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Eileen
March 9, 2014 at 10:12 pm
I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago…it was actually the third time that I had broken it off with him. We have been together for 4 years but he is still separated (just started divorce process). They still live in the same house and you can imagine how this has caused problems for us. I love him deeply but the stress of this relationship is what has caused all of the breakups. I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt about him and that I know he is the one for me. I got no response to the letter so I went to see him a week later.We talked and he said he was hesitant to get back with me but that he had been thinking about calling me. I told him that I did not want to pressure him into anything and he said that we can maybe take it slow. We went to a winery that weekend and had a nice time. He texts me but not every day. Its been 2 weeks since I have seen him. I texted him yesterday to see if he wanted to take a walk. He said sure and we made plans to meet at 3. At 2:45 he texted me and said that he couldnt make it and that he would call me later. I havent received a phone call from him and no texts since then. I dont really know what to do…I am completely confused. How do I get him back?
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:49 pm
Wait… is he still currently married to his wife?
Cushla
March 9, 2014 at 9:16 pm
So me and my ex broke up a year ago. We have kept in contact, he went overseas not long after I broke up with him. We didn’t talk to each other much but were still friends and eventually could talk to each other in a civil manner. I got together with another guy not long after I left my ex and I soon realised that he was not for me I had made a huge mistake leaving my ex and that I wanted to try and get back with him. We were together for 7years before I broke it off, so as you can imagine it was quite an emotonal break up. Anyway I made contact with my ex while he was still overseas telling him how I missed what we had and when he came home whehter he thought we could give it another go. He replied that he missed what we had alos and that he was keen to meet up when he got home later that year and see how thngs worked out. He got home in November last year and when we finally meet up it went ok but was very breif i guess we were botha bit nervous. After that he said I looked good and wanted to meet up again for a drink sometime. Some time passed and we still txt each other but we did not meet up again for awhile as he seemed to always have things on and likewise me and I didn’t want to seem desperate. Then Christmas passed and New Year and we had still not seen each other again. So i started to suggest meetin up again he seemed keen but not as much as he had been before, but he agreed to meet up with our dog that we had together when we were a ciuple but I left with my ex. So we finally met up again the other day and it felt abit awkward i guess because we had not seen each other for awhile, we still talked and had a general converstaion then we went our seperate ways. I then txt him asking what he thought about gving it another go still and he replied with that he wasn’t sure if he could do it again. He said sometimes he wishes it could go back to the way things were but then he thinks he can’t do it as he dosen’t want it to fail again. He also said he has made more new friends (girls, to this i asked have you found someone else but he replied no just friends. So I am really not sure what to do from here, I really want to give it another go and I have made this clear to him, I have told him we were together for 7years for a reason, I siad I miss the good times we had together and all the things we used to go and do. I miss seeing our dog etc etc. He still says he dosen’t know if he can, he has never said an out right no to me so I am really unsure whether to keep pursuing him or to just leave it now? He still enciates messgaes to me and says he wants to keep in contact so I am really confused! I know I left him and it wasn’t the best break up but we have come along way and I feel we should at least try and see if it will work again. I have a gut feeling that it will I want to start a fresh with him, we both know what made our realtionship not work and what did and I think the time apart in a way may have been the best thing for use to realise what we really want in life and to go out meet new people and live a little more i guess for a while. Please help me I do not know what my next step should be.
Carolina
March 9, 2014 at 9:09 pm
I was dating this guy for 2 months I really thought he was the one and he thought I was the one in fact he told me I was the one and said I love you several times. We both knew it was soon but we just figured “when you know, you know.” We always had great times together. After about a month and a half he started pulling away and one day I finally asked him if everything was ok and he said with tears on his eyes that he didn’t know what was wrong with him because he didn’t feel the same anymore. He said that maybe he wasn’t used to having a girlfriend around because he had been single for 6 years but he just didn’t know because I was everything I wanted and he didn’t want to hurt me. My feelings have actually grown for him and I miss him so much. I haven’t contacted him at all since the breakup and it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I just don’t know what to do.
mona
March 9, 2014 at 7:44 pm
hello…my relationship with my long distance boyfriend has not been going on very well because he is always busy and hardly has time to write me and video call me. i’ve been nagging and complaining about that. in our last conversation i acted like crazy and i was shocked when i came to know that he copy pasted our conversation to show his sister. now everybody thinks that i am crazy. he even told his sister to tell me that evrything is over. should i forgive him for this cheap act and try to get him? will n/c work?
