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Katy
February 5, 2015 at 5:04 am
I dated this guy for almost a year. I started the relationship out kinda shitty by cheating on him. He forgave me then turns out he had to forgive me many times after that. I honestly have no idea why I cheated. I guess I just didn’t want to lose what I had with my ex. After a while me and the guy were great. We learned that we had so much in common. He’s perfect in every way possible. Its unexplainable. I never wanna lose him. After he broke up with me when he found out I hung out with my ex again (I didn’t do anything with him though) I waited about 3 months before I talked to him. I told him that I know I messed up and I was sorry. All he did was sit there and he looked so confused. About 3 weeks later he was calling me saying I should come over. Ive hung out with him many times since then and we broke up 4 months ago. Im so confused. I don’t know whether he wants to be mine again or not. Hes never once mentioned going back out but we have a lot of moments when we feel sparks. When we first started talking again, we didn’t know what to say to eachother. I just wanna know how he feels and if he wants to date me. Ugh im so confused.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:41 pm
Why did you cheat?
Denise Ontiveros
February 5, 2015 at 1:12 am
Hello. This was very helpful. I got dumped today by my boyfriend of 4 years. I cheated on him about 2 years ago, and never told him. I regret this terribly, and I hate myself for it. I should’ve told him, but he found out from someone else around October, and I confirmed it was true. We tried to make it work, and he said he would give me another chance. Well these people ended up telling him lies and told him I cheated on him again with my ex and with other people. THIS IS FALSE. He doesn’t believe me, and dumped me because “he wants to hear the truth from me.” I’ve tried to find out who told him this so we can talk about it and fix it but he won’t say. I’ve been asking if he would want to confront the guys that I supposedly cheated on him with, but again, “he wants to hear the truth from me.” I told him I would not admit to something I didn’t do, and he called mea liar and dirty. I am so hurt. I know that my words are tainted, and I can see why he doesn’t believe me because of my past , but he left me for a lie, and I cannot stop crying. I need advice please. Thanks.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:29 pm
I can understand his position…
He has trouble believing you right now since you did cheat on him in the past.
Bella
February 4, 2015 at 4:15 pm
I was with my ex for nearly 10 months then I broke it off with him because I found out he was messaging a girl and was being dodgy but I was still so inlove with him and of course we were going to get back together. Anyways a week later I was having drinks with a couple of hes mates and my friends I was pretty antoxicated and i kissed 2 of hes good mates, I was devastated I didn’t mean to do it I felt terrible and hated myself for it because I knew what the consequences would be when he found out, the next day when he found out he hated my guts and said he doesn’t love me anymore has no feelings and said he would never get back with me ever again and that nothing could change hes mind because he’s mind was already made up, he didn’t show any feelings that it had hurt him but I know he would of been broken in half.
A couple days later I went to a friends house and he was there, I tried talking to him but alls I was getting was yelled at and couldn’t really get 2 senses in so I went to bed and he came in later and cuddled me he said he still loves me but can’t forgive me and then we had sex. The next morning he woke up and said it was a slip up and it wasn’t meant to happen and we had a really big fight and we didn’t talk to each other for 2 weeks.
2 weeks later our friend had a gathering and he was there and we hadn’t spoken the whole time so it was abit awkward, at the end of the night I went into a room and he followed me in there he shut the door and started bringing it up what happened and how I’m a dog for doing it for about 2 minutes and I said move I want to get out because I was over he’s shit, then he wouldn’t let me leave then broke down started balling he’s eyes out in my arms and said that he misses me and still loves me, I said I miss you to. We then slept in the same bed and he was being so lovey dovey it was beautiful.
We woke up the next day and he was still being nice he kept kissing me and cuddling me as if we were dating again and wanted me to stay the night again, so I did we had a good talk and I asked if we would ever get Back together again and he’s said
“it would be hard for both of us to forget everything that’s happened in the past but I still love and care for you”so this is were I’m stuck and don’t know what to do anymore because I want to be with him because I’m still so inlove
And he’s inlove with me so I don’t know why we can’t just be together.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:05 pm
He is probably upset about the cheating still…
Bella
February 6, 2015 at 6:44 pm
I never cheated on him….
