What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Rachel Hawkins

October 5, 2018 at 12:15 am

Hi Chris,
Great article! Would appreciate your advice.
Had a nearly 8yr relationship, we watched each others kids grow up and very much a step relationship to which degree I hope now his kids are more independent to remain in contact if they wish (as still want to be there for them) purely to hear how their lives are progressing.
More complicated with my daughter. A few years ago I moved to be nearer to him, with hopes of having a closer future but didn’t pan out. My daughter has special needs, difficulties got so bad we lost quality time together, which although I didn’t realise over times led to me becoming very depressed, in trying to protect and ease things for my daughter, I isolated myself from not only him but everyone close to me.
Since break up, I have started to address difficulties as if sadly break up was needed to lift the fog and making good changes, reaching out to friends again and now can see ways of involvement with him and having a future. Feeling positive and finding myself, the person he met, finding myself again! He felt he’d lost himself too near the end of the relationship.
But there is another woman. They started dating straight away and seems very rushed, already huge plans for the future.
We have bumped into each other a few times, I was so positive about life as I genuinely feel more positive, he all initiated physical contact. And before he was honest about other woman, we had sex (straight after he told me and how serious their plans were) but he also told me staying in touch hard as he knew he couldn’t trust himself around me. Surely given excitement and it’s meant to be the honeymoon period of a new relationship this is odd? Certainly wasn’t like that when we met and he believed i was the love of his life, the one which now he doesn’t believe in. He adores my daughter, still has photos up of her yet now no interest in her progress. I know he would have been so proud of her.
He did say he is angry at me for not progressing our relationship and implied I’ve wasted a large period of his life 🙁 and a couple of times when bumped into him he has been so angry, wouldn’t even look at me.
I am so confused. But genuinely whatever happens would like to stay in touch with him as I want him to be happy with or without me.. as equally i want to find happiness too in my own life. But as I said sadly now I can see so many ways I could have made changes so he would have been a major part of life and would have liked the opportunity to build a new and positive relationship.
Apologies for essay but advice would be great.

Chris Seiter

October 5, 2018 at 2:12 am

8 years bodes well for couples trying to get it back together. He is wrong to blame you for everything…not progressing the relationship. It take two to do that.

Sammi

September 27, 2018 at 4:34 pm

Hi, I was recently broken up with about a month ago and I’ve been doing NC ever since. We were in a happy, healthy relationship for about 5 months and the breakup came out of no where. We had recently had a fight (a week before the breakup) and he claimed that “things felt different after”, but literally the day before the breakup he was telling me how in love with me he was and how excited he was to see me (I’d recently gone to college and live 2 hours away). He claimed that he talked to his friend and his friend told him he needs to focus on work and school. I was really hurt and upset with what he said, he was crying harder than ever as he was breaking up with me and after he broke up with me (over the phone) I blocked him on Snapchat and he blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. I don’t know if my number is blocked on his phone and I’m too scared to try. Does he want nothing to do with me? Is he just hurt? Should I give it time or just give up? Should I unblock him? Thank you for all of your help!

Chris Seiter

September 28, 2018 at 2:57 am

Hi Sammi!

Better to keep the social media lines of communication open as you will see with my Program, creating attraction is partly about indirect communications. You should take a look at picking up one of my books so you have a better sense how all this comes together!

Coraline

September 24, 2018 at 3:03 am

Hi Chris!
So my ex broke up with me after 6 years of relationship about almost 2 months ago, cause he didnt feel the same for me (he left me for a another girl), I start NC 10 days after the break up, he never contact me in that period, so I text him a week ago he did replied to me nicely and after that I start to use social media again, change my profile picture, so that he’d be able to Watch Im good and Im not a needy girl.
And I just figure out he block me on Facebook but not entirely, im just not able to Watch his status or the old pictures of both, he stop following me on instagram…
So I wonder if the post applies to me too?
I believe he block me cause this new girl, what can i do to get him back?

Chris Seiter

September 25, 2018 at 3:11 am

Hi Caroline!

So first, you already have an edge because 6 years is not easily swept away. So you got a nice reply and that is good, but be sure to follow my suggestions for how to get the most out of NC. Have you picked up my eBook? Its probably the best advice I can point you too as an ex recovery plan is very involved and near impossible to cover it all here!

