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Laura
February 9, 2015 at 5:25 am
I was in a LDR for 6 months and we just recently started fighting over everything and he told me we needed a break and I agreed. I waited a week and he never texted me so I texted him and told him I missed him and he didn’t seem interested in talking to me at all, and I thought I would just end what we had because I didn’t think it could be fixed. I said goodbye and deleted the app we used to communicate before he could msg me again.
A few hours later I saw that he blocked me on Instagram.
It was easy for me when I cut contact from him at the time, but it’s been a few days and I miss him so much and I can’t stop thinking about him. I also told all of my friends that we we’re over and they said they were happy about it because they never liked him, so would it be bad of me to want to get back with him? After they told me they don’t like him?
I’m just not sure how he’s feeling or if he’s moved on but I feel like I won’t be able to move on. Does the NC rule still apply to me for my situation?
Also, Valentines day is in 6 days and I was supposed to be his Vanentine. I don’t wanna spend Valentines Day lonely without contacting him, but do I have to? Please hellppp :/
Lola
February 9, 2015 at 5:25 am
I dated this guy for about a year and a half. We even lived with each other for a whole year!. Everything was GREAT I’ve never been so in love in my life. We did absolutely everything together. We were both very intuitive with each others family. His loved me and mine loved him. We did the whole, your family for Christmas, mine for thanksgiving type of thing. We were the best of friends before we got together too. In fact I had a horribly abusive boyfriend before him, Timmy. Timmys family abused me and held me hostage at their home for several weeks. It was a very rough time in my life But he helped me get out of it, Alive. he himself had his issues that I helped him with. We both have litterly saved each others lives. He was my world. We have a lot of the same interests but a lot different as well. During the last 3 or 4 months, or our relationship had changed and I couldn’t pin point why. But one day I found out why I was acting so differently, I was 6 months pregnant. He had hinted that he was beginning to get annoyed with me but I just put it off. After about a month I had lost the baby. It was the week after I lost the baby he left me. It was like I turned into a different person when I was pregnant and he wouldn’t give me a chance to be myself again. He packed up his stuff and moved in with our friend ( who is also a guy). It’s been almost 6 months since the breakup. We’ve had coffee twice. But i initiated it both times. I’ve had 3 other boyfriends over the months and i compare them all to him. He works at a local pharmacy, one that my dad and grandma always goes into to get their pills. And he hugs my dad and my grandma like he misses them. At the end of our first coffee “talk” he specifically said “we should do this again some time”. So I texted him a month later and we went out again. Then I said “we should go do something some time, like go to the movies or something”. But it’s been over a month and no text. The weird thing is is that his dad texts me a lot. Not to say anything important but just to have a normal conversation. This is just breaking my heart and I don’t know what to do. I can’t keeping going on like this, I need to know if something is still there but I don’t know how to go about it. Do i want specifically HIM back or do I just want to be in love again?? At the begging of our relationship he wanted me REALLY bad and it was breaking his heart to not have me. So he always said sweet little sayings that were from movies of people who were heart broken. So it’s kind of an unsaid phrase really that we use. He ask me how I’m doing and i say “just peachy” which is suppose to mean good but for us it meant horrible. Should I not say things like that anymore? Sometimes I leave notes on his car while he’s working, I’m not sure if he know that it’s from me, but I just want him to know I’m thinking of him. Sometimes I drive into town ( which is like 1.5 hrs away) secretly hoping that I’ll see him. If I’m stuck at home there’s no chance I’d see him at all, none, zero. But if i was around where he was i MIGHT be able to see him, you know? I just don’t know what to do anymore. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about him.
Josefine
February 8, 2015 at 11:30 pm
Hi,
3 months ago a guy came into my life, and we’ve been seeing each other since. We’ve been kisisng and going on dates and so on. In december he told med that he was in love with me, but he was afraid of committing and he wanted to focus on his music and therefore he wouldn’t have time to have a relationship.In his world it cant go hand in hand. He also have a very turbulent past and needs to find his path and hiself again. When we met after christmas he had definitely structured his life to be only music, but when we saw each other we kissed and he eventually told me he was avoiding me because I made him want to do ‘relationship’ stuff, but he also said he wanted to be with me at some certain point, but right now he felt it would be shakyand he wanted it to last cause what we have is very special.