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:50 pm
Unfortuantely you posed in the cheating section so I thought you had.
I am so sorry.
Andrea
February 3, 2015 at 8:00 pm
I was dating a boy for two weeks, which does not seem like a long time at all, but I like him a lot. I went to a party and he called me on the phone mad because we never hang out (his idea of us hanging out was me lying to my parents and going to his friends house to hang out with him). He only ever asked me on an actual date once but other than that we would just hang out when I had to lie to my parents by saying I was at my friends house. So he called me on the phone mad because of the situation, I was drunk and started crying, another boy (one of my guy friends) was there comforting me. One thing led to another and we made out. Recently my exboyfriend broke up with me “because we never hang out”. This weekend (2 days after being broken up) he called me mad because he found out I cheated on him. Is there any way I could get him back, he is all I think about, I feel numb.
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:06 pm
How old are you guys?
He only asked you out on one official date?
Seriously?
lesiba
February 3, 2015 at 11:55 am
Do wat you have to do
Keke
February 3, 2015 at 9:58 am
I was with my EX for 6 months,we met @ a party and I played hard to get for a while then we finally hooked up and decided to give us a try,as time went on things where oky,but his that kinda guy who doesn’t go out that much his in his early 30s nd I’m in my early 20s.1 day I decided to go to on a short trip with my cuz nd her bf nd I didn’t tell then posted it on watsap nd he found out.he askd me abt it fisrt nd I lied to him,untill I felt corned nd had to tell him the truth.I didn’t cheat on him or anything like that I jst kept a secret.so he tried to get over it we we’re cool untill on new years I askd him to hold my phone for me,guess wat he looked thru it,and a text meassage of me texting some guy to come pick me up so we can go out nd have drinkz.And he askd me abt it I also lied amd tried to cover it up.he did try to forget about it but,he just couldn’t bear the thought of everything that happend and he broke it off with me…so as any other woman would do I tried to save my realtionship in any possible way I cloud I called,ambushed him,trick meetings and still it didn’t work he just doest see us getting back togther agin.we had an abortion by the way late december before all this happend I really love him and want to be with him. He says he still wants to keep in touch if that’s oky with me and he says he has forgiven me but it doesn’t mean we gone get back together.
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:44 pm
What is his past history?
Was he ever married or anything like that?
Not cool about the guy asking you for drinks and you wanting to go… (just sayin…)
Why did you feel the need to do that do you think?
Tamara
February 1, 2015 at 10:17 am
I was in a relationship with a guy for 1 year, when i met another guy who i felt crazily in love. i was in relationship with both of them for a period of 3 months, because i couldnt break up my long time relationship. Everything felt apart and i broke up with both of them; but i want the guy that i met last and i was only for 3 months with him to be mine again, i know that i lie to him and i cheated on him, But is it possible to get him back or not, and how?
Keke
February 3, 2015 at 10:12 am
Wait a minute so you we’re in a relationship with both of them?so which I do you want back your current EX or your former EX?
Tamara
February 3, 2015 at 3:25 pm
now i broke up with both of them, the one i want back is the new guy with whom i was for 3 months, i tried to keep distance but he is texting me and i replay to him, he is so angry with me, i dont see it coming at all
Tamara
February 3, 2015 at 3:26 pm
yes i was in relation with both of them
Tamara
February 9, 2015 at 5:06 pm
it has passed a week that we don’t communicate 🙁 and i miss him so much, how i should wait 30 days to pass?
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:22 pm
I don’t know what to tell you other than just do the 30 days haha.
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:06 pm
Its possible but lets see where you are at right now.
Have you attempted NC or anything recommended on this site yet?
