How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

3,819 thoughts on “Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend”

Tara

February 21, 2014 at 11:01 pm

Hi Chris,

I was dating my ex for 4 years and they were very happy 4 years of my life. We split up in October due to issues with his family and for cultural reasons they were unwilling to accept me as a daughter in law should we marry. Since then I found out that they want him to marry a girl he was dating before he met me, they had an on off relationship from what I understand but she was always trying to get back with him during the time we were together including befriending his family members. Hence the reason she’s ideal. As far as I am aware they are now seeing each other.

Anyway I have done the no contact, become the ungettable girl and even managed to get him jealous about the fact that other men are interested in me. After no contact he got in touch to confide in me about some personal troubles and I supported him without raising any issues of how heartbroken I was. He commented on how beautiful I looked in my profile pics and asked if I was seeing anyone. At which I replied no but have been chatting to a guy to which he got really upset and hurt and even shouted down the phone at the thought I might see this guy over the weekend. He hung up. He text asking if the new look was for me new man and I should run off to him. Then a wk later he text me and I ignored it for 3 hours. When I replied he asked if I was ok and then got annoyed that I took what he said was 8 hours to reply. I miss him and having him in contact again felt great. We were talking again and now he’ has stopped contact. I have not text him either as I don’t want him to think I’m running after him too much…

Some advice would be great guys? Am I wasting my time here? Currently 9 days back into no contact, dying to pick up the phone but I won’t.. Is he just after an ego stroke or does he genuinely miss me. He said he misses me and thinks about me everyday. I’m confused and hurt.

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:42 pm

I guess I want to ask you if you think you are wasting your time?
Tara

February 22, 2014 at 9:04 pm

I hope that I am not. Having him back in contact felt like coming home. His words upon our first deep conversation was how he missed me sooo much. I guess what I am asking is how do I progress from here.

Anny

February 21, 2014 at 7:07 pm

my boyfriend is in the military and stationed over seas so we are long distance since april 2013 but i just got back from visiting him over winter break a few weeks ago. we have been together for 2 years. today he texted me and all he said was ‘i have feelings for someone else’ last weekend we skyped for three hours and everything seemed fine, we even made plans for me to go visit him next month and now this happened. what should i do? i love him

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:38 pm

Have you read my LDR guide?
Anny

February 22, 2014 at 7:10 pm

Yes I have. I’m just worried since he already has someone new
We skyped last weekend and he told me to visit then 4 days later he tells me he has someone else?

Anonymous

February 21, 2014 at 3:06 am

I was with my ex boyfriend for almost 5 years. I always get jealous easily but I still apologized after when I freaked out. I was with him the 13th of February…The next day, he was with a different girl and they’re now dating. The new “girlfriend” is in high school and just turned 18 years old. My ex is almost 23 and graduating this year in college. I’m 21 years old turning 22 next month. He HASN’T text to me at all and I’m wondering if he’s really over me? And do you think I can get him back?

admin

February 21, 2014 at 6:21 pm

Not necessarily.. he may just be really stubborn.

Emme

February 18, 2014 at 5:13 pm

I need your help. I was with a great man for 4 years. We had a wonderful, loving relationship. Towards the end, we both had a lot of stresses going on and fought more than usual. One day I found out he was doing drugs and lying to me about it so in a rage I broke up with him. I tried to talk to him immediately after the breakup but he would ignore my calls and texts and even ran out of a bar once because he saw me there. I’ve seen him a handful of times sine the breakup (which was over a year ago.) The last couple times I saw him, he was much friendlier to me and always made it a point to say how good I looked. This Valentine’s Day, I decided to send him a mix tape to tell him that I was sorry how things were handled and that I missed him and still loved him. 2 days later, he emailed me saying “hey, I got the package you sent to my office. things are different for me now. I wish you happiness but ive moved on and you should too.” I’m convinced the “things are different for me now” means he’s seeing someone. What should I do? I am desperate to get back together with him. Please help me!
Morgan

February 18, 2014 at 12:58 am

My boyfriend and I broke up in Oct 2013, and then in December of 2023, he told me he missed me and wanted me back, but the very next day, he never spoke to me. It’s now Feb 2014 and he doesn’t respond to anything. I learned today he got a new girlfriend, and I’m heartbroken. Any advice?

admin

February 18, 2014 at 7:14 pm

Have you read my latest guide on this topic?

