You Cheated On Your Boyfriend And Now You Want Him Back

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The hopeless romantic

May 13, 2015 at 12:12 am

Hi I have no idea if this is still working or if you will ever read this but I need help. I am going insane. I was dating a guy of 4 years he was emotanaly abusive and I started dating my ex again while with the other guy I fell so in love with the second guy that I thought we could get through anything and I guess I was wrong. I came out about 8 months later and told him the truth and that I pick him and I’m so sorry. He told me he will never forgive me. I want him back and it hurts a lot.
It has been 7 days now and he still hasn’t talked to me.
Please help anyone

Chris Seiter

May 13, 2015 at 12:47 pm

You fell in love with which one exactly?
The hopeless romantic

May 13, 2015 at 12:14 am

And I have already begun working on my self. And I have learned from my mistake. I just want him back….

Kelley

May 11, 2015 at 2:42 pm

My BF was working A LOT, I asked him to not work so much, to take time off, I even told him that I would rather stay in our small house rather than him be gone all the time. He said work couldn’t afford to let him off and he needed to be there. (He had a stint of time where he didn’t work and he said this hurt him on many levels because he felt he wasn’t providing for us). This was all in 2013. An ex contacted me and we started talking via email and text, for about 2 months. He told me he loved me, I stupidly said it back because it felt good to hear all the things he was saying to me. Mind you, I did tell my ex that I WAS NOT going to leave my BF, I love him and we were in a rough patch, needless to say, my ex took advantage of that. After about 2 months, I told him I couldn’t talk to him anymore, because I love my BF and didn’t want to lose him. I was going to sit and wait on his work to slow down. Fast forward to 2015…January, he found emails (I thought they were deleted, apparently not), I found out he knew about 2 weeks after he found out. In his mind, he had already broken up with me, but not told me…and he had started seeing another girl (while we were/are living together). I just found out about the other girl..he said they are just talking, I believe him (why should he lie?) We have been more honest than ever before. I believe we can save us, he is still angry and hurt. Will this program work for us?
I have completely cut the ex out of my life…he has tried to contact me and I have told my BF and showed him the emails, I have deleted him and his family out of my phone….will your program help even though we are still living together and trying to get past this?

Chris Seiter

May 11, 2015 at 5:20 pm

Yes, you may have to make a few alterations though.

Lydia

April 16, 2015 at 8:11 pm

Chris,
I had a 4 years r/s with my ex bf and i cheated on him prior our wedding . I felt guilty and sorry and i had already mend my ways willing to reconcile with him . Because of his culture , he often said is abt his parents forbid us being together back. He has trust issue with me . I am sincerely want him back and love him . Told him i am not interested being his friend and asking him to give me a last shot for us to create a new beautiful chapter . Initially we still talk and sms and hang out but i am starting to apply NC of 3 days now. So far he also didn’t bother to contact me. What should i do ? Continue NC for 30 days on him ? i really want him back and start to built trust. Just not sure how to go abt if i am on NC.
Any advice will be appreciate.

Ps : he has not gotten back sm of his stuff from my place.

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2015 at 8:16 pm

Definitely continue it on him.

Anon

February 20, 2015 at 11:55 pm

Hi Chris.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn’t meeting my physical or emotional needs for a pretty long period of time(over one year of a three year period). I constantly tried fixing the relationship, but he never put the effort forth to really get anywhere. During the last month of our relationship, I found that “guy friend” who filled up the emotional hole I had. I broke up with my boyfriend when I realized this and decided to pursue the friend instead. I slept with him about a month after the break up and realized that I don’t have that kind of connection with him. My ex is fully aware of this guy friend and even said that I was leaving him for the guy. I’m worried I may have damaged my chances now, so that once I’ve gone through your steps and have to come clean if/when we talk about getting back together, he’ll feel betrayed. What do I do?

admin

February 22, 2015 at 4:20 pm

Well, you certainly didn’t help your chances but I have seen way worse situations…

It may take some work but it is definitely possible.

