7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

nat

February 16, 2015 at 12:24 pm

I was with my partner for 13 years.He wanted me out so I left him 3 weeks before.He cried like a baby when I left him.He has been breaking my heart again and again. I took him back regardless.Now i reach to a point where i could not put up with his weed smoking, making random girls friends and he hides my existence to them.I had punch on with them, chased them, threatened them ,every possible way to bring him in track and i gave up.We were high school sweetheart. I am not sad or miserable, trying to keep myself busy with work and studies but I feel like I am empty.His whole family is on my support and I told them not to yell at him because I don’t want him to hate me.The day i moved out he bought a girl home so called his friend with benefits and still living with him.I have been trying to do nc but cause of his family and financial support i need from him, i have to contact him time to time.Even then he says he misses me and he still loves me.but he wants to know what m i on his life.I must say he grew up in male dominated family and putting woman through this kind of situation is normal, his dad did the same and his uncles. One thing is for sure I know he loves me and no one can fill that empty space . despite of all these I want him back before i change my mind.what should i do?

Catherine

February 17, 2015 at 1:31 pm

I know it hurts I was with my boyfriend of 15 years we lived together. Men do not realize what they have. Like mine he had it all he could want for nothing. But it wasn’t enough for him. A couple of years ago he was caught fooling around till this day he denied it. Without real solid proof I let it slid but it was always there in my mind. Till new years 2015 he got a text from her but he wasn’t home he went to the store and left his cell on the table.She said happy new year and do you still have your tires for sale? Just trying to make contact I guess. I sent a message back to her she said oh I heard he was selling his truck tires I said i want you to stop texting him calling him etc. I was pissed. The I said her name then she knew she was the cat was out of the bag. I asked her about the affair she said they had a relationship but after we got back together they stopped well I told her we never split up. we that was it they were finally caught. Then she had the nerve to say he would never cheat on you he’s not the type he adores you etc. After the cat was out of the bag. So now again he’s doing it with someone else. He’s running around after this woman like a dog in heat and he says there just friends. It hurts so bad he had it all eveything sex etc. So I asked him to leave take his stuff I need a break he came the next day packed his stuff but left some behind. He went straight to her hididng out he doesn’t know that I know. It hurts really bad.

Belle

February 15, 2015 at 8:58 pm

I was dating this guy for 5 months and we fought a lot while we were dating. I always takes thing serious and too emotional. During these 5 months we went for a date only three times.He spent time at my place three or four times a week watch movies, cook and play games but I want to go out for a date. I fought with him over that but end up stayed in. He doesn’t want to spend money for a date. I broke up with him three times but got back together because he tried so hard to win me back again and i pitied him. Until that time I didn’t realize I can’t stay without him and love him. I know I shouldn’t initiate the break up first because I am mad. I broke up with him fourth time and he let me go this time. He said he suffered so much pain from the love and this time he is fine with the break up. I didn’t really want to break up so I say sorry and try for the makeup. But he didn’t give me any chance to try and tell me to stay just as friend. He said he just wanna be single for the time being and grow from there and which is the best for me. But I don’t wanna be friend with him. He didn’t even show up on my Birthday and I realize he already gave up on me but I still wanna get him back. I try not to talk to him but he text me everyday. When I initiate about a date he stopped texting. I’m so confused and I don’t know what to do.
Ashley

February 15, 2015 at 6:19 pm

After my boyfriend and I broke up, due to him saying he just ‘wasn’t a relationship person’, I kinda screwed this whole thing up. Long story short, we were just hooking up for a while, and now we’re regular friends, but we see each other often and still occasionally hook up. I usually contact him, not the other way around, even when we’re just doing friend stuff. At this point is it even possible to make him wish we were together again? I’m really confused about what I feel as he was my first serious relationship and I don’t know if I miss him or I miss the relationship, but it does hurt me when he flirts with another girl, one who I found out he kissed while we were dating. I don’t let him know this, but the other day we were hanging out and I saw them texting and it upset me more than I wish it had. I’m just scared that if I cut him off without warning and stop contacting him, I don’t think he’s going to contact me anymore and I like being friends with him because it makes me feel better than when we just don’t talk. I don’t know if I want to get back together because I miss him or I miss the couple-y things we would do, but I want him to cut him off for a little bit so I can see if he even cares about having me around. Plus if I cut him off, I think it might give me some time to figure out my own feelings and maybe move on.

