The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Lost In Time

May 6, 2015 at 1:47 am

I wrote a comment earlier, but it later disappeared from the page.
Everything I read was cery helpful. Originally, I was reading about how to get over my ex. I saw a link keading to this page and couldn’t help but see what advice was given in getting him back. And now I can’t help but want to try one final time.

I had interest in my ex a year before actually approaching him. The moment I did that was the beginning of our eleven month relationship together. We had our ups and downs as all couples do. But I believe in my heart that we really did love each other in a way that we hadn’t in a really long time.
It’s been six days since he broke up with me and j feel like I’ve been in a daze this whole time. I realized we had or problems. But Ihe never came to me expressing the ones he had were so huge that he had to leave. Especially the ones he gave me for breaking up with me. He told me he bonk her felt attracted to me anymore. That it had been a couple months since he felt the way he used to towards me. That he didn’t even know if he was in love with me anymore. He did know he loved me…he just didn’t know in what way. He expressed our age difference and that I had so many insecurities about the way I look that ultimately wedged it’s way between us. The last reason I admit. My insecurity has always been my biggest demon. But he never communicated with me that it potentially ’cause him to leave me.
Since then I’ve begged him back. He said he needed time but he’d keep the label. But i just couldn’t pretend. The last time I saw him he couldn’t even hold my hand. So I just left. We’ve exchanged words and in his own without pressure from me he’s said he loves me. And I’m just so confused. He has depression issues and anxiety. And he’s broken up with em because of that before. It only took one day for him to apologize to me and tell me he loves me and just needs to get it under control. I want to try this method. Because I do love him with all my heart. I have out so much effort into this relationship even when I feel I should’ve walked away. And I just need to know if our case could be given this one shot and if it could work. I know the depression complicates things. Ive already started the thirty day no contact rule. It’s day two. I’ve also deleted him off Facebook because I know my obsessive habit of checking to see what’s he’s doing and I don’t want to risk getting upset and talking to him. If really appreciate any feedback on whether I should further this process. Thank you.
Miranda

May 5, 2015 at 10:20 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me after a year and obviously I’m completely devastated. We never fought and nothing was wrong with our relationship. We are both just starting college and he said he just wants to be his own man and doesn’t exactly know what he wants. It takes a lot for him to like a girl, so I’m glad he chose me when he did. I know there’s not any chance that he wants another relationship because the main reason for our break up is that he has 2 jobs and doesn’t think he has the time for me. I tried to explain to him that I’m willing to go through the hard times with him because in the end it will be worth it.. But he thinks this is unfair to me. I would love to fix things with him.. But I’m scared that because he has his mind set that he might not change it. I’m giving him his space (always have.. I’m not needy and only saw him on the weekends because of work and he lives 45 minutes away) and I want to know if it is worth it to try again.
CONFUSED