Mary
January 30, 2015 at 6:52 pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years and currently live together. I started texting a coworker, sometimes inappropriate but never acted on it. I would tell my friends via facebook about it and how fun it was getting attention from someone new. My boyfriend found the facebook messages to my friends which included some screen shots of the texts. He texted me to get all my stuff out of his house and that we are over. I never necessarily “cheated” but talking to someone else can be catagoried like that. I don’t know what to do. I love my boyfriend so much but he won’t let me talk to him, he just wants me out of his house.
admin
January 31, 2015 at 3:43 pm
Define “sometimes inappropriate?”
I mean, technically you emotionally cheated…
Mary
January 31, 2015 at 5:09 pm
It did cross the line a couple of times talking about private things. I understand emotional cheating. I’m moving out tomorrow and he won’t even look at me.
admin
February 2, 2015 at 1:45 pm
Anything sexual though?
Mary
February 2, 2015 at 2:28 pm
One conversation did get sexual. I have been texting back and forth with my boyfriend answering any questions he has but he says it
Doesn’t matter and we will never work through this
Tiana
January 29, 2015 at 8:25 pm
I recently cheated on my boyfriend with my ex boyfriend. It only happened once and I regretted it after it happened! A week went on and I still haven’t told him. I didn’t know how to bring it up. I was going to do it! But befor so had the chance my best friend took into leberty and told him herself. That was yesterday.. I called him up and he just wants to know why. He wants to understand and I’ve told him everything he just doesn’t trust me which I completely understand. We’re still ‘together’ he says he doesn’t want to lose me but it just hurts him a lot. He told me he forgives me and that he still loves me but the next day(today) it goes back to the start! He wants to understand and keeps asking why. I’m trying my best to do anything i can to get him back! Have any advice for a shallow girl like me):? Idk if this helps but i cheated cause he isn’t around a lot. He lives in Arlington and only comes down for the weekend. He seem to fight about every stupid thing. If it a joke I made or something he said. And I know this is bad but I wanted to know if I still had feelings for my ex… Please I could really use your advice !
admin
January 30, 2015 at 4:07 pm
How far did you go with your ex?
Was it just a simple kiss or all the way?
If you and your boyfriend are long distance you need a plan to work towards to eventually wind up together.
Andrea
January 28, 2015 at 8:47 pm
I dated my (ex) for 7 years now. We have a son that just turned 2. I love this mam to death. But I stepped out on him with an old friend. And to make it worse a had a fb when we told each other none of that. So one night he found it and now were in the situation of me and my son leaving. I want him back so bad, I need help. His very hard headed to make matters worse. Please someone help me I want my family back together.
admin
January 29, 2015 at 2:44 pm
Why did you cheat on him in the first place though?
Sarah
January 24, 2015 at 2:37 am
I dated a guy for 2 years and then I cheated on him. During a drunken night I hooked up with one of my guy friends. The next day I told my boyfriend and it was absolutely horrible. He was so upset and hurt and it was the first time I’ve ever seen him cry. I was sad and angry at myself because it was a huge mistake. I felt like my boyfriend didn’t love me or appreciate me and I think that’s why I cheated. But obviously I should have done something like talk to him instead of cheat on him. I apologized so much and it made me realize how much I do love him and want to be with him. The next 10 months were so up and down..mostly down. We would be so on and off and one day he would forgive me and tell me he loved me and the next he despised me. It made me feel even worse because I felt like I truly ruined his life. I changed him from the day I told him. So after 10 long depressing months he finally told me he can never be with me again and he doesn’t want to have anymore contact. I was really sad, but I knew that it’s best and I had no control over it. I missed him. I would pathetically text him every once in awhile and he would freak out on me telling me to leave him alone or not answer at all. Around 5 months after he had officially broken it off with me, he texted me randomly asking to hang out. So, naive me, I did. We hung out a few times and would have sex but then he wouldn’t talk to me after for a whole month or so. I got mad at myself because I said I wouldn’t do this again, just let him mess with my head. I could never tell if he wanted to be with me or not. A few months later I met a guy and we started dating and we’ve been dating for a year and a half now, and I still think about my ex. He has texted me a few times during my new relationship and I have even ran into him in public and he’s very nice saying we should catch up. I don’t know what to make of it but I admit I miss him. Will I ever stop missing him? I would never make the same mistake again of cheating but I don’t know what to do.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:45 pm
You will stop missing him but it will take time.
