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2,570 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

  1. Honey

    October 18, 2016 at 2:44 am

    Hi. My boyfirend broke up with me today. We are in the LDR. But when we was together in the same city we was very very emotional and he really really love to talk with my family after my trip (my trip is about 6 mobths.) . We were very good to each other in first 2 mobths of LDR but in last weeks i thought he was changed. I know he didn’t cheat on me but i think the LDR is hard for him even though he insisted that we could pass it if you(me) don’t cheat on me or sht like this. But today i called him on skype. Everything was good but he didn’t answer ne and didn’t text that he call me later.and 5 hours later i called him again and he picked up the phone happily and said i am in my brother’s house with our firends.every every times he informed me that they had a party or get-together plan with his brother and his wife and their friends and it was the first time that he totally ignored me and i said why didn’t you call me back after my miss call 6 hours ago? Do we have such a thing like this in our beautiful relationship?!! I was worry ! And he said you are such a girl that trap me and heckle me and i don’t want you and i show you who i am!!! And the he totally blocked me from all applications and phone and … He did this before in our problems but not everywhere. He leave a place to text every time. But this time he did this way and i am so so so sad because he is a traveler tomorrow and i don’t know why our beautiful relationship is going to this way? Please help me pleaseee

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 19, 2016 at 3:27 am

      Hi Honey,

      how long was your relationship and how old are you both?

  2. Marie

    October 13, 2016 at 11:15 am

    Hi, just finished with my partner just over a week ago! Am 49 and he is 50.. we were together a year and a half.. plus it was a LDR.. so we text Daily and chatted one or twice on the phone a week! We seen each probably a week out the month! I am the first to say I have trust issues and it caused problems in the relationship. But he stuck by me.. but he constantly stared at other women everytime we were out! I don’t mean looking staring! So I asked him continuously to stop it! But he always said he never stared! So a few weeks ago I found viagra and condoms in his wash bag! He works away sometimes.. I was devastated! He denied he done anything wrong! I continued with the relationship! But always felt he had! So last weekend at football with his son and he stood and stared at 2 women behind us for most of the match! I challenged him! He denied it again! Saying it was all my imagination! So that was the last straw for me! We dropped his kids off argued in the car! Then continued to argue by text! Both sitting in different rooms in the house! He doesn’t like conflict! Sour this was the Sunday! I was going home on the Tuesday! But I asked him to book a train for me to go home the next day! He didn’t want me to go! But I said I did! So booked my train home we continued to argue! Even in the car going to the station! I said he was a liar and a cheat! He said oki I am! Plus he always denied he used the wash bag when he went away to work and then says in the car that do to help used the bag once! I got the ticket never said goodbye and walked and got on the train! But I noticed on the way home he has blocked me on everything! So stupidly yesterday! I sent a letter saying am sorry for my part and I hope he meets someone who makes him happy! I don’t know what to do! I was single for 10 years when I met him! He has been married twice and has to previous relationships were he has been dumped! Then I have did it too! Also my ex cheating on me and there was violence too! Hence the lack of trusts! Sorry this is so long!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 6:24 pm

      Hi Marie,
      if he kept staring and denying then there really is a reason for you to get annoyed with him..
      are you going to do the no contact rule?

  3. Karena

    October 13, 2016 at 9:13 am

    Hey any sort of advice would be really helpful please! A bit of background: Me and my ex broke up because of difference in religions and cultural reasons. It had always been our main problem moving on to the future. The decision came from him that he couldn’t change and commit to another culture so different. We decided to remain friends but I found the transition from being in relationship mode to friendship mode very difficult. Our set up was the same speaking everyday and seeing each other twice a week but I didn’t know how to quite back off and just be friends. Things changed once he started dating this girl. He soon ended things with her and blocked me soon after on whatsapp and social media. I reached out to him a week later (phone calls wasnt blocked) confused and needing to leave things civil although it was just an excuse for me to contact him, we spoke for a week and also met up but his demeanour had changed. A week later I contacted him for him to ignore my messages, it drove me a bit mad and I sent him a few emotional messages and said bye. A month later I felt my emotional needy side had calmed down and decided to contact him again and we were normal however three days later he blocked me saying he never wanted to speak to me again. It’s been nearly 6 weeks since then and I’ve only heard from him once where he unblocked me to tell me something really irrelevant and blocked me again before I could answer. Do you think he’ll ever reach out and is it strange/intrusive to call him from a private number or email to see how’s he doing or should I completely forget and move on

