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angie
January 21, 2014 at 2:19 am
Hi me and my ex been together for seven years and its either one year he wants me and I don’t want him or one year I want him and he don’t want me we both dated other people but no matter what we always came back to each other. We broke up for about two years now and he had two girlfriends in that time one they only dated for a month but during that time we still messed around he wanted to get back together I told him no. But we still messed around. But now he has another gf they only been together for a month they are in love and posting kissing pic on fb etc. He always told me I can still mess around with him he loves me he can’t controlled his self around me all that stuff but I had to respect that he has a gf. But I mess up and text the girl and told her everything and now he wants nothing to do with me. We have kids together and I still love him I want him back what do I do pls help.
admin
January 21, 2014 at 6:06 pm
Well, I think limited contact would be best for you.
Briana
January 19, 2014 at 5:20 am
I dumped my ex boyfriend even thought I still loved him I don’t know y I did that and he got a gf way more prettier and nicer than me she knows I like him and doesn’t care but they are getting closer and closer what do I do plz help!
Monique
January 16, 2014 at 7:17 am
Hi Chris,
I understand the 30 day ncr but they have been dating dince the 8th of janurary and im heart broken. And the girl is pregnant by anither guy but right after we broke up the dated a hour later he says were never dating again and he is done which kills me because of my son lovrs him so much and to know he moved on with a new girl please help
hannah kim
January 15, 2014 at 10:54 pm
Hi, so last year I broke up with my ex first during the first week of our dating cuz I thought I was uncomfortable with him. about 2 month later, he started dating a really mean girl name Keeley. I guess I got really jealous and mad so I started texting Keeley saying I love him more then you, you made me really sad blah blah. My ex and I stopped talking for I think about the whole fall and winter. Last winter break I kinda started talking to him. Keeley thinks I’m trying to get him back. What should I do please help!!!!
brianna
January 13, 2014 at 8:43 pm
i need help
Madea Bill
January 13, 2014 at 6:01 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me last year october, its now three months and some weeks.. I was desperate looking for a blog or website then i came to find this.. I didnt know about the no contact rule.. but i stopped talking to him since 1st of January 2014, he hasnt checked on me. but he’s now dating a new woman and it really hurts me.. but i havent asked him anything yet.. i dont know if its too late or not.. but I have started the no contact rule, please advice me what to do.. should i contact him or continue with NCR?
Madea Bill
January 14, 2014 at 5:04 pm
Hi Chris,
Sorry for disturbing you, I know you receive a lot of comments.. please advice me what to do.. I’m confused.
my ex and the new woman look so happy together and its looks like he serious with her.
Please help me. Please Please Please!
admin
January 15, 2014 at 6:39 pm
How long have they been dating.. I forgot if you told me that?
Madea Bill
January 23, 2014 at 9:16 am
Its like 3 weeks now.. but they started talking since when we broke up and that was on October. He’s been posting pictures of the new girl, I’ve seen her wearing my ex’s stuff and they look happy together.
neeka
January 12, 2014 at 2:09 am
My ex broke up with me in oct we were together for almost 5 yrs we have a 14 month old he left us for some whore that his dad pushed in front of his nose they have been together for 2 months an they are engaged I’m so hurt an sick about it all everyone says it won’t last but I’m not a guy I am not talking to him an don’t plan on because he doesn’t even see his son I just have no clue what to do I want our family back
ainee
January 10, 2014 at 2:40 pm
Hi..
I recently broke up with my boyfriend. . He ended up for another girl for sure which he didn’t admit n will never will.. I’m implementing your NCR n I hope it works. . But this time I’m not sure if I want him back because he had cheated me many times already. . But he came back to me because I caught him. . But this time I dont have any proof for the other girl 🙁
Hope I get over him this time soon or he comes back to.. passing the most paimful days of my life. . :'(
Maria
January 9, 2014 at 11:12 pm
Me and this boy, well we didn’t exactly go out but we both liked each other and things got serious, then he got bored with my and a week later I was talking to this other boy so then about a week ago just after New Years I kissed the boy and everyone knew about it and all his friends told him that me and the boy were dating so he then obviously got jealous and started sting he likes this new girl but she’s so much prettier she’s got blue eyes and blonde hair but then I realised that I still like him and I don’t ready know why I even went to get with the other boy because at the end of the day it was just a bit if fun. I haven’t spoken to that boy in a week and we haven’t made any attempt to meet or anything but like I’m just a kick fused because I told him a lot of things and I just don’t want him hating me or getting angry at me and telling people those things. It makes it even harder because were in the same school and although he’s one year older than me we always see each other in the hallways and at lunch and him and his friend always look over to me and start laughing I’m just so frustrated cu j have no ideas how I feel about him, I like him but he’s really pissed me off so at the same time I want to punch his face ahh by I think I’m gunna try the 30 day no contact challenge.