May 5, 2015 at 6:46 pm

I commented as well but looks like it disappeared. So here goes again. My ex-husband and I divorced 8 months ago (married 2 years, together 9 and a half years – high school sweethearts). We were bickering a lot, but nothing I thought would break us up, we had been through much worse. He claimed too many people were in our relationship, which I agree with to a certain extent. A week after I moved out, he went out of state for a week, but when he came back he wanted to work it out, no divorce. A week went by and he wanted the divorce, we signed on a sat, and I dropped the papers at court that Monday, which also happened to be our wedding date. That day he called me and said something to the effect of “maybe this needed to happen, maybe we can start over and start fresh”. He had even talked about getting re-married down the road. So we continued on for about a month and half, and then he got kinda cold again, and we stopped talking all together. Every day since the day he wanted a divorce I’ve cried, even now. So I get through the holidays, which were really rough, and in January he comes back to me. He says “last time you tried, and I didn’t. If you would just let me prove to you that I want to be with you”. He also said his goal was to get back together with me (no one around me wants me to get back with him but I can’t help what my heart feels). Again, it started so amazingly sweet and fun, then he drifted off again, and at the end of Feb, we stopped all contact again. He started dating someone else and is still with her, and it is absolutely the hardest thing I’ve ever seen or felt. The pics and comments and how happy they look. Now about 2 weeks ago (on the day that would have been our 10 year anniversary), he emailed me (I had emailed him back in Feb in a very non-aggressive way, detailing all the good memories I had, how I wanted him to be happy, and that maybe we would meet again). He said he read me email many, many times. That he still feels the same way about me, that things could still work out, that he’s afraid to meet up because things will probably happen. I said something like “we would have had the cutest kids”, and he replied “so that means we still can’t, right?”. I’m just so confused. We’ve been continuing to talk, again while he’s with her, but I don’t understand. He has all the power to be with me if that’s what he wants, there’s nothing holding him, but he’s still with her. I’ve never once bashed her or tried to break them up and acknowledged that they look very happy. I don’t know what his goal is, or what I should think/feel. I feel like I’m in purgatory because I know he’s out doing fun stuff with her, stuff he used to do with me I’m sure, yet he still texts me when he’s with her, and then all day at work. But then on social media he likes and comments on all her stuff, which makes me believe he is happy in that new relationship. A mutual friend of ours told me he wants to be with me but doesn’t want to deal with my parents. Our other mutual friend, who he’s living with, says he looks lost/confused and like he’s going in all different directions, and they don’t understand this new relationship, that she’s nice but doesn’t have her stuff together like I do. They don’t understand the connection. I’m just so, so confused. I want nothing more than to be back with him, but I have no idea what’s going on right now. And the worst part is, he knows exactly where I stand. So I just don’t understand. He had a big interview, and I did like you said and wished him good luck, it didn’t go very well, but then I was there to try to talk him through it. And then he goes through periods of being very sweet/nostalgic to very cold. And I know it’s only been about 2 weeks, but that’s how’s gone already. Even today we had a very nostalgic/sweet conversation via text about his family’s dogs, who I grew up knowing since we really did grow up together. And then only about an hour later, he seems short. Maybe work is busy but I don’t know. Those other times he came back, he wasn’t with anyone and we were together immediately, and I know that’s a big no-no. This time is so different but I have no idea what to do. Like I said, I’m just so CONFUSED. Why would he come back to me if he’s with someone else. And he’s initiated all the no contact, but I never gave in and every time he has been the one to reach out first. Please help!

CONFUSED

May 5, 2015 at 6:47 pm

Ugh I’m sorry, looks like it’s now posted twice. The old popped up, I swear it wasn’t there before I started writing again

Anom

May 5, 2015 at 6:16 pm

Hi, I was dating this guy for a year and a half, we were really happy the majority of the time and in the last few months started arguing over the smallest things which led to even bigger fights. Our relationship became so intense which was both good and bad. Weve been off and on but recently seemed to be happy. We still love each other but we have had to break up. I sort of ruined the ‘no contact’ thing by trying to message him… he had blocked me from every means of contact because he cant deal with confrontation and believes we will continue to speak if we didnt have each other blocked… I dont really know how to feel about the situation. We have a holiday booked and its been a week of no contact so far. He doesnt really stand up for anything and is a coward in some ways so i dont even know if the no contact will work. Do you have any advice?
CONFUSED

May 5, 2015 at 4:42 pm

My ex-husband and I got divorced 8 months ago (married 2 years, together for 9 and a half years – high school sweethearts). I didn’t want the divorce and have missed him every day since. Now he left the state for a week after I moved out, then came back and wanted to work it out. Things were fine for a week, then he wanted the divorce. We signed the papers on a Sat., and I delivered them to the court that Mon (also happened to be our wedding date). That day he called asking to meet up and said something to the effect of “maybe this needed to happen, maybe we can start fresh”. So things were great for about a month and a half, then he kinda left without a word. All our mutual friends said he seemed lost and didn’t know what he wanted. So again, i was devastated and still always hoped he’d come back. Well he did in Jan (divorce took place in Sept), and we talked for about a month and a half and he said his goal was to get back with me (everyone I know doesn’t want us back together, but I can’t help what my heart feels). And then again, we stopped talking (end of Feb). He started dating someone new right away which was absolutely the most painful things I’ve ever experienced, seeing pics and comments. Then about 2 weeks (on what would have been our 10 year anniversary), he emailed me (I had written him an email back in Feb, non-aggressive, listing all these happy memories, that I wanted him to be happy, and maybe somewhere down the line we would meet again). So he hadn’t responded until about 2 weeks ago. He also claimed he didn’t even realized the date (which I don’t buy). He told me he read it many times, etc. We have been talking since then, he is still with this girl (They’ve been together since mid March), but they still seem happy on social media. However, he told me he still feels the same way about me, he is afraid if we meet up stuff will happen, he feels things could still work out. I had said something like “we would have had teh most beautiful babies”, to which he replied, “So that means we still can’t, right?”. I’m just so confused. I can’t figure out why he is talking to me if he’s with her, when it seems like he has all the power to end things with her if he really does want to be with me. I’ve never said anything negative about her and tried to get them to break up. I’ve told him that it looks like they make each other very happy. But in talking, he gets very cute/nostalgic with me, then all of a sudden very cold. Another mutual friend of mine said he told him he wants to be with me, but doesn’t want to deal with my parents. I just don’t know what to do, think or feel. I feel like I’m in purgatory. I know he’s out having fun with her (which kills me), yet he still texts me when I’m sure he’s with her. I just don’t get it. And more than anything I want to get back together with him. I have tried talking and going out with other guys and I just don’t get that butterfly feeling that i get even just texting him. And multiple mutual friends now keep saying he seems lost, and is going in all kinds of directions. I’m just so confused.

