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SPD
November 26, 2014 at 5:01 am
Hi,
I have a long story but i really want you to know so that you can help me have him back. We dated for more than 3 years. There were many ups and downs, he was crazzy for me initially like all men are, then he started taking me for granted. In this span, i became very emotionally dependent on him. for each thing, i used to see him. yes he loved me but i never saw his social acceptance for me, may be coz i am chubby. We stayed together for a year and told our parents that we want to marry. Our parents matched our profiles and it was known that there is some problem with my stars and he might die, or stay ill if we go ahead. i never believed in all this and thought even he wont.
He never accepted that he believed. even after this, he gave me assurance that we would stay seperate and be happy, we do this do that and he had a lot many plans. with time, he became silent. never used to talk abt future. and i like a fool always thought he will be with me. we fought a lot, he told me his parents are not agreeing on this relationship. I made him the center of my life, my world my everything, he took me for granted big time. i knw he loved me but i didnt see that madness which was there initially. he never came to meet my parents when he knew my parents loved him. one more thing, he never tried to create any rapport between me and his parents, his mom was strict. may be she wanted a rich daughter in law. his parents had a love marriage and they werent agreeing to ours. my guy could never fight for me or it was a family pressure or even he had certain expectations from his partner. i am in a mess and have lost confidence. i really love him. i know his determination but he did not show this while having me in his life. why??????
last week, i met him and he told me he is getting engaged. my heart broke and i am shattered. he cried and said a sorry. he finished me completely. please help me!! i have loved him and love him with all my heart n soul.
this in India, and we follow strict traditions, once the engagement happens, families become very protective. but i still hope he would come back or i am just trying to console myself. my parents, friends have asked me to move on and have started hating him.
please help!
something is killing me from inside day by day. please do something.
SPD
Jess
November 25, 2014 at 11:58 pm
My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago after his friends had gone on holiday and he was unable to go it wasn’t my fault but he took it out on me and finished me over text I went round to his house to talk things though and he made me leave his house and started shouting at me I didn’t contact him for a couple of days after and he had gone out with his friends drinking and text me when he was abit drunk just saying ‘I love you’ I didn’t know what to say back becuase I was in that much shock so I asked him to take me back he replied with ‘we don’t work anymore’ so I asked him not to contact me as he was messing with my head his replie being ‘I can’t help contacting you’ I sent him a long meaningful paragraph back and he never replied a few weeks went by and one night he messaged me again ‘saying don’t think I don’t miss you’ I didn’t reply till the weekend after when I had had a drink and I told him I missed him too but he never responded again so that was that and I was getting on with things and then about 2 weeks ago he started favorating my tweets on twitter and unblocked me on Facebook and text me just saying my name so I ignored that and the he inboxed me on Facebook telling me that he had to tell me that he hadent moved on and he missed me so much. He also text me best friends saying something along the lines of ‘what do I actually do I miss her like crazy’ I replyed to the inbox and told him we couldn’t be friends becuase he had been so nasty, I don’t wana be his friend I want him back so my friend had texting him back asking if he wanted me back and he just put ‘I miss her and it sucks we can’t be friends’ she then told him I wouldn’t be friends with him bacause I was still inlove with him and he never replied to her he also started ignoring me again and I haven’t heard anything back since then. I don’t no what he’s playing at. I was starting to do okay and then it’s just like he’s come and kicked me back down again. Please help me understand what’s going on in his head đ
admin
November 26, 2014 at 3:05 pm
Have you started NC yet?
Jess
November 26, 2014 at 11:35 pm
Yes I haven’t contacted him since the last time he contacted me and before that we’d had no contact for about 3 weeks only the ‘don’t think I don’t miss you’ text he was speaking to my brother the other day as he bumped in to him I don’t understand why he’s still in contact with my family and not me
Ashlee
November 18, 2014 at 3:58 am
My ex and I had been dating for about 2 years, we actually lived together for 9 months of that and here recently I had moved 3 hours away and in a couple of months I will be moving back to the area he lives in for college. (It’s a long story) well we promised we would make this long distance relationship work since I would be back in 3 months anyway.. Well 3 days ago out of no where my ex broke up with me on the phone and said that he loves me but doesn’t feel the same about me anymore and hasn’t for awhile and I’ve only been gone for a month. I tried everything I could do to be with him and he said he doesn’t feel the same or like he got anything out of our relationship. I don’t know what to do and feel so hurt and lost because we had our whole future planned. Will he even come back if I do the no contact rule or is it even worth the worry. It’s just that I had my whole future planned out and to move back down there with him and he broke up with me and doesn’t even seem to care.
