7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

karla

February 25, 2015 at 6:59 pm

I was in a relationship for 11month.
He broke up with me because he said he wasn’t feeling what we had anymore an he just wants to be friends.I love this guy,And right now i want the best advice i could get.Im going to try the no contact rule.Does it work on cases like this? Please reply back thank you.

admin

February 25, 2015 at 10:12 pm

Yes, the NC can work on cases like this.

Pratiksha A. Kashyap

February 25, 2015 at 1:44 pm

Hi, I’m Pratiksha from and I’m in a terrible situation. I and my boyfriend seriously brokeup after two years of relationship. And there are so many things that can’t be right here. Right now he’s totally furious at me and hates me like anything (atleast he says) because I complained about him to his mother. I caught him cheating me with another girl but I know that she was just a timepassjust because I didn’t give him much time. I just want him back. I’ve begged him and also texted him like shit but none of that worked. He’s sticking with the decesion “I’ll never patch up with her” But sometimes he really talks nicely with me but sometimes he treats me like shit. He says that he moved on and he’s really trying to forget about me. I’m afraid to follow the no contact rule cause if during that period if he really forgets all about me. It seems that he changed overnight and I couldn’t do anything.Earlier he can’t even bear seeing me texting with other guys but now when I go out with other guys he doesn’t seems to care at all. I don’t know what to do I’m completely hopeless. Please help me.

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:45 pm

Have you tried NC?
Pratiksha A. Kashyap

February 26, 2015 at 4:37 am

No. I’m afraid that he’ll forget about me and will totally move on.

Emma

February 24, 2015 at 7:36 pm

Hi,
it has been 4 months since he broke up with me. He said that i was just playing around and not serious during our relationship. In fact, it’s not that i’m not serious, i do love him a lot. It just that i don’t want to make things in rush. I need to know him more so that i can express my feeling towards him. Although i know sometimes i mess up and do things that it seem like i don’t care (acted cool way). I admit that he is a romantic person.
After a few days from the breakup (the no contact) he texts me back. He wants to get his sweater back from me. The fact that he give me his sweater because he said he doesn’t wear that sweater again. I text him to come over to my house next friday and get it if he wants it so badly. And he text back, saying we are not together anymore that is the reason he ask for his sweater. After that i didn’t reply him because i was so angry. The next friday, he don’t come. I didn’t text him and asking why he don’t come. I make the no contact rule.
What is that mean? Why did he text me all of the sudden?
I know its sound crazy of hoping ex boyfriend comeback to me. Although the both of us making mistakes because i know no one is perfect. I try the no contact but still he’s not coming back. I felt hopeless.
fedora

February 24, 2015 at 1:19 pm

Hi so i have been dating this guy for about 5 months and he introduce me to his whole family and all and he is so nice..but things happened just a few days ago,he act like he hiding something from me with his phone so i checked his texts and found that he went out with this girl,which he told me that day he went out with his out with his brother.. But as i told him that i opened his phone and saw that text and ask him why he lying,he just get so upset by me opening his phone..he refuse to explain to me and immediately want to take me home,he said he has nothing to say to me ! On his way dropping me off.. I took pretty much all my stuff * i dont know why i did that but i was mad* so we havent talk ever since already like couples of days,and he never really say anything about breaking up just didnt talk..what do you think i should do? I do like him and want to work things out but i dont want to talk to him first really ;(
Alesha

February 24, 2015 at 1:15 pm

Hello, Me and and my boyfriend both are divorcees met up on a matrimonial website.. Initially started with text messages and later met up after 2 months of chatting over phone.. We started liking each other and were dating for 2 months.. Committed to each other.. Decided on marriage plans and all.. All emotional connections and all…deeply in love with each other.. Suddenly on valentines day planned for a overnite trip.. Guy tried to get physical however showed no interest later.. Next day immediately he started avoiding me for no reason ..not replying to my SMS my phone calls etc etc.. I was completely numb I kept on calling him until he received my call.. Finally he responded saying he does not find me sexually attractive and hence would want to call our relationship off.. Is there anything I can do to get him back and how? Please help

admin

February 24, 2015 at 9:52 pm

Did you get physical with him?

