7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

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Gemi

June 18, 2015 at 4:03 am

Dear Chris,
please help me understand the situation here. I am terribly upset. My boyfriend and i are both 25. We began as a long distance couple who were best of friends. We could talk about anything and everything and he was deeply in love with me. We dated a little over 15 months.in the last few months we have been fighting too much mainly due to him suddenly pursuing too many hobbies leaving no time for us at all. He got me to move to the same city as him with a new job. Even with the physical closeness, the problems grew as we barely saw each other a few minutes and he was always busy. After some big fights, and a new opportunity at a faraway university, i left and on my way to start grad school. He said he missed me terribly after i left but it didnt seem to change him or want to talk more. Instead he is a workholic who clocks 90 hours a week, working even on weekends. We werent even talking an hour a night. Lately i put my foot down, and said unless we talk like two hours at night, i won’t date him. He retorted saying he feels we have nothing on common to talk that long. I felt terrible. He then broke up with me. He didnt apologize. This was two nights ago.i have been silent since. Since then he unfriended me on fb and i didnt say a thing. He pinged me and tried to blame me about it. I didnt argue. Simply said i havent. And added him back. Lastnight i saw an update that he is in a cool theme pub with 5 friends. He has forgotten me so fast. Please help.
Vicky

June 18, 2015 at 12:57 am

Hey, I have followed your program, but me and my ex boyfriend has a daughter and he contacts her. We was together almost 8 years. But I never speak to him when he calls, I just give her the phone. I may text him every two weeks on the weekends telling him what my daughter needs when she visits him. But never a phone call. Note: I ended the relationship. When I text I never say anything about our relationship. How can I tell if he misses me? Or want to get back together…..
Rosie

June 17, 2015 at 10:43 pm

Hi ,
I broke up with my partner and then went straight in to a rebound relationship.
My ex partner for the last 6 months has tried to get back together. Then he stopped we did not speak for a few months. He now appears over it. And I am still not.
What now.
TA.
Luna

June 17, 2015 at 2:19 pm

Hi Chris. My boyfriend broke up with me saying not to contact him ever again last week. We study in the same college. He has been literally avoiding and running from me ever since. We were in a relationship for the past year. Could you help me out here ?
Ash

June 17, 2015 at 5:02 am

Hi there!

Thanks for this guide. Very informative. So, here’s my situation: I’ve know this person for almost 15 years. We were together for 8 of those years. Over a year and some odd months ago, he decides that he wants to have experiences (sex) with other women. I tried to live with it this past year and some odd month as his ex, but now I’m getting over it. I initiated to no contact rule for almost a week now and his text today seemed like he was irritated. He basically called me a child and wants to know when I’ll act like a grownup and talk it out. I have nothing to say anymore. He knows how I feel. I’m will not respond and keep up the nc rule. Is this the trend in your opinion? I’m finally understanding my self-worth and have been so understanding about everything. I’m tired of being his emotional home base while he bangs other girls but comes home to me to confide in.
Faye

June 17, 2015 at 3:39 am

I broke up with someone that I’d been seeing for 6 months because he wasnt ready to commit to a relationship, although he dis everything that a boyfriend does. We spent our birthdays together and he always came around to see me or take me out. He even made a really big deal about me meeting his friends and family. I broke it off with him when he told me the same story about not being ready after 6 months. He seemed upset then and also tried to talk to me at another event that I saw him at but after a littlw while I pushed him away. I made a big mistake because i saw him at a party shortly after then, and was really upset when i saw him dance with a girl then disappear for a whIle. I sent him a few angry texts and also i think a friend of his overheard me venting to a friend that he doesnt know what he wants. I never really had any fights or blowups with him before, but now i wonder if the 30 day nc rule even applies here because this may undo the chances that he misses me. What are your thoughts? Do you think one upset night undoes everything?
Peyton

June 16, 2015 at 9:23 pm

Hello:) I was “dating” this guy for a little while almost 3 years ago. However, a year after we stopped talking, he started liking my pinterest pins like “kiss someone at midnight on new years”, and started to email me. I know for a fact he has a girlfriend. Any thoughts?

Peyton

June 16, 2015 at 9:25 pm

Ill also add that he has been liking these pins since November of 2014. The talking “period” did not end of good terms.