Fatima

September 22, 2018 at 1:36 pm

Hey,basically i had a fight with my bf because of jealousy and is said things that he feels i don’t appreciate what he is doing,he literally blocked me everywhere after 3 days he texted me to move on on my life and that he gave me many chances and i blow up everything, I tried to call him , send flowers but he keeps ignoring me! His friend told me not to waste my time waiting for him his not coming back! What should i do!?help please i am 1 week break up we supposed to get married by next month

Chris Seiter

September 23, 2018 at 4:43 pm

Hi Fatima!

Yes…jealousy can cause all kinds of strife. He is being a bit immature right now. I think a brief NC period would be good. I have a lot of info about it here on the site. You can start on my home page to find all kinds of resources.

Amy

September 22, 2018 at 10:04 am

Hi Chris,
Me and my fwb/ good friend got into an argument almost a month ago. He has done this before where he resorts to blocking as his solution because he’s a very sensitive person but also somewhat toxic. But last time he did not contact me for a couple of months as he was going through something that I had already known about and our fight made him even more stressed out.

This time before he blocked me, he sent me a huge novel reply saying that he doesn’t care about me anymore because I don’t care about him (yeah alright ) and to not message him, and then blocked me off everything.

On Monday (exactly 3 weeks after our argument) I was on Instagram looking through my archived stories to find something and obviously because he blocked me his name wasn’t in my story views anymore. Then hours later I went back on to save a story, his name reappeared everywhere. He had unblocked me that night. Would that mean I was on his mind? Could he be missing me? What makes me nervous is that people usually say when they unblock you that’s when they DONT care anymore..but it’s only been a little more than 3 weeks since we’ve talked? Could he really have stopped caring that fast?

Unlike the last time, he has not refollowed me or contacted me..which worries me because I feel like maybe he really did unblock me because he doesn’t care about me anymore…he did look through all my new story highlights because his name popped up as a view but I don’t think that means anything.

I still care about him a lot and I am scared that he won’t contact me ever again. What would be some possible reasons why he’d unblock me so soon after a fight if he told me he didn’t want me to message him? Wouldn’t he be sure to keep me blocked if he really didn’t want any future contact with me? (I will obviously not contact him though. He blocked me so I know My boundaries.)

Thank you for your help

Chris Seiter

September 23, 2018 at 4:49 pm

Hi Amy!

Blocking often leads to unblocking. He was previously blowing off steam and holding some resentments. Take some space for yourself and reflect on whether him being “toxic” at times is really something you should tolerate. No contact could be a solution.

Vanessa

September 17, 2018 at 4:07 am

hi chris,

i broke up with my ex bf, i initiated it and regretted it after, tried to take it back afterwards but he said he can’t forgive me right away, i’ve been in no contact for a month already and was about to chat him when i found out that he blocked me on facebook and unfriended my brother, what does it mean ? he didn’t block me on whatsApp though

Chris Seiter

September 17, 2018 at 9:26 pm

Hi Vanessa!

Usually, the one who initiates the breakup is in the seat of power. Though sometimes an ex can have a lot of resentment. Be sure you are deploying NC correctly. I have a lot of resources on this site that can show you the way.

B Gohil

September 14, 2018 at 6:52 pm

Hi, so basically I’ve been talking to this guy and he was saying things to make me believe he wanted us to become serious. We met at work and I had to leave because I’m moving but he is staying there. On my last day, he wasn’t there but he messaged me to tell me he think we should stop, saying things like he is not a good person and it’s too difficult. He said that he hopes we could have something in the future. Right after that conversation he blocked me. I didn’t want to stop talking to him even though I’m moving away and was will to make a go of it. I’m trying really hard to get over him but I don’t want to and I think that’s what’s making it more difficult. Any advice would be appreciated. 🙂
ria

