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Steph N
February 20, 2014 at 3:11 am
Me and my ex broke up 6 days ago. So far we both haven’t contacted each other. He told me he wanted to break up to focus on himself and that he’s going through a lot of things. I was upset but i knew there was more to the story. One of my friends than called him today and he basically told her that he put in so much time and effort for 8 months to get me, which he did because we started off as friends but he always expressed to me he wanted more, but once he got me it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be (ouch!). Basically that he wished we stayed friends, which is crazy because this is a guy that felt sooo deeply about me before but it seems as though once we got Into a relationship and had sex things changed for him smh. My friend feels as though he put in 8 months of work just to sleep with me and now he has his job is done but I don’t know. Is it possible I can get him back or is this a lost cause. Please help
admin
February 20, 2014 at 7:44 pm
Do you think he is really that way? To just use you for sex.
Steph N
February 21, 2014 at 11:26 am
I don’t think so but he’s been acting so different lately that I have no idea.
UniGirl
February 20, 2014 at 10:23 pm
A lot of guys enjoy the chase and then once they know they have you they get comfortable and leave to spice up their life a bit. It happens a lot, hopefully he’ll see that being without you isn’t as fun as he thought it would be and you can get him to chase you again! 🙂
Steph N
February 20, 2014 at 3:31 am
Also is changing my hair during NC period really necessary lol. I really like my hair but I did start a 30 day gym challenge yesterday and plan on sticking to it but the hair change I just don’t know about that
UniGirl
February 19, 2014 at 8:00 pm
Hi Chris, I am following your plan exactly. However, I am dealing with someone EXTREMELY stubborn. I know he still loves me, he left me during an argument but when we spoke the next day he said he loves me to pieces and that I am the only person he has ever loved etc and that I am his world but he has made a decision and so there is no going back on it. He has always said that if we ever broke up that would be it, he wouldn’t contact, he’d just cut ties. I don’t know much about his previous relationship but I do know that she was texting him but he never spoke to her again.
As you get a lot of comments, have you ever had one from someone who NEVER got contacted by their ex again? This is highly frustrating because their’s no doubting his feelings for me, he cried his eyes out when we broke up but he is so stubborn. In fact when we have had an argument in person being affectionate by hugging him etc was the only way I ever got him to to break down his defences!
Please advise! I’m sure lots of other girls will be able to relate to my problem
admin
February 20, 2014 at 7:34 pm
Haha Have you read my latest guide?
UniGirl
February 20, 2014 at 9:23 pm
I’m not sure. It’d be useful if you’re sight has a search engine or a list of when you posted them 🙂
admin
February 21, 2014 at 6:08 pm
Ya I think you are right.
Curious
February 19, 2014 at 2:05 pm
Hi chris,
after the birth of my baby (who is 8 months old)I went through postpartum depression and it took a toll on my attitude and sex drive. It lasted about 6 months, and after i got over it, i feel the damage was done between me and my husband because no matter what i would do to try and make things right, he would accuse me of doing something wrong. About 3 weeks ago he had told me that us being happy together was just a dream but wouldnt happen. 2 weeks ago hes told me he fell out of love but that im a great friend. The MC (we have a daughter) period for 30 days ends 2 weeks before my ex is scheduled to leaves for boot camp, and i think from there he will be stationed somewhere. I have read your e-book and i love it, I’ve been taking pride in my appearance and began to work out, and all together getting my life on track. Do you have any advice regarding what i should do or when to break mc?
Lina
February 19, 2014 at 1:20 pm
HELP! I seriously need an andvice right now!!My ex and I had arranged a trip which is on Monday,only now he says it’s better not to go because we’re not together and we wont be together!I asked him to discuss his problem but he haven’t answered! What can I say now? is there anything I can do to change his mind? please answer!!
admin
February 19, 2014 at 7:29 pm
He won’t even tell you why?
Lina
February 19, 2014 at 7:35 pm
no!! when I ask him he stops the convo!I really don’t know what to say to change his mind!what can I do???
Lina
February 20, 2014 at 1:53 pm
he’s totally negative on the trip and I can’t persuade him.The thing is that he owes me Money.. what can I do now?30 days of NC again?Is there any hope at all? please answer..
