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Stacey
June 14, 2014 at 12:05 am
My boyfriend and I were dating for two years. And things have always been stressful. not between us. just factors in our personal lives.
like.
About 6 months after we started dating his parents divorced. Which has been hard on him tho he’ll never admit it.
Then our dynamic got a little weird after i was graduated and he was still in school trying to graduate (he’s a grade younger).
And then it got a little weirder when drama between me and my mother escalated and i had to move out on my own for the first time.
After three months in my place (which was about a year and a half-ish into the relationship) we decided it would be easiest if he moved in with me since he lived all the way across town and he spent a lot of time at my place anyways.
None of it really phased us. which i guess it should’ve. moving in is a pretty big thing. He started paying bills with me and signed up for things (like cable) in his name and called it our apartment.
Things got really busy emotionally and literally.
Things started to get strained trying to balance being “adult” and still having fun. And Ill be honest. Due to a combination of birth control and “bachelor food” i gained a bit of weight. There was a lot of tension between us because we were constantly stressed about other things. We took each other for granted.
He broke it off with me about a month ago. Said he didn’t feel the same. No other reason. just didn’t feel the same.
Ive done all the beginning steps on your list of to dos after a break up and other than breaking NC early (which i only did since all the other articles i read said two weeks) i haven’t done any of the big no-nos. I feel there could be a future between us if we gave it another shot.
Im just curious if these methods are effective for well. NON-men. he’s only 19 and I’m not sure if these tactics will work on him.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 4:15 pm
They definitely will!
Samantha
June 13, 2014 at 8:17 pm
Hello,
It’s been about a month and a half since we broke up. We broke up because he said I was boring and we just didn’t have enough in common, which makes no sense because I believe we have a lot in common and always had fun together. Its like a switch went off in him when he realized that I loved him already and he didn’t have feelings for me back that strong. We only dated two months. We’ve already been through the no contact phase. We started talking again a week ago when we ran into each other in public. I’ve been doing the “remember when’s” and the jealousy. He gives me short replies but I do get an occasional “lol” and longer reply. It is always me that initiates the conversation. I don’t want to talk about our previous relationship in fear of making him think that I’m trying to win him back. He said that I tried too hard before. I’m not sure what I should do now, because I know that he is talking to other girls. How can I make myself stand out again?
Dee
June 13, 2014 at 5:39 pm
Hi Chris,
Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday evening over text.. we’ve been together 2 years. He stated that we broke up because ‘it just doesn’t feel the same no more’ or ‘he’s changed’ or ‘he wants to be by himself’. The real reason is because i’ve been stressed with exams and family issues, and not paid the relationship as much as attention as i should’ve, i also took a lot of my stress out on the relationship and had arguments over pointless irritating things. He’s trying to cut me out and i have no idea what to do.. he’s my best friend at the same time and it’s so difficult to lose both things at once. I know i shouldn’t have taken my eye off the ball, but this has shocked me and made me realise i was taking him for granted and making him down. How do i show him i truely mean it when i’m sorry? He jusy says he can’t do it again and can’t put himself through it again, and we’ve ended up different people. How do i get him to realise that i simply made a mistake but i’ve learnt by it, and thay i can make things right?:(
admin
June 15, 2014 at 4:11 pm
Trust takes time to earn. Take it one day/one step at a time.
