7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

Liv

May 5, 2015 at 5:55 pm

Just a couple things I need to add to my previous comment: within 5 months of dating, he suggested we get a place together. I did a bunch of research and set up a couple places to check out. At the last minute, he told me he’s not ready to move to a new place and away from his friends. I told him I understood and I didn’t want him to feel any pressure. We decided not to get a place but we had talked about it again on several occasions. Another thing is, about 9 months into our relationship, after already tons of good memories and a roadtrip across America together which we both thoroughly enjoyed, we still had not said those three words… I was scared because it had basically ruined my last relationship so I was stubborn and wasn’t going to say it first. Things came to a head and he sent me this long text saying he was so in love with me and had never felt this way about someone and that he wanted to go on a break. I was hysterical, I called him and we had a long conversation. It resulted in us deciding to stay together and things just got better from there. I’ve never felt so much love, acceptance, and honestly in any relationship. Is he just so scared of commitment or love that he’d rather toss it out the door?! Friends are safer?

Liv

May 5, 2015 at 5:29 pm

Hey there! I’m hoping you can help me come to a better understanding about my current situation. I met “my guy” about a year and a half ago and I’ve never had such intense feelings about someone right off the bat. I was pretentious at first to get in a relationship as I’ve had my heart broken before. We live an hour apart but would make plenty of time to see each other. We were so good together. We each got along so well with each other’s friends and family and did so many new, fun, and exciting things together. I never felt so good with a person, and also never felt so good about myself. We had the kind of relationship where sometimes we’d spend a whole weekend together lying around or sometimes we’d go and do our own thing, which was always great for both of us. After a spontaneous weekend trip he decided to take to his friends house (we were still texting, everything was totally normal and great and I was even thinking ” it’s so great we can both do our own thing and trust each other to do whatever”) he came over and broke up with me. I could tell he was very upset and I was completely shocked and speechless at the time. I told him to leave. After a week of trying to gather my thoughts and constantly writing them down, even the crazy ones, I decided to mail him a hand written letter about my feeling and how I saw our future. Before we were together, we had both been single for a long time and happy with our single lives, but then we met and everything kind of changed. He said that he had goals before we met and he didn’t feel like he was accomplishing them now and that he needs time to figure out what her really wants. After he received my letter, he texted me asking if I was ok and wanted to meet up. He said he wasn’t going to change his mind about the break up and that we should be happy to see each other when we met up so I kept an open mind. We had a long talk where I cleared up questions like “is it because you don’t want to have sex with me” or “do you want to have sex with other people” or “aren’t you in love with me” . He said again that there wasn’t anyone nor was he trying to use this time to go looking for someone else, he just had different things in mind before we met. After a tearful conversation, we went for a walk and he told me all about his week and vise versa but when we got back, I told him I still feel sad and the walk kind of felt like false hope. All I still wanted to do was kiss him, and have him tell me he loves me. He understood and said that he can’t just change his decision like that. At that point, we agreed to rename it as a break instead. He said he didn’t know how long he’d need, so I said to just text me when he wants to. We left it at that and it felt good. That weekend, under the influence of alcohol, I sent an “I miss you, hope you’re doing well” email (since I had erased his number for my own good). He responded the next day in a business like manner stating that he was doing well, and that he doesn’t want me to miss him and that I should treat this as a break up so we have time to do what’s best for ourselves. I responded saying I’m treating it like a break up and to go back to him contacting me when he wants. It’s been 23 days since our last contact and the hole in my heart still feels as big as the day we broke up. I’ve been doing all I can to keep positive thoughts on my head. And I only have been thinking of the positive memories we had together which in a way has been easy because we made so many! I’m still confused and hurt. Why did he do this? Does he really just want a bachelor lifestyle? Do I really just wait now until he decides he’s ready to talk again?

anee

May 5, 2015 at 11:06 am

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Me

May 4, 2015 at 11:11 pm

how do I make him want me back right away

Me

May 4, 2015 at 11:04 pm

My ex boyfriend broke up with me just now and I don’t know what to do

Iva

May 4, 2015 at 3:57 pm

Hi! My ex-boyfriend broke up about 2 months ago. I finished my degree and I started asking him about his plans for the future but he just said I have to do what’s better for me and my future. I think he started feeling too much pressure. I have some anxiety problems and I know maybe it made him feel tired. He said he needed time to be alone to got himself together, that he doesn’t want a relationship and he doesn’t like me the way he used to, not enough to be sure he wants things to be like they used to. That he needs time to realise what he wants. So, when he broke up I didn’t talk for a week but then I called him asking to come back (I know it’s wrong). He said the same. Later I tried again, and nothing changed. So we decided to just be friends and once in a while we talked, as friends. Lately I talked about us again but his opinion remains the same. And he tries not to talk about things, he says it doesn’t help us at all. What should I do? We’re going to live in different cities and next week will be the last time I’ll see him, by now. I know I made several mistakes and I don’t know how to do things right.