September 8, 2018 at 10:29 pm

hey my name is ria …i was in relationship with my bf since 10 months before that we r college frends..everything was going fine…but i m.having a bad habit to fight as i was very much possesive about him that y didnt he called me 5 times a day or why he didnt recieved my call ..i used to fight with hime every week or more …so one day he told me that he want to do breakuo as his father is saying dont talk to me ..i was so depressed i started crying n i told him to block me ..n he blocked me 🙁 but in the morning only he called me and he was crying saying sorry for the night n told me that he will not leave me ..then everything was fine …then he told me that he is doing job so he cant give me much time he used to call me only once in a day ..i asked him to meet me but he refused that he is not getting time ..he was saying truth i knw he was doing full day job…n one day we again do fight n i told him to block me then he blocked me …after three days i said sorry for fightinf with hime he unvlocked me and everything was going fine …but now he is nt giving me time so i said to finish everythinf n he said ok ..then i said can we become frends so he said yes only frends …but i didnt contact him since 10 days no call no msg ..but 5 days back he automatically unblocked me from whatsapp ( he blocked me three months back) and i didnt messaged or called him n yesterday he again blocked me ..i dont knw what he wants ..he himself unblocked me now again blocked me…is he is obssesed with me or he is not able to handle my ignorance ….??help me i want him back

Chris Seiter

September 9, 2018 at 5:08 am

HI Ria..I know it can be hard…but you are going to get thru this. The after breakup period is always full of crazy emotions and your ex is probably having a hard time letting go. what you want to do is focus on healing and having your own ex recovery plan.

Alexandra

August 29, 2018 at 3:44 pm

Hello,

Thank you for the advice. I enjoyed the read. I met my fiance about 5 years ago through an app called Tango. Since he was Muslim and I come from a Christian family, I took 1 month to get to know him without agreeing to do a temporary marriage contract. Then, I realized I wasnt ready for that and our connection got terminated. We didnt talk for 5 years, even though I kept him on my LinkedIn. After 5 years, we communicated again. I decided to try the relationship through a temporary marriage contract. He visited me up north and I went to Texas. I left my fiance/husband of almost 1 year. We had a long distance relationship with two different states (RI and TX). Once, I sent him a break up text. His response was “is that right.” Then, he blocked me on his calls and texts. But not on snapchat nor other social media. I am enjoying my life, but deep down I know I love him. And I feel like he loves me too. Its only been 4 days since we separated. Any advice? Thank you for your time.

Chris Seiter

August 30, 2018 at 1:29 am

Hi Alexandra….so glad you are finding peace and enjoying life. I think NC is a good strategy for you. Feel free to tap into my program resources by going to my home page to learn more about having an ex recovery plan around some sensible tactics.

Kiana

August 23, 2018 at 1:55 pm

So my ex boyfriend blocked me off of everything you can think of. It’s been 3 months and during the 3 months process, the only way i could get in contact with him was from calling from a block number. At one point of time he used to answer my calls from me calling from a private number, but every time I called.. it wasn’t a good conversation. It will be him telling me to leave him alone and hung up. We don’t have any mutual friends on any social sites. I recently told myself to stop contacting him and just give him some space. I was thinking of doing 30 days of no contact. I called him on Monday and left a voicemail telling him, I’m giving myself time to heal because I’m damaged and hopefully later down the line that we both can rekindle. I miss him and think about him everyday but I feel that the feelings isn’t mutual. Idk what to do at this point. Everyone is telling me to leave him alone and move on but I don’t want too. I believe he moved on already because it’s no way in hell how we were soo close then all of a sudden you blocked me from everything so I can’t contact you. BTW he said he’s not the type of person to get back with an ex but I’m just trying to show him different. Please help me out.
Thanks

Chris Seiter

August 23, 2018 at 10:48 pm

Hi Kiana!

I do think you made the right choice with going into No Contact. I wrote a 247 page book, called, “The No Contact Rule Book” that gets into the whole process and how you can use it to heal and focus on your needs and yet also reinforce your value. I have a lot of tools and resources which you can reach from my home page on this site, so just dig in and enjoy!
Chris Seiter

August 23, 2018 at 10:48 pm

Hi Kiana!

I do think you made the right choice with going into No Contact. I wrote a 247 page book, called, “The No Contact Rule Book” that gets into the whole process and how you can use it to heal and focus on your needs and yet also reinforce your value. I have a lot of tools and resources which you can reach from my home page on this site, so just dig in and enjoy!

