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my le
March 27, 2014 at 2:19 am
I broke up with my ex. I said”f@!# you and f&*$ your family. I told him to get all of his belongings out of my house. I regretted it and I want him back. He doesnt pick ip my calls or respond my email. I broke the nk contact rule. It has been a month since we broke up. A few days ago, I sent a fruit bouquet to his work and apologized. I said I will try to change. The problem is I disrespected him times after times and he is fed up and doesnt believe that I will change. What can I do to get hi talking to me? Do I have any hole of getting him back? I dont like his mom. What can I do?
admin
March 27, 2014 at 11:54 pm
Do you have any hole of getting him back?
I hope to god that was an autocorrect.
Em
March 27, 2014 at 12:36 am
Hi Chris, I hope you can help. I broke up with my ex about 4 years ago and he’s STILL with his rebound girlfriend. He is 33 years old, and everyone comments about how they are not yet engaged, and he says there is no plans to do so on the horizon (not to me, to my brother in law). I still have a good relationship with him, as he is my dentist, but we are not close. However, I don’t think that this girl is THE ONE and I want another chance with him!
Can I still implement these steps? I’m worried that she may see texts or he may tell her I contacted him, although they don’t live together. Is that just a risk I have to take? Any help is GREATLY appreciated, thank you!!
~Em
admin
March 27, 2014 at 11:49 pm
How long has he been with her. 4 years?
I don’t think she is a rebound at this point.
Debs
March 26, 2014 at 1:43 pm
The problem I recently have is just the same as Larae (March 24, 2014). Ans I obviously want him back to me!! Please kindly help!!
admin
March 26, 2014 at 5:49 pm
Whats your problem?
Katie
March 26, 2014 at 5:39 am
Im in tears my bf leat me yeaterday .
Can u email me and help im nervous about posting….
admin
March 26, 2014 at 5:40 pm
I am sorry I dont really respond to many emails anymore.
Dakota Bogert
March 26, 2014 at 1:21 am
My ex and I have been broken up for a month, he says he wants me in the future, but wants me to wait for him to be ready for a relationship. -One day he wants to be with me, the next he doesn’t & so on! I’m doing everything in my power to get him back, and he’s doing nothing. Then the other night he told me he was in love with me & the next day he said he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore & that we’ll never be together. Why does he do this to me?
Via
March 25, 2014 at 2:39 pm
I dated a guy for almost two years. We started dating the end of my junior year/the end of his freshman year, and he broke up with me my second semester of college. Literally 3 days into the second semester. That was about 14 months ago. I tried to stay as mad as I possibly could with him so I wouldn’t miss him, but now that its been so long, I miss him more than everything. Every day I think about him and wish we could be back together. I recently tried talking to him and told him that I still love him and want to try again, but this is where it gets difficult. We are both in new relationships. We’ve both tried several relationships since breaking up. None of them last very long, normally about a month or two. We both seem to be settling for the person we are currently dating, but he refuses to admit it. I ran into him the other day while visiting my high school, like literally turned a corner and walked into him. We talked a little and it was quite awkward. I asked him if he ever thinks about trying us again, and he said yes, but not now because he has a girlfriend. He gave me the longest hug after that, and I started crying because I’m a girl and that’s what we do. After that, I watched his girlfriend come over to him, and they did not acknowledge each other’s presence. There was no hugs, no kisses, no hand holding. They didn’t even walk near each other. I also know they fight quite a lot and he walks out on her all the time (which he never did to me) because his girlfriend is my little brother’s best friend’s older sister (small town problems). It also gets more difficult because he is leaving for the marines August 4 for three months, and then will be gone 4 years after that. His girlfriend already says she highly doubts they’ll be together by August. It seems like one of the worst relationships I’ve ever seen, but I know I can’t get involved and try to break them up, and that I just have to wait for things to happen. But he refuses to remember how great our relationship was. We would write love letters to each other, we’d do everything together and neither of us had ever been so happy. In addition to that, he keeps telling himself that I’m a horrible person and I was such a bitch especially during the breakup, which everyone knows is not true. It seems that he tries to tell himself that everything was so horrible and refuses to remember the good times we had because, in my opinion, he still cares for me and this is his way to try not to fall for me again. I’m not sure what to do anymore. Every day I’m so torn because I constantly think about him and wish we could be together again, but he won’t really acknowledge my existence. I keep trying to just wait until he and his current girlfriend break up, but I also have my boyfriend. I care for him, I definitely do, but I don’t love him like I love my ex. It’s just not the same. Sorry for the book, but I could really use some advice or wise words.
A.Douglas
March 25, 2014 at 2:41 am
What do you do for the no contact rule if u have classes with your ex?
I have first period with him and we hang out with the same people as well as involved in most of the same activity’s .
admin
March 25, 2014 at 4:45 pm
Just be super classy and nice if he talks to you but kind of short and don’t engage him in any conversations. If he engages don’t be rude though.