He might have been expecting something on Valentines on an overnight trip…
Alesha

February 25, 2015 at 9:20 am

No we did not.. I was too tired.. While he was awake.. He said he actually did not feel like having it with me.. I know I should have atleast initiated but with the 9 hours drive I was too tired for anything.. He said that he does not get the feel to have sex when with me., what to I do., he seems to have moved on in life., we are not in touch with each other for last 10 days.. Only if I get once chance to work on this relation … Person who used to get restless even if I didnt call him for a day is happy without me for 10 days.. Does this behaviour mean that he’s moved on., are there no hopes at all.. If yes what do I do., I am already following the no contact rule for last 9 days thanx

Bonolo

February 24, 2015 at 4:48 am

he broke up with yesterday night.The reason is he wanted to take my phone and i refused and after some few minutes he took it by force and i never get pissed and i said to him,can i please have yours too and he refused.I ask for my phone and he gave it back and getting busy with his whatsapp.I asked for his phone once more again and he replyed”they are more people i am sharing the live with and i will never trade their pain with you ,we are not married”and i was like wow!! is it him telling me this,i ddin’t believe him but i told myself that never tell yourself how deeply you know the person.I quit pressing my phone and get quiet then lately he asked if he could take me home right now and i ddin’t hesitate, i said yes please immediately after he talk.people i do adore this person with all my heart,ddin’t want to loose him but look now.please please please can you people help me how to get my lover back”i need him because i love him”he was kinder blessing i hope.

admin

February 24, 2015 at 9:37 pm

Why did he want your phone?

Was he suspecting something?

Christine

February 23, 2015 at 10:49 pm

Hi I dumped my bf of 7 months. I told him I had been unhappy due to his false promises and I was hurting too much to continue. I did this by email and asked him not to reply. He didn’t. I know he cares for me but is not in love. Do I have any hope. Does no contact work when you dumped them?

admin

February 24, 2015 at 9:20 pm

Yes of course it does!

Shondell

February 23, 2015 at 6:54 pm

My boyfriend of 6 months gave me that “only want to be friends” talk a month ago. Short but relevant background. From the beginning he claimed to be moving 3 states away. I always doubted this because of his behavior. I think its his defense to stay out of relationships. He also told me he has HUGE trust issues. He’s had a very difficult life. I thought it best to be 100% honest with him always. I shared a group of missed calls I was getting from an ex one very early morning when he was at my place. Again, believing honesty to be best. While leaving for work that morning, we discovered flowers at my door from this same ex. B initially said he had no problem with any of it. 3 days later he says he’s sure I’m cheating and can never trust me again and needed to pull back. Weeks later, he agreed that I am not nor never was cheating but his feelings for me are stronger than he can handle and wants to just be friends. I have not observed the 30 day rule. He hugs me every time he sees me, comments that he needs to leave his things here so he has a reason to come back. What should my next move be? I do want him back
JJ

February 23, 2015 at 5:43 am

Making my story short…We have been dating 9 months…he cheated when he went home for Xmas….I just found out…he doesn’t know that I found out…having dinner Tuesday the 24th and I will be breaking up with him…the NC goes into affect as soon as I leave him Tuesday…my questions are …the NC rule …if he shows up where I’m at, do I leave? (Bar,work, etc) we aren’t FB friends so how does he see pics? We don’t have the same group of friends…if he try’s to add me as a friend on FB do I accept during the NC? Not sure if I want him back or not…but it sure would be nice to have him hurt some and miss me
Tamz

