7 Definitive Steps On How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

5,888 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

Rebecca

August 22, 2015 at 10:19 am

my boyfriend and i have had feelings for each other for 4 years, just 8 months ago did we fall in love and start going out. we were each others first for everything. He has a commitment problem as he feels he is too immature for a relationship thats why we broke up a few days ago. The whole relationship he tried his best to make it work but he felt he was just going to hurt me in the long run if he continues to push this. he says he still loves me and wants me in his life through talking but wants the single life, and he has to decide which one he wants more. I agreed to talk to him but i believe if i do he wont miss me and he will be getting the best of both worlds. we have been on a break the past three weeks but he has still messaged and called me. if i dont answer he will call 50 times get very angry if i don’t answer say if i dont answer there is no chance of us getting back together so of course i give in and talk! hes been out with his friends doesnt look like hes too upset even though he says its hard. I’ver really been struggling we have told each other we are meant for each other due to our history, and fete to be in each others lives. I really want this to work but it makes me so angry that he loves me and i love him he just is too immature to settle down he wants to experience the single life. He has been giving me so many mixed signals. he says this isnt the end of us, he says that if we were a few years older this will work but of course i dont want to wait for him but apart of me can’t help it because im in love with him. It is definitely young love and we have had our major issues as he is protective and so am i, and that started to clash when he wanted the single life more. he pushed me away because he is scared of relationships and where this can go as his desire is to marry at 30 and feels being with the one girl for so many years is scary but he feels im that girl. He is also the type of guy if he sees me out he will do something to make me more jealous he needs the last say or last laugh because he is a jealous immature type of guy.
What should i do and will this work?
Aswathy

August 22, 2015 at 7:10 am

Hey Im Aswathy from india . My boyfriend broke up with me recently an almost 4 months relationship. i know its pretty short period , but unlike my other relations i had much severe bond with him . I dont know the reason behind his break up with me. He jjust gave some reasons like he had some medical issues (yeah one week before break up he was ill) and also that he has some family problems and he says that he dont wanna drag me into his shitty life. i said that im happy to live with him and all. but he disagrees. now he blocked me in whatsapp and faceook since i continuously texted him . now that i wanna call him but dont wanna irritate him any further cus as you said above it will make him go away from me .
Now I really want him back cus i havent been into love like this way and also loved anyone like I have loved him . I have no way to make him jealous since he blockd me in social medias
Culd please help me sort out this problem ?
Cheryl

August 21, 2015 at 10:53 pm

Hi Chris,

My situation is a sticky one. I dated my ex for a little over a year and it was a turbulent relationship. I had been divorced for a a year and a half and was not very emotionally stable. On top of that I got laid off from work and was having difficulties with my teenage son. I was quite irrational and under great stress during the time we dated.

Compounding the problem, he is 23 years my senior, retired, and we live very different lifestyles. I am very friendly and outgoing and he was exceedingly jealous. He would get really angry when I just spoke briefly with a man I new at church and he tried to control everything I did. This pushed me away as I thought he was moving way too fast in the relationship. I would get so angry with him that I broke up with him several times, but ended up missing him terribly and would ask him to give things another try.

This went on for over a year and after being unemployed for several months we agreed I should move in with him until I got back on my feet. The tension started building immediately, because now that I was under his roof he expected to control everything I did. I am very independent and this did not sit well with me. I was only living there a week and we got in a huge fight over nothing, but it escalated into a physical altercation. He pushed me to the floor and was holding me down and hurting me. I broke away from him and ran to the bathroom and called the police. He was arrested on a domestic violence charge and the court ordered a no-contact order on him. Its been 4 months with no-contact and I miss him terribly. I keep thinking things could have been different if I wasn’t under so much stress at the time. I am putting a petition to have the no-contact lifted so that it won’t be illegal for him to contact me and also so he can go back to our church.

We did have a lot of good times and it still hurts so bad to not be able to see or speak to him. Advice PLEASE

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 7:43 pm

I highly recommend NOT getting back with him. He sounds violent and dangerous. I know you miss him but trust me he is not the kind of guy you want.

