How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

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SHEVAWN

October 1, 2015 at 3:32 am

Hello Chris,
I am NCing my Boyfriend of a year and a half. He has been the greatest boyfriend. He pursued me for 8 months long distance. Calling almost every week of which I refuse to pick up the phone to speak to him at the time because I did not want to have a long distance relationship. I always felt that they were too hard. I finally gave in and started to speak with him. He owns his own radio station so money is not a problem for him. I will explain why I am mentioning this later. He had asked over and over for the next few months to come visit and I resisted. I would always make up an excuse. I felt safer keeping him at bay because I knew if he came to see me I would fall for him. He is very charming and good looking. Ok ….here is what happened. He knew I was traveling cross country to see my mom. He arranged to change his flight to Denver to cross paths with me at an airport in Houston just so that he could see me. When I got off the plane he was standing there. I was pleasantly surprised and impressed. He waited with me until my next flight and he took off for Denver. I am telling you how much trouble he put himself through just to see me. The conversations continued for the next four months and they were deep and heartfelt and long. He flew out to Los Angeles for just a day to see me again and flew back to his home the next day. Now tell me who does that? The next month…he flew back to LA again to take me to a play and flew back within two days. It was a great visit. By this time we are intimate with each other. From that month on he arranged flights for me to come to see him almost every month. He took care of me , my travel and hotel. He set up different events like plays and concerts for us to attend. Somewhere in all of this I was wondering when is he going to ask me to marry him. I expressed that I was not interested in dating him all my life. I would never bring up marriage but I really wanted him to let me go if his intentions were not to marry me. I would never bring marriage up just that we should figure out what is best for us or allow me to find what is best for me. He always stated that he wants us to be together but the finances of his station is owning him at the time and if I could be patient. This issue has always be a thorn in our relationship. I want to be with him daily and I was just tired of the travel even though he was taking care of it. After a while I noticed that his text messages were getting shorter and shorter but he would still send for me to be with him. He said he feared that because of this issue he knew or felt that he would loose me someday. That I am not patient enough to with stand the distance issue. He would always talk about how much he loved me and I him.

This is where things blow up. My visit to him a few weeks ago to Dallas this time was wonderful the first day. In the morning he showed me pictures of his son on the cheerleading squad. At that moment a call came through and he quickly covered the name. I became suspicious but played it cool. I heard him mention he got nervously busy trying to play it off. I kept calm and just enjoyed the rest of my visit. The last day before leaving while he was in the shower, I curiosity got the better of me. I have never done this before but I had to know. I went into his phone and saw the text message that said BABY, I WAITED FOR YOUR CALL’…The women was beautiful and trim. I am the same build so I know he was attracted to her. He likes women who are petite and take care of themselves. I asked him about it and He said haven’t I had men approach me and it is nothing more than friends. I said yes but i don’t entertain them and they don’t call me baby. Apparentely there is a relationship going on here. I expressed in a calm voice that i will not becoming back. I was hurt. He took me to the airport and chose to stay with me until my flight left watching me until I got in the flight. When I landed he stated that He could never forgive me for violating his privacy, this is something he would never do to me, take care. I wish you the best. I wish him the same. I started NC the next day before I even heard of your program. I have been in NC 6 days before I bought your program. Where did I go wrong , should I give up and is there any hope? I love him so much but will not tolerate this. I want him to get to a point that he misses me so much he will ask me to marry him without any prompting from me. Its got to be his idea about marriage. I am now in day 8 of NC and he hasn’t even tried to call or text not that I would answer but at least for my ego I wish I knew but there is not attempt. I feel like its over. Any advise would be great Chris. PLEASE RESPOND I FEEL SO SAD!!!!
fran

September 26, 2015 at 12:36 pm

Hi I have been dating this guy for 8 years at first he was in the military and I live in NJ things where great he asked me to marry him I said yes but we didnt marry then he deployed and when he got back he was relocated to TN he asked me to move but becuase of my family and work I did not he was there 3 years things were great then 2 years ago he got out of the sevice and moved to TX to work for his father things were great until 3 weeks ago we had a great trip in May but because of both of our work schedule we didnt see each other since since. Last week he ended it with me at first I was shocked and I said I made up my mide and quite my job i was going ot move he said no its too late he made up his mind and there was no changing it that if I did move he would always think that the reason was because he pushed me to and he didnt want that. I miss him so much my heart hurts I have wanted to move for months now but didnt know how to I needed that push. He still talks to me and replys to my texts and emails he even face times me but says its over and to stop being dramatic and accept it. We had a trip planned in Oct to go to nashville I still have my ticket I know he will be there with his father do I just show up? He sent me the money for the plane tickets and said he was done with it all. he feels like he has been alone and just wants to be alone. He also changed our phone lines we had a family share plan and he changed it so we are sepate know