Anyways, my question is, do you think cutting him off at this point and ceasing contact can still be an effective way of making him miss me or want to be a couple again? Or is it too late for that?

Just a little background, I’m 17 and he was the first person I had sex with, and while I don’t think of it as that big of a deal, I’m not sure if perhaps that’s part of the reason I feel so attached to him and that’s another reason I want to cut contact.

Sorry I made this so long, I didn’t mean to, but thanks so much! 🙂
sarah

February 15, 2015 at 5:03 pm

I broke up wıth my boyfrıend on feb 14, after almost 1yr. we were ın a long dıstance relatıonshıp, we have not had any physıcal contact (sex o kıss) we maınly talked tru chat, earlıer ın the relatıonshıp he called often and sent me 2 gıfts, but d calls stoped and ıf ı complaıned ı was havıng a problem esp fınancıally, he wıll just pretend lıke he dıdnt hear me. I complaıned to hım dat he doesnt gıve me d emotıonal fulfılment ı desıre but he just sed he doesnt lıke ıt when ı ask for hım to do thıngs,,dat he wnts to suprıse me, but ı dıdnt c any suprıses. And ıts not lıke he ıs cant afford to. We were frıends before we started datıng (he was actually my brother’s frıend), d datıng part started when he started havıng problems wıth hıs MRS she even kıcked hım out of the house. And becos ı knew all he was goıng tru,, hıs health condıtıon (dıabetıes) ı became so drawn to hım beıng dat m a nurse. I showered hım wıth so much love and attentıon. But hıs behavıour became unbearable so on feb 14 wen he dıdnt wısh me happy valentıne even wıth an onlıne free valentıne card. I told hım ı was havıng trust ıssues, and dat ı needed tıme to sort dat out. He sımply sed “lemme no wen u r ready” ıts been 1 week of NC, ı really mıss hım…. Wat do ı do?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 11:44 pm

You still have 3 weeks of NC left.

Kacey

February 15, 2015 at 2:36 am

Hi there! My name is kacey and my boyfriend has broken up with my via text messages two weeks ago after two years and a few months together. He said that he didnt feel he had given me the best and that he didn’t want to waste my time anymore. In my opinion, he just wanted some time and freedom, which I was fine about. I haven’t had any contact with him since the breakup, and i’ve deleted his FB and instagram. I’m feeling very comfortable doing the NC rule, I’m not going crazy about wanting to see or talk to him again yet, though, in the long term I do hope we could get back together. Anyway, so it’s been two weeks, and he’s supposed to come to my place to pick up all his boxes of stuff and I was just wondering if I should get a friend to contact him for me to arrage a time and my friend could be there to hand him over the stuff or should I just text him and see him on the day he comes…but that meaning it’s going to break the NC rule right? My plan so far is, I’m going to text him and arrange a time for him to come over, but on the day, it’d be my friend who’s there to welcome him. Would that take him by surprise and miss me or have a negative effect? What should I do?