Rosy

August 20, 2018 at 1:40 am

Hi, my ex broke up with me in Oct 2015. The last thing my ex said was “the friendship your looking for, your not going to find it here. You need to heal.” I found out a month later that he had been texting some other girl since August 2015. He sent me a text 5 months later simply telling me that I was in his prayers but I never responded. In 2016 I never from him than 2017 comes and he starts calling and texting only through WhatsApp. He FaceTime me once on Valentines Day. I never answered or responded. All his texts were “hi, hey hey and hey there” like nothing had happened and forgot what he said to me. The longest text I received from him was when he called through WhatsApp and then he messaged me saying “hi, I called I was hoping to reach you. And all this time he is still with the same girl he was texting when he was still with me. Then he stopped reaching out in March and reached out the last time in January 2018 still being with the same girl. I obviously never responded. Now I just recently found out last month that he blocked me through WhatsApp. I feel offended because I never bothered him or called him. He was clear when he broke up with me. Why would he block me when I haven’t bothered him? There was no need to speak to each other because he told me to move on and he is in a relationship with someone else. He looks happy with her in pictures.

Chris Seiter

August 20, 2018 at 8:22 pm

Hi Rosy…. Its unclear why he would do so. Maybe he is afraid his girlfriend is jealous type and wanted to clear his tracks. Best to put this in your rear view mirror.

Aurorua

August 14, 2018 at 8:31 pm

So..after a conversation about continue paying for cell phones I was purchasing. Where I told him I thought his actions about not being involved in our child’s life was horrible and sad to see .Wished him well..wished him success and luck with the new girlfriend..told him to give his daughter a hug for me..i would continue to pay for the phones..etc..
He responded back saying I was refusing to pay for the phones.. how he’d been nothing but civil up to now but after me texting him toda( which I didn’t- he texted me..I simply responded in a civil polite non friends way) and how I spoke to him that was at a end..was filling the phone as stolen with the carrier and going to the police and filing a report ..delete and blocked…lol
Not any scenario you have listed above…
How bad is this one…

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2018 at 2:54 pm

Hi Aurorua!

Yes…a bit unique…but also not uncommon. Fussy feelings will rise up after a breakup….and disagreements…..and anger…and etc. He is acting out.

MJ

August 6, 2018 at 10:53 am

But why do you think I got blocked on messenger but not Facebook? I didn’t even try to contact him…
MJ

August 6, 2018 at 3:22 am

Good read.
But I’m still perplexed. I broke up with my bf of one year 5 weeks ago. A week afyer that,he sent me a Facebook friend request at am but swiftly deleted it, but put my favorite pic of him as a profile pic. When i texted to ask why, i got no reply.
Three weeks ago, after two weeks of NC, I got drunk and went to his place to get him back. We spoke for an hour, going from calling me babe, holding my hand. Said he didn’t want to get back together though, cause he doesn’t want the same things to keep happening. I asked him several time if he still loved me. He ended up saying no. When I asked if that was true, he said he is not a guy for me. When I refused that theory, he said I’m not a woman for him then.
I left.
Not a peep from me since.
But today, I went on messenger to look for a pic of me he shared there in the past and noticed he blocked me. This probably happened recently, up to two weeks ago maybe. He didn’t block me from Facebook though (we’re not friends there).
No idea if he phone and email blocked me too. But why messenger and not Facebook?
I’m ashamed to say we are both in our late 30s…

Chris Seiter

August 6, 2018 at 4:29 am

No shame….love visits all ages.
Chris Seiter

August 6, 2018 at 4:29 am

No shame….love visits all ages.