Please help I miss him
Lori

September 24, 2015 at 2:10 am

Hi Chris. I met my ex online. He is 51 and I’m 44. He’s divorced with three kids, 16, 15 & 11. When we first met, he told me that he & his ex “get along” because they are coparenting and I fully supported that. He lives in Manhattan and they live in upstate NY in the former marital home, an hour and a half train ride for him. He travels to see them 3 out of 4 weekends each month. I live in PA. We talk first thing in the morning, text throughout the day and facetime nightly. I began having issues when our time in person started to become more than every two weeks (I would take time off of work, like Thursday and Friday when he had to go upstate. Sometimes he would come to PA). I started to feel like I wasn’t a priority in his life. He has told me that he needs to keep his ex happy because it will cause problems for him with his time with the kids. I’ve fought with him for more time and he tells me he is doing the best he can and that he needs me to support his situation. I feel like she has an emotional hold on him so recently I told him I’m giving him space, time apart from each other until he can find a way to incorporate me into his life, his whole life (he tends to keep that part of his life from me). His ex had an affair with his brother and that has destroyed his relationship with his brother. It’s hard for me to understand why he feels her happiness is his responsibility. I feel like her needs come before mine. He says I need to be patient and think of the big picture in terms of our future together, but he doesn’t articulate what exactly that means and how long things will go on as they are. The distance is a challenge for us and I know that if we didn’t have that challenge, I wouldn’t have an issue with not seeing him three out of four saturdays each month. When I started fighting, and I mean yelling out of frustration, breaking up with him, because I felt he wasn’t giving me the time I deserve, he went online behind my back and actually met a woman for drinks. All the while continuing our relationship and telling me how much he loves me and that I just need to support him in his situation. I decided to forgive him, and trust him, but it’s hard. I just want him to make me a priority in his life and focus on MY happiness because I am his partner. He didn’t want to accept the time apart and kept calling me and begging me and said he loves me and needs me in his life, but I screwed up and responded. Then the doubt he created in me arose again and we got into a huge fight and he ended it with me because he said “I don’t let up”! One day after begging me not to do the time apart thing. How do I start over with the NC rule at this point. And should I? We are great together when we’re together and when I’m not feeling slighted or as if he’s keeping things from me. I just want him to put me first. Is it possible??
Jey-Jey

September 22, 2015 at 1:51 am

Hi Chris!

Great site by the way! Lots of useful information here!

My ex just ended things with me a week ago, that was a Sunday. After we talk on the phone, we had a short convo in facebook then after my last message, i didn’t wait for him to respond and blocked him off in facebook. He can still text or call me but he didn’t. I decided i will start NC.

So by Wednesday, I had the urge to text him so I did, it was just saying if we can still think of ways to work things out which I followed by ringing his phone to ensure he didn’t block my number. But he didn’t respond to that.

So now it’s Monday, 5 days from my last text to him. I’m planning to do NC all the way with him. His reason for the breakup was he is confused about how he feels towards me, that it wasn’t the same as before, he also told me the line “It’s not you, it’s me.” By the way, we are in a long distance relationship.

Before everything happened, we already had plans for the future but it hurts me that he had a change of heart.

Do you think this is a lost cause? Or can I still try to get him back? Any advice.

Chris Seiter

October 1, 2015 at 6:38 pm

Definitely not a lost cause.

You definitely have a shot.

Nicole

September 20, 2015 at 6:49 am

Hey chris,
I really need your help.My boyfriend of 3 yrs is cheating on me we are in a LD from 1yr.Everything was ok 1-2 mnths back.But i noticed a sudden change in him.In short i found he is cheating on me.He really loved me and we were sooo close to each other.But now it seems like he really dun care if i stay or leave.I think he is in love with his new girl.It hrts alot.I want to get him back.To be honest i want to make him feel guilty.Bcz i really cant move on im trying my level best but i still love him like mad and i want him to atleast feel guilty.There is no hope.I know he has moved on to a new girl.Iam in my NC.Actually i started it again bcz i broke it for wishing him b’day.And at time i felt that he still miss me.First time when i started it he started calling me for the first few day but then he became silent till his b’day.I have started it again and its my 8th day.He didn’t tried to call or text me.Is there any chance?I love him alott?
Plz help me out..i would really appreciate it..or else i ll die..
MJ

September 19, 2015 at 6:28 pm

Hey Chris!