Dawn

August 21, 2015 at 4:00 am

My ex and I weren’t dating long and so while I don’t have a driving need to get him back I would like to because I believe we could go the distance. I unfortunately can’t do the no contact rule for a few different reasons however I have resolved to not txt or call him outside of things related to a side job we do together or the occasional reply. Do you think that this will still work and is there anything else I can do to strengthen our chances of getting back together.
samie

August 20, 2015 at 7:04 am

Hey..
So my situation is that I was with a guy for 2 yrs in a long distance relationship.. he came to meet me every 2 month or else we were on video calls or texts and all..
So it happend that for 3 months I couldn’t talk to him because of my family circumstances and then I had to go to another state for my professional studies.. and with this he never supported me..for almost 4 months we were fighting and didn’t meet and finally he asked me to breakup..
I never wanted to and tried convincing him to be with me and things will be fixed soon and he didn’t agree to it and abused me,ignored me for friends,abused my family and blamed me that I cheated on him and in spite of asking evidence he simply gives a wague reply that he feels that…

When now I started following NC rule..he after 3 days eventually calls on his own but still with a bad tongue abusing and blaming him….he started smoking up and after my ignoring him,he asks me to block him or change my no..
He also quotes heart sobbing statement like it wsnt love frm 2 yrs….I made a fool out of him as I chose my career before him…

Such situations are killing me within..and I want him to know that I wasn’t wrong n I still love him like I did from starting…

What should I do…any hopes for me?
akash

August 19, 2015 at 7:06 pm

Hi
Please help me out on this,
Iam akash from india i love a girl,we wr in a relationship from 5 years
I was planning for our fature abd sudnly she dich me for a guy from her office
I can not live without her
What should i do, today us 3rd day of no contact rule

Chris Seiter

September 12, 2015 at 1:03 am

Hi Akash,

Just keep on with the no contact rule.

Victoria

August 17, 2015 at 10:58 pm

Hi, about 2 weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend broke up with me after 8 months. For the month prior to the break we were fighting and arguing a lot. Most of the arguments were about the same thing: I felt like he wasn’t respecting my time. I would ask him to hang out and have dinner with my family, and he would say that he’s be coming over (I’d tell my parents to cook for 5 instead of 4), but he’d cancel. He’s been really sick for the past month and on different medications and he would tell me that he wasn’t feeling well or he couldn’t hang out because he had other things to do. He’d do that a couple times in a row. I would look forward to seeing him because I just got home from a family vacation and he would just cancel on me. A couple days prior to the breakup we went to dinner and everything was fine. It was the first time in awhile that we didn’t fight about anything and I thought that things were going to get better. I knew he was stressed a lot. His online class was giving him a lot of trouble and his grandparents were in and out of the hospital. I messed up and said a bunch of things that I didn’t mean and deeply regret now. I did question why he couldn’t hang out with me. He took that as I didn’t trust him and that was the final argument we had, a few sentences later he broke up with me over Facebook. That’s where we did all our talking because he was so far away and I don’t have a phone right now. I wish he did it in person. A few days after he brought me my things that I left in his truck and oddly enough I felt better after we talked. We agreed that it would only be a temporary break and that we needed some time apart. I went away for a week to visit my friend and when I came back I broke the n contact rule and pretty much broke every rule because I couldn’t emotionally handle not talking to him. He was my first everything. I thought I found true love at 20 and I wanted him back. I asked him if we could sit and talk things over when I got back and he said that it’s probably best if the break was permanent. Which broke my heart even more than him wanting to be single. I started going out with a couple other guys to try to get over him and one of them tried to take advantage of me and that made me miss my ex even more. I’m at a loss of what to do. He and I both made mistakes and I realise which ones were mine and all I want is to make everything better so that we can have a stronger relationship (if that ever happens). I’ve become more bitter than I was since the breakup. I don’t believe that true love exists and that it’s just in fairy tales. I want to change that, but every relationship I’ve ever been in has ended badly and I find I can’t remain optimistic any longer. I just want help.
Kay

August 17, 2015 at 9:46 pm

My boyfriend just recently broke up with me after 4 1/2 years of dating. We have been talking about getting engaged and I had already picked out my ring and everything and he was almost more excited than I was. 2 days before we were eating dinner and everything was fine. 2 days later he breaks up with me out of NOWHERE claiming that he no longer has feelings for me and I didn’t make him happy, etc (he has said it before)and was super stern on “never” getting back together. His best friend (our best friend) didn’t even know about it either; it was a complete shock to everyone. He ended it on Friday night and Saturday he was super willing to meet me in person to talk (it didn’t go well but it didn’t make anything worse) it is now Monday but he has still managed to contact me everyday “subtly” and my mom says that it sounds like he’s looking for a reason to talk to me and i know this sounds pathetic but i checked his instagram and he took my name out of his bio but his profile picture is still us and he still has pictures of me on his profile. I was thinking maybe he is super stressed or something and just needs time to be alone and maybe just freaked out from the stress? But i don’t know when to contact him again because I still want the relationship to work and he has told me (even after we ended) that he still loves me. Im so confused! Is there a chance?