Prithika

February 15, 2015 at 7:21 am

Hi Chris,
i’m from India. I keep reading all your posts!! I’m really heart broken right now. I need your help ;( I cheated on my boyfriend and i feel terrible about it.. i slept with my ex and didn tel abt this to my boyfriend since he’s a sensitive guy.. i was scared to tel him ;( my ex threated me and told everythin to my boyfriend… now he got so angry, he called me names and slapped me.. i love him a lot !!! i dont kno why i slept with my ex.. i accepted my mistake n apologized.. My boyfriend cried and he broke up with me.. i begged for a chance but he’s so hurt… i seriously cant live without him ;( this all happened on my birthday that is feb 11 (worst bday ever) i need him.. i jus cudn believe that i did this to him.. i’m the worst person in the world.. please help me.. Is there any chances of getting him back..??? He’s sucha nice guy i cheated on him i feel sooo bad.. i jus wanna hurt myself .. He called me strday to shout at me, i kept apologizing.. he called me a bitch, slut etc.. i’m not that kinda person, i dont cheat. i feel like dying..i regret for wat i did.. please help me 🙁 i need him back.
Thank you

admin

February 16, 2015 at 11:34 pm

Well, you cheated on your boyfriend…

What drove you to cheating on him if he treated you so well?

SnowWhite

December 21, 2014 at 12:42 am

Hi Chris,
I keep reading all your posts, very interesting..thanks.
Now I have a question:
what about if my ex think that I cheated on him ? 2 months ago, I asked him if we can go to this specific snack for dinner, his response was “ask the other one to go with you” since than he blocked me on facebook/whatsapp and vanished ! with “the other one” he is referring to a man he saw with me on my whatsapp profile photo, this man was my very close cousin (very nice looking 😉 ) ! it was a silly test to see my ex reaction, he got extremely jealous and very angry so he made his decision to cut me off without asking me who was that person or why he is on the photo with me! I sent a text explaining who was that person, he did not reply. I went no contact since 20/10 for 30 days, and sent a text and no reply….Now 60 days since 20 oct not talking.. no contact at all.. ! will he come back? when? … missed him..
SnowWhite

December 21, 2014 at 12:29 am

Hi Chris,
I keep reading all your posts, very interesting..thanks.
Now I have a question: what about if my ex think that I shitted on him ? 2 months ago, I asked him if we can go to this specific snack for dinner, his response was “ask the other one to go with you” since than he blocked me on facebook/whatsapp and vanished ! with “the other one” he is referring to a man he saw with me on my whatsapp profile photo, this man was my very close cousin! my ex got extremely jealous and made his decision to cut me off without asking me who was that person! When I realized why he is not talking to me, I sent a text explaining who was that person, he did not reply. I went no contact since 20/10 for 30 days, and sent a text and no reply.. nearly 60 days since 20 oct not talking.. no contact at all..will he come back ??
Nics

December 2, 2014 at 4:29 pm

Hi! I don’t know how to call this. But, weve been together for 7 years. My father died 2009 and this cousin of mine taught me this app he was using my photo to get money from people on the internet, I got addicted to it too and started dojng it without my ex knowing what I was doing. He found out because my bestfriend (his cousin) told him. She told him because we had a fight. I stopped what I was doing before he even knew. But I could not blame him because I fooled him for 5 years. Though there were no sexual contacts or anything, my bestfriend told him I had another guy but he won’t believe me anymore. Its true that someone likes me but I talked to that guy telling him to back off. My bestfriend told my ex that I went to that guy’s house and made out or something like that which is not true. I want him back I feel like dying. What should I do

admin

December 3, 2014 at 4:45 pm

Hmmm… your situation is very unique thats for sure.

Just send him a text saying the truth (no sexual stuff with the other guy, etc.) And then go into NC.