Nicky
January 9, 2014 at 2:54 pm
Hi Chris
I’ve been following your website with interest and I’ll try and keep things short
I split from my partner of 16 years in September last year, I discovered 3 years ago that he had had a brief fling/affair which I have struggled to deal with and this had put a huge strain on our relationship. He moved out and we kept contact until he told me he had no feelings for me which was a huge shock after 16 years and I asked him to remove all his belongings from our house, watching him do this is the hardest thing I have ever done. I then went into No Contact/Limited Contact as there were something’s which couldn’t be avoided. This was at the beginning of November and he would fall into the clueless & stubborn catagory when it comes to NC. He has told me he loves me after we officially split but not in a girlfriend way so I have been getting on with my life, doing all the things you suggest along with losing weight, getting back to the girl he fell for 16 years ago etc. however I was quite upset when there were a number of photo’s of him on FB yesterday from New Years Eve with another girl and they appeared very close. We are both in our 40’s so we’re not kids at highschool and ours was a serious long term relationship.
I contacted him and asked him if he wanted to meet for a walk with our dog which he agreed to, we met, we walked, we chatted and it was like old times, as it always is when we meet, I’m quite good at staying level headed and calm. Anyway after 15 mins, I knew he was relaxed so we stopped and I gave him a hug and wished him Happy New Year, I think it took him by surprise as he really wasn’t expecting this, we sat down and I asked him about his new girlfriend, he immediately went defensive and said she wasn’t what he was looking for and that he had only seen her a couple of times, although this then went up to 4/5 times in the next sentence, I didn’t push it, said she looked very nice and they looked happy together as I’m aware that I musn’t be awful about her, but it was a shame that I had to find out on FB as it came as a bit of a shock and I felt that maybe a little more decorum was required and touched his arm, he then said he didn’t know what he wanted and I agreed with him and said that I realised that. We carried on, walking for another 20 mins and then when we got back to the house, he had a cup of tea etc. and stayed for another 30 mins, just chatting with me occasionally throwing in memories of special times to keep him thinking. So, when he left, I gave him another hug, he hugs me back and holds me and then he goes, obviously I am upset about this other woman and I don’t know how serious it is. However this morning, first thing, I have had a text from him asking how my night out at the pub quiz went which was a surprise, we text 3 or 4 times keeping it light and cheerful and then I end it as per your other pages.
It’s weird, when we’re together it’s like we’ve never been apart and I can honestly say that we are soulmates but I’m nervous about pushing things and trying for the next stage. He is at a funeral tomorrow for a mutual friend so I can text tomorrow to say that I’m thinking of him etc. and I possibly thought about suggesting a dog walk over the weekend but I don’t want to overdo it if that makes sense, how would you approach this? Many thanks
admin
January 10, 2014 at 1:54 am
Wow, glad you like the website. By any chance have you seen this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-has-a-girlfriend-version-2-0/
Nicky
January 10, 2014 at 11:08 am
Thanks for that, and yes I have had a look at that, definitely some good points
He would start the new relationship I think, somewhere between 3-5 weeks after removing his belongings from the house. He has last night visited mutual friends and told them that he has seen someone but according to them he was adamant and insisted that it isn’t serious and nothing much going on.
I realise I have to be seen as the happy, confident woman and I am, my life is continuing, I’m going out and doing all the things I would normally have done and also some new ones. I understand that he has to be reminded that what we had was special and yes, I know I have to be logical not emotional and when we met 2 days ago we were both talking about things we had done together and enjoyed.
It’s just very confusing that when we are together he is relaxed and at ease and the conversation flows easily, like he’s never been away. I haven’t gone bonkers about the other woman, in fact I said that she looked lovely as I realise that if I put her down, it will have the exact opposite effect, but it is difficult as you can imagine
In my head, I think that I have to start the contact again, but obviously with tact and diplomacy, just to keep him thinking of me and then occasionally ask him to walk the dog with me and take it from there, does this sound right? I just feel that he’s lost his way a little, maybe had a bit of a mid life crisis and he has openly admitted he doesn’t know what he wants, I need to persuade him that it’s me 😉
Sarah
January 9, 2014 at 12:18 pm
Hi Chris!
