7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Jen

May 14, 2015 at 4:30 am

I’ve never been in a serious relationship before, as they were always more for “fun” until I met this guy couple months ago. At first, I was worried about getting too close to him and because of that he thought I lost feelings for him. We kind of broke up because of that and got back together. Overall we’ve broken up and got back together 2 times in the past couple of months. In this last breakup, we had a big fight about him talking to his ex-girlfriend. He never yelled at me before until the last fight. One day we were fine and laughing and spending time together, and the next day we broke up because of a fight. He said he needed time to forget (which I don’t know what he means exactly) and needed his space, unless I needed help with school work or something. So now it’s been a month since we broke up. When I need something or someone to talk to, he is there for me. How can I reconcile with him in a short period of time? In your blogs you said no contact rule for at least a month (which I didn’t do), but I hope to get back with him before he goes away for 2 months. I know that once he leaves for those 2 months, chances of us talking will be slimmer, and feelings might fade.
Sam

May 13, 2015 at 6:00 pm

Hello, My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Before discovering this amazing site, I begged him to come back. Upon reading this insightful information I decided to give the No Contact Rule a try. One day into NC, he texts me at midnight “Hope you’re okay”. I was so pissed when I read the message the following morning. You just broke my heart into a trillion pieces but NOW you hope I’m okay!? Idk if this really means he misses me or what… I do still want him back, all of this is just SUPER confusing.

hiroksa

May 14, 2015 at 10:15 pm

one thing you need to do is never to show your feeling in front of him. dont say that you are desperate or anything.. it will make his ego grow and you wont gain anything. no contact rule is great. just stay still
Chris Seiter

May 14, 2015 at 3:47 pm

I wouldnt read too much into the “hope your okay” message.

he probably doesn’t want to sound like a bad guy.

zila

May 11, 2015 at 8:05 am

i break up with he 26 april and yesterday i have contact he and text he wish her mother’s days for he mother and he reply my text back what that mean its a good news or what ?
Renee

May 11, 2015 at 5:22 am

So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We’ve been living together for almost a year and he recently broke up with me. Our lease isn’t up until near the end of September so as far as I know we plan to still live together because financially we can’t afford not to. Going into detail on why we broke up would take forever to type, but he basically told me he was done forever and there was nothing I could do about it.. I am devastated and can’t even bare the thought of having to live with him until September knowing we are separated. I don’t know what to do or how to fix this but I need help.. I love him so much and I just want him to love me again and want our relationship back. Some advice would be greatly appreciated!
Jean

May 10, 2015 at 8:37 pm

Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me couple days ago. We haven’t talk for couple of days. But i just can’t stop thinking about him. We dated for a year but we’ve been fighting a lot during the last two months. We did got better and better but he’s not willing to try anymore. He said he still loves me and cares about me and he doesn’t want to lose me. However, he thinks breaking up is better off for each of us. What should I do?

hiroksa

May 14, 2015 at 10:21 pm

if he said that than you should not pressure him to change his mind. let him go for a while and dont call him. he will call you when he realizes that he was wrong.

JessQ

May 10, 2015 at 11:51 am

Hi Chris

So my bf has broken up with me 2 months ago. We have been together for 1yr6mths. It may not be long but for the first 6mths it was our honeymoon period. Everything started to changed after he left the same company and go back to sch. So most of the time he will spend his weekend with me and gradually i will stay over at his place over the weekend. I ask if he is ok with it and he says yes. So when time past i have already get used to this routine of ours then suddenly he seems a little off we have been quarreling abt my insecurity and other stuff before and the most frequent that we argue abt was him spending most of the time with me and not having sometime alone and for me i actually could not accept it at first and i tried to,so he says he will give me time but after awhile he would argue with me again and one day he just couldn’t take the pressure of us quarreling everyday and he left me and say he can never turn back anymore. Both of us felt lost and devastated. And i wanted him back but what i got was rejections. We did went out after the break up the first 2 there were still affections then the last one was i tried to restrict my self and just head out normally as a friend. I have a blog i updated almost everyday saying about how much i miss him and wanting him back and i believed he reads my blog everyday even up till today. I asked him after the last meet up if he could give us a second chance he replied me the same thing when we just broken up other time and up till now he still talks about wat went wrong and what mistakes i did even when after i apologize and promise that it wont happen and he kept saying he has already given me the chances when we were still tgt in rs i was angry i replied him how disappointed that after some time he would still rake up abt the past and yet he still say he did try to accept me again but he cant.