Samiha

May 4, 2015 at 11:21 am

My boyfriend and I are maintaining a long distance relationship. Its just been 5 months. He broke up with me because he found out I was still into my ex. He then blocked me from everywhere possible leaving no way to contact him. I know its all my fault but its not my ex, its him that I want. What do I do now? He doesnt even live here that we can fix things upfront.
Help me here please.

Pamela

May 4, 2015 at 10:05 am

Hi my husband left me nearly a month ago.. It was due to the fact that I wAs insecure jelous goin through his stuff for no reason but I had jus had a baby she’s 6 months and we have had a tough year to be honest.. In the space of a year we got married had a baby. We were together for 4 years before that.. We were really close always did things together. In February we had an argument again bout my insecurities and he left one night and came back the next day. He stayed at his sisters house. And this time their was a misunderstanding between me and his sister in law and just like that things went from good to really bad so that was the last time I saw him.. He said I always cause drama always cause problems but it feels to me that he’s siding with his family. On the 18th March it was our anniversary and 3 weeks later he leaves me. He said to me it’s been ongoing he can’t take anymore he’s got nothing to offer me no love no nothing, he says he don’t love me anymore. I don’t know wether to believe that or not. I mean he’s moved all his clothes out and living with his mum n dad. I’m so devastated and I miss him so much. When he picks up the baby he won’t talk to me or look at me because gets showing he will have a melt down if he does.. What am I chances getting him back after him telling me it’s over ..?

Peyton

May 3, 2015 at 11:25 pm

Hey Chris! So my boyfriend dumped me about 3 weeks ago out of no where. Our relationship was pretty good and we were dating for only about 3 months, I was left very confused and hurt. A week later he sent me a couple snapchats- I didn’t respond. Then a week ago he texted me like nothing happened. I gave him a very short response, broke the no contect rule!… But it was very breif I swear, like a one word response. Then that same night he apologized for what happened – I didn’t respond. He then sent a paragraph explaining why he broke up with me (he didnt feel exactly the same and he didnt want to lead me on) and apologized again – didn’t respond again. Then he said “I mean it can we still be friends?” To which I responded “idk I need time.” & he said “thats respectable” and that was it. I’ve decided to start the 30 NC period over. I didn’t really know what to think after that, I obviously want to be more than just friends right now but he really is a great guy so I didn’t want to say we could never be friends again especially when we got along so great he jsut wasn’t that into me I guess. Anyways so at that point I thought he was completely ready to just move on. Well I started talking to this guy, we are nothing serious just friends, but my ex found out and acted kind of mad. He started asking the guy I was talking to if he was “hittin it” and saying really nasty things. Then a couple days ago he sent me a few snapchats (I didn’t respond) but I thought it was weird. I talked to my friends about and they think he wants to be friends so he can still have me around to fall back on.. I don’t really know what to do.

Crystal

May 3, 2015 at 9:56 pm

I have known this guy for 17 years. My friend recently told him I was interested. He contacted me one day and we started talking. I see him two to three times a week at the ball field. I thought we were starting a relationship. He asked me what I wanted and how I felt. I told him and he was like that sounds great to me. He was coming over last night but it was late. Told him I was not in this for sex. He finally said he could not promise me anything that he never really said he wanted a serious relationship. It kind of ended in an argument. He said at least he was honest with me and didn’t use me for sex cause he thought more of me than that. Told him I was sorry I wasted his time and he could have told me that days ago for I actually cared. He said no hard feelings. What do I do???