Kaitlyn
January 22, 2015 at 2:13 pm
I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years. The past 2 years of our relationship had been filled with tension and unhappiness. He never went on dates, and our communication was severely lacking. I reached out to a friend who then expressed that he had feelings for me. It was nice to feel wanted and needed and have someone make me smile again, so about a month I was in this place where I thought this guy was so much better than my boyfriend, and I started to wonder if I even wanted to date my current boyfriend anymore. My boyfriend caught on to the fact that I was so happy around this other guy, and felt like he was losing me so decided to come back emotionally. We had several long talks about how he had been suffering from depression to do stress at home and school and be felt like he had no one to talk to because I didn’t listen. He then found out about the cheating through some rumors spread to mutual friends from the guy. Some were true and some were not. He also caught me one night walking out to the guys car. This all culminated with the first time he almost broke up with me. This was the worst night of my life and made me realize just how much I do love him and how he is the one I want to be with. After a few days, he forgave me because he said he just needed and acknowledgement of what I did and an apology. I wanted to forget about all of it and move on, and I thought we were. He planned this awesome trip to charleston, sc for us and he spared no expense. We made love every single day, and our relationship felt stronger than ever. I had pretty much stopped talking to the other guy other than the fact he was in one of my classes and we had studied together a couples times. My boyfriend said he didn’t care, but I should have known if wasn’t ok for us to be studying late at night. The second blow up occurred two days ago (we got back from charleston on Monday and it was now Tuesday). I had plans to study with the guy, but before I wanted go spend as much time with my boyfriend as possible. We watched a movie and made dinner and drank wine. It was great. Then I saw him being sketchy with his phone, and asked what he was doing. He said he was on yik yak and I casually asked him what he was posting. He told me I didn’t want to see his posts, which raised alarms. Finally, after arguing I read his posts. For the past 2 weeks he had been posting passive aggressive things about me, one of which he posted the day we got back from our trip. I felt so confused and hurt because I thought he had forgiven me and we were doing well… Cue big fight. I shouldn’t have gone to meet the guy to study, but I did. And I was still angry at my boyfriend. At this point, my boyfriend somehow found a way to see txts my phone was sending and receiving. So he saw me vent to the guy. He saw the guy ask to come over after we studied for our class. He saw him call m babe. I didn’t let the guy cole over, but this was enough for my boyfriend. He stormed over to my apartment and yelled that we were done and took all his things. He yelled and I cried until 2am. This was 2 days ago. Yesterday, he finally decided to talk to me. He says he has 0 trust in me and doesn’t know what he wants to do. He said I shoo do have known it wasn’t ok for me to be studying with the guy and him calling me babe and asking to come over should have never been an option. I hate that I hurt him so much. He is the love of my life and I made a huge mistake. Please help me. I’m desperate.
yasar
January 24, 2015 at 10:01 am
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admin
January 22, 2015 at 5:15 pm
He is understandably angry about the other guy…
If you want to save your relationship you should have killed the relationship with this guy starting all the trouble between you two.
Kaitlyn
January 23, 2015 at 1:03 am
I have now. And all my boyfriend says is that he doesn’t care and doesn’t know what he wants to do. I don’t want to lose him. What should I do?