Thank you soso much!
Kate

February 15, 2015 at 12:46 am

I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and a half. We started it slow but suddenly we were best friends. We’d do everything together, we’d love to spend all the time we could together, because we were lovers and best friends. I think the relationship started getting cold… We were arguing a lot for the lasts months (probably result of all the time we spent together), not much sex… Everything was going wrong. But still, I was always there for him, i’m a very good friend and a loyal person. I love him so much, and he was pissing me off, but i wouldn’t leave him. But then he did. He broke up with me, saying that we couldn’t live like that, arguing all the time, wasting our young lives (but when I asked if he stilled love me, he said he did, but that that was not enough). I freaked out. I’m ashamed of it now, but I went after him like a dog, almost begging to come back. Then I checked on myself and I saw how stupid I was being! So I stoped that! I stopped chasing him, I stoped texting him, I didn’t ask about his life and i wouldn’t say a thing about mine either, so that we wouldn’t think that i cared about is opinion/trying to make him jealous, wtv…
But I couldn’t make the non contact rule, because lately, he texts me… With excuses, good/real excuses to talk to me. Like he needs something, or I know something he needs to be informed about (and if I waited a month to answer i’d be a real bitch, because those we’re things he needed)… But then I just answer and say goodbay, not making an effort to continue the conversation, and he wants to keep talking! About nothing… Books, series, what have i being reading, seeing… He even invited me to his house, with an excuse too (I had something that he needed). I could just go and leave it there, but he asked me to stay for a couple hours. We talked (not about us), but there was nothing romantic about him… Like he had no interest on kissing me or getting me back.
I’m so confused! If he doesn’t want me back, why the need to text me, or invite me to his house? If he does, why doesn’t he try a thing when i’m with him? What does this guy want?
Maya

February 14, 2015 at 10:19 pm

My ex and I go to different colleges and over the past months I have had insecurities and have felt that we haven’t been getting much alone time because I only see him every other weekend and all he wants to do is drink, he won’t stay in or do something just with me like we used to. This causes me then to get upset when I get too drunk and last weekend I got too drunk and said mean thinks like “I hate you” “I wish we never happened” and other things but I do not remember saying these things and I obviously did not mean them, I was just upset or insecure. He has forgiven me in the past when I have said things like this after drinking too much but this time he broke up with me. He said I hurt him so badly and that he wants to be with me but can’t right now but maybe in the future. We have not talked in a week. Do you think he will come back to me?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 11:28 pm

Have you attempted any of the NC rules or any of the advice I outline here?

Ayee Nics

February 14, 2015 at 3:36 pm

Hi.You see, i was friends with my ex boyfriend and we had really get along with each other. We still treat each other like boyfriend and girlfriend even though we already broke up. there were still fights, jealousy and so on. Then one time, he decided to get back with me but i have no idea that he had a plan where he will ask me to be his girlfriend again. That night, he texted me that he was giving up but still loves. I cried to him over the phone and told him that i do really love but he told me that it was too late. But fortunately, the next day, he decided to patch things up coz he couldnt let me go that easily. So i agreed. I love him you know. So days passed we did movie marathon, play games, share stories..we treated each other sweetly. we even told the words “I LOVE YOU” to each other. I know he meant it, coz i felt it and i saw it in his eyes. So, my classes started and i got busier. He texts me and i still reply though it takes a couple of minutes , lets say i reply to him not the usual speed. but after i am done with my classes, i make sure that i text him and ask how he is. Things continued til the 2nd week. He even told me that hes mad that i am too busy or even flirting with other guys. the truth is, i am busy with my studies but he wont buy it. i got pissed that i ask him why he was so mad at me and even accused for flirting with others. It sounded like “whats the matter if im busy? so what if im busy?” I got so mad because he acted like were together. well i cant blame him. After that, he replied and said that he would make himself busy rather than waiting for my free time which i cant give. I felt terrible after that so i texted him telling i was sorry. But he did not reply anymore. I still texted him telling how sorry i was and that i miss him but nothing happened. He ignored me for two weeks. Then today, feb 14. he texted and called me. I said i missed him and i was really sorry but he was so mad. he told me that hes so pissed off because of me and hung up. a receive a message from him saying that i always turn him down. He even told me that he thinks i am already happy without him and that i found myself. out of the most things he had said to me,what really broke my heart is when he said he wanted us to part ways.I dont want to but he was already decided. He even asked for my last kiss and told me to have a good sleep. that he no longer holds grudges on me,and he just wanted to stop the longing and cut the agony. I was so hurt that my eyes are bloodshot from crying. I dont know if the last txt i received from him will be the last one. The last txt was “I am tired of playing games with you. You shoulda watch, chat or whatever you want. I cant stand this convo. 🙂 Be happy” I dont know if he reaally wanted to do this, i dont know if he will miss me if i will try to cut the communication. you see, he has big pride inside him and i dont think hell try to make an effort to communicate again with me or even miss me. My mind tells me to give him the space he thinks he deserves and sees if he will miss but i am not quite sure if should take the risk. What shall i do? what do you think he’ll do? are we gonna be alright? is he going to miss me? can he stand not communicating with me? we were good friends for almost 4 years. We really love each other that even without the label as gf and bf, we still treat each other like one. We are really close. I want him back. He’s my best friend and how i wish is my bf. Please help me. I dont know what to do anymore. SHould i go with the flow and wait til hem misses me? PLease HELP. I need an answer or advice.