February 23, 2015 at 1:15 am

I have been dating my bf for over 2 years, the last couple of months have been rocky, ive been under alot of stress doing a reno on my rental and also buying a retirement home for my parents that they are moving into in 6 weeks time.
So i am stressed about money and finding flat mates to help pay for the other house.
I love him to bits, he asked for a break and i just went off at him, i didnt mean to but i didnt want to lose him, but i think i have done this anyway. he told me he wanted it over and that he wanted his things back, which i asked when he would come and pick them up, this was 2 weeks ago , he came over for the weekend , it was like nothing happened we slept together and laughed and had a good time, but when i droped him off at work he kissed me on the lips, after that its been odd.
i went running back to him on wed night as i miss him, i would do anything for him and fight for him as i couldnt see my life without him init.
i have done the NC thing since sat and its breaking my heart.
the last message i sent to him was ill drop the rest of your things off, i didnt get a reply to that.
do you think he is still leaving the door open to come back ? as i know he loves me. its just so hard right now.

admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:35 pm

What is breaking your heart about the no contact rule?

Candice

February 22, 2015 at 1:24 pm

My boyfriend and I were together for 8 months but have been talking for over a year. I moved away for school (only an hour away) and I come home every weekend to see him. We fought a lot because I was jealous of the girls he sat with in class, and he didn’t like this too much. My 20 questions drove him insane, I also got jealous when he would choose to hang out with his friends over me when I came home because I was only home for the weekend. We stopped having sex 4 months ago, and ever since then is when the fights started happening. It make me insecure and feel worthless, he said he just didn’t need to do it, and I assumed it was because of me but he said it didn’t matter who it was its just not something he cared to do. Anyways, we didn’t do anything for valentines day because there was a storm so I had to go back home. We were suppose to celebrate this week and he was suppose to come visit me instead but his mom wouldn’t let him because it’s her car and her insurance and the “roads were bad”. So I told him I felt like I was dating a child and this caused him to loose it, it was the last straw. I ended up driving home thinking I could fix things and apologize but instead he broke up with me over a text and refused to see me and do it to my face. Last week he told me he had a midterm Monday so he would to need to study for all weekend, but instead he went out with friends because “he couldn’t concentrate because he was frustrated”. He still textes me if I text back and I think he still has feelings for me but he’s just annoyed right now. I love him and I’m going insane without him. Do you think i will win or lose this one ?
katie

February 22, 2015 at 11:47 am

I have been casually seeing a guy over a 7 year period. I do have feelings for him but its almost like I’ve become conditioned to just want casual sex and not expect anything else from him. We have had many occasions where he’s ended it or i have and because i was weak he found his way back in my life. The last 2 years he has told me he has met someone and she is now his gf he has had 2 new ones since but he still always wants to see me. He randomly asked me what i want from him and i told him i want time, affection, evenings out and respect he agreed to do all this (i was so shocked) He went on to tell me he has a new job will be working 9-5 instead of past shifts and that he will have more time to spend with me. He is always the one who initiates contact for the past year and he recently told me he loves me in a roundabout way (i told him I love him and he said he feels the same and then went on to say “we have mad crazy passion for each other” and that I don’t realise the “sexual power” i have over him. He said he would start taking me out for dinner now and again but he’s watching the penny’s (we rarely go out together for dinner probably once or twice a year but he always wants me to have breakfast down the cafe with him as we live down the road from each other) I recently led him to believe i was dating again as he always asks me this question and i usually say no this time i said “yes but its nothing serious”. In recent texts he has asked how many men ive been with, if im playing the field etc, then says he has feelings for me and will always want me. I haven’t seen him for just over a month he has asked many times but I’ve said I’m busy as i had an operation and i didn’t want visitors at that time plus its always on his terms and last minute so what we did was we made an arrangement to see each other and he didn’t show up he didn’t text, call or email and 3 days later still nothing. I sent a text that evening saying i was going to eat and go to bed I was very polite and no reply. I did not text again! We have mutual friends so I know nothing life threatening has happened to him. I feel more disappointed than angry and i don’t want to give him a reaction. I have read a lot of your writings and What i really need help with is do i start the no contact rule or do i tell him to leave me alone when he gets in touch. He will contact me within a week he always contacts me first i gave up chasing him with text years ago. What i want is to have a big impact on him like he did when he ghosted me. What is the best way forward for me with this guy? Thank you.
Nat

