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lara
October 12, 2013 at 4:16 pm
There was this guy we both where friends from past 1 and a half year and i used to like him since that time and even waited for him. recently in the month of july my friend spoke to him and told him that i like him and even he agreed that he too likes me but not able to get into relation due to some personal problems and he told my friend to ask me to move on. Even i was ready to forget him and maintain our friendship and in our friendship only commitment was missing otherwise people used to think that we where in relation. After that on his friends birthday party his friend read his and my friend conversation and he told him something i don’t know what and he got ready to get into relation.
our relation was going perfect everything was just perfect after one month of relation he somehow started avoiding me I asked my sister to talk to him and he said that he is now confused if he likes me or no? and he proposed me just because he was jealous that ill go on with someone else. and he wanted to breakup but he was not doing that because he dint wanted to hurt me and i dint want him to be in relation forcefully so i broke up and now he is not even calling me nor receiving my calls i just don’t know what to do i seriously want him back in my life. i cant live without him. please help me please.
admin
October 13, 2013 at 8:44 pm
Alright stop right there. Before anything you and I need to talk about something.
My pet peeve is when women say “I can’t live without him.”
You can. You really can.
The truth is that right now you are at a place where you NEED your ex boyfriend back and that is not a winning formula.
You need to get to a place where you want him back but don’t NEED him back.
lara
October 14, 2013 at 2:08 pm
so what am i suppose to do to get him back??
even if i choose NC rule he won’t call back or message he has got too much of ego in him..
and today i spoke to his friend and he told me that he likes me but he doesn’t like me so much that he will want to get into relation.
and i really want him back.
admin
October 15, 2013 at 2:11 am
Yes but YOU are supposed to reach out after NC. Did you read this post: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/
lara
October 18, 2013 at 2:30 pm
Yes I have…
lara
October 17, 2013 at 10:07 am
Please help ma na tell me the solution na please I want him back… Please help me
admin
October 17, 2013 at 6:38 pm
Okay… well have you read the big articles on this site yet?
lara
October 16, 2013 at 10:06 am
M sorry I dint get you…
admin
October 17, 2013 at 2:24 am
haha now I am confused.
lara
October 15, 2013 at 9:45 am
yes i read that post, it really helped me.
But do you really think NC will work out with all that ego he has??
admin
October 16, 2013 at 2:02 am
I can’t say with certainty it will BUT it will do wonders for one person, YOU!
al_crosby_cat
October 10, 2013 at 2:54 am
I dated he who must not be named for about 6 months. I am almost 26 and he is 21. I anticipated that the incongruities in maturity level would make or break things.
I fell madly in love with him, we have known eachother for about a year. We even experimented with living together, which I think may have accelerated out affairs to the point of breaking- He was never over his ex (they were together for five years and he had thoughts of marrying her before she broke up with him because she cheated on him for 3 months, then begged him to get back together, then dumped him AGAIN.)
Right after they split, I found out I was carrying a child. Not being able to handle that responsibility, I opted out of childbirth, but that bond of being in love and being pregnant really distorted the practicality of the relationship at hand. THEN our relationship moved to a long distance one for a month as I completed an art program in Rome. When I got back we lived somewhat peacefully by the river together. I moved an hour and a half from my grad school and artist networks, while he lived like 20 min away from his old house, HIS PARENTS. While we lived together, in our little house of cards of a relationship built on castles in the sky, his ex would stalk the house, threaten suicide, and go to his work and beg on her hands and knees for his affection again. When I finally said “I am leaving you if you don’t stop contacting her,” there were crocodile tears on his end- a show that I know was false because when I saw him cry, I could not emote (something very unnatural for me), in fact, I wanted to laugh at the disguise and his attempt to absolve his guilt over everything. He continued to masquerade his love for me while he stopped talking to her for only two weeks. In the end, he started again once he decided without sharing with me that he wanted her. He could not, and would not stop talking to her and do that for me; he lost interest in me after the 6 months, to the point where a small demand of mine was just totally unacceptable. Indeed, a truly sloppy, emotionally manipulative way out for him where he didn’t even have the balls to break up with me when his feelings shifted, or knew it and didn’t understand how he felt, but knew that I felt good to have around to clean up his ex’s table scraps.