admin

February 16, 2015 at 11:25 pm

Have you done NC yet?

Sophie

February 14, 2015 at 6:05 am

I broke up with my boyfriend a week before his birthday. Hear me out – I had planned for a month or so after so it wasn’t so cruel but he asked me if the relationship was okay. I couldn’t lie to him because I thought that that would be worse as a month later, I would tell him that things were not actually fine.

He seems really torn up about it and I don’t know what to do.

I definitely still have feelings for him but felt as though the relationship was NOT fair for him. We are both very busy students with very different schedules. I started to become easily agitated with him for the smallest things.

Now I’m wondering whether or not I made a mistake because I do have some feelings left for him but I don’t know if getting back together is the key. I know I’ll act the same way and that he’ll just be hurt EITHER way.

What do you think I should do? I don’t want to hurt him but I don’t know if I’m as ready as I thought I was to let go.

At the same time, I wonder if I actually like him. I might just be feeling bad for him instead of having real feelings for him.

Is it ever a good idea to get back together with an ex in this situation? Haha I don’t even know if I’ve made sense so far.

Thank you for your help!
Danielle

February 13, 2015 at 12:33 pm

I just had a break up, was supposed to just be a temporary split so we could work things out. Well he started talking to someone else. Let’s just say I did not follow non contact and I pushed him away further, and he just started ignoring me, which fueled me more. I jus initiated the NC rule. Is it possible to get back on the road to ex boyfriend recovery or did I blow it?
Danielle

February 13, 2015 at 1:33 am

unfortunately.. I did not read this article immediately after my breakup… I thought if I could tell him how I felt he would come back. After non answer to texts and calls I got more desperate followed by more texts and more calls… And a lot of crying and looking pathetic. Is it possible to still get him back since I have now implemented the no contact rule? Or are my chances ruined
nisha

February 12, 2015 at 3:01 am

heYa
I was dating a guy for last 13 months he had a break up because he was cheating on me .. Actually i called him in the morning and he sounded very sleepy nd then he said ”i love u .. I love u don’t leave me alone ever..” i though he is sad that’s why he is talking like this i said ” no never baby i am always with u i love u bt tell me wt happen” nd he said ”i love u pooja (name of that girls he became friends 15 days ago)” i was so shocked nd i asked ” wt pooja ??” nd he again said ”i love u pooja” i just hanaged the phn nd decided to meet him nd talk to him he met in the evening he was looking at me nd said ” say something” i said ”i love u pooja” he was literaly shocked nd he tryed to hold my hand nd said wt r u taking abt when did it happend i have no idea” i told him wt happend he literaly hanged nd did’t know wt to say or do he just said ”ok i accept i love her ..” i nobed wasn’t looking at him he said now wt??? Break up ?? I said yes he did’t said anything for 3 4 min then he said ”ok baby i am very much busy in my album recording nd stuff bla bla” i wasn’t looking at him he he started showing me some video of him singing .. i was looking away he tryed to show me then his phn ringed he put it on speaker it was some girl how was asking him to come fast.. He said ok 10 mins nd he started to looking at me nd said she wasn’t wt u r thinging i said i don’t knw nd i don’t eant to know he called her again nd asked wt is our relation she said ”friends very close friends bt y ” he said my gf misunderstood i said i want to go home rt now (we were in his car) nd my car was parked near a park he drove me back while he said ”i told u everthing (as i know she was his friend) i did’t said a word he said cn we be friends i said no he just droped me near my car nd lastly said ur wish all the best nd wanted to shake hands with i didn’t i just open the door nd said i will shurly listen to ur music album nd i left i sat in my car for 5 mins he was waiting for my outside the parking nd i just drove away home … 27 hors no msg no call nd i msged him y he did this to me bla bla he replyed next morning he said he was missing me bt was busy in recording nd stuff nd asked me to call him when i an free i called him after 5 hrs nd said i am going for recoding i said ok don’t be angry nd all the best he said i will meet u in some days i love u nd i said i love u too bye …. 3 days passed no msgs no phn i miss him alot nd i know i sshould move on bt i don’t know … Help me plz
Nigella