Now he told me he slept with one of his friends who was visiting him, but it didn’t mean anything, and that he was sorry, but we weren’t in a relationship or exclusive. After this I got very upset as I couldn’t be with other while in love, and he said he wanted to end it. This hurt me so much, that he won’t even put an effort in and fight for me. And I really want to see him regret it (as he said he knew he would do the minute I stepped out of the door). What can i do to make him come back ?
ting
February 8, 2015 at 4:01 pm
i am with this guy for 10mths. We have been quarrelling a lot these days. About him watching a video of a girl in gstring doing yoga instead of paying attention to me when i was lying beside him. Holidays he would be upset that i have no direction sense or i didn’t negotiate enough for better price, that i shopped n bought clothes. He was angry that a monkey bit me. We watched a movie Inherent Vice, i wanted to leave because it was boring but he refused. i walked out when the actress was totally nude showing her pubes, carressing her breasts n getting her ass slapped. He was angry. I was upset that he suggested that I should do a boob job n he doesn’t touch my boobs during sex. he prefers the top on. Those things hurt me n made me feel very conscious n upset when he refused to leave n the movie was showing the girl caressing her breasts.
Today i booked a seat for him at a metro he got pissed with me saying that it is rude. But he did it before too. because of this he said it is the final straw he wants a breakup.
we agree to continue our vday plan. but he still wants a break up….
i don’t know what to do
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:40 pm
A monkey bit you?
I have to hear this story.
Also, it should have been you that broke up with him and not the other way around…
Renee
February 8, 2015 at 11:38 am
I was in a relationship for a year an a half, for the last 6 months of our relationship he did fly in fly out work, (3 weeks on, 1 week home) I felt distant and it had me thinking a lot, I decided to call a break, but he called it a break up, I told him I just wanted some time and that I still love him, he wanted me back messaged me every day and it turned me further away, then he stopped, and in the silence I figured out how stupid I was ever to leave him! I told him that, I wrote him letters, I begged for him back, I text him far too constantly, he said he doesn’t want me back, I’ve erased his number from my phone so I can’t text him, so I guess I’m just in limbo waiting for him to call. please help??
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:31 pm
Ok, do you have his number though?
After NC you will eventually have to get back in contact with him.
shayla
February 6, 2015 at 3:26 pm
My ex broke things off with me two days ago. We had only dated about three weeks but we clicked immediately. Maybe things went a little too fast. He hadn’t dated, slept with, or asked a girl out in over four years since his last girlfriend broke up with him. He said it messed with his head. Things were great up until four days ago when I started noticing he was being distant with me. He was stressed and worrying about his sister who was a recoverying heroin addict. She had apparently gone missing but I had no idea. He didn’t say anything to me. Then he got a call from his parents saying his sister was in the hospital due to a heroin overdose. He left work early ( we work at a warehouse together), he didn’t tell me anything, just left, which I’m not upset about. I texted him later and he told me what happened and asked if he could come see me after work to talk. The last thing I expected was him ending things with me. He told me the last few days he hasnt been feeling that connection that he felt in the beginning with us. He said he didn’t want to hurt me and that I cared more for him than he did for me. He kept saying that he didn’t understand why he felt this way, that I’m amazing and beautiful and he’s so screwed up in the head. He said there are plenty of other guys who will treat me how I should be treated. He just doesn’t want to be in a relationship. He promised it was him, he didn’t meet anyone new, that it would take him months to get over me and that everything going on with his sister had him stressed. He said he had to go to where she was for a few weeks to help her and he was gonna quit his job. His brother committed suicide 7 years ago so I can’t imagine what him and his family are going thru. He wanted me to yell at him, scream, call him a piece of sh*t for doing this to me. Of course I cried. I’ve nvr had a boyfriend before so I didn’t know what to say or do. I wasn’t mad at him. I felt sorry for him and more than anything wanted to be there for him. I told him it wasn’t his fault he didn’t feel the same way I did, that I would be ok and he needed to focus on his family right now. He asked me to sit with him for awhile and just talk. I did get mad for a moment because he knew of my abandonment issues and he knew I was terrified he was gonna leave. He kept telling me that him leaving was the last thing I needed to worry about and I believed him. He promised that he felt something for me before, just the last few days he hasn’t. And I realized later that he started feeling this way around the same time his sister went missing. In the end I told him I am not mad at him, nor do I think any less of him. I wanted to grab him and beg him not to leave but I just told him I was sorry and he knew where I was if he needed anything. Now it’s been two days, I’m an emotional mess. I go to work and search for him, knowing he’s not there. Idk how to get thru this. I found out last night that he didn’t actually quit, just took a few days off. How am I suppose to act around him now? Do I show him how much of a wreck I am cuz I certainly haven’t cared about my appearance at work. No make up, just my sweats and I avoid evryone. It’s a warehouse so no one cares. But now that I know I’m gonna see him, what do I do. We will see each other in passing and will sit in the same lunch room. What do I do when I first see him? Smile? Wave? Or look away and avoid eye contact. We aren’t mad at each other or anything. I want him back so bad tho. :'( Sorry it’s so long.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:41 pm
It’s ok to smile and wave.