Toby

February 16, 2014 at 3:30 pm

my ex actually left school for a month and then got another girlfriend and broke up with me, when he came back it was as if nothing ever happened, and we are like bestfriends now but I still want him back so badly and he keep talking a bout his girl friend….What do you think I should do????!!!
Lee

February 12, 2014 at 2:44 pm

Im gutted I’ve been separated from my husband for over 1 year after 23 years of marriage . We have been friendly all the way throughout sharing two teenage boys . Everyone saying how mature we ve been all the way throughout the seperation process . We often had dinner and talked . I was and still am in love with him . Recently he met a woman on a dating site first interest since we broke up . He is very fond of her . I’m devasted I thought he may come for me so that’s why I remained friends and close I never wanted to seperate . I went around to his house and crying begged and pleading to choose me over someone he has known 4 weeks . He told me he ll always love me but I have to move on as he has had too . He was stunned at how upset I was and had no idea I cannot move on without him . Today is my second day of no contact I honestly feel I could die .The first day I put back in his letterbox tickets to a concert he had bought for my birthday and the letter he had written to explain about moving on as he has had too . Please help I’m in so much pain he is the love of my life . Will the no contact rule work and maybe then he ll choose me !!!

admin

February 12, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Have you read my guide about getting an ex husband back?
Lola

February 13, 2014 at 5:36 am

Lee, I just want to send LOVE and Support your way. I am i no position to help you or give any advise, but I hope that knowing that you are not alone in it may help. I’ve been in such an agony for a year now… and you know what, it’s getting better… I am calmer… and I’ve taken some steps to reconnect with the love of MY life… and at very least it doing something about the situation gives me sense of taking charge and being in control of… ME. Have FAITH in YOU. Love conquers a LOT of things… God Bless!
Lee

February 12, 2014 at 11:26 pm

No do you think it’s possible .
I’m finding it hard to do anything . Should
I still try and continue no contact ??
admin

February 14, 2014 at 2:56 am

I think you should BUT if you want to give up thats a decision thats yours and yours alone.

Kaylee

February 12, 2014 at 3:37 am

Last nigt my ex said he was talking to someone andthen today he told me he was seeing her and he was happy and he thought t was gonna get serious with her. He has been talking to me almost everyday though and being really nice. This new girl still lives with her ex husband too. I don’t get why he says one day thy are just talkig and then overnight there seeing eachother. What does this mean? Do I have a chance at getting him back still? It hurts so bad to know or think he is really with someone and says he wants to get serious

Kaylee

February 12, 2014 at 9:49 pm

I don’t get why he is sending me mixed signals
Kaylee

February 12, 2014 at 9:49 pm

Do u think he could just be pushing my buttons? I don’t get why he is sending me mixed signals

B

February 12, 2014 at 12:50 am

My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and now hes dating this girl he works with. I dont get it. this week he wanted to spend time with our son and he asked me if I wanted to come along (I agreed). Can this be a rebound relationship? Should I move on?. He seems to be spending alot of time with her. I did 30 days of no contact and I text him and he gave me a neutral response. Please give me some info on what to do.
Sarah

February 11, 2014 at 11:20 am

My ex BF started ignoring me at the end of Dec after a smaller fight (nothing huge, but yeah, I got a bit needy). He did this before (and he does this with friends too when he is angry), so I just ignored him back and waited for him to beg me back. Instead, after 2 weeks he met a girl (complete opposite of his type) and went straight into a RS with her. He did try to rub it in my face at first by posting stuff on FB. I didn’t show any reaction and he stopped after the first 10 days or so. We have now been in NC for 6 weeks, he has been seeing this girl for almost a month, more than 2 weeks official. Shall I keep NC? I am scared that if I contact him, he will know I still want him and thus just giving him an ego boost and making his new RS even stronger. What is your suggestion?

admin

February 11, 2014 at 6:31 pm

I think you should keep it yes.
lexy

March 3, 2014 at 10:03 pm

UPDATE: I waited another 2 weeks so It’s been almost 2 months of NC. I felt very empowered since I managed to survive and not react to his behavior. I sent him an innocent text when I felt ready. He waited almost 4 days to reply (I knew he would though), but since then he’s been replying faster and faster. His replies are way longer than mine, he genuinely seems interested in having a convo + we joked a lot, he even threw in a few indirect compliments saying that he finds it so cool that I work out so hard especially because I don’t even need it with the body I have etc. Any advice on how to proceed? I am trying to build attraction as you suggest, but I still have some doubts whether he is just being nice and likes to keep me as a safety net. How will I know? What signs should I be looking for? I did contact him because It doesn’t seem like his RS is going anywhere and I believe in us. I am scared to rush things so I am trying to slow down all this texting and I am ok with that… If that’s the right thing to do 🙂
Sarah Lexy

March 9, 2014 at 9:24 pm

Any advice on the above matter? I am not sure if he is being just really friendly or what.. we even texted about some sexual stuff we did and I don’t think it’s right considering he has got a gf and I don’t know what signs to look for: if he is just being friendly, using me or actually still caring about me/missing me.

