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kitty
May 21, 2014 at 10:47 am
Hi chris,
as i read ur site there is rising a hope for me too thnx alot for the info.
me and my guy had been in a relationship for more than 2 years.in my case there is problem related to his friends and family. he thinks that i disrespect his friends and family members. He had been brought by his mom she is no more now and there are few family members exists i.e his grand mother who is also passed away in last month. now he is only having his mom’s two sisters and they are very selfish in his case but he always neglect all this and says that he has few relatives and he doesn’t want to loose them by telling them about their behavior. and so the relatives are using him. and the main problem is that he cnt make his own decisions about his future about anything. he always needs someone to advice him and so he come to any decisions. the main supporters are his friends to whom he value more than anything you can say more than me too. they are like life to him. so the problems starts here only. few days back i sent a msg to one of his friend who eventually overacted on that and this lead to a breakup.he thinks that i want him to leave his friends and family members for me.but that is not true. from the last conversation in front of my few close friends he said that he don’t want to continue this relationship anymore. but when we exchanged goodbye hugs i asked him whether its over? he said that he wants time at least a month and he will think after that Wat is to be done about this relationship. i love him like crazy and i am very much emotional when it comes to him. i keep on crying in every small fights and every harsh things he says to me. but now he consider me no where in his life and i want him back because there are some great qualities in him which i have not seen in any other men. now i am confused about his decision i cant seem to understand what should i do to make things perfect. currently i am on NC. its been 5-6 days now. i have tried talking to my friends and guys who likes me but i so not feel good about it. i jus keep thinking about him all the time. he is very emotional guy and consider his friends and family first. but neither of his friends and family member likes me. i even have said sorry to all of them but no one responded. please help me out. i would be waiting for your reply.
admin
May 21, 2014 at 4:13 pm
Why would he think that you are disrespectful to them?
June
May 20, 2014 at 9:33 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend and I technically broke up last June, but we were still working things out until end of last August. He met someone new around December and they became official in March / April. I know this because he told me. We used to still chat and text each other and talk on the phone. However, I made the huge mistake of begging for him to get back together with me. I sent him a “closure text” a few days ago and now I’ve entered into no contact. Do you think there’s still a chance for us? We were together for 3 years; we were high school sweethearts and first loves. He says he’s over me and doesn’t have any feelings for me anymore though. However, he WAS still texting me even though his new girlfriend didn’t like it, and when she gave him an ultimatum (either me or her) he chose her. But he also told me that he’d still text me behind her back. What do I do?
admin
May 21, 2014 at 2:28 pm
Let him text you behind her back 😉 .
Though I am not going to lie… if he does that means he really doesn’t care about his gf as much as you think. If he doesn’t text you that means he probably does.
June
May 21, 2014 at 3:25 pm
If he doesn’t try to contact me, should I just continue on with no contact? Or should I just be happy that he’s happy? I’m not sure what to do at this point.
admin
May 22, 2014 at 3:38 pm
Continue with NC no matter what until your period is done. Then you can contact him.
June
May 20, 2014 at 9:34 pm
I forgot to mention that we started in high school, then became long distance for two years in college.
Lilly
May 20, 2014 at 12:10 am
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. On and off. We started dating when we were 14! And now we are almost 19 and in college. He had been distant the last few weeks of the relationship. He told me he wanted to date other people and that he couldn’t just be with me his whole life and he wasn’t sure what he wanted out of life. Which I understand I just don’t understand how he can leave a 4 year relationship so easy. This is the fourth time he has left though and he has used this excuse before. He normally comes within about a month and a half. It has been 30 days since the breakup. He never tried to contact me. It’s the longest we have even gone without talking. I had never tried no contact before but decided to try it this time immediately after the break up. I sent him a text today that said something like I saw a movie last night that reminded me of you. How are you? He responded and said I’m doing good, how are you? I said I’m good too. It was nice to hear from you again. And that was it. He doesn’t seem that interested. One of his friends told me they just talked to him a couple days ago and he told the friend that he was still sure about the breakup but I guess I didn’t really expect him to say anything different than that to his friend. I don’t see how sending him more texts will make him interested again. And I’m too afraid to receive a negative response. Any advice?
admin
May 20, 2014 at 9:14 pm
The jump from high school to college proved to be too much for the relationship? Are you going to the same college?