My theory is to kill him with kindness.
jacey
February 5, 2015 at 11:12 pm
I dated this guy for 8 months, we had plans and we both loved each other very much. Then one day he decided he did not want a relationship (it was ldr).He said he loved me and when he wanted a relationship I’d be the first one he’d call. So I didn’t text him or beg then the next morning he texted me and asked if I was alright. Then I was posting happy things on facebook and he blocked me, I asked him why and he said he wanted to because he couldn’t look at my stuff and he didn’t like it. So we had a short conversation and wouldn’t give me any answer so I stood up to him. He told me he was tired of this and told me there was no chance. But then later he told one of our mutual friends that he might try again when he moved up here. What does this mean? Do you think he’ll text or miss me?
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:16 pm
With time yes I do think so.
katelynn m
February 5, 2015 at 9:34 pm
My ex is giving me mixed signals. At school he acts like he doesn’t care about me. But the when we text he’s all like I miss you and I dont know what to do. My friends hate him but I’m madly in love with him. We have been off and on since 2-4-14 when we get back together we use the same date. Yesterday he texted and said so close to one year but today he wouldn’t even talk to me. Idk what to do. Help me please
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:12 pm
What do you mean you use the same date?
Jamie
February 5, 2015 at 9:22 pm
i was dating a guy for 7 months. for the past month or so we had been fighting quite a lot and then i asked if he still wanted us and he said lately i havent been sure. so i asked if we were done and he said that he wasnt breaking up with me. then he called me and said we should take a break and i said no and that we should just break up. then, later that night we talked and decided a week break was best and that we would still talk every day and would decide in a week if we wanted to get back. He also told me there was a higher chance of not getting back together than getting back together. so i waited and while we talked we talked completely normal almost like we were back together and we even hugged and kissed. he got me thinking we would get back together but then when it came time for his decision he said that he wasnt completely sure but that he couldnt see us dating right now and said if he regretted it he would tell me. then he asked if we were going to be completely out of eachothers lives and i said yeah for awhile. and then we stopped talking. i cannot stop thinking about what will happen and i just want us back. please tell me if you think he will come back. he was just saying the day before we broke up that he loves me and even the day we broke up he was acting fine and calling me babe but claims it was because he just wanted to wait until the weekend to break up with me. please help
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:16 pm
Have you done NC yet?
Jamie
February 6, 2015 at 10:54 pm
No I have not
Bre
February 5, 2015 at 12:20 am
I was dating this guy for a week, and he talks to a lot of girls, which I didn’t’ mind to much. After that week, I got very annoyed By that, but mostly I thought he liked my friend,Cuz they were taking pictures, and switching out phone numbers, and when we were around each other, all he mostly did was talk to her. Which made me a little Clingy and jealous, but he said he Loves me, so I trusted him. So I told my friend how I felt about that, and she said OK, I won’t talk to him anymore, and I said OK. Then she told him, that I said, I didn’t want her to talking to him, and it made him really mad. That night I asked him if he wanted to break up, Cuz that’s how he made it look like that following day and he said I don’t know, but Love is a Verb not a Noun. That next day he told one of my friends that he didn’t want to break up, he just thought I was being a little to Clingy, but after that I thought we were fine, but him and my friend, keep messing with me, about me not letting them talk to each other. So I left Smiling. Like a hour later he seemed upset or annoyed,and I asked him what’s wrong and he said nothing. The next hour I asked my friend, if something was wrong with him, and she just Smiled at me,and I said please tell me and she said nothing, but your going to cry, and I said what? Then next hour I found out he was thinking of breaking up with me, so after Class was over I broke up with him, Cuz I didn’t want him breaking up with me, but I told him we can just be friends, and he said yeah. I feel my friend sabotage our relationship and now I don’t know what to do because I feel like it is all my fault because I got a little jealous and clingy. what can I do about this? please help because I don’t know how to make him want me back even if we’re just friends.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:28 pm
Have you even tried NC yet?