Kaitlyn
January 22, 2015 at 1:42 pm
I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years. 2 of this years were filled with tension and unhappiness due to lack of communication as well as stress of school/ personal stress. After 2 years of him never asking me on a date or seeming to make an effort to make me feel wanted/ needed, I felt empty and like I had no one. I reached out to a friend I had known for 2 years. And he ended up tellingly that he has liked me for a while. All of our friends warned me that he was a snake when it came to girls, but it felt so nice to be listened to and not feel lonely. To have someone who made you smile. Well my boyfriend noticed this change in my level of happiness when I was around him. We had several long talks about how he had been suffering from depression for the last 2 years due to stress at home and school, and he felt like he had no one to talk to because he felt like I didn’t listen. So I tried to start listening. Eventually, some rumors came out in out friend group (some thing were true and others were not) and he caught me walking out to the guys car one night. That’s the first night I almost lost him, and that was the night where I realized just how much he means to me and his much I love him. After a few days, he said that he forgave me because he just needed me to acknowledge what I did and apologize. So we were starting fresh, and it felt wonderful. We were going on dates and he made me light up like when we first started dating. Things seemed great, and I had all but stopped talking to the other guy. We are in a class together so I asked my boyfriend if it would be ok for us to study together in a public place. He said that it was ok, so we had 3 study sessions. My boyfriend planned this awesome trip to charleston, sc which was supposed to be our “bridge” (reference sex and the city if you don’t know what I’m talking about). He spared no expense and completely spoiled me. We had a great time, and we made love every day we were there. It was like old times and although before I had my doubts about if I wanted to be with him, this solidified to me that he is the one I’m supposed to be with. Well we get back, and the other guy asks to study together. I didn’t think anything of it, and I should have. But I ask my boyfriend if it was ok, and he says he doesn’t care. Before I left to study, I wanted to spend every second with my boyfriend. We watched a movie and drank wine and it was great. Then I saw him being sketchy on his phone, and asked what he was doing. He was on Yik Yak and I asked casually what he was yakking about. He replied “you don’t want to see my yaks” to which I then got worried and after he fought me on it, I finally saw he had been posting passive aggressive yik yaks about me for the past 2 weeks, one if which dated the day we got back from our trip. He was posting things like “all I want is someone to lay in bed with all day and drink wine” and “I don’t care how bad things are, cheating is never the answer. Have some class. ” the one from the day we got back from our trip was “I wish my gf appreciated all the things I do for her. ” I felt really upset because he had been telling me and acting like things were better and he had forgiven me and we had moved past my huge mistake. Cue fight. After we fought, I was supposed to go study with the guy, and I stupidly still went. My boyfriend at this point was very upset, and somehow found a way to read my texts using my version account. So he saw me vent to this guy, and he saw ghe guy ask to come over (which included him calling me babe). I told him he couldn’t come, but as soon as I got back my boyfriend came over and yelled at me that we were done and took all of his things. We fought and he read me the messages he saw and I cried and tried to keep him from leaving until about 2am. This was 2 days ago, and I haven’t been able to eat or sleep since. I feel like my heart is constantly racing, and I want to erase everything so badly. Yesterday he finally decided to talk to me, and he said he just didn’t know how he felt and if he wanted to give me the chance to earn his trust back. He said it should never have seemed like an option for him to ask to come over or to call me babe. He has 0 trust in me, and says that he loves me but he doesn’t know what he wants or what we should do. I love him. I’ve been with him for 4 years through thick and thin. I thought we would get married. I know I messed up big time and I wish I could go back and change it because he is truly a great loving caring guy who will do anything for you. He’s my other half. That’s hard to find in this hookup culture we live in. I hate that I hurt him. I hate myself for doing this and causing this pain when everything appeared to be going well. I don’t know what to do. He knows I’m sorry and he knows I love him, but he doesn’t know if he wants to continue to be with me since he feels like he can’t trust me. Please help me. I’m desperate.
Liezel
January 21, 2015 at 12:00 pm
i was fighting with my bf and got temper and broke the phone that he bought me, now he says he feels like i dont love him anymore because i broke something that he gave me out of his love…. So what do i do on this situation?
admin
January 21, 2015 at 3:24 pm
Well, first of all don’t break stuff that doesn’t paint you in a good light ever.