Ella Mariel
May 18, 2014 at 2:03 am
Hello! The guy I’ve been exclusively dating broke up with me 4 days ago. We have been dating for about 4 mos now. His reason was that he did not have feelings for me anymore. Like a dumb girl, I begged him to stay that night and ended up agreeing to seeing each other 2 days later to talk more. However, the next morning, i told him that we did not have to see each other on Thursday and I saw the situation as to what it is. He responded that he thinks it would be best not to see each other and said our goodbyes. I want him back though. 1 week prior to the break up, I felt a disconnect but he would still consistently call and text, even when he was with his friends. He said that he has been feeling disconnected for a week and he was trying to make me feel that way. 1 month prior to the break up, he was intent on me seeing his parents and planning activities with me, with his friends that were visiting him. I took that as a good sign. I should add though that 2 weeks after that he also tried breaking up with me, but we talked and he said that our relationship had aspects that was worth saving. We were fine for a few weeks and then he broke up with me. I havent contacted him ever since my last text 4 days ago. I’m just so confused on what happened that, I wonder what went wrong.
admin
May 20, 2014 at 8:47 pm
Your best bet would have been to enter into NC immediately.
Blessed
May 16, 2014 at 7:31 pm
I cant seem to leave a comment.
admin
May 20, 2014 at 8:31 pm
Been away for a few days.
Blessed
May 16, 2014 at 7:30 pm
HI i have tried posting on here but it does not work, can someone tell me how i can post a question on here, thank you
Cherie
May 16, 2014 at 4:02 pm
Does this work if you were in a relationship in every way except no commitment for a year and a half? Because he has deep rooted commitment issues?
admin
May 20, 2014 at 8:30 pm
It can… but if I was you I would check out the more updated versions of these guides.
Allison
May 15, 2014 at 11:53 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend just broke it off with me on tuesday. We started dating last may, almost a year ago, it was love at first site. We both had passions in life, both very goofy and fun loving, and most importantly we wanted the same things in life, marriage kids and love. About 6 months in he had broke it off with me for about a week. He left because he felt that he would never be good enough for me. We got back together a week later and each of brought to the table things that we needed to work on. Before the brake up we were planning on moving in together, he was working so much on the house to prepare that I wasnt getting much from him. Cause a rift. After we got back together things were never truly the same as we never got back on track to moving in together again. He still lives at home and his mother is a big influence on his life. I have done my best to have the best relationship possible with her but I don’t seem to be good enough for her. The past couple months have been kind of rocky as he has not been communicating with me about where we are going and what he wants. I keep asking but he doesn’t say anything until he has had enough. This tuesday when he broke it off he said that he wants marriage and kids and a house and he is just isnt there yet and that my desire the have an education will result in me not wanting kids till later, which wasnt true. After that he lead into that he isnt happy and that he doesnt know who he is anymore that he hasnt been happy for the last 6months. I love him more than I ever thought I could love someone. I dont want this to end, he is the one for me. Help.
admin
May 20, 2014 at 5:55 pm
What caused the rift between you two? Could you give me more details?
Lori
May 15, 2014 at 11:12 pm
Hey Chris,
I’ve just recently had my boyfriend break up with me a week ago. We have been together for 6 months. He told me he needed to get his “old self” back and I was heartbroken because I thought everything was going fine. I made the mistake of telling him I wanted to talk to him and he shut me out and told me he did not want to talk to me anymore. As soon as we broke up, a couple days later he kissed many people and went on dates. He kissed a new girl and told her that he just wanted to be friends. Should I worry about her? I’m just recently starting to get over it and I read this article and I’m going to attempt it. I hope I can get him back, because I truly do love him. So thank you for posting this article, it is a big help!
admin
May 20, 2014 at 5:54 pm
Sounds like he is one of those guys that deal with breakups by going on the prowl for new women.