February 22, 2015 at 10:52 am

I had been with my ex a year in a couple of weeks and all was well, we had such an amazing time when we where together but I had a problem when we wasn’t. He lived 150 miles away and used to come and see me regularly. He got a new job and his Rota was difficult I was working when he wasn’t and he was working when I wasn’t so it was hard to find time to see each other. He had 5 days off at a time every 3 weeks and I would often see him a couple times every week but I wanted to see him more I missed him and said to him that I don’t want to wait 3 weeks for a cuddle of I’m feeling down, he then mentioned about me moving in with him he sounded so set on it. I got excited it made me happy. Couple weeks later he mentioned nothing so I left it and he was fine with me acting normal we’d do what we normally do ; cinema food films and cuddles but on Friday I had a down day I just wanted him to make me feel better but instead he went off on one. I thought he was being weird and I got a little jealous that he’d just got Instagram and was following all these girls and would ignore me for hours but be on there. I asked him what was wrong I felt like he was being weird and he took it the wrong way and ended it . I only said I missed him and had a rubbish day at work and he replied with ; well I love 150 miles away what do you want me to do’ he said I was doing his head in he out the phone down. It was strange for me as he’d never acted like this before. I tried to phone him back but he kept putting the phone down. He then txt me saying he was ending it. I feel so upset and worthless like he didn’t even care that he could end it that easily. I’ve cried none stop and tried doing things that might keep my mind of things but it’s just not working. I just want him to realise what he’s done and for him to miss me or even txt me. What can I do
Tal

February 22, 2015 at 2:25 am

Do I even have a chance at getting my ex back… We’ve been living together for 7 months and I finally broke down from my obsessive compulsive disorder and told him that I needed to go home and get better. He agreed and acted fine. What I didn’t know was that he had been suffering from my mental illness himself for a long time and admitted this while I had moved back home in another city (3 weeks who). The mental illness did take a tool on the relationship, that’s for sure. I used to cry uncontrollably and even slammed his door once when we arguing. All in all he didn’t know how to handle it. What upsets me though is that I thought he was going to be their for me while I took steps to get better. Since I moved home, he keep in contact with me but would say things like he doesn’t love me, his feelings have changed, he made a decision not to have me on his life, he needs to recuperate from what happened… And so forth. So now, what do I do? All my stuff is still at his condos and we had future plans but now it seems he made some decision and has now told me this over FaceTime. Idk what to do. Is there anything I can even do… I did try to reason with him and explained that my illness took over and he could trust me that it won’t ruin us again but he won’t budge. He’s being nice and says he wants to stay friend but like I don’t want that. I want us back and I want to make it up to him.

admin

February 22, 2015 at 5:23 pm

Was he accepting of your illness from the get-go?