m
November 24, 2014 at 10:29 pm
I hAve the same problem almost but more complicated
anonymous
November 18, 2014 at 1:58 am
My now ex fiance proposed weeks before i moved over seas for work..we had agreed that i try save then we go finalize our traditional marriage and proceed to either church or civil wedding..the first one year was great but he changed after 1 and 1/2..he became abusive..rude he’d never call in the name of he now on postpaid and it can’t make international calls (lie)..fast forward .i never gave up and few months ago he started ignorinng me whenever i was sick… last have week i became so isi and i told him he started ignoring my calls and he even told me we can’t talk.he’s with his colleagues..i just decided to let go..i know he thinks i will still go back coz,i
Laura
November 4, 2014 at 1:26 am
My boyfriend and I had been together for over 2 1/2 years. Everything seemed to be going good. People found it strange but we never once argued. Yes we had our differences but we managed to always communicate. He has a son as do I from previous relationships and they are the same age. All this time they have seen each other as brothers. So many things we both have gone through but we were always by each others side. About over a year ago he decided to go into the refineries to work and earn more to provide for us and start working on building our future together. I supported his decision and we had so many plans going for each other. Every time he was away working I do admit it was difficult, but when he would come back we were so excited to see each other. This past summer we even took our kids to Disney which was a great experience to see that we can do things as a family, and talked about having children together. Everything seemed great! Late September he was assigned a new project and he had to leave out of state. We would talk and text. Tell each other how much we missed each other. Until out of no where he sent me a text message while I was at work telling me, “I’m sorry but I can’t do a long distance relationship anymore. I still have more work to do and I will be away longer. I think we need to focus on ourselves.” That tore me apart and I honestly was in shock. He called me later on that night to talk about the message and I tried to talk to him like we always do but I didn’t get anywhere. I was upset and I have to admit the call did not end well. My question to you is did I ruin any chances of us ever talking again? I do wonder if he thinks about me and my son. I do love him. What do I do?
admin
November 20, 2014 at 3:07 pm
The LDR… was it permanent or just for a short time?
Laura
November 21, 2014 at 5:59 pm
Well according to him when he took it upon himself to make this decision it was only a month, and apparently he was going to be away longer. In the past we had been apart for 2 even 3 months and I just don’t understand why this time he says he couldn’t deal with it knowing from day one this was going to happen when you work with the refineries. The 30 days not speaking to each other is approaching within the next wk. What do I do? So you think I should even bother?
admin
November 24, 2014 at 4:08 pm
I am not sure I buy his reasoning either…
I think you should bother since you have already started the process. Do you have a text message prepared for him?
Laura
December 5, 2014 at 7:58 pm
No I do not have a text message prepared for him. He never explained to me his reasons just that and he made it seem he was going to be away longer than what he said only to find out that he has been here in town for over a wk. Of course he hasn’t called nor messaged me. So what do I do? Should I move on and continue the healing process or do I even bother wasting my time with him?
admin
December 8, 2014 at 12:42 pm
Ok, lets prepare a message from him then since youve come this far.
Laura
November 21, 2014 at 6:01 pm
This is the first time we have gone through this. So I really don’t know if it’s permanent or not. I would greatly appreciate your input.
Laura
November 4, 2014 at 1:27 am
He sent me the text message on Oct. 23rd. It’s going on two weeks since we last talked.
Laura
November 4, 2014 at 1:10 am
My bf broke up with me b/c he said he’s not comfortable coming over anymore and he’s not enjoying my company the fight started mainly b/c I told him he’s changed he called me to break up and form that night to the next morning on the phone & texts we said some horrible things to each other he keep texting to me that I was mean & ugly as a response to my texts …. It’s been 2 weeks since our break up and he has called every second day to see how I’m doing and that’s because I hurt my knee just before the break up every time he has called I answered and he always makes sure he says I’m just calling to see how ur doing…. I didn’t answer one day he happened to call me twice the followed it with a text saying DONT WORRY I’m just calling to see how ur doing. Then again he called two days later and sounded very upset… What does this mean
what do I do?
admin
November 20, 2014 at 3:02 pm
Are you doing NC during this “every other day calling?”
rani
November 3, 2014 at 5:15 pm
i n my bf were in nice n sweet relationship.. we have decided names of babies n all about marriage… but just frm past 1 month he want breakup i dont kne any reason.. he say that i luv him more bcoz of that he fears what will happen in future…. i tried everything.. i tried nc for 1 week but he just said dont msg me :-(.. plz plz help
admin
November 20, 2014 at 2:45 pm
You need to try NC for longer.