Kari
May 15, 2014 at 12:59 pm
Hi Chris,
My ex boyfriend & I were together for 10 months (with the exception of a week period when I had broken up with him & then asked for him back). Our situation is fairly unique (although I don’t care to get into it here), and he’s an egomaniac with quite a bit of baggage, but we were always smiling and laughing & rarely ever fought; in fact, our personalities complement each other nicely, and there’s a lot of chemistry there – both in the bedroom & out.
Anyway, he broke up with me over a month ago due, at it’s core, to that aforementioned “unique” situation, but after the no-contact period, in which I realized that I would be ok & that the situation was actually unhealthy for me, I find that HE’s pursuing ME, and rather blatantly. I’ve gotta admit that I’m enjoying being chased by him again, but I’m having trouble balancing being the ungettable girl – & actually letting him get me a little, if that makes any sense.
I suppose my question is this – Can I manipulate a prideful, egotistical man to the point where he would be willing to make changes in order to be with me? Especially if he’s so clearly still hung up on me to the point where he can’t seem to let me go despite what his clearly flawed logic dictates?
admin
May 15, 2014 at 2:27 pm
Well, you shouldn’t try to manipulate him… You should try to influence him.
Kari
May 15, 2014 at 10:34 pm
One might argue that this entire site is about manipulation, but the technical difference between “manipulation” & “influence” aside, that’s good to know. 😉
Natalie Grace
May 14, 2014 at 3:04 am
Okay I need serious help!First off,I’m bi.so yes this is about my ex gf.she thinks like a man tho.I’m 20 years old and she is 21 and we live together wil her family..About 3 months ago her sister started having 3 girls over for her sweet 16 dance practice.the oldest girl is 18 and her name is marth.after a month of practice,my gf said she wanted a break because she started to get feelings for Martha and she felt bad.Except its kind of hard trying to give her time and space when I live with her.That first month we were broken up,my gr would say mean things or flirt around with them and even stood me up once at the movies to hang with her. it was downright horrible.She would feel guilty about it and would try to apologize but I would push her away.It got so bad to the point where I would say some really mean things to her when we argued.the second month after our “breakup” she stopped trying to comfort me whenever she saw me cry.She would ALWAYS text Martha and would hang out with her all the time.Never once inviting me.One day,we were arguing and my gf said that she had lost feelings for me.That she didn’t want to be with me.She kept saying she loved and cared for me still,but that she just didnt want to be with me anymore.We would still “mess aroundm” but then right after she would go back to hanging with Martha.Ay this point I realized we weren’t getting back together so I decided I would go visit my mom in Michigan for 2 months and then move out.I told her Ididnt want to be friends aymore and I could tell she was really upset about that.I went so far as to beg on my knees cuz I wanted to get back with her.she just kept saying no and that she didn’t want to.be with me anymore and said “its not you its me.she even said she really hoped I would find someone.I guess my question is,do you think that while I’m off in Michigan she will realize her mistake?or isbit really over?btw we have been together for 4 and a half year.also,everyone thinks she’s just like this because of Martha.Martha doesn’t even like her but they do flirt a lot.We were totally fine before Martha came around.my “gf” said she had already been thinking bout breaking up but idk if I believe her.I really love her,and I know she loves me too.but now I’m mot so sure.she has cussed at me a few times.and I know I’m an idiot for wanting to male this work after.everything she has done to me,but I love her so much.help pleaseee!
admin
May 14, 2014 at 4:10 pm
Hmm… If you want a different perspective you should check out my site called Ex Girlfriend Recovery.
Natalie Grace
May 14, 2014 at 6:38 pm
No,I want your perspective.My ex has the mentality of a man.