Danielle
June 13, 2014 at 3:18 pm
My boyfriend broke up with my just less than 2 months ago. We were together for almost three years and we are both seniors in high school. We were really happy together (or at least I think so and he seemed happy as well). We would fight every now and then because of silly little things (mostly related to me being jealous or upset about him talking to or being too friendly with other girls..as he would get angry at me). But we always worked it out. We were best friends as well…which is why it upset me so much that he would talk to other girls about stuff he doesn’t want to talk to me about. Anyway, I tried to compromise..and I offered to get to know a girl he was friends with, but he wanted to know nothing about it. He didn’t want me to try and see what he saw in her…which made me suspicious (only to be expected, right?). So we were fighting a lot..this fiend of his was one of the reasons, but nothing seemed so bad that he would break up with me…which is why I was so shocked when he in our conversation of Whatsapp said he’s breaking up with me. I begged him for four hours not to go through with it. I love him and I know he loves me..so I just don’t understand why he would decide to end things so rapidly…he didn’t even want to sleep on it. The next day we talked in person and he started crying in front of me..like tears rolled down his cheeks. He said he loves me and he regrets it, but he won’t take me back because he feels that he made a decision and should stick to it. The next three weeks I spent trying to get him to take me back…because how can he say he loves me and that I was the best girlfriend he ever had, but he doesn’t want to date me? The fourth week..we started to talk more and I got more insight into the reasons he had (all little things), but none of it makes sense for us not to be together…then i found this website and decided that I’m going to tell him I can’t be in his life if he wants to treat me like I’m nothing more than a classmate..then he came to me and said we can try and be best friends. We tried..but that only lasted for a week because I wanted to spend a break with him and he gave me the cold shoulder in front of other people..then I started crying and he talked to me. I told him that I can’t stand seeing him with other girls..and he is happier the way things are now…and I am not. He didn’t want to be friends with me anymore because then I would get hope for the future…which is rude. So I applied the no contact rule for a week and then texted him again. Now I noticed I type paragraphs, because I’m used to talking to him like he’s my best friend and he replies with two words..maximum for four if I’m lucky. It’s been going on like this. And I asked if we can’t just be friends..(because I know that he fell in love with me and if he would just be around me..everything will fall into place.)..he doesn’t want that and when I ask why..he replies “.”…what the hell? Any question I ask..so here I am again on the website. I plan to start the no contact rule again tomorrow, but please..could you give me some advice, an opinion..anything? I really love him..he is the person I want to share every little detail of my life with, the only person I have ever fully trusted. I will do everything in my power to get him back..because I want to be with him and I believe that it’s not possible for my feelings for him to be so strong and he doesn’t reciprocate it at all..even a fraction of it..oh ps: when I try cut him out of my life for the no contact rule previously, I catch him looking at me…like right at me..not glancing…he would look at me..and when I looked at him..I don’t know, you’d think he would be angry or something, but it is just less than a smile..almost like he misses me..loves me. Please tell me what you think. (It’s quite lengthy. Sorry for that) Thank you for taking the time to read it. I look forward to your response.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 4:07 pm
How far did you make it in NC?
Danielle
June 16, 2014 at 12:56 pm
One week exactly the previous time. I wanted to see if it would help if I gave him some time, but it just made him angry. He doesn’t like that I tried to ignore him. I don’t know what to do really. It’s difficult not to talk to him.
Stacey
June 13, 2014 at 10:12 am
Hello,
My boyfriend and I broke up after 3 yrs, about 9 months ago. But we were in touch, and even met several times, and he said that still loved me for about 6 months after that. But 3 months ago he started dating someone else. They are still dating, although he said several times, that it is not serious, and that he still has feelings for me. Some time ago he said, he doesn’t want our relationship to start over again, although I know, he still has some feelings left for me. I love him, and want him back. I know, our relationship wasn’t perfect, but I want to start over, have a fresh start, and build new relationship with him. He, on the other hand, wants to find someone else, who will fit him perfectly.
Do you have any suggestions on how to act in this situation? Do you think I have a chance to get him back?
admin
June 15, 2014 at 4:01 pm
What caused the breakup?
carla
June 13, 2014 at 9:42 am
Hi chris, I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for about 2 years. We broke up a year ago because umm I don’t know why actually. He said that he has things to deal with and it’s not you it’s me. He said it’s something about his work, but now he found a really good job and went back to college and he solved those issues and still didn’t ask me to get back to him yet. Also, we kept in touch after the breakup and we were still friends. About three months ago, I tried the NC rule and I changed my number and from about two weeks he got my number and texted me. When I texted him back twice he was neutral and tried to told me that he moved on. I don’t know what to do now. I think I’m stuck at this level and I won’t get him back. Help me please I don’t know if I must move on too or try to win him back and I’m devastated and I really miss him. Please help.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 4:00 pm
How long did you last in the NC rule originally?