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 5:34 pm

      Hi Karena,

      even though you haven’t talked for a while now, as per no contact rule, aside from not talking to your ex, you have to improve yourself too.. So, I’m going assume that the last weeks were not focused in that.. So, this time, since you’re still blocked too, do you want to start the count for a 30 day no contact period and just focus in improving and healing yourself? after 30 days decide if you want to initiate contact or continue to move on.

  4. Blue

    October 13, 2016 at 8:19 am

    I got blocked by my ex after I told him I did not want to continue our “situationship”. He said needs time to figure out his feelings for me and I could not accept that – I was falling in love and was hurt by his lack of mutual feelings.
    The “breakup” was not ugly but involed an akward phone conversation and some late night texting. Two days later I realized he had blocke dme on his phone, facebook (even though we were not fb friends). So I sent him an msg on Whatsup and to let him know I had found out I was blocked (he knows I hate blocking in genereal) and that I though he he lost his mind, that he was bein irrational. And that I would not have any contact with him for now. He blocked me immediately. The thing is I can’t figure out if he truly wants me out of his life or if this is a ploy to punish me for breaking up with him? I know he is not in love, but he has pursued me several times and does not accept that I pull away from him. He has a manipulative streak.
    The ting is I am bracing myself for another round of him coming for me again, it is just too exhausting for me as I am constantly falling for him. He knows that I have feeligs for him.
    In a way I hope he has blocked me because he realizes we are at two different palces in our love(lives) and he can’t give me what I want. I miss him, but I am also sure I will stand my ground this time, if he contacts me again. But I wish I knew if this is just another manipulation. Advice?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Hi Blue,

      it can be a form of manipulation because if it was because he realized that you’re just not in the same place, he would have said it.

  5. Krista

    October 13, 2016 at 7:11 am

    I have what I think is a unique situation. Me and my ex are actually Neighbors. I know weird. I told him at first that I didn’t think we should date because if it’s sour then things would be awkward. But I had been getting over an ex for almost a year-and-a-half and I thought what the heck I was ready to jump back in the dating pool. The reason it took me a year and a half to get over the last guy was because we had been together for 18 years. Anyway this said X that’s the neighbor said that it took him five months to get up the courage to tell me how he felt about me. I started to feel happy again like maybe I actually had found love again because we had a lot of things in common and I just had a good connection with him like I had with my ex of 18 years. We were only together for a month and a half but he proposed and I accepted. Stayed with my mother for a while to help her out because she was having health problems and he basically ghosted me. Always made excuses for why he couldn’t hang out and why he was taking so long to get back to me on text. Now I do know that he was taking care of his own mother that was having health problems but I still felt like he could have at least taken 30 seconds when he was having some down time to pick up his phone and tell me what was up or at least say hey whatever. It’s been six months since our break-up and I still can’t get over it because I feel like I may have ruined my one chance to be happy after enduring 6 years of hell with the last 1. I didn’t talk to my ex for 2 months and then finally reached out and he responded positively but then I did kinda go crazy with telling him that I still love him because we had a hurricane here recently and I told him that if in case I died he needed to know that I still love him. Of course he changed his number. I’m just worried that now it’s going to be painful for me every time I walk outside and have to see him knowing that he hates me enough to have changed his phone number plus he has friends that also live in our apartment complex that know we were dating and so it’s awkward for me when they’re outside with him. Part of me feels like I should just move on but part of me knows in my heart that I still love him and I can’t give up on him because I have lost too many people in my life to just give up that easily but I also don’t want to be seen as a crazy psycho stalker. What can I do? I’m tired of going around pretending that I don’t feel empty inside. Please help me thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      Hi krista,

      it would be better if you go into therapy.. and also, yes, you have lost a lot, but how many have you gained? in the last 6 months, how many new friends did you make? You have to widen your world. Go out. Go to classes or volunteer.. Go out with friends..