If we had both slowed down, gotten past the 6-month obsession phases, If I was not so in love and infatuated, if we kept our romance to simple outoors trips like we did before, if he was actually ready to start a relationship- All of these are ifs, ands, and buts.
As it stands I felt totally powerless being with someone who was not equipt for the intensity of my love, who consistently demanded from me the very things he himself could not give, and possibly could never give another human being for the rest of his life. It may not have been that he was not ready, he may have just confused love and lust because we got together on a rebound and I allowed it, maybe even enjoyed nurturing him.
Having lived through all this, I had sacrificed my self-hood for another persons whim of a feeling, who never really wanted to or could take responsibility for nurturing something he “believed” in, other than himself and his own endeavors; a reason why I dont date younger men (with the exception of assclown)
One month ago I initiated NC. Being very experienced with all types of relationships with each sex and age ranges, this one was like a teenage wet dream. My heartthrob soured when I took all the responsibility, managing a relationship with his f*ed up ass and his ex, while never giving to myself. As I approach my 30’s, it was inappropriate for me in ways I thought I could overlook.
It was a way of clinging to childhood, absolving my responsibilities to myself, for one last sadomasochistic hurrah before getting my shit together and standing among the living with integrity.
Tabula
October 15, 2013 at 2:01 pm
I feel you, sister. Me 28, him 21… long story short, he pursued me for months and months, I ended up seeing him as more than a friend and got really infatuated with him, he pushed for a serious relationship. And now 5 months down the line he dumped me because he could not stand the ‘drama’ once the honeymoon phase was over. Had to focus on his studies. All the ‘drama’ was because he would prioritise everything and everybody else over me, go out with people and meet them for lunches etc. but I was supposed to respect his need to study and be happy if I got to see him once a week.
Once he sent me the ‘dumping’ e-mail that we were ‘destroying each other’ in his eyes, of course I pleaded and we’d have epic text-dialogues. He then told me that he just needed a few weeks to sort out his exams. But when I asked whether that’s just letting me down easy, he did not deny it and we ended things. First I told him never to speak to me again, to ignore me when he sees me, but today – 4 days later – I ran into him and actually told him with a smile on my face that we should be civil and we shook on it. I hope this was not a mistake.
I am going NC now. Wondering if it will work, because while I don’t see a long-term thing happening, there were things about this relationship that I enjoyed (SEX) and would want to continue at some point. I am also quite busy now so actually he’s done me a favour, but I just don’t want to lose him completely.
admin
October 10, 2013 at 6:00 pm
0_o
Are we in Harry Potter? Will I get snatched up by the death eaters if I say “he who must not be named” name?
All kidding aside you sound very hurt/confused.
How has the NC been going for you?
Vixxdior
October 9, 2013 at 1:06 pm
HELP!!! lol so my ex and I broke up after I brought up a situation with him that I said was done and over with, it hurt him that I still might see him that way so he told me he wanted to breaak up because he didn’t want someone who thought that of him . Even though he talked about marriage, kids, everything about a future together, he tried to get me pregnant twice so we could start already because he “loved me that much”. It’s been 9 days since we talked and he found me on POF , it felt like a slap in the face to see he “wanted someone to marry” he’s about to leave for the navy and needs a loyal girl all the qualities hes looking for he knows I possess already. However he contacted me on the dating website , made small talk and at the end of the convo( I kept it short and simple then told him I had to go) after that he said he loves me. Please help me with what to do I want him back but I want to do this right because he arubtly cut me off and hurt me by doing so. Am I supposed to go back to the NC rule ? Any ideas of what’s going on in his head? What should I do from this point on to get him back , or help him regain everything to want me back .
