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Diane
April 7, 2014 at 5:09 pm
Hi, I’m quite sorry to disturb You, because I know You must be very busy.. I’m just very willing to know my chances of getting him back.. We’ve been together for almost 5 years, and during this time we’ve broken up a couple of times, but ended up back together again in a month or so… when we WERE indeed together it was as if we’re made for eachother, we were never bored in eachother’s presense, we could talk about anything, almost all of our interests were mutual (we even both love drawing and I taught him some stuff since I’m a bit better), we know about so many of eachother’s secrets and stuff, we’we shown so much stuff to eachother.. he’s shown me so many of things that I can’t believe I haven’t known about before him, and he always loved showing me stuff like movies, games and etc. (he loved that I am very motional over his stuff, cry over films and etc. – he never liked showing them to anyone else).. and he also still has the two chinchillas I gave him as a gift, and he really loves them… I’m also the only one in whose presense he allowed himself to cry.. and of course, can’t foget the fact that our sex life was also amazing, and he always knew I was the best at it. I knew all about what he loves and etc.. We also had a long history of playing videogames together, and a lot of other great romantic memories.. in fact, i was always a great friend to him. even when he had another girl for a little while, I gave him advice about her (even though it was painful for me).. so I wanna know how high are my chances of ending up back together with him again? I really want him as my husband and the father of my kids.. and even though he planned a future like that with me too, he felt that he’s still too young for that (he’s 22). at the moment I’m NCeeing him. Tommorow’ll be a week since he left me (said that the feelings were gone, but I know what I did wrong exactly that could’ve made that happen and I’m gonna change that) Please reply Mr Chris.. I know that others’ problems might be more severe than mine, but I need to know this..
admin
April 8, 2014 at 5:26 pm
Ok, what specifically do you want insight into. The more specific you are the more specific my answers can be.
Diane
April 10, 2014 at 1:08 am
Oh, thank You so very much for the reply!
Well, judging from the relationship we had, are the chances of me getting him back high? Or can he forget me during the month? I know he doesn’t love me at the moment, but I want to change that. He always said that I was the kindest person he ever knew, and that I deserve way better than him.
So if I change in the month – become prettier, happier, will he be interested in me again? Grow nostalgic? I’m NCeeing him at the moment. this is the 9ght day to be exact. he hasn’t tried to contact me yet. but he also hasn’t deleted me from any of the social networks and skype. is that a good sign? I really need him back in my life, so I want to know the approximate chances of getting him back, if I’m gonna do everything right..
Lisa
April 7, 2014 at 9:42 am
Hello. Tom and I broke up a few weeks ago. We are still friends. We have went out to eat twice..to a car show and bowling since we became just friends. He is also taking me out to eat for my birthday next week. And we both have no one to spend Easter with so we made lunch reservations. But he says he doesn’t want a relationship. Doesn’t want to date. When should I do the NC? After my birthday and Easter are over? Or should I cancel and start NC now? I would be scared I could cause some resentment if I cancel on him. Also it would make me very sad.
admin
April 7, 2014 at 5:17 pm
Right now, do it immediately.
Jenny
April 7, 2014 at 3:39 am
Hi!
I met my boyfriend in Switzerland. (same college) We dated since last October’13 (so about six months) then this February, I came to Korea for my six months of internship… Now Im going back to Switzerland on August. My boyfriend and I were doing okay at the beginning (texting everyday skyping…etc). However, as I get busy and he gets busy, we didn’t really talk. Then one day I told him I am feeling lonely and why is it so hard to talk to my boyfriend blablah Then he replied me, saying that he’s sorry and he was away all day without his phone. Because of time difference, I didn’t really reply that message. That was tuesday. Then for other three days I didnt get any text from him, so on friday, I called him. He got the phone, I asked what he is up to, he says he’s going to Milan with his friends… I was miserably doing so bad until friday and he is going on a trip. So I couldn’t hold my emotion, I cried, and said I cannot do this anymore. By saying that, I didnt mean to say as in lets break up but he got it that way. I talked to him few days later saying that Im sorry that I said that and hope we are okay. But what he said was, why am I doing this, he thought I wanted to break up with him, he never heard anything worse than what I said to him.. I felt so bad I said its miscommunication and misunderstanding that I didnt mean it that way. But he’s like you shouldnt have said that Im sorry I cant talk. Then few hours later, he called me, and said we should take a break cuz he feels so bad he never heard a girl crying so sad on the phone, he doesnt want to hurt me anymore. I asked him if he still has feeling for me and he said yes ofcourse I do have feeling for you. Then he asked me to talk tomorrow again. So the next day he called me again, his voice was all in sorrow, he says he cannot do this for five months, lets break up but we can always try.
