Why Did My Ex Unfollow Me On Social Media? (Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, Etc)

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Sarah

May 26, 2019 at 2:45 pm

Hey Chris.
My ex and I have been NC, implemented by myself now for almost 60 days. About 14 days after NC he messaged me to wish me a happy Easter then proceeded to tell me he thinks of me often. I replied telling him it was hard for me too. When he asked how i told him in a paragraph that because we were friends and lovers so I feel like I’ve lost two people. He responded with an emoji. I didnt reply. He was watching my SC stories as I had blocked him on IG and dont have FB. Yesterday i posted for the first time in two weeks. After watching my story which was just a short video of me by the water he unfriended me on SC. This hit like a dagger. I do have reason to believe based on knowing his patterns that about 3 days after he reached out to me in the early stage of NC that he is seeing someone else. This is the only man I’ve struggled with to let go of. Thoughts?
Holly

April 30, 2019 at 2:21 pm

Hi,

I have a very confusing situation. So basically just under 4 years ago i was in a relationship with someone for around a year and then it was on and off ever since until i met my current boyfriend who i have now been in an ldr with for just over a year.
It can be awkward sometimes as some of our friends all fall in the same circle and it had only been until recently that we have managed to be civil. (It was all quite messy)

I bumped into this ex having been out having a few drinks last weekend and we ended up getting a drink; we do manage to really get along when theres no pressure put on the situation. We both had said things we’d obviously needed to say for a while. He basically confessed undying love to me and that he believes we will rekindle eventually, given that me and my current boyfriend will not last.

During the conversation i had a phone-call and had to rush home very promptly without having said a goodbye or really finalising our conversation.

Since then he had seen photos of me out with friends and after that had told mutual friends that when we saw each other that night he tried to get with me but ‘it didn’t quite work’

Post this, he has now unfollowed me on Instagram?

I’m just very confused at this reaction and do not know how to interpret it?

Thanks
Nicole

March 5, 2019 at 11:33 am

Hi Chris,

My ex broke up with me last January after 2yrs of being in a relationship. He said he was confused and wanted to be alone. He said his mind is fixed bit is not closing his doors (He’s confusing. I don’t understand). Immediately, I applied the no contact rule for 30days since I usually watch your videos on youtube. After the no contact period, I reached out to him. It was evident that he did really miss me because he replied very fast. He even informed me about his concerns regarding our pets (we have guinea pigs and he was the one who took care of them) and even shared about his anxieties regarding his thesis. Whenever I would end our conversation he would reply: “it was nice talking to you”. However, he is always serious in texting me without any “haha”s and emojis. We don’t communicate on a regular basis too.

Then, I found out that he is secretly stalking me. He thought I wouldn’t know but I know. He also checks my blog posts from time to time and read my articles about him. Just now, I posted a photo of me looking happy and beautiful. Next thing I knew, he unfollowed me. I don’t really understand why he behaves this way. Please shed some light to my situation.

Chris Seiter

March 5, 2019 at 10:52 pm

Hi Nicole! So it seems he is caught up in this place in his mind were he doesn’t really know what he wants and perhaps he is been thinking of you a lot, more than he is willing to admit and to get some relief from that, perhaps he chose to unfollow you. The post breakup period can be tricky to navigate. I hope you are making use of all my eBooks and my Program.

Laura

February 27, 2019 at 3:01 am

Hi Chris,
After 6 months of a loving and adventurous LDR, my ex boyfriend randomly dumped me out of impulse (we were arguing). He was frustrated financially because I could´t go visit him as often and started adopting a very demanding attitude (flights are expensive). The breakup was cruel and happened three days before I was going to visit him for his birthday. He´s been giving mixed signals ever since:

1. Three days after the break up I sent him a birthday present to his place. He texted me saying he loved me very much, that he felt sad and really appreciated the gift.
2. Two days later he sent me a drunk text complaining about us being broken up with a picture of a present I gave him.
3. I responded that I still loved him and that wasn´t going to change overnight. That´s when NC started. (We are in day 17 of NC as of now)
4. Four days later he liked one of my Instagram pictures even though he unfollowed me on Instagram and Twitter right after the break up (we remained Facebook friends but I added him to my restricted list).
5. Four days after that, he started looking at some of my Instagram stories.
6. A day after that, he Facebook friended my best friend, even though they only met once and she lives in the same city as me. (What´s the deal?)
7. A couple of days after, he viewed my LinkedIn profile.
8. Four days later, I found out he AGAIN viewed my LinkedIn profile BUT recently unfriended me on Facebook for good.