CONFUSED

May 5, 2015 at 4:52 pm

And the reason for the break up was that we had been bickering a lot lately, never thought it would break us up, and he felt that too many other people were involved in our relationship. I almost feel like I paid the price for other’s actions, if that makes sense.

Phoebe

May 5, 2015 at 7:37 am

Everything I’ve read has been really encouraging. Before reading this article I was reading about how to get over my ex…but couldn’t help seeing what advice would be given about getting him back. I had a crush on my ex for a year before I actually approached him. Since that moment we had been together for eleven months. I believed we were overall happy despite our really low times. He had broken up with me once before after an anxiety episode. But two days later he apologized and said he loved me. That he just needed to figure what was going on with him. And now here we are again. This time around it’s a little different. He says he’s not attracted to me in the way he used to be (if at all). And that he loves me but doesn’t know if he’s in love with me…& that my insecurities have caused a wedge between us. The last reason I don’t deny. But he never expressed that all these things were so huge he was in the verge of leaving. I have been through a lot with him. And many times felt like giving up and leaving but never did. Because I love him. He has a lot of anxiety and depression issues. And his last with girlfriends is not good at all. So I’m just wondering if there’s anything left to save. I’m willing to try one more time. I still love him and I can’t fight the feeling that he loves me too. But somehow lost sight of it. I know depression and all those things makes our case a little different. I’d appreciate any feedback I can get.
Thank you.

Phoebe

May 5, 2015 at 7:50 am

Also, he has issues with is parents divorce. He says it’s messed up his relationships with people.
I’ve deleted him from Facebook. Knowing my patterns of obsessive looking at what he’s doing and posting thugs for his attention. I’ve been there before and it only caused exes to push me further away. Today is the fifth day of our break up, and the first that we have not shared a word. I want to start with the no contact process if you feel that your steps can apply to our situation.

3455girl

May 5, 2015 at 2:53 am

Hi! my exboyfriend (2years relashionship) broke up with me over the constant little fights we had, we get together to talk a couple of days after and although i try to make him change his mind, he was very determined to it. Its been already 10 days since we last spoke and he hasn’t changed his photo or status of FB, but I don’t know if I should do it.

Thank you for taking your time to answer.
Claire

May 4, 2015 at 8:19 pm

We were in a LDR for almost 3 years. We, the first year and a half, would text, Skype, call, incessantly during the day…the chemistry with us is/was nothing I’ve ever experienced – and I’ve had several amazing relationships. He pursued me and came on strong. He was, through much of the relationship, incredibly wonderful and romantic. Then his life began to change. Mine didn’t. His time became limited and I just couldn’t understand. He complained “it’s never enough for you,” and so on. The day we broke up for good, which was 2 days ago, we Skype’d during the day and he told me he loved me. There were so many things and examples of how pretty much everything took priority over me and I flipped out – it was neither classy nor something to be proud of. Regardless, he said “ok, I’m walking away for good this time.” I am currently beside myself with pain. I can’t eat, sleep, I feel numb and detached. I may seek therapy from an old college professor who has counseled before (after my mother’s death). In addition, after reading all this website, I have formulated a plan as follows:

1. No contact, starting yesterday. Today is day two of no contact.

2. I am going to realize that the relationship – and who we both were in that relationship is dead. It’s gone and it can’t come back. There are reasons this is sad but true: When we met, he had tons of time, as did I, because a) his son was a baby-baby who didn’t need as much attention and supervision and could just sleep, b) his work was not giving him enough stimulating work and his new job is now something he loves and is incredibly demanding, and c) it was new and exciting and he loved the 100% everything

3. During the next month, I’m going to continue my “finally gonna get in shape,” that I’ve started pre-breakup. Focus on my career, doing stuff around the house that needs doing – damn garage, etc. And try to meet some new friends – that’s very important. I am also going to formulate a list of what went wrong – both from my end and his – as well as pros/cons of getting back together with him and decide what’s healthy, etc. I will try to heal ME (seems futile to be honest)

4. After a month of NC, I will contact him in a positive way with the understanding that: a) It may be for the best that we end it – and if that’s the case, it was wonderful, b) this is someone who I know I CAN love (as the old “us” is dead, so is that old love), that I’m very attracted to, is brilliant, successful, caring, and an amazing lover.

At the moment, I don’t know who to turn to or what to do. I stare at my phone and…nothing. He just disappeared and doesn’t care. I’m just…lost. Truly, deeply in love with a man who seems wants nothing but to see me gone from him entirely so he can go about his life. Thoughts and help are not only greatly appreciated but needed.
nicole

May 4, 2015 at 4:48 pm

Hi Chris – My ex broke up with me and really pushed for us to be friends afterwards. We did that and it was going ok – we barely hung out or talked. Well he was pushing me hard one week to hang out, I was busy so I kept telling him I had things to do because I already had plans. Well we finally decided on a day, then an hour later he says “I’m sorry to do this but I think it’s best if we don’t hang out or talk anymore”. I am super confused why he did this? He said he just had a gut feeling and he isn’t saying it cause he’s talking to someone. He just felt like he needed to do that. Well I then asked, do you even care or have feelings for me still? And he says ” I don’t care”. I never responded cause honestly I didn’t get that. Where did that come from? Would no contact work on getting him back as a friend, that’s all I really want now, I am going to do no contact for 30-60 days. Do you think I should try or would it be pointless? Thanks for your help!!
Katrine

May 3, 2015 at 6:20 pm

Hello Chris,

So I just wrote your “How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”, but still has some doubts about my ex boyfriend. First i’m sorry if this comment is going to be long, but a lot has happened to me and my ex.
My ex broke up with me for about a year ago after we had been together for about 6 months. It was my first true love, so it was very hard to move on. And to be honest, I don’t think I did. Anyway, 3 months later after the breakup he got a new girlfriend and I was really really sad and felt like I lost the best thing I ever had. Well the breakup was in late marts and in september we began to see each other again without anyone knowing including his girlfriend. And by seeing I also mean, that we sometimes ended up together – but not all of the times. But anyway, he did cheat with me on his girlfriend. Then in november he broke up with his girlfriend and we could finally begin to see each other with our parents knowing it. The days went by and a day in January we were together and he told me “I think I have feelings for you again” and I was just saying, that if it was the case, then we should take it slow, so we didn’t make the same mistakes as earlier. Well months went by and it actually felt alright again. Then in marts he suddenly told med, that he just loved me as a friend and had no feelings anymore – it was really hash to hear that. Even though we still hanged out and slept together sometimes. And I just want to say, that when we were together we acted like we were a couple, you know. Well then a month went by and we are now in may and the other day he texted me saying that he wanted to stop seeing me, because we would never ever getting back together and that we both just should move on and stuff like that.
So know is my question: Do you think I have a chance after all of this? I really do feel like he’s the one person I want to be with and I hope I still have a chance… Should I begin the NC or would it not help after all this time?
andrea

