The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Cassy

July 25, 2014 at 9:24 am

We were together when we were 18 years old. Broken up when we were 23 yrs old. I were angry at him. Didnt wish to contact. He did text/call me few time every year. i did reply and answer his call. Last friday he called for chat. He told me he had a wedding dinner at my place the next day , but rejected. (we are living in different city, 2hours apart). However due to wanting to meet up with me ( we didnt meet up at all after breaking up, we are now 28), he went to the wedding dinner and meet me after that. We went for a drink, then he asked me whether he could stay at my house for that night instead of hotel. That night we seem in love again. He kissed me as he said he cant forget me and our memory sometimes. The next day he seem to be very confused and hug me before leaving. I asked him what he wants, but he told me he doesnt want things to be so complicated , thus he chooses to be with his current gf. Also he said he wants me to have a better boyfriend and that we will always argue if we get back together again. He said he need a peaceful relationship ( his current gf can provide him that) so that he can concentrate on his business. Now that he went back, im stucked again. I took years to forget our love , but now it haunt me again. What should i do? Is it posible to get him back? How?

Cassy

July 28, 2014 at 5:43 pm

Hi Chris, really need your opinion on this as im at wit’s end now. 10 years passed, have forgotten about him once but now im head over heals AGAIN. Its hard for me to give up because he failed to ans me on who he loves more. Appreciate yr advice, thanks!
admin

July 29, 2014 at 1:33 pm

10 years passed what makes you think he has the same type of feelings about you if that amount of time has passed?
Cassy

July 30, 2014 at 4:09 pm

I’ve been passive to him all these years, nvr contact him. But he was taking all the effort to contact me fr time to time. He was the one who suggested to meet up and insist on staying at my place so that we hv more time to chat. I jokingly told him to intro his friends to me, but he disagreed saying that he will b super jealous. He told me that his love towards me last time is more thn his love to his gf now. Im confused, unsure of giving up or trying to persuade him instead. It was very difficult to remove him from my life previously, and now im involved again. Based on your expertise, what should i do?
admin

August 4, 2014 at 1:44 pm

Yet he is with the girlfriend still?
Cassy

August 5, 2014 at 11:07 am

Yup. He said that his gf is quite quiet, will not argue with him, he can concentrate on managing his business. I ve decided to not pursue him, worthless. Thx for ur time 🙂
admin

August 6, 2014 at 2:36 pm

In other words his girlfriend is easy to control?
Cassy

August 6, 2014 at 2:55 pm

Based on his stories, yes. By looking at her pic, my friend and i feel that she looks like a good girl that obeys. She’s a teacher.
Cassy

August 6, 2014 at 3:06 pm

And, few ppl said that she looks abit like me. I asked him about that before, he told me he purposely look for some one that looks like me. Hmmm
admin

August 11, 2014 at 10:43 am

He actually told you that?

Ady

July 25, 2014 at 1:29 am

Hi Chris! I think it is a great article, i really hope it works!
So my story is this, i broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago but we kept texting for the past two weeks, he told me that he was just texting back to be polite. We were together for only three months, he doesn’ t live in my city, he lives very far but he came to my city for a weekend and ask my dad to date me, so that made me think this was serious.
Next month i’m moving to another city to study my master, i’ll be much closer to him.
Do you think it’s ok to start with the plan, or is it too late?

admin

July 25, 2014 at 3:03 pm

So, this was a long distance relationship?
Ady

July 25, 2014 at 11:37 pm

Yes! He lives like 14 hours from where i live. He has showed me that he cares and loves me but i think the problem is that we don’t know each other that much, we met and after two months of texting, calls and facetime, he came to my city for a weekend and i became his girlfriend. Then he went back and we kept going like that for another month, until we took a weekend trip together, we had a great time. But after the trip we started to get into a lot of stupid fights, we even broke up but we wanted to go back together again but thoings got complicated. A lot of missunderstandings and lack of trust. maybe we went to fast, but now that i’ll be studying closer to him i definitely want to try again.