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm
Have you read my long distance relationship guide yet?
Larae
March 21, 2014 at 11:28 pm
I need help plz help me my gf cheated on me wat do I do I’m nothing without her
jemma
March 9, 2014 at 7:10 pm
Hiya,
I wrote on this page a few months back after breaking up with my ex after 2 and a half years of being together. He basically ended it with me and 6 weeks later was with someone else but was still sleeping with me at the start of their relationship, cut a long story short we cut contact after I told the new girlfriend but they stayed together and moved in to a flat together. We didn’t speak since the start of December and I was ok, moving on, then recently I’ve been really really missing him. The other night he randomly out of the blue without talking to me in 3 and a half months turns up at my house late at night after it all kicked off down a pub and he got beaten up AND his gf told him she cheated on him.. along with his new gf punching him like 6 times and when he was driving, shes the ultimate skank. He turned up, he had lost 3 and a half stone in weight, he looked so ill. He explained to me he hasn’t been happy in months, shes made him so ill, shes a nutter, she left him passed out at a bus stop when he was rushed into hospital, didn’t go up to see him, she just got on the bus and went home when he was put on a drip in the hospital. Basically she’s made his life awful the past few months but he can’t leave because he does love her and they have a lease on the flat until July. He has to have an operation soon, it’s scaring me. I cried my eyes out seeing the weight he’s lost, she has literally ruined him. He wants out but can’t because of the flat. I want him back and he knows that, but he told me today he’s giving her the benefit of the doubt and sticking it out till the lease is up and seeing if she changes. She’s made him so ill and its scary because I can’t do anything about it. He stayed at my house the night he got beaten up and we ended up sleeping together.. I feel like I’m back at square one and we have just broken up again, I want him back but he’d told me to leave him to make his own choices and I can’t contact him. He says he still loves me and will always have something for me, I’m so down
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm
Are you in NC yet?
Elle
March 9, 2014 at 6:55 pm
Hey Chris,
It’s me again (I’m relentless, I know).
I successfully completed a month of no contact with my boyfriend of a year. In that 30 days, I decided to make a trip home to TX to get back on track with myself and to see my family and friends and I am still currently out of town. I’ve taken this time to review my relationship over and over again and I now see it from a rational place instead of an emotional one, even though I’ve never been able to find the anger or change of heart throughout this time.
Most recently I began reaching out via text and have kept things casual, nonchalant, and indifferent to not make him feel pressured to talk to me and I have to say, I was very pleased when I immediately heard back from him. His response times to my communications are extremely short, and I often wait some time to text back in order to organize my next move. With his responses very quick, though not very long I’ve noticed that he is however slowly sharing more information with me at my inquiry though nothing of note to our relationship with the exception of a text when he said “Things are different without you here”. Unsure of whether or not “different” was a good or a bad thing, I let it go and said I simply missed talking to him.
Despite the fact that I am usually the one to initiate contact, I am wondering if the content of his responses and short response times are a sign that he still shares interest in what we had together or if he is just trying to be cordial with me. I am also wondering when to start incorporating the much needed questions I have about our failed relationship. Is there a proper timeline for that sort of thing?
An unfortunate factor I face is that he relocates for work in about a month, so my pursuits will then be long distance. I’ve read your article about that though and I feel that I am able and willing to handle it, it’s just sad and unfortunate that I’m running out of time to coordinate a “meet up” with him as well as the aspect of being patient and taking my time. In fact, it’s adding to my anxiety in the situation.
