7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Lara

July 5, 2015 at 5:12 am

Hi.
I’m 15 and I know you’ll prob think it’s a teenager thing.. But it’s really not.
I met this guy in high school and we started talking. I started to really like him and he showed he was into me. So then we went on dates and stuff. Then he asked me to be his gf and so we were dating. However, my parents didn’t know.. I was hiding it from my mom because she wouldn’t let me date but o really liked him so I had to hide.. Although I never asked her if I could date him.. I was too scared and I was positive she would’ve said no.. Plus I’m not comfortable to talk about this stuff with my mom.. Anyways… We would see each other only at school and sometimes outside… We would also worry about my Brother seeing us at school.. He ( my ex) kept telling me that we would both tell my mom about us when I turned 15 which was June.. I didn’t want to tell her because I was too scared.. So I kept on finding excuses and he couldn’t take it anymore because he would never see me and he broke up with me at school.. I was cool with it because I managed it.,. But now it’s been like 3 months and I suddenly started thinking about him and I can’t stop now.. I try hard but I really can’t .. I’ve wanting to txt him but I’m scared he will think I’m desperate… I pretended my friend txt him which was actually me.. I also wished him a happy July 4th but he didn’t answer.. I was about to send him a message on Facebook but I thought twice before doing it and I came to this website.. I don’t know what to do.. I don’t know if he still likes me and I don’t know if I would be scared again to tell my mom I like him and I want to date him.. Please help
Shannon

July 5, 2015 at 1:09 am

Okay so my ex and I had been together for 6 months. We were very much in love but I pushed him away with my trust issues. I have made it a point to go by your guidelines and not contact him. We had plans to get married and he starting paying for my engagement ring and everything then he just got tired of my crap and broke everything off. I really want to change for him but it seems like with him not telling me there is any chance at all I just won’t be able to get him back. I love him very much and think our relationship was mostly good he on the other hand thinks it was mostly bad. Please if you read this let me know what I should do now. If it doesn’t work no biggie but I just don’t know what to do by myself. Thank you.
marvina

July 4, 2015 at 10:38 pm

Hi,
I was dating my ex almost two years when recently we broke up because i introduced myself to his dad. He’d been over protective about me meeting him and sometimes rude. One day without him knowing i introduced myself now he won’t answer my calls or text. Someone please give me advice. I don’t know what to do but i want to be with him.

Chris Seiter

July 8, 2015 at 11:47 pm

What exactly did he say about his dad?

orleanda

July 3, 2015 at 2:44 pm

hey i would really like it if you can! i have been in a relationship for 4 and a half years! and out of these we have been in a long distance for about three years! recently he has started having a problem with everything in our relationship! he has got frustrated… he did talk of a break up many a times but i handled it somehow! but he has asked for a break! i am worried… what if he never comes back to me? i want him back as soon as possible! i did try to contact him a few times nut he still wanted to be alone. since im not going to see him as it is a long distance im worried! i dont want to get over him.

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:07 am

Did you read any of my long distance articles?

confused

July 3, 2015 at 5:05 am

Hi! Thank you for this website!!! i just went through a pretty horrible, drawn-out breakup. I guess we’re young- early twenty’s, he’s two years younger than I am but pretty much 3 weeks into meeting each other we knew we wanted to get married and were talking about having kids… and their names… and we both believe it was a true love! During the whole break up/taking a break to breakup we kept saying we wanted things to work out, and be together in the end. We just tried doing a long distance relationship for almost a year, and it just put a huge strain on everything. Long story short – we broke contact; the cell phone never was good for us.
Both of us don’t have facebook. A lot of your tips use facebook as a medium for him to notice you again… I dunno, should I be looking at another article? It’s just crazy how he goes from yesterday saying he wants to be with me, im perfect and the only one for him, to today after I told him I cannot keep just being friends and talking, to leave me alone forever. It makes no sense. Also I read the ‘ways you can tell he still loves you’ and he does all those things… but he says such mean things.

hope this comment wasn’t too long! thank you!