Natalie Grace
May 14, 2014 at 3:40 am
Also,she did mention to her sister that she wanted a “sexy gf” I am a bit on the heavy side…so I could understand tht but she has always told me that she loves me the way I am.I decided that while I’m in Michigan that I will not contact her and have fun and focus on myself.for example I am going to dye my hair,get a tattoo and plan on getting fit.Her sister and family are very close to me so she will see me when I get back amd I want her to look at me and regret having done all this to me.But honestly,do you think she will want to get back with me.she keeps saying she doesn’t but there’s all these little things tht give me hope.for examhe admitted that she likes seeing me get jealous of her and Martha together.and she told me she said she would wdbtext me regardless if i wanted her to or not.and she says se still loves me.but at the same time she ekeeps flirtng away.and even told me last ht thadidn’t want to kiss me anymore and that I need to move one.she’s not the seame anymore.and I think its this Martha’s fault.btw dnt forget she thinks like a guy!just be honest tho,I can take the truth
caroline
May 13, 2014 at 1:10 pm
My boyfirnd of 8months and i had a slight argument just over 2 weeks ago because i told him i saw some of hes exes pictures on facebook. he completely ignored my calls and text messages after that and send me a text that he needs and wants to be on his own, a week later he sent me a text that he wanted me to meet up with him at a bar to meet up, i agreed intitally but later sent him a text that i cant make it that weekend nd that we could make it the following weekend since hes always busy during the week, he intially got angry and sent me a text that i should not bother about it as he knows i am not up to it, he later sent me a txt requesting when i will be available, i told him this coming friday and he agreed, he completely again ignored me for days after this and sent me a text this morning asking for some of his stuffs with me that if i could post it or bring them on friday, i suspect he want to break up with me on our meeting as this was how he called for a meeting to break up with his EX when they had an issue,
please what can i do in a case like this, i still want the relationship but i again dont want to force him to be with me
thanks
caroline
May 13, 2014 at 8:08 pm
hi chris,
i will like tio know if i should call him before then and try and talk on the phone or be patient with him rill friday as he hasnt even called every communication has been by text
thanks
Jenny
May 13, 2014 at 12:47 am
dear chris,
i am having a bit of relationship trouble.i got dumped by me ex about 3 months ago. i have been trying to get him back but everytime i give up and decide to move on he will make me think otherwise. our relationship feels like we are still dating we just dont have intamicy. all the people i have tried to seek helo from say they can never help me because its a complicated situation and i dont know what to do.
if i ever need his help he will do whatever i ask, he got angry when i didnt talk to him for two days, looks at me in the desired want me look, refuses to sleep with me which is odd because he has never turned down sex from a ex znd even his friends can’t understand his logic.
i just need some guidence as to keep trying or just move on?
thanks in advance
admin
May 13, 2014 at 4:56 pm
So, you havent tried the NC rule fully yet?
Jenny
May 14, 2014 at 6:30 am
no i havn’t yet everytime i do it just seems to make things worse.i asked him yesterday if he wanted to try us again and all he could say was i dont know because i dont know what i want.
Jenny
May 13, 2014 at 12:51 am
sorry forgot to add that the only reason we broke up is because he wanted to smoke weed and i don’t support drug use but i am slowlycoming to termswith his usage.
admin
May 13, 2014 at 4:53 pm
Ummm to be honest I think I would have a major problem if someone I dated did that…
Sydeny
May 12, 2014 at 4:24 pm
My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months before we decided we wanted to live together. We lived together for 6 months when things started to change. After weeks of asking what was wrong he finally came out and said that he was under a lot of stress (daughter, car, work, etc.). I didn’t know anything about this until he finally came clean with it. I wanted to try my best in helping/supporting him through this time but he instead pushed me away. He kept saying that he loved me and that his feelings towards me hadn’t changed but yet his actions would tell a different story. Still to this day I am not sure what went wrong and if in fact it was really his stress that caused this or if it was something I did or didn’t do.
admin
May 13, 2014 at 4:36 pm
It could be the stress of all of those things combined.