Jade
February 4, 2015 at 6:16 am
Hi Chris, My bf and I broke up about a month ago. For the last 5 months things have been a bit weird. A little off and on, he asked for a break which didnt last long 2 weeks at the max and went back the normal hanging out and pet names and such. Regular texting and contact, just not as much involvement on either part. I left on 2 different trips that took about a month and a half together. Then I left again this latter month for another 3 weeks. We stayed in contact through text and a couple phone calls. He went home for the holidays and while back home met a girl through mutual friends. Apprenently they hit it off. When he got back there was some dogging the truth but i finally asked and he admitted yes he was getting to know her. Not sure what would happen with long distance( her being 1,000 miles away). I was heart sick I couldnt believe it. I feel like he told me the truth but who knows. He said main reason for us breaking up was how distance has really played a toll on our relationship and how he felt like we hadnt seen each other this last year hardly at all. I asked if he really liked this girl and he said you know shes not the prettiest but I like how she makes me feel. Its sad because I know he still loves me he told me and that hes still in love with me and the attraction sexually is 100% there. But I feel like hes over being emotionally involved with me. There was some issues that have arised with trust on both our ends. He said this girl so far is safe for him. He said its what he needs right now. Its sad because we did have a good relationship up until 6 months ago and I know I pulled away alot. Is there any hope? I did no contact with him for about 3 weeks and after actually went to his place about a week ago. It was like old times like nothing changed, I hurry dismissed myself because he said hes super attracted to me still and wanted something to happen on a sexual sense. I’m so confused and pretty hurt am I just his friend with benifits is that all he wants from me now. There isnt much contact on his end and i know he talks to her on a regular basis, apperently she is coming out to visit in March. Should I let him go? Is he totally over me? Is this a Hopeless situation?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:26 pm
Have you tried everything you possibly can to get him back?
Jade
February 4, 2015 at 3:19 pm
I dont even know what I would be able to do. When he mentioned that he was seeing this girl he asked if I was dating or anything and I told him the truth that I was talking to someone long distance as well. But i didnt tell him that it was nothing, he was just a friend. So he thinks I have someone long distance relationship as well. I asked if there would ever be a chance for us to be back together. He said you know the way i have to look at it is. Our old relationship is over and yea we have alot of history and been through alot. I just cant say yes or no right now. I dont want to come off needy or pushy. He is one of the “Stubborn men” you have mentioned before.
Jade
February 8, 2015 at 5:48 pm
I hate to be a pest. But I really do need help with this. I dont want to ruin any chance of getting him back. I’m not sure if no contact will work in this situation. He doesnt currently contact me but if I do send a text he will reply right away and ask questions to keep it going. If i stop abruptly to texting him he will send another text an hr or so later. I’m caught up because he thinks I have someone else and he already said I dont want to hurt this girl especially since shes coming to see me next month but i also dont want to hurt you knowing that she is in the picture. My fear is out of sight out of mind, especially if he thinks I moved on. I know your busy but if you could please respond Id so very appreciate it. Id just like to know the direction to move forward on. Also just bought your Pro version since i think your a genius 🙂
sapna
February 4, 2015 at 4:42 am
hi i was with this guy for 2 month. in that 2 months we both were very happy he text me every morning to say good morning and at night to say good night. we spend a lot o times together. he introduce to his friend and family. i spent Christmas with his family and new year with his children we were planing our vacation together he bought me ring and other jewelry even the night before the break up he told me that he loves me. we never had fight or argued about any thing. 3 weeks a go i asked him that can we meet today and he said sure when he came out of nowhere he said that we rushed into the relationship and we need to break up, i stayed calm and said if that is what you think is best iam ok with that i was heart broken but i was calm we didn’t argue and we went our separate ways, but the next day i sent him a text saying that i understand that we rushed into the relationship and now we are rushing to the break up as well i asked him if we can try again to make it work but he told me that the timing is not right we should go our separate ways and said that you will find the Mr right i did’t say anything and that was that i am trying the no contact but 2 weeks a go i sent him a text because he bought a lottery ticket and the ticket was with me and i won some money on that i told him that i won the lottery he replied back and told me lucky you spend it wisely iam not sure is that a positive thing or not. it was a short relationship but i loved him from the day i met him. i know that i need to make some changes but we don’t live close to each other even if i make any change he wont see me because we don’t have mutual friend he doesn’t have facebook or any way to see me. i have to mention that we are bought over the age of 45. please help me what to do. thank you
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:24 pm
Are you willing to try any form of NC or anything like that?
