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Annonymous
August 5, 2016 at 11:07 am
Is tricky, because while his parents are practicing Muslims, they’re not super devout. As for him, HE’S ATHEIST! And in the beginning, and has always been against people only dating people their parents approved of. It’s more of a culture/language thing — they can’t fathom having a blended family, and don’t know how the kids would be raised.
One of the last times we spoke, he said when he tells his parents, he thinks they’re going to believe he made the right decision (obviously) and that this will be better for our futures. He then said he hates that his parents think this way. WTF?
I feel that he’s going to regret it, no matter what he tries to tell himself, because how can you go against your core beliefs as a person just to please your parents?
Annonymous
August 5, 2016 at 6:09 pm
Also, I’d like to add his parents are coming to visit sometime soon (probably within the next week or 2), so I’m afraid once he tells them we’re through and they’re happy, my chances are blown.
I was thinking of things I could do to let them know I was serious about becoming apart of their family, like taking Farsi classes and learning more about Persian culture. But how can I even do that when I still have 13 days of NC left?
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 6, 2016 at 3:49 pm
Hi Anonymous,
like what Chris implies, you should be yourself… because his decision to stand up for you or leave you for his parent’s approval is his decision alone.
Annonymous
August 4, 2016 at 10:05 pm
Thank you for answering my question, Chris!
For clarity for anyone watching, my ex is Persian, I’m not, which is what caused the rift with his parents (who I NEVER met). During the break up (when I was breaking all the rules), he said he had faith he could change his parents, but he “guesses” he was in denial. I know he still loves me, he’s said as much, and after the breakup, he came to the hospital when my aunt died to console me and my family, and stayed over and just cuddled with me the night after. Also, we’re both 26, just so you know we’re not teens.
I’m now on Day 16 of NC and feeling sad, but better. I have been working out, going to a therapist, going out with friends and making sure to post everything on social media. I know he for sure sees it, even though I deleted him from everything after we broke up.
Again, thank you for the response and will keep you updated.
Chris Seiter
August 4, 2016 at 11:22 pm
Was there some type of religious issue involved?
I didn’t want to assume anything so I just kind of stuck to what you asked.
You sound like you are doing a great job!!!