Since I am going back to Switzerland on August, I feel that we can get back together when I go back, but I’m just worried if he will still have feeling for me until then. I don’t think he will get a new girl friend cuz I know that he is not that type of guy who will get a new girl straight away.
Im planning to let him have some space and time, Im just hoping him to text me first but after I read this article, Im gonna wait for a month first.
What should I do? Help me:(
Laura
April 7, 2014 at 1:12 am
My ex and I parted on friendly terms. I have initiated no contact for 5 days (he hasn’t tried contacting me). His birthday will fall on day 22 of no contact is it ok to send a “Happy Birthday” text?
admin
April 7, 2014 at 5:10 pm
Nope, I would refrain.
Evelynn
April 8, 2014 at 12:25 pm
oh my god!! not even a birthday text?? T.T he wud be really sad…
admin
April 8, 2014 at 6:21 pm
I know I know… I am sorry but thats NC for you.
Evelynn
April 11, 2014 at 1:18 am
okey.. thankyou ^^
Gabriele
April 6, 2014 at 7:48 pm
Hi! My boyfriend and I broke up after dating for 1 year and a half. Yes we have broken up before just a little miscommunication and now we he broke up with me again about a month ago. He said he still loves me but he doesn’t know why he won’t be with me. We had a great relationship when we were dating he never showed he wasn’t happy, but before I read this I was begging for him back and finnally he had enough and said we were completly done and that he never wanted to go back out with me again and that he wanted nothing to deal with me. When I text him he doesn’t answer and he actually told me to shut up once. He now hangs around a girl and non-stop flirts with her they botg like eachother and I’m sure they will date soon. Is there even any hope for us? Should I do no contact? Do u even think he has feelings for me anymore!? PLEASE HELP ME….
Lucy
April 6, 2014 at 8:03 am
Me and my boyfriend just broke up and it’s the classic ‘it’s not you it’s me’ kind of break up. He said He still loves me but can’t have me, and I deserve better. I’m very sure he didn’t cheat on me or anything, so it’s just really confusing. I don’t know what to do, he broke up with me for quite a few times before and I often begged him for days for him to come back. This time I don’t think it will work as he is very serious(seems like it) and I’m tired of begging. The hard part is we both go to the same high school and I see him everyday, having two classes together. What should I do? Should I reply him if he contacted me during the NC period?
Jamie
April 6, 2014 at 6:39 am
My boyfriend/child’s father were together for two years and all of a sudden broke up with me! He says it’s because I’m not a go-getter like he is. But the fact is we live together he and his parents are packing all my things up and won’t let me there! When I drop off and pick up our child he always has to have his parents there because he thinks we will have confrontAtion! He also told me he wants to be friends and then another minute he says maybe one day this will work out! So I’m totally confused what do I do? Please
Zoe
April 5, 2014 at 6:37 pm
We’ve been together for 6 years, since high school. I chased him first. He is a shy and introvert guy. We were so happy together and never had a fight, until one day I mentioned my parents’ suggestion of getting married. He said that he did not want to get married before he figured out what he really wants in life, and that he was not sure if he really loves me so much that he could spend a whole life with me. I already begged him by reminding him of the great memories we had, and every time I did that, he cried. He did not resist talking to me, and we’ve been texting for a week like we used to be together. Should I just ignore his text from now, or send him a “second chance letter” before starting the 30-day No Contact period? He’s a passive and indecisive kind of guy. We’ve been no contact for 4 days since he texted me “I’m heading for lunch. Did u remember to take your umbrella today?” and I did not reply. We’ve been in a long-distance relationship since 9 months ago. Thanks…I am so devastated and I really need help…
admin
April 6, 2014 at 5:22 pm
So, he got scared of the commitment or even the idea of commitment?
danielle
April 5, 2014 at 5:51 am
So… what if my ex broke up to date his ex which he really can’t be with because of her parents…
admin
April 6, 2014 at 4:55 pm
I am confused. Explain this?
Kristin
April 5, 2014 at 3:31 am
I don’t know if I have 30 days because he’s leaving out of state pretty far for employment. 🙁 I’ll do my best before that day. Patience isn’t my best quality, but dedication is sure one of them.
admin
April 6, 2014 at 4:55 pm
Maybe you can shorten it in this case…
Tracey
April 4, 2014 at 2:42 am
I broke up with my ex more than 2 months ago (almost 3) because i felt like we were not growing anymore.. i told him i needed space. he chased me for 2 months and he told me he was going to wait for me. after 2 months or so, i said i was ready.. but this time, he said he already lost his feelings for me and he said i was right when i said that we needed to grow individually first. it was so sudden. is your method still applicable in my situation?
