7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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M.T

May 22, 2015 at 3:48 am

Hello,
My case is more a complicated one. My ex lives overseas and we are not able to see eachother. We were happily together and started discussing marriage with his uncles. One of his uncles didnt want us together so he came and told my mum that my boyfriend is a horrible person and his brother brings wh*res to the house (prostitution). He made him sound so horrible to my family and my family have believed every word the uncle has said and my boyfriend left me and wont talk to me (my mother threatened to call the police on him if he didnt stop contacting me)
I still live with my family and study at university. There is no way i can meet up with him or contact him. I love him with every fibre of my heart. I can text him as i still have his number but he never talks to me because hes scared we might get caught. Please tell me, how can i persuade him to keep fighting for our love.

Chris Seiter

June 1, 2015 at 9:58 pm

Did you read my LDR guide yet?

Holly

May 21, 2015 at 9:20 pm

I’ve been good friends with my ex-bf for 9 years. There has always been a connection between us. He comes from a broken family, and a very rough childhood, and because of this, he has serious issues with the idea of marriage and with commitment in general. We used to be each other’s ‘go-to’ when things would end with relationships elsewhere. We became best friends with benefits (but always made sure it stayed PG-13) for a good 6 years. Last year we decided to try dating for real. Once we started dating, he suddenly found it very hard to open up to me anymore. It was dramatic and exhausting, because I always felt like he was only 50%-in. I broke up with him at that point. He rebounded with his ex-fling–he never committed to her, and she and I have actually talked about it in the past, before he and I started dating (she is obsessed with him, and frankly, a little crazy). He and I eventually started spending time together again, but I knew she was still texting him all the time. It got to the point around the beginning of this year where I felt that the contact with his ex needed to end if he wanted anything more. He told her she needed to back off, and for the past two months, things were good between us. His issues were still a hardship, but we worked through them. We did a couple road trips and I met his parents on separate occasions (divorced), and a few of his siblings, and as my parents live close, he became close with them. Things started to get more serious toward Easter, and he came to a friend’s wedding with me. It was the best night. He was a perfect gentleman, and met a lot of my friends. Two days later, he called me, freaking out, and when we met up that night, he broke up with me, telling me how amazing and beautiful I am, but he can’t go any further, and will end up destroying my life because he knows he can’t give me what I ultimately want (marriage).
Anyways, I was devastated, but he called me 4 days later. I didn’t answer, and didn’t call back for two weeks. Since I’ve called back, he’s texted or called or emailed every single day. It’s been a little over a month now, and we finally met up again this week. It felt like no time had passed, and we kissed and held hands. But he hasn’t made any mention of wanting to get back together, and I told him not to mess with me.
Then I recently found out that the crazy ex-gf found out that we broke up and is back with a vengeance (mutual friends). I don’t think he’d ever do anything with her for real, but I know he’s indulging it, because it’s easy. I also am pretty sure there is another girl that he’s been talking to as well. For me, I tell myself he’s allowed to, because we’re not dating, and I am dating other people too. But I can’t imagine him not in my life. I feel like I just need to move on, but something keeps me holding on (maybe it’s because he’s always texting). I want him in my life, but not like this. I want to try the 30 days, but am afraid it’ll just push him farther away.
Sorry for the lengthy saga, but I felt like the back-story was necessary.
Jess

May 21, 2015 at 7:52 pm

MY BF broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he thought I was unhappy all the time and I didn’t know what I was doing with my life. I went to pick up my stuff two days later from his house and we ended up talking and having a really constructive conversation about everything. He even kissed me good bye and called me babe when I left, which had me feeling very confused. I’ll admit I called and e-mailed him a few times after that and he has reached out and helped me with a job interview. He says we shouldn’t chit chat every day but he is here if I need him. He says he is confused and feels it is bittersweet that I seem to have changed and become the person he wanted me to be when we were together now that we have broken up. He says he still loves and cares about me but is also still upset with me and needs time. He can’t say for sure if we will get back together, and it is making me more emotional than when he had just ended things and I thought it was over. What should I do? Is he stringing me along? Thanks!