sapna
February 5, 2015 at 3:38 am
yes i will try anything for him to come back
Donna
February 4, 2015 at 12:31 am
So iv been with a guy for a mounth wev none each other for years and we both became single and we just have an amazing connection but he moved to a diffrent country and we tried to make it work but he changed his facebook profilee to him and another girl and I got jeloued and told him I never wanted to speak to him again he told me that she was just a friend I told him its all to much and I dont wana do this anymore he text me saying well if thats what you want im always here for you if you ever wana talk our anything what should I do im so hury for some reson
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:19 pm
Are you currently trying NC out?
Donna
February 4, 2015 at 2:32 pm
Ya day two off it I hope it works our should I just move on is it even worth it if hes not botherd so confused
melyacho
February 3, 2015 at 8:35 pm
This guy is trying to hang out with me and I’m getting a feeling that his intention is a “one and done” thing, even if it’s not. I’m not really into him just yet. He is kind of friends with the guy I used to see, who I just so happen to really miss. I don’t think they are that good of friends where my old guy would hear about this. I was going to reach out to the boy I used to see, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea, because he was the one who randomly ending things without my warning. I was abroad this summer, and once I got back if he would see my friends out he would ask if I was back yet and seeing any guys, that he wanted to know because he missed me. I didn’t care at that point, now months later I’m finding that I do in fact really miss him. He also asked my friend if he should text me, and I said if he wants, not yes. Knowing him, he probably thinks I am seeing multiple guys so he would not reach out to me. Then theres a part of me that thinks if he really does miss me, he could do something about it. So, do I forget about the guy trying to pursue me (even if I’m getting a bad vibe), or reach out to the guy I used to see? The new guy doesn’t feel right, even though I don’t feel like making the effort to hang out with him. And the old guy, I can’t stop thinking about. What should I do??
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:08 pm
Well, if you don’t have feelings for the new guy you should break up with him…
melyacho
February 4, 2015 at 10:57 pm
I’m nothing with the new guy, he’s just coming off too strong. what do I do about the old guy I miss?
Kyra
February 3, 2015 at 5:31 am
So I’ve been in this relationship for about a year. We both considered this to be a serious one since we planned on getting married and have kids and stuff like that.
Everything started when I was a freshmen in highschool and he was a sophomore in college. We meet through a friend and it turned into a 956 miles long distance relationship. It didn’t last very long, roughly 2 months or so. It was very hard on both of us since we couldn’t see each other. He couldn adjust with the situation as well as I did and asked for a break. At that point I was also frustrated and decided to break it off thinking that there was no chance. We stopped all contacts.
A year later he contacted me asking for another chance. After a week of ignoring him, we talked and I realized I still had feelings for him so I decided to give it a go. Obviously the long distance remain as a problem. We both worked very hard to keep it up. We made time for each other. We go see eachother every two months. We even went to mexico together for vacation. Last month we we to his parents’ place in NYC and stayed there for 3 weeks. During this time, he mentioned that he is bery worried about loosing me because his schedule will be very busy. He said he doesn’t want me to leave for another guy because he cannot spend enough time with me. I assured him everything would be fine as long as we try to work our schedule out like last semester (both of us now in college, different schools).
After a couple weeks of school, he started to get busier and busier. Sometimes he came home at 2 am and fell asleep right away. I didn’t get a text from him until the morning. The thing though is that for the past year of relationship, we never sleep without facetime or the phone on throughout the night. We could never sleep without the other person there. Sometimes, i would go out with my friends and came home late, and he would get mad or just couldn’t sleep and waited for me. Now with the new schedule going on, we could come home late for a week straight. He would be out doing group activities for school or volunteering or just studying in the library throughout the day. This stressed him out a lot too. He usually get done with school around 5pm but now he rarely get any sleep. He basically cut off communications with his mom and his friends and they are all worried about him.
Obviously this streesed me out as well so i was also not handling it well. Also he got selected for an internship in the UK for the summer. I was very happy for him but as soon as he told me that he planned on going abroad next semester things became worse. I was upset because he decided all of this before talking with me first.