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:12 am

Wow, that happened fast.

The marriage talk I mean.

How long did you date for?

I am curious.

Brittany

July 1, 2015 at 5:27 pm

Hey Chris
My situation has been a bit more tricky. My ex and I were on and off for three years. He kept leading me on saying I had a chance and then I found out he was lying to me and he said he was seeing someone but turned out it was a lie but he freaked out and just recently called cops on me saying I have been stalking though I have proof and evidence of him flirting with me and ppl have seen him with me being super lovey dovey but he is telling lies and broke my heart so I have a bit of trusting issues… He has been telling ppl that I am crazy and what not. I have not talked to him in a week. He is pissed when I found he lied I contacted his sister and the girl he was apparently dating and now I find out they weren’t dating and she was all for helping me but now doesn’t want anything to do with me. And his family hates me. But he is still talking to his friends about me and he lives in Colorado and I live in California where his family resides.

Beth

July 13, 2015 at 5:45 am

you have to walk away from this. Find some activity or course or some interest to throw yourself into so you can get over him.

Kate

July 1, 2015 at 4:29 pm

Hi.

My boyfriend of a little more of a year broke up with me 2 and 1/2 weeks ago. At first e wanted to be friends and still talk so I agreed. He would txt me everyday and send me photos and videos he thought I would like like when we were in a relationship. He even continued giving me grass clippings for my livestock. It obviously didn’t work. We were fighting almost everyday, more than we did while in a relationship. I tried not talking to him 6 days ago and failed after three days. We fought more about him leaving me and why he wanted to end the relationship. He said his feelings weren’t as strong as they were in the beginning of the relationship, that I am getting ready to settle down and he isn’t (I started a full time job and done with school while he is still a couple years out from finishing school), even though I told him I didn’t need that kind of relationship yet he keeps saying he can’t give me what I want and therefore he shouldn’t keep dating me. In the end I asked if he would ever get back with me and he said that he made up his mind and he won’t, he won’t allow himself too. I told him again I wasn’t going to talk to him and he said that I won’t be able to do it since I only lasted three days before. I deleted his number to make sure I cannot faulted and txt/call him. I will be seeing him in 24 days at his sister’s baby shower that I was helping decorate and since his sister and mom stays in touch with me texting me every couple days or so I don’t see why I shouldn’t go. This only gives me a NC of 26 days. I need to know what to do when I finally see him again. I have been working out and trying to focus on me so I will be more irresistible when the time comes to see him. I want him back badly and miss him dearly. I don’t want to blow my chances when I finally do see him. Help!
Mabel

July 1, 2015 at 12:26 am

Hi, I dated a guy for almost half year. But he is actually married and he has 2 kids. He told me it’s a rebound marriage that will not work and what I know is he’s not staying with his wife instead he’s staying with his mother. He’s ambitious and rich, always busy and want to be better. Things were better when we started seeing each other often, he motivates me all the time, now I’m really motivated and want to improve myself for him and for me. We don’t act like couple when we hang out, for example holding hands etc. But eventually his actions sometime shows me that he misses me, our last movie he holded my hand and kissed me in the theatre which made me felt surprised. Until two days ago,I was happy when he texted me in the morning,but when he started saying more and more I felt there are something wrong. He told me he really can’t spare time to hang out with me, and he’s much older than me. He felt bad and unfair for me cause he doesn’t have time for me as his life is hectic, and he’s a dad he has to focus on his kids. And he said that it’s very nice to have known me and he thinks that I’m a really nice girl. Upon that he still remembers to motivate me, wants me to study hard, be a champ and be epic.
I didn’t actually try to ask him stay or keep him, instead I told him I actually never ask for more and I understand he’s always busy which is a fact cause he owns a few companies, and since that’s his choice I’ll respect it.
And he also said ‘ let’s be friends ok’.
After the conversation ended, I can’t see his whatsapp profile picture and status anymore, but I can sometime see he’s online. Which means he never blocked me, but he might already deleted my contact from his phone.
I don’t understand why he did that as we could still be friends. And this break up was too fast that out of my expectation although I know this might not last in a long run. I’m starting to fall, but he left. I tried to calm down and think wisely, I told myself I should move on as he already had a family. But I’m still upset and missing him.
He knows where I stay. I hope he will find me but if he really deleted my contact how is he going to contact me?
I don’t understand why he deleted my contact as well, this question is in my head repeating all time.
Looking for your point of view as a guy’s perspective and reply. Thank you.