X

February 21, 2015 at 7:11 pm

Hi, my problem is a little complicated. So about six months ago I took a course and there was a boy in class who I had a huge crush on. I really liked him so I asked his help to tutor me which he did, after we were done with the course I asked him if he wanted to go watch a movie with me and he said yes. During this movie plan I kept getting this vibe that he likes me, I already liked him and I was happy that he did too. After that day we used to talk on text and at times on call, one day we were talking via Skype and he said I know that you like me and I confessed. So he asked me to be his girlfriend but the moment we started a relationship he started acting weird. He used to be cranky all the time and whenever I made plans with him he kept calling them off. I am a very emotional person and I get attached to people very quickly so my feelings for him grew and grew. Since I am good at writing I started doing his graduation thesis for him as a favor. At first it seemed like he would like me even if I would not do the thesis, after that he seemed like its only the thesis he cared about and later than that he would ask me to make some of his presentations and would ask for my A grade projects which I would give to him. The day his final presentation for the research proposal was I called him and he blocked my number, I cried my eyes out because I felt so used. After a day he called me back and said we were never in a relationship, we were just friends and that you should stop ruining a perfectly good friendship by putting feelings in. I felt used and really bad, he used to kiss me and talk to me whenever he wanted just so that I would do his work. Since I am very stupid and desperate to make someone like me for me (I have a complicated childhood and a disturbing past), I called him and asked him to take me back. He kept saying he wont because his parents wont accept someone like me. As I mentioned earlier I belong to a middle class family while he belonged to an exceptionally rich family and his brother was a famous cricketer. Days past and I started to get over him. It was not long enough before he realized that too but for some reason he was not okay with that. He started to be very nice to me, he even asked me to go on a date with him to which I refused because he never shows up whenever made a plan and this happened a few times before too. When the winter vacations ended and I went back to school he started being very nice to me, then he asked me to complete his final thesis which I refused to do, but he acted like its fine with him though he asked a few times to for it but I refused over and over again. Then one day he got really pissed at me. He said he wants to break up with me, I was and still am in a very bad place at the moment and I asked him to stay but he wouldnt even listen to my voice, if I tried meeting up he would deny. Then since I was very depressed a friend who isnt a very good friend called him up and asked him to at least listen to me and to my surprise he denied in front of her everything. That friend and he have a lot of mutual friends, so he denied ever even being my boyfriend, he told her he didnt even like me, I was crazy for him and that I keep calling him and texting him though I called him after a week. He said to her that he didnt even went on a date with me. I broke the moment I heard that. He even said that whenever we kissed it was because I used to force him, how can a girl force a guy? I keep thinking I am this horrible human being, I am embarrassed so much that I havent stepped out of my house for a second after that episode. I feel used, I feel unwanted, unimportant, exploited and humiliated. My feelings regenerated and he still was bluffing. I keep crying sometimes I feel like I’ll lose my mind or get a heart attack other times I keep praying that he comes back. Do you think he will come back to me? Or do you think he will ever realize how wrong he was? Will he ever realize that he hurt me this bad? Please tell me if he’ll come back or not? I have been ignoring him for a week now.

Jas

February 27, 2015 at 10:55 pm

Seems to me like this individual does not want you at all and only used you. Not trying to be mean but, why in the world would you want to be with a guy like that? Are you sure you want such horrible person in your life? I know you might be desperate but if he doesn’t come back to you it shouldn’t be a big deal, you should be thankful to be rid of such person. Work on making yourself happy and focus on other things the right person will eventually come into your life when you least expect it.
admin

February 22, 2015 at 5:14 pm

Have you attempted NC at all?
X

February 22, 2015 at 5:42 pm

Hey I’m not sure what NC means?
I’m just not trying to contact him as I’ve been told that if a girl tries not to talk to the guy he comes back.
admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:13 pm

Haha nc = No Contact
X

February 24, 2015 at 8:44 pm

oh okay
yes I am currently trying that and haven’t contacted him for more than one week now, do you think its going to work and he’ll come back?
X

February 26, 2015 at 2:58 pm

Hey in this situation that I’ve described in which he denied everything and acted like he never considered me his girlfriend and that he never liked me, still the no contact rule will work and he’ll come back?

