110 thoughts on “EBR 028: Your Ex Boyfriends Insecurity”

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   Sally

   April 2, 2015 at 7:13 pm

   My ex broke up with me 3 months ago (we’d been dating 4 months) after he bumped into his ex – they’d broken up 2 years ago after she cheated on him. He still had feelings for her although they’ve not got back together. I did NC then contacted him a few times by text, getting increasingly positive responses. After a few weeks he sent me a flirty text during our conversation, but when I referred back to it a few days later he apologised and said he was only being flippant. Then he said he needed a lot of time to get over his previous ex as he’d never really accepted before that it was over. I said fine, but I wasn’t going to wait around for him. I’ve done a further 30 days NC during which time I know he’s been stalking me on social media – he even reactivated his profile on the dating website where we’d met (I had already reactivated mine) and changed his profile photo to one of us with me cropped out. I’ve just sent him a text wishing him happy birthday for the weekend and he’s sent me a one word reply “thanks”. Not sure where to go from here? Whether to give him more attention or less? Think he’s very vulnerable to being cheated on (his ex wife also cheated many years ago) – how big a problem is it that he’s seen me back on a dating website?

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   admin

   April 3, 2015 at 1:03 am

   I think its not a HUGE problem but he definitely probably is hurt to see it.

   Nevertheless, there are worse situations.

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   Sally

   April 4, 2015 at 6:13 am

   What should I do next? Should I wait a few days and then text him again to try and get positive responses like I did before? I’m not actually dating anybody else – do I give him any reassurance on that or come off the dating site altogether or just ignore that issue?

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   Jess

   April 2, 2015 at 6:12 pm

   Is it bad that the first thing I can think of to do with the 20 million is pay of my college loans? And then the next thing would be to pay for grad school and those expenses. The struggle of a student is so real 🙁

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   admin

   April 3, 2015 at 1:01 am

   Hahah are you serious?

   Your loans wouldn’t even dent that kind of money.

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   Jess

   April 3, 2015 at 1:57 am

   Serious! Of course it’s not all I’d use it on, but it’s definitely the first thing that comes to mind haha.

   The rest would probably fall under things that would make allow me to live a life of comfort too though, so a nice mansion would probably be up there as well! And one on the side for my folks too 🙂

   Oh and definitely my own personal chef to make me whatever I want to eat as well as personal trainer so I can work it off later. That’s the life right there.

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   admin

   April 7, 2015 at 8:21 pm

   A nice mansion is definitely up on my list as well though I am not sure I would be super happy there. It might too big.

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   Cynthia

   April 2, 2015 at 6:08 pm

   Hi Chris,
   So my NC days are over and I went ahead and sent my first text message, it went down like this… Me : “Hey went to the drive ins last night, and remembered the time we went to the drive ins in your moms car and slept in her trunk until morning with the trunk open, and it made me think of you for the first time in a while. Honestly, it actually made me smile :). ”

   His reply: “Thank you for feeling that way”

   I can’t figure out if this is a positive , neutral, or negative response. And if it is positive, where do I take things from here?

   Thanks again for answering this question Chris 🙂

   -desperate girl trying to get her man back

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   admin

   April 3, 2015 at 1:01 am

   I think its positive haha.