Mabel

July 1, 2015 at 12:39 am

Oh and he also said that he doesn’t have time for relationship, even socializing or partying.

Ellie

June 30, 2015 at 9:39 pm

hi, i was with this guy for 2 years and he went on a holiday to another city to see his friends, i had work so i couldn’t go. he was supposed to be away for just a week but the day after he was supposed to be back he called me and broke up with me out of the blue… 2 days later he announced on facebook that he was engaged! obviously that stung just a little bit! a couple of months have gone past and i felt like i was doing well and getting over him and in fact started to really dislike him (because he still has my ipad and keeps saying he will send it but still has not. lies after lies after lies – a common theme). long story short he is now calling me asking me to go and pick him up from the other city and bring him back here. he tells me he misses me and wants to talk things through with me, he says he has walked away from ‘where he was’ (fiancees house maybe? im not sure), i am not picking him up but if he does come back here i will probably have a chat with him and get the answers i want. my problem is that a part of me wants to be friends with him, but a part of me hates him and i am struggling with it. any advice on what can be done?
Kristen

June 26, 2015 at 3:42 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend broke up with me last night after I got home from work. Granted we only dated for a month and he was my first boyfriend. But, I still like him a lot but he just played the It’s not you, it’s me and we can still be friends and the fact that he is my first boyfriend cards. He also told me he doesn’t feel the same way about me as he did when we first started to go out. I need help please.
Satoria

June 25, 2015 at 1:46 pm

Hi,
My ex broke up with me a week ago. He said he couldn’t handle the stress. We were in along distance relationship, together for 8 months, but he was always accusing me of doing something he didn’t feel was right. I don’t know why, but his insecurities seemed to kick in five months into our relationship.
He had invited me to a wedding, where I knew no one else but him and his mother. He accused me of lying about the color of my dress because it wasn’t the color of his tie…I guess he wanted us to match…he never expressed that. Because of this, he gave me the silent treatment for the rest of the day…..t a wedding where I knew no one.
He wanted to break up one month before, and I agreed, but he did everything he could to get me back. He wanted to break up with me again last week, and I said ok. I was tired of fighting for it to work.
He started this, “you’re smart, you’re beautiful…” speech, but I interrupted him and told him I didn’t want to hear it
He asked if we could be friends – I told him no
He asked if I would unblock him on Facebook – I told him no & that I needed to get over him
He asked why I was rushing him off the phone – I told him because I had nothing else to say
I’ve been told he’s acting out of control on Facebook…trying to make it known he’s now single.
Five days later, he texts me, “thinking of you, hope all is well” I responded eight hours later with, “thanks”
I’m confused as to why he reached out to me. This is what he wanted. Should I have not responded? is this something he will continue to do?
I’m confused.

Chris Seiter

July 16, 2015 at 6:20 pm

…..

Lying about the color of your dress…

Thats a weird thing to get mad at.

I guess my question to you is do you even want him back?