I messaged you on Facebook, and you said I should post a comment on your article instead because you can’t advice on Facebook. I want to make this super quick and short, so I can get a reply from you.

Both I and my ex are in college. We are about 2 hours apart. After tomorrow, I would have had no contact with him for a month. I’m just really nervous and scared.
(It’s been 2 months since we broke up. He did text me about 2 weeks after we broke up but it was super casual. I did not reply to him. We did see each other A LOT after the break up, cause we have mutual friends. I gave him the cold shoulder though.) So with all that said, Is it okay that I send him the first text message after so long? In the article you said it was fine, but this is going to be so out of the blue.

I plan on following what you said exactly, but I’m afraid of his response. I’m afraid he’ll think “something’s up” and be distant.
Gina

September 19, 2015 at 5:23 am

I think I just found my answer. In rereading this you say the type of woman who is cut out for a LDR is one that doesn’t have kids. I have 2 teenagers and his kids are in their 20s. His main reason for breaking up with me is saying that he belongs in his state and I belong in mine where we have our families. (My ex husband does not have contact with my kids, nor does his ex wife with his kids so we are both the sole parent that our kids depend on.) That plus I am waiting for my divorce to be finalized so I am technically not free yet. I think that is the bigger problem. Should I try to just contact him once the divorce has gone through or is it even worth it to hold on to any hope for this relationship?
Gina

September 19, 2015 at 4:35 am

Thank you. I am on day 8 of NC after he broke up with me from our LDR and I really appreciate your insight and all of the pages of advice you give on this website. I would love to follow this but at the same time he is going through the death of his father and some other stuff and I am wondering if I should still contact him and try to get back with him when he has made it clear it didn’t work out and he just wants to be friends. Is 30 days too soon when he is grieving and dealing with other stuff? I was a bit of a GNAT before I started NC so I think this break has been good for both of us and I wonder if its a good idea to try to do these steps while he is still a mess? Thank you.
Paola

September 18, 2015 at 5:24 am

Hello! So my now to be ex went off to college 13 hours away from home. We were each other’s first love and my first kiss. We dated for 2 years and a half. At first we tried the long distance since we had already done it besides college started. I went to Mexico for a year and we would talk everyday, but now that he’s in college, he decided to break things off. I actually visited him along with him family a month ago. It’s been 3 weeks since the break up and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to move on. After 2 days that he broke up with me, he would text me and lead me on and I would go along with it but then I would just end up getting my hopes up for nothing. 3 days ago, he even told me that we would get back but instead, he told me it was best if we didn’t. I agreed. His brother is getting married in a month and I was invited which means he will be in town in a month. Should I wait to reach out to him one he gets here? The reason we broke up was because he’s too jealous and because he wants to go out with his friends without having me to worry about. He has made it very clear that he doesn’t want a relationship with anyone during college so he dientes dump me for anyone. What should I do? I want him back so badly!
Thank you.
Asun

September 17, 2015 at 8:57 pm

Hi Chris,
Many thanks for this website. My story:

I met my boyfriend on the last year of university and we started right away. After the first year I went to another country for a Masters degree but we kept the relationship. During the last five years twice for 6 months I moved in with him were he was working in summer, but unfortunately, in autum, everyone had to move back to their parents home because we didn’t had no job and money to live together. This has been the situation for the last 5 years. I have to say that during all this years we had been seeing each other at least once every month, and we talked on the phone 3 times a day, plus phone messages. This last july when I went to visit him we were talking that I would finally move in to his island (I am from the mainland), we started to see which areas we were going to search for a house, to build a bussiness together…..and all of a sudden, in august he wanted to split up. He has been extremely stressed because he’s preparing to work for the government and need to pass some tests and that means that since november 2014 he has not had a proper life, he’s not working, only studying. But this august he had been partying quite a lot.
At first we broke on the phone and on whatsapp, really bad. After a week I went there to apologyse and see if we could start again, that I was finally moviing in with him, that I could help him study….his answer was that he had lost the “sparkle” of the relationship. I was devastated and went back home. When he left me in the airport we couldn’t stop crying and HE was kissing me. After another week, I called him, and begged him to explain me what happened, why all of a sudden, all the life plans we had were ashes. He told me: “right now I don’t want to be with you, I need to be selfish and look for my self”, but also that he’s afraid to regret later. That call was 8 days ago, so I have started the NC rule.
I feel empty enside. I had so much love and happiness only one month and a half ago and now all that is gone. What do you think?