  6. J.B

    October 13, 2016 at 1:53 am

    I met this guy online a month ago and we got along pretty well. Went out with him just once a week and on both occasions after a meal, he said he wanted to spend some alone time with me. I agreed but I told him that I didn’t agree to having sex with him both times. He understood that although he thinks having a dating relationship and sex should go hand in hand. After the second date, we just texted for about a week in week 3, although it seemed less frequent ( I guessed he was really busy at work / preparing to fly off for a Long work trip) . On week 3, he tried to ask me out again that week but I turned him down as I had already made plans to see my aunt which he knew about already. So I could only communicate via text Before he flew off. He didn’t seem to be very quick/ frequent with his replies as much as weeks 1&2 and didn’t return a couple of my calls. I got frustrated, uncertain about his stand on Sex and him moving to another country for a few months and so on the day he flew off for his trip, I texted him that I wanted to move on cos I was not sure if I wanted to keep this relationship. He didn’t reply and I delected his contact. I gave another text explaining that I wasn’t quite sure about his desires. He read it and yet there was still no contact.. He also deleted my contact no after that and I can’t see his status anymore. It’s been 2 weeks since I have heard from him. what does this mean? Also, we havent added each other on FB yet

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 3:17 pm

      HI JB,

      I think he just accepted your decision.. You said you wanted to move on, so he accepted that and he moved on too.

  7. Bella

    October 11, 2016 at 10:22 pm

    My ex and I broke up , didn’t talk I initiated NC . Sunday he messaged me on Facebook with a sorry and a cute video. I didn’t reply right away as I didn’t know What I wanted to say at it was very late at night. Anyway .. He then blocked me through all forms of communication. He has kept me as a friend on fb but has blocked messages and restricted me to what I can see. Then text me yesterday asking if I had tried to call, I couslnt respond because I’m blocked! Then he called me and was just flat out rude. I don’t understand what’s going on here…

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 10:27 pm

      Hi Bella,

      let him be.. Don’t reply. He’s either trying to get in your nerves, trying to test you or get attention from you.

  8. Gem

    October 11, 2016 at 3:37 pm

    Hi! Break up happened 3 weeks ago. I went to LC. My ex-bf is always initiating contact. I wasn’t the annoying ex-gf. Actually it was the other way around… He keeps contacting me sporadically.. Sometimes I respond cooly if it’s important. Most of the time I don’t. Now, I found out he has blocked me on Facebook. What do you think is going on? By the way, he broke up with me because he wants to date this girl but wanted me to wait. I didn’t agree so I let him go. Never once initiated anything after he dumped me.

    1. Gem

      October 11, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      Thank you for responding, Amor. Yes, no feelings or relationship talks. Honestly, Im also not emotionally stable yet that’s why I want to go NC. No chasing, no begging, none whatsoever. The only thing I have left is my dignity and self-respect and Im not going to give him those too

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 6:31 pm

      That’s good! You’re welcome!

    3. Gem

      October 11, 2016 at 5:58 pm

      I did LC because he would often ask me how to give me my stuff back — to which he doesn’t do anyway. I would just answer with polite one-liners. By the way, his promotion got finalized yestreday and he sent me a Facebook message telling me how grateful he is because I have been a part of his success when we’re still together, etc. I did not really respond because I didn’t feel there was a need to. Plus, I want to go to complete NC. After that, he blocked me. Is he doing it out of spite because ever since the break-up, he would initiate contact with me and I ignore him most of the time.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 6:04 pm

      it can be, but he doesn’t have the right to be spiteful.. he asked for permission to cheat, that’s so out of line.. if you are only talking about his things during no contact that’s ok.. as long as it’s only about his things, no feelings nor relationship talk.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Hi Gem,

      Wow! he’s a player.. why was it limited contact? Why didn’t you do a full no contact? Honestly for me, you did the right choice… You either lose that kind of person, or he has to change first before you give him a chance again.