Khawla

June 23, 2015 at 8:57 am

Hallo,
I quite have a big problem actually cuz me and my boyfriend were together for 3,5 years we were on and off always problems and fights and last summer we were in a city tigether in facts i came to him we were good but after two months he went off for a jib and he lefted me alone we broke up for like 6 months and after that i came to him to get back together he rejected me at first but after it he said ok i miss u too but we were appart so i decide it that i’il change the city and move on where he is and that was a big mistake i know so i came in february we were so good we had so much fun he was so good to me till april we had a fight an we haven’t talked since then i felt like he bailed on me and left me and i don’t not know anyone here i’m basicaly alone without him but last sunday we were studying together and he was just not comfortable with me i said whats wrong he said we were done i said i know but we were like for 3,5 years and u just left me here without asking about me and u know i came here for u he said i don’t care u can comeback if u want i said it’s too late now he said i don’t care i don’t have time for relationships i want to finish my studies and i just don’t want to be with u anymore i said why didn’t u said that before i came here for u and sabotage my carriere for u and this is the second time u bailed on me he said yes because u don’t think and i’m just not into u anymore and he spoke to me like we never were together we just end up the discussion and i just want to know whats that suppost to mean exactly and is there a chance i can make him come back and ask for forgivness and regret letting me go ? And thanks please i need u’re help
Elliot

June 21, 2015 at 10:37 am

Hi, I’m so confused what is going on with my boyfriend or ex what ever you want to call it. So my story here is that i had been with him 2 years already during those 2 years i got him cheating on me. What i did is not answer his text his calls I ignored it i was obviously hurt. So the next day he came to my house to say sorry he cried that he messed up that he loves me but, the truth is that i also loved him. So i forgave him we got back started going out again but now, i was so scared he was actually going to cheat on me again i was not the same anymore but deep inside i love him so much. He was trying his best for a year showing me how much i really mean to him but, i guess i didn’t show him that in a return i was just more jealous scared of lossing him for good. So he got tired of trying so he talked to me saying that i think is better to put are relationship in pause that he been trying for a year but everying i’ve done haven’t seem to work he told me and i really don’t want that i love him so i said i was sorry I apologized gave him bears of i love you a ipad for his birthday wrote him laters but nothing seem to work i talk to his step mom thou. But all he wants is time so I don’t know what else to do I don’t know if his missing is over me he hasn’t text me or call me but the truth his i miss him so much i really don’t know what else to do I haven’t text me or call him either because i tried to win him back again to give me a chance but nothing so i just stopped contacting him. Please help what should i do?
C

June 21, 2015 at 6:35 am

Hello Chris,

These last four days have been murder for me since I tried saving my relationship with my boyfriend some nights ago. We had been together over THREE years, and went to prom and he accepted into my family and me into his. His family also has all the prom pictures of us. Tonight he told me he wanted something “new”, meaning he wanted a new girlfriend and told me Id find someone to make me happy someday. But i dont want that. I want him and only him. I went three days without texting him but tonight i needed answers and he basically just said he wanted a new girlfriend and that its nothing against me.

Bottom line is, I need your help and advice to get him back. Please reply if you can. Im very desperate. I dont believe God got us through our situations in the past for my ex to just suddenly give it all up now. Please help me and tell me how to get him to want me back.
Alison

June 19, 2015 at 4:23 pm

Hey i was wondering if maybe you could help me because my story was kinda devastating. So im not saying that im actually and adult, in fact that im only a teenager. So he is my first love and im his first love aswell. At first we were good friends then he started liking me. Then we date but then he dumped me for no reason. It happened 2-4times and now is the 4th. Sometimes i just think about what is good about him and whats on my mind is he dumped me because his friends are mostly single and free. Actually they arent single all the time, but his friends mostly play with tons of girl instead of being serious with one girl. But my ex kinda different. He s loyal to me but i dont know what was he thinking after dumped me then chase me. Now my dad dont like him that much because my ex is the one that dumped me all the time for no reason. Actually we were great together. Our family were nice together but now i dont know what to do. He keeps doing the same thing dump me and chase me. I admit that he s too overprotective and by the time i get jealous about him being with another girl, he mad at me. Thankyou for reading this 🙂
D

June 19, 2015 at 2:51 pm

How will this work if you deactivated your social media to keep from checking on him?