Anon woman
February 18, 2014 at 5:24 pm
Hey Chris,
I’m on day 6 of my NC. Whoohoo!!! Anyway I had a couple questions to ask you.
1. Does he really mean it when he says he’s really done this time he has no feelings for me anymore there’s no chance?
2. He’s flirting with my best friend. She says he never brings me up never talks about me and is always happy. What does this mean? Any advice on how to handle that kind of situation?
3. He’s acting so happy and like I never even existed in his life. He puts all these happy Facebook statuses and what not. What’s your opinion on that? do you really think he’s happy?
Thanks so much:)
the stubborn guy.
February 18, 2014 at 5:07 am
I and my ex bf after 3 years of relationship,since we were best friends, we used to fight a lot. We have broken up so many times before, but we always used to come back together as a couple. This time I’ve apologised to him for my mistakes. I’ve almost done everything that I could to make things go right but he is not ready. He says his concious is not allowing him to be with me while his heart still beats for me. I’ve tried counselling him so many times but he is just too stubborn to under anything. We study in the same school, we are in the same class, we belong to the same group, we share the same tution. He says he loves me and when he and I are alone, he is just not able to control homes, his eyes light up, his heart skips a beat when I look him in the eye. I see love in his eyes and feel the same old warmth. I don’t know what to do, I’ve told h that I’m changing the way I feel, he texted me but I did not reply, I even avoid making an eye contact with him, I’m on my NC, should I wish him on his birthday? What to do, how to win him back? Please help.
admin
February 18, 2014 at 7:17 pm
No don’t wish him a happy birthday.
the stubborn guy.
February 19, 2014 at 1:00 pm
But will it work or make things worse things instead? What’s gonna happen if I see him and don’t wish?
the stubborn guy.
February 19, 2014 at 1:54 pm
My NC period will end on 13th of march and 10th of March is his birthday. We have an exam on 10th of march and as we belong to same group, we have all the same friends so I will definitely get to see him on his birthday
Should I still not wish him? Should I be a part of his birthday party cause’ he was the one who always made my birthday special. Won’t it hurt him if i don’t wish him? I don’t want to hurt him cause it can make things even worse. I’m in a dilemma right now, please help,what to do and what not to do cause it is really difficult to see him everyday and stop myself from wanting to talk to him.
Taylor
February 19, 2014 at 7:41 pm
I know I’m not Chris, but I would try NOT to hang around him on his birthday. I know it seems weird but not having you there will put you on his mind more than if you were there. If you do happen to run into him don’t talk to him unless he does first. Then casually tell him happy birthday but make sure it’s brief. If he looks at you don’t be afraid to smile quickly and look away! Sorry Ik I’m not Chris but I’ve read so much out of this website I can kinda get some situations. Hope this helped!
Kazzie
February 20, 2014 at 10:44 am
^ I know I’m not Chris either but I definitely agree… try what Taylor suggests its the way to go.
the stubborn guy.
February 26, 2014 at 12:11 pm
yeah I guess,you guys are right. I will surely not be the first one to wish him on his birthday.if I get to see him on his birthday then maybe i’ll wish him. I hope it works.
Taylor
February 18, 2014 at 12:22 am
Do you think I still have a chance even after he said he permenetaly done there’s no chance he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore? And do you think it’s a good idea to have my friend tell him I’m moving on to someone else or no? Thank you:)
admin
February 18, 2014 at 7:11 pm
Hahah permanently done… give me a break. I have seen too much to believe anyone when they say that.
JANE
March 9, 2014 at 4:56 pm
I recently break up with my boyfriend. He decides to let me go because we always fight this year. He was stress & tired by many things since he’s an active guy, also he got a big exam this year. We’re having a fight mainly because i didn’t listen to him. I’m the kind of girl who nice to everyone even guys. He’s the jealous type. I keep promising to take care of him and myself, but I didn’t take it seriously. Now that we’ve broke up, i finally realize that I should have take care of his heart, not hurting him instead. I was shock that he wanted a break up & I’m begging him to talk me back. He said he want the new/now me because I care for him more & that’s what he want. But he said he can’t take me back because he was afraid I would broke my promise & hurt him again. I begged him for 3 days & he said he was annoyed by it & don’t want to talk to me anymore. What should I do? Should I go with the no contact rule? I’m just afraid if i avoid him, he will assume I don’t want him anymore & he’ll think he should move on.