Secondly, I noticed you wrote on the “YOU cheated on him” section. Did you cheat on him?
Krissy
January 20, 2015 at 6:14 pm
Alright, my boyfriend and I have been together a year. Just these past few months have been REALLY rough. He doesn’t want me talking to anyone, no guys, nothing. I went to extreme measures to prove to him I do as he says and keep to myself in public and at school. I gave him the password to my Facebook so he could look to see if I was talking to anybody but him. He ended up finding some old messages between me and some of my guy friends and he was beyond upset. (There were some recent ones but it was meaningless conversations.) he then declared he can’t trust me. Also there’s this guy I’ve been friends with as long as I can remember. There is nothing between us but great friends and he’d always make sure I was okay. Just a caring friend ya know? Then he enforces I am to never have any contact with him ever again. This was the hardest thing ever to hear. I tried too, but after avoiding him and not talking to him(he didn’t know the reason and was hurt) I couldn’t do it so I secretively still spoke to him and everything because if I were to tell my boyfriend he wouldn’t accept. He found out and accusations came and he accused me of cheating by talking to other guys, which I haven’t cheated, cuz as I’m aware talking to friends isn’t cheating. He says he can’t trust me and I’m full of lies and all that. I’m confused, I feel he’s trying to control me and everything. Actually I think he is. What do I do? I’ve done everything to prove to him I’m trustworthy and everything in between.. Oh and he broke up with me today but he’s still emailing me everything I’ve done wrong (in his eyes) please help.
admin
January 21, 2015 at 3:01 pm
Ok, he clearly has a warped definition of cheating..
Talking to other guys isn’t cheating, Kissing or holding hands though, well that may be another story.
Taylor
January 13, 2015 at 5:12 am
Hi there… So me and my ex boyfriend dated for 2 years, than broke up, than got back together for 3 months than broke it off again. Obviously there is something wrong and its not going as planned. He is a senior in high school and i’m a sophomore in college, i know that sounds crazy but in age wise were a year and 3 months apart. Anyway, our relationship status was going great when i meant him as friends than i took him to prom and that’s when we began to date. I than had this weekend thing for my school and i seen this one kid that i liked before my ex and i dated, but thought nothing of it. Well… as the weekend approached us and it was 48 hours in that me and my ex was dating i kissed the other boy. ( as he went in for it first). I felt bad, and told all my friends when i got back and asked them if that was cheating and the said yes. I didn’t want to believe them, but i knew it was wrong too. I didn’t want to tell my boyfriend(ex) cuz i knew he would break up with me. SO it was 3 months later and he asked if there was anything i wanted to tell him, so i told him what happened cuz it had been bothering me, and he took it to heart and it hurt him. He was more upset that i didn’t tell him right away, instead i had to wait for him to ask three months later. I felt bad and still do sometimes, but he got over it ( i thought), but seemed to be fine and we moved on from it. Than we had mini break ups in between for dumb reasons cuz we were young, but than he thought i cheated on him with some other guy.Than he heard that i stared to kiss other guys, and i felt as if i was a target that people wanted to pinpoint at. I told him all that i knew and just gave him honesty and he believed me. It was my senior year and we were pretty solid and did all that we could together cuz i was leaving in the fall for college. He told me he loved me and we would always be together no matter what, and i guess i was dumb enough to believe and trust in that. We than spent all summer together and when fall came it seemed to be a disaster and it was tough. I stayed at home and commuted and he seemed to not want to make it work out. He made excuses to not see me, or just said he didn’t have time with school, friends, and family, so there for i wasn’t important to him. I was mad and told him off and we would fight for days and say things to hurt each other. I hated it and i wished we didn’t say things like that because i care so much about him. I than didn’t talk to him for 3 weeks and he texted me saying he couldn’t like with out me, he was wrong for what he did and that he wanted to talk and take things slow.. Well i