Casey
May 12, 2014 at 3:04 pm
I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago but now very much regret it–I love him and want him back. So last week, on Thursday, I sent him a text, asking if he would like to meet up sometime. (This was the first contact I’ve had with him since we broke up.) He responded “sure.” But when I asked when, he said that he has been busy with moving and didn’t have time this weekend, but should have time next week. I responded, “sounds good, just let me know when.” It is now Monday, and I haven’t heard from him since then. Do I try to contact him again? How do I proceed from here?
admin
May 13, 2014 at 4:36 pm
Why did you break up with him?
Gosia
May 12, 2014 at 1:57 pm
Hi,
My ex boyfriend broke up with me after 2,5 year. He wasn’t able to tell me the reasen and used a typical formula “It’s me not you…I don’t deserve you…we want something else…bla, bla, bla”. After breaking up we were in some contact, but it was quite strange. He had a lot of distance and it seemed that at the same time he wanted to be in contact with me and did not. Finally I’ve asked our colleague to meet with him and gently find out what’s going on. After they met she called me and told that he felt in love with someone else. I was really surpriesed because I’ve asked him if he is involved with some other women. He said “NO…nobody kisses like you…I miss talking to you, but we will not be together again..”. After discussion with our colleague I asked for a meeting, gave him a chance to admit that he is with someone. However, once again, he said that he is not seeing anyone else. Finally I told him that I know that he is meeting someone. He denied and I really got angry that he’s not honest with me. Finally he admited that he has a new girlfriend and is inlove. Said that he didn’t plan it, it just happened and after we broke up he was in pain and that girl new about it and the fact that we broke up (she’s his colleague from work). He also said that he didn’t tell me about this because he didn’t wanted to complecate everything and just wanted to let it go with us, but didn’t know how. We had a big fight and I told him that I don’t want to see him ever again. After this I’ve just tried to forget everything and move on with my life. I fund new interests, met new people and were pritty well. I didn’t contact with him for 6 months. He didn’t contact with me as well. Untill the moment when I saw him accidently. I found out at that moemnt that I need to be honest with myself and admit that I’m still inlove. So I wrote to him and proposed a meeting for a cafe. He texed me back that he would like to meet very much, but he doesn’t have time this week and will contact me next week wih a proposal. I wrote that next week I won’t have a time. I didn’t meane to discourage him but my text was quite dry, and in fact I was busy next week. Anyway I thought that if he wrote earlier that he will contact me, he will…but it was the end of our converstation. I just don’t know what to do and if I should I contact with him again with a concrete proposal?. I’m also afraid that it is too late to try to bring him back into my life again. Some advise would be more then welcome :). Sorry for my English but I’m not native!
Sarah
May 11, 2014 at 6:53 am
Hello, I’m a 16 year ord girl. My boyfriend broke up with me beacuse of a fight between the two of us. The fight wasn’t about something big and important it just happened. And we had some fights 2 weeks before out break up. I have liked him for about 3 years, since the day I met him… I would might say that I nagged him and I did’nt really appreciiated him so much in the end… He broke up with me and he was also very Sad and confused. We were togheter for a half year and had so many plans for this summer togheter… He was a good boyfriend and we allways had fun, most people have’nt seen the sides of him that I have seen… After the break up I had panic and did’nt wanna realaise the fact that he wasn’t My boyfriend. I texted and Called him constantly and he was so mean and Called me every name you can call a person. I just could’nt stop text him och talk about him and getting tips from all his friends… Right now he says that he hates me and that i don’t mean anything for him… I just want him back and all the good Times beacuse we allways had fun and respected each other. I drank to much alcohol and tried to smoke cigarettes at parties, i never did that type oh thing before.. At a party i Called him when I was drunk and he was also a bit drunk, i told him i loved him and i was scared he was going to be with another girl… But then me and a boy kissed eachother, it just happened. I Don’t have contact or anything with that boy.. He got to now everything and he hates that boy and slapped him in the face when he met him… Everything is to much i wish i would just shut my mouth when he broke up… We also go in the same class så It’s harder.. But I found your page and this is the only thing that makes me feel better and gives me hope.. I just started with the no contact rule, but should I just ignore him in school and not talk to him there either? I really miss him, he made me happy and i wish we would never fight.. The fight was’nt that big actually but the break up was a hesitate decisson, and I did’nt gave him time to think, i just made everything worse with My texts and calls… 🙁
admin
May 12, 2014 at 6:32 pm
Yup thats the definition of the NC rule after all.