Thanks in advance XD
admin
October 10, 2013 at 1:26 am
At this point I say yes, go back into NC for a bit.
enola
October 7, 2013 at 9:22 am
after reading this page I truely was amazed by this post! I just want to know why my xbf call three times and message me about his bag that he left in my house before the breakup. for the 1st time the txts look so gental and very kind of feeling lonely txt but I never reply to each of his msgs and day after two I only reply a yes txt to him cause he ask about my staff were remove from our old place were we use to live togather’ so I only replied after two days with a simple yes… I want to know why he finally sending txts and calling when he never did so after breaking up with me… is it because I started using the no contact rule to him? ansewr please
admin
October 8, 2013 at 1:50 am
Well, I am guessing the NC rule defintely has a hand in it.
lauren
October 7, 2013 at 2:21 am
hey i broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago because he started to treat me a little unfairly. In the begging of our relationship he loved me sooo much he would do anything on earth to make me happy, he told me how beautiful i was every day, and would get so frustrated when he couldn’t get to meet up with me he would always hold on to me hug me and never let go squeeze me so tightly, he stayed awake all night on the phone to me he phoned me when he was at work he would even stay on the phone to me while i was asleep . To be honest i wasn’t really all in to him and in fact i didn’t have interest in him at all but still enjoyed his company, we hung out every day and every night for 6 months straight we became like best friends. After a while he started to annoy me with his love he had for me he would really bother me a lot of the times i couldn’t even be with my friends with out him ringing my phone to talk to me, so i decided that i would cut him of i know that was wrong of me but he started to irritate me i should have just told him how i felt but i was afraid. Anyways i cut him of for 4 months i went NC with him he would phone me all the time i would ignore and so on . Till anyways i started to miss him and realize that i actually loved him so i met up with him and we got back together, everything was kool knowing that he still had feelings for me and so did i, everything was going well till after 2 months he noticed that i love him he started to change, he would put me down make me feel so belittled, he didn’t tell me how beautiful i was any more he would compare me to other women in the magazines and so on. i told him how i felt i dumped him told him how he made me feel and how little he made me feel and how not so special he made me feel. i told him we should be friends he said that’s fine but after a while he stared to be sooo rude to me he would say his perfect and i’m not he would tell people he messed with my head to get in my pants and just had sex with me then dumped me (although i dumped him. he hurt me so bad, and a few times i tried to talk to him he would say he has a girlfriend and if i looked like her he would have stayed with me. the fact of the matter is that he lives right opposite me so i can see when his home if his out because of his car, i mean its ten times harder to get over him because how close he lives to me , i mean i have to see him all the time. i still feel like he has feelings for me though but is so stubborn to admit it, to be honest i haven’t really been chasing after him the 4 months we’ve been apart because I’ve been trying to keep my kool. there’s a lot of signs i see that relates to him liking me . 1. he stares at me when he thinks i’m not looking
2. he doesn’t get mad when he sees me hanging out with his family.
3. he glances at my window (a lot)
4. when his talking with some friends he pays attention to what i’m doing when i’m not looking
5. he always seems so happy when his talking with his friends and he knows i’m around( like laughing out extremely over the top.
6.he tries to make me jealous.
the funny thing is theirs been times his attempted to talk to me like he stopped me and ask for his things back then asked me if i’m still holding grudges, but then i tried to play hard to get and gave him the cold shoulder and told him i moved on. Therese been another time like 3 weeks ago he asked me why i was being so anti toward i told him i weren’t then walked of because it felt awkward after he spoke to me i text him i said to him if he were busy he asked why i told him to talk i told him i wanted to know why he thought i was being anti and other things in mind he said he would meet me later in the day and said he knows its hard to move on from him because his perfect and that he has a girlfriend and that it was all mental. we didn’t end up meeting in the end because he said he was in bed which was a lie . i know i wrote a lot sorry lol but i really want to know what his feeling inside and if he still cares about me he gives of great signs he secretly does please help,i don’t feel my self with out him , and its so hard to go NC because we see each other all the time .
admin
October 7, 2013 at 11:33 pm
I am wondering if you shouldn’t try some sort of LC rule if you do run into him all the time.
Sandrina
October 5, 2013 at 10:49 am
hello i have seen this post and i’ve related right away. My ex and i broke up 3 years ago and since then he has managed to keep in contact with me. but along the way i get mad because i am to impulsive and he stops talking to me for some time. this summer e reached out again, saying that he wanted to see me and then he never asked me to go out. Now he stoped talking again i don’t know why. I have this feeling that he still has feelings for me but he runs away from talking and confrontation. He said me 4 months ago that he misses me and he hasn’t forgoten me but he doesn’t know if we are coming back together.what shoul i do? i am lost
admin
October 6, 2013 at 12:19 am
Do you think there is someone else or were your conversations not interesting to him for some reason?