So me and my ex split in October from a semi – LDR (I’m at uni) because I became too distant he said which is true but only coz I was concerned about the age gap between us and I guess too busy with uni work, my job and the horses and sports etc. Anyway, in December he started dating this other lady who he’s known for a while but never thought much of and she’s just out of a relationship also. When I was home for Christmas I made the typical mistake of asking for a second chance and telling him I would make more effort etc but he told me he’s seeing her at the moment so I’ve gone NC which, conveniently ends on his birthday so I can text him happy birthday. Anyway the point is: do you think it’s just a rebound on both parts and do you think I still stand a chance with him?
Thanks, Sarah.
Sarah
January 9, 2014 at 12:20 pm
*we were together for 3 yrs, the second 2 have been long distance while I’ve been studying
Ana
January 9, 2014 at 9:00 am
Hi Chris,
I try to do limited contact as we work together and when other colleagues are around, I have to politely answer his questions/comments. He always talks to me first. I don’t want to quit my job because of him but we see each other far too often. I want him back but the situation has been owning me for 7 months now and I want out of despair.
What do you think?
A quick background:
We dated from Jan to May last year. He told me stuff like “it’s not you, it’s me” and that he wasn’t a person “to be normally dated with”. He told me he wanted less contact, less emotional attachment. After break-up, I have tried to limit contact (instinctively). It has always been him who initiates some flirty talk, sends cute pics etc. Some time ago he got a new gf and their relationship looks serious.
Thank you.
Ana
January 16, 2014 at 9:45 am
Hey Chris, it’s me again. I understand you have a lot of questions/comments to answer but I hope you will give your opinion on my situation, as well, when you have a moment 🙂
It’s not that I’ve been lying in bed crying about him all the time. Just the contrary, I’ve been doing fitness activities, yoga, breathing exercise and meditation. I don’t have extra weight and I have been paying attention to my face, hair etc. I read a lot, learn a foreign language, I am learning to drive a car, I don’t forget to see family and friends. I have also focused on work and got a raise in salary, as appreciation of my efforts.
But every time I see him I feel like a little helpless girl. I’m so dying for his kiss, for his tender voice… My imagination shows me scenes of him having sex with his new gf, walking hand in hand with her etc., and it’s a heartache.
admin
January 16, 2014 at 6:09 pm
Have you read my other guide on this?
Ana
January 16, 2014 at 7:09 pm
I’ve read almost everything on this site. Which idea exactly you think I should focus on?
admin
January 10, 2014 at 1:32 am
How do you know that their relationship is serious?
Ana
January 16, 2014 at 11:45 am
Oh god, I just accidentally learned that they live together! Is that not serious enough? (((((((((((
admin
January 16, 2014 at 6:13 pm
Hmm… that is pretty serious..
Ana
January 25, 2014 at 6:08 am
Hi again, Chris.
Thank you for your advice on limited contact. I feel a bit better when I avoid him. During this time, I’ve planned a nice weekend trip with my friends and I’ve been reading a lot and working out as well (everyone says that I’ve become thinner and more beautiful lately). I have to confess that I take pills to calm my emotions down, too (since I learnt that he lives with his new gf, have not been able to stop the tears by myself).
However, I don’t know what to do or say if he confronts me in person and asks why I am ignoring/avoiding him. Can I say “It may upset your current gf, you talking to someone you have a history with”? Or should I shake it off by a joke or smth? Need your advice on this.
Oh, if only we didn’t work in the same small company! It would be so much easier… He sees me very often. In such a way, any positive changes in me can’t surprise him…
Ana
February 1, 2014 at 7:05 am
Hey Chris, please advise how to talk to him if he confronts me and starts talking in person and there’s no-one around… I feel so helpless and in pain 🙁
admin
February 1, 2014 at 6:41 pm
What do you mean no one around?
Ana
February 1, 2014 at 7:45 pm
I mean, as we work together in one small office, we rarely see each other alone. When other colleagues are around, I can give some polite answer to any question of his and walk away to my workplace. But sometimes there can be a situation when we are alone, for example, in the coffee area or in a corridor, and he might ask why I am ignoring/avoiding him…
Sorry if I sound hard to understand. English isn’t my mother tongue.