Asun

November 7, 2015 at 8:00 pm

HI Chris

After a couple of months of the break up, we finally got the chance to talk, in person. It went really well, he was surprised with my change of attitude (he thought it was going to be a drama) and first thing he told me “wow, you look so beautiful”. The thing is the mixed signals (in fact I sent him a meme: your heart says “yes”; your head says “no”; you say “I don’t know”, he told me that those words defined him perfectly). I don’t know how to handle this. He was terrified (literally) that I was going to tell him that I was with another guy, but at the same time he is telling me to go out and have fun and don’t think too much about him. When I told him that I will wait until he clarifies his mind, I also told him that my patience has a limit and I might not be there if he wants to get back later. Reply? “what do you mean? I get shivers when you tell me that”. WHAT CAN I DO??? Please reply me, or give me the chance for a skype chat, I need answers
Asun

October 15, 2015 at 10:37 am

Hi Chris,

My ex didn’t make through all the no contact rule, he contacted me before. He wants to talk and I see he wants to text. My friends tell me he is not ok, very stressed, but doesn’t seem he still wants a relationship with me. Does he want to put me in the “friend-zone”? because that would be a big NO. I don’t know what to do 🙁

Bekah

September 13, 2015 at 6:42 pm

Hi Chris, I was hoping that you could help me understand my situation because it’s breaking my heart. My boyfriend and I had been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. We met online but everything was great. We had our ups and downs but we loved each other very much. After I graduated I had the opportunity to go and see him so obviously I took it. We spent a couple days together and it was the most amazing experience of my life. When we had to say goodbye we were both very emotional. I’ve been home for two months and everything had been going great, or so I thought. He had told me everyday how much he loved me and how much I loved him. When we talked on the phone he would always tell me that I ruined him for other girls. Than a week ago everything hit the fan. Suddenly he just wants to be friends and is confused about his feelings and that there was someone else. Up until the day he actually dumped me he told me he didn’t want to break up with me and that he still loved me. His exact words were ” It is tearing me apart to be in love with someone that I can’t see everyday” but he just couldn’t let go of this girl no matter how many times I asked. I said it was me or her, and he chose her. The day we broke up he still couldn’t tell me what he wanted. After fighting he finally said I know what I want and I don’t love you anymore. Whenever we would fight he would say things out of frustration and I feel like that’s what was happening, but I don’t know for sure.he literally started dating the girl the day we broke up. We talk but it’s so weird. He told me he doesn’t love me anymore and that this new girl helped him realise that he could have someone closer, but he still wants to be friends. I am trying so hard to let go but I can’t. He’s so cold toward me and told me that it was a long time coming, but yet he was telling he loved me and wanted me up until the very last minute, now all of a sudden he doesn’t love me? I sent him a letter with a picture of us from the trip. I sent it before everything happened and when he got it he burned it and then showed me and tried to tell me “I didn’t think it would hurt your feelings” I do want him back, but how am I supposed to compete when I’m not there. We have so much in common and we were so good together.. Now he’s acting like we didn’t have anything and like I don’t matter to him at all.. It just hurts so bad and I don’t know what to do..
Help me

September 12, 2015 at 2:19 pm

Hey Chris,
I met this guy in NY on vacation and wasn’t really that into him at the time. We were never dating but we did plan to date when I moved there. Basically I was insecure and my insecurities made him feel like he was good enough and he started to pull away. In July, he told me he liked someone else. In August he said he wants to be invested in her (not dating) and that we should be friends but he’s not sure how he’ll feel when I get there. Two weeks later, something happened between them and they’re no longer dating or whatever they were doing. He hit on me, sexually. I just ignored it. He’ll randomly send me pictures sometimes which is what he used to do. But I told him the other day I missed him. He didn’t respond well. I’m now constantly initiating contact and we text very briefly. I’m not as insecure as I was but I think he might still see me that way.
He asked me to be his friend August 11. I’ve been talking to him steadily and being there for him since then(not that he has asked me. I just go out of my way) Is it too late? Will No Contact work? Should I do mixed signals and friend zoning him? And when should I be willing to walk away?