Chris Seiter

June 1, 2015 at 6:17 pm

I literally just recorded a podcast answering the stringing along question.

Leah Thomson

May 21, 2015 at 12:59 pm

my case its different than the rest of cases and it might be the worest of all , i love Egyptian guy so kind so handsome but the problem is he is still stuck around his EX girlfriend love , he never open his heart for me or anyone else whenever he see me at work always avoid talking to me it feels like he seriously loves her or he’s hurt from his EX i would wish to help him and love him he deserves to be loved as i know he is polite , handsome, from good family abd everyone respects him .. my friend said those type of guys living on the memories of their ex’s once his ex will back to appear in his life he will back tp her , do i have to leave him alone i really like him so much even though i am a foreigner living in Egypt but i don’t understand why the handsome guys here are so hard to get ?
Nathalie

May 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm

Hi Chris. I cut off a guy twice. the first time is because we were in a pre-relation and we were going to be in a relationship but things got complicated and for some reason he changed and told me that he can’t (he had circumstances) so he was lost and acted distant and used to speak to me once or twice a week. I had no choice but to do that. 4 months later he contacts me just to see if i’m ‘ok’ i was very cold with him at first but 5 days later i thought of giving him a chance by starting off as being friends so I can see if he’ll improve our friendship to the next level. He didn’t do anything! i’ve known him since October 2014 and till now he still hasn’t added me on facebook! No call and no arrangements to meet up. I was really upset I’m not going to waste my time chatting with him as his whatsapp buddy! So i cut him off again by telling him that i’m now in a relationship and too bad it didnt work out between us and my boyfriend doesnt want me to contact my guy friends and i respect his decision. what do you think? will he veer contact me? I really miss him.
Lauren

May 21, 2015 at 8:01 am

Anyone still on this blog & want to give me a word of advice before I end things with my boyfriend

Chris Seiter

May 21, 2015 at 3:53 pm

Why specifically do you want to end things?

Chevelle Au

May 21, 2015 at 6:26 am

Hi. My bf of 5 years and 9 months just picked up and left me for the first time in our relationship. He’s telling me it’s over and to not contact him. But I have called and text everyday for these past 5 days it hasn’t been a week yet and I just came across your site. By me trying to contact him is it to late for me to use your tactic to try and get him back?

Aurora

May 31, 2015 at 4:53 pm

Hey Chevelle! I know I’m not Chris but I’ve been reading up on his articles and from what I’m understanding, no, it is not too late. Just start NC now and go from there. Besides, since he said not to contact him, I’m pretty sure he’s expecting you to do so anyway. Try throwing him for a loop and doing the opposite of what he expected!
sara

May 30, 2015 at 7:20 pm

its not late even if its 20 days go for it .. and try to take care for yourself and please yourself too
Blaire

May 22, 2015 at 8:38 pm

Something similar just happened to me. Definitely stop trying to contact him. Cut him off and aggressively begin a new life as though you won’t ever see him again. That is the best chance for him coming back to you and if he doesn’t come back to you then he is not someone you want to be with. Whatever reason he may give for not coming back still means that he does not believe in working hard or putting out effort to be with you. Its been so hard for me, because our relationship was really great and he out of the blue just said “it wasn’t right anymore”. I truly believe that he is going to regret it, but even if he does and never does anything about it then he didn’t deserve to be with me in the first place. Hang in there! You are not alone and it will get better. I am still dealing with a lot of pain just feeling so disoriented, but I know it will pass especially once I feel I am on an empowered path that has nothing to do with the life I had before. I loved the life I had before and I know you may have as well, but there are so many lives out there and this ending may initiate a more beautiful life than you ever could have imagined.