Julia

February 19, 2015 at 5:30 pm

Hi there, I have been dating with my ex for the past two and three months, and I never though that we broke up. We have lived together for about a year and half, and have been doing long distance for four months. I was sometimes away a month or two a few times during our relationship, and I thought we could work it out. When I went back to our old apartment earlier this year, we had a few road trips, and he gave me a diamond jewerly, and everything seems fine. He was going to finish his work in the end of January and join me from February. But when he came to visit me in mid Jan, I gave him unfair choices, asking either you marry me or let me go. He claimed that I was being unfair and had a hard time making his decision. I cried, but he said he loved me… A few days later when we Facetimed, he said “I kind of wanna break up…” I just could not accept the fact, and I just said “ok.” The phone call ended, and a few minutes later, I called him back, saying “I cannot break up with you.” He just said “It’s ok, It will take some time.” and he ended conversation for the night. I did not contact him a week, but I have bought flight tickets to see him and help him move our staff away from our old apartment without asking him. And he finally texted me a week later, asking if I wanted to talk sometimes. We chat that night, and he asking me how I was doing, and I told him that I was going back and gave him my flight information. He offered that he would pick me up from the airport, and the night came, and he did. At first, he seems like he was taking a distance from me. When we got home, I suggested that it would be better if we could sleep in a different bed, but we didnt expect anything to happen, and ended up sleeping next to each other. Then you could imagine what happened…
I stayed there for a few nights, and we made love a few times, and he told me he still loved me. I asked him why he wanted to break up, and he said the main reason was he was not ready for marriage, but he also said that he lost sparkle/excitement compared to when we first started dating. I thought “wait, isn’t it normal for a couple to lose sparkle at some point?”, but to him, it is very important, and he thinks that there is something missing between us… I was shocked because I did not know how he felt, and he told me it happened gradually and was not like a switch on and off. He does not know the reason why he lost sparkle.. maybe he never had a longer term relationship before me (the longest he had was a bout a year without living together), maybe we were doing long distance for the longest time, maybe we passed the “honeymoon stage” or maybe his feeling towards me really changed…? I do not know and would like to talk and know. I asked him is there is a chance of us getting back together, and he said “well, if there’s a chance that we can live in the same city, I’d be interested in dating casually (meaning not having an open relationship, but having exclusive relationship without promising marriage).
I came back where I work and live now, and before coming back here, we agreed on seeing each other soon and stay in touch. We both were crying when we had to say good bye, just like usual when I have to leave for some other places before. He said he would think days/weeks, and we decided to take our time and let things happen naturally. A week after coming back here, I called him and pretended like I was fine. We enjoyed our conversation, but at some point, he started saying “I miss you babe..” so I said I missed him too, but since he still hasnt figure things out, he asked for more time and said we would talk soon…
Five days later, I called him again because it was a day after Valentine’s day, and we did not talk. He did not answer my call after three times, so I left him a voice message, saying ” I just wanted to check on you. hope all is well, bye.” It’s been four days since then, and he still hasn’t contacted me back. I was so nervous and crying a lot. But I did realize after seeing your and other websites that he really needs more time to think on his own. I truly believe that he still loves me, misses me, and not seeing anyone else right now, so I decided to wait, focus on myself, accept my feelings, and prepare when he contacts me. I was also thinking of writing to him later in a few weeks, saying I accept his decision and do see the importance of taking our time not to take anymore mistakes. And I will wait for him as long as he wants, and whatever he decides, I will be fine because I truly think so and care for him. My selfish side tells me to communicate with him so that I could be a better partner and get back together with him, but instead, I will just honor his decision, prepare, and wait.
Do you think there is a chance of us being a couple again? Also, would writing a letter to him be a good idea? And how long should I wait for him?

admin

February 20, 2015 at 11:28 pm

I am not fan of the letter writing.

I think there is a chance if you follow directions and really work hard but even I cant guarantee success 100% of the time.

Sal

February 18, 2015 at 4:34 am

Hi,

My boyfriend of 4 month broke up with me just before valentine. We have been having issues for sometimes related to his jealousy that became incontrollable. He would run through my phone and dig into my past, yell at me at friends parties because id speak to a guy and assume id cheat. The last thing was that we were having an argument all day and i decided to go out with my gf for a drink, i drunk texted a guy i never met to come and join us. My intentions were not to cheat but i just needed some attentions, else than his which was suffocating me. He came to pick me up that night, got me home and ran again through my phone, saw the texts and broke up with me that night. I still love him and despite all feel we had something special. He broke up with me yet text me a million times a day with ‘i love u’, ‘i miss u’ and pics of himself…i dont know what to think of that. He wont admit having a jealousy issue and says i need help since i do have some history of depression. I really want us to work this through but i dont know if i should hold on and do you think he still wants us back?

admin

February 18, 2015 at 9:55 pm

Sounds like he is having trouble coping without you after the breakup.