May 1, 2015 at 5:13 pm

Hey Chris, I really liked your post. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years. Just a few days ago he broke up with me. Saying that I don’t make him happy anymore, he knows in his heart I’m not the one, even though he loves me he doesn’t love me as much as I love him. Even though two days earlier we went out and he was all affectionate with me, telling me how much he loved me and telling my girlfriends he wants to marry me but now he can’t see himself marrying me or having kids. We have taken a break before but only lasted a week until he really missed me. He told me to respct him and not communicate with him and maybe in a couple months we can reconnect. He said he’s known for a while he’s wanted to do this but I did not see this coming. Since our break 6 months ago I thought our relationship has improved and been amazing even though he states it’s become stagnant. Any advice? I don’t even know what I feel. This is the guy I was planning my future with , I mean we even picked our kids names for when we have kids.
P

April 29, 2015 at 2:23 pm

Hi Chris! So it’s been 3 months since me and my boyfriend broke up. A few weeks ago he messaged me that he wants us to be “okay” cause he’s aware that it’s been weird with the both of us. He also told me not to think that he forgot about what we had, and he’s still thankful. He also apologized if ever he hurt me during the break up, and he’s not trying to hurt me anymore cause I deserve a break. He also told me if ever I find another guy to love, he told me to make sure he’s worth it.
So I thought that we’d be okay. Recently I found out that he muted me on twitter (I don’t even tweet much), and he also doesn’t like my instagram posts anymore. (I know it sounds shallow but I’m just observing the then and now). He also tweeted saying “Don’t you have anything good to say?”. I’m not sure if it’s directed to me, but I’ve told some of my common friends that he changed a lot, and I fear that it may have reached him..?
I don’t understand his actions now and I really wanna get in touch with him again. I don’t even text, call or email him at all.
We had a very toxic relationship (but we never hurt each other physically or cheated on each other).

SHOULD I TALK TO HIM????
Karen Powers

April 28, 2015 at 3:50 pm

Hi Chris,
So this is going to be pretty Long and
Complicated. Started seeing my ex-bF from 25 years ago almost Two Years Ago. ( he pretty much Broke my Heart way back Then
With an on again off again situation . This time it lasted for about 8 months, things were cool and Fun and I didn’t really
Emotionally invest myself till the last couple
Of months Jan-March 2014. Of course when I started to care he started pulling away and
We stopped seeing each other for two months. I was miserable and missed him a lot. After two months we started seeing each
Other again and things intensified!!! After about 4-5 months I turned into a Texting
GNAT and became very Insecure and needy and clingy and jealous. He actually was very patient and by Jan 2015 he had it with my nasty Texts and Jealousy. He wanted out and we talked it out stayed together. I need to say a lot of the Insecurities stemmed from
Facebook and his many Female Friends. I would get upset because I kept coming up last on his friend list and he wouldn’t
Like my posts or comments ! Sounds so Juvenile when I write it. He kept telling me
He couldn’t take the nasty Txtng and in March he had it but stayed with me. I defriended him on FB in Feb. because of the
Reasons above , he than accepted a friend request from his Ex GF. I was getting nuts over it and thought he was seeing her, still question that. He just seemed hot and cold and my texts were making him pull away even more. He had some medical issues requiring Surgery and about a week after he was really indifferent and cold. And I got more clingy and Txtng Crazy. Finally I said do you not want me in your life anymore? His response was Actually I don’t think I can be in a relationship right now. And started giving me these different reasons. Drama in my life with grown children, his working Two
Jobs, I was becoming too Intense, Basically it
All came back to my Nasty TEXTING!!!!’ He said give it x break of a few days with no contact and we would see each other over the weekend. I went Txtng Crazy about how
He hurt me and implied he was seeing his ex and sent one a day till the weekend and he wouldn’t reply. By Saturday when I did see him He wasn’t receptive too anything. We talked for a few hours, I cried and said I didn’t think he was being honest with me and he held me and told me he just couldn’t take my. Nasty Texts anymore. He wasn’t
Mean, but he had his mind made up. I left in tears and sent him a final text professing
My love, cherished the time we had together,
Wished him well and told him we couldn’t be Friends because he wasn’t honest with me. I said I felt like I wasn’t what he wanted.
I obviously hate not having him in my life and it’s only been a short time, 3 days since
Saturday but I haven’t texted. I deleted my
FB app so I couldn’t Creep on his page and
I’m trying to work on myself. Please any advice you have would be appreciated ⁉️
We are not kids ! We are in our 50s and I can’t believe how juvenile I was ! Please
Help❗️⁉️❗️
Bri

April 28, 2015 at 2:47 pm

I had a “thing” with a guy for about a month and a bit. Everything was great; he made me feel amazing. He was my first everything, my first kiss, my first “time”, and my first sexual relationship with a male.