Sara

June 16, 2015 at 4:32 pm

Hi, my story is a ittle different, i have been in a relationship for about 6 years, we had a realy good time together, we were engaged, never said bad things to earch other, we live in a contry thas is a kind of difficult to find a job, even if you are the best student, and cant travel in another state without a visa, he use to live in swiss as a kid and they parends decided to come back here again, so he have not right to turn back in swiss again, i know he loves me, but he love to live in swiss too, if he will be with me he cant go, the only way to be there is to marry a swiss girl, he let me just like that, saying i dont want you, i just cant like this anymore, with tears in his eye, and gone, i start writing him like every day, sometimes good things sometimes bad, i saw he read but never turn nothing, i had stop writing now since 10 days, at first i was not missing him, to be real i i didnt feel that we break up, he was my first boyfriwnd, i never had a breakup before, i just dont know what to do, will he miss me, will he come back?!!!

SANDRA

June 21, 2015 at 7:59 pm

Hello Sara I have the same situation more or less he just said that this was over that i was his first and always will and to stopp messaging him. I send him messages every two days but no reply. Aa friend of mine says that they need time and they sooner or later will realise about the situation

Sometimes men are not brave and deal with it by ignoring us or something, they cannot face us …….

We can do this

I will survive – Gloria Gaynor 🙂

JC

June 15, 2015 at 1:55 pm

Hi Chris, what do you think about this? He ended with me because we lack sexual chemistry. He is very physically attracted to me but feels that our act of performing sex is not ideal. We’ve been together for 6 months and he feels that if it hasn’t gotten better, it never will. But the reality is, I screwed up, I didn’t put in enough effort because I didn’t think he’d leave me because of sex.
Rosa

June 15, 2015 at 12:11 am

Hi there,

So my boyfriend broke up with me early April (which would’ve been a year of us being together) due to not having that same connection we had in the beginning (when I lived out of state) of our relationship and moved in together way too fast. Mind you, he’s never lived with a gf and hasn’t had a serious relationship for a while. We decided to still live together (and our two other roommates which was his bf and his gf) because we just signed a new lease a month and a half before, but to stay in separate rooms since we had an extra room available. (Thank God!) Just recently, I decided to move out two days ago because it was not enabling me to get thru the breakup in a healthy way. We saw each other every so often and it was hard for me to get over him and not think about what he was doing or where he was going every time he left and/or wasn’t home. Earlier today he text about a nice gesture I made before leaving. I responded and said your welcome. It was random and wasn’t expecting it. In the end, I want him to miss me, regret breaking up with me and want me back. So what next?
Jess

June 14, 2015 at 10:00 pm

Ok so this guy I have been with for a year just ended things out of no where. I never saw it coming. He says he needs to “grow up” and “focus on him” but is already talking to another girl and “doesn’t believe in rebounds” you should know we are long distance. Is he just not into me anymore? What do I do?
Lynne

June 14, 2015 at 12:11 am

Hi Chris
My ex and I were together for 6 months, i knew early on it wasn’t right but didn’t have the heart to end it. Ironically he started stepping back a few months ago and then came to me with his fear of rejection is driving him away. He did alot of disrespectful things in those few months so i asked to stop contacting me until he sorted out his issues. 3 weeks later he started texting me about his feelings and how he misses me but he is not ready for a relationship with anyone….
So i have 2 questions, why would he be contacting me and should i bother responding?

Thanks!!!!
Sid

June 12, 2015 at 11:20 pm

Hi, my bf of 5 years broke up with me recently, one night he would say we needed space (as I was living with him) and I should go home, the next day he ended it. He said he cant change his mind but we both love eachother a hell of a lot, he said he didnt want to do it, but maybe the time would help us?
I dont know what to do, I miss him and still love him, I hate the time apart not speaking
Sheena

June 12, 2015 at 4:39 pm

Chris he broke up with me. I want to initiate the NC but I’m afraid he might go back to his ex.
Blindsided

June 12, 2015 at 3:32 pm

Hi Chris, I had a very short intense relationship where majority of it was through text messaging. Our first and second date was 1 month apart because of our work schedules. We then met up abroad and had an amazing 4 days together. Upon returning home I received his “I’m not the right guy for you” text. Totally blindsided I proceeded to text him back. He replied 3 days later and we texted a bit and suggested that we stay friends. Bc of that notion I continued to text him every few days for the following 2 weeks with limited / no response from him. Am I too late to start the NC rule? Is this short but amazing relationship irreparable? We both agreed at the time that we have an amazing connection and attraction towards each other. What happens? Any advise you can provide would be appreciated.
Thanks,
Blindsided
Ri

June 11, 2015 at 2:25 pm

I was with this guy for 2 years. I am going on vacation in 2 weeks and for the past week he’s been telling me that we are going to go on a break when I go on vacation because “it would be healthy for us” and because “he feels guilty going out when I go on vacation”. It doesn’t make sense to me. So I got really upset and I told him if you want to go on a break when I go on vacation then we mind as well go on a break now. The next day I asked him if this is what he wants and he said it is what he wants and that he wants a break up and wants to be friends with me and still message each other because he’s been stressed lately. I told him I can’t do that. He tells me I did nothing wrong at all and this break up is for him not for me. He also told me we are going to get back together in the near future. I haven’t messaged him in 2 days since he told me that. I don’t know what to do. I really do love him and i know he loves me too
Jen