Sofe

February 18, 2015 at 12:51 am

I dated this guy for a day and I felt like a bad person because his ex was crying because he dumped her is that normal?

admin

February 18, 2015 at 9:43 pm

What a girl crying b/c of a breakup?

Umm… ya.

alex

February 17, 2015 at 1:47 pm

Hello,

My ex boyfriend and I were dating for 2 years. We were first roommates and we really liked eachother during that time, but our 3rd roommate was not to happy with the situation. I moved to long island and he always came to visit. I finally asked him if we can make it official. He agreed and it was amazing. I moved closer to him after a year. He always talked about moving in together and being closer. Unfortunately he was laid off 6 month into the relationship and it really hit him hard. He is a very determined person and he never expected it to happen to him. He has been laid off for over a year and half now. He has been going to school, but he is so frustrated with life. He broke up a month ago saying that I deserve someone who can take me out and who can give me 100 percent all the time. He said he was so uncertain about the relationship and life. I was happy with the relationship we had. I was happy being there for him. Is it possible that when he gets situated he will want to be with me again? His family absolutely loved me.I contacted him after two weeks to make sure he didn’t lie about his reason for breaking up. He said he feels the same as me and he just needs his space. Is it possible to be together again? I really miss him.

admin

February 18, 2015 at 9:16 pm

It is very possible.

I think you are going to have to work to make him fall for you again though.

Are you willing to do that?
alex

February 19, 2015 at 2:45 am

Yes I am willing. I was going to text him in two months. I figured that would be an okay amount of time for him to work out some of his issues. What else can I do that will help?

Carm

February 17, 2015 at 10:05 am

My boyfriend of 2 years and myself have just recently broken up 2 and a half weeks ago. From then I didn’t do any contact. But I knew although I would be breaking the NC rule I also needed my closure. So I texted and asked to meet with him which he was more than happy with. So last week when it was about 12 days of the breakup we met. We had a lovely dinner where we just chatted as friends etc. I had to bring things up for my own benefit as I felt I needed the closure. I asked for a second chance and he told me it’s too soon and he is going through a major major crisis and needs to grow. Now crisis I mean he has started to use drugs. So the whole drugs thing gave me my closure. I did my begging and my pleading but naturally he swept it aside and said no. We left that night in terms not so good, me on insult crying and him angry cause of what he’s done to me. He is not good with expressing his emotions and just kept asking to be left alone.he also said he just hasn’t had time to think about things which I can greatly understand as it’s literally been go go go since he got back to uni. Anyways I told him I would always fight for him as he is the one who fought for me when I lost so much hope in him and I took him back. He said I can try but he can’t promise me anything and feels he needs to forget me and grow. So I left devastated and have been since. But I feel I got my closure with the drugs as I know drugs do not make a person think clearly. It’s also something I do not want to be involved I’m so for him to not involve me was also very brave on his side. I just know I can help him though, as the only reason he is doing it is peer pressure. He even admitted to me throughout our whole relationship that if it wasn’t for me he wouldn’t be where he was, I.e. Doing well in varsity, passing, got a job etc. I know I am better than to be involved in something like that and I deserve more. I have made no contact since and I won’t for a while. It’s so hard not to. It’s so hard not to beg and plead him to come back to me. But I know it will be like pulling a scab off where it then has to heal all over again. I am hoping that the NC rule will help. Although I cant wait for him and need to move on with my life, a certain part of me will always dream and hope that he will eventually start to miss me. I can only hope and pray that the Nc will help.

Carm

February 26, 2015 at 7:14 am

He has recently just liked 2 of my Instagram photos this week? I also ran into his brother yesterday and I played it so cool and happy. I didn’t even ask how the ex was or mention his name. Was this the right thing to do?

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