Ana
February 5, 2014 at 6:19 pm
Every time he sees me, he looks at me and smiles, as if there has never been anything between us. I don’t smile back and I do my best to avoid…
Ana
February 8, 2014 at 10:33 am
Chris, I still have two important questions:
1) how should I act if he talks to me in person before the limited contact period is over?
2) why does he talk to me anyway (no work-related talk!)? Why all the smiles and looks? Does he think “Wow, I’m such a good person, I can be on friendly terms with my ex”? Why the hell not ignore me altogether? (
Thank you & congrats on your new book )
admin
February 8, 2014 at 6:15 pm
1 Very classy. Just think of class and that should be you.
2. Hmm… probably likes talking to you still.
Ana
January 18, 2014 at 2:10 pm
A friend of mine, N., she’s about 35 yrs old. She used to date a guy ten yrs ago and got pregnant. That guy dated another girl at the same time, and the other girl got pregnant too. He married the other girl. However, he provided help and financial support to N. and her daughter from time to time, despite that his wife didn’t like it. Some time ago N. and that man met and had a chance to talk. She asked him why he had chosen the other. He answered that N. looked so confident that he knew she would be okay without him, he had thought she had other men to take care of her and he was just one of the many. She never begged him, never cried. While the other girl came to him with a suitcase and told him she’d die without him.
N. says she never begged him not only because she was so prideful but also because she thought that crying and begging would never help – and you say the same in your guides.
However that guy chose the girl who had been crying, begging, saying she’d die without him. He said, if N. just told him such things, he would absolutely marry her.
So, based on this example, I’ve been thinking, does it make sense for me to tell my ex that I love him? He may not have the slighest idea that I still feel for him… Just yesterday he talked to me in a friendly way in a coffee area at work. What if I tell him that I love him? Will it push him even more away? Or will it make him think about me and, in his mind, compare his current gf to me?
Please help. I don’t want to end up like my friend, who only had a talk with her beloved after 10 years apart and learnt that he would choose her, had she only told him she felt for him…
admin
January 20, 2014 at 12:32 am
Crying and begging NEVER improves your situation. Look, I think its ok to cry and feel sorry for yourself. But eventually you have to get up and do something to improve your situation.
I am not sure that telling him you love him will help to be quite honest. Its better to let your actions and make him FEEL it.
Ana
January 20, 2014 at 7:47 am
Thank you, Chris. I stick to limited contact and I do my best to keep myself from doing anything disastrous and your guides really help in this.
I’ve read “Being in love” by Osho, which says that the true love is unconditional. That I must let him go. I want him to be happy and if he is really happy with that girl, then maybe I should let him go. I love him, even when he’s with someone else, even when there’s distance between us… But if I let him go because I love him, will he ever know?
What actions can show him my love?
I’ve also read all your guides reg. UG and I don’t understand: can UG love a man? If she loves, doesn’t she stop being ungettable for that man?
Have you heard a joke? “How to dump a guy in such a way that he’s not upset?” – “Do the following: be loving and caring, become a sex goddess, get up one hour earlier to make him breakfast, never complain, let him meet his friends for drinking and clubbing, don’t even look at other guys, and… HE’LL DUMP YOU HIMSELF for some slut. 100% proved method”.
Maybe I overlooked… If not, would you please consider composing a guide on how an UG can show her love and remain an UG? Thanks again.
admin
January 20, 2014 at 7:44 pm
How to remain the UG? A guide like that
Ana
January 21, 2014 at 6:40 am
I understand that that the UG is like a fortress which the man is trying to besiege. But if the girl shows her love, if he feels she loves, won’t she stop being the fortress?
admin
January 21, 2014 at 6:09 pm
Not necessarily
Ana
January 10, 2014 at 7:57 am
I guess so because they celebrated NY together. It is the biggest holiday of the year where I live and it’s usually celebrated with closest friends and kin.
clueless
January 7, 2014 at 4:07 pm
I broke up with my boyfriend in September 2013 he was a shit boyfriend. I been regretting the situation and been wanting him back. I’ve told him how i feel but he told me that he does not want a girlfriend but has suddenly got a girlfriend so i dont know how to get over him.
anisha
January 7, 2014 at 12:11 pm
i broke up wid my bf on 27th april 2013…
it has been 8 months…
i txted him continuously till may den directly i wished him on 29th aug 2013 on his bdae…he went to indore for studying…n made a gf there…nw he has cum to nsk…
he calls me aunty but m nt dat fat n he gets irritated by my msg…he is serious on his new gf…wat shud i do…i m desperate n dying for him…
i m in 10th…i need councilling….
plz plz plz reply…plz…
Claire
January 7, 2014 at 7:07 am
Hi Chris.