Jana
February 17, 2014 at 11:04 pm
Hi Chris, my boyfriend and I broke up a half year ago. We didn’t have any contact for a long time. It took me long to realize what I had lost and when I did I was scared he didn’t feel the same way.
But one day I had the courage to text him and everything went well. It seemed like he missed me too. But every time we wanted to meet up something came in our way.
And when I finally saw him it was at a party when I had a bit too much to drink. We talked a lot but then I told him about my undying love and started to cry in front of everybody. Everything got very akward after that. He stopped texting and now every time I see him it’s pretty akward and uncomfortable.
I don’t what to do or how to get back in touch with him…
admin
February 18, 2014 at 7:10 pm
Go into NC for a while. Let things settle down a bit.
MILANIA
February 17, 2014 at 9:13 pm
Chris, my ex & I broke up on bad terms. We got in a fight & he said he didn’t want to be with me anymore & acted like a jerk to me about it. I asked to work it out but he refused. He really hurt me so I got upset & I really told him off via text & said that he would never hear from me again. He never replied & blocked me on fb. It’s been over 30 days NC & he never contacted me. I would like to talk to him, but doesn’t it look crazy to randomly text him a friendly message after being so upset & telling him that I would never speak to him again? Lol, honest opinion please, i don’t want him to think I’m crazy, haha
admin
February 18, 2014 at 6:58 pm
Well, have you tried reaching out with a first contact text?
Paulina
February 17, 2014 at 8:42 pm
Hi!
I’m wondering, my NC period ends around the day my ex begins his new job. Is wishing him good luck a good idea for a first contact text?
admin
February 18, 2014 at 6:56 pm
Ya.. I think thats worth a try.
Andrea
February 17, 2014 at 7:00 pm
Hi Chris, my ex and I were together for 2 years and broke up since I had to move to another country. We had a lot of issues about not trusting each other and misunderstandings but basically distance was our biggest enemy while being together I never really had any problems with him we were a happy couple. A year has passed and he has seen other people and so am I nothing serious but for some reason he has never left my life completely he shows up with a text on birthdays, special dates etc. I had the NC for a month but I handled it badly because I did all the NO- NOs I was emotional, nagging, impatient, etc. However, we sat a date to see each other and in 23 days I am going to his country to see HIM! after a whole year and 2 months.. You have no idea how excited I am but he acts really cold and its very indifferent when it comes to the encounter he and he is always sending me mixed messages I think is because he knows he is in command. I know he must feel something after all who pays for a ticket to see a girl you have zero feelings about? I think I can win him back and after reading your steps I am a little bit more confidant. I just want to ask you a couple of things 1) How do I treat him until the day I see him? (do I let him do the texting, do I keep it casual, should I not contact him for a couple of days?)remeber I only have 23 days. You have been of so much help because you are right the approach should be gradual I wish I read you after my NC month :s maybe I can still fix things please help g2g im gonna run!! HE WILL SEE A HOTTER VERSION OF ME haha
admin
February 17, 2014 at 7:51 pm
Hahaha I love your spirit. I love it.
Andrea
February 17, 2014 at 8:22 pm
thank you!
can you please answer my questions?
Madison
February 17, 2014 at 12:43 am
Hi Chris,
So I’ve noticed that my story isn’t much different from others that I’ve read here. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. He was my best friend for 6 years before we started dating. Being that he was my best friend made the NC rule that much harder. I thought that even though we broke up maybe we can still be friends. But, we never just acted as friends, it was more like friends with relationship benefits. His reason for breaking up with me was that he isn’t happy with himself, and he can’t make me happy until he learns to make himself happy (which makes sense), but not sure how much of that was true. On Valentine’s Day I had just had about enough and told him that I could no longer be his friend because it just hurts too much. We had this somewhat deep conversation where he just thought things were getting too serious too fast and it scared him, and I’ll admit, it was my fault. Anywho, being that I told him that we can’t be friends any longer will NC help in getting him back? Is there anything else I should do? was telling him we ca’t be friends a dumb move?
admin
February 17, 2014 at 7:42 pm
I think it can help you out a lot yes.