At this point he just blocked me out. He texted me saying that he is very busy and stressed out. Not only was he getting the pressure from me but also his mom and his friends. He begged me for a break and won’t accept my calls. At some point he just said he can’t be my boyfriend anymore because his life is a mess and he doesn’t want to hurt me. However he was very persistent in asking me to stick around and be his friend.
I told him I just can’t do that. I cant just act like nothing happened. I can’t be with him knowing that I don’t have him. Now we agreed on taking a 3 weeks break to cool things off first and see how things goes.
Is there really a chance for me at all? How should I go about dealing with this. I really want him back?
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:31 pm
Sure there is!
Are you willing to put in the work?
Kyra
February 3, 2015 at 7:12 pm
What should I do?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:04 pm
Well, have you read this site in it’s entirety?
Kyra
February 4, 2015 at 4:52 pm
Not the entire website. What is UG?
admin
February 5, 2015 at 2:57 pm
The Ungettable Girl
Kyra
February 3, 2015 at 11:34 pm
I would do anything that I can for him to come back to me. I already started NC and he have been texting me. What else should I do?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:13 pm
Well, the no contact rule is def the way to go. Are you transforming into the UG during NC?
Samantha
February 2, 2015 at 4:28 am
Was seeing a guy for a few months everything was great but he wouldn’t make anything official. He quickly mentioned once when drunk he wanted me to be his girlfriend then 3 days later wasn’t ready for a relationship when I became upset that he’s bouncing back and forth. Says he’s focusing on other things for now haven’t heard from him in 3 days… not sure if he will ever write me but he told me I was an amazing person and we both made the mistake of moving too fast ?? Should I write him off
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:41 pm
Hmm… he is sketchy… You need to find some leverage to turn the tables on him…
Maybe YOU friendzone him…
Samantha
February 2, 2015 at 5:20 pm
Leverage to turn the tables ? So me getting mad over him not making it official doesn’t make me crazy ?
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:00 pm
It makes you normal…
Now, how you went about conveying that to him may have made you crazy but generally there is nothing wrong with what you wanted.
Jabenr
February 1, 2015 at 6:13 pm
Hi there , I am so confused and I do not know what should I do . I am 35 , Asian Muslim female. After separate, I met a police officer, he is English 42. We had really good relation and we come closer too quickly. As I live in slough and he is Lincolnshire. Usually he used to visit me stay 2 to 3 nights in a month.i used to spend lot of money on him £1000 to £1200 monthly . Whenever he used to visit me I used to buy lot of but clothes perfumer . I always care about this birthday and chirstmat etc even I spend lot of money on his boys. Once r asked me that he needed £200 for his car tyre so I gave him my card ( £5200 balance ) Any way he took £200 in cash for tyres and spend £90 at tesco without telling me without my permission . I did not say any thing . Once my ex husband kick me out of my house and took the kids custody . I had no place do I went to Lincolnshire to stay with him . I visited him first time and all this happened in few hours so I could not inform him that I am coming to visit him and I just knocked his door . His house was very dirty but I did not care anything. He had to go to cover his shift . He is sergeant . I was living in his house and so I started to clean his house during cleaning I found receipt of tyre which cost £70 but he took £200 from me . So he did lie to me . He used to lie a lot whenever I did complain that he missed my birthday . He had lot of excuses as he is police officer . I am who used spend lot of money but he did not bother to buy a Christmas gift for me.ii bought xbox one for me and I asked for one top as Christmas gift and he could not afford Now again he started to ask money for His car . That he has to spend almost £600 . I said ok do not worry I would help you half, just show me receipt . But he said his friend is repairing his car so not possible to get receipt . But I did not transfer money to his account . Anyway one day he said he does not have money becuase he has spent £400 on his car . I said ok show me your transaction but he refused. This drama took very long . At the end I came to know he still had £900 In his account . I do not know how much did he spend on his car . Because there was so cash transaction maybe his friend repaired his car in free . Actually during road accident , he look after his friend’s sister in a good way . So his friend was very obliged to him. My Bf is sergeant and is earning £38000 p/a . I am jobless single mum of three . I regret that why I did have relation such person who wanted to enjoy on innocent children’s money . He tried to make fool and tried to contact but I did not speak to him . He is lie an greedy . During 13 month relation at least I spent £10000 on him and his boys . But he did not bother to buy chocolate for my kids as Christmas gift .i have him £1500 to keep it safe in difficult time I will use it . One day when I asked him he said he used it . But now he agreed that as he will sell his house he will return me .