Sofia
April 3, 2014 at 11:05 pm
Hi, me and my ex have been on and off for a few weeks now. Our only problem is we have insecurities about each other and are affecting our trust in the relationahip. We really enjoy everytime we spend together, but he still doesn’t know if he wants to be in a relationship. Today he decided we should stay friends because although we love each other he doesn’t thibk is fair for me his indecision (which is true). After having this talk he keeps texting and calling me, how am I supposed to do the NC part if we talk on a regular basis? I want to do this, but I know he will start texting me wondering how I’m doing and other stuff… what should I do, just ignore all his text?
admin
April 4, 2014 at 5:13 pm
Hmm… are things going well when you two do talk?
Sofia
April 4, 2014 at 5:30 pm
Well yeah, we don’t end up arguing or anything.
Honey
April 3, 2014 at 9:21 pm
Gosh! I hope this works because I just broke up with my boyfriend about 3weeks ago. I had been apologising and pleading with him until I came across this site. This is my 4th day of NC… I’m keeping my heart away by dating someone else and drafting out my texts, in preparation for after NC…I Can’t wait to haVe him back because he’s really a graet guy and we share a lot of goals in common… I pray this works
KT
April 3, 2014 at 5:55 pm
My boyfriend of 8 incredible months just broke up with me kind of out of the blue. Granted we were doing long distance, but we had the most incredible connection and were madly in love. Him so I think more than me. He had been in a relationship for 6.5 years over 2 years ago, and him and all of his friends and family when I met them, said they had never seen him as happy and as in love with anyone, as he was with me. Same with my friends, they told me they have never met two people who were so happy together. I got the incredible opportunity to go and spend 5 weeks with my company where he lives in London, and we had the best time. Spent every moment together, and got along so incredibly. He even talked with my parents on the phone on Valentines Day, and said he couldn’t wait to see them this summer. He told me when I was leaving that it just reaffirmed everything he thought, but made him realize he needed to get his stuff together for me. He even had me trying on rings, and practiced proposing. When I left it was extremely hard for the both of us. My company is working on relocating me out there by the end of this year, but financially its not going well for him, and i know he can’t really spend money right now. I offered to fly and see him, but he wouldn’t allow it, as even when I was out there he was quite prideful regarding money. Its been 4 weeks since I’ve been out there, and he all of a sudden started pulling away and told me something happened the day after I left and he doesn’t know what it was. He tried figuring it out and couldn’t. He still loved me and cared for me, and was still was sexually attracted to me, but he said he couldn’t do it anymore. He couldn’t even list a reason, he just kept saying he didn’t know, and said he can’t do the distance. Even though after at the beginning of the conversation, he said he wasn’t ready to break up with me. I’m extremely confused and have a trip already booked to see him in May. He tried contacting me two days after he broke up with me as I gave him an ultimatum that he broke it off I wouldn’t speak to him again. He was checking in on me, and I ignored him and he got mad. I wrote him back today and was arguing with him, something of which we never even did, and told him I needed space, as he was getting defensive. Do you have any advice? Do you think there’s still hope for this? We normally talked 3 times a day on the phone, so do you think NC will work or is it not worth it?
Mags
April 3, 2014 at 2:30 pm
I am a single mom with 2 kids and three days ago my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me. My daughters father is at best a part time dad which offended my boyfriend as he is also a single dad. For some reason in the last few months my ex started showing up at my house uninvited and unannounced even when our daughter wasn’t there to complain about his girlfriend. This understandably upset Shaun and I told him it wouldn’t happen again. I am still very close with my ex’s parents and they came for my daughter’s birthday dinner on Sunday. Without consulting me his mother invited my ex to the dinner and told him to meet us at my house. Of course Shaun decided to come visit that day and when he was close called to let me know he was coming. I had to tell him I had just found out my ex was meeting at my house and he went home. After not hearing from Shaun for the rest of the day I took off work and went to see him Monday morning. He broke up with me saying he can’t stand my ex and was done. I texted him a couple of days later to see if I could fix it and the reason changed. It became “It’s not you it’s me. I just lost interest sorry”. Both me and my children miss him and his children. Is there any hope of getting him back?
admin
April 4, 2014 at 5:06 pm
He (your ex) was probably jealous of your boyfriend.