I´ve been feeling great during NC, I am investing in myself, recently went to the beach, try my best to look hot and every day I think less and less about my ex. However, these behaviors catch me off guard and confuse me. I have to admit, him deleting me off FB hurt my feelings, since I was nothing but nice to him after the breakup and he once told me ´that only girls unfriend their exes on social media´.

From what I can tell, he is somewhat resentful I haven´t begged for him back? What do you think Chris? I´ve been reading your blog day and night and everything has been super helpful!

Thank you!

Chris Seiter

February 27, 2019 at 4:15 am

Hi Laura.. i am glad the blog has been helping you. and I think you should continue forward with NC, just the way I teach it in my Program. You should be proud of yourself for investing in yourself as that is what matters after going thru something like this. Trust in the Program. There are obviously no guarantees, but I time and space can help heal the wounds of a broken relationship and position you both better to possibly come back together

Zoe

February 11, 2019 at 7:50 am

Hi Chris, I have been inno contact for 3 weeks now, its one more week to go
My ex just unfriended me over night on facebook, nowhere else so far.
We are still friends on discord, we used to be in the same server with the same friend circle, I left the servers about a week ago, cuz he could still passively talk to me.

Any idea why he would remove me suddenly? And just Facebook as well
One of my friend said it might be because he wants to get a reaction out of me.

Btw last time he messaged me was when I was flying to rome a week ago, he wished me save travels. Complete silence ever since

Chris Seiter

February 11, 2019 at 11:44 pm

Hi Zoe!

Sometimes an ex will unfriend or block out of the blue…sometimes to get attention. So I agree with your friend.

hila

February 4, 2019 at 3:59 am

hi i want to hear your idea about my story
me and my ex were in a relationship for 5 months (it was long distance)
he came to my country too and everything was great , i visited him for my birthday and he did everything wonderfull we even meet our families and everything were serious for us

2 days after my birthday he broke up with me while he crying and he told me he is confused

after 15 days he find a girl who is totally different with me ( personality and appearance) she is opposite of me
but he didn’t post any picture in ig just that new girl posted many pictures and ig story
( he still check my ig and whats app story)
my instagram is public and i become so positive and successful and suddenly i notice that the new girl is watching ig story too

everything seems really great about my life but suddenly my ex unfollowed me after 2 month
and im confusing why ?
do i have any chance and how i have to react

Chris Seiter

February 4, 2019 at 9:31 pm

Hi Hila!

I am sorry he broke up with you right after your birthday….so insensitive of him. So you ex probably un-followed you because they are trying to protect their feelings and want to avoid checking up on you. Are you using my Program/eBook to help you thru all this?

Kiki

February 2, 2019 at 10:15 am

Hi, my ex and I was in a ldr for 2 years but he broke up with me of july of last year. (We dated before 10 years ago in hs). Since then he called about 3 times to talk about random things, how i been and our relationship and what could have been. (The last time we talked over the phone was late September). He use to text me and dm me every two weeks for a few days or text me hey and when I responded didn’t replied back. At the very beginning of October he got a girlfriend which was a old friend of his that he knew for years. (October was also his bday and I did wish him happy Birthday but left it as that). He still would randomly text me once a month hey and wouldn’t respond back except for the brief convo we had in November to “check up on me”. He would randomly send me facetime apps but wouldn’t use them and even sent me the link to his music page (at random). He checks my ig stories constantly, so much so he use to respond to a few of them, the last time being in December. He would even respond to me subliminally when he was angry over our break up or was just flat out copying me. In January he sent me two different happy Birthday posts on my fb wall, and went through all of my ig stories i posted up for birthday, and liked every post i made. He was still checking my stories up to 3 days ago (the last story i did was 3 days ago), and all of a sudden yesterday he unfollowed me on Instagram and Facebook?! I didnt want the break up to happen at all but i know me begging him wasnt going to do anything but push him away so i started focusing on me. He wouldn’t or barley respond to me even though he texted me out the blue even after getting a girlfriend, checks my social media regularly and now he unfollowed me from everything? The last 7 months I’ve been so confused and now this, I’m not going to lie it does hurts but I don’t know what to do? (My ig and fb is private)