Chelsea

July 24, 2014 at 7:08 pm

Yesterday my fiance and I got into a huge fight and he broke up with me. Not only were we going to get married September 20,2014,but we also have 2 children together. Needles to say we were together for a long time. Basically the fight was just a blow up of insecurities and hurt feelings. We were both busy and started to become complacent with the relationship, not to mention there are a couple things I need to change about myself. Could you help me with my specific situation, please?

admin

July 25, 2014 at 2:02 pm

I think right now your best bet is limited contact since I am assuming you still live together and there are kids involved so you still need to communicate about them.

Caroline Mae

July 24, 2014 at 5:53 pm

Hey Chris. I’m struggling through something here and I’m really hoping that this will help.

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago, out of the blue, with no warning signs or anything. He’s been struggling with a lot of stress lately, starting his own company and the dynamics at his current job, and on top of that his did was just diagnosed with a serious heart condition. When he broke it off with me, he said that he “doesn’t think he should be in a relationship right now” and he cited the above reasons. He also said that he feels terrible about how badly he’s been treating me. (I haven’t felt mistreated at all, so I didn’t understand what he was referring to.) He said that he feels like his emotions are up and down, and that I deserve someone so much better.

To be honest, my first thought was that he was lying (thanks to previous boyfriends giving me every line in the book) so I felt absolutely shattered when it happened. After the first few days,I started to become more understanding of his stressful situation and I’ve made the decision to take him at his word and trust that what he told me was true.

He mentioned during the break-up that his mom had suggested that he speak to someone, a therapist or something, about how he’s been feeling so that he can find out what’s wrong and fix it. I supported this and said that I just want the best for him and I hope he works through everything.

I have a feeling that he’s struggling with depression at the moment. Do you think the NC rule will work on him?

It’s been a week to the day and I still feel hurt, but honestly I just want him to be okay, you know? Is there any advice you have on this sort of situation?

admin

July 25, 2014 at 1:52 pm

I get the feeling there is another factor you aren’t getting from him.

Tara

July 24, 2014 at 4:32 pm

I will say that I probably messed up my chances completely. Me and my ex boyfriend when we didn’t fight the times we spent together were great. He had an issue with every little thing bothered him and there would end in a fight out. After a big fight he suprised me at my job and asked if I wanted to go camping and I was excited I’ve never been camping before. I kinda ruined the camping trip by saying it was too hot it was nearly 90 degrees that upset him to the extreme because I was the first girl he ever took camping. We stayed with his family a week, he got upset with me for spending more time with his sister those days than with him when he worked from 5am to 5 pm so I was kinda confused there. We made up by fishing when he took me back home we got into a fight he broke it off with me saying that he just wasn’t happy with us himself or his life and that he needed to fix things before he got into a serious relationship after 9 months of spending nearly everyday together great times bad times, all of my money, my time even time I didn’t have, and effort. He drops this on me.. I cried I begged and I told him I would kill myself which clearly I didn’t mean I just was so distraught by it after all that I do for him and he leaves. He told me I was too much of a sweetheart like literally who says that to someone. But he has blocked my number and blocked me from all so social media sites. No chance for me huh?

admin

July 25, 2014 at 1:45 pm

90 degrees is hot in your defense hahaha.

To be honest he seems a bit controlling to me.

kate

July 22, 2014 at 7:08 pm

Hey,
My boyfriend of almost a year has broken up with me going on 3 weeks ago.

We went car shopping about a month ago for a new car for me, i was not having a good day and took it out on him by getting upset and talking down to him. He wasnt specific with what i said he just knew how he felt. He said the reasons are talking down to him and my tone of voice. He believes that this is just part of my personlity and it wont change for in the future. It was never brought to my attention before that he did not like when i got like that with him. So no communication on his part. Do you think this will work ? Please give me some advice.

