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Anon
January 16, 2017 at 6:51 pm
Hi!
I’m almost to day 30 of no contact with my ex. I think I’m going to do a long one, maybe 45 like you suggested, Amor. I’m just nervous about this one.
I’ve been focusing on myself and my daughter. I have been talking to another guy and my ex’s mother is friends with me on Facebook so I know she’s seen him post on my profile.
I’m just trying to move forward. I’d love for my baby daddy to come back and be a real family with us. I just don’t know if that will happen. He is so angry with me and the last time we talked he told me he never wanted to talk to me again (I’m still not sure why, maybe because he saw me on that dating app I mentioned)
This will be the 2nd….maybe 3rd? time I do no contact. He always starts contact up again, I’ve never had to. But I’m not sure if I can expect that this time. Should I follow the normal tips for reconnecting? If I decide to, that is.
Anon
January 18, 2017 at 3:09 am
Right, I don’t think he’s had enough time to calm down. I’d like to maybe do a longer no contact. I guess minimal contact if he wants to see his daughter. I’m pretty upset with him for thinking he even has a reason to be upset!
I had to look at my journal but i did no contact for 30 days when we broke up back in june. Then built up rapport after he made first conctact. He moved back in September and we hung out several times but it was always with our daughter. Which is great but I meant we didn’t actually go on a “date.” So then he freaked out for no reason and now I’m doing no contact again.
Thank you for all of your help! You’ve been a real comfort, Amor. Reading your articles has really helped me, Chris! Either way if I get back with him or not I know I’ll be okay.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 18, 2017 at 7:03 pm
that’s good.. you’re welcome!
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 16, 2017 at 9:47 pm
the more you do no contact, the less it can help you.. so, if you’re going to contact him again this time, don’t do it if he’s still angry