February 11, 2015 at 7:53 pm

Hi,
My partner of 7 years has recently told me he no longer wants to live together. He said that work stresses him out, he can’t handle the commute and he wants to live nearer the office. Shortly after this, he had another meltdown after a stressful day and this time he decided to leave. He said our relationship was hollow, that time was precious and he was wasting it. He left for his sisters. Since then the only contact we have had has been about practicalities of the break up. He hadn’t told his parents
he is leaving me his car and helping me financial financially. He says to make it as possiblE. I have tried hard to ensure that he does not seem how broken I am. I have accepted what he said and tried to support him. I love him to bits. I can’t understand why he is leaving me. Will he come back?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 9:49 pm

Has he offically broken up with you or did he just move out?

Julie

February 11, 2015 at 6:45 pm

Thanks for your website. It has helped out a lot. To cut to the chase, was with the ex-bf for a year. We had a lot of problems in the last few months as we had to go long-distance, he has an involved ex-wife and kids, etc.. We had been talking about marriage and my moving back to the same town, all the way up until the week before we broke up. Basically, I gave him an ultimatum surrounding his priorities and cleaning up some challenges in his life…he didn’t put up an ounce of a fight, and just walked. I was shocked. I’ve been no-contact for the last 5 weeks, even through his birthday. I am trying to focus on bettering myself, hitting the gym, and everything…but I simply cannot process what happened and that I’ll never hear from him again. Is there something I should do? Should I move on?

admin

February 16, 2015 at 9:47 pm

Thanks for the comment!

Yes, have you tried contacting him at all post NC?
Julie

February 20, 2015 at 3:14 am

No, I have not contacted him at all. I felt that I made it very clear that I did not want to break up, in fact, I said that in the last exchange. And he decided to walk. Wouldn’t that argue that if he wants to be with me, then he would contact me?

callie

February 11, 2015 at 8:07 am

I broke up with the man of ny dreams due to my infedelity. He was really heartbroken by what I did and I felt terrible. For a good year we still did couple stuff and not a lot of people knew we had actually broken up, everything seemed like it would be fine. But it was clear he didnt trust me. I was so torn that I became clingy and desperate during this time, showering with affection and making him the center of my life.. I put up with his insecurities because I really thought this would make us work. But its now just frustrating. I still love him.
Do you think we have a chance? What should I do

admin

February 11, 2015 at 2:22 pm

You cheated on him?

Why?