June 10, 2015 at 5:14 pm

Hi Chris,
So my boyfriend and I dated for about 5 months. We had a really great relationship for the most part; we were sooo obsessed and infatuated with each other. But towards the end of it, I think I kept making him feel bad for treating me badly. I know that sounds bizzare but I believe i started nagging him about small little things and it got too much. Eventually, we got into a really big fight and he said there was not enough time to make it up to me (I was going to visit family in a different country and traveling for 6 months). He said the long distance would kill us and I didn’t believe him at the time. Eventually I did see what he meant and we agreed to be just friends and maybe we can see what happens if I come back. We went on a ‘relationship pause/break’ and agreed we shouldn’t promise to wait for each other just in case one of us doesn’t feel the same in the end. I, however, have this big hope that we will get back together but the fear that we don’t is really killing me. He’s been really good at suppressing his feelings (I think) while I’m slowly weakening inside.
He also told me that he feels the same way about me and cares for me the same, however, I don’t believe it. I feel like someone else is in the picture and I’m afraid she might actually make a move when I leave. (She was the reason for our huge fight) I contacted him the next few days to see him because I was so heartbroken but he said he couldn’t see me. I saw him for the first time a few days after in public and my heart broke. I’ve been having trouble dealing with this. The no-contact rule is not possible for us right now because we are in the same church group, but we will be splitting for the summer.
Although i know he says the reason why we broke up is because of the long distance and we can see if it’s meant to be when I get back, but a part of me still feels he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore or it has faded because of all the stupid little fights we got into towards the end of the relationship and how low it kept making him feel. Do you have any advice? I will initiate the no contact rule once we leave the church group (I’ve been really bad at the no contact rule since our break up; its fresh and I’m getting used to it) would it be advised to talk to his roommate to gauge his feelings for me during my 6-month absence?
cma

June 10, 2015 at 7:23 am

HI Chris

I was in a relationship with HIM from last 3 years, commited and ver well, we used to have small fights mainly over trust issue, I had a bit trust issue with him as we have appox 6 years age gap(I am 6 yrs elder), 2 months ago I had a bog fight with him where I said him some some wrong words, as a result he said he doesnt want to be in relationship with me, Although i have said him sorry many times for my behaviour, but he doesnt listen to me, but yes everytime I call he pickup my calls, talks to me patiently, but if I ask him to go out he simply refuses. from last 2 months i am trying to make him understand that we are a good couple and but he will not listen. If I apply NO CONTACT RULE, i am affraid he may keep himslef busy on other track and may be will not miss me. Please suggest what to do.. I really need help.
thanks
cma
lDR_xo

June 8, 2015 at 8:33 pm

How to get an ex back when your in a long distance relationship and got go int a argument, and they end up blocking you on everything.
kayla

June 8, 2015 at 3:29 am

Hello. I am so confused. Please help me. So I met this amazing guy back in April. We met online. We talked for a little over a week and then we met. Our first date went very well. We went hiking, to a winery, and then out to dinner. We got along great and really connected. We continued to keep spending even more and more time together. He always told me he had a great time with me, he couldn’t wait to see me again, etc. He even told me he was really comfortable with me and could be himself. He was always very affectionate. We talked everyday, phone or text. I even asked him if he would want to go do something with my coworkers and he was all for it. He would even talk about future plans with me. Things were so great, no red flags, we had a talk about if we were talking to anyone else and we both weren’t. He even invited me to meet his friends and they loved me. But a couple days later, he sends me this text about how he has some gut feeling that we could never be long term. How can someone make this conclusion after 7 weeks? Plus why would he always say I could stay over and want to spend so much time with me? He had been engaged, 2 years ago, and has just dated 2 other girls after. He says he often second guesses himself and admitted he is very guarded and afraid to get hurt. Which I can understand. But I do not understand if we got along so well, could easily talk with each other, we could make each other laugh, and had such great chemisty that he would just end things. I really like this guy and a really saw us going somewhere. It has been really rough. It has been 12 days since he ended things but a week since he has said anything to me. I was actually surprised he did say anything but it was the same thing about his “gut feeling” I don’t know what to do. I really think he is just blocking me out because of his past relationships. Do you have any advice? Im so desperate here. I have never even tried to write into one of theses sites before. I don’t want t lose him because he is such a great guy and I felt like he made me a better person as well. I wish I understood what happened. Please help!

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