Help me

September 12, 2015 at 2:22 pm

I meant to say he felt like he wasn’t good enough. He also said when he pulls away it’s hard for him to be interested again but you never know what could happen. I’m tempted to tell him how I feel. But I’m sure that was part of the problem. Please reply. I’m doing no contact for 21 days until you do.

Baz

September 12, 2015 at 1:14 pm

Hey, Chris!

Thank you for sharing info in your website – that’s one of the most complete I’ve seen!!
So I followed the plan pretty much and I’ve been talking to my ex bf since last week. He always replies within 15 min – 2h. Despite being positive, he’s always brief, cold and objective. Like “Nice. Good for you”, no matter how exciting, average or boring my messages are. When I say “catch you later, need to go. Have a nice day”, he says “You too. Have a nice day, dude”. Like really distant.

I am not confident to keep going with the compliment message or even i miss you message. When I used the jealousy message, he simply didnt respond. What should I do now?
Once again, thank you very much!
Emily

September 11, 2015 at 4:10 pm

Hey Chris!

So here is my situation:

My ex and I were together for about 9 months. We had a pretty great relationship. He moved 3 weeks ago to the other side of the United States to attend school. We discussed we would take it a day at a time and me coming to see him, and working on our relationship when he would come home. He told me all these sweet things before he left , making me believe we were in a relationship. I heard from him the first week and he texted me saying he loved me and was going to call me the next day. We talked on the phone for about 10 minutes and after that I didnt hear from him for about a week (I did not contact him) I finally texted asking him if he didn’t want to talk to me and he said

“My name. Actually, no.” I’m busy living my life and going to school. I don’t know how to make it clear that you and I arent together.”
Like what?! This is not what we discussed. I of course blew up and was upset. Like how is it that easy for you not to talk to someone you love? I ran into his mother actually and even his best friends and non of them have hardly heard from him. I felt like he would always distant himself in situations he can’t avoid. I just dont get why he all of a sudden is ignoring me and I feel like I could get “ghosted”
I did text him a week later and said “I hope you’re well and I miss talking to my best friend.” Since then I am about 9 days into the no contact rule. I do see him post on social media frequently. I just don’t know how to make myself visible to him. This is such a horrible feeling. I love him so much and he is my best friend. I just don’t get why he’s doing this and I need help.

Thanks!
Candy

September 10, 2015 at 8:24 pm

Hi Chris, I’ve been on and off dating my now (semi) ex boyfriend for about a year. He has broken up with me several times, once for his ex, once on vacation…and another time because he simply didn’t wanna be committed. He is deployed currently, and before he deployed we talked about where we stood and we confessed that we did love each other and wanted to make it work.

I knew he was always jealous, but I told him a male friend was taking me out for dinner and he freaked out. He accused me of using him for money, and I disrespected him. He essentially ended things over facebook chat. Since then, he has deleted me, and unfollowed my instagram. I deleted my Facebook now, and haven’t checked my instagram. He redownloaded snap chat onto his phone, and he snap chatted me this morning (it’s been 12 hours since he sent it, and I viewed it 4 hours ago) all he said was he was reminding me to mail back his things to where he is deployed. Which he told me to do over chat before I deleted my account.

Is this his way of trying to communicate? I was already breaking down today, and I almost cracked and messaged him. Then I saw his message.

Any advice? He won’t be home from several months, still. Thank you.
Adriana

September 8, 2015 at 5:49 pm

Ok, I cheated on him emotionally, not physically which is basically the same. He left me because he said his insecurities are driving him crazy, that he needs peace of mind and he can’t cope with everything (still have to figure what it means). He went away for 28 days and I knew nothing about him and basically kept pestering him with small emails. We spoke after he went back to work (Note: we used to live and work in between three continents) we spoke as we did every day, without fail for three years. He sent me a message a couple of days ago saying the emptiness is easier to accept since he had it for years. He states the true problem with love is the great feeling when is working and the complete opposite when it goes wrong. Last thing I asked him is where is he going when his days off come up (next week) he said back to the UK – I am in USA. So, how can I approach the NC rule and then try to send him the text msg when we are continents apart? Also, he told me he’d been thinking of coming back home but he knows the insecurities and doubts will resurface at one point and we will drift apart even more. I am totally lost. We love each other but I don’t know what to do!
Amy

September 7, 2015 at 4:34 pm

Hey Chris!