A.Douglas
March 25, 2014 at 10:04 pm
Thank you. 🙂
Julia
March 24, 2014 at 11:24 pm
Hi, I just broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 day ago. We have been together for 18 months, engaged for 10 months, and in a long distance relationship for 9 months. He is Chinese and I am Filipino. And throughout the LDR I can’t really say that everything was smooth sailing between us we had our fights usually about communication, my being too needy and possesive. I admit that during the LDR I was more needy, clingy and jealous. He broke up with me because he said that he is not that passionate about our relationship anymore and he couldn’t see me in his future. Actually there was no fighting during the break up we just talked… Bottom line is I want him back because I truly love him and cannot imagine myself with any other guy, with him little by little I became mature. The question is how am I going to do that if we are not in the same country?
admin
March 25, 2014 at 4:43 pm
Have you read my LDR guide yet?
Julia
March 27, 2014 at 4:53 am
I didn’t I will check it out. Thanks.
Sophie
March 24, 2014 at 10:59 pm
Hi Chris!
I don’t have a question for you. I just wanted to say THANK YOU and I want everyone to see this! After an incredibly painful 2 months of no contact with ex, he confessed his undying love for me and now we’re stronger than ever. I thought my attempt at your recovery plan had failed after a lot of neutral responses from him, but I stuck it out and the result was positive. He was worth fighting for!
You’re a life saver,
xoxoxoxoxox (times a million)
admin
March 25, 2014 at 4:41 pm
You made my day!!!
Larae
March 24, 2014 at 2:35 pm
my ex boyfriend is back with his other ex before me and still contacts me and tries to be flirty with me. I want him back. What do i do?
admin
March 24, 2014 at 5:35 pm
Do you want him back?
I'm ok with it not working
March 24, 2014 at 1:29 am
Let me start with I do have a legit reason for wanting to get back. I was incredibly happy with him, not because of him, but I found myself becoming a better version of me and even continued on this path post breakup. I was forced to look at negative patterns I go into when I was with him. Sadly I didn’t have time to change them (mostly falling under the needy and insecure categories). After we ended things, well he did, I dove into working on resolving these bad patterns – it’s a work in progress. I guess, the thing is, I’m ok with NOT getting back with him. In fact when he ended it I accepted it and moved on. I dated a guy casually post break up and have a future date with someone new that I’m genuinely looking forward to. But, I got back in touch with the old guy (I’m hesitant to say ex, short term relationship) recently and immediately fell back Into an old pattern (over texting as a means to force communication). I’m FULLY aware this is negative and needy and even controlling, I’m working on it!
But how do you bounce back from that? I was just so excited to be in touch that I treated our conversation as a restart when it was probably him feeling me out, considering a reconnection but wanting to see a change (at least in a subconscious way). I failed miserably and his responses went from flirty and positive to neutral. Aside from the obvious (me breaking this pattern that will obviously impede ANY future relationship, regardless of with whom), do you have advice for redirecting his attention away from my fauxpaux? Do I just disappear and play it cool and pull back SHOULD he decide to continue communication? I also want to make it clear that I do value myself and while I do want to reconnect, I do not want to do so if he won’t value me and make the effort as well. I hope this makes sense.
admin
March 24, 2014 at 6:00 pm
What made you all needy and negative? Lets start there.
I'm ok with it not working
March 24, 2014 at 8:52 pm
Well. Why is anyone needy or insecure (I don’t know how negative per say, but I guess being needy and insecure is negative)? Fears of being alone, the need to control outcomes because there is the discomfort of uncertainty and being out of control. All your quintessential reasons a woman, or male, might act in that manner. And this will take time to work on and move on from. There’s also the fact that I’m chatty by nature, so on one hand sometimes my desire to communicate – even at a superficial and relaxed level – can come across as needy or insecure (even when I could care less if I receive a response). But that’s not to say there aren’t times were a message or call or email isn’t sent in an effort to garner a response and force communication.
admin
March 25, 2014 at 4:35 pm
Did he do anything to assure you that he won’t leave when you were feeling insecure?
I'm ok with it not working
March 24, 2014 at 8:59 pm
I should mention, when there is no communication I’m fine. I’m not stressed. I’m not over thinking things when I shouldn’t be. I’m happy and confident in every aspect of my life. I’m i dependent and self sufficient. But when I become excited about a guy – most specifically this one – I become a wordy, over-talkative, needy female.
I'm ok with it not working
March 24, 2014 at 1:30 am
And yes, there was over 30 days with no contact
Raechel
March 23, 2014 at 8:01 pm
I was dating my ex for 1 year and about 4 months – we was great together – we had something. Everything was great between us – we always had problems in the bedroom department but we always got through those problems and was just strong together you know. I was diagnosed with migraines in November – they really impacted in my life – couldn’t really enjoy time with my ex as was in pain – I completely lost my sex drive – I just didn’t focus on our relationship and honestly didn’t value him as my
Boyfriend – he got a new job and left his only ever job of 10 years and he stopped putting me first – stopped valuing me I guess. Both stopped aporia ting each other. He broke up with me recently – and I’m starting to put my life on track – in the relationship I never really tried to resolve the sex or migraine issue as I wanted to be normal you know. He’s focusing on himself and he’s new job and assessing his life – he’s expressed he wants to move out of his house ect. We both loved each other (during the break up, I think I convinced himself and me that he didn’t love me) and our relationship is great – I just don’t know if I should try and work things out.