Yessenia

February 10, 2014 at 7:14 pm

Hi Cris,

I am heart broke .. I had a relationship of 4 years .. He was too distance and i told him that each of us should take our way… after a month he starts to date a girl he has been with her since 1 year ago… but I really love him ,…. I want him back … We are still friends and have regular contact about things we have together …. we almost see every 2 weeks just because of this or that but never talk too much … we just say hi and start talk about what ever is the reason we had contact … but yesterday he took this girl to my mother in law house at her birthday party … i feel horrible …. and don’t know if here is even a hope for us to be back together .

admin

February 11, 2014 at 12:49 am

Hahah it’s Chris not Cris!

Are you two married?

Nora

February 10, 2014 at 2:40 pm

Hi Chris,
I wondered if you had any thoughts for me.
I was with my bf for 2 years. We broke up (my choice) about 6 months after I moved to another part of the country for work. I found long distance very difficult as we had previously been living together. We were friends for a year after that, and on-off no commitment lovers. I found this really upsetting but seemed unable to stop it. I didn’t want to get back together as It wasn’t practically possible to be in the same part of the country, and I didn’t want to be as miserable as I had been. I also didn’t want to cut him out of my life as I guess I still had feelings for him. In the end I went abroad for 6 months in order to clear my head and force myself to move on and not see him. He said he still loved me and he wanted to talk about us getting back together when I returned, that he would wait for me. I never asked him to do this, it came from him.
So I trumped the 30 day no speaking rule and did 6 months! Over the time I was away I’ve become a much stronger and happier person, but I also realise I want him back, wherever in the country we are. I thought about him constantly through all the amazing experiences I had. I spoke to him for the first time yesterday and he has a new girlfriend, of a few months, who he seems fairly keen on. That hurt like hell. I suggested that we meet and we are seeing each other in a few days for drinks.
I’m not sure how to play this one. I feel betrayed that he didn’t wait for me after saying he would, which is probably unreasonable. I’m not sure if I should put my heart on my sleeve or try to play it cool.
Any advice really welcome.
admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:56 am

So, who broke up with who initially?

You to him or him to you?
sarah

February 10, 2014 at 2:39 am

I was with my ex for 3 and a half years we lived together and were supposed to get married however my family didn’t approve thought 22 was way too young to get married esp. Right out of college anyways I broke up w him bc we were constantly fighting after a month I took him back but things weren’t the same 3 months later I ended it. Even after the break up we still texted each other. A few weeks ago I found out that he has a new girlfriend. I was devestated. I wanted to move on I was so sure I made the right decision but now I miss him so much and I want him back. I had to call him about something important and it ended up to be a 2 hour conversation. He even said he would go out wih other girls but he will never feel about them the way he felt about me. He knows I want him back but he hasnt broken up with his gf yet because he doesn’t know if my feelings are sincere since I broke up wih him twice. If we get back together will it last? I don’t want to change my mind again..I don’t think I’ll know until I see him again if there’s anything left to save 🙁
Lola

February 9, 2014 at 5:47 pm

Hello Chris, I hope you are doing and feeling great.

I have a Question, that many of us might wanna know the answer to. Should I send a short text to my ex on Valentine’s Day? Something like ‘Thinking of You’ or ‘You are special to me’… Although he has a girlfriend, V Day seems as a good time to let him know that I still care. (it’s been two months since out last communication – no contact after that).

Thank you!

admin

February 10, 2014 at 5:37 am

It depends where you are at with him.

For most women it will be a NO.