gave him a couple of days and wouldn’t you know the 3rd day came and it was like he was back to him old self and didn’t care again. I was hurt and confused to why he always did this. I didn’t know if he was getting back at me or what exactly he was thinking. So we go back and forth talking, than fighting. He will text me now and than and say all theses reasons he wants to make this work and be together, the thing is i’m at school living in the dorms now and hes a senior. He says he can’t handle a long distance relationship, but he hasn’t even tried. He said it was a trust issue thing and also cuz he wants to seem me like everyday. Its like he needs a relationship where he can rely on someone each and everyday to be able to see them to full fill his life style. ( i think its OK sometimes,but you also need your own space too). I’m lost and confused in what he wants as too the other night he text-ed me saying hes scared to admit that he misses me, but yet he still acts like a jerk to me, uses me, takes advantage of me , and also messes with my feelings. He even had to make up a lie to say that i cheated on someone while we were dating two years ago, so that he could feel like hes winning. I tell him how i feel about all of this and how much i miss him and all the above. He was my first real relationship and i feel like he does miss me at times and he knows that he wants to try this all over again and go slow, but i don’t know what he thinks. He lies to me and says how he feels but will say ( well i was only feeling them for that day). like that’s not even OK in my mind. I tried not talking to him for two weeks and he would text me but i would delete him and i blocked him on all that i could, cuz i didn’t want him to know what i’m doing, i want him to ask me instead. I know i have jumped all over the place and rambled, but i love this person will all of my heart and i believe and have high hopes that we will get together one day, but 90% of me says that we may not. It hurts and i wish i knew what to do, but i have done everything from notes, letters, text messages, videos, and talk in person and nothing seems to help. He doesn’t let go of the past, he also doesn’t come from a good house hold or parenting. I feel and he also told me that when i came into his life, i pretty much was the best thing that had happened to him. I took him places he has never been before to see and he was so amazed. It was like living in the little town was all that he knew. He is a great person ( was), band i know that we both have changed and he knows that, but i just want us back together and he just doesn’t let go of things and its only me that wasn’t him back. My family and friends seem to disagree and tell me to move on, but the heart wants what it wasn’t you know? and he knows me so well and what we had people were jealous of and we were a couple that tried to talk things out, and we would always have special little dates and do all that we could because we cherished each moment together and now its so different. we both haven’t (moved on) to anyone, just trapped in this mess and i just want to fix it. If you have anything that we could try or do that would be helpful please respond. Thank you.
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:42 pm
Well, he obviously had some issues with you kissing that other guy.
Any guy would feel demasculated.
I think it just haunts him inside.
sarah sosa
January 9, 2015 at 1:02 am
Ok so I cheated on my bf with my ex for months without him finding out about it until they both found out I was playing them. After I felt bad because of what I did so I didn’t want to be with any of them. But my bf told me to let him be with me. I told him no bc I cheated on him and he said he forgave me and he loved me, etc. So I stayed with him. We moved in together and lived together for 7 months, we both worked and went half on the bills.but then after I wasn’t working for 3 months because I got injured at work. He said I was stressing him out because I wasn’t helping him with bills. And that the thing about me cheating on him will always be in the back of his head. I told him that I had told him in the beginning that I didn’t want to be with any of them because of what I did. Now he kicked me out of the house and I keep chasing him because I’m so in love. We went out for a year but he is the love of my life and he keeps telling me yo stop contacting him and to forget about him. I don’t know what to do? 🙁
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:24 pm
You didnt feel bad during the actually cheating?