(more than one week.)
g
November 2, 2014 at 2:37 pm
i wanted to clarify something. just because an ex misses you, doesn’t mean he wants to get back together, right? i’m after nc and i’ve gotten a lot of good signs, but i think its because he wants me in his life as a friend. during nc i got a text from him on day 9 asking if we were allowed to talk yet to which i didnt respond and then on day 39 i received an email saying he’s thought about me every day since the breakup and misses me. on day 43 (i decided a little longer of nc) i sent him a text that something reminded me of him and cut the convo on text 4, to which he texted 8 times which shows he was excited to hear from me. then 2 days later he called me because “i said to not be a stranger and this was him not being a stranger”. though the signs look good, i still feel like he’s just excited im ready to be his friend. thoughts?
Julia
October 31, 2014 at 12:12 am
Hi, I dated my best friend who was also my co-worker. He is someone that I can talk to for hours and hours without running out of things to say. We have the exact same sense of humor and always spend our time laughing. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at that time; it just sort of happened and took me by surprise. I couldn’t believe how “right” it felt. Fast forward a while and all of the sudden he withdraws out of the blue. We just shared a really great weekend together so I didn’t understand. After a few torturous days I asked him if he was mad at me and that’s when he broke up with me. I was shocked and hurt. I just lost my boyfriend and my best friend. AND…I still had to see him at work every day.
I immediately stopped having any contact with him because I was so hurt and could not handle it. We literally work at desks right next to each other so it was super hard. Two weeks after our breakup I found out he was online dating the whole time we were together and had met someone! Who was this person?? I felt so safe with my best friend! It was all such a struggle.
It has been two years since the breakup and we are still connected because of our close contact at work. For a while things got better and I had to start talking to him because the tension was unbearable. But several times he pretended like he left her and wanted me back but it was never the truth. He would flirt, call, tell me he still loves me and is confused. Then right after that I heard him tell a co-worker he was moving her here (she lived a few hours away). I was on this roller coaster and it was unbearable. He started flaunting his relationship at work and it would cut me to the bone every time.
I quit my job this summer to get away from him. I moved to the other side of the country to take a seasonal job and suffered a large pay cut to do so. He took my leaving very hard and said he would trade anything to have me back. I wrote him a letter explaining how hurtful he had been, that I still loved him but the situation was unhealthy. I got nothing in return but joke texts. I stopped contact again for quite some time and we recently started texting after I came back home. He told me he is still grieving my absence so I asked if he finally misses me and he replied with a joke. What gives? He texts me once in a while now but never replies after that. He never had a problem expressing himself while we were together. Is he just stringing me along in a narcissistic manner or do you think there are underlying feelings there? I feel like our souls are knitted together and it is so hard to let him go. đ
admin
November 3, 2014 at 3:56 pm
Definitely start out with the NC rule.
siobhain
October 30, 2014 at 7:52 pm
My be broke up with me last Friday over a text
“Hiya *******. Its **** me fone took a swim, what with all the hastle lately. Listen im havin a bad time lately. And to be honest the age difference has been a bone a contention with me. Im not going to waste your time when me head is not in the game. Realy sorry that things could be different, but right now i just want to be on me own..
I haven’t heard from him in a few weeks but the last time we were together he cooked me dinner, and breakfast in bed, we had the conversation about been exclusive and he gave me a gift. He has a lot of things going on… i care about him a lot and would like to think it could work. I still havnt replied and id like to… id like to meet up with him coz ive got some things for him… oh and btw the age gap… its 14 years
admin
November 3, 2014 at 3:29 pm
That was his breakup text? Half of it doesn’t even make sense.
angel
October 29, 2014 at 12:27 am
My own is dat we had a fight. After that my family got to know that he bits me alwayz! So there are not really in good terms with him! After we both reconciled for 2week he began to act strang! He called me and reminded me of bad word i used wen he bit me up, dat he has not been him self ever since then! And donth know how to face my family again! That he does not feel anything for me anymore! Is up to 1week he has nt called! Plz wat should i do? I still want him back. Tnx
admin
October 29, 2014 at 3:48 pm
Did he give you a reason for the breakup other than the initial fight.