Brandie

May 21, 2015 at 12:37 am

Me and my boyfriend broke up over a month ago but I kind of already blew the whole NC step… A couple days after we broke up I told him I wanted him back and I felt stupid for breaking up with him and he told me it’s what I wanted. After that i let two weeks pass before I talked to him again and then again I told him how I felt. I even got my friend to talk to him and he said he still thinks that there is hope for us to get back together but he doesn’t seem to be trying. When my friend asked him why he wouldn’t get back together with me all he says is “idk”….. What do I do to win him back
AMY

May 20, 2015 at 5:39 pm

my partner broke up with me after an argument and has kicked me out of our house but he has done this once before so i know how to play it as the last time he ran back to me after a few days because i ignored his messages. This time its harder because all of my belongings at at our house so we do have to get in contact to get my things, he has been texting me and i have been very nice and short in reply but he keeps saying he will bring the stuff to me. I told him that it was my responsibility and i will collect my things when i can. I dont know what else i should do, hes acting cool but i dont believe it

Chris Seiter

May 21, 2015 at 3:35 pm

I think history repeats itself.

What did you do last time to get him running back to you exactly?

Sara

May 20, 2015 at 5:39 pm

Hello,
So my boyfriend well now ex, we dated on and off for a year. He broke up with me four times. I am/was his first girlfriend and the first break up he was scared because he had no idea what he was doing but he really liked me. The second was out of the blue. Like he was still scared and had no idea what he wanted. The third break up was about his grandma passing away and he was stressed. Now, three weeks ago he broke up with me because he was emotionally worn down and he wanted a break but he said he wants to see if we can be friends after the first two weeks passed. He hasn’t contact me but I’m not going to stress out about it because I am a Senior so is he and we both have finals (we don’t go to the same school). School is first. Always. And that can be another thing why we broke up. I was always busy and I never paid any attention to him. We will say good morning and talk for a bit and during the night, we will say goodnight and talk for a minute then he will go to bed. But, when we broke up, I didn’t care. I mean I did because we both cried about it but I felt like it was the best thing to do for the both of us. In case you were wondering, he did break up with me in person. He is a really sweet guy and he would do anything for me. Like literally anything. I honestly think I was pushing him away because I attend to do that but I also didn’t feel anything romantic, a spark or anything. Its so confusing and I do love him because I can see a future of us together, living happily ever after. When we dated he said he wanted to marry me, move into a really nice house. I mean we were planning our future together and he was the one who brought it up. This is really hard and now I’m realizing that I was a bit too selfish because I cared about myself more than the relationship and spend the rest of my life with him. For example: when I was painting in art class, I started feeling extremely hot and my friend looked at me asking if I was okay and I started sweating and breathing really heavy then I passed out. I don’t know if this was a panic attack but ever since, when I think about him now, I get this nervous, twisting feeling in my stomach and this has NEVER happen to me before. But enough of that.
I haven’t contacted him once because I am doing the 30 day no contact and I always post positive stuff on Facebook, but I am graduating this year and he said he wants to come to my graduation party because he wants to watch me succeed. I want to believe that he is going to be there but I just can’t get my hopes up. The thing is (back to the Facebook) he never gets on Facebook! Even when we dated, because he hates it. Maybe he is checking on me? I have no idea if this is true but this isn’t the first time he has done this when we broke up the other times because I did remember that he said he was getting jealous because I was hanging out with my guy friends. So this week after when I’m done with finals I’m going to be hanging out with my friends posting “positive” pictures on Facebook and see how things go there for me. Iv’e been through many relationships and its getting to the point where I don’t want to try anymore but with him, its different. He is different.

Chris Seiter

May 21, 2015 at 3:34 pm

Definitely seems like he is checking in on you to me.