Very recently though (last week/last weekend gone) he started acting odd with me and started to slow reply me. Which I found very strange considering he’d text me all day everyday and we’d text back and forth and there was no problems. I shrugged off the slow replying, assuming he would have been just busy, because he works weekdays.

Fast forward to the weekend just gone, he started to completely ignore me. I messaged him trying to figure out what had gone wrong; what I had done wrong. We started arguing back and forth, no abuse or anything, and I finally asked him if he had just been using me, or if he got what he wanted from me and decided he was done with me. He said that he did like me, but that I was trying to control everything in his life, which I didn’t understand.

He said that every time he was out he’d get a text from me asking if he wasn’t with any girls. Look, yes I do remember talking to him about how I will feel very insecure and worry that he’d think another girl was better or something, but that would never effect the way I would feel about him.

I don’t ever recall, though, texting him asking if he was with girls. To be honest, I had no problem with him hanging out with girls, I guess he took my care (or whatever) as me trying to control his life.

So anyways, this weekend just gone I had been feeling incredibly down cause I was so scared I was going to lose him. That night I got a message from one of his friends (female, and I have met her before but I didn’t really like the vibe I got off her, and for a reason obviously) and she messaged me saying I was an ungrateful bitch ect, all of this being about me and (guys name). The most messed up part is, is that she was texting me off his phone. And no, I am not suspicious of them two, because the friend of his has a boyfriend, who is also (guys name)’s friend. He’s very close with them both. But anyways, she started saying things like “(guys name) doesn’t want to see you anymore” or something along those lines. She then started to bring up personal things (guys name) had obviously told her about myself.

So the argument that me and (guys name) had was the day AFTER this all happened (sorry to make this confusing) and he hasn’t spoken to me since. I had tried texting him a few times a day, I’d say something like “can we just talk?” Or “why did you let her talk to me like that?” But I stopped after a day or two, kind of both giving up cause he wasn’t replying and also to see if not texting him for a few days and waiting for things to settle down might help.

I hadn’t texted him in a few days and this evening I decided to text him with “Hi (guys name), not too sure why you did that to me on the weekend, especially when you know my problems. You could have told me yourself instead of getting your mates to harass me. I’d like to at least talk to you? I don’t want to be an enemy, maybe we could at least stay friends…”

As much as I honestly don’t want to stay friends, because my feelings for him are still huge, I would do anything to just not be his enemy. But to be completely honest, I really want him back in my life. He made me so incredibly happy and things started to get better for me after meeting him. And I haven’t gotten a reply to my text yet, and to be honest I don’t think I’m going to get one…

I commented to see if you could work out what may have happened and what I may have done wrong and what I could do to actually get him to text me back so I can try and fix things with him.

I would honestly do anything to fix what I had with him. I have never experienced heartbreak before and it is probably the worst thing that I have ever experienced in my life.

My oldest sister keeps telling me to just get over him, but it is a little hard when he was your first ever love and your first ever heartbreak.

Please help me figure out what I can do to get him to reply so I can fix this. I really need him in my life right now.

