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Fenya
September 28, 2018 at 11:18 am
Hi Chris,
My ex broke up because of long distance and because he thinks he can’t be here for me and can’t make me happy. We didn’t really have any drama in our relationship, it was very mature and loving. So we ended on good terms even though I didn’t agree to his decision. He wanted to stay friends, and we had a bit contact 3 weeks after the break up, but I started no contact (without warning him). He had birthday the day after I initiated no contact – I don’t know if that’s the right decision not to wish him happy birthday. Anyway, am I doing this right? Is no contact the right thing? When he broke up he said he understood if I needed space, which I didn’t really respond to. So I’m not sure if the reason he doesn’t contact me is because he thinks I’m a bitch for not wishing him a happy birthday, or because he figured out I need space. So should I just stay in no contact?
Chris Seiter
September 29, 2018 at 3:52 am
Hi Fenya!
If he is asking for space, then yes, NC is the right medicine. But practice and do the things I teach in my program so you can get the most out of it.
Chris Seiter
September 29, 2018 at 3:52 am
Hi Fenya!
If he is asking for space, then yes, NC is the right medicine. But practice and do the things I teach in my program so you can get the most out of it.
Miss Sasparilla
September 27, 2018 at 5:12 am
Hi Chris!
My ex cheated and we broke up a year ago. We’d been together for two years and had lived together for five months. After the break up we didn’t speak for a couple of months but then I initiated contact and
after messaging for a while we met up. Since then we’ve had friendly meet ups and days out about once a month, and he is really into giving me big hugs! Seems so pleased to see me! After a really amazing day out recently I went to kiss him and he kissed me back. He then went cold on me the next day and said we couldn’t hang out anymore if I wanted to be more than friends…
Jump forward and after six weeks of not meeting up he’s been back to visit me the last two weekends and mentions ideas for future meet ups. How do I get the hell out of this friend zone?
Chris Seiter
September 28, 2018 at 3:07 am
Hello Miss!
Quite a name you have there!
So this ex of yours doesn’t seem to have his head screwed on right. He seems to want everything his way. But relationships that are successful don’t work that way. I think you consider telling him this off/on is not for you and if he wants your friendship and love, he needs to be steady. You have already been thru enough with this one. You have many other paths you can walk in life and find what you want.