Have you attempted no contact.
lily
January 8, 2015 at 9:37 pm
I just recently cheated on my boyfriend and a few days ago he found out. On and off i spoke with the old contacts i had on skype that were guys over the two month period that me and my boyfriend were together as i got really lonely while my boyfriend was at work and we are in a long distance relationship. On skype i spoke with a few guys and all i really wanted was just to take that lonely feeling away as ive felt it for nearlly my whole life, which is because of the mental disorder i have. I thought if i talk on skype with somebody i wont be lonely anymore since u have no friends in real life basically and im an aspie so to be physically with somebody is very hard for me i have great social difficulties but i feel like skype is fake as the guys that i spoke with who i met on facebook and you cant physically be with them. The guys were from diffrent countries. They asked me to take off my cloths and being afraid that ill loose that friendship with them, i did that, several time when my boyfriend was at work. while speaking with him on the phone he would hear my buzz as i got a message from skype. I told him i get messages from there but i dont reply them. Later i told him that i did talk with people on there but nothing sexual and a few days ago i deleted my skype account he was curious as to why i did that. I told him because i had too many friends on there then he asked then why didnt you just delete them. He soon figured out that there must be a sexual reason and i told him everything. Now he doesnt trust me at all. Im so afraid ill loose him. Hes so good to me. Does everything right to me. Treats me like a queen. Now i dont know what to do. He tells me he needs time. What can i say to him? I feel i have paid a huge price for my mistakes. I want him back and this mistake has made me realise i want to be with him so very badly. He seems perfect for me, until i ruined it all. Now i just need him back. Im so emotional. I dont think i can stop crying for a minute. Im so desperate and i regret what i did most of all. The mistake has made me realise how wrong it is and i swear on my life i could never do this again, its killing me this situation. I need help big time. I dont know what to say to him. I can feel that there is a very high chance that im gonna loose him 🙁 im completely ready to fully commit and change myself but he tells me that he doesnt need a slut. That he need somebody who is truthful naturally.help!! 🙁
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:20 pm
Ok, you really messed up here.
The fact that you felt you had to take off your clothes to retain a frienship means that those people aren’t friend material.
Ileeen
January 8, 2015 at 4:05 pm
I told my fiance I cheated on him a year ago before we were engaged. I dont know what hes thinking. I had to leave his house because after the conversation he ignored me. I asked if he wanted his ring back and he didn’t answer. I asked if he wanted to stay with me he said hes confused. His reaction was very calm. Im so worried hes going to call off everything and lose him. I wanted to start off our marriage with trust and honesty and thats why I told him. I hope he can see that. I dont know what to do other than to give him his space for now.
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:10 pm
What made you cheat?
Kasindra
January 8, 2015 at 5:06 am
Okay, my (ex) boyfriend just broke up with me/told me he needed a break last night because he said he needed time to himself to get over me cheating on him. We started dating in 2013 in August. We went on a date and then it just turned into dating. I knew him from the year before kind of, but other than that we were complete strangers. The second month in I cheated on him 4 times with one guy and then once more in December with the same guy. I was going through a lot in my own life and I just got out of a year long relationship in June. We weren’t supposed to date, we both agreed that what we were doing was just to make each other happy and the moment one of us wasn’t happy it was over. I told him about it in December of 2013 and he told me he wanted to leave me but that he also knew we could get through it. For the past year we have grown stronger and happier and I hope one day to marry him and have a family with him. The first couple months was really hard but he kept saying it was worth it. And that he wanted to be with me.
Last night he came home and he started crying before he even said the words. I don’t believe in breaks so he jumped to breaking up. But we are still each others and we aren’t going to be with other people and/or have sexual relations with others either. He told me he needed time to himself to get passed it, its been over a year since it has happened. He told me he still has flashbacks to it and that he over thinks everything. But he also tells me he’s never been happier with anyone else and that he wants it to work. He texted me first today telling me he was sorry. I feel like that’s a good sign that he started the conversation. We have been talking all day and it’s been good. I am guarded because I am preparing myself for the end end. But he keeps telling me that theres no reason for that because we are getting back together.
Given my circumstances do you think I should follow through with the ‘no contact order’ for the 30 days. Or should I just wait for him to text me. I’ve come to my own conclusion to send him Good morning and Good night texts to let him know I’m still thinking about him. Since he is verifying that we are getting back together do you think I have anything to worry about?