Andrea

August 25, 2014 at 5:50 pm

I was with my boyfriend Luis(who is now my ex)for about 6 years. We met each other when I had just turned 16. I am now 23, and he’s 26. We lived in the same city (bradenton, Fl)for the first 3 years of our relationship, then he ended up moving to Orlando, Florida with his mother so that he could go back to school and he didnt have to worry about any expenses. Things were good for the first couple months, then we broke up and got back together a couple times. I broke up with him ending of July of last year to be with one of his good friends (Gabriel), which now I realize I should have never ever done. His friend and I were together for about 5/6 months and then Luis came back into the picture. We texted each other back & forth about the whole situation one day and how he forgave me for what I did. We slowly started talking again, and the love started coming back. We both felt like it was like starting fresh, turning a new page & starting brand new.
Everything was going real good, until this past weekend when I went out, got really drunk, and decided to call Gabriel. We ended up meeting him at a bar.. then going back to his place, and i ended up sleeping with him. I figured that was it – nothing more to it. So i thought. I guess Gabriel found out that Me and Luis had gotten back together, so Gabriel called Luis & told him I has slept with him. Luis told me that Gabriel called him and told him all this. Luis told me He didnt want anything to do with me anymore, and that i was a piece of sh*t. I completly take responsibility for what I did. I should have never done it. 2 wrongs dont make a right, But Luis has cheated on me in the past (not with one of my friends) but I still took him back? I could really relate to the “medium time line” with the amount of break ups we’ve had, and the amount of time its taken for us to get back togeher. I’ve lost track of how many times we’ve stopped talking and ended
up back together.
This is probably the worst way I could have hurt him.
But will I ever be the “ungettable girl” again for him?
I’m just so confused with what to do. I love Luis. I dont want to lose him but I just dont know why we hurt each other so much.
I have read your enitre post on “Learn how to get your ex boyfriend back”, & “how long will it take to get your ex boyfriend back” and its been some what helpful, but do you have Any other suggestions?

admin

August 26, 2014 at 1:07 pm

Can you be more specific?

What kind of suggestions are you looking for?

nicole

July 7, 2014 at 3:15 pm

I’m 21 Years old and in my 8 month of pregnancy, my boyfriend [23years old] and I have been together going on 4 years in a couple days. We were living together and everything was okay until one day I felt guilty and decided to tell him I cheated but I didn’t have sex with the guy we were just enjoying each others time and company whenever my boyfriend didn’t have time for me. He didn’t leave me but a month or so went by and I found out I was pregnant. He was happy and I was happy , he was there every appointment that he could make it to when he didn’t have to work. My first trimester I was very sick and I couldn’t make it to work so I stopped working wish caused him to be the only paying bills to keep a roof over our heads until he losted his job. It got frustrating because his patience started getting shorter, he started staying out for 12 hours a day being with his friends, arguments and fights escalated to the point I got sicker and lost a lot of weight and ended up staying with my grandmother. In January of 2014 he left and moved with his mother to milledgeville, ga to find a job since he couldn’t find one here and I just continued living with my grandmother. Well from the beginning my trust was messed up because we’ve has minor problems and by him staying out all day and not wanting to spend time with me cause me to think he just wasn’t chilling with his male friends but females were also involved. But when he left to stay with his mother I gained some trust back because we talked and Skyped everyday and every second of the day. He got a job after a couple of weeks of being there where he worked 5pm to 5 am , he would message me on Facebook during break and call me as soon as he got home from work but shortly started to fade away. I always checked his Facebook , Twitter, and emails since he left, well one night I was checking his email and I found a post on Craigslist stating that he was looking for friends with benefits in the area and a picture of his penis. I was so hurt and confused because we were doing good , better than what we been doing when we were down here together. So I called him and asked him about it and he really couldn’t say anything but that he was horny. Once I found that out my trust was lost again and ever since then we barely talk. I told him I know he done had sex with someone up there because he has a high sex drive and I know that he talks to other females up there because he doesnt conversate with me but he denies it all. He tells me its no one else and that he hasn’t done anything else to hurt me besides the Craigslist mess and that he wants to be with family and to raise his child. I don’t know what to do or believe because I don’t want my child growing up without 2 parents because that’s something I didn’t have my whole life and I love him with all my heart and can’t image myself being with out him. We don’t have trust or communication in this relationship but I don’t want to give up and I’ve been the one trying to do everything to make sure he’s happy and so our relationship won’t fall apart.i found out through twitter that he has been seeing a girl on his job and she has been on twitter bragging about their first date and how good he was in bed but he denies having sex with her it was just conversation. PLEASE HELP ME.!