Chris Seiter

February 3, 2019 at 12:29 am

Hi Kiki…so I see a lot has been going on and you have been thru a lot. Are you following my Program?

Ceri

January 26, 2019 at 12:46 pm

Hi Chris,

So I stopped talking to my ex in October after he told me he had a new girlfriend 6 months after our break up where we had been talking off and on and feeling like he wanted me back. So I kind of flipped out at him, I since apologised and we said in the future after he’d dealt with family issues we’d work on being friends. I wished him a happy new year and that’s all we had really spoken. But recently I noticed that he had removed me on snapchat, then even more recently he had unfollowed me on instagram and facebook. I’ve been following your program for a while now, listening to podcasts and I think I read on of your books but if we had said we were going to be friend and he used to talk to all of his ex’s, why has he only now removed me? I don’t really understand what’s been going on or why any of this has happened. I do find it strange that he and his new girl met when we were together, went on holidays together after we broke up but he swore nothing was going on, then when they put that they were in a relationship, even though shes very open about the relationship they never posted it publically with a start date is she the issue, or is it because he still has feelings?
Any help would be much appreciated 🙂

Chris Seiter

January 27, 2019 at 2:22 am

Hi Ceri!

Looks like your focus should be on yourself right now. There may still be feelings and that will come out in the near future, but your healing is most important at this stage.

Claire

December 4, 2018 at 5:14 pm

So hey! My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 8 months ago and we haven’t talked since, the recent contact was late October when he wished me happy birthday through whatsapp because I wished him too on his birthday (months after breakup period as well). We still followed each other on instagram and everything was going ok, he viewed my ig stories and liked my posts, same for me (i viewed his and all that) but we never talked. And then suddenly, today, he unfollowed me. Out of the blue and i’m not quite sure why. I’ve been posting positive things and actually am doing really good — hang out with friends and went for night swims with them (boys and girls). And this was 2 days back and I even posted a photo of us having fun and he liked the picture, he watches all the ig stories that was going on at that point in time. But now he unfollowed me and I’m literally confused. I’m not sure why he waited to do that after 8 months of being ok with it. Or was he not? Maybe he moved on? I don’t know…

Chris Seiter

December 5, 2018 at 12:23 am

Hi Claire! So good news he is keeping tabs on you…yeah guys can be confusing and sometimes that is because they are either immature or confused or both or playing games. Kinda hard to pin it down sometimes. Just continue to tap into my resources for help!

Sally

November 2, 2018 at 10:13 pm

Hey i would love to hear your opinions about my story too 🙂 i started dating a guy, he is a few years younger than me, and we were not official, that is, we didnt go out in public as a couple (this is what i wanted, not him). We were very open with each other and very happy together. After one month, he says out of nowhere that he doesnt know whether he is ready for a relationship and to let him think. A week passed, i contacted him and he said that he doesnt want a relationship because he thinks we will both get hurt in the end. One month later, he unfollowed me from Instagram. Now, when i stalk, he is following more and more women. What should i do? I would really like to get him back.

Ps. Thanks for website, absolutely love reading the articles!

Chris Seiter

November 2, 2018 at 10:44 pm

Hi Sally!

Best to have a sensible plan going forward. Are you executing NC? Are you using any of my eBook program or website guides?