Sarah
May 11, 2014 at 6:56 am
He says he hates me and that I Don’t mean anything to him anymore… I can’t stand this…
Tabitha
May 10, 2014 at 9:05 pm
Hey Chris!
I followed your advice on here and it worked! My long distance ex started talking to me again and we rekindled a friendship, plus flirting. I knew he was interested in me again. I was taking things as slow as I could, rebuilding the friendship and trust, letting him come to me as much as possible, and only texting him first occasionally. He became very attentive and I began to make plans to go stay with him for a week in June when I got vacation. It was then that I was going to see if we should pursue this as a relationship.
But then just as we were growing closer, he started to get interviewed for a new promotion at work. He ended up getting the job. It was a Thursday that he found out he got the job, and I hadn’t talked to him since that Monday (he had been sending me funny forwards, which was his usual way sometimes of getting me to talk to him, I didn’t text him hoping he would text me first).
I woke up Friday and went to work, and finally responded to his email by telling him he had the best emails and sending a funny of my own. He responded by forwarding another funny email, this time jokes about marriage (he was always telling me he needed a wife….he’s 43, btw).
That night I ended up going on a date…just trying to keep my good sense about me and not rely too heavily on him for attention. It was casual and friendly, and of course he text messages me in the middle of it, saying we need to talk. I had noticed earlier that day that he had deleted his singles account which he had still been regularly checking, and I was getting a weird feeling. When we finally got a chance to talk, he told me about his promotion and that he was moving and that I was his best friend. I told him he was mine too. Then he suddenly tells me he’s met a woman off the singles site 6 weeks ago that lives in the new town he is moving to (conveniently) and that it wasn’t fair to her or me if we keep talking. I said, If we are talking as friends, why do you want to stop? He didn’t have an answer for that. He denied having any feelings for me (ummmm….I’m not a mind reader, but the man DOES Have feelings for me), but told me that long distance is hard and he didn’t see how it was going to work out for us. I said, “I told you if I thought you were the right one for me, I would move there.” And he said, “You would sell your house, quit your job, and move here ?” And I said, “Yes. And I was planning to come out there for a week this summer to see if there was something there.”
It was such a long conversation. In the end, he basically told me he didn’t know what he wanted and that the distance was hard, but I was his best friend and he’s closer to me than he’s been with anyone since his ex-wife (which is HUGE, they were married for 18 years). I said a lot of stuff in haste because I was upset and mad. In the end, he has the NERVE TO TELL ME that he had slipped a card for my birthday in the mail THAT MORNING, the day he decides to quit talking to me. He asked me not to hate him, and I told him I didn’t.
That was it. I received the card 3 days later, and he had written, “Sent with love as always.” Inside was a funny card with $5 and saying to go buy myself a koolaid but he really wanted me to send him Rice Krispie treats in the mail like I’ve done in the past and that was the postage for it. Does this sound like a man who was planning on stopping communication?
I figured out that he was still a little tipsy during our conversation, and I think that might have contributed to his haste in decided to end communication. I sent him a CD I made him and some Rice Krispie Treats with a letter and apology for the things I said in hast e to him on the phone, and that I’m respecting his wishes and backing up to give him all the space he wants. I was pretty ugly to him on the phone, and I want his last memory of me to be positive.