  9. Betrayed

    October 8, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    Hi! My ex dumped me after his parent died. He said he still loved me but after the funeral he said he lost feelings for me and didn’t care about me. Now he has removed me from facebook and won’t even explain or refuses to talk about it with me. He said I should find someone better than him. What do I do? Everything was going just fine then all of a sudden he claims not to love me and tossed away everything we fought for and won’t at least let me make things better.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 10, 2016 at 4:48 pm

      Hi Betrayed,

      when was this? I think he needs to just grieve and be alone for now..

  10. Maria

    October 6, 2016 at 1:21 pm

    This guy who i dated for a few months suddenly decided to block me recently on instagram about 2 months after we stopped talking. Before that, he would watch all my instagram stories and even liked my pictures despite us not talking anymore. Why did he decide to all of a sudden block me when its not like i ever tried to contact him after or its not like im always active on my instagram to have constant annoying posts? Even with him blocking me, my profile is set on private so he could have just unfollowed but he decided to block me. I’m just confused cause it was out of the blue

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 9, 2016 at 12:13 pm

      Hi Maria,

      maybe he did that to stop himself from liking and fully move on

  11. Ashley

    October 5, 2016 at 6:30 pm

    My boyfriend and I broke up for a second time yesterday. We were doing fine but then he said he doesn’t have feelings anymore. We have been going through a lot like getting harassing text messages and phone calls constantly. He works with my cousins boyfriend and he told him he wants to cut ties completely. He’s blocked my number so I can’t contact him. I don’t want him out of my life. He’s an amazing guy. Also he couldn’t handle the fact that I am bipolar. He would blame me for everything. what do I do to win him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 7, 2016 at 3:31 pm

      Hi Ashley,

      are you in therapy and do you want to do what’s advised above?

  12. Angry and upset

    October 5, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    I am blocked from everything from my ex. I know the reason why I am blocked. I blew up his phone after the break up and did some crazy things. Its at the point where he is threatening to get a restating order but do you think he will unblock me at some point? Should i just move on? I am changing my behavior and hoping that he will come back. Please help?

    1. Carolyn Ryder

      June 16, 2017 at 3:49 pm

      It has been a while since I have written. Its been about 8 months since the last time i really spoke to my ex. I have changed in many ways. I still have feelings for him and I still want to be with him. I thought he would of come back by now. Am I hoping for something that will never happen. I sent an email in regards to him friended my sister. And his response was
      She sent me a friend request, I did not friend request her. Thanks for the recommendation, but I have a job.

      Have a great day.

      So is this a way of him telling its over and that he doesn’t care. Is there a chance he will come back in the future or soon? Should I find someone else? Please help?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 18, 2017 at 6:44 pm

      yup he has moved on.. you dont need to finr a new one now.. but you should move on too

    3. Carolyn

      November 15, 2016 at 8:50 pm

      So he is telling all of his friends that he wants nothing to do with me but he didn’t tell my best friend that. Is he lying to his friends. Is the end? Is he not going to come back? I should just continue growing and changing as a person? and should I move on with someone else?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 15, 2016 at 10:07 pm

      I’m not sure, but definitely, if he lost his job, it’s not the right time. Yes, you need to keep improving, and not just because you still haven’t gotten back together, but because that is your new lifestyle. Even if you get back together, you have to keep having your own life.

    5. Carolyn

      November 15, 2016 at 6:25 pm

      So is this really the end. IS he not going to come back. He tells all his friends that but he never told my friend he wants nothing to do with me? Is he lying. I have really changed and im moving on with my life. Is this the end?

    6. Angry and upset

      November 15, 2016 at 5:54 pm

      Well he is telling his friends that he wants nothing to do with me but not my best friend. Would he lie to his friends? So is this end? Is he never coming back. Its been over a month and ive really changed and continued moving on with my life. Is he never coming back?

