5 thoughts on “Community”

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   Jana Kennedy

   June 3, 2026 at 3:47 pm

   I’ve been with a severe dismissive avoidant for 10 months & I just tried ending it. Again. I’ve never ever in my LIFE, experienced ANY relationship that has broken my heart more or left me without words the way this one has. And I am NEVER without something to say❣️ I tried something new this time. Instead of my usual breakup text (which I’ve sent him one every single time we’re intimate and the next morning comes). I do this to protect my heart, my self worth etc. He knows he’s gonna get one when I kea e but do you think he’s ever mentioned it and tried to stop me from sending it? Of course not:/ no matter how good the night before was. Or how close we got. The next morning i can FEEL him starting to slip away. It’s the most devastating thing to witness. In the beginning he’d stay gone sometimes 21 days. Lately tho, he can only stay gone 5-9 days before he comes back. I always go zero contact and it KILLS me. I do not have annnny idea how I’ve survived this for the better part of a year. No idea. There seems to be nothing I’ve said to him that keeps him from trying to pop back up. I’ve even said some not nice things (out of pain) in my breakup texts to him. I even told him the sex is horrible (total lie of course) to see if that would work. Nope. And I don’t reallllly want him gone of course; I want him to WANT us to be better. That doesn’t seem to happen. He of course blames my breaking up every time. We all know that’s bullsh*t tho because he would still shut down. And I’ve caught him mid shutdown before and that was so destabilizing to witness, I had nightmares from it. He was unrecognizable. I had no idea what a hard shutdown actually looked like until that random day. I’ve walked in on him twice in that same place and talk about UPSETTING:/ He was so GONE I thought there was no WAY I was ever hearing from him again, that’s how despondent and “not giving a damn” he sounded. Anyway…my heart is FRIED not to mention my nervous system. My love for him however seems to have only grown. So this last time after I sent a new breakup text after more time together, I tried something new. The very next day I sent a very logistical sounding text, listing a fed ex account number for him to return some items I left at his house. He did respond (but I haven’t read it). I know, I’m weird but sometimes when idk how he’s gonna sound, I just ….. opt out of reading anything 🙁 He wasn’t likely already shut down at that point because it was 3 days post intimacy. Fast forward to present day….we are at day 10 as of this morning. Waiting to see if his might be it because I read somewhere that when you send a severe DA something with no emotion for him to hide behind, they feel too exposed (the whole shame thing) and they stay gone. Of course I’m wondering if I made a mistake and my heart is absolutely BROKEN. But, at the same time…there’s no turning back. I’m physically sick, I have zero appetite I’m jittery the whole thing. But I CANNOT allow myself to undo it. The pain that comes with loving a severe DA is ongoing I’ve hard learned. But the pain of losing him is acute. It’s borderline unbearable, I wish i could say different (“oh it’s not that baaad! Tryyyy it!”) yeah but I’d be telling you the hugest most painful lie. I love him so sooo much. But like I read somewhere….we simply MUST choose to love our self just a little bit more. OX…please pray for me. I need it more than words can describe. ~ J.

2. 

   MA

   April 18, 2026 at 2:40 pm

   My avoidant boyfriend is ghosting me for 2 months. We’re together in a relationship for 2 tears. Is this normal even for an avoidant?
   Can you help me ?

1. 

   Chris Seiter

   April 23, 2026 at 7:47 pm

   You should go to my website and send our Support Team a detailed message describing your situation asking for some coaching advice. They will reply to you there. You can use our “Contact” link which appears on the bottom of every page of our website.
   https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/contact/

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   Amy Pike

   March 24, 2026 at 5:21 pm

   I would love to be part of this community! I have been struggling to fully let go of my dismissive avoidant ex for 3 years and I need support and advice when im triggered. Im slowly getting there and am proud of how far ive come but I keep relapsing and getting sucked back in.

1. 

   Chris Seiter

   March 29, 2026 at 8:55 pm

   Hi Amy,

   Thank you for reaching out. Going through a breakup, especially when dealing with complex dynamics like avoidance, can be incredibly challenging and isolating. I understand, and I want to share something specifically designed to provide clarity and support during this time.

   Some time ago we moved our Facebook Group to a dedicated platform called Mighty Networks. Our online Community is known as “The Reconnection Room”. You might be interested in joining for many reasons. For one, we offer Free Group Coaching among many other things.

   What makes this Community truly valuable is that it’s more than just a Forum – it’s a comprehensive Resource Hub. We’ve integrated my entire Library of Courses and Essential Breakup Resources (21 distinct E-Products) directly into the Community. This means you get immediate access to proven strategies and insights, alongside continuous support.

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