I am just spitballing ideas here.
tina
October 2, 2013 at 8:43 pm
Love your site, would really appreciate your feedack on this: He broke up with me in June (was right to do so). After two weeks of trying to reconcile, I let him go (in the last meeting he told me he was already seeing another girl). Then, since end if July I did not initiate any contact. I focused on myself, got a job, lost a lot of weight, went out with friends, picked up new hobbies… I can honestly say I regained my balance. But of course I still wanted my ex back.
Anyway, after 21 days of my no contact, he did contact me a couple of times. Each time I left the call unanswered and got back to him a lot later (and also I happily realized that he was freaking out if I took too long to respond). The phone calls I returned were cool and casual, just catching up. And each time I made sure I’d hang up first.
For the past 10 days he has been asking to meet with me, and I was postponing, saying I was busy and I’d get back to him when I can. It had great results, because he would not just wait, but kept texting me to see if we can make it.
And then two days ago I decided it was about time.
He invited me over to his house, and I decided to go. We did not see each other for 2 months, and I do look amazing now:) so of course he was pleasantly surprised.
At the beginning I was cool and great, sharing my news, learning his, laughing at each other’s jokes, it was great. I should have left there. But then he started touching me and it was sooooo sweet. We kissed, and hugged and shared nice feelings. We did not have sex – although he wanted it – but fooled around a lot. Only I think I shared too much. At the end of the night, among those great cuddles that I missed so much, I told him that I still have feelings for him. “I’m not waiting around on you – going out with new people and all – but I do still love you”. Then it was OK still, he gave me some gifts he brought me (from a trip he went with his rebound girlfriend) and even suggested I’d stay overnight. But I left. I was feeling PERFECT.
And today I called him to do something (a small chore he said he’d do for me) but he was slightly distant again, and I let it go. And now I am worried. Could it be he was just testing the waters? He did seem interested in me at the beginning, but probably now that I blew my cover and admitted I still like him, I am back at being nothing of a challenge?
Probably the best thing to do is to give him time again, right? No contact until he contacts me?
admin
October 3, 2013 at 1:53 am
Maybe a little bit. I would say NC until he contacts you yes. BUT if he doesn’t contact you don’t be afraid to reach out.
tina
October 3, 2013 at 9:18 am
thanks for the quick and thoughtful reply to my (huge) message:)
admin
October 4, 2013 at 12:34 am
Sorry I am not on my game today. I replied to another message you left on the newest post that was meant for someone else.
tina
October 5, 2013 at 12:19 pm
Haha you’re game:) Seriously, you are amazing, just for responding to so many messages every day. How do you even do that?? (Rhetorical Question;)
Anyway, I decided sticking to NC anew for at least 21 days. Then I might call him to test the waters myself. And we’ll see from there. Or maybe not even.. Who knows what time brings on… The craziness is past me – I want him back because I think he loves me too, deep down inside. But he has to work on it also, right? To prove it.
I showed him how I’ve changed and what he’s missing, and now I am turning ungettable. He has to do some work to get me. That’s the mindset now, and reading your blog has helped me a lot to get this far. Thanks man! Really appreciate it!
admin
October 6, 2013 at 1:34 am
How do I do it? Some days I have no clue to be honest hahaha.
Yup, the ideal way an ex should get you back is if HE works for it.
And you are very very welcome!
Ivona
October 2, 2013 at 3:30 pm
So me and my ex boyfriend have dated for 20 months. We talk sometimes an he tells me things like how he wants to cuddle with me and still finds me attractive. But a day later he will tell me that we wouldn’t workout in a relationship. Then he tells me not to date someone because they aren’t good for me. When I told him this girl from church doesn’t like him he got bummed out and now doesn’t want to be my friend. But when I call he still picks up? I want him back. What do I do?
admin
October 3, 2013 at 1:35 am
Well, you might need to deattach yourself from the situation and have you read this page?