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 15, 2016 at 10:07 pm

      I’m not sure, but definitely, if he lost his job, it’s not the right time. Yes, you need to keep improving, and not just because you still haven’t gotten back together, but because that is your new lifestyle. Even if you get back together, you have to keep having your own life.

    8. Angry and upset

      November 10, 2016 at 3:40 pm

      Ok so yesterday i found out though my friend (the same one he told that he loves me but its too much right now) that he lost his job and he’s disappearing and that things will not work with me because he’s not in love with me and that he wants nothing to do with me? Is this really how he feels or is he just trying to figure out what the next step is?

    9. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 14, 2016 at 5:21 pm

      Most of the time guys mean what they say but it can be because for him now is not the right time since he lost his job…

    10. Angry and upset

      November 2, 2016 at 5:18 pm

      Ok so its been three weeks and ive become more independent and moving forward with my life. I still haven’t heard from him. How long will it take him to talk to me again or come back to me.

    11. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 3, 2016 at 5:33 pm

      to come back, that’s a long shot but to trust you again or at least look at you in different light and start being friends again, would be more realistic.. Sometimes, it takes three weeks for them to start thinking like that if you look like you’re moving on. Sometimes 3-6 months, from your previous comments, it doesn’t look like just weeks after starting to change would make him think you’re really just doing this for yourself and not for him..

    12. Angry and upset

      October 27, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      When my friend asked him if he wants to get back together with me his response was I love her but its too much right now? Does that mean he wants to be with me? I have become my old self already where Im doing my own thing and living my life.

    13. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 28, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      There’s a chance but not right now.. that’s good that you changed.. but think of his point of view, would you really believe somebody genuinely changed in just a short amount of time? He might even think you’re just doing it to get him back, so you have to be patient and you have to be consistent.. The change must be genuine..

    14. Angry and upset

      October 26, 2016 at 11:34 am

      So your saying he does want to be with me then?

    15. Angry and Uspset

      October 23, 2016 at 3:50 pm

      So your saying he doesn’t want to be with me.

    16. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 25, 2016 at 12:05 pm

      if you dont genuinely change, yes..

    17. Angry and upset

      October 20, 2016 at 12:22 pm

      When my ex came to my friends house he smiled when he said my name. Is this a good thing? He also told her that he loves me but i heed to chill out?! Does this mean he wants to be with me still? And I keep making new friends.

    18. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 22, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      that’s a good sign..yes, making friends can help but it’s just one of the steps..I think what he means is that he has to see you’ve grown and become less dramatic or emotional

    19. Angry and upset

      October 13, 2016 at 11:49 am

      Ok so I have already starting changing and getting back to my independence and moving on with my life. The other day after i left my friends house he showed up and said it look like (my name) was here. Is this a good thing? Does he still love me? He told my friend he came by to just stop by but we believe he came to see me? Please help?

    20. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 13, 2016 at 6:40 pm

      if he didn’t say it negatively, yes it’s a good sign.. but that’s too limited to say if he still loves you… just keep doing what you’re doing.. keep improving, keep growing, and start making new friends

    21. Angry and upset

      October 11, 2016 at 4:26 am

      He said he ment those things? I just need to change it and give it time

    22. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 10:20 am

      more likely it’s out of anger and annoyance. So, that means, in order for him to really take a chance on you, he has to see that you’ve really changed and not just changing to try to get him back

    23. Angry and upset

      October 10, 2016 at 12:40 pm

      More than likey yes he meant it or that it was out of angry>

    24. Angry and upset

      October 7, 2016 at 6:53 pm

      He said he was done with me and never wanted to see me ever. He also said that he doesn’t want to talk to me period? He said he didn’t want to be with either. Is this out of anger or does he mean it?

    25. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 10, 2016 at 11:59 am

      more likely yes because he’s annoyed and he doesn’t want you to chase anymore..

    26. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 7, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      Hi ANgry, and upset,

      there’s a small chance but only if you truly change and start to be more indendent, have your own life and seem like you’ve moved on.