I’ve had my baby and he ended up traveling down to my hometown to help open up one of the stores he works to , in order to be Down her with the baby. The company gives them a room to stay since he traveled here to open a store and he shares it with another guy [ that I don’t know or trust] but I went through his phone and found out that he invited some girl over to the room to smoke with him and when she left he texted her to make sure she was safe when he never did me this why when I traveled to see him during my pregnancy. I still want to be with him because I don’t want nobody else or even want to start over with someone new and i want my family to work .!!what should I do???

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:10 pm

Have you read my post on getting an ex back during a pregnancy?

Ritu

July 2, 2014 at 4:21 am

Hi i m trying from a long time but donno y my post is not showing here.

Here is my problem and i need ur honest opinion.
My bf of 3 yrs has stopped talking to me after we had an arguement 2 wks bck. He has blocked me. Not replying to my txts. He started blocking me frm last yr and i told him many times not to do dat coz i cany contact him in any other way. But he nvr listens to me and i feel really insulting. He only unblocks me whn he wants to talk and den blocks me agn.
After being patient frm so long, i started chasing him. I started calling texting etc. But he wasnt replying. den yesterday i ttied calling him from a different number. He didnt picked up but he called bck after 15 min. Hr got real angry whn he found it was me. He shouted like mad dat i hv crossed my limits, i called him frm someone else phone. I replied dat he blocks me everytime, doesnt respind to anything, i had no option left but to do dis. He said i m irritating him and disconnected.

Dats really frustrating dat if he blocks me, mistreats me every time den its ok but whn i called him once frm other number he said all dat stuff. I m too hurt.

I knw u understands in what situation i m chris.

What i should do now? He is very disrespectful towards me.

admin

July 3, 2014 at 1:00 am

Your post is showing.

Did you cheat on him?
Ritu

July 5, 2014 at 7:26 pm

Nope… Never.

Actually i was trying to post dis frm last 1 wk but it wasnt showing. I was reading this blog dat day so i agn tried to post and it submitted.

Any advice for me regarding my case, please. Thanku 🙂

Rosa

June 13, 2014 at 6:16 am

Hi, my bf broke up with me 6 months ago. After a couple of days he was dating a girl, which broke my heart. After a month of no communication he begged me to come back so Now we are back. The girl he dated is a family friend, which makes things a little uncomfortable for me. He doesn’t talk to her anymore n I’m not jelous of her but I feel like I can’t trust to him anymore. He says he never care for her n that the relationship started after we broke up but sometimes I believe that he cheated. What do u think chris?
Your advices are the best! I always read everything u write.

admin

June 15, 2014 at 3:58 pm

Did you cheat on him?
Rosa

June 16, 2014 at 8:30 pm

No. But I believe that he cheated with a family friend, although he denies it. I know for sure he started dating her the day after.
admin

June 16, 2014 at 10:27 pm

Hmm… the timing is suspect isn’t it?
Rosa

June 18, 2014 at 2:12 am

the time frame that everything happen makes him guilty in my eyes; however, I don’t know for sure. I found out cause 3 days after my bf n I broke up she change her profile picture( she was giving my ex a kiss on his cheek). That follow a picture were my ex was in the background n didn’t know she was taking the pic. Now, he unfriend her on Facebook; however, she likes any pic where he’s in it. She can see these pictures through his family because they are friends. I never beg him or call him, even when I found out about this girl. I was moving on but he came back. She still calls his mom n ask for him all the time. What do u think I should do? About my bf because I know that is nothing I can’t do about her

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