Bri
March 23, 2014 at 5:42 pm
We’ve been dating for almost 5 months. I’ve put all my time and love and effort into the relationship, only for him to just break my heart. He had a problem about not seeing me all the time and how we don’t do nothing but be otp all the time and he just got tired of it and said I’m done trying and I quit and I’m just not feeling us anymore…. Which broke my heart and I tried talking to him about how we could make things better but he wasn’t tryin to listen…. I just want him back I love him. All I do is cry all the time and I’m just heartbroken… Please help me.
Cat
March 23, 2014 at 11:48 am
Cat
March 17, 2014 | 6:42 am
i followed your ebook after the NC rule…i didnt get any reply…so tell me is this really effective or not? it just hurts me :((( what should i do?
admin
March 23, 2014 at 4:38 pm
What was your message like when you tried to get in touch with him?
Cat
March 24, 2014 at 8:10 am
i used the remember the time thing…in a very happy manner but still no reply :((
admin
March 24, 2014 at 6:06 pm
Hmm… how long has it been?
Cat
March 26, 2014 at 5:30 am
i tried talking to him lat march 15 because i’ve completed NC and now im in NC again because i want the next try to be okay so please help me because im doing what is said in the book. thanks
maria
March 22, 2014 at 2:55 am
My ex bf left me coz he had no feelings towards me due to my bad attitudes. He seems to care but he want to suppress the feelings in order to let me go. What can i do so that he would come back? If there is any hope for me and him?
admin
March 22, 2014 at 6:26 pm
How bad was your attitude?
maria
March 23, 2014 at 3:07 am
I guess i fall under the clingy and needy and controlling gf. Those insecure feelings.
maria
March 24, 2014 at 1:47 am
What if too controlling are among the reasons? He doesnt wanna talk about the relationship and he said he has move on. But yet he still buys me food, asking questions like he still care, but yet he does not pick up my calls. My friends said that he is feeling guilty that is why he try to treat me nicely. But if i sent texts, he would reply although delayed. What should i do to get him back? I dont know if there is still hope..
Marie
March 21, 2014 at 9:04 pm
How does one proceed if their ex has a new girlfriend after two weeks no contact.. (its been about 3 mnths since the breakup where we still talked and i admit i did some of the neediness n begging) now its 2 wks no contact n he has a new gal, how do i proceed after i finish my month of nc? is it ok to send all the above mentioned texts even when they are in a new official relationship or how much longer do i wait? we dated about 7 yrs.
admin
March 22, 2014 at 6:22 pm
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-has-a-girlfriend-version-2-0/
Valerie
March 21, 2014 at 5:16 pm
Do you think this would work if this is the second time we broke up? Last time around, it was because we were fighting too much and didn’t work out how to communicate, and this time around it was because the relationship was about to become long distance (we both live in San Francisco, he’s about to move to LA for work). I’m worried that a) since it would be the second time around, he may not be so open to reconnecting, and b) it would be much harder to reconnect since we’d be living in two different cities at that point.
admin
March 22, 2014 at 5:15 pm
Yes this can work.
You didn’t try the no contact rule the first time you broke up did you?
Valerie
March 22, 2014 at 10:03 pm
No, we did no contact for a couple weeks but then started talking again and got back together a couple months after we split. This time I’m doing complete no contact, but there’s a lot of damage that’s been done and he’s moving soon, making it even harder for us to reconnect if I want to eventually.
Beyond Help
March 21, 2014 at 3:01 pm
Hi,
I will try and make this quick as I really need an answer. My ex-boyfriend and I have been on/off for the past few weeks. We had a huge and public row on Sunday night and now he refuses to speak to me and I have begged and pleaded but he has told me to stop txting him. I have started the no contact rule last night and going to buy your pro book tonight and plan to whole heartedly throw myself into this as I really want him back. Quick question it is his fathers birthday (whom he was very close to and who has passed away on Tuesday. Should I send a message or just remain NC?
I know this is the last shot for our relationship and I know he feels humiliated in front of his neighbours since Sunday.
Please help, is all hope lost?
jenny
March 21, 2014 at 3:35 am
i brokeup with my ex i was so weeping infront of him i didnt want breakup but he left me without any solid reason, together we spent very good time but he has very much attitude n ego what should i do? he is my crush n i want him back
admin
March 21, 2014 at 5:09 pm
Are you going to give the no contact rule a try?
MaShey Starkey
March 20, 2014 at 1:16 pm
I hope this works because I feel depressed that things are this way…I need him back we are supposed to get married and was supposed to get pregnant this year.