Cheers,

admin

July 24, 2014 at 2:20 pm

I think it can work.
kate

July 24, 2014 at 4:41 pm

so do this nc for a month from the last time we spoke, i honestly feel like right now nothing can make his mind change is there anything i should work on in the mean time ? he just believes that it wont ever change.
kate

July 25, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Let me tell you a little bit more about our relationship, we went to mexico in January with my family and Texas in December with his. Him and his brother spent christmas morning at my house this past year. our family got super close throughout our whole relationship. We got threw almost a break up back in Febuary because i was being insecure and jealous about past girls and i ended up able to change this and got alot better as i promised. Me and him are like best friends in love this is why its so hard for me to just accept that its over and it wont ever be again. He says that it is and that he doesnt wanna string me along and we wont be getting back together. He said he loved me first and also before we broke up he said this as well. I really need some advice on this. Will the NC work and what would my next move be i already asked to go for a coffee and just talk and specified it wouldnt be about us but he read it and did not reply that was a week and a half after we broke up it has now been 3 weeks. Please help.
admin

July 28, 2014 at 1:42 pm

You may have come on too strong. Try leading up to an “ask out for a date” text.
kate

July 28, 2014 at 3:06 pm

Okay i will do that, I will wait another 2 weeks before i send him a text with something that we share a memory together in. I have only attempted to talk to him one time since we broke up 3 weeks ago. Just yesterday i messaged him saying ‘ i just wanna tell you that i love you and miss you more than ever’ i just had to i want him to know i still feel that way. It might have been dumb but i had to do it for me. So now i should wait another month to try and speak with him is this correct?

RUBY

July 22, 2014 at 9:15 am

Hello Chris. Please help me out I am clueless. I told you I sent him an I miss you text with a funny message after my NC and it’s been 6 days but no response. He has ‘seen’ the message. U told me not to write I miss him but what should be the next message? He is not replying.
diana

July 22, 2014 at 3:05 am

I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years . I broke up with him about a week ago because he said that he is half hearted in continuing the relationship due to a big fight that we got ourself into.

The Fight …
The fight is about him not saving money. He’ll always end up using my money. I got irritated and I kind of scolded him using harsh words. He said that I’m always bringing up the past and that made him really annoyed.

I really wanted him back. I can’t shook of my love towards him because of the times we spent together and all the good memories.

We had the serious talk and I told him what I felt. He understood but he said he is still unable to accept me back but he is willing to be my friend. He said that he does remember the old times where we were sooo happy together but he said he need to focus on himself for now and stay friends with him.

So what should I do ?

admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:45 pm

Well, he shouldn’t have used your money….
diana

July 23, 2014 at 12:29 am

Should I have the NC rule ? Or just leave him ? Because technically we’re still talking .
admin

July 24, 2014 at 2:41 pm

Yes do the NC.

Sarah

July 22, 2014 at 12:24 am

Hi
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago because of a drunken fight I said some horrible things and he said he has had enough theres no chance of us getting back together although he still loves me and misses me already. He said we can be friends although he needs sometimes and to give him a few days I just don’t know where I stand?

admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:37 pm

What things did you say?

Were they things you couldn’t ever come back from?

Kelly

July 21, 2014 at 11:28 pm

Okayyy so you’ve been helping me this whole time and your advice has been great so thank you! My ex lives about 2 and a half hours away, and I was planning on driving there to see him this weekend (with my friend who’s gonna shop there while I’m with my ex). I already asked him to hang out and he said he wanted to. Here’s the thing… I told my mom about this and she told me I was humiliating myself. She said if my ex was interested in me I would know by now, he would come up to see me instead of me driving there and he probably sees me as desperate. She thinks he’ll probably friend zone me and I am in her words “wasting my life.” She said she feels sorry for me.

So brutal honesty time, is she right? I mean he’s texted me first multiple times and snapchatted me, he seems friendly and receptive but is it bad that I’m the one who asked to hang out? I’ve been texting him for about 2 months, he became receptive and positive maybe a month ago… Would he have already tried to see me? My mom really freaked me out…

admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:35 pm

She is right about one thing… It can be kind of desperate looking. However, if you really think the connection with him is there and if your relationship is worth fighting for you should at least give it a try so you will know.