We continue texted normally and slowly we took longer to reply. Then he slowly seems like he doesn’t wanna talk to me as when theres no conversation to continue he will stop then i will text him again he will reply. But 6 days ago, i decided to stop texting him after there is no reply frm my last msg to him and as i see that this hasn’t gone anywhere. I wanted to just distance myself frm him and see if he would realize something. After i stop texting him i have nvr blog anythg about missing him but just abit of my life. Right now i still very much wants him back but i donknw what is he thking. Seeing his social media, he seems happy thou. I tried to move on with life without him but i always misses him alot. We had so much together and many bondings with his family. Our photos is still on both mine and his fb hasn’t taken down. Even though how much i wanted to blog abt missing him i ended up taking them down because i donwan him to know. This is really hard. I donknow what to do up till now i have not receive a single msg frm him. Do you think he will come back? What should i do?

Im sorry that this is abt too long to read but i really need help!
kait

May 10, 2015 at 5:30 am

I have been reading your articles I think am confused. I came into a relationship with this guy who had apparently broke up with a girl he had dated I guess for three months. N our relationship started 3 months after the breakup have been with him for almost two years but had a series of arguments which later made him breakup with me and two days later reunited with his x. They used to talk had problems but later let him talk. Av done all the miserable misteks after a breakup but apologised later and asked to only be a friend. Was I the rebound or is the x the rebound? Am confused should I really have any hopes feel like his other x made him comeback and here I am don’t know where to start please help.

hiroksa

May 14, 2015 at 10:23 pm

i think that you should not call him… maybe he has unfinished feelings for his x… dont rush.. see what happens and dont make the first step.

monion

May 9, 2015 at 11:43 pm

I broke up with my guy over a year ago. I know he missed me & wanted to reconcile however i trusted my sister who informed me that he just wants revenge & is no longer in love with me. i found out a few months later thst my sister & my ex are in a long distance rrlationship. I was devasted & feel cheated out of any chance to mend my relationship. I want him back.
Lisesa michael

May 9, 2015 at 9:13 pm

We broke up with my girlfriend in march 20th after 3 years of dating,we did not see each other fo a month n half.i used to text her but no reply so i also decided to be quite but yesterday she texted me but she’s the one who divorce me,is this the sign that she wan’t to come back? But she is saying may be we need to be friends?how possible is ths mr chris.

hiroksa

May 14, 2015 at 10:04 pm

i think that she is starting to miss you and tried to contact you.. dont rush, just play it cool and maybe youll get togather

Sarah

May 9, 2015 at 8:25 pm

Hi,
My boyfriend recently broke up with me after a four year relationship because of the fights. He said he was tired of fighting over the same things. It was about him sometimes not paying attention to me or not showing his feelings. I know he loved me, he had his own way of showing it. Days before ending it everything was perfect, we had a very strong relationship we were both in love with each other. I still am. When he broke up with me he said that he loved me but that it isn’t working, he said that I deserve someone that will make me happy. But I want him. When we were together he was only online when he was talking to me, it has been 3 days and he’s always online. Is he already talking to other girls? Was it all an excuse to get rid of me? Doesn’t he miss me at all? Now that we broke up we have no contact, he doesn’t want to be friends or anything. I deleted him form everywhere. He was my best friend and first love, so was I.

hiroksa

May 14, 2015 at 10:07 pm

maybe you guys need a break after that fighting thing.. dont call him and just let things go for now. if youre calling him youll look needy and desperate in his eyes and he will know that he can have you anytime he wants back.

April Mae

May 9, 2015 at 2:22 pm

Hello… I can’t seem to get out of this… dispair. It’s been a month since me and my ex broke up and I did everything wrong, especially all of the 7 deadly sins in the previous article I read. We just broke up suddenly and I don’t know why. He just brought up issues that I thought we already got passed. We were in a long distance relationship and saw each other on spuratic weekends. It’s been a month since we broke up and I already did everything wrong…. is it too late???
Charley