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/
Faith Rhodes
October 2, 2013 at 5:49 am
Okay so here is my long explanation. Me and my ex broke up ab a month ago. We dated for three months. We never argued. We never fought. We would discuss the opinions we had. There were not many. He gave me more memories than days he spent with me. I know I will never get over him. Here’s the dilemma, though. He is still in love with his ex and did not find that out until he broke up with me. He had hardened his heart so much that it was not visible. He could not give his heart to me though he tried. I have spent every weekend with him until this previous one. I have into calling him today. I was so torn that I was literally shaking at hearing his voice. He can not get back with his ex bc she is with someone else who she cheated on him with. He said there was in no way anything wrong with me and if he could give his heart to me he would bc I was very good to him and respected him. I have never felt this way ab anybody and I know I will never feel this way again. He is not my first love.. But he made me feel like he was. A true love I cannot express enough. Butterflies and falling in love all over again every time I saw him. It felt like he loved me too. Laughing till it hurt and the deep desire in his blue eyes. This sounds like fantasy I know. But I dated him taking one last chance at falling in love and it happened sooner than I expected. I broke the no contact rule. I know. But in a week he leaves to a job for three months and I won’t be able to handle not seeing him again. Now he is getting angry bc I talk ab the pain still, now angry but a little aggravated. He feels worth the wait, but I know that even time won’t heal the wounds of my ordeal if I choose to move on. I want to die. I think of death every day of my life now. Not bc I miss him but bc I know that if I let go of him. I let go of everything he made me realize I was. I need your help. I know that I’m not strong enough to not contact him. The days don’t get easier and the cries only get harder. There is no letting him go, so I need your advice.
admin
October 3, 2013 at 12:53 am
Ok at this point the best thing you can do is focus ON YOU! So, what are you doing to evolve and become better from this breakup during NC?
JJ
October 2, 2013 at 2:30 am
5 years ago, I started seeing a co-worker, but at the time he was in a relationship with someone else and had two children with her. It took me 2 years to finally end things with him, and 4 months later, I started dating my now boyfriend. It’s been over 3 years now since the “ex” and I have have been together, but I still love him as much now as I did then. We’ve never lost contact except for when I decided to ignore him for the first part of my current relationship (probably about 3 months or so)…. At the time, I thought that if I could ignore enough that what I was feeling would somehow go away, but it seems that I’m wrong. During the 3 months that I didn’t talk to him, he would call every week, sometimes several times a week without a response from me… And then one day, the only thing I heard from him was a picture message of his wedding certificate with the girl he has children with. After an emotional breakdown and forcing myself to be “happy”, we began to talk again, and we have been talking regularly since. We never “see” each other, because I’m not sure I could restrain myself from doing something horrible. But today I sent him a message and asked him where he was, and then I went and surprised him. We talked about random stuff and laughed and it felt the same way it used to… so comfortable and easy… But then he kissed me (and yes I kissed him back) and then I left. He called me after I left and told me that he felt like he’d been give a “breath of fresh air
admin
October 3, 2013 at 12:30 am
Well, this is good right. That you guys kissed?
JJ
October 5, 2013 at 1:11 pm
Well, it’s the first time I’ve felt “alive” in a very, very long time…BUT, he’s married to her now and I’m living with my BF. I don’t really see where any good can come of the situation. But, at the same time, he’s the only one who makes me feel so happy and desired and loved. It’s a mess of a situation. Since I wrote you, we’ve seen each other again, and he pretty much calls and/or texts every day now. It feels exactly like it did 5 years ago. All of the old feelings, all of the sexual tension, all of the happiness I’ve been missing… Like I said, complicated. hah
admin
October 6, 2013 at 12:22 am
Yea the him being married to someone else complicates things…. I mean, I don’t think its cool to cheat on anyone ever.
JJ
October 6, 2013 at 12:52 am
It’s not, so that’s where everything gets messy. But we have not done anything other than the one kiss. Maybe it was more of a “let’s see if the chemistry is still there” kind of deal. Not sure. Just trying to figure it all out. Thanks for the input though!
admin
October 6, 2013 at 11:50 pm
No problem. Don’t be a stranger if you have any more questions.