However, if the two of you are “heating up” when you talk to each other then I dont see how it could hurt.
Lola

February 10, 2014 at 5:59 am

Thank you, Chris. Even thought our last communication felt good (we even hugged), he is still with her, and had not texted me even once… so I would not call it “heating up” just yet… I guess, it’s a ‘NO’ for me. Maybe I could let him know I am thinking about him some other time – on some neutral day. But I am definitely not giving up!:)

samantha

February 8, 2014 at 2:59 am

Hello
My ex boyfriend broke up with me brfore a year And i’m still in love with him and after 2 months of our split we stopped talking with each other and i don’t want to Have anither boyfriend so please help me to get him back
Carla Pond

February 5, 2014 at 5:07 pm

So my ex and I were together for 4 years and we didnt have the best relationship but we loved each other very much, when he broke up with me i was broken, he went his way and i went mine about two months after we broke up he wanted to be friends, but we started to see each one a week and texted all the time we also became intimate with each other again, but i noticed that every time he started to seem to like me again he would shut down and become a dick so it confused me. recently he didnt want to see me for two weeks and then told me that we was talking to a new girl, and that he wanted to distance himself from me because he was still very physically attracted to me but emotionally he wasnt. needless to say we ended up becoming intimate once more and he said he didnt want to lose me from his life and i could try to win him back but he wasnt going to try with me. so im confused and i need help.
Nikitha

February 5, 2014 at 12:02 pm

My case is a very typical one , this kind of stuff happens only in India , I still hope you will be able to say something about this. My ex-boyfriend started talking to me only because he intended to marry me, we were in a long distance relationship for 6 months.. but his parents didn’t approve of it because I’m a year older, think i’m fast and don’t like the idea of love marriage. There are no caste and status issues but his parents just formed the wrong idea of me and exaggerated the disadvantages of marrying me with respect to how society will react, how different my family is , how i wont fit in etc. He claims that he wasn’t convinced but was pushed into talking to another girl. He’s a bit of a coward and his parents are very strict, but I’m sure if he insists on not getting over me even after talking to that girl, they’ll consider. But I have a feeling he doesn’t want to handle the pressure and thinks the other girl is not a bad option. It’s been a month since he started talking and I have been in touch simultaneously. Do you think this guide will help me make him want me so badly that he would stand up for me against the odds?

admin

February 5, 2014 at 6:58 pm

I think this guide can help but you might want to check out the latest guide too.
Nikitha

February 6, 2014 at 6:22 am

Thanks for the reply. Where do I find your latest guide?
admin

February 6, 2014 at 6:07 pm

Try this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-has-a-girlfriend-version-2-0/

Theresa

February 5, 2014 at 3:55 am

My ex and I have been off and on for 6 years. During the off time, we fell pregnant, and had a baby. He had moved in during that time because of it. Then he moved out a year after our daughter was born. We continues dating, even though the official title wasn’t there. We fell pregnant again, and he distanced himself from me. He still saw our daughter. We would still do the couple things, family things, run errands etc… But he seemed off. Two months after our second daughter was born, I found out he was seeing someone. I didn’t take it well. And a month after I found out (he had been seeing her for 3 months at this point) we started seeing each other again. There was a lot of back and forth for the last 5 months. His girlfriend found out, and he had been lying to the both of us. I knew he was with her, but he would tell me he loved and missed our family, that he wanted to come home. Then after we were intimate, a few days later tell me to move on. Meanwhile telling her I just wouldn’t let him go. He would pull me back into the mix when he would think I was seeing someone, or when I actually was (just a few dates but nothing serious). His girlfriend also started seeing someone because of all of this, and she used that guy to make him jealous, but continued on with him as well. Now my ex has decided to just be with her. I have done all the wrong things. Begged. Cried. Insulted him and his girlfriend. Talked to everyone, His family. Even reached out to his girlfriend for closure. She also found out the capacity of lies (only once did in reach out to her). But after that, I decided to just give up. And they are now together. She contacted me recently because she couldn’t tell if he was lying..

How can I win him back after all of this? Is there a chance to? I love my family, I want him home.
Natalie

February 5, 2014 at 3:55 am

My boyfriend and I were together for two years and we were very serious about having a future together. He broke up with me four months ago and got with this girl who lives almost 5 hours away. She moved in with him on New Years and we have gotten into it plenty of times. I even got into it with him. Well I met up with my ex today because we are kind of still friends and he was talking about how his girlfriend doesn’t trust him and how he is tired of it. I almost got into an accident while he was in the car with me and he accidentally called me babe. I don’t know what he wants but I really want him back. His mom even wants him to get back together with me. What should I do in this situation? Should I wait it out?

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