May 8, 2015 at 6:01 pm

Me and my guy ended badly a week ago after four months. He went through a really bad relationship where she stopped him seeing friends etc and she constantly accused him of cheating. I basically asked him for space as I was growing upset because he wasn’t making any time for me and his response was to end things.we both said horrible things to each other all day. He mainly blamed me for everything and he got annoyed when I said I didn’t want to be friends. He told me how much he had cared for me the next day and we sent some nice messages where he apologised and said he’d felt guilty about not putting more effort in. I thought I’d give us a couple of days breathing space but when I text he was really horrible again and back to blaming me. When calmed down he said he hadn’t ‘dumped’ me but had just said that he didn’t have the time to spend on me and thatje hhadn’t really wanted to end things but felt I’d forced his hand. We continued texting for a few days but he told me two days ago that he doesn’t want a relationship but that it’s not about me. He still wants to see me as a friend because I’m a great person and he values my company. I refused and told him I’d felt strung along and a bit used. He didn’t reply. Is it a lost cause or worth contacting him in 30 days?
charley m

May 8, 2015 at 2:41 pm

I was seeing a guy ( 5years younger than me) for four months. He’s had really bad relationship problems before and Iis really bitter about his last relationship in particular. About two months in he was spending less time with me and maybe saw each other once a week. It was always me making the effort going to his (parents) to see him and stay over. I do know that he was busy but I do think that if someone likes you enough they will make time. Well we had a couple of little arguments when I suggested that maybe he wasn’t that keen. He’d be annoyed but then we’d get back on track sort of. Then we had a bigger argument because he had a day off like me but didn’t suggest finding even a couple of hours for me. I got annoyed and accused him of using me as a convenience. He said that it’s not like that but he’s just busy. On occasion we’d see each other only once a fortnight. Then two weeks ago he said that he wanted to keep seeing me but that we shouldn’t sleep together because he didn’t want me to feel used and because he couldn’t give me the attention I deserved. I said that maybe we should stop seeing each other and he got angry saying he was trying to protect me but that he was seriously unhappy. Again we got back on track but he started communicating less. A week ago I text saying we needed space to figure things out and he responded by ending things wgich I didn’t want. All day he said cruel things saying I was always on his back (untrue) and I was crazy, a bunny boiler etc. Then when he said about being friends I refused. He was all nice and trying to convince me that I needed him as a friend etc. I replied the next day and said nicely that I wished him the best but that I couldn’t be friends. He sent a nasty text back then a really lovely one saying how much he’d cared for me and had liked me and that he’d told everyone about me because he’d wanted to be with me. We sent a few pleasant texts and he apologised for not spending much time with me but he’d felt guilty about me doing all the travelling. He said ‘don’t think that it’s not because I don’t want to see you’. Well I was still upset so I didn’t reply to his last text where he was trying to be sweet. I text the next night and he was back to blaming me and hating me. Neither of us was particularly nice to the other but he calmed down. I told him it was fair to break up with me and then be so harsh to me but he said that he didn’t break up with me and that he’d just said that he didn’t have much time to give me at the moment. We text over the next few days and I really thought we’d get back together so I said I’d like to see him but he said we could only be friends. He sent lots of texts full of excuses including that he couldn’t commit because he didn’t want to get into something we’d both regret, he didn’t trust himself, he likes going out with his mates, hasn’t got the attention to give to a relationship etc. Eventually he said he didn’t want a relationship. I said that all girls know that when a guy says that he really means he doesn’t want a relationship with her. He said that it wasn’t like that and that it’s a relationship he doesn’t want not me. He said he’d like to be friends and have my ‘awesome company’ and that he still wants to see me because I’m a great person. I told him I thought he’d strung me along enough and that it was clear that he had no kind of feelings for me whatsoever. Well that was yesterday and I still haven’t got a reply.
Katy

May 8, 2015 at 12:52 am

Hi Chris,

my boyfriend broke up with me exactly 18 days ago. He was struggling and said that he was unhappy with himself which didn’t give him any more motivation to go on. I partly understand it, young guys wanna try other things out. He even mentioned that I was the perfect girl for him, but as in right now he can’t deal with it.
Before we got into a relationship, he was even my bestfriend, so we spent a lot of time together, all in all. 4 years. Relationship of 2 years included.
But somehow HE is the one, posting happy pics of parties. I’m not really into it, but I’m thinking about it now after reading your advice.
I texted him today, just if we could talk, nothing specific, but he said he isn’t ready yet. He said he knows I deserve an explanation, at least a final talk. Just not right now. And that he’s been thinking a lot, but he’s fine..
I can’t really figure out what is going on ..
SmitaR

May 7, 2015 at 5:19 pm

Hi Chris

I hope you will respond to my query.