So I guess I’ve said all that to ask you this: Is there a chance that the No Communication and the texting can work a second time later on?
Thank you!
admin
May 12, 2014 at 6:28 pm
Of course, I just think its less effective.
Tabitha
May 20, 2014 at 3:18 am
Hi I’m back! I can’t seem to post in the long distance ex section for some odd reason, so I figured I’d come back here to see if my comment would post!
I sent him the care package, with a CD I had burned for him, a batch of Rice Krispies, and a letter apologizing for some things I had said during our last phone conversation. Two and a half weeks later (yesterday) he sends me a text and says he JUST got the care package (Hmmmm….he lives in an apartment complex and I don’t think their mail office is open on Sundays, but whatever), and thanks me profusely for everything, sends me a huge long text telling me he thinks I’m so sweet and that he’s glad there are no hard feelings, that I’m a great woman and he tells me to be good. I reply with something funny about licking all the Rice Krispie treats and rubbing them all over my breasts(HA! he would get it cuz that’s just my humor). No reply.
He hasn’t moved to his new city yet, but I find it weird that he said he JUST got the package, although it was delivered weeks ago. I almost feel like it isn’t working out with the new girl who lives in the city he’s moving to, and he decided to make sure I was still going to talk to him. Who knows?
I was positive since so much time had passed that I WASN’T going to hear from him, so I was surprised to get a text from him.
What do you suggest my next move be? Am I still supposed to be in NC? It took him 23 days to text me, to which I replied. I don’t want to screw it up this time :-/
Thank you!! Hope you’re having a great week so far.
admin
May 20, 2014 at 9:18 pm
You can’t post because I have been on vacation for the past week haha.
Tabitha
May 22, 2014 at 2:23 am
Ha! That’s ok…I’m sure you needed one! 🙂
I think I got the posting thing figured out now.
Do you have any of your golden advice for me? I’m at a loss for what to do next, and I can’t seem to figure him out!
Stacy
May 10, 2014 at 8:09 pm
Hey thanks for the great advice so far.
My ex and I have a weird situation we broke up twice, the first time was a heat of an argument and he asked to start off as friends again and build things up. Unfortunately I was extremely sick at the time and because of our bad situation I didn’t tell him. I however kept asking for space and every time I did he became more affectionate making it harder for me. The last time I asked him for space he said he cant do a halfway thing and broke up with me again. (we had decided before that to get back). After 30 days of NC I contacted him again and things were neutral. I found out from a friend a few weeks later that I contacted him and his friend told me he cried when we broke up. However two weeks after we broke up he started seeing a girl who was my friend but he asked me to stop talking to because he didn’t like the way she behaved.
I eventually gained the courage to tell him everything that had happened and he was very supporting comforting and offered much advice about my treatment, he asked about my health and my family and my studies. and encouraged me to ask me whatever I wanted regarding our break up at any time so that I can gain closure. He repeatedly asked me if I was okay with it all and he said he will try and help me gain as much closure as I need. When I suggested that we could be friends he said that he was trying to tell me this before and if we can be friends then great if not then oh well. He is going to let it flow. He also said that he hasn’t moved on but I know he is still seeing this girl (he went out of his way to rub it in my face)
We had a serious relationship and met each others families. We spoke many times of marriage. Is it possible that he got scared of the commitment?
Also how do I move on from here? There is tension in the air and I want to remove it.
He never starts text conversations but always replies and apologies if he doesn’t in a timely manner.
admin
May 12, 2014 at 6:25 pm
It is very likely that he got scared of the commitment.
priya
May 10, 2014 at 4:00 am
my situation is a little different but actually pretty much the same. this guy is non-commital and whenever we get close emotionally he takes me for granted and i dont here from him so often. and stupid me just keeps playing the game over and over. so i was wondering if NC would be a good idea in this type of situation to make him realize hopefully that he wants me and only me. what are your thoughts, about NC in this situation?
admin
May 12, 2014 at 5:33 pm
Maybe a shortened version might