Zoe

May 3, 2015 at 9:46 pm

Hi
I was dating a guy who is 11 years elder to me for marriage ,he is more educated than me ….we were very happy together ..his family really liked me too .. But his family wants me to do masters and I agreed for that ..We were about to get engaged but unfortunately a week before of our engagement I got to know my bechlors is not valid for masters …so his mom rejected me …the guy tried to convince his family but he failed to do so …I really love him but he says he doesn’t have more time to wait for marriage as he is already in 30s and he stopped contacting me …I really want him back in my life ….we broke up because I am not well educated but everyone in his family likes me but they can’t compromise on education bit …,what should I do please help me

Hannah

May 3, 2015 at 7:52 pm

Hi I am in a crisis situation with my ex boyfriend and I was wondering if you could email me back so I could explain it to you vis email? If not, tell me so and I will continue to tell the story on here if I have to! But please email me and how do I know if you respond to this email? Sorry for the questions, just need help asap! Thank you!

Fran

May 2, 2015 at 6:02 pm

Hi there!
I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for 5 yrs (long distance for the past 1.5 yrs) now. I’m 27 he’ll be 26 next week. We’re both Irish but about 2 yrs into the relationship I decided I wanted to move to London to go back to Uni to change career and he moved with me. He hated it there and after 1 yr he moved back to Ireland to pursue the career he’d always wanted (police-which I originally was not supportive of )and broke up with me a week later, because I made him feel guilty for leaving and was not supportive or appreciative enough of him. I used NC and changed my behaviour and he begged me to take him back exactly one month later and eventually I did. We have had the perfect relationship ever since. All of the distance that had been between us before our break up was finally gone because I had stopped being needy and trying to control him. I had my own life and was confident and our relationship thrived and I felt so loved and respected by him. Then Last summer my dad got sick and he passed away in September. My bf supported me so much through this and has been a rock ever since even though we still live in different countries. We see each other about one wknd/month usually. But in the last 4-5 weeks he has pulled away majorly from me. Daily texts turned into texts every 3-4 days (I know his shift patterns at work are tough but he’d always txt when he got home). last time I was home to visit he acted so aloof and like I was a burden on him more than him actually wanting to spend time with him. I feel as though he thinks I’m too needy again, but my dad has died, THE most important man in my life ever and that makes me unhappy and I think I’ve been trying to fill that emptiness with what felt like the only happy part of my life – him. And my confidence has weaned a bit now too because it’s just a really difficult time. Surely I’m allowed to be a bit more needy as a result of all that has happened? Also a lot of his friends have all started to get engaged recently and I think he feels pressure. Since we got back together he’s been saying how he can’t wait for me to finish Uni (which will be in 6 weeks time) so we can get a house and a dog and he was even talking about rings recently. So last week I decided to to go NC for a few days…i didn’t reply to his texts for 3 days and when I text him back he seemed happy to hear from me and text back straight away wondering what my plans for the wknd were and how was I etc and that I must be really busy with uni work. I replied saying that I had meant to reply to his messages but that I had been swamped that week. He replied saying not to worry at all. then silence for 4 days. Then I text him to wish him happy 5 yr anniversary(didn’t expect him to know coz we’re confused over actual date)-he ignored my text. 2 days later I was in a minor car accident and had to be taken to hospital by ambulance. I text him to let him know. He text back asking if my mum was still there (she’d been to visit the week before) and if the head collar was just precaution. I later replied saying that mum left the week before and that I was able to be discharged but that it was a scary experience. I really can’t believe that he didn’t even ask if I was ok!!! I know this man for 8 years and he is the kindest most caring person I know – THIS IS NOT HIM!! It almost seems to be that he’s acting like a terrible person so that I will be forced to break up with him coz he doesn’t wanna be the one to break up with the girl who just lost her dad. I do not deserve this treatment and shouldn’t have to out up with it. I want to break up with him but I feel like maybe I only want to do so that I can use NC again to make him see how mean he has been. I’m going home for a week next week but he’s been scheduled to cover shifts and can’t get off so probably won’t be able to see him. We need to meet up and talk about the fact that we’re not talking though…he’s hurting my feelings by shutting me out and not respecting me. But I also know that this is not the real him. Please help…I’m so confused and don’t know what to do! Thanks

Abbey

May 2, 2015 at 2:59 am

HI Chris
I found ex my boyfriend one month ago from one of the matching website and after that we get so closed to each other and I canceled my membership from that web but I did not know I should hide my profile after that. I thought no one cannot see me after that but I notice still received emails from match or recently from guys. I wanted talk to him about it but he was buys for a few days even we couldn’t see each other or talk on the phone .Just a few times text.
after that I noticed his texting me so cold and I felt that and I asked him how your text changed ,
and he told me ; I am recently very active in that web site and he said I cannot paly with him and he broke up with me. I tried to talked to him by phone or text he didn’t answered me .
after two days I texted him my member ship cancelation ( I did one month ago )and also get letter from that web site and did not sent any body email from one mouth ago .but no answer yet.
please help me what should I do. And I will buy your book for% 100.thank you very much.