Jessi

May 20, 2015 at 3:40 pm

My ex and I were together for four and a half months and he broke it off last week. It was completely unexpected on my end. After I spent four days in the complete denial “crazy” mode, I’ve calmed down considerably, but still find myself completely depressed at the thought of him.
I know I still love him. I’d like to think he still loves me, but I don’t know if so.
He gave me a promise ring and two days ago he called me and told me to keep it– “It was my promise to you, and I’m the one who broke it. It’s your ring now. I just don’t want you to hurt anymore.” We’ve already exchanged belongings (though it wasn’t face-to-face, he picked it up and dropped mine off with friends when I wasn’t home), but I have found some of his clothes and he still has some of mine.
During this phone call, we talked a little bit more about the breakup as a whole. He told me it was unfair how he did it and he acknowledged it and knows that he hurt me and nothing he says will justify it, and I acknowledged things I did wrong in the relationship (taking out depressive thoughts on him by dwelling, something I’m working on, and indirectly made him feel guilty).
He finished the call by telling me we would talk again soon, but I haven’t heard anything from him. We have yet to arrange anything about retrieving one another’s belongings and I’ve noticed he unfollowed me on Spotify (music was our biggest bond when we met) but he didn’t delete all of his love playlists we made together. He told me he’s trying to get over me and still wanted to be friends when all was said and done, but hasn’t blocked or deleted my number, or blocked me on facebook, or deleted our pictures from his facebook.
Again, I still love him. I’m trying so hard to get over him though it’s the toughest disconnect I’ve ever had to deal with.
Might he miss me? I don’t know what to think. All I know is I see him everywhere and dream of him nightly, and I can’t even control it. I’m trying to distract myself (work, making plans, redecorating my room and I cut my hair drastically), but it’s not working that well.
There are many questions I have for him and fear I won’t be able to accept he’s completely gone if I don’t get answers. He even proposed to me, but I have heard rumors that he’s denying that it happened because it was never publicly announced (people cared too much about our relationship and made big deals of it).

Might he really miss me? Might he really want to be friends again after everything? I’m so torn and hurt and all of this just sucks, plain and simple.

Chris Seiter

May 21, 2015 at 3:29 pm

Sure, getting him to miss you isn’t out of the realm of possibility.

Emily

May 20, 2015 at 2:01 am

I broke up with my boyfriend through text (he didn’t answer his phone) and made out with a guy the same night. Items out he didn’t get the text, so he found out from a mutual friend of ours that I kissed someone else. He thought I cheated on him until I explained the situation. Well, now I realize just how wrong I was. I miss him a lot an he barely talks to me anymore. I want him back. What should I do?

Chris Seiter

May 20, 2015 at 2:50 pm

Why did you break up with initially?

Was he not paying attention to you or something?

nikki

May 20, 2015 at 1:53 am

My BF broke up with me. After a on again off again relationship. He said a few things. …. ” move on you deserve better”.
“I have more important things going on now in my life”. ( his daughter & job).
I miss him so much. I would anything for him. I love his daughter.
Its been almost 2 weeks since i have talked, txed.
Btw we were never facebook friends.
Help please!!!!!!!
He is stubborn. An im afraid he will never think about giving us a chance again.

Chris Seiter

May 20, 2015 at 2:49 pm

I think you are right to be doing NC even if you didn’t plan on it.

Brittany

May 19, 2015 at 2:33 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago due to him getting extremely jealous in our relationship.. We both cried on the phone and he begged me not to leave him. However, I did, and I obviously regretted it so much that I got crazy and obsessive- calling and texting him constantly even if he didn’t respond. We met up so I could give him his stuff back and ended up having sex. After we had sex he told me he regretted it and that he doesn’t see a future with me anymore. I was absolutely devastated. I have not talking to him in 2 weeks now. He blocked me on Facebook and snapchat, but through a friends Facebook I noticed the other day that he deleted all of our pictures we had together off of his Facebook. I have a problem with going through with the whole no contact period though, because I am going to be seeing him at the end of may whether I like it or not and my no contact period isn’t technically done until june 5th. Just wondering what you suggest I do?
dlisa

May 17, 2015 at 11:00 pm

If im already talking to my ex….how can i get him back when we cannt see each other and he cannt see me because of my family
Olivia

May 17, 2015 at 4:25 pm

Hi,
Ive recently had a really bad split and I need him back asap This website isgood but I see him nearly everyday Please I really need help!!!!!!