E
October 28, 2014 at 11:17 pm
My boyfriend (28) and I (25) had been dating for a year now. He’s been experiencing a lot of stress because of work lately (they’ve been experiencing a restructure, he got a new boss who really isn’t a very good one, and his growth potential within that company is shattered), and I think he has been going through some self-esteem issues because of it. He was fine one day, then all of a sudden, he gets news that work’s getting worse and he is instantly bummed out for three or four days BEFORE he decides we need to split. He broke up with me, saying he had “things to take care of” on his own and that it’s unfair for me to wait for him, because it’ll take more than a couple weeks for him to take care of these “things.”
Additionally, he has mentioned that he is still in love with me, that I’ve done absolutely nothing wrong–that I’m perfect, wonderful, and beautiful. He just needs to take care of some things on his own. I asked him if there’s another woman, he said no. I asked him if I did something wrong, he said absolutely not. He mentioned that he applied for jobs overseas, but doubts they’ll work out. I said that I’d go anywhere with him–and he said he’d buy my plane ticket if that happened. He also promised he’d come back–and it wouldn’t be a “hey, let’s be friends” thing, that he would be ready to be with me romantically again. I asked him the next day if he remembered the promises he made and if those were just things he was saying to make me feel better. He said no, and that he doesn’t make promises he can’t keep. Also, he said that he would come back, even if I were with someone else and joked that he’d beat them up.
We had been talking about marriage, what kind of ring, having kids, growing old together–the whole nine yards. He was very excited to be with me. He said he still wants to be with me. But he has to do these things on his own for a while.
All of his friends say he’s a man of his word and is most definitely not one to lie. They’re all confident he’ll return. They also say that they’ve been hearing him talk about how I’m “the one” for so long now, or how wonderful I am, and how much he loves me. He also has already called me, even the day after the breakup to “check on me.” There is a lot of other evidence, but I figured this was enough for now. What do you think? What’s the likelihood of his return? Or, if you can give any insight, what in the world is potentially going on in his mind?
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:50 pm
Well, Its impossible to say for sure.
Its good that you have some support from friends.
What was his exact reason for the breakup?
E
October 29, 2014 at 9:41 pm
Sorry for the extra messages–I just keep remembering things! He also mentioned that he wanted to protect me and not “drag me down with him.” He also told another friend that he wouldn’t have broken up with me unless it was something really big that he had to take care of. Almost makes me think severe depression or something?
E
October 29, 2014 at 9:39 pm
Do you think NC would help? I suspect that it might…?
admin
October 30, 2014 at 6:29 pm
I sure do.
E
October 29, 2014 at 9:36 pm
That he had to “take care of some things.” He talked about seeing a therapist, actually. And how I can’t “solely be his happiness.” But he did promise to come back. And he did say he wouldn’t make promises he couldn’t keep.
He has said some very contradictory statements.
Olivia
November 20, 2014 at 8:01 pm
Sounds like he’s afraid he’s becoming codependent. Has he ever been in a relationship so serious before?
admin
October 30, 2014 at 6:27 pm
What are his actions saying? Look at his actions and not his words.
Laura
October 28, 2014 at 10:41 pm
Bf of 2 years tried to break up with me b/c he was stressed due to graduate school admissions and mentally isn’t in a good place and says he needs to be along. Instead we decided to go on break (for at least a month) so he can hopefully get back to a good place mentally but have agreed to meet once a week for dinner. What should I do? Would it be better for me to actually end it and then try to get him back or let him be on break for a little and try to get him back that way?
It’s worth noting that he broke up with me 3 months ago, which only lasted 5 days for reasons that he even admitted were invalid.
I’d love to get some advice. It’s crazy to me because literally 3 days before the breakup he was talking about how he wants to eventually get married, etc. Please advise.
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:43 pm
Have you tried NC yet?
Laura
October 29, 2014 at 6:08 pm
I’m in the middle of week 2 without seeing/talking to him with the exception of our weekly dinners. Should I get rid of those too?
admin
October 30, 2014 at 6:19 pm
Yep!