Lauren

August 4, 2018 at 4:05 pm

Hello, My ex and I were together for 1 year and I broke up with him just over 2 weeks ago due to arguments. For the first week I was completely fine because we have broken up a couple of times before and always got back together a couple of days later, and I expected him to get back in touch. then in the second week I noticed he had blocked me from snapchat and twitter, this made me instantly upset because i realised he has probably starting to move on (he had never blocked me after a breakup before). So I decided to ask him why on Facebook, to which I got blocked there as well. I left it alone for 2 days and decided to text him and ask him to talk, he didn’t reply after a few hours so I messaged him on Instagram to ask him to respond to my text. He then blocked my number AND Instagram account. So at this point I have been blocked on every single form of contact. I realised I still followed him on my old Instagram account, so I wrote very long message stating that I miss him, love him and that I want him to come back. And of course, he blocked me after he saw the message. At this point I’m completely heartbroken because I saw he had been following girls on Instagram and liking their photos, probably trying to get their attention. I feel like he’s moved on and I’m broken. I can’t get in touch with him because he has blocked me on everything, and I can’t move on because I haven’t had any closure from him (I was never given a reason as to why I was blocked!!) and I really want him back, but I just don’t think it’s possible. please help :(!!

Chris Seiter

August 5, 2018 at 2:27 am

Hi Lauren!

I sorry you feel broken, but you will get thru this and with a plan for both personal recovery and ex recovery, you give yourself a better chance. One grows from the other. I encourage you to go to my home page and check out all the tools and resources I have there that can help you.

SavageJ

August 3, 2018 at 12:30 pm

Hello!!

I had an ex boyfriend that I met through an online game. We dated for 3 weeks and then he broke up with saying he just wanna focus/prioritize his family, which I told him I understand. He then told me to “Lets stay friends please.” It’s been 3 months since we broke up but I still have feelings for him. So, we stayed friends even though he knows that I still love him.
Then, all of a sudden he blocked me on fb and unfriended me on his other fb accounts.
I thought I was okay, but I don’t understand why he blocked me after deiciding to be friends with me.

Chris Seiter

August 4, 2018 at 3:00 am

Hi there!

Not sure either. Maybe he is not stable. Perhaps it is best, but give it more time to see if he behaves better.

Lorna kichael

July 31, 2018 at 11:50 pm

Hello!

I work bore you with details but I had the most perfect relationship with someone but due to extensive reasons I kept having to hide truths from him and his biggest pet peeve is people who lie. He found out and basically decided he couldn’t trust me. We only dated for 5 months but in that time we spoke of marriage this year and I met his entire family. At first I did all the chasing and apologising then I went silent for three weeks then chased again until he sent me a message to basically move on and so I said okay I respect your decision, all the best. I haven’t reached out since and it has been 2 months. Today he blocked me on instagram which makes no sense as I wasn’t following him and his profile is private so I don’t see the point? Is he attention seeking? There are also other things he has been doing that I could’ve easily repsonded by texting him to ask why but I resisted and I think he’s now kind of itching for me to chase again, I dunno. Am I reading too much into it? It just makes no sense to randomly block someone 3 months after a break up when I haven’t tried to reach out at all. I’m definitely not responding to it but I’d love some expert insight

Chris Seiter

August 1, 2018 at 3:54 am

Hi Lorna!

Sounds like he could have some hidden resentment which might explain the blocking on IG, but I suspect you are right about his attention getting behavior. You might want consider joining my Private Facebook Support Group to tap into some of the opinions you will get there. You have already tried NC and made efforts to connect which he has pushed back on. Maybe he needs more time and might respond to another effort to re-establish communications, but if you go that route follow the guidelines covered in my ebook and/or on this site as to the type of initial text message you might want to send to further tickle his attention.

Blocked

July 29, 2018 at 9:47 am

Theres one place where my ex hasnt blocked me cuz i spammed him so much chasing him and annoying him. Only one and its snapchat . Im going to try the NC rule but should i tell him on snapchat that im going to let him go and stop the begging? Cuz i dont want him thinking that the only reason i stopped begging was cuz i was forced to, since i was blocked, and not cuz i want to. I feel like the NC rule wont work if he thinks im only not hitting him up cuz I possibly cant.

Chris Seiter

July 29, 2018 at 3:59 pm

Yes, I think NC is the right move. You can give him a heads up about what your doing and why. Explain you need time and space to heal and work on “you”. Then you should go to my Home Page here on this site and check out my ex recovery products and select one that fits your needs because it is important you have a smart game plan available to you.