As a result, my feelings for him haven’t changed and sadly he is not fading from my heart or my memory. From where you stand with this information, do you think I have reasons to keep pursuing this or is it in my best interest to now put my efforts into getting over it, and him?
As always, I value your guidance in this… Please let me know what your thoughts are!
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:44 pm
Relentless is good sometimes 😉
Hmm… question. If he were going to move would you be willing to visit him? Sorry, I mean when he moves would you be willing to visit him?
Elle
March 11, 2014 at 4:00 pm
Thanks for your reply Chris (and letting me know that relentless can be a good thing haha!
In answer to your question, yes- I would be very willing to visit and before the breakup it was my intention to move there right along with him.
A recent development: We talked the other day through text. He said that he will always love me and that I am the love of his life but we just “aren’t right for each other”.
In guy language what does that translate into? I can’t seem to crack his code with that…
As always, thanks for the guidance!
admin
March 11, 2014 at 4:54 pm
Thats essentially the same thing as saying..
“I can’t be with you… right now.”
Be careful with that b/c he may try to use you in the future.
Elle
March 11, 2014 at 6:34 pm
By “use”, you mean the odds of him coming back and repeating the same old routine are high, and a requirement of that is for me to wait it out for how ever long it takes him to get it together? Am I reading into that correctly?
I was never opposed to waiting because I love him (obviously) but from what I’m gathering here is that his intentions with me have changed and I should be weary in the near future with him… Is that correct?
Savana Henry
March 9, 2014 at 3:17 pm
Myex boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half. He broke up with me over the phone. We faught alot and i wrote him a letter tellig him everything i didnt like him doing to me and it sounded like a breakup letter. I tried to explain but he couldnt emotionaly another break up. I beged him to ive me another chance a month ago and he did and it turned to shit. Now he is convinced that it will happen again and we will be at square one. What can i do to show/convince him things will be different?
Jess
March 8, 2014 at 11:36 pm
My boyfriend and I had been together for a year and a half. During the last month or two, we had two big fights. We broke up two days ago and I can honestly say it was mutual.
A little background info: We are both in college and go to schools 6 hours away from each other. He is a year older than I am and we did long distance all last year while he was at school. We see each other during summer and winter breaks and we have also visited each other.
The reason we broke up was because he got really busy with his school work which I understood. However, he would go hours without texting me while he was studying and whenever we did talk, it was about how horrible his day was or anything else that had to do with . I felt like he was putting me on the back burner and expecting me to be there for him whenever he was ready and it was convenient for him. I have always supported him but I felt like he wasn’t being a good boyfriend to me anymore. In the last two weeks of our relationship, neither of us were happy and we were fighting often. We decided to break up but the decision didn’t come easily, neither of us wanted to do it but he didn’t want to hurt me anymore and I didn’t want to be sad anymore.
After we broke up I realized how petty our problems were and regretted making the rash decision to break up. I obviously really want to text him to see how he is feeling about the break up but I guess I’ll try the no contact and all the other steps. My question is that when I get to the last step when I call to casually meet up, it will be difficult to do that because we live so far away from each other. However the 30 days will be up when I go home for my spring break and then I will only be an hour from him. Should I still suggest meeting up or will it look like I’m trying too hard because I’ll have to travel an hour for this “casual” meetup?
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:28 pm
Do you think the distance was hurting you guys? Going to schools 6 hours apart?
Jess
March 11, 2014 at 2:40 am
I think it was definitely taking a toll on our relationship but I think the biggest problem was that towards the end of it, I started kind of nagging him because he wasn’t talking to me as much as usual. He asked me to give him time to learn how to balance all his school work and his friends and me and rather than doing that, I flipped out and basically pushed him to break up with me. He said he thought either way he would be hurting me and it just ended. I realize now that I should have been patient with him but I feel like it’s too late. What can I do?
Also today he watched my snapchat story and I was wearing the necklace he gave me for my birthday.. what do you think he is thinking?