I was with my ex for all most 10 years and it was all ways up and down but we loved eachother very much. he had a passed girlfriend from high school who he was friends with on facebook but didn’t contact, not untill the last months of our realationship. she was all way an issuesfor me because i felt threatened and jealous of her.
then….
I fell pregnant after we were trying for years and we were so happy about the baby coming. He had to work away for most of the pregnancey so i was alone and when he came back for the birth i found out that she had been in contact with him and he had replied. When our baby was born he went a little strange and i thought it might be the stress and a bit of fear about becoming a dad, then when our son was 6 months old he got drunk and i found out that he still loved this girl and that he had told his family the same. I didn’t take it well and we seperated and i moved out with my son.
It’s been 5 months now and i want him back. i want my family back together and i want us to work on the issues that hurt our realationship but he has moved on with this girl and her two girls.
Did i mention that this girl broke up with the father of her girls to be with my ex the week he broke it off with me, and now it seems that they will be living together very shortly. What a BITCH.
i’ve told him that i want us back together and i’ve probably done all the wrong things in trying to win him back, example we still sleep with eachother and i’ve begged and threatened to tell her about him cheating.
I just don’t know what to do. i can’t do the no contact thing because of our son and so on.
I tell him that i love him forever and he tells me the same.
How do i get this home wreaker out of the seen and how do i get him to fall in love with me again?
Cassandra
January 7, 2014 at 2:38 am
Hi my name is Cassandra and I am now 22 years old. I need your help, my ex boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me on November 8th and two days after he left me I told him I cheated and replaced him (which was a lie) just wanted him to get jealous or whatever, anyways I am 34 weeks pregnant now, and we talked here and there about baby stuff because our daughter is going up for adoption, anyways I’ve been trying to get him back for awhile, tried the nc thing. We met up in late November early December one of which to give him some ultrasound pictures, he was flirting with me, making me laugh offered to pay for my hot chocolate and to walk me to the bus stop, but I refused but he ended up helping pay my drink and when we were departing after an hour of chit cheating he said he still cared about me and gave me a hug goodbye, I didn’t give him a hug back. Anyways I texted him later like 5 minutes after departing asking if he would like to hang out sometime he said yeah sure then later on that night I asked him if he missed me, he said when he has more minutes on his phone he will talk to me about it. So his minutes turned on on my birthday, we got into an argument about adoption papers cause he wants to fill his out himself instead of me asking him the questions over the phone… He also wished me a happy birthday, I ignored that comment till later. So he had to make a day to meet up with me do we could fill the papers out and then 2 days after my birthday my best friend called me and told me he made a Facebook and it had him and this girl he left me for last year for about a few days but then came back to me, anyways they are dating and my best friend looked on the girls profile and she has a picture of him and her as her photo and the date that they started dating was two days after he left me…. I then called my ex and bitched him out saying you left me and went back to her?! He said I didn’t know the facts blah blah blah. Later on that night I told him does he have any last words or comments to tell me before I block him forever from my life he didn’t answer so I called him we chit chatted he ended up saying he moved on cause I said I did… And I told him no, I waited for you, I just said that cause I was mad, I slept with his picture every night praying to god every night that he’d come back, and I told him make his girlfriend his first priority and don’t fuck her over and to hold onto her and that I’m happy for him (I was crying telling him this) and then he told me its not like that. (I don’t understand what he means by that) then he said he didn’t know I was capable of saying things like that and that he wants to talk to me about something (which was on Friday) and then I left my phone home and came back, after we got off the phone he texted me “I’m sorry Cassy I really am………” Then I texted him Saturday asking what he wanted to talk about he said he will tell me Sunday (I texted and called him all Sunday and today Monday and his phone eventually went to voicemail last night and no one has heard from him. I feel led on right now and I just want to know what he wanted to say, I miss him and love him, he’s been with her for two months now, do I have a chance? Is he dragging me along? Should I ignore him? Our baby is due February 18th today is January 6. Please help me, we really lived each other just went through a lot of crap with each other.
