122 thoughts on “EBR 057: Birthdays And The No Contact Rule”

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   Lauren

   September 19, 2016 at 11:06 am

   So I’m not sure if this is the wrong topic to comment under but I’m not sure what to do… me and my ex have been broken up for about 6-7 months I have done no contact before but it failed, throughout the 6-7 months we have made several phone calls and how we still love each other and we even seen one another and it went great but when it comes down to it he still isn’t wanting a relationship and I feel like he was just leavin me waiting for him. His friends told me 2 weeks ago he talks about me and how he wants me but he’s older then me and he works. I’m not sure wjay to do..

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 21, 2016 at 1:34 pm

   Hi Lauren

   how old are you both? when and how long did you do nc? Did you improve yourself during and after it?

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   Ollie

   September 18, 2016 at 9:54 am

   MY birthday is this Tuesday and falls into the NC period. If he reaches out and says happy birthday should I give a simple “thank you” response? Or none at all. Thanks!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 20, 2016 at 1:53 pm

   hi Olliex
   better if none…

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   Shalmali

   September 15, 2016 at 3:09 pm

   Hey! I was about to contact you guys for help and just then I saw this article and my screenshot in it!
   So I did text him up(my nc has been over by a month) and he replied positively! I mean he thanked me and said a few good things like he was waiting for my text all day, he apologised for what he had done,that he hopes we’ll be in touch & that I’ll be special to him forever.
   I tried to keep the conversation short, but he somehow just didn’t stop.
   What do I do after this?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 18, 2016 at 2:02 pm

   It’s ok to initiate a text again, just be the one to end it high note the next time.

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   Stella

   September 13, 2016 at 4:01 am

   i have started the no contact rule on september 8 and i will be ending on october 8th. My ex’s birthday will be the week after the nc end date, so would it be fine for me to wish him ?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 14, 2016 at 3:43 pm

   Yes, it’s ok! 🙂

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   Lyne

   September 8, 2016 at 11:20 pm

   Thats really good will make sure to not wish him a happy birthday next Tuesday

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 9, 2016 at 11:47 am

   Hi Lyne

   you said he texted a month after you started nc, so are you aiming for 45?because you’ve already broken it when you replied and he thought you’re back to talking again

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   aish

   September 6, 2016 at 4:23 am

   i love this podcast! thanx chris 🙂

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   yuna

   September 28, 2016 at 1:53 am

   I was with my x for 3 years and we got engaged, we got into a fight and i broke it off. I totally regret it Biggest mistake i Did!! I broke the NCR After 2 weeks and got a negative response. So i started again the NCR its been 3 weeks but his birthday is at the end of my 30 days. In the podcast Chris says we should wait a couple of days later to wish them a happy Bday. Can you give me some examples of what type of text i should send?

   Thanks for your advice.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 29, 2016 at 5:54 am

   Hi Yuna,

   wait, have you improved yourself?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   September 7, 2016 at 6:11 am

   Thank you too Aish!