Ashley
February 16, 2014 at 10:53 pm
Please help me. My ex of 4 months broke up with me. Things were great at first but then he completely changed towards me. We had been having some disagreements & he said he can’t deal with conflict & realized I’m not the one for him. He seemed very sure about his decision. I fought to try to work it out but it seemed to push him further away. He became really cold towards me & didn’t seem to care at all, his feelings just turned off. He didn’t even care that I was hurting. The relationship ended on a sour note with me hanging up & him unfriending me on facebook. I did NC for 30 days & never heard from him during NC. I sent him a casual text after NC wishing him a happy V-day and he didn’t reply. Seems he wants nothin to do with me. What should do I do now?
admin
February 17, 2014 at 7:40 pm
You should have sent him a compelling text message. Something that HE WOULD HAVE to respond to.
Mya
February 17, 2014 at 8:03 pm
Since he didn’t respond & it’s been a few days, should I try to send him a more compelling text?
Kazzie
February 20, 2014 at 10:58 am
Yeah the Happy V day message might have scared him a little after so long with NC. Chris talks about how your ex can sometimes be so excited about you contacting them again that the feelings are overwhelming and frightening for them. Try something still emotional but more about him not you. Spark an old favourite memory and throw in the ‘I always admired/ liked that about you’ line at the end. If you get a response try a quick ‘you just made me smile’ text with a g2g or TTYL Then go NC for a day at least before texting him again.
Confused...
February 16, 2014 at 9:48 pm
He broke up with me in November after a 6 month relationship, it was a complex breakup but he decided to go on holiday with another girl – when we were together. I told him it wasn’t acceptable, but he went anyway. He then came back, was nice for a day or two, then said he didnt feel the same as before he went away. He wanted some space but did say “we can try again in the future”… He then texted me a week or two later, telling me I lied too much, I was too immature and he wanted a more mature relationship, he said we spent too much time together and that it was a deal breaker…
I also happen to know, he was slated for going on holiday from the uni and they told him he had to focus on his studies, and when we were together neither of us did any work… So I do believe this was a huge contributing factor to the break up :/
He kept telling me he wanted to remain friends, as we had this bond and we became very much part of each others families. I was happy to do so, but i told him I needed time and space from him. He told me to contact him when I am ready. But I am just very confused about what is going on in his head at the moment. Its probably nothing, but i don’t know…
I found out he was then logging onto my Facebook last month, going through my messages and deleting my friends off there. He then told me he wasn’t doing it, and he wouldn’t lie to me. He was also commenting on my instagram with comments like “LOL THIS IS STUPID” when he was drunk over christmas, and posting photos with writing on about me, also when drunk…
We then deleted each other off all social media after he said he needs space – and so did my mum, but he re-added her?
He said he hadn’t even thought about me for the two months – which was a lie – he was logging on to my Facebook and going through everything I had on there…
We are at uni together, but he is in his third year – me my second. He isn’t supposed to be in uni as he is currently doing personal studies, but every single time I go in, i see him at some point…
The other day i was talking to someone about getting help with essays, he walked from the cafe, into the hall i was in. Waved and said hello to my friend, smiled at me. He then walked up the stairs, smiling and looking at me, and went to sit on the balcony above where i was discussing this extra help. He kept looking at me and smiling and listening to the conversation. I then left, and he got back up and went to the cafe to sit with his friends – I watched him do so.
I then saw him two days later when walking down the stairs, and he stopped and looked through the window – staring at me again.
I have mentioned it to my lecturers as it is making me very uncomfortable being at the uni – and they have told me he is very very confused at the minute and to give him time and he will stop…
I just want others opinions on why he is doing this weird behaviour? Someone said to me he isn’t over it and still has obvious feelings – but i disagree, i think he has no control over what I’m doing and needs to know…
Im just very very confused, I do still have feelings for him and I think I will probably always have these feelings, as he is my first real boyfriend and we did have a really nice relationship…
He also hasn’t spoken to me at all, just stares at me… I still have a few of his belongings and want to give it back to him – what would be the best way to do so? He wants to meet up and give it to each other?