jeena
April 3, 2014 at 11:11 am
hi
i met this guy 3 years before.intially we were great friends and suddenly one day he said he had a crush on me.late we went on a date..we hugged and kissed.i feel in love with him at that moment.but slowly he realised that i was in love with him and he staretd to say that he can never love me or marry me.i know hez not settled and needs time even im in the process of making carrer but he was always like i dont want to marry anyone.i cant be in a relationship and i was trying to make things going. im in no position to leave him.i love him that deep earlier when he always blamed me that i was irritating he=im and he would change his number which he never did..but all of a sudden he changed his number.hez previous num is switched off..he never sits with me peacfully to talk.he lies me never answer openly..im missing him.he didnot wish even on my bday..its alomst a month that i have seen him col is over and i find no chances of seeing him again.he always looked upon me for studies becoz i was very bright at studies but he is not.im not knowing if at all he used me for.though we never went physically much deeper.what do i do now????i still love him
jane lim
April 3, 2014 at 5:09 am
And also should I meet up with him this Sunday as He promised me to watch a movie?And should I show him my blog on what I missed about the times when we had together to remind him everything again?? I am really lost,Please tell me some advice. Thank you very much
jane lim
April 3, 2014 at 4:34 am
I want to tell you about something regarding my relationship.I’m going to cut the story short.we have been together for one year.He said that He is very stress and many things happened between us and he no longer know what to do and has lost the feelings he had for me and wanted to be friends,but I didn’t want to and in the end.He also mentioned that his feelings towards me is like a brother to sister.He gave us a period of 3 months of testing period and He says after that 3 months,If He found back his feelings towards me,He will continue,If not we will break up.I don’t know what to do.Should I do the no contact rules ??help me Please,I need advice and I want to save this relationship.
Bex
April 2, 2014 at 11:10 pm
What if he blocks you during the NC?
admin
April 4, 2014 at 4:41 pm
You haven’t read my new guide have you?
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/
chiquia
April 2, 2014 at 7:07 pm
so here is my issues…my live in bf broke up with me after 2 1/2 years. He told me he felt we was going backwards instead of forward and he didn’t see a future with me. Some back round history the first year we dated was long distance. He live in philly i live in NYC. We talk all the time we never fought it was perfect. Then we moved in a year later things change. We didn’t talk as much and i was paying all the bills and had to remind him to give me money toward the bills every month. We wouldn’t talk as much it was a lack of communication. Of note i was his first gf he ever lived with. He is 29 and i am 34 with a 5 year old. So one day he moved out. I went through his computer and found out he was talking to an ex. He was doing all the things i ask him to do for me with her…IE talking to her everday and showing her attention. Of note him and his ex dated while they was in college he propose to her she said no. It was a long distance relationship for like 5 years. She lived in Dc and he lived in Ga. The they tried to rekindle their relationship like maybe 3 years ago again. She lived in DC and he in lived in philly/nyc. She wanted him to move to DC and he refused. I found out later that he told a friend that maybe he may had made a mistake…this was be we even started dating. Of note my ex have some sick love for NYC…and want to live her 4 ever. One of the reasons my ex left too is bc he feels i am selfish bc i don’t want to move to the city to raise a family. I told him i have more help in the suburns with my family there. Of note we both work in the city. He is obsess with the city.
But anyway him and his ex rekindle there friendship again. He was telling her about all our problems we was having. She wants him to move to DC still and he trying to get her to move to NYC. They both are not willing to move to each other town. But in the process i feel hurt bc we was planning a family together and planning on day getting married. I feel he still loves me. I am trying to do the NC rule, however we bowling in league together every sunday…but i feel he feels the grass is greener on the other side…and i feel if he ever lived with this girl he would have the same issue that we have now. Commutation issues. need advice what should i do… oh by the way 3 days after the breakup we went to vegas for week and it was great between us…so idk what to think or do cause he still wants his space…it is weird. need help
admin
April 3, 2014 at 5:46 pm
I am confused… you went to vegas with your ex? After the breakup?
chiquia
April 3, 2014 at 5:51 pm
yup we went to vegas after the breakup….i guess cause trip was paid for…he still wanted to go
chiquia
April 3, 2014 at 5:59 pm
the trip was paid for from beginning of jan. I wanted him to go cause i didn’t want to go for a week to vegas and be alone. We actually had a great time. No fighting at all. Two times in vegas i ask how much he loves me and he told me too much….and one of them times he was very much sober. It was like he was fighting not wanting to be close to me…but he still was it was very weird…but we get back home and yup he dont’ want to be with me he still wants space…said he don’t c a future with me…