Amy
March 8, 2014 at 11:31 pm
Hi,
Wonderful site and great advice!
I’ve read through your site and scenarios but couldn’t find any tips on how to deal with my situation.
My ex and I were not together since last summer but had some distant contact via Facebook and the odd message. We ended up meeting at a Christmas party and he mentioned to text him. I did but the game started of him answering, and then not answering and so forth. It got to the point where I asked point blank if we were going to be friends or try a relationship again but no answer.
At another Christmas party I had a friend text him and the next day, I received a very angry text in which he told me to find another guy and that he didn’t want a relationship and that he would never answer my texts. A couple of days later, I wished him “Merry Christmas” and he wrote the same back. A week later, I sent another text about him being indecisive and not able to make his own decisions and the “why” question (in a previous text, he wrote about asking his friend for advice because he did not know what to do himself). I received another angry text, again, find another guy, not respecting me, didn’t want a relationship, to stop texting, not normal how much I text etc.
So I stopped all contact…no Happy New Year, nothing (before finding your website). I worked in a restaurant/pub and never saw him or his friends there before. Suddenly, since the first week of January, my ex and his friends come in once a week, a certain shift that I always work. The second week he tried to get my attention by making eye contact and then smiled at me. Weeks later, I received a voice message from my ex that was about eight seconds and only could hear background noise. I never acknowledged this. I am friends with one of his co-workers and my friend said to me that he asked if I was still working at my job. On two occasions, his friend (whom he asked for advice) looked at me also. Two weeks ago, I got frustrated (because he wasn’t initiating anything) and sent him an angry text, telling him to stop coming in and to delete my number, that it wasn’t normal to show up at my job every week etc.(I acknowledged the voicemail). I don’t know if he came in the week after that text, but the two weeks after, he came in again. I am no longer at this job now, not because of my ex but because of management. I don’t know if he knows or not.
Who makes the first move? Is it him because of the type of text he sent? I used to respond to his texts all the time, immediately and sent many desperate texts of trying to get back together with him but since his angry text in December, I have not texted aside from the angry text of “stop coming in.” My ex is very patient and stubborn and I know that he is not as confident as before when we were together and my friend (his co-worker) also noted this. Should it be him or me to initiate? The only reason I don’t text is because of a) what he said in his text and b)i’m afraid of the game playing starting again…answering, then not answering.
Thanks 🙂
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:28 pm
I actually have no problem with the girl initiating… Sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands.
Amy
March 11, 2014 at 12:53 am
Thanks Chris! I wish you well with your site, you have many good articles 🙂
admin
March 11, 2014 at 4:46 pm
Thank you Amy!!
Amy
March 11, 2014 at 11:51 pm
Hi Chris,
Me again 🙂 Just a few more questions. Based on your articles, I am sure I can answer this question myself :)) But I just want to make sure that i’m not reading into things that aren’t there. During NC (and a bit before) I’ve managed to straighten out my life A LOT (180 degrees) so I have a clearer mind but want to make sure this is not some strange coincidence.
Based on what I have written previously, am I correct in thinking that he is still interested? (just doesn’t know how to approach?)
In the summer (last), we had gone on a short trip and he had not posted any photos on Facebook. I don’t have Facebook but found out that five months later (we weren’t together during this time) he posted about six photos of the trip (not of us, but sites, cars etc.). I know that he had gone on some small trips with friends after we broke up and those pictures are not posted, just our trip. His cover photo is one of the pictures of our trip and his profile picture of him I took, which still remains up.
Is that another indicator of interest? Or, he just really likes his pictures? (lol 😉
Many thanks 🙂
Amy
March 17, 2014 at 9:18 pm
Hi Chris 🙂 Me one more time 😉
I’ve read my previous post and can answer my questions (answers are pretty obvious…). I read your post about “taking matters into your own hands.” I’ve also read your guides several times.
However, I have not contacted my ex for a few reasons. Because of the text I sent with “stop showing up to my work,” I asked a friend to tell him that I said ‘hi” to show that I am not angry and what have you.