Of course, if you don’t want it to be desperate looking you can agree to meet in the middle somewhere.
Kelly

July 22, 2014 at 8:02 pm

I mean I’m going there anyway to help a friend move into a new apartment so I was like might as well try and see him while I’m there, and he knows that I’m not just going for him.

Jane

July 21, 2014 at 7:47 pm

Hi Chris,

My bf of 6mths and I broke up last month. We were happy & contended in our relationship but he said he was losing the butterflies in the stomach for me. This went back and forth for about a month so out of frustration, I broke it off with him.
Afew days later I regretted my actions and asked him for a timeout to reconsider but he rejected me by saying he was relieved after we broke up and he doesn’t feel for me the same way anymore.
I implemented NC immediately. But every couple of days to a week he will reach out to text me and I don’t respond. A few days ago, I heard that he is dating someone new.
I know that I shouldn’t contact him but I just texted him to wish him the best and that I am happy for him. The next day, he texted me that he broke up with her and he wants to remain single.
What should I do in this case? Start NC again? Do you think that there’s a chance that he will come back?

admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:23 pm

Yes, go into NC.

How long did you last the first time?

Nata

July 20, 2014 at 7:16 am

We broke up in December, after that we got back and hang our baby times. Last time when I felt he is pulling away I asked him ifhe lived me or wants to be with me, he said that he doesn’t love me as before and maybe I love him more than he does. It was hard to hear. But this is life so I have to respect his feelings and leave him alone. I stopped contacting him 18 days ago. I doubt no contact would help in my case where the guy who was really very in love with me before says he doesn’t feel the same!!!! It hurts, but it’s better to know the truth.

I am not gonna try to talk to him anymore. He is obviously not into me!
Ps we dated for 7 months and it was serious.

Thanks Chris for helping women here:) good luck everyone

admin

July 21, 2014 at 4:08 pm

Well, what you do after NC is just as important.
Nata

July 22, 2014 at 5:24 am

I know, and I think you are right. When I was done with NC, we started to talk and he wanted to meet do dinner or lunch. And I think after more than 1 month break I have to much of myself so he felt again the same as he was feeling.aftwr that, he stopped with excited and interested in me. I can’t explain it, but I know he loves me maybe, but doesn’t want me for I guess bad thoughts and drama that happened before Nc.

Also, I think if it’s supposed to happen it will happen, no matter what you do 🙂 maybe we are not match.

I so appreciate your help, I come here almost every day. It helps to calm down.

Hugs Chris 🙂

Erica

July 18, 2014 at 10:36 pm

My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me officially about 4 days ago. This whole summer we’ve spent it apart because he lives two hours away and both of us were and still are busy taking summer classes and going to work. He is the best I ever had treating me a like a queen, always paying for me, putting my needs first, and always reminding me how much he loved me and knew what he had in front of him. It wasn’t until about 2-3 weeks ago that he said he just wanted to take a break, since we couldn’t see each other, and “what sort of relationship is that?” He said. So we both agreed with tears in our eyes, but still talked to each other in the same loving sense. Nothing changed besides the title. But days went by after the declaration of a break, and I noticed the way he was talking to me was very casually. Like I was a friend or acquaintance. I asked him if he was okay, and he concluding that I asked based on the tone of his texts. He said he was fine with a smiley face. So I let this pass and continued texting him in a lovey dovey way, as I always did. And he kept with the dry text messages. Until suddenly I noticed on his Facebook page he deleted pictures he had taken of me and took off the “in a relationship with…” status. I confronted him on fb chat why he did such a thing and that it was all unnecessary. And he merely replied with it all being his decision and that I should respect it. That because he wants to be single and live his own life, just like he had told me before several times apparently. But this was all a shocker to me.. I went in denial and clarified that he just wanted to be single only because we couldn’t see each other for the time being… And I assumed that we would reunite again after summer was over. But he just said he doesn’t know, that he may want to be single for a while.. He then said that maybe it wasn’t the distance that caused all this, because he isn’t “that low”, but his exact words were “maybe I don’t see us getting married in the future like I thought I did”. So this instantly killed me. And he continued saying that nothing is written in stone. Which honestly bugged me, because that’s what marriage was for. But whatever, marriage is for much later. My concern was why he suddenly was leaving me. And he wasn’t being affected by it at all. It was so easy for him to tell me he preferred being single.