  13. Hannah

    October 5, 2016 at 12:00 am

    Hi,

    I started NC a week after the breakup and had been doing really well (12 days in) until I literally bumped into him after class one day.
    Kept it short and polite but I wasn’t overly friendly and I think he could tell I was trying to get away. He is obviously aware I haven’t been contacting him and he hasn’t reached out to me during NC but he seemed to be flirting with me and noticed my haircut and said it looked nice, he was smiling a lot the whole time.
    He told me he has plans to meet my Mum for lunch later this week.
    However the day after that run in he blocked me on instagram and facebook, and I don’t know why.
    I’m not sure if he is playing a game and trying to get me to notice and to contact him, or maybe he has lost interest because I didn’t want to chat and hadn’t been contacting him before that… Help.. what is going through his brain!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 7, 2016 at 8:35 am

      Hi Hannah,

      it’s just probably to help him hurt less.. that good that you got a haircut.. I’m assuming you’re improving yourself so keep doing that… focus in that..

  14. Talia

    October 4, 2016 at 11:20 am

    Hello!

    Me and my ex broke-up exactly 2 months ago…he dumped me after huge fight where both of us said hurtful things to each other. After the break-up we did have a talk and he told me that he wanted to be with me but needed time and space.
    Fast forward to a week ago…nothing had progressed nor had we communicated with each other. So in an emotional moment I deleted all our pictures off Facebook and changed my relationship status to “single”. I went to look at his Facebook page a few days later and I was deleted BUT he still has my pictures on his page.
    I’m so confused…is he officially done with me? Is there any hope for us to be together?
    None of his family or friends have blocked or deleted me…I have never posted anything negative about him or negative at all on Facebook. I don’t know what to do at this point. Should I just let it go and remain quiet like I’ve been doing OR should I say something to him? Please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 6, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      Hi Talia,

      I think he just did that in reaction to you changing your status.. why not try the no contact rule first?

  15. Dina

    October 3, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    my boyfriend broke up with about a month ago. We had a really good relationship until he decided to end things without telling me. I blacked out totally, broken hearted I tried to check up on him by talking to his best friend. We ended up talking a lot more than we should. And it turns out he was checking up on me( he had my facebook password) he didn’t like what he was seeing so he came back and started using inappropriate and bad language.

    So apparently after all the chaos. Exchanging texts emails even. I found out from his best friend that he broke up with me because he cared about my future.( my mother was against Our relationship) a lot was said. He told me he loves me. But there is no trust & respect. So he doesn’t wanna regret it later in life by getting back with me. He said he wanted to move on from me. But that wasn’t even a deal breaker.

    I started to build myself, telling myself not to give up. I send him text from time to time. He would too asking my opinions. But we would always end up with a bitter argument whenever the topic of our relationship comes up. Like ” oh you should’ve thought of that before you went and talk to my best friend ” it’s hurtful but I kept spoiling him. So now my friends told me to block him, and I did. But I regret it afterwards so I unblocked him. And he’s like I should just block him again. then we ended up arguing again. He told me he already forgave me but he hasn’t forget what I did. At the end I told him I forgive him too. But then after he just blocked me.

    I know I made stupid decisions. And caused a lot of unnecessary drama. I don’t know if I have hopes of ever talking to him right now. I started having the no contact rule for 4 days . I even blocked him on Instagram but then I requested to follow him again. He hasn’t accepted it.

    My question is in this case, Chris referred to the get your ex boyfriend back version 2.0. After this no contact rules do I just skip to the first text message or do i have to start from the beginning of the ex boyfriend back version 2.0 and send him a text then do the no contact rule again?

    1. Dina

      October 6, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      No but, according to Chris article, the no contact rule is 30 days. So to increase the chances and let him have a positive mindset of. (If it’s possible)should I send him a classy text before going to the no contact rule?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 9, 2016 at 12:09 pm

      ah, nope..no need to do that..just head straight to doing the no contact rule

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 6, 2016 at 9:37 am

      Hi Dina,

      sorry I dont understand what you mean.. if you’re already in no contact, just continue and be active in improving yourself.. is there something you wanted to tell him before doing the no contact rule?