It’s been 3 weeks since the break up (long distance and complicated) and a week into NC. I’ve maintained an active social life to prevent myself moping around and right before he broke up with me I started to be more active in the gym.

Is it possible to email the details to you for advice to see if the book fits with our breakup? People keep telling me it’s odd…
Keira

June 19, 2015 at 10:52 am

Dear Chris,
Just 2 days ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Of course I begged and pleaded for him not to but he then quickly said its been good, its already done and hung up the phone. I’ve never been so devastated. He told me he just wasn’t ready to fully commit to this relationship but there were other times where he said he was and that he never would break up with me. I guess it also didn’t help that I had an outburst every time he couldn’t hang out and that sometimes I’d pull him away from his family but I always apologized. Yes apologies don’t always work but he would always say I’m forgiven and we would go back to the way we always were. The day before he broke up with me was amazing. We did several new and old things together. We watched a play, tried Asian food for once and got some ice cream. That day he was originally supposed to leave at 7:00 to help his brother move into his new house and I threw a fit and wouldn’t let him because I wanted him to stick with his plans for once. The rest of our day was good. Then back at my house we planned on watching a movie before he left but his mom needed to borrow his car and he had to leave. I then threw another fit about him never sticking with his plans. Before he left we made up, said we’re okay and that he wasn’t going to break up with me. Then he texted me when he got home saying he wasn’t so sure. Then I called and we worked it out to where he said we were fine again. The next morning I called to check up on him and that where what I told you happened earlier. It’s been 2 days since we’ve broken up. He’s been on social media but still hasn’t deleted any of the posts of us or even changed his relationship back to single. Is there any chance he misses me and feels he made a mistake but he just needed space for a little while? Please help me. I’m definitely not ready for this relationship to be over.

Ruanna

July 5, 2015 at 9:22 pm

You sound like a whiny and clingy person. Maybe you should stop throwing a fit everytime something doesn’t go the way you planned, and try to deal with the situation in a more tolerable way. Like you said, apologies don’t fix anything: Actions are what count. Stop being such a brat and learn to be mature when things don’t go the way you planned. I guess this doesn’t really solve your problem, but it will prevent bad breakups in the future.

Lily

June 19, 2015 at 1:53 am

Hi, My boyfriend and i had been together for two years, until he started to change. We had a great relationship, although i I changed a lot, compromise as most do in relationships. He broke up with me a couple days after new years 2015. I was devastated! We’d both met each others’ families and he works at the same company as myself, my dad and my brother. I spent many days crying, begging and trying to get him to take me back. I thought of the embarrassment of having to face my colleagues. Without delay, he wanted to see his old friends, whom i’d never heard of or ever met, cause he claimed to not have had any. He even took ice-cream for one of his female friends and went to the movies with another. Its been six months since we haven’t been together, but we have still been seeing each other. We vacation together and go to the movies and still talk. I know i am doing something wrong. I love him and want to be with him…but we stopped talking about Us a long time ago. What should I do?
melissa

June 18, 2015 at 8:02 am

hi,
I broke up w my bf last week. we had some issues and last week, I was really disappointed that he treated me like invisible in front of his friends. that was the breaking point so I decided I had to do it. I dont regret the break up for now but I miss him. and while he doesn’t want the break up, he suggest we remain friends and he will think About things.
he text me daily with a good morning message and I’ll reply good morning and for the whole day there’ll be no contact.
I kind of hope he’ll come back and initiate working things out with me if possible.
what should I do?
wait?
Melissa
Samantha

June 18, 2015 at 5:39 am

Hello, so I was dating this guy for 11 months. Basically he told that he could never see himself getting married, he didn’t believe in that after his divorce. I was well aware of when we first started dating. But I really ended up likeing him, maybe more than just that. Marriage is something that I believe in and want in the future. I made the decision to end the relationship. Its been 6 weeks and he hasn’t or I haven’t contacted him. I miss him so much. Idk what I should do.

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