Tracy

October 25, 2018 at 12:59 pm

My ex broke up with me near 2 and half weeks ago because he thinks I cheated on him on a girls holiday the week previous due to me telling him too much i.e. we were getting tortured by men and friend hooked up with a guy etc. We had recently only got back together at the start of September after him telling me he wanted to be alone and he wasn’t treating me right. I took him back because he was sorry and he loved me and didn’t want to lose me. I had joined the gym in July and got a trainer and have lost weight and feeling good and receiving a lot of compliments which I am grateful for. I explained to him I’m not like that (which he knows) and nothing happened but he has it in his head I cheated and there is no reasoning with him over it as he is letting his mind do overtime telling me I love the attention. He dumped me and said he had an ex that cheated and slept with someone and he’s not going through it again and doing this for himself because there is doubt there. I have never cheated on anyone in my life never mind my boyfriend (ex) and this he knows how much I love and care about him to do anything like that. When my BF is angry I know to leave him because he doesn’t want to talk and he is not really good at communication as it is. I started no contact 2 weeks ago after my crying and begging phase as I knew he wasn’t listening. Last night he text ,me telling me he will send me money he owes me (we have a shared loan) and that he needs his house key from me and his credit card this week. I told him that was fine and I also told him I need to get the other concert ticket off him that I purchased for us to see a show in two weeks. I genuinely have a few things on this week to drive over to his house to give him his things back and collect mine. I explained I had a few things on and that I was meeting up with his mum tonight for coffee and explained I can give his things to his mum for him. He replied and told me he will then do the same and give his mum my things to collect (which is lot btw :/) I thought this was a retaliation due to what I said because usually he knows I would come running at a drop of a hat. I just replied thank you. Within a few hours I realised he removed me off Facebook and Instagram but kept me on Snapchat. I don’t get it?! Is he acting out. I am upset with him that he thinks I would cheat as I am not that kind of girl but I love this guy and don’t want to lose him. We have so much in common and he makes me really happy but he doesn’t believe me and I cant prove to him I’m telling the truth. Obviously I told him too much but I didn’t see the harm in it and I don’t keep things from him. In this case honesty is not the best policy. I don’t know if he is insecure also because of my new hobby at the gym and me losing weigh because it has not changed me as a person as I have low self-esteem. Your advice or comments would be appreciated, thank you.

Chris Seiter

October 25, 2018 at 8:18 pm

HI Tracy!

So there is a lot going on here. I am time limited here, so I encourage you to pick up one of my ex recovery Companion Guides such as “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” . These eBooks are epic in length and can help you with your ex recovery plan. I am sorry you were falsely accused. You have done a great job of improving yourself. IF he can’t open up his heart to let you in, its his loss. You should be proud of your accomplishments.

Sam

October 2, 2018 at 5:42 pm

My ex and I unfollowed each other after a pretty rocky breakup. I still want to get back together so I made my instagram public, and I found that he just viewed one of my Instagram stories. I’m not sure if this means anything or not. But he’s having to go through more effort to view my stories because we don’t follow each other anymore.

Chris Seiter

October 3, 2018 at 1:18 am

Its pretty common Same for the ex to kinda stalk you on social media. Its usually a good thing and you can leverage the social media to present yourself in such a way to make him miss and value you more. I talk about all this in my books and throughout the site!

Elizabeth

October 2, 2018 at 1:23 am

Hi,
My ex boyfriend ended things with me cause he didn’t know what he wanted (which included relationships, life, work, etc) about 2 months ago. After the No Contact rule (I did over 30+ days). I contacted him saying that I don’t regret what we had and he will always have a special place in my heart. He said that I have a special place in his heart as well. I saw my ex boyfriend for the first time since we broke up two weekends ago. When my friends and I were waiting for our uber after our night out. one of his friends rolled down the window from their car and said, “Hey you know Anthony is in here, right?” I replied back, “Yeah, I know!” ( I saw him right before he got in his uber) Then I heard, “Ohhhh!!!” from all of his friend in his uber. Now he doesn’t follow me on snapchat or Instagram after that incident yet he still has all of our old photos up.