The reason that I haven’t texted my ex yet is because as mentioned previously, I am leary that the game playing (I call it “tennis game”) will start happening again and the whole situation will occur again. I have been in “no contact” for 60 days straight (finally broken with the “stop showing up to my work” text and most recently, the friend saying “hi”). I feel almost like I am in a staring contest…on my end, who will break first 😉 I have a very strong mind in general and so after 60+ days of NC, my mind is even stronger :)) So I think, why should I have to initiate contact? He was the one who told me to find another guy etc. etc. But I also understand things said out of anger and such. Even though I have made a 180 degree turn, this is still like a weight at the back of my mind and I really would like it to be done, have something resolved 🙂 But I also wonder, if I start initiating contact, when we have a fight over something…is he going to wait for me to text or to “break” and come back? After all, after 60+ days, I finally “broke” and texted. So, that is also another reason of me not texting.
I found out recently by a source that he is now going to be going away for a couple of months (in about three months). So, of course…I wonder: how much longer is this going to go on?
So those are my reasons for not texting. Is there another route or suggestion that you can make or advice that you can give? Can I send an accidental text…an accidental phone call? Is there something else that I can do. I feel that if I text, and he doesn’t respond or game playing starts again, those 60+ days of NC were a waste.
Thanks again 🙂
Amy
March 22, 2014 at 9:24 pm
Alright, I went ahead and decided to just send a text carefully following your example of first text after NC.
I know this could take some time. I can see my ex not sending a text for awhile to not look desperate. I can also see him not texting for some time to test me to see if I am still the same “text terrorist” 😛
However, in worst case scenario, let’s say I wait a week or two and still no text, is it still appropriate to send another? If so, that second text should still follow your first example or can I move onto the second example? I don’t want to be that “text gnat” …it’s a bit crazy, looking back!
Amy
April 2, 2014 at 5:51 pm
Hi Chris,
Please read above posts for situation.
Interesting twist – my ex is engaged now.
I found out by a mutual friend who found out yesterday he was engaged. I mentioned about my ex going away back to his country (France) and he is going back to get married in June and bringing her back to Toronto (here).
His fiancé is an old girlfriend, here are some things to keep in mind:
He has not left Toronto in two years, he missed his own sister’s wedding back in August 2013 (which was in France) and this old girlfriend (his fiancé) is not his last girlfriend, it’s an old girlfriend from before even (from three years ago at least).
Obviously, he had not mentioned anything to me…even though he had openings and ample time to say something to me to get me off his back. He had not told anyone that he was seeing anyone or talking to anyone (everyone at his work would know…my friend who works with him knew nothing until yesterday). It was like we woke up one morning and “let’s get engaged.”
My friend said that they started talking again after my ex and I broke up, and now he wants to bring her here to Toronto after they get married.
I asked my friend if his confidence was back and my friend said that yes…it was like a fresh start. I can understand dating again as a fresh start but marriage…? When I was with my ex, he took marriage seriously. This is his first marriage.
What I don’t understand is :
-End of Dec. he sends me an angry text to find another guy etc.
-He comes into the bar I work in a week later, early January. Second week, he is trying to feel my energy, and when I look at him, he smiles at me (as though we were still together).
-The random, out of the blue phone call with voice mail.
-After the Christmas party in Nov. he tells me to text him
-In December, asking my friend if I was still working at my old job (to come in weeks later, every week).
-I’ve only texted twice in the last three months. First…was eight weeks ago to stop coming in etc. Second…was two weeks ago, about an old trip we went on and him liking photos (following your first text advice).
So I really need your advice on this.
Does this seem to you like a rebound because I didn’t text or email for the last three months like I used to? When he was coming into the bar, I wasn’t giving him the time of day because I didn’t want to seem desperate. Did I push it to far and he went to someone else?