  16. Disrespected

    October 3, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    hi,

    I broke up with my boyfriend almost 3 weeks ago. The first argument we had was when he asked me about a restaurant I took him to and I made a joke about him wanting to take another female there. Despite the fact I said it was a joke and even had lol in the text he said I didn’t trust him nonetheless we got past that. He would always post himself at restaurants with mysterious females across the table but then Tell me he was working. ‘If I mentioned it he would say I keep doubting him. Then in August we were supposed to go on vacation everything was fine until the day he was supposed to send me the info for the trip and I didn’t hear from him for 4 days he wasn’t on social media or anything I was completely worried. Then when he finally reached out to me he said he had the flu and his phone wasn’t working. Despite all the mysterious dinner dates and him never making time for me I still stuck through it. I would always have to initiate seeing him, say I love you and miss you first, communication was not consistent through the day but he would always be on social media. One day I got tired and told him I wasn’t happy the first time I said it he said let’s get through it as a team but there was no efforts on his part still. The second time I said it he said I’m clearly unhappy maybe we shouldn’t be together cause I brought it up again. We went back and forth for days about it but he said he wanted to give it another chance because he loves me. So we decided to work on things. We were fine after that he went away on a trip saying it was for his cousins wedding. He then was posting up on social media with a girl but not showing her face. When I asked who it was he said it was his cousin. I let his slide because I wanted the relationship to work so badly. So after that we were fine we agreed to meet up Tuesday when he got back Then one night I logged onto social media and he had a post up and within the comments he was basically saying he was single and so forth to his social media followers. I felt like the entire time I was disrespected by him and that was the final straw so I broke up with him. Since then I reached out to him about talking To him about it he blocked my number, Instagram and snapchat.
    Even though I knew my decision was for the best I still feel like we could work through it and I love him and miss him still. I wanted to send him one final text from a different number explaining everything to him why I broke up with him and that we should talk about it. Do u think I should do this? I don’t know what to do i just want him back it’s messing with my head my concentration at work headaches everyday.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 6, 2016 at 7:42 am

      Hi Disrespected,

      you’re the on who got disrespected but you kept chasing him.. why? If I were you, I would be in the no contact rule to heal, reflect and improve myself..do at least 30 days

  17. Gigi

    October 1, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    I was with ny boyfriend on and off for 8 years due to other life circumstances we couldn’t fully commit to each other. we were perfect together. Whenever we broke up I know he was with other people. Finally a few months ago we decided to make it completely exclusive and things were amazing. Then he flipped out said he need time we had little contact for 2 weeks. I found out he was with someone else. I was heartbroken he begged for me back and because I’m so crazy in love with him I agreed. Again things were perfect even better we were even close. Then out of nowhere he brings up that he knows I was with someone 6 months ago. It was true but I tried to deny it but then came clean. Then I apologized over and over. He said he doesn’t want to talk about it it’s over. I text back I understood love him and wish him the best. Again I was shattered. After a day he started angry texting me very hurtful things but peppered through the rants telling me how much he loves me and how great our life could have been. I was doing the nc then last night he text if he doesn’t hear from me this morning he’s blocking my phone number. So I still follow the nc? These games make me crazy and I just want to talk and hash it out. I absolutely want a life with him but I think we both have trust issues and I know we can get past it once and for all if we lay it all out. Not sure what to do today it’s only been 4 days nc

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 4, 2016 at 3:47 pm

      Hi Gigi,

      did you reply to that? If you didn’t that’s good. If you did, restart the count and then focus in improving and healing yourself. Do 45 days no contact.

  18. Amy

    October 1, 2016 at 2:32 am

    Hi, I am at a loss with my situation with my ex boyfriend. He broke up with me 5 months ago as he “no longer felt the same about me as he did in the beginning”, it was extremely hard to hear and to get over, this break up practically broke me.