Kayci

July 27, 2018 at 11:47 pm

Hey,

I need a lot of help. Me and my bf were together for about 2 months. I know it doesn’t sound like a lot of time, but it was an instant and intense connection. He told me he never connected with anyone this fast before.

A week ago we got into a fight via text because I was jealous that he kept adding girls on Instagram. He was really drunk and said some not so nice things. A day later he texts an apology and says he’s been in a bad place lately and didn’t want to drag me down with him. I have noticed that he had been sleeping a LOT lately and still feeling tired and drinking more than usual. There were signs that he was becoming depressed. I tried to be supportive and tell him that I was here for him if he needs anything and I gave him his space. He said it wasn’t a breakup but just needed time. This convo happened on Sunday.

Fast forward to Tuesday. I was really stressed out and decided to get a couple of drinks at my favorite local bar after work. I was hanging out with some friends and was already several drinks in having a good time, and out of nowhere he shows up. He didn’t know I was going to be there, but he was already drunk when he showed up. Later that night he threw up in the patio outside The end result of us running into each other was we got into a HORRIBLE drunk fight. There was crying, shouting, I grabbed his phone and blocked the girl that we argued over a week ago. It was just bad.

At 6am the next morning (I’m assuming he’s still drunk), he sent a bunch of angry texts saying I damaged his glasses, he hated me, and he never wanted me to talk to him again. There were a lot of exclamation points and caps. I had no recollection of damaging his glasses and he posted later on social media and his glasses looked completely fine. He just woke up drunk and starting yelling and accusing me of things that he assumed I did but didn’t. I was already sobering up and tried to tell him I was sorry and was willing to pay for any damages I supposedly caused. He just kept texting me angrily all day. I didn’t reply because I was confused and worried about saying the wrong thing. He texted the next day asking if I deleted anything from his phone. I didn’t answer because all my friends said to wait for him to calm down in a few days and that there was no way he actually hated me.

So I followed my friends’ advice, but I think it only made the situation worse. On Thursday night he was all over IG posting photos of him smoking and drinking and he posted some depressing quote/rant about losing people and moving on. On Friday, I see he blocked me on IG. I completely freaked out and sent him an apology saying I wasn’t replying because I didn’t know what to say. I haven’t heard anything so far.

I’m considering trying the No Contact plan, but I’m not sure there’s much hope. I can’t show off all of my improvements and how well I’m supposedly doing on social media if he can’t see it. We both only use IG so there’s no other platform I can use. I’m worried about running into him in person again too. I’m just worried about a lot of things and I’m wondering if there’s any hope for me. I really do think he hates me.

Chris Seiter

July 28, 2018 at 4:48 am

Hi Kayci…I do think you should give NC and try. You can learn more about it in any of my core ebooks found on the Home page or you can explore the site for info as well. What is important though is to have an ex recovery plan guided by a common sense approach, so do look into some of the resources I talk about on my home page elsewhere!

mcglee

May 11, 2018 at 6:22 am

Hi

me and my boyfriend broke up 13 Jan 2018… we have been talking and i spend some long weekends with him after the breakup….

but after the second visit with him he started acting weird towards me over the phone.. he delayed his replies(where he always replied instantly) and we had a little fight because he was being a jerk towards me so i became a jerk with him as well.

yesterday he blocked me on Facebook and on whatsapp , what should i do and what does it mean?

Chris Seiter

May 11, 2018 at 3:07 pm

Hi Mcglee…well it looks like you need an Action plan going forward. It not unusual for their to be false starts after a breakup as people wind thru their emotions and pent up resentments. Restarting the relationship on better footing sometimes requires a break away from each other. You are probably looking for actionable solutions, right? Well, the good news is that I created an ebook to help folks like yourself. Just go to my website’s Menu Section and click on “Products” link. You will learn there are lots a ways to better your situation! You don’t have to do this on this by your lonesome!
Mcglee

May 14, 2018 at 5:43 am

hi he also said that he still has feelings for me and that he misses me and when i was visiting him for the long weekends we kissed etc so im in a bit of a hole here because it feels like mixed signals like does he want me back or is this the end of the road for us – MCGLEE
Chris Seiter

May 14, 2018 at 3:21 pm

Hi again! Just follow the plan I lay out in my ebook!

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