This all seems very random, out of the blue…and not like him, considering it is someone who takes marriage seriously AND he hasn’t seen this girl for two years! Only way of communication is Skype…how do you base a marriage for life on Skype when you haven’t seen the person for two years? (and it’s not his last girlfriend). My ex once indicated that you could not (he believed) have friends online…and yet he is engaged and getting married through communication through Skype and no real contact for two years? This will be his first marriage and he is 30.
I just would like to understand what is going on?
admin
April 3, 2014 at 5:43 pm
Engaged… how long has he known her exactly?
Amy
April 5, 2014 at 4:54 am
I don’t know how long he has known her exactly…for two years at least since he has been in Canada.
Kristen
March 8, 2014 at 11:18 pm
So, me and my ex just broke up yesterday yeah just yesterday, we’ve been together for over a year (we have split up a couple times during the year but only for a couple weeks at a time) I feel like we are meant to be together, we laugh and smile. But, yes we have arguments. Mainly ones I start, okay I start them all I’ve noticed this past week. However, I state with him the past four months and everything seemed like it was normal, but I didn’t realize me nagging him and not accepting everything he does was a problem. I’m used to throwing fits and getting my way. He said though that the reason for our break up was that we are too different and we have no interests the same. I am about to have our baby in June. I just wanna healthy relationship with him and need advice on how to get him to see we are meant to be. What can I do?
admin
March 10, 2014 at 5:26 pm
That throwing fits thing is very unattractive…. If a girlfriend did that to me I would definitely begin losing interest in her.
You migh tneed to find a more mature way to “get your way.”
sandra
March 8, 2014 at 7:55 am
Me and my man broke up after almost 4 yrs. We been broke up almost 2 mths I admit I have had contact with him and still cook and am sexual with Jim can I start the no contact now and it work.
admin
March 8, 2014 at 7:20 pm
You should read my latest post… Seriously.
Hymn
March 8, 2014 at 2:46 am
So, my boyfriend of 3 and 1/2 years broke up with me today, and moved his belongings out of our apartment. He did not give me a straight reason for the breakup, nor did I ask him for one, mainly because I did not want to break down emotionally in front of him, although he did. He insists on being friends and maintaining contact, while I prefer to let emotions cool down before attempting to do so. My question is, I know he is a chronic rebounder, meaning every time a girl breaks up with him, he runs right to someone new, and sometimes sleeps with them the first night he hangs out with them. Knowing this about him, should I even bother using these tatics to win him back? Or is past behavior really a predicter of future behavior? Our relantionship was very loving, respectful, and fun. He is 32, by the way, and has said he doesnt know what he wants, whether with me, career, etc.
admin
March 8, 2014 at 7:15 pm
Did you have any idea that this was coming? Or was it out of the blue?
Hymn
March 9, 2014 at 4:10 am
i kind of had the feeling it was coming, his behavior had changed since the past November, i.e. staying out for drinks, not answering his phone when out for drinks with co-workers, he stopped saying “I love you”, stopped using terms of endearment, etc., basically doing a 180 on our homelife. However, I am guilty of not showing appreciation towards him, too. It freaked me out, but I was too unsure of how to approach his sudden change in behavior, so Im guilty of passively letting it happen. Could this be a control thing, as in he feels he has no control over other aspects of his life? Or a mid-life crisis?
Sweets
March 6, 2014 at 7:19 pm
My boyfriend of 5 months broke up with me 6 weeks ago out of the blue. We never argued & enjoyed time with each other immensely! Soulmates really, sharing the same vision for life. He was incredibly sweet & attentive to me as I to him. We were friends 2 years prior to dating. He came over one night & literally told me, “I care about you sooo much & like you so much, but I’m worried that my feelings won’t grow to be more than what they already are in the future.” That’s when I asked if he was breaking up with me. He hugged me, said i guess so and asked that I still attend his big bday bash we had been planning… We had postponed his bday party due to his grandfather dying on his bday. He was so sad. My heart broke for him. We buried his grandpa instead of move him out here. I feel his sadness & strength causes him to make a rash decision to end our awesome relationship. It’s been 3 weeks of my NCP. The first 3 weeks I attempted to contact him once a week. 1st week: I left a box of our photos & memories at his door. 2nd week: I left a letter in his mailbox of our incredible happy story as a couple. 3rd week: text messaged that I miss him & how it hurts to go from being on a pedestal to being non-existent to him. I got no responses from him, thus implementing the NC rule. 2 weeks ago, only 1 week in NC, I saw him out at the same bar & neither of us spoke to each other. It hurt that he didn’t even say hi. I looked great! I tan, go to the gym, got a great new hairstyle, bought new sexy clothes after losing 16 lbs since our breakup (I’m a size 5 again). I’m nervous to send the 1st contact text after he didn’t say hi to me in public. He was my best friend. We’re both still friendly with our exs so it confuses me why he can’t be the same with me…. Why am I different?