Sabrina
October 28, 2014 at 8:30 pm
Hi,
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months and we had a strong relationship over the summer but ever since school started he seem to be more distant but he is a senior and i am a sophomore. He broke up with me about 3 days ago and he broke up with me over text message saying I didn’t do anything wrong and that he was just stressed out about school and wants to focus on his grades. After he texted me that I called him twice and he didn’t answer so i texted him the only reason I called him was to tell him how much of a classy move it was to break up with me over text message and that i knew i shouldnt have trusted him. He said he didnt answer the phone cause he was driving but then i told him it was fine because i didnt want to talk to him anymore anyways after how he treated me. Then he texted me back are you serious? and after that he texted me again how did i treat you? I know he is really busy right now with his friends and work and school but he’s always out with his friends till midnight but he had a hard time finding times to hang out with me and he never asked if I wanted to hang out i would always ask him and he would say idk maybe. the last day i saw him he said he had to go home at 5 and do laundry which i knew was a lie but didnt want to believe it. he hasnt texted me again after he texted me twice and i didnt answer when we broke up. And I havent texted him but we use to talk everyday.
Do you think the no contact rule will work and he will miss me or do you think he forgot about me and is having to much fun doing senior stuff?
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:35 pm
I think it will definitely have a positive effect!
lee
October 27, 2014 at 11:18 pm
So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2.5 years. And recently for the past 2 weeks we have been fighting non stop. Mostly because he had planned a trip to Reno with some of his co-workers and lied to me about the details and I forgave him. So once he got back I let him rest from his crazy trip, but once he was all better I tried to reconnect with him intimately, but every time he would say how tired he was from work and was just not in the mood. So we fought about that for 4 days straight and finally one day I came home from work and I tried to talk to him about how I felt and he just said maybe we should break up and then left for work. I asked him why after we talked the next day and he just said it was because he didn’t want to feel tied down like he was already married and how he was only 22 years old and just wanted to be alone. But we live together so for the next 4 days I kept asking for a 2nd chance and that we should try to work things out and I know that sounds desperate, I was going throw a really depressed state of mind.Today, however I feel alot better, I finally stopped crying and have calmed down. Yesterday he told me that it was extremely hard for him to be in the apartment with me and that he still cared for me and misses me, but still wants to break up. I just really want him back but I’m not sure if there’s any hope anymore. What should I do?
admin
October 28, 2014 at 4:30 pm
Usually its the guy who fights with the girl over that not the girl… something is definitely off.
I think NC is right up your ally!
aggrivated
October 27, 2014 at 2:46 pm
My fiancĂ© broke up with me about a month ago. We were engaged and together for four years. As any girl would be, I am devastated and want him back to try to work things out but he wonât talk to me. There are just so many questions that I do not have the answers to. Iâm not going to lie about it, over the years our relationship was not always the fairytale. An important issue came up last year when we wanted to move in together. He had always told me that he wanted to live with a girl before getting married. I agreed because I honestly felt that way as well. When the time came, my parents got in the way and voiced their views that they wanted me to wait until getting married to move in. They are very religious. I am not and neither is my ex. We finally did move in together after a couple months. I had never really lived on my own before that. All along while we were living together, my ex told me numerous times that he wanted me to help more around the house, to do chores. I was busy with school finishing my degree and working part time. I had to go to my parentâs house often (every day) to take care of the family dog (he has heart disease) when no one was home. I was not helping him around the house as much as I should have. When he really voiced his opinion and got into an argument in May he took my engagement ring and I told him I promised to be better at helping out. It was around the time of his birthday and I decided to surprise him with a trip to St. Martin as a present and to try to rekindle our relationship. Ever since then there was not one day that I didnât make sure everything was done around the house. After about a month (June) he ended up giving me my engagement ring back and the wedding planning was back on. Another issue was my parents wanted a catholic wedding, he did not, I did not care. This was a debate throughout the engagement. Finally in July after arguing about it he told me if having the wedding in a catholic church was the only way he could marry me then he would. He also went to my parentâs house and told them that he did not agree with it and said the same thing he told me. We agreed on a church and went to meet with the priest. We both signed papers saying that we wanted to marry each other with the intent of never getting divorced. Things seemed to be good after that for awhile but I had a few doubts..in August I asked him..do you just love me or are you in love with me? I told him I didnât want an answer then and to think about it. He thought about it and told me he was in love with me and didnât want to be with anyone else. Then September comes and we get into a stupid argument about a receipt, yes receipt. I ended up throwing my phone at the floor and he said âIâm done with this relationship.â We still lived together at this point. Then he tells me to move out of the house (I should have but didnât) and I wrote him a letter, asked him to go out to dinner and read it to him. I asked him if he wanted to try to make it work or if he really wanted me to move out. He said he wasnât sure so I tried to leave things as they were and go on with our everyday life. Things seemed a little off to me after that..he didnât seem like he was trying so I nagged him a little to try when I should have taken things slow. In September a nice weekend was coming, he said he wanted to go to the beach and I suggested a certain one. He agreed and we took a mini weekend vacation. On the vacation he held my hand and we acted like a couple, at the beach I asked him if he wanted to try to make the relationship work and he said a part of him did a part of him didnât. Everything was good for a couple days after that then all of a sudden out of nowhere he told me we have nothing in common, that I lie, we donât like to do the same things, donât communicate, he doesnât like my parents getting in the way, and weâre on different levels then he kicked me out of the house. Now he wonât even talk to me. I kept trying to reach out in the first few weeks and nothing worked. What can I do to repair the relationship??? I have tried everything and just started the no contact. Is it too late to save what we had??? I miss him a lot and can’t believe he doesn’t miss me at all.