Rose
October 2, 2013 at 1:07 am
Hello,
I’m 35 years of age and this info still applies to us “older folk”. 🙂
I was with a wonderful man for over two years. I fell in love w/him after a year and he said he “cared for me”. I could tell he really struggled with the word “love” and just couldn’t get there. I respected where he was in the the struggle and told him I was open to talking about anything he ever needed to throughout our relationship.
We live in different cities but spend almost every other weekend together. I could tell from the way he looked at me or reached for my hand, he loved me. His attitude and demeanor changed as we continued to date.
He met my family and I met his (something he had only done with one other previous girlfriend). I knew he was serious about me since I was meeting his family and friends. It felt right…very right…
Then…he got to a point where he didn’t know what to do. “I don’t want to break up but I don’t know what to do.” There were tears in his eyes…he’s not a cryer by nature. “I don’t know why this is so hard for me to say. I just can’t say the words, but the closest I’ve ever come to saying ‘I love you’ to someone is with you.” All I wanted to do in that moment is hug him and cry but I held back…scared.
We agreed to a break to give him time to think. I reached out by email once and said I was there to talk if he wanted but if not that was okay. He did email a few times…said he still was confused and unsure but he missed me, and us. That gave me hope.
Upon the end of our time apart, I stupidly arranged to meet him on my 34th birthday. He ended things on that day. I was stunned. VERY hurt. Our parting was the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. I could tell it was hard on him too.
We still communicate via text almost weekly. He has reiterated that I’m very “special” to him and that he “cares” about me. I’ve seen him once since the break up when he agreed to come over to my new apartment and put up the living room curtains for me.
I find it hard to have NC with him… I know I should… am I holding out hope for nothing? Will he always be one of those guys that never settle down, I wonder? (He’s 39 years old now.)
admin
October 3, 2013 at 12:13 am
I think this info applies to just about any age. And you are not old.
I bet you don’t even look 34 ;).
I think you know though that I am really going to suggest the NC rule. Something a little drastic I think will have an interesting effect.
stacececilia
October 1, 2013 at 1:01 am
ex an i been on and off he wanted to take it slow so we were basically friends with benefits. He doesnt talk to me now, we hooked up the other night after his show my guy friend said the way he looked at me was like he still loved me idk what his deal is now. i dont get why he just keeps me at this distance. its like just treat me better than the other friends that are girls you have n be true to me like when we first met n id be the perfect gf we have great chemistry hes just really selfabsorbed, and he got fucked over by someone before me. plz help i think i just need to move on i just dont want to.
admin
October 1, 2013 at 2:55 am
Well, lets figure out first what you want to do.
If you want to get him back I can offer some advice but if you really feel you need to get over him I can help you with that.
But YOU need to come to a decision first.
krissy
September 30, 2013 at 10:28 pm
so lets see if you can answer this one, my boyfriend recently told me he wanted a break, meanwhile he has been seeing another girl. he told me he loves me and hes just confused with himself and what he wants, but then again hes keeping me waiting bc he knows i will. so i started up the no contact rule of yours. its been a week. i went 7 days of not talking to him. its been extremly hard. on day 3 he made his cover photo of them two. i think to make me jealous..its working but thats alittle far especially bc i did nothing to deserve his mean tactic. he changed his profile pic first got 30 likes. then that cover photo..got 3 including one from her and 2 from HER friends. everyone is pissed about this whole situation bc i am a really good girl.its so annoying that he still has not contacted me, i dont know if its because hes scared bc he knew what he did was wrong or if its bc hes a coward, or that he doesnt love me which is hard to understand. i know guys are completly different than girls, so from a guys veiw…even after reading your book and everything on the internet..which keeps my hopes up…what do you think
admin
October 1, 2013 at 2:59 am
Let me see here.
It could be a rebound. And the cover photo/profile pic stuff may just be to get under your skin.