Thank you. X
Betty

April 28, 2015 at 3:40 am

Hi Chris,
I need your opinion plz
me & my bf broke up 5 days ago but because of religion as am muslim & he christian & in our society its not acceptable & both of our religion doesn’t agree on this marriage
i know he loves me so much & i do as well but, we tried to read in each other religion maybe one of us will be convinced & just convert but non of us was convinced & i told him i dn mind if u stay on ur religion but he said he doesnt want that cuz it will cause a problem for the kids later plus he had a civil marriage before & they got divorced after 3month (2yrs relationship in total) but he was 23yrs old at that time (now he is 27) & his family made alot problems for him as he didnt tell them he is goin to get married
its a long distance but we managed it very very well
he lives in NZ & i live in UAE but we r both egyptians so if we get married i will move there, nobody really cares about that over there but the problem is his family lives there as well with him
i am so confused & i dunno wt to do cuz am sure we both wana b together & we talked about marriage, kids, our house (how its gna be) & all of that
so i played a game that am feeling down cuz i dunno whether we r getting married or no & i showed him that am really upset & i started fighting about little things hoping he will convert maybe to get married or agree on civil marriage either one
but i ended up that he told me i cnt find a way to get us married properly (he means religious marriage in the church or mosque) & he said he will always love me & he wants to be with me but he doesnt want me to stay hooked up to him knowing we won’t b together
& thats how we broke up. this was all texting then i called him & said you are so selfish you r nt willing to do anything for me,
you just want a relation without any problems & i told him bad things about himself (i didnt say any swearing just mean things) then i hang up on his face
I didnt ever wana leave him as the time we spent together for 1 & half yr was amazing
i was always happy & we travelled together to so many places, we were always talking (either texting or on the phone) he did all the things i like to make me happy & i did the same, he understood me very well, he encouraged me all the time to be better or feel good when am sad, to conquer my fear when am scared of something, to be stronger, he knew how to calm me down in 2min when am extremely upset, he was just amazing.
i never really had a perfect relationship in my life than being with him, everything was perfect.
So i dont know what to do now , i know its very very complicated & decision like this is very serious
i dunno if i should try to contact him later & just try to convince him with civil marriage or convince him to convert or what to do
all i want is to be with him & i dunno what to do….
SHONDA RHIMES

April 27, 2015 at 11:53 pm

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Becky

April 27, 2015 at 4:02 am

My ex broke up with me a week after buying me an engagement ring and moving 1000 miles away to start our new life together. The plan was for me to move when the kids got out of school. Our therapist believes he had a combat PTSD episode and got freaked and broke it all off. I saw him this weekend for the first time in over a month and he said he loves me, but because of his military training, he’s an expert at crushing his feelings down. I’m nervous about how to go about any of these steps because I don’t want to trigger his PTSD again, which he is coming thru.
We did this last year bc it’s an annual trauma anniversary. I totally cut him off and started dating and then told him I could no longer speak to him when he kept calling. I wrote a letter explaining my feelings and within 4 days he was begging me back. I’m just afraid this time around. It’s touchy with PTSD.
Thank you.
P

April 27, 2015 at 2:50 am

So my question for my previous post is.. So should I talk to him? Or should I give it time? What do I say to him? I didn’t really go for the NC cause we work together in our school’s organization, but I do limit my contact as much as possible.. We don’t really communicate with each other so i don’t really know what to say to him..

This is my previous post btw:

Hi Chris! So it’s been 3 months since me and my boyfriend broke up. A few weeks ago he messaged me that he wants us to be “okay” cause he’s aware that it’s been weird with the both of us. He also told me not to think that he forgot about what we had, and he’s still thankful. He also apologized if ever he hurt me during the break up, and he’s not trying to hurt me anymore cause I deserve a break. He also told me if ever I find another guy to love, he told me to make sure he’s worth it.
So I thought that we’d be okay. Recently I found out that he muted me on twitter (I don’t even tweet much), and he also doesn’t like my instagram posts anymore. (I know it sounds shallow but I’m just observing the then and now). He also tweeted saying “Don’t you have anything good to say?”. I’m not sure if it’s directed to me, but I’ve told some of my common friends that he changed a lot, and I fear that it may have reached him..?
I don’t understand his actions now and I really wanna get in touch with him again. I don’t even text, call or email him at all.
We had a very toxic relationship (but we never hurt each other physically or cheated on each other).
Rebecca

April 26, 2015 at 10:42 pm

I commented earlier but it went away… So I have dated this guy for 6 years. We are happy 90 percent of the time. We have broken up once before, but we got back together quickly. We have a dog together, so we can’t not talk at all. I am wondering how much is too much? I know this is an odd situation but I am trying to do my best to make him miss me. Do you have any advice? How can I do no contact while still taking care of my responsibilities with the dog?

Rebecca

May 1, 2015 at 5:46 pm

He said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to be with me anymore. And that he wanted to be alone.
Chris Seiter

April 30, 2015 at 4:49 pm

What was the reasoning for the breakup?

Rebecca

April 26, 2015 at 7:13 pm

I have dated a guy for almost 6 years. We have broken up once before but got back together shortly after. Now we have broken up again. For most of our relationship we have been very happy. But he is afraid that we are only together because it feels comfortable. I do not feel that way, but honored his wish to break up. What is your advice?

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