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years, and he broke up with me about 2 months ago. We are both currently in college, but our colleges are not that far apart. He said time and distance was the real deal breaker. Throughout the year we didn’t get to see each other often, but we thought that would change for summer. However, we were both working throughout the summer and only got to see each other once. We discussed this, and we realized we wouldn’t be able to see each other until the last few weeks of summer vacation. At that point, he said he didn’t even feel like we were even in a relationship anymore.

What sucks about this entire situation is we both have the same circle of friends. As we discussed, both our schedules freed up in August. There were many hangouts, and it was kind of sad and awkward to see him so much. We never had the chance to have a NC period. Side note, I also made the mistake of asking him to give us another chance (a week after our break up), but he said he “didn’t think it was a good idea”. During all those hangouts, he kept talking to as if nothing happened. He even texted me a few times, but I constantly ignored him.

Now college has started, and I’m following your advice. The last time I saw him was Aug. 20th, so I’m waiting till Sep 20th to initiate a conversation with him. But I’m really nervous…
By Sep 20th, it will have been more then 2 months since the break up. Wouldn’t he have moved-on by then? Also, we’re in college. A month is enough time for him to get into the routine of college, and he may just prefer not having a girlfriend? The strongest emotion that’s needed, is for him to miss me. But he saw me so many times after the break-up, and I highly doubt that emotion will occur anymore :/ I don’t know what to do.

You may be asking, what’s going to be different in our relationship if we do get back together. Well, like I said, our colleges aren’t far apart (1 hour to be exact). And almost every other day I have work, and my work place is about 10 minutes from his college. I have been at his college about 5 times by now, but I’ve never seen him. I have only spent time with my other friend that attend that college. I genuinely believe that our relationship will work out if we just give it one more shot.

All advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for this article, Chris!
Katherine

September 5, 2015 at 7:31 pm

Hi Chris,
here’s hoping you’ll reply. So I met my ex boyfriend last year in my hometown, I live in Peru, he lives in England. He usually comes here every 3 months because he has a company here. At first we took it for something nice that happened for 2 weeks but we decided to keep in touch over skype. I was heading to Europe in january and after much thought he decided he wanted to spend new year’s together and since then we started to date seriously. In February he stayed here until June and we started dating seriously and decided that we could do LD for 3 months till he came now in September (he stays till december). Everything seemed to be going well he even sent me flowers for my birthday two weeks ago which is a huge gesture cause he even asked my friends for help. So when this monday he wanted “to talk” over skype I was confused. The distance has made him think things through last wekend and he thought it was best if we were no longer in a relationship because it was not fair for us. He wanted to do this first over skype becaue he didn’t want it to be out of the blue ruining our first week together. He still wants to talk face to face and is coming the 19th of september, so roughly two weeks. A day after we broke up over skype I thought it was best to not be in no contact and we haven’t spoken since. Is it ok if I do that till we see each other? Or should I start the no contact after we’ve spoken face to face? I think we definately need to talk things face to face so I’m not sure how to proceed. Hopefully you can give me lights on this. Thank you so much.
Cher

September 5, 2015 at 1:02 pm

Hi Chris!

So I did no contact on my boyfriend bc we were fighting a lot; we were not broken up. we are in a LDR (6 years) have been together 13 years. Anyways, we agreed to talk on Sept 1st and he called me. I could tell he was acting weird & found out he had started dating someone else over past 2 weeks. I immediately freaked & drove there & did the you love me not her thing and acted like a crazy person begging him! He said he loves me but he wanted to do what he wanted for awhile and maybe we could try later but right now he didn’t want to. I was devastated! He has sinced texted me making sure I’m ok but his texts are very short & vague. I was sending him book length text messages & sometimes he responds. Last night I had enough. He did the same thing about 6 years ago where he wanted to play around and I waited & we got back together. I honestly feel he’s afraid to commit to which he says he won’t commit bc we fight. I don’t know what to do! I will not sit by while he runs around again; I should mean more to him than that! I’m so confused! I was thinking of doing NC on him again but just completed it less than a week ago! Please give me some guidance. Thank you.
S

September 5, 2015 at 12:16 pm

Hi Chris,
My LD boyfriend has stopped responding to me 2 months ago, which was his way of breaking up with me I guess. I tried NC but failed. I send him messages that he continues to ignore. I can see if he’s online and has seen my messages… I don’t know what to do anymore. My longest NC was 2 weeks. Should I try NC again or just give up?

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