I have done no contact since 3 weeks after the break up, only breaking it on the occasion he was speaking to me about Facebook… I would have instantly gone to no contact, but we had a holiday booked for a week after the break up that had to be sorted, so we had to be in contact for that period of time… What should I do now? And why is he behaving like this? :/
admin
February 17, 2014 at 7:39 pm
Do you have a text planned for after NC?
Blueandbroken
February 16, 2014 at 3:58 pm
I was in a serious, committed 6 year long relationship with my BF. We were very happy and did not fight very often. We started dating and after a few month he decided he wanted to go to college out of state. He asked me to join him, so I did. We lived together the first year and a half of our relationship. Then we both moved back home and I started school in our hometown and he went off to a university an hour and a half away. I was visiting him every weekend, 4 out of 7 days a week I was with him. This lasted 2 years. Then he graduated and I had also achieved my goal with school and acquired a license to do hair. He decided he wanted to go to a 2 year porfolio school in the city. I always supported his dream to become someone great because he truly was great at what he did and worked so hard for it. I thought we made it this far long distance we can do it again. So he starts school in the city and I stay in our hometown bc I got a great job. Later I quit that job and tell him I want to mo e closer to him and he talks me out of it bc I would be distracting. So I respect his desition. School was alway very very important to him and I thought I was too. So I move to another town. An hour and a half away from him. Same distance as before. I end up getting 2 great jobs there and for the first year of this it’s pretty good. We are both sooo busy do we start seeing each other less and less. I started to feel very alone in our relationship and I try to explain this to him but he was good at saying things to make me feel better but then never acting on any of it. He became so involved with school that there wasn’t much time for me. I would offer to come see him and he would get excited then when it would come time for me to head his way he would get all stressed bc he had a million things to do for school and I would make it harder for him to accomplish those things if I was there. So most of the time I would say never mind I dont want to stress you out. The last year was the hardest. We had a plan we were working toward and plans to get married after he finished. He took a job on the other side of the country and we were so excited! But I couldn’t shake the feeling of distance between us. We were still very much in love but I was not happy with our relationship. I had spent so much time alone in it. I had an emotional brake down and broke up with him a few weeks before he finished school. It was very sad for both of us but I couldn’t get him to understand how lonely I had been feeling, he would say he cared but I didn’t feel it. So then about 3 weeks without talking he calls me and tells me he is getting engaged to someone. I was beyond devastated. I could not believe it. I thought we had such a strong connection and such deep love for each other. I thought we just needed some time apart to remember how much we loved each other. But he proposed to someone else instead. I am 100% sure he never cheated. But the pain from our brake up drove him to the arms of someone else. They had been in school together for a year. I thought it was just a rebound thing and he would come to his senses but he hasn’t. It’s been 3 months now and he claims to love her. He says he loves me, cares about me he’s sorry he hurt me but we have to live with our choices.( he’s very dramatic) I told him I wanted him back, I never wanted to lose him, but he won’t take me back. No one cheated or lied and we don’t hate each other. We had a wonderful loving relationship but when I needed him he wasn’t there bc school was so important, it became more important than me. I told him I would get in a car and drive to the other side ofthe country to be with him, I would fight for us bc we were worth it. He told me no he moved on he loves her and I should move on too. But I don’t believe him. 6 years together so in love and as soon as things get hard he bails and find something else in a matter of weeks and not only that but he’s engaged to her. It’s like he just replaced me. Bought her a ring with the money he saved to buy my ring and proposed to her the same night he planned to propose to me. It is so heartbreaking I can hardly live my life right now. I still love him and I think he is being stubborn and dramatic. I don’t know what to do. If I should keep hope for us like I want to or if he’s seriously in love with her then I will do my best to deal and move on. I don’t want to though. I want him back. His family always supports him and everything he does do they are supporting this, hesitantly. I am very close with them and they tell me he’s happy and seems to really love her. They are supportive of me too and want us both to be happy. Sometimes I think they are in denile about this too. But how can you be so in live with someone for 6 years then get engaged 3 weeks after a breakup. This other girl was his support from our breakup she was there for him when he was sad about me. She is also very young. She was 20 when he proposed and turn 21 a few weeks later. He is 27. I am 26. I think her age is why she was so quick to say yes to a broken hearted man. She has no idea. She also contacted me via FB and acted as tho she knew me and all about our 6 year long relationship. It was very irritating but I ignored it. But from her message I gathered just how insecure she was and immature. I was in fact this mans first love. I still think we can fix this and be happy together, I still love him very much and think he is just ignoring the true feeling about me. At least I hope. What do I do? He lives in California now for the next few months. I’m in Ga I don’t know how to go about seeing him. His new girl live here in Ga too so she will be by his side all the time when he comes back. I’m at a loss. I keep thinking it all over in my head trying to figure out how to go about all this. I just want to get him back in my life. I miss him so much.