    It’s now been over 3 months of NC, during this time I focused on myself and really thought about whether I wanted my ex back or not. After giving it a lot of thought I decided that I did want him back, I love him and know deep down that we could resolve things and really make our relationship better that it was before. (I believe the loss of feelings was very much due to him being so stressful from university and our conflicting schedules resulting in us only seeing each other about once a week. We needed to make it 3 more weeks until university was over but he broke up with me instead).

    I really started to miss him these past few weeks and it made me a little crazy, I began to stalk his Instagram again as well as the girls who he was following. When one day I was on my sisters phone looking at his page I ‘accidentally’ followed a girl I though he might have been seeing. Incredibly stupid I know!! He found out and told a mutual friend who said he wasn’t mad and if it was me doing it its natural checking up on him but because it came from my sister I think the invasion of his privacy was too much for him. He resulted in blocking my sister, mum and myself from Instagram and Facebook a few days after telling the mutual friend that he found out.

    I feel sick to my stomach over this, I made a stupid mistake and now I feel like I’ve lost any chance of us being friends of rekindling our relationship but doing this. I thought I was ready to make contact with him again but proving from my actions I clearly wasn’t ready. I know I now need more time but now so does my ex. I’ve pushed him even further away now and I don’t know how I will ever get him back, at least to a place where I know he would respond positively if I were to reach out to him (which I knew he would before I did this Instagram thing).
    I took 3 steps forward and now 10 steps back. I know he now need so much more space and time to be ready to talk to me again but I’m so scared that it’s already been 5 months and if he needs at least another 5 he will move on and there will be no hope for us!

    I want him back, I know I can live without him but I want him back in my life.

    Please help me!!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 3, 2016 at 4:33 pm

      Hi Amy,

      Although there’s no guarantee that no contact rule will work and even if you haven’t contacted him for a while, it’s not really being in no contact rule if you kept checking him and if you didn’t focus in improving yourself. So, do that now.. Do 45 days.. And to be honest, I think he has already moved on. So, take this as a restart.

  19. Ash

    September 30, 2016 at 10:54 pm

    Great read. So I got one for ya. My ex bf and I were together for 3 years. After break up I moved on and met my now husband of 10 years. A year into my relationship with my husband my ex contacts me and we were friends. Everything was good, we all got along for several months and then life happened. I haven’t seen him for over 8 years and I hear through mutual friends he had a baby with his new wife. So, I went on Facebook and sent him a short message simply saying congratulations, you have a beautiful family, so happy for you, etc. Instead of a message back he just blocked me. It bugged me a bit. But more like a scratch on your tongue. I have no desire to get back together with him because I am happily married. We were friends and I never wronged him. Any thoughts? Or is this just immaturity?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 3, 2016 at 3:20 pm

      Hi Ash,

      It can be immaturity or it might be his wife that blocked you..

  20. Angry lday

    September 30, 2016 at 7:10 am

    Hi amor, everything is going well. We have build raport. He is saying good morning and night with a beautiful at the end every day. We flirt, we reminisce and he opened yo about family issues a col days ago. He was drunk last weekend and showed signs of refrer. Oh and the girl is out the pic. As i said my ex like to post things that he think is crypted bht its nit. And he posted songs and things that were i alil obvious were about me and the girl git suspicious i guess. His cousin, her bff, messaged me asking if he and were still togethee with excuse that she was doing her wedding invites.. i just said he was not my bff and she should talk to him, she said she didnt want to cus he was posting emo thing. Well i told him without letting him know i knew about the other girl and like 2 afyer stopped talking to her and him i guess the girl took him off her ig profile and unfriended him on her accts. Im not sire about snapchat though… anyway i had to nudge a lil but he asked me out dancing tonighy and im going but its really hot between us. Always has been and its hard to say no, how can i without making it seem bad or like i dont want him. It is really hard… oh and im leving next week for a week and half and i need to know how i can keep communication open and postive and as active as has been?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 1, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      that’s very good! Just don’t sleep with him. Have fun in dancing. Talk after but don’t sleep with him. And in your trip, update him with your activities. Show him exciting stuff that you’re seeing there.

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