So after hearing my story, my question is, did he simply just fall out of love with me? Because nothing bad ended our relationship.. He just sort of, wanted to be single and take care of his priorities (like school and work since that’s all he’s doing this summer). And that he isn’t cutting me out of his life but only focusing on himself.
Ps. Also, we will be living in the same apartment complex by campus after summer. I was wondering if since our relationship did not end for a bad reason, am I able to rekindle the spark we had when we were together? Of course, I’m not going to play the desperate card. I am far from that.
Anyways, please get back to me, thank you

admin

July 21, 2014 at 3:53 pm

So, you two are technically in a long distance relationship?

Ellie

July 18, 2014 at 12:42 pm

Out of curiosity, what if my guy is in the military? He can’t respond sometimes because he’s in the navy and in and out all the time.
I screwed up right after we stopped talking by texting him and trying to be friends, so I figured doing NC for a little longer would be beneficial. I waited four months. He started seeing someone immediately after we broke up, and they’re still together. So I was hoping doing NC for longer would help me not seem like I was trying to break them apart also. Which honestly I don’t want to do. I just want him to be in my life and happy, even if it’s just as friends.. I respect him too much to do try anything manipulative like that.
But I started making contact again. He replied the first time right away. The second time I got no response. Like I said, he’s in the navy. Do you think this will work at all? He’s trained to leave distractions at home. And since we haven’t spoken, I don’t know when he’s here or when he’s away. Military complicates everything.
Kate

July 17, 2014 at 2:00 pm

Hi Chris,
I was in a relationship that got too serious (introducing each other to each other’s parents, planning to get married someday)from the end of 2013 till the first two months of 2014, we broke up because of reasons that don’t matter anymore, but we stayed closest of friends. After a while, he was acting so cold with me,pushing me away, so I started acting clingy and crying,and that just pushed him away even furthur, then when I got myself together,he told me that he is being cold with everyone because he is really depressed about our break-up, but didn’t think that we should get back together because there were some unresolved issues.
We started later on having fights over nothing, even three months after the break-up, I always found myself fighting with him over the same issue that caused our break up, and we were just fighting and we were just really angry at each other,he even told me that I broke his heart and that I never loved him and I just wanted to try something new, when he actually really loved me (it’s not true, I adore him).
The fights were unstoppable!, we would fight over the silliest things, and we were just so mad at each other.
After 3 months of fighting,we decided to remain “classmates”, and he said some hurtful words after a fight.
It didn’t work, a week later it was like we never had that fight,he called me and hung out with me on campus and was extra nice. It didn’t last, a week later, there was this girl who basically sticks to every guy to get her projects done,and basically does nothing, gets her grade and never even say hi to the guy again asked him to be her partner, and he agreed very innocently, I started shouting at him telling him how stupid he was, and we started fighting again, and that girl stuck on him like gum, and our relationship was worst than ever.
After a while of giving each other a semi-silent treatment, he came to me, told me I was right about that girl, and asked me how I wanted things to be, and what he could do to stop this silent war between us, we had a long half-talk, half-fight, and turned out that people took advantage of us being quite apart from each other,and they went and told him lies,telling him that I said “He doesn’t dare do anything without my permission”, and what’s worse is that he actually believed them, the girl who was pretending to be my best friend,the one that I cried to when we’d have a fight was the first person who was telling him lies, her and the others convinced him that I’m not good, and he started seeing in me what they told him, he told me that he is so mad at me for talking bad about him behind his back (which is not true at all, even when we are on a fight and someone says he’s a jackass, I’d say “dont call him that). We decided that we should be “friends”, and to stop those fights once and for all, it worked on the surface, each time I’d be with a guy who is not one of my usual fiends, his face gets red and he gets really angry, and starts being rude to him, his eyes are constantly on me even when he is surrounded by 10 people and I’m across campus,and now each time we have a conversation, he acts really nice. I still feel though that things are not completely right between us, since summer started we only contacted once, I asked some of our mutual friends if he is contacting them, and they said no, so maybe he’s not contacting anyone anyways, but still…also, his two guy best friends are contacting me almost on daily basis.
We are going to see each other again in a month in college, and live nearby, I don’t want things to end, I know that we are on bad terms now,there have been many fights, that it seems almost impossible to be at peace with each other instantly, but I really want us to get back together,in time. I know my first step would be to show him that I’m through with childish behaviors, that he is special to me like I am special to him,but how could I start doing that when we are almost not talking?. Chris please help me and do not answer with a question 😛

admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:55 pm

Well, right now keep your focus on rebuilding the attraction with him until you do see him again in a month.

Youve already done NC right?

Ray

July 17, 2014 at 4:34 am

I was sure I left a comment before but I dunno. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago because he told me he didn’t love me anymore and he didn’t want to be with me anymore, but I obviously love him so much and I want him back, I am giving him space, but it’s hard. When he’s around me he still acts the same like when we were together but he also tells me that he doesn’t miss me and I can tell that he definitely doesn’t care for me like he used to. Also his friends are kind of talking about me and telling him to drop me completely and don’t talk to me anymore, and he said he’s only telling them what they want to hear, but it seems like he’s starting to believe it now. But I told him that I’m done fighting for him when he’s not doing the same for me. What should I do??

admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:14 pm

Were there any signs in the relationship where he started drifting and falling out of love?

Emily

July 15, 2014 at 4:10 pm

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me a little over a month ago because he felt nothing for me and didn’t love me anymore. The two weeks leading up to the breakup had been rocky, and I recognize moments when I nagged him. However the last thing I texted him is what seemed to set him off, I had to type something shorthand because I was in the middle of something and he assumed I was acting angrily and that’s why I asked him if he was coming or not in that shorthand way (we had plans later). His response was rather angry and I feel as though that was the instance he decided he was done with me. Later that week I saw him and we had an angry conversation where he said he just didn’t love me or feel anything for me at all. I was very hurt and ended up saying mean things to him for which I later apologized and we stopped speaking after that. I followed the nc rule and contacted him last week, it went well. I then waited a week and did the good times reminder in the form of a question, he responded neutrally and we had a long, friendly conversation afterwards but it was very platonic. I’m not sure how to begin the jealousy stage or if my attempts will even work given that he says he feels nothing for me, I know he is very stubborn. What should I do from here? Keep going or give up?

Thank you

admin

July 16, 2014 at 2:37 pm

I think you should try the jealousy stage regardless.

Kate

July 13, 2014 at 7:36 am

Hello Chris,

me and my boyfriend were together for 9 months, 7 of which were perfect. We broke up a month ago because he got a depression and didn’t know what to do with his life. He said he doesn’t want my support and has too little feelings. I know this is because of the depression, because when we were dating, he said more then once how much he likes me etc.

Anyway I want him back and I already sent him the first message to which I got positive/neutral response. I wanted to persume to step two, but yesterday I met him in the city and we had a little talk. He told me about himself, and changes in his life (the depression is almost healed and he begins new things in his life) and asked about mine… Then he hugged me, like if it was not a friendly hug, but a long romantic hug (i didn’t even expect so much). Anyway I told him, he can text me call me anytime and as a response he asked me, whether I will be in the city this month.

Thats how our conversation was over. It was friendly, and I satied positive but I don’t know with this hug and he touched me couple times on my shoulder.. Does this mean something? How can I proceed of bringing him back? Should I wait for him to text me, or should I just continue with step two?