Why did he unfollow me? (He follows one of his old ex girlfriends)
Is he finally realizing that he actually misses me?
How do I get him to notice me if he doesn’t follow me on social media?

Chris Seiter

October 2, 2018 at 4:02 am

Hi Elizabeth…honestly, my advice is to tap into either one of my books or into my other resources on my site so you have a fuller understanding of how the ex recovery process works. You reach out after the NC period was not what I would recommend, but bear in mind there are a lot of moving pieces to NC. The book I wrote, “The No Contact Rule Book” might be a good fit for you. Its extensive. Or I have tons of podcasts, videos, and posts on my site you can peruse.

MB

September 30, 2018 at 11:50 am

Update: He added me back on snapchat and facebook after I explained to him that “Remember when I told you I have to deal with my pain and focus on myself first before I can talk to you.” So maybe mine was reason 1 and 2. He was affected when I didn’t talk to him for a month while he keeps on watching my snaps and fb posts for a month. And also maybe to get a reaction from me. Thank you EBR team for your help. Very insightful thoughts. I’ve been religiously following you and it helped me alot. I’ve learned to let go but still keeping my doors open for the possibilities – who knows if it still be him or maybe a new and better person. It feels so much better when you let go and live in the now. I’m in the process of “Being There” now. As before I went on NC, I told him I promise to be there for him (not in a friendzoned way) when I’m ready. But at the moment, I’m keeping it light and drama free. He’s getting more and more receptive as day goes by.

Chris Seiter

September 30, 2018 at 4:41 pm

Hi MB!

There you go…the “Being There” principle can pay dividends!

MB

September 28, 2018 at 2:48 pm

Hi! I wanted to write you a long time ago. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me by just reading your blogs and listening to youe podcasts and watching your yt videos. Thanks alot. So here goes my story…

He’s from Europe, I’m from Asia. It was a long ldr (3 years). We broke it off and a few days after he told hes talking to a new girl (also Asian like me and from same country of mine, altho were too obviously different)

But then after a few weeks, (despite him talking to me hot and cold, getting mad and fighting me, then getting friendly and flirty one day, then getting mad when i said im trying to talk to new people online and maybe date too like him, you know all the classic textbook signs I read here haha), they became fb official as a couple, on the same day of our anniversary, i know right. (we rarely or almost never post things like that on social media).

Day 24 of NC (altho on 7th day he messaged me to said condolences when a relative passed away, it was short exchanges of im sorry to hear and thank yous); he deleted me on FB and snapchat. He was watching my stories both on fb and sc everyday til he deleted me one day. Although he doesn’t post anything (he’s not that type of person), his new rebound gf kept on tagging him of pics of them together, how happy and lucky she was with him.

All my posts were all about positivity. New things I’m doing. Revisiting old hobbies, everything about changing into a UG.

I don’t think the gf knows me or saw me on fb since I blocked her myself so I won’t be seeing pics she’s posting and tagging my ex, so I don’t think it was her who asked him to delete me.

Anyway I tried to contact him today (day 26, i think it’s okay since there’s a 21 NC. So I just dropped a safe text like “Hey I saw this local movie where they went to your country and I saw they were walking by the streets, it looked familiar just like your neighborhood. I suddenly thought of you. Good times. Anyway, I hope you’re doing great.” He responded like in less than 5 minutes.

All our talks were like just like back in the old days. He’s a gamer geek so he told me the new game he has and telling me how it is and how excited he is (were both gamers). I told him “oh the series that we both watchin, theyre almost done filming it, i cant wait for it. Thank you for introducing that series to me.”

And then as the conversation is going good, I just made a segue like “oh I noticed, were not friends here on fb anymore? I hope I didn’t do something wrong tho.” Then he was like denying “oh i dont know.” Then “oh i was actually deleting some people i dont know maybe i accidentally deleted you.” And in the end he said “We dont talk anymore, we dont speak to each other anymore” .