Shannon
January 9, 2014 at 2:00 pm
Dear Cassy, I’m so sorry about everything that is going on, i’m going through some of the same stuff. My boyfriend and i were dating for 6 1/2 months, we were happy and everything. One day when we went to go visit his mother and I was still sleeping upstairs his mother decided to tell him that his ex missed him and loved him.. like wtf, who does that.. Anyways two days ago he left me saying it wasn’t me, it was him and that he still wanted to be best friends and be single for a very long time. Yesterday we hung out and went to the mall and got into a huge fight in a walmart parking lot and it just came out that he still loved her and that his mother had told him that. He still says he loves me then throws in a best friend ontop of that. He texts all the time, but.. :/ he’s just gotten back together with him ex that he was only together with for month because all they did was fight, any tips on how to get him back? 🙁
admin
January 7, 2014 at 6:46 pm
He is pretty much being a jerk isn’t he…. Take a little break from him. I think you are being too available.
Cassandra
January 7, 2014 at 8:41 pm
Yea he is, he texted me today then we started talking cause he wanted to have that talk and I told him that his best friend and I are talking and he got mad at me said his best friend aunt gonna fuck his baby momma and I ain’t gonna fuck his best friend, I said if two people choose to be with each other you can’t really say who can do what, but all I said is his best friend was just bein there for me when I was worried about my ex for the past few days, he called his best friend and yelled at him for talking to me. Now my ex is ignoring my calls. (Also said to me earlier that he wished that I was this way back then) but after I blew up his phone just to say what I wanted to say he said “get the hint, and give me time to chill I’m pissed right now, not the best time to nl
Cassandra
January 7, 2014 at 2:41 am
Oh yea when we last talked I said how dies your girlfriend think about us hanging out last time? He said she knows about me and she’s okay with it, then 5 minutes later he said she knows nothing about me… I asked him thought you said she knew about me, he got silent. (Had to throw that in)
Sophie
January 6, 2014 at 7:56 pm
Hi there,
Love your site. My ex recently left me for someone he met online and we were together for almost 4 years. He broke up with me about a month ago and visited her recently, (judging from facebook..they looked really really happy)I’ve been in NCR for about a week and a half and I was just wondering if I still have any hope?
thank you!
admin
January 7, 2014 at 6:37 pm
I think so yes.
Ann
January 6, 2014 at 5:29 am
Hi Chris! I’ve been reading your website for over 2 months now.
I’ll be short and sweet, since I know you’re busy and I REALLY hope you reply to my comment!
-Broke up with my long distance bf of 4 years late October. (out of the blue because I met someone and wanted out of long distance)
-We had NC for 3 weeks; then I tried contacting him because I was worried. He turned me down, blocked my number, told me I needed to move on.
-After about a week, he contacted me saying he wanted me back. I told him we should meet up, and that maybe we could get back together eventually. He was upset with my “uncertainty” and blocked me again. Told me to move on, and give him space.
-I contacted him after 2.5 weeks of NC, certain I wanted to get back together. He told me to move on, and that he had “realized” he didn’t want to be with me since I wasn’t sure about him before.
-Began NC again, he emailed me “happy birthday”, then after 2 weeks total of NC, I saw that he was hanging out with his ex (before me, 4 yr relationship) over break while he was home in Florida. I only know that they have hung out at least twice.
-Yesterday I broke two weeks of NC to ask him if he was seeing her again. He ignored my email. I sent another email saying I was happy for him, and wished him well.
*The only way I can contact him is via email, since he has my number blocked. After 30 days of NC, do I still contact him via email anyway?
admin
January 6, 2014 at 6:53 pm
Yes I think email is the way to go in yoru case.
sandy
January 5, 2014 at 3:16 pm
hello^^
i was in a long distance relationship with my ex.
then now i really want him back (still not live in the same country), but it seems he has a girlfriend(not sure they are in a relationship or not) now!
and im not contact with him from 1 of January, but i will go to his city on 8 of February, so when should i tell him that im going to visit there? on 2 of February?!
and i have another question, my ex and i we both have each others facebook and instagram, and should i still update something on there just like what i always do ?
thank you!
jassi
January 3, 2014 at 3:52 pm
well me and my ex were dating for three months. he broke up with me saying he was going to be way to busy to be in a relationships and that he wouldn’t be looking for anyone. five days later I see he has a new girl and I heard he tells all his friends who want to talk to me not to because I’m “crazy” I don’t understand why he would say that if he has someone new and when I heard he had someone new all I said to him was congrats on the new girl and he yelled at me help