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:51 am
Size 5 woot woot!!!
You are different probably b/c he hasn’t felt feelings with his other exes like he has with you.
Sweets
March 7, 2014 at 9:18 pm
😉
I plan to send 1st text in a week. What should I do regarding his things he left at my house; ie: Xbox, movies, coffee, beer, cups, toothbrush, toiletries, etc? Did he leave these things mindlessly or intentionally?
admin
March 8, 2014 at 7:06 pm
Intentionally…. I mean, a mans XBOX is importnat.
carol
March 5, 2014 at 9:06 pm
hi. my ex broke up with me a month ago, he was very polite and calm , we date for a month only it was fast but i really cared(and still) about him, he said i wasnt the one, i accepted that he wanted to end and i walked away, i didn’t say anything , he said that he wanted to be my friend, and i agreed, we still talk to each other, he is very polie to me , before we breakup we had a few arguments silly things and we didn’t talk about it, i know he is a good person and i really like him i dont know what to do, because he is my friend i mean we still talking once in a while and we go to the same collage
another month pass and i started to losing weight and all thats stuff, i look better but that doesnt seem to work out, he still indiferent to me, he is really talkin to me as a friend, i send him a pay on valentines day, i send him a note with the pay it was a very short note and he said that he thought it was a love letter and that made me think he is confuse about what he feels and maybe he doesnt know what he wants, yesterday i did someting wrong, i send him a text messege on whatssaap i wrote: i miss you so much, he was very kind so i dont know what to do or not do, do i wait? i need help what should i do?…
sorry for my english im from mexico.
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:18 am
Mexico!!!
Sweet 🙂 welcome to the site.
Have you done anything to move forward on seeing him in person? Like have you built any type of attraction with him?
Jess
March 5, 2014 at 6:45 pm
Me and my boyfriend of two years broke up 2 weeks ago. It was perfect during our relationship we had too many nice memories. But during last month we argued a lot. He broke up with me with the excuse he fell out of love. I tried talking to him and i said ‘ don’t you remember anything that we did he said no i don’t move on. he pushes me away. He told my friend im annoying and he keeps hanging out with this girl all the time she told he that he told her he still likes me. I don’t believe her because he pushes me away. Its been 5 days since i started the nc. I saw him in town during the first day and he texted ‘hey was that you in town.’ I ignored him. I haven’t Hurd anything since. But today i was crying because him and this girl were touching each other and chasing each other and i was with an adult and he came up to me while i was away from him because i didn’t want him to see me weak. And he said are you okay nd i said ye family problems.he walked away. Did i break the nc? And does he like me? I think the nc is pushing him away to the other girl
admin
March 7, 2014 at 6:10 am
What do you mean chasing another girl? Like physically chasing her? Or chasing her like he wants to date her?