April

February 11, 2015 at 5:24 am

My now ex is giving me mixed messages and I am unsure if he misses me or is using me.
We were together for over 2 years and things seemed fine to me I met the people who are most important to him and vise versa. He ended our relationship 6 weeks ago saying he can’t commit to me and I deserve someone who can, wanted to stay close friends and was unsure what the future holds. I should say he has been under extreme stress and shows signs of depression and would never want to appear as a burden on me or feel him needing to contact me as a burden on him.
Since ending our relationship he has contacted me weekly and then we hooked up after which he contacted me again saying how he misses our adventures and how he will never find someone like me, he would compliment me on my looks and then say he wants to make new memories with me. We hooked up again and he said he would be in touch but still hasn’t after 5 days I haven’t been in touch either as I don’t want him to think I am chasing him.
He still opens up to me about everything that is going on in his life and how he is feeling. I am just confused if he is wanting to get back together or if he is just using me?
How can I find out without ruining my chance of getting back together permanently?… I should mention I do want him back as he is my best friend and the father of my son.
Thank you for your advise and help.

admin

February 11, 2015 at 2:17 pm

What actions has he taken to show you that he is using you?

Has he ever used you before?
April

February 11, 2015 at 5:19 pm

I am having a difficult time working out if he is trying to slowly get back together or if he is only using me to satisfy his sexual needs, the reason I think this way is because he seems to be all hot telling and doing all the right things and after we hook up he goes quite on me. I admit I don’t attempt to contact him after hooking up either. Why would he do this if he is missing me and wants to be together?
So I get confused if he misses us or if he is mainly looking to just hook up.
He has never used me that I am aware of however I have been hurt by him before in the beginning of our relationship where he claimed he loved me etc but was still trying to hook up with other females, but this was in the very beginning and I trust it has never happened again.
Does his current behaviour of pulling me in close and appearing to miss me etc then pushing me away common for someone who misses you and is confused? Or is it likely he is pulling me in close to hook up and then pushes me away afterwards to remind me we are not in a relationship.

Rey

February 10, 2015 at 4:24 pm

Hi Chris I would be appreciate if you could help me on this! We broke up few days ago and since then he keep sending me texts about some random things in his life. I do still have strong feeling with him. I don’t answer his texts as I follow your advice. I know for sure he is not going to send anymore texts because it’s his person. I don’t know if he still loves me, we broke up because he admitted that he did not have the same feeling as before and he did not treated me the way I want. We had a harmony breakup talk. So should I keep doing no contact for 1 months and then contact him??

admin

February 11, 2015 at 1:31 pm

Well, its good that he is sending you messages during the NC and yes you have to wait the full month.
Rey

February 11, 2015 at 1:56 pm

Thanks Chris i’ll try my best. It’s really tough! I hope it works!!

kavisha

February 10, 2015 at 3:35 am

I was in a relationship with a guy who I recently knew from social media. Our relationship was so smooth. Suddenly one day I got to know that he is two phones and he have another girl in his life. But when he spending times with me I never ever had this kind of doubt on him because as I know he always used to talk to me in phone and so on. but after I found out this matter he was so guilty and feeling so down when talk to me and when I ask him to make a decision whether want me or that girl, he choosed that Because he said its gonna be 5 years he knows her. but he still ask me to call him and talk or keep contact with him because he said he will miss and like to spend time with me. Now I’m confused and I really don’t know whether this guy really love me or not?? should I wait for him or not. But I still love him alot because I never seen a good and caring guy such as him.

admin

February 10, 2015 at 4:03 pm

Is he still with the other girl?

sandra

February 9, 2015 at 9:40 pm

Hi, thanks. I have so much to say. My boyfriend and i have been dating for four months now but online and everything started out so well that he would call me up in the night and talk to me and sound so sweet and even text me throughout the following day saying how jealous he is and making sure that i don’t hang out with another man. He would text me or even email me we have so much in common. But he later changed

admin

February 10, 2015 at 3:44 pm

Ok, can you give me more to go on?

Are you two broken up?

Steen

February 9, 2015 at 8:31 am

Me and my boyfriend just broke up last night because I felt that he lost interest in me. I talked to him about that then we both agreed to break up and stay friend. We even had a quite nice and peaceful talk about our relationship. But I still in love with him. That night when I came home he texted me to take care of myself. And I reply “ok”. Today, he texted again “What do you have for lunch?” but I didn’t reply because I want to try NC. Is that the right thing? Is there any chance that he’s still in love with me and want to come back??

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