Leanne
February 16, 2014 at 7:31 pm
Dear Blueandbroken, I just want you to know I am in the exact same position, 6 years too, my guy within weeks moved in a European half his age to his home. Devastated too. It makes you feel you were nothing. I wish you peace of mind x
Bre
February 16, 2014 at 9:32 am
Chris i just looked at my ex’s twitter and found out he already has a new gf i will be moving on to your “how to get over your ex” article rebound or not i will not put in anymore i’m killing myself trying to be with someone who doesn’t care about me at all.. Good riddance to him i am gonna start a year long relationship w/ myself! Remember ladies LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!
admin
February 16, 2014 at 6:29 pm
Well, I love the attitude. Good luck on getting over him.
Beth
February 16, 2014 at 9:24 am
Hi Chris,
Can you please help?
I’ve been seeing a guy for 5 months. I have a little boy and so does he, his is only 10 months old now though. He assured me he didn’t want to get back with his ex as he saw her as a friend, and felt like this for a long time during their relationship which I believe. However just before new year he went cold on me and was being off, his ex had found out about us and kicked off, even stopped him seeing his son for a day, it was clear he was quite down about it all. On New Year’s Eve he sent me a long txt saying he had been thinking about things for a while and didn’t want to bring me down with him, I rang him and asked to meet up, I said I wasn’t going to try an change his mind just wanted to chat to him, we actually had a lovely day and he was kissing me like normal, anyway I said I best get home and before getting out of his car he said he was going to txt me so I said not to bother because he had just dumped me and he seemed upset by this and said ‘don’t say it like that’ anyway I left and he txt me 11 times one after another before I replied, he continued txting and calling me gorgeous etc, we didn’t see each other for 4 days but were still in contact, I eventually asked him if he wanted to go for coffee and he said yes as rang me, we went for coffee and he kissed me like normal? Things then slowly developed again an we met up abit more, things then went back to normal but I wasn’t on fbook (I deleted it after new year) so no one knew we were meeting up. It was all nice and he even started coming over for dinner etc but he wouldn’t stay over? The last two/three weeks he has distanced himself from me again, this has really upset me taking all my time and energy thinking about it. We were due to go to a spa day later this week which I have been really looking forward to as it was my cmas present from him. When I rung him he was taking longer to answer and seemed off with me? But when I met up with him we got on really well as usual, he basically made me feel like when I wasn’t with him he had forgotten about me but when I was we get on so well, have fun and are really attracted to each other? It’s so confusing! In the end I wanted to hang it out till the spa day and have a really nice time then chat to him in the evening about it but I couldn’t wait that long, I’ve been crying over him for the last two weeks (not that he knows this!) and I’m very good at not txting much etc but I txt him yesterday saying I think we should give the spa a miss although I’ve even really looking forward to it and spending time with him I don’t think it’s what he wants after the past couple of weeks it took him 5 hours to reply which is unusual for him and he just said he understands and wants me to be happy, so I replied no worries I hope u find someone who makes u happy and then I paniced and tried ringing him twice, but he didn’t answer, I didn’t leave a message…luckily!! Later last night he txt asking if I was ok which I ignored he then txt again saying he hoped I was because he cares, again I ignored it. He didn’t even get me a vday card!! Do u think there is any hope? Things need to change, I spoke to him about why he finished things at new year and he said he didn’t realise how upset his ex would b she must still love him although he doesn’t love her he felt bad? I’m in love with him but haven’t told him this, didn’t want to freak him out. I went back on fbook last night and was writing things with my friend about the funny day we had yesterday and then