Anonymous

August 22, 2015 at 4:34 pm

For real?….girl he does not deserve u…Chris is right…make him feel that he lost the greatest girl ever…u can start by making him jealous but just dont let it be too obvious…if he starts saying he wants u back make him sweat…goodluck
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 10:10 pm

There is def more to this, Either A. he’s bipolar or B. something is going on. My guess is B. The best thing for you to do is no contact for 30 days, let him feel like he’s lost you. It is not ok for him to do this to you.

anusha

August 17, 2015 at 6:30 pm

hi dear i was in rltnship with the guy since 10 mnths but he only and only asks for getting intimated n that’s y v had a brkup i luv him really n i wanna no whether he feels the same or not and i wanna get him bck anyhow
Ellie

August 17, 2015 at 4:30 pm

Hi Chris basically me and my bf were on a break because we have been arguing a lot and he feels like we need space we had a baby 2 months ago lived together for ages we both love each other so much and it’s breaking my heart not being with him but I can’t just cut off contact because of the baby I’m so hurt that he’s left but I know he’s trying to find structure and routine in his life but I just want to know does there seem like there is any hope for us he said he loves me so much and wants to be with me but we both need to focus on ourselves but what can I do to get him chasing me other then him having to call due to the baby

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 7:46 pm

It’s not right that he left you with an infant. He should really adapt to the situation you two are in. Anyway, to answer your question, you should contact him only when it’s absolutely necessary otherwise be to busy. Make him work a little to have you back in his life. Be nice still but busy. You should check out the podcast about pregnancy, there are women on there that you can relate to. Your not the only one in this situation, hope that helps a little.

Marali

August 17, 2015 at 8:44 am

Hi Chris! I am definitely thinking about getting the book but I would like to tell you my situation first (although I know there is a chance you will not read this or reply) It’s been 2 weeks. I broke the NC rule 2 times (I didn’t know about it) We were together for 1 yr and 11 months. (Didn’t even make our 2 years anniversary ?) Anywho. He broke up with me. We both had our issues. Mine was that I can be impatient and mean. I have said things I did not mean to say. He has told me about it and my patience improved during the relationship and so did my mouth but I would have my slip ups. The issue I had with him was that I thought he wasn’t affectionate enough and did not put much effort in the relationship. I felt like it was all me. I would visit him and call or text. Not every day because I didn’t want to suffocate him, but often. He always put it on the stress and work. But I also had two jobs and school and yet STILL put in the effort. Anyways. When he broke up with me he said that we should work on eachother and see if we can change. That we should treat this as a actual break up. . . . He cried when we said goodbye. But since I have broken the NC rule I know that the breakup has not hit him yet because he has told me himself. He has been distracting himself. My ex is hard headed and really does not like to show much emotion. Im scared this break up.can last forever and he can get over me. Also his brother is one of my best friends (even before we were together) and all our friends are mutal. How can I do the NC ? Especially if my best friend is having a birthday party which he is going to.

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 8:43 pm

You will have to be patient when it comes to getting your ex back. It can take some time. Have you read the post on the ungettable girl? You will have to not talk about him at all to your friends during no contact. Your going to have to do no contact with his brother as well. You dont want him prying through other people, you want him to come to you.

keji

August 16, 2015 at 11:16 pm

Hi chris…I have been dating this guy for 8months,never given him reasons to doubt me. he trusts me but knows that so many guys wants me. He is proud,temperamental,doesn’t appreciate but I still love him. He caught me off guard when he just told me to move on and that it is over. I cried and asked why…he said because of nagging. I said we could work on it but he said no. I need him back because I love him. He loves me very much too but he is too proud to admit it. Please how can I get him back. Please send it to my mail

Chris Seiter

August 16, 2015 at 11:22 pm

What did you do to nag him? No contact is your best bet here. Have you read that post yet or the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro book?

Katy

August 16, 2015 at 1:15 pm

What is your ex had blocked any form of contact? Number, Facebook, snap chat? I actually haven’t tried contacting him but he doesn’t know this because he’s blocked my number. But I want him to know I’m not begging him back. I’ve also been in hospital a week and after 2 years he’s not even asked me or my family if I’m ok. Yet the day before I was admitted he was saying how much he loved me. It’s hard for me to understand how cold and nasty he is being :/
Mary

August 16, 2015 at 3:24 am

Hi,
i just broke up with a boy i was with for about 10 months, he always said we are not bf/gfs but any time i wanted to give up on us he tried to keep me but becoming nice and everything. he moved to another city 5months ago, i was done with my exams and i told him i have two weeks of break and that i wanted to go over there to see him, he said he is too busy right now and tickets are too expensive and i shouldn’t spend this much money. so i decided to break up with him, but i asked him to delete and ignore me on fb and viber so i wouldn’t be able to contact him, i said i dont want to have a change of heart and he accepted that immediately !!!
i was shocked really, i dont know if there is any chance left for this relationship given the situation !!!
Athena

August 15, 2015 at 3:38 pm

Hi,
Thank you for these tips. Can u pls send me emails, so that i can say my situation to u. I really need your help. And i have a doubt “Making him miss” should be done after the 30 days NC rule r can b done on those 30 days?