So is it a good thing? Was he still affected even when hes in a rebound now? By the way, the new girl is back to my country too just this week (which makes us both on the same position). Altho theyre still a couple on fb. I’m not expecting a sudden change. But I’m happy that it’s a good start. He hasn’t added me back yet on fb even if he said he’ll check his fb but I’m not worried. I have learned to let go yet still keep my door open for him or for the new person (I have watched the LOA podcast you have).

I hope I’m making progress though. I would love to hear some more suggestions on what to do next and what he’s really thinking atm . Thank you.

Chris Seiter

September 29, 2018 at 3:50 am

Hi MB!

I am glad you are getting so much out of the site! It is a good start as you described. Did you pick up my 485 page ebook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” because quite honestly there are so many more things in there that can help you than I can explain in the little time I have on this comment forum. Just keep following the program steps I lay to reinforce your value and build attraction!

JessJones1

September 20, 2018 at 12:57 pm

My boyfriend and I are on a break right now – we were fighting every weekend for months now. He also has finals coming up which is part of the reason he wants the break so he can focus on that. He unfollowed me on instagram a couple days after our break, but not on any other form of social media – what does this mean? If it means he wants to break up, i would wish he would have the balls to do it to my face first?
Thissucks

August 29, 2018 at 10:11 am

Hello! So he absolutely blindsided me a month and a half ago, I did NC for a month before breaking it with what ended up being friendly small talk over messenger. I went out with friends over the weekend and posted pics on Instagram, then he unfollowed me there. I’ve still been following him though and I’ve noticed he’s been liking quotes about realtionships and love (eg: Only a man who doesn’t love himself mistreats the woman who loves him) … Although he removed me from following him just tonight… We’re aren’t friend on Facebook as I removed him in the very early days

Chris Seiter

August 30, 2018 at 3:12 am

Hello Thissucks….yes it does suck when you get blindsided. Odd that he would just remove you from following. I would stay in NC for a few more weeks, but focus on your own recovery needs and doing things for yourself. Maybe this isn’t the guy for you.

renne

July 28, 2018 at 11:15 pm

Hello! So we broke mutually 4-5 days ago and I had read about using social media on this website and such but today I saw a picture of him on his story and accidentally made him unfollow me on Insta….I am such an idiot. I meant to just unfollow him but I got confused….He doesn’t really use Facebook or Snapchat…Like at all really…I feel like I messed up…now he will get over me. What do I do? Should I follow him back? I unfollowed him too….

Chris Seiter

July 29, 2018 at 1:35 am

Hi Renne…you are not an idiot! Look, everybody makes missteps. Just follow the advice I offer in my ebooks, posts, and podcasts and get your ex recovery plan in order!

Janay

May 4, 2018 at 5:57 pm

So today my ex officially took me off of all social media. He broke up with me 2 days ago and just seems to hate me at this point. I’m not sure what this really means. Does he just hate me and never want to speak to me again or is he just angry for the moment and will come back eventually??

Chris Seiter

May 4, 2018 at 9:22 pm

Hi Janay…the period immediately following a breakup is boiling with emotions and some confusion and uncertainty. So don’t put too much meaning on anything that is said or done. Pick up a copy of my ebook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” (my website Menu/Products link) as it will help you immensely through his period!

Cheyann Barajas

April 24, 2018 at 12:18 pm

So, my ex deleted all of our pictures on his fb, but didn’t delete me. Well i posted a picture of me outside enjoying the weather and i noticed that he seen it. Well, a couple of hours later i noticed he unfollowed me too. But he still hasn’t deleted me. I’m doing the No contact also, its day 4 of no contact & 6 days ago is when we broke up (he was the one to break up with me)

Chris Seiter

April 24, 2018 at 2:57 pm

Hi Cheyann….it seems to me he is being a little passive aggressive in his reaction (unfollowing you). That is not unusual during this emotional period which can be filled with bouts of anger/resentment/uncertainty. You did pick up a copy of my ebook, right? It will help you immensely during this whole process. Just go to my website Menu/Products link to learn more. Having a blueprint you can follow and place to go to get answers can be really helpful. It acts kinda like a Companion Guide, helping people through their break up period and what to do to optimize their chances.

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