Gabby

May 23, 2015 at 12:38 am

I feel u but even tho he calls me a bitch and a hoe and listen to his homeboys and accuses me of cheating i still want him…i got this guy i kinda like and he doesnt like me going back and forth with trying to stay with my ex and having him so i kept choosing my ex…he treats me badly and promises me hell never do this or that and just lies….but i still want him y? He tells me to go about my business and tells me never to contact him ever again. He broke up with me but im always trying to talk it out. I have lied to him in the past but he doesnt trust me anymore. I love him so much and but he doesnt see how he treats me now and it hurts me but i have no choice but to find a new man and move on. But ireally want him to miss me badly…to were hell do anything to get me back.he doesnt act like a man he acts like a boy.
Chris Seiter

May 19, 2015 at 6:25 pm

Do you work with him or something?

Savannah

May 16, 2015 at 5:49 pm

I’ve had a long distance relationship with a guy for 4-5 months… 3 days ago he started to ignore me. I’ve tried to reach him, and he reads the messages and doesn’t respond… I actually told him to tell me if he is done instead of ignoring me. And he read the message again and didn’t respond… He means a lot to me and he knows my past with other guys… He never seemed like the type that wouldnt do that… Sooo what should I do? I’m devastated… He did it a night after I fell asleep while sexted really late at night… And I don’t know if that has something to do with it. Or if he just lost the spark… I can’t stop crying..

Gabby

May 23, 2015 at 12:46 am

I cry to i just never imagined him treating me like this. We been knowing eachother for 14 yrs. Ill b 24 in august but hes a little younger. But hetteats his babymomma better and i was pregnant by him but he made me lose my baby and he didnt want it anyways so i know he doesnt care. I seriously cry in his face and he acts like he dont care. Crying is hard to stop.
Savannah

May 16, 2015 at 5:53 pm

To get revenge im going to lose weight and get a badass body. Do you think that will work?

Emma

May 15, 2015 at 9:59 pm

Hi,
My boyfriend of 2 years and 6 months broke up with me a week ago. He said he still loves and cares about me and told me he knows I will go far in life. He also told me that we had great times together and he will always cherish the memories and that he’ll always have a special place in his heart for me. He broke up with me because he said we fight too much and he coudnt handle my jealousy. I don’t know what to do because we were each others first everything and I love him very much. He still checks my snapchat stories and hasn’t changed his profile picture of us yet. I want to know what hes thinking but I don’t want to act desperate. Please help me.

Chris Seiter

May 19, 2015 at 5:53 pm

I think its a good sign he is checking up on you.

Expect the profile picture to get changed though.

Me

May 15, 2015 at 4:40 pm

I rly need help

Chris Seiter

May 19, 2015 at 5:40 pm

Ok, you might need to give me more to go on.

sammy j

May 15, 2015 at 12:01 am

Hi,
OK so this guy loved me and he annoyed me so I stopped talking to him. Now I saw him again the first time in 2 yrs and fell n love immediately, he changed in a great way. He played me. Then pretended he wanted me back just to play me again. This time, I laugh at him if he says anything about ‘caring’, I told him to go back to CA, still made out with him, ignored his text, then finally answered, now since he went back home he’s been saying he misses me and cares about me. I told him I’m actually interested in someone over here. He says that hurts him. now what do I do? I want him bad but saying Im moving on. How do I get his full attention and desire?

Chris Seiter

May 19, 2015 at 5:29 pm

Why did you tell him that you weren’t interested in him and were interested in someone else?

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