Thank you!

Kind Regards,

Ekaterina

admin

July 14, 2014 at 3:08 pm

Let me ask you something.

What makes you think he has changed from the depression/not knowing what he wants to do phase?

Kate

July 12, 2014 at 2:44 pm

Hi Chris,
I was in a relationship that got too serious from the end of 2013 till the first two months of 2014, we broke up because of reasons that don’t matter anymore, but we stayed closest of friends. After a while, he was acting so cold with me,pushing me away, so I started acting clingy and crying,and that just pushed him away even furthur, then when I got myself together,he told me that he is being cold with everyone because he is really depressed about our break-up, but didn’t think that we should get back together because there were some unresolved issues.
We started later on having fights over nothing, even three months after the break-up, I always found myself fighting with him over the same issue that caused our break up, and we were just fighting and we were just really angry at each other,he even told me that I broke his heart and that I never loved him and I just wanted to try something new, when he actually really loved me (it’s not true, I adore him).
The fights were unstoppable!, we would fight over the silliest things, and we were just so mad at each other.
After 3 months of fighting,we decided to remain “classmates”, and he said some hurtful words after a fight.
It didn’t work, a week later it was like we never had that fight,he called me and hung out with me on campus and was extra nice. It didn’t last, a week later, there was this girl who basically sticks to every guy to get her projects done,and basically does nothing, gets her grade and never even say hi to the guy again asked him to be her partner, and he agreed very innocently, I started shouting at him telling him how stupid he was, and we started fighting again, and that girl stuck on him like gum, and our relationship was worst than ever.
After a while of giving each other a semi-silent treatment, he came to me, told me I was right about that girl, and asked me how I wanted things to be, and what he could do to stop this silent war between us, we had a long half-talk, half-fight, and turned out that people took advantage of us being quite apart from each other,and they went and told him lies,telling him that I said “He doesn’t dare do anything without my permission”, and what’s worse is that he actually believed them, the girl who was pretending to be my best friend,the one that I cried to when we’d have a fight was the first person who was telling him lies, her and the others convinced him that I’m not good, and he started seeing in me what they told him, he told me that he is so mad at me for talking bad about him behind his back (which is not true at all, even when we are on a fight and someone says he’s a jackass, I’d say “dont call him that). We decided that we should be “friends”, and to stop those fights once and for all, it worked on the surface, each time I’d be with a guy who is not one of my usual fiends, his face gets red and he gets really angry, and starts being rude to him, his eyes are constantly on me even when he is surrounded by 10 people and I’m across campus,and now each time we have a conversation, he acts really nice. I still feel though that things are not completely right between us, since summer started we only contacted once, I asked some of our mutual friends if he is contacting them, and they said no, so maybe he’s not contacting anyone anyways, but still…also, his two guy best friends are contacting me almost on daily basis.
We are going to see each other again in a month in college, and live nearby, I don’t want things to end, I know that we are on bad terms now,there have been many fights, that it seems almost impossible to be at peace with each other instantly, but I really want us to get back together,in time. I know my first step would be to show him that I’m through with childish behaviors, that he is special to me like I am special to him,but how could I start doing that when we are almost not talking?. Chris please help me and do not answer with a question 😛

admin

July 14, 2014 at 3:01 pm

Define “too serious” for me?
Kate

July 15, 2014 at 5:53 pm

too serious as in he introduced me to his parents and we were planning on spending the rest of our lives together…PLEASE ANSWER

Ray

July 10, 2014 at 10:03 pm

Hi, my boyfriend dumped me, almost 2 weeks ago because he said he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t want to be with me anymore, but we still hang out once in a while and he tells me that he cares for me and that he still likes me but doesn’t love me and doesn’t want to be with me. I want him back, but I don’t want to force him into anything. I’m not sure on what to do at this point because he still acts the same when we’re hanging out, like he acts the same as he did when we we’re in a relationship.

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