Chris Seiter

August 16, 2015 at 11:33 pm

Hey Sorry, I am not able to use email or other methods of contact because I get flooded with comments/emails. I’ll try to answer you on here, what is your exact question. Also there are so many posts on here, there should be a few that will work for you.

Anjali

August 14, 2015 at 5:31 pm

I m in a long distance rlsnship…He has committed that he will surely marry me but his present behaviour is worst…nobody trusts him…everyone says me that he will cheat me…but still I have trust on him too much…mostly he never appreciates my love,sacrifice, small things that I do 4 him…when I call him after that he calls me after 4-5 hours….& from two days he has stopped communicating me…He is reading my msgs but not replying, ignoring my calls…..I also want to learn that how can we ignore the person whom we love too much?…I also want to learn how to show attitude to whom we love too much?…plz teach me to control my feelings….plz teach me to hide my feelings from him…plz help me?
Trish

August 14, 2015 at 2:41 pm

I told my ex-boyfriend when we broke up that no other man had ever hurt me like he did. It was true and I was pissed. Really pissed. Is that a deal breaker for any future chance of reuniting?

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 9:26 pm

Nope your still fine. What’s your plan of action at this point?

CONFUSED

August 12, 2015 at 5:52 pm

Do you think my situation has chance or not?
He broke up with 1 and a half month ago (last days of June) because he says we “are not compatible“ and said he loved me but he didnt know if he was going to be with me for the rest of his life (I never pressured him into that subject). We were together for a year, in which we never fought but we broke up 3 times (this is the 4th) and went back together after about a month or 2. Last time, I did the no contact period for 30 days and he appeared on the 28th day begging to have me back. This time, I made a mistake and a week later after he broke up with me I kinda begged him to reconsider. He kindly said no, and days later sent me some crying emojis over text and saying “how are you? goodnight.” I just said “good night” and started the NC the very next day (about 35 days ago)
So weeks later he kept “liking” my facebook pictures, commenting on songs I posted, and liking two old pictures of us on instagram. Currently, its been 2 weeks since he has “liked” any of my pictures or posts on any social media, and we havent talked. I havent seen him around, and Ive been thinking of 2 ideas:
1. I want to go out to the same places he goes on the weekend? and dress very nicely so he misses me?
2. Also I have this idea of sending him a picture I took of him at the beach 2 months ago, (its a very cool pic) to his email (without starting a conversation). But I dont know if its a good idea.

I dont know, please tell me the odds..help this confused lady! I really miss him.
monique

August 11, 2015 at 11:27 pm

So I broke up with my ex of a little over a year who is also my personal trainer, and we did not talk for 4 days until it was time for my next session. I had actually decided to change the time of the session to early instead of later in the day and told him it was because I had plans in the evening( which I really didn’t have). When he seen me he was very quick to give me a hug, and he asked me what I was doing in the evening all I told him was I was going out nothing specific. Do you think he’s wondering what I’m doing later? And can he still miss me even though we have to have more frequent communication because of the training?
Kelly

August 10, 2015 at 3:54 pm

So it’s been a month since we broke we were together for 4 1/2 years , he broke it off with me stating the Sparks weren’t there anymore a week and a half later he’s already dating a new girl , much younger she’s 19 n he’s 25 but he continued to text me anyways. I did all the mistakes I begged , pleaded , bargain whatever it is i did it even made fun of him for dating a teenager I asked him if she was a rebound he said no , it’s been a month & they haven’t broken up or anything he’s posting pics of them two on Instagram so I deleted mine , she doesn’t post anything about him tho and she’s really pretty THATS what kills me anyways I ran into him last night at a mutual friends house and he was drunk & kept talking to me , telling me 4 years is 4 years you don’t forget it he says both his parents loved me and just kept talking about how I was the “one ” and that his current gf understands that and respects that he claims that it’s not that serious with her the only reason she’s “better” than me is because she lets him do whatever he wants i love him and I don’t know if to give up or even try anymore or if there’s even a small chance , idk how he moved on so quickly after everything we went through im Trying the no contact rule but it’s difficult because of mutual friends his BEstfriend dates my Bestfriend and we don’t live too far from eachother …

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