You are smart to not react to it and give him the satisfaction.
krissy
October 2, 2013 at 3:03 pm
so it clearly sounds like im stupid for still wanting to be with him, but i have so many mixed feelings, like im pissed, upset but then again i think its funny especially when reading your stuff …like 90% says rebound relationships wont work. err. so annoyed. anyways thats what i felt it was and im happy you took the time to reassure me.
admin
October 3, 2013 at 1:22 am
Your not stupid for wanting him back. In fact, I think quite the opposite. YOU ARE NORMAL!
krissy
October 4, 2013 at 3:21 am
okay be brutally honest…like the ugly truth honest. should i give up..i love him. but in 4 days it will be 2 weeks. while im sitting around doing nothing to try and win him back (remind you i am w friends and going out to partys, trying to have fun) shes with him. making him like her more. shes already calling him “baby” for real?? seriously broke my heart, legit dropped to where i cant feel it. its her getting to me..not him. remind you i know i have alot going in life..hes 26, has a job..and now chose this girl or rebound as i like to think that has 2 kids and works at a gas station..real winner right
im sure you get so annoyed listening to girls problems
admin
October 4, 2013 at 9:49 pm
Brutally honest truth:
Just realize that this is going to take some time for you to even have a chance. It is going to test you in ways you can’t imagine and if you don’t have a little faith you will probably fail. Nevertheless, I think if you play your cards right you can change the dynamic.
Though it all depends on whether or not you want to try or not.
jane
September 30, 2013 at 7:33 pm
I dated a guy long distance for a yr. We have broken up a few times. The last two because his life is a mess. He is having major financial issues and spends a lot of his time on the road. I was at first extremely pissed off when he broke it off and said he doesn’t want all memories to be bad ones and he doesn’t want to keep pushing me away. He said he doesnt see himself being able to have a healthy relationship with all of his stresses. I have been extremely patient but i deserve more than he can give me. I flipped out and we stayed in contact for 3 days afterward. I then text him and got no response. A day later I said i wasn’t going to contact him anymore bc i need to move on with my life. I wished him the best of luck. He responded thanking me for everything since i have bn there through all of his problems and wished me luck and goodbye. we haven’t spoken since then and I am sticking to that. I have however done a big no no and looked at his fb. He is flirting all over the place. Was all of it a bs excuse? Did he even care? Is he even remotely sad or thinking abt me?
admin
October 1, 2013 at 2:53 am
Have you read the post dedicated to long distance relationships yet?
Ally
September 30, 2013 at 7:28 am
My ex and I broke up about a year ago, he hasn’t seen anyone since, at least nothing serious. No girlfriends or anything… We hung out once after our break up and it was like when we first met. All our feelings rushed back and he kept saying how he wanted to talk things over with me..
Unfortunately we never got the chance to see each other again. He lives far away and he stopped trying to keep contact. I didn’t hear from him for months and I started seeing his bestfriend. At first I knew this was a bad idea and saw a bad reaction coming from this but he never spoke a word to me about it and never said anything to his bestfriend either. He didn’t speak to either of us since.
His bestfriend and I broke up and I tried to see my ex again, I tried speaking with him for his bday and said we should see each other sometime and he didn’t respond..
He hasn’t tried to see me or speak with me unless I’m the first to say something..
I think he’s over me? I just don’t know how I can be certain.. I heard he’s been seeing someone else, but it isn’t very serious..
Since I can never see him in person I don’t know what his reaction would be..
You think he still loves me?
admin
October 1, 2013 at 3:01 am
REfresh my memory again as to why you can’t see him in person again?
Ally
October 1, 2013 at 8:44 pm
I could but he goes to different university, in a different city.
Ally
October 1, 2013 at 8:48 pm
I tried asking him to show me around sometime his new place he just got but he never responded..
After the whole me dating his bestfriend thing he never talks to me.. I have thought about talking to him about it and apologizing, I just don’t feel like I had anything to apologize for.. we hadn’t seen each other for months or even spoken to each other..
I just don’t know how to handle the situation at all.
eya
September 30, 2013 at 3:10 am
my ex. bf broke up with me and still now im hoping that he will come back to me:(
admin
October 1, 2013 at 2:51 am
Ok, have you trie dout the NC rule yet?