abha arora
March 4, 2014 at 1:46 pm
Hi Chris,
A month back i messaged you to ask about my boyfriend who broke up with me after two months of relationship. he was really serious about me and wanted to marry me. but then he asked for space and then he said he is confused whether he should marry or not.so we broke up and I tried to maintain no contact rule for a month, in the meanwhile he messaged me once…and after one month i messaged him the way you suggested in your post. he chat with me for 10 minutes but then he didnt extended the talk..then after four days when i saw him liking post of our common friend very often…..out of jealousy..i just ask if he is seeing her and he replied that get out of your insecurities..i wrote all this to you before also but on different site.. i dont remember where…and you suggested me to maintain no contact rule as he doesnt know what he wants… so i tried but i did one mistake that i unfriended him the day he blocked me on whtsapp after that jealousy thing happened. but he didnt come to know about that..and when i messaged him next time..he talked to me very normal and said that he will call me once i am back from the program which i was going for a week….i went for that program where i was not allowed to use phone..and during that period..on valentine day he checked my facebook profile and came to know that i unfriended him… when i came back on 19th and tried to message him…he replied but was very rude and said he doesnot want to talk to me because now i am stranger for him because i unfriended him…since then he is not talking to me…i tried my best to explain him that i unfriended him when he blocked me and apologized also but he is not ready to listen at all..he said i know your mood swings..he is thinking that during attending that program i unfriended him… even my friend tried to talk to him…but he is saying that he dont want to talk to me, its over and if he ever feels like talking to me than he will message me….i sent friend request again on 19th february…. he blocked me two days back…
i wrote a mail to explain him my side…and also mentioned in that mail that because he doesnt want to be in contact so this is last time i am communicating…..i dont know what to do…but i am not contacting him any more.. what do you think…what’s going on in his mind…will he ever try to contact me again..
Elle
March 4, 2014 at 4:21 am
My bf of 4 months just broke up with me stating that his feelings for me is no more than friendship. This came out of the blue considering we always had a great time together. We’ve been in contact the last 3 days but tonight I blocked him on Facebook totally. Do you think there is any chance? He claims he just knows he won’t view me as more than a friend, but the last 4 months have been very contradictory to that with him introducing me to all his family, friends and even booking an overseas holiday with me for in 6 months time….I’m so confused. It doesn’t seem right. Was blocking him on Facebook too harsh, should I start a NC or is there really no hope?
admin
March 4, 2014 at 6:54 pm
Wow, I am sorry about that. I think NC is appropriate yes.
Happy
March 3, 2014 at 9:40 pm
So far your advice has been great! I went on a date as you suggested and my ex kept asking me questions about my date and also about why i was ignoring him. Today i texted him about a good memory we shared and he said it made him smile too and he misses me but doesn’t want to talk about it, and that it was normal for him to miss me because our history was so long. Where do i go from here?
admin
March 4, 2014 at 3:24 am
Hahaha keep building that attraction. You also might want to read the updated version of this guide.
Elle
March 3, 2014 at 3:06 pm
My bf of 4 months just broke up with me stating that his feelings for me is no more than friendship. This came out of the blue considering we always had a great time together. We’ve been in contact the last 3 days but tonight I blocked him on Facebook totally. Do you think there is any chance? He claims he just knows he won’t view me as more than a friend, but the last 4 months have been very contradictory to that with him introducing me to all his family, friends and even booking an overseas holiday with me for in 6 months time….I’m so confused. It doesn’t seem right. Was blocking him on Facebook too harsh, should I start a NC or is there really no hope?
Elle
March 4, 2014 at 1:58 am
He says he keeps thinking about how I’m feeling….why would he care?
Cam
March 3, 2014 at 1:55 am
my ex boyfriend and I broke up not because he cheated on me…i had a mistake of breaking the NC contract but your book says to start from Day 1 so I did…but on the NC period, I saw pictures of my ex with a girl on it…they went out of town and the pictures were not casual…Do I still have a chance and shot at this if I follow your ebook…Im loosing hope already. I purchased te book so it would help me. Please do reply. Thanks.
admin
March 3, 2014 at 6:28 pm
You do! BUT I would also recommend reading my latest guide.
Cam
March 5, 2014 at 8:07 am
was trying to get the updated version but when i clicked to pay, the version 1 was the one being uploaded…i don’t understand why…i tried paying for the latest but the system gavee the older version.