to my other friend about a fun weekend away we have just booked, he never writes anything on his fbook just uses to get the gossip but I went to click on him and he has blocked me and my friend? He was always worried she would write on his wall about me and him coz his ex would get really upset by it and he needs to keep her happy because they have a child together which I understand, I think I have been too available to him because I have a child aswell so am usually home if he wants to come over although I am fortunate to get out with my friends abit, can I get him back? I’m going to ignore him today if I hear from him like I did last night, if I don’t hear from him today that will be the first day in 5 months. I don’t know what to do I feel quote confused Asti why he went cold on me and it’s a horrible way to kind I. Finish things if that’s what he was doing? Makes me wonder if there’s someone else? Tho I think this but then he’s either sat at home or working so don’t think there can be? So confused, is that because he’s confused? Agghhhh nightmare, sorry for the essay, thanks Chris!
admin
February 16, 2014 at 6:28 pm
No problem.
The facebook thing he may not be writing but I bet you he logs on and checks up on you.
SAM
February 16, 2014 at 3:38 am
Hi Chriss,
My boyfriend broke up with me on my birthday (I know what you’re thinking about, I know) because I spent it with my friends and he was expecting me to spend it with him, but since our relationship was too bad these days and we were barely talking to each other, I went out with my friends. And actually that’s not the only reason, he always felt that I wasen’t really into him, and that I don’t care about him as much as he cares about me. I admit that I made a mistake by not showing him my feelings and everything, but in the other hand he used to go out a lot with girls, which always made me so jealous even though he tells me all the time that they’re just friends and there’s nothing to worry about. Anyways, I just met him on valentines day after 40 days that we haven’t seen each other, and we actually made a lot of eye contact, we didn’t speak so much, but we talk a lot on whatsapp and he tells me that he wants to talk to me even if I think that he doesen’t want to and he wants to hang out with me ect. I think the break up was a rash decision, I love him and I know he loved me so much. Do you think I should go out with him? Do you think we’ll get back together? Thanks a lot 🙂
admin
February 16, 2014 at 6:16 pm
OUCH on your birthday??
Abby
February 16, 2014 at 3:03 am
Hi.
So my ex and I were together for 6 months and they were amazing, we had been friends for a while and then it turned into something more. We were both each others first everything. We had a great relationship, we always had fun together no matter what we were doing, we hardly ever argued and if we did it was over really stupid stuff. We just had a really good relationship and then something just happened and we became distant. We’ve been broken up for 5 months now and we’ve talked on and off, he’s talked to other girls but nothing ever lasts long and every time he stops talking to them he’ll text me. I don’t know what it is but I just feel like this isn’t it for us, that there’s more to it. I would love to know how to get him back, any advice would be much appreciated.
admin
February 16, 2014 at 6:16 pm
Well, obviously the first step is NC.
Abby
March 24, 2014 at 11:10 pm
My NC ended a few days ago and I’m really nervous to text my ex. I don’t really know what to say and I’m scared he won’t text me back. Any advice on what to say?
NL
February 15, 2014 at 6:33 pm
i broke up with my boyfriend in nov because he reneged on his word that he would be buying me a ring. we were together for over 5 years and it was only shortly after the incident when he finally confessed that he had commitment and abandonment issues and was asking me how we should move on. i told him i was getting on with my life without him. there has been no contact between us since then.
we are not exactly young anymore. i have never been married and he is twice divorced.
now i miss him very much and contemplating if i should get in touch with him. is there still hope that he could snap out of his issues?
admin
February 16, 2014 at 6:11 pm
What is your ages?
nl
February 24, 2014 at 4:02 am
I am 50 and he is 49.