Ami
September 28, 2013 at 10:49 pm
Its a year after my boyfriend broke up with me, at first he was really angry and didn’t wanna talk with mw, now I see him pop up everywhere, even his friends keep an eye on me.. One of his friend regularly talks to me about him, about how he’s changed and he’s trying to be a man now. When he sees me he can’t take his eye of me, he keeps staring. But why wont he call or talk to me?
admin
September 30, 2013 at 12:24 am
Maybe he is scared? Maybe he is the type of person that won’t initiate contact.
Ami
September 30, 2013 at 6:10 pm
I tried talking to him a year ago but he didt wanna talk back then..
bleh
September 28, 2013 at 4:24 pm
my boyfriend broke up with me about 4 weeks ago and hes been looking at me weirdly at school.(were both in high school)
he broke up with me because he thought i was flirting with one of my ex’s, and i had a witness who said i didnt even speak to him. he also said i didnt care about him and never bothered to visit him in hospital. firstly i didnt know he was in hospital because he never told me and he didnt answer any of my messages, and secondly i would’ve done if he told me when he was in hospital instead of telling me when he was at home.
i was really surprised when he broke up with me because it came out of no where, we didnt argue or he never dropped hints that things werent working out, he just told me he was breaking up with me.
the thing thats confusingme though is that when he talks to me n facebook, its a normal conversatoin but at school he just doesnt talk to me, he looks at me all the time but wont say 2 words to me. i dont know what to do though because people have been saying he stil likes me but i dont know whether to beleieve them or not.
i really like him and we talk everyday but im not sure what to do. ive been talking to him for advice on what to do about boy situations and all he said is ‘ask ’em out’ but i have a 95% feeling he’ll say no.
when he asked me out, he didnt tell me, he didnt text me, call me, not a word, but he came to my house and we went out for the day, when we were about to go our seperate ways, he kissed me, it was a full on kiss and i didnt see it coming. he said he’ll always love me and he always has. it was the most romantic thing ever and thats how we ended up dating.
i really dont know what to do, should i tell him i still like him, or do i completely ignore him altogether? 🙁
admin
September 30, 2013 at 12:05 am
Honestly, I think ignoring him via the NC rule is the best bet.
andrea
September 28, 2013 at 3:04 am
hey me and my ex were together for a year and 2 months but we been broken up for 2 years every time we talk we fight about every thing but when I get off the phone or Skype he always tell me he good night and that he misses me but when I bring up getting back togerher he dosent want to talk about so help me plz what should I do
admin
September 29, 2013 at 11:24 pm
Sounds to me like he is running away from a confrontation. While I don’t think confronting him will work necessarily well I think a NC rule is the smartest thing to do at this point.
eve
September 27, 2013 at 4:37 pm
My ex broke up with me 5 days ago. He told me that we should break up. It was happen right after we finished the breakfast on sunday. My ex and I were dated for 2 and half years. I met his parents and other family members during the Thanksgiving. we didn’t live together, but we see each other every sunday or some other day if we have time. Past couple months I have been a texted and called gnat because I felt his distance from me. 3 weeks ago, he went to Las Vegas with his friends. He asked me to go with him, but I can’t go because of my work. He even asked me a permission to go to the las vegas. I said yes, even though I don’t want him to go. We had a text messages battle for 3 days. He told me that He will be a my house at 5pm, but he showed up at 9.30pm. I waited for him more than 5 hours. I also blocked him from facebook too ! because I was mad at him. I think this maybe the reason he broke up with me 🙁
When we broke up, he told me that he is very happy to be with me and do things with me, but he feel it more like a friend rather than a couple. He had his tear too. At night, I texted him, but he didn’t respond, so I called him. He picked up the phone and talked with me, but he don’t want to talk about what happen today.
My ex and I will have a dinner again on this sunday coming up. We will have where we went for my birthday. But we didn’t arrange the time of the dinner yet.
Also, I accidentally, texted and called him once, but he din’t respond to my texted or my call.
I really want an advice from a guy perspective. He is an american and I’m asian. I think my ex and I can fix the problems because I felt like we never talk about the problem at all.
admin
September 28, 2013 at 3:17 am
Yes I think so too as long as you talk about the problem.
What is your plan going forward on that?