admin
October 28, 2014 at 4:17 pm
Definitely try the no contact on him!
You are letting him getting away with stuff that he thinks he can get away with. The NC rule will turn the tables on him and make him view you in a different light.
aggrivated
October 28, 2014 at 5:24 pm
How is he going to know that things could be different if there’s no contact though?
admin
October 29, 2014 at 2:24 pm
Because after NC you message him and show him.
candy
October 21, 2014 at 2:59 am
Hi..
I broke up with my guy today…
He shared a text with a friend that stated after hugging another friend at church he.almost forgot he had a girlfriend.
This is the.second occurrence this year..previously he held a conversation with a.chic after midnight.via fb..and told her…had he.not been.a.good guy he would try to snatch her.up…. Waaaaaay.too much convo…dirty dog!!!
I have.no tolerance for that…we were together 11 months..next week would be a.year..but I cannot and will not tolerate flirting etc..
He was in.tears and pathetically gathered his things…saying he.dis not want is to end…
I want him back… If.he enters a relationship.chances are.its going to.take a special person to put.up with his open mouthed snoring… Our crazy eating habits on.the.weekend… And more.personal flaws…
Do you jave.any thoughts?
Daniella
October 16, 2014 at 7:01 pm
Me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years, had some issues in the relationship just like many couples but overall was a very good relationship.
He then decided after 2 years and after being on an amazing holiday with me that he didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and that he didn’t want the responsibility of having a girlfriend. He’s 19 and I’m 21 and the first thing that comes to mind is that he wants other girls but he insists that isn’t the reason, he just simply wants to be alone. We still text every now and then and he tells me he misses me and wants me but ‘not right now’
Everyone thinks we’ll get back together but I’m not so sure, he does love me and he does care for me (something happened and I needed him whilst we’ve not been together and he was there within an instant)
I don’t know what to do to make him realise he’s made a mistake and to start chasing me back?
He’s done this before, with the same excuse and he came back after 4 months, will that happen again?
admin
October 27, 2014 at 2:59 pm
Definitely do NC.
I think you have a very good shot.
layla
October 14, 2014 at 9:12 pm
Hey, so i met this guy, after 3 weeks of getting to know each other we got together, and after 2 months he broke up with me because i was jealous of him talking to other girls and he couldn’t handle it. I really love him like we really had a special bond, well i thought so anyway. But anyway after a week of breaking up We met “as friends” and was supposed to meet again but he blew me of so we didn’t speak, 2 days later i found out i was pregnant, so i told him and we agreed that i would get it aborted because of our age (him 16 me 17), and then said i should let him know when i have had the abortion, which i did about a week later, and since haven’t contacted him as i have heard about the one month no contact rule, its been 5 days, does anyone think he will come back?
Alex
October 14, 2014 at 4:51 pm
Hello,
Back in August my GF of 2 years +. Broke things up with me, I was supposed to move in with her in Sept. But got some cold feet due to my daughter who is 4 , After that she starting bringing up past arguments that were left open,
Now it almost two months later we still have sex, we cry to each other she said its hard for her she hates being alone and misses me, after a night of us being with each other and having an amazing time together she gets cold on me and doesn’t answer my text until I start getting mad.
I don’t know what to do, she I continue fighting for our relationship to get back, or should I quit, she tells me she doesn’t want me but this last week I’ve seen her three times and it’s been us like we always was
Please give me some advise??
admin
October 27, 2014 at 2:24 pm
Hi Alex, by any chance have you seen my other site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery