying it reminded him of me, I replied to it with a short sentence. Now I’m determined to stick to the no contact period. Do you think we’ve still got a change to get back together? We’ve been officially in a relationship 11 months (we would’ve had 1 year anniversary in early June), but we’ve been casually dating for about 2-3 years. Also I was wondering should I cut the no contact period short. He is going to football World Cup in the end of June and stays there until end of July ..

admin

May 14, 2014 at 3:56 pm

What do you think caused the distance in your relationship?

Marl

May 13, 2014 at 8:41 am

My ex-boyfriend and I got into a huge fight on the phone almost 2 months ago. I initiated it because he made some last minute changes when he was supposed to drive out to see me in college. I just saw RED and everything came crashing down and in anger, I asked for the breakup. Unfortunately, I have already done the begging, crying and incessant texting right after that but now it’s just a few texts daily. He still replies sometimes but he doesn’t show any ‘let’s get back together’ behaviour. Since then he went on a trip with his friends to an island and he has told me that I should not hold on to our past.
I just don’t get how he can just let go of everything so easily. I want him back. We were together for about a year and a half. Do you think there is a chance? I’m scared that if at this point I initiate the NC move, I will lose him forever.

admin

May 13, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Did he have a legitimate reason for the last minute changes?

Elle

May 13, 2014 at 4:57 am

Does this NC rule apply when it comes to a crush? I’ve liked this guy for a while and I’m pretty sure he likes me too but he’s being a chicken when it comes to making the first move and I refuse to do it for him. Will this tactic make him want me even more? He always initiates contact so he’s used to making the first move.

admin

May 13, 2014 at 5:32 pm

No it doesnt apply.

dalel

May 13, 2014 at 2:49 am

hey, my boyfriend broke up with me after 9 months he did’t even told me that we’re through, he was laying he said that he had study so i gave him some space so he stoped calling me or texting me for no reason after a while i knew he was dating a girl (i knew from a friend o this girl) so i faught with him about that and he was like “no idea what ur talking about” i knew he was laying cuz he had a new fb account witch i was blcked for i can’t see what his doing but i have another fb account so i saw that he was dating this girl and i saw the comments on his pics and status “i love u, i miss u, can’t live without u , ur my only love bla bla bla…” so he was dating her and some times when we were meeting he was saying he loves me and he kissed me and huged me and he said he’s not dating that girl any way now he’s not dating her mybe another but i really love him and want to be with him even he hurted me a lot i want he to came back even i lose every thing i want him to love me again and want him to want me again :'(

dalel

May 20, 2014 at 4:19 pm

Hey, something is happening, you remember my ex that i told you about!, well,his friend trying to get close to me i think he wants to date me, so , is it a good move to accept that and makes my ex boyfriend believe that i get over him or not ?!
admin

May 21, 2014 at 2:16 pm

I don’t think so.. because then you will be the girl that stole his best friend away.
dalel

June 7, 2014 at 2:23 am

Hey, he’s going to “france” and mybe he’ll marry a girl over their, i can’t let this happen i love him soo much, if he marry some girl i’ll die i have to do something or i’m not gonna see him again pleaase heelp meee :'( :'( :'(
admin

May 13, 2014 at 5:00 pm

He just fell off the map? Seriously? He didn’t even have the decency to break up with you in person?

Catherine

May 13, 2014 at 1:22 am

He broke up with me 11 days ago. It was over one little fight when moments before the fight we were so in love. He said it was a break but a week later it just ended up being over. I don’t get it. We did a full week without talking. He said he wants to be single and mingle. He admitted he loved me, had feelings for me and has never been so close to someone before but couldn’t take it anymore. He likes the way his life is now. He is already talking to other girls. But not looking for a relationship.. At least that’s what he said. We dated for 2 years and were eachothers first everything. I’m 16 and he’s 17. It’s been 11 days and I just can’t do it. I love him and want him to regret this. But how? How if he is just happy without me and already talking to other girls?

admin

May 13, 2014 at 4:56 pm

Right now the best way to make him regret it is to live well.

Alicia

May 9, 2014 at 4:18 am

I have been together with my boyfriend for 6 months and only few days ago we had our first fight because he is making plans for the next 2 years to different places of the world to go partying with his friends. Ofcourse im not invited… When i told him that ofcourse we dont need to share everything but why he doesnt have any trip of this kind with me and why he prefers to party with other girls than with me ( he told me hinself that ofcourse there are girls and he will invite them drinks but its not important cuz he doesnt di anything bad). So he told me these are the things he needs to do and i will need to just deal with it and when i told him that i will not put up with trips for that long and that many he told me that i am crazy and doesnt trust and why im making a problem out of it if he doesnt do anything bad…. Also lets mention that he disagrees to add me in facebook as he tells me he hates people gossiping. He wasnt willing to find a middle way, and told he will do what he wants to do always and that he needs sone days to think if he can be with me if i dont accept his things cuz he thought he can marry me one day and have children but he thougjt i am more relaxed about these things…. So heres my question…. Am i too needy and not flexible and doesnt give my boyfriend the understanding he needs or are his wishes just sick and actually no one could out up with it? And what does that show about his feelings if he told me that he needs time to think because he doesnt know anymore if our relationship will work… Im feeling confused about how should i act ib this situation and with him

admin

May 9, 2014 at 3:43 pm

Give him his space, heck go full NC if you have to.

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