Kat

May 1, 2015 at 2:45 pm

I was dumped almost a week ago by the man I honestly thought I would marry. We talked about moving in together this summer and just got a dog together. We had a minor fight about marriage and packed my bags to just go back to my place for the weekend. He took that as a catalyst to end our relationship. I am devastated by it and not sure how I am functioning through this week. I did cry and beg on Sunday and I see now that was wrong. I also did the same thing at the start of the week… The problem is I keep getting mixed messages from him. One minute he says he thinks he wan’ts to be alone forever and the next he says he cant stomach the idea of loosing me completely. That is only one of the several mixed messages I have received from him. He wants to communicate on Mondays so that we can stay in touch… I don’t know what to think about this. I had suggested getting together at the end of the month of May for lunch to sit down and really talk about what happened and if we can ever fix it. He said if we didn’t speak for an entire month he didn’t think we could ever fix it. So I agreed to speak with him once a week. Was this a bad idea? I wish I knew what was going on because I feel like I have lost myself in all of this.

Rita

May 1, 2015 at 1:19 pm

If my ex blocked me from facebook and mobile phone. Will there be a chance for me? We broke up because he was busy and I was pushy. He ended it.

Honey

May 1, 2015 at 5:43 am

Sue ! I act like you. I did the wrong thing that every one said don’t do that. I called him several times and cry and apologize . So he said if you don’t do this , i think and maybe back to you. But now it’s no possible because you makes me very angry that nonone can not do this! What should i do? Is it possible to get her back or not ? 🙁 please tell me what should i do

sarah

May 1, 2015 at 2:41 am

I had to talk to my ex as it pertained to work after the conversation he texted me later that night that it was nice to hear my voice that it had been a long time and said that I hope you and my daughter were ok but so I replied back that we are ok and that i started school and he hasn’t replied back..so what do i do now

sara

April 30, 2015 at 10:27 pm

I was seeing a married man for 7 months. Last week he nearly got caught and pretty much stopped talking to me. He texted me the other day and said he missed me but there’s nothing we can do about it. No other explanation. I know you’re going to say it isn’t a good idea to date a married man anyway, but I at least need closure, and really I would be content continuing things just as we were.
No contact is killing me.

Leslie

April 30, 2015 at 4:18 pm

My boyfriend of 2 years has recently broken up with me. We are both freshman in college going through social issues in school. We are not the type of people that enjoy going out as the typical college student is. We are the type to stay home, watch movies, play with his dogs, etc. This led us to be those students at school that just go to school and go back home and having very few people to talk to on campus. Well, that really began in junior year of high school, so we also have little to no high school friends. So throughout the last 2 years of high school, we kept to ourselves and a few friends. We got to know each other very well, and we really were each other’s best friends. Although we are very different people, I enjoy his company and just listening to him babble about cars, sneakers, and videos games knowing that it makes him happy. He listened to me babble on about what I like, although he was not interested in the tv shows or movies I watch. But I really liked the different traits we contributed in our relationship. Before the break-up, he had become emotionally detached due to the social and academic stress he faces every day. We are both having trouble adjusting to the new life style of having to always work and do homework. We had trouble making time for each other because of work and homework, and he said he felt bad that he cannot be there for me when I want to hang out when he has work. He also said that he feels as if he is preventing me from going out and making new friends. I have friends, but they are not in school and are always working, therefore those friends never have time for me either. But as I said before, I’m the type of person to stay home and just text people anyway, and I was the type of girlfriend that was super happy to even spend 30 minutes with my boyfriend before he had to go to work. Another thing that he said was that he felt that the physical intimacy was now just lust and that he does not want to lead me on because he just did not feel the same way anymore. I saw that from him, but I never felt that way about him at all. As you can imagine, after the break-up, I haven’t done anything other than finals work, watching Netflix, and being with my family. Last Friday, I attended my college’s spring formal, and after seeing so many couples there, my heartbreak has begun to feel much worse due to just not having my best friend anymore. It has been two weeks, but every day I’m still checking my phone constantly for a text or call from him. I have been asking our mutual friends if they have spoken to him, but they say they haven’t. It’s causing me to become worried about how he is feeling about the break up or if he’s feeling any regrets, or if he just misses me at all. I want to contact him somehow soon, but I don’t know what to say. What should I do ?

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