It’s been 1 year 10 months since our breakup. I have been in touch on and off and see the fault in my approach now.

However, I mentioned a desire to speak to my ex and he replied “Sure, you can call me anytime. But not sure what we will talk about.”
I just send him a “Hi” message and he responded with a “Hello”.

Should I call him, what should I do.

I am tired of discussing and mulling over the past too, but want us to get back together.

(P.S: WE are currently in different countries , and our relation was 6 years long, 5 years together and 1 year Long DIstance)
Holly

May 7, 2015 at 3:50 pm

Hey! your website is amazing, it’s definitely the best one I’ve found, got some really insightful advice. Anyways I would love some more insight:) I broke up with a guy on 26th march, I still had strong feelings for him, but he had grown more and more distant. We are both at school, he can become very stressed by exams, he is a bit insecure. We had some fights about him making time for me, which in hindsight pushed him away. His friend had also told him he thought I would cheat, since I had been dancing with some guys at a party, I didn’t have bad intentions, but my bf wasn’t there so wouldn’t know. I followed NC for the full time which was hard, but made me stronger, he did not reach out, unsurprisingly since I had ended it. When I bumped into him back at school his face did light up and he smiled (in a non fake way). I’ve had a brief convo since, and I let him take the lead in asking qs. Sometimes I catch him looking at me, but sometimes he’ll walk past me and look away without saying hey. My question is how can I build attraction without pushing so much that he pulls away? And how can I know if he’s interested or if he’s just talking to avoid awkwardness? also what is the best predictor of success? Thanks!
Sarah

May 7, 2015 at 11:40 am

I was dating a guy for two years. He broke up with me in January because he said he did’t want a relationship anymore. It was quire sudden. He wants me to be around as I’m one of the closest people to him. I tried a NC for four months. He texted once or twice. We started talking again. I asked him to revaluate his decision. He did and wants to stick to not being in a relationship. It’s been four months. We text sometimes and meet up when mutual friends do. Help?
Aly

May 7, 2015 at 3:16 am

My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 years. I used to break up with him because I wasn’t as interested and he was always very clingy. I took him for granted and I really regret that. The last few times we broke up, he broke up with me because he was over feeling unwanted. I’d always beg for him back and each time eventually he’d say yes but only out of “I guess this will shut her up” and after these times I’ve devoted myself to him and am completely and utterly in love with him but I realised he was being distant and not in it the same way anymore. The other day he came to my house and was crying and broke up with me and I said well if you get in the car now and drive away then that’s it and he said he’d sleep on it. The next day he said yeah okay let’s stay together and then that same night he said nah I can’t do this and broke up with me AGAIN over facebook.. I have ignored his message and then last night he sent me another message saying that it’s okay I’m by replying but he wants me to know that even though he’s doing this he still loves me an cares about me the most and all this stuff. I ignored that as well! I feel as though this tactic might not work on him because he’s so over it but then I’m not sure because when ignored his Breakup message, he messaged me again… What do you think?
Christine

May 6, 2015 at 11:59 pm

Hi Chris,
I started my NC few days ago and have one question.
He mainly check up on me through Facebook and likes most of my posts.( almost my every post)

We messaged each other through Facebook messenger.
Since I’m in NC with him, should I continue to post on FB or I should vanish on FB?
Isn’t it weird if I continue to post on Facebook but isn’t replying to his FB message?
X

May 6, 2015 at 9:43 am

Hi Chris,

I am 24 and my ex boyfriend is 41,he is the one who broke up with me.He has a lot of issues from his past and he is very controlling yet I don’t say anything about it because I like when he told me what to do or what not to do.We broke up because he thinks I am suicidal,I am not responsible in handling money and I need his time always.I am very clingy and dramatic.In our 4 months relationship we are already engage,but now he said he should’ve end the relationship earlier because he knew it will not work for us.I love him so much and I know he do love me too.I keep calling him,emailing him,leave messages on Skype.I can’t contact him on FB because he deactivated his account and make a new one,his sister blocked me also.I want to ask advice if what do you think about us and having a chance,do you think we will have a chance to be together again?Thank you.

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