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:22 pm
Mygod…
That is a lot of money for just him.
Stop giving him money…
Roger
February 1, 2015 at 4:07 pm
Hi Chris and admin, any chance on this one?
Dated a gal for almost five months. We did a variety of activities together and had lots of fun. We were so compatible with each other, common interests, a similar outlook on life etc. We enjoyed our time together and the sex was spectacular – very comfortable with each other. We literally did not have a single argument. So, the split has been a bit baffling and a big loss to me. . . A week ago we were texting, she tells me she is not feeling the love. She said she tried real hard, but not feeling it. She says I am everything she wants in other areas, so the problem must be with her. She said her heart feels numb and closed and she needs a month break to work on herself then maybe we could be friends; said might have to work through stuff regarding her ex. This was via texting, so I had a difficult time guaging the situation. At first I said maybe we could work it out, then realized she was certain and switched to supporting her to take care of herself. I wasn’t sure if she was trying to let me down easy with the old “It’s me not you line.” A couple days later, we meet at a restaurant to say goodbye – she also brought all my stuff. Immediately, we are hugging. We sat on the same booth side and hugged, cried and talked about our times together. She said she “loves me as a friend” and that was the problem. Yet, it seemed more to me. I mean, when I was away she would sleep with a piece of my laundry – to hold and smell because she missed me. That doesn’t seem like “friend love”. She also said she experiences I told her she has a place in my heart and to be good to herself. So, we left on a positive note. . . I do think about here and am torn between wanting to get back together and just accepting, wishing her well and moving on. We were so compatible and she is a very rare find. . . So, I’ve been doing some introspective work this week and even set up a couple dates, yet I do think about her and miss her. . . Today we have had a big snowstorm. Our last week together, we started cross country skiing and we loved it. So, waking up to a big storm got me excited. We’ve had no contact for a week, yet today I texted her that is was an AWESOME day for cross country skiing and to be good to herself. She texts back within minutes that she too is going cross country skiing with her son and tells me “have fun”. I simply text back emojis – thumbs up and smiley face. I’m not sure if I should stop all texts for a week or longer or what to do if she texts me again. I actually do want her to have space and work some stuff out, I don’t want to add to her difficulty. What do you think? I’m having a hard time being objective and would love to get some insight from the experts!
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:17 pm
Hi Roger!
So, a couple of things…
Chris and Admin are the same person 🙂
They are me, Chris Seiter.
Second thing, go on over to my other website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery and read that site first.
Roger
February 1, 2015 at 4:13 pm
Whoops, sentence midway down should read “she also said she experiences lots of negative feelings and little positive feelings”. Like she was an iceberg and the little bit of ice above water were the positive feelings. Yet, I must admit I was not in tune with this. She seemed pretty happy when she was with me.
Tiara
February 1, 2015 at 9:14 am
I was dating a boy for 2 years and i realive i felt i wanted to move on but when i realive 3 years later all i chould do is think about him even thought i was talking to others boys but i know he miss me because he keep in touch with my family and come over and he would look around for me but what can i do to get my baby back.
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:07 pm
Starting with NC is a good start!
Tiffany
January 31, 2015 at 6:35 am
I was dating a guy for 3 months. We were actually friends in High School and re-connected via FB. It went pretty fast in my opinion. I live 180 miles away but i’d visit him every 2 weeks, he went to my family’s christmas party, and I met his dad, hung out with his son on every trip, planned trips together, etc. Suddenly he said, I don’t want kids and you do which I explained in reality that won’t be happening and if it did we had an understanding of how that would be handled. The next day he had a new excuse that he wanted ‘friends with benefits’ but I was better then doing that…which I agreed yes I am. Well it turned into a nasty drunken text war that night…..all the conversation was via text (which is messed up) since 3 weeks before he told me it was shitty to break up with him in a text. I did sorta (break up with him) because of the distance barrier…..but I didn’t end up doing it…..so now I wonder what will happen and its all confusing. I wouldn’t have thought it was a friends with benefits, i’ve had those and we don’t plan to do things together and they also don’t buy me special soap to have at their house, LOL! I am in shock and although it was so short I really thought he was the right guy. Any thoughts you might have are thankful