Louise
June 13, 2014 at 8:58 am
Hi,
This feels really desperate for me but this page made me feel a bit better.
My story:
My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I broke up a week ago. It’s only early days but we still love each other. The reason we broke up was that in less than a month he leaves for the Army and will be away for 7 months. He had been on and off the idea of joining since he was out of high school and i encouraged him to follow his dreams. He finally decided to go ahead and join at the beginning of this year. We told each other that we would try to go long distance as we were really strong together and we had been together for 2 years. As much as I tried to be supportive because I want him to be happy and successful, in the last month I started to get anxious and therefore self conscious that he wasn’t showing that he really cared for me as much and that he was leaving me (although i still feel he had a lot on his mind). I bought it up with him about two weeks before the breakup that i felt “unappreciated’ lately due to the promises he had to break due to leaving and he had never told me he would miss me. This really struck a chord with him and he reacted in a bad way. He kept on saying that “he’s obviously been a bad boyfriend” to me the whole time. This is not true i just wanted some reassurance that we will still try to be together once he’s in the army. We absolutely still love each other but for now we have gone separate ways. He told me he still wants me in his life (although I’m not really sure what that means) but that we have to have some distance for now. When he broke up with me, it was unexpected for me because he was saying he’s happy with me for so long and so recently before. He had the fitness exam for army (and passed with flying colours) and said that it all became very real and didn’t think we would last and he doesn’t want to be the kind of guy to leave people behind. He cried (got teary) (id never seen him cry before) and we shared a few intimate last moments like hugging each other for what seemed like ages and we both didn’t want to let go, and we also told each other we love each other. I want to grant his wish and keep my distance and I’m going to let him go and find himself but he’s not the kind of guy to do grand gestures and I don’t even know if he will try to get me back once he is back from the army training.
He has a few issues i think:
>I think he’s always felt a little like a failure not that I at all think he is. (He became a chef after school, whereas I have a degree in architecture and my career is starting to take off)
>He has always felt that I’m out of his league. But I absolutely love him and I don’t know why he thinks this.
>Now because of the fact that i bought up that i wanted more appreciation – He thinks he’s not good enough and wouldn’t be able to keep me happy whilst away in the army.
my issues:
>I’m still not sure if i want to be an army girlfriend.
>I want him to be happy though and if the army makes him happy thats what i want for him.
Im so sad at the prospect of never seeing him ever again…
I really want things to work between us later… do you think that there is any hope? and what should I do.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:59 pm
Who broke up with who?
Louise
June 17, 2014 at 7:53 am
He broke up with me. but in a way it was mutual
Louise
June 21, 2014 at 7:26 am
All my friends and his too think he’s made a rash decision. I want to give him the space to figure things out but I’m still wanting to be his support whilst he’s in training for the army. I was going to wait until the day before he leaves for the army (25 days after break up (first contact unless he wishes me a happy birthday)) to just text him to say good luck and to wish him well.
Is this the right thing to do? I’ve already been working so hard to not contact him at all. But I really miss him.
Thanks Chris.
xx
Courtney Scott
June 12, 2014 at 5:51 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I have been together for six years. In 2012 he broke up with me because he was no longer happy. After about five months we eventually got back together and he admitted to me he wanted to go
out and experience other women (I was his first serious gf). Things were good till he decided to go away for school, over this year I did feel like we were growing apart however I was still very committed to the relationship. Last month he pretty much told me “I love you but I’m not in love you”. Which didn’t make any sense to me because in the break he told me we were a good fit and he could see a future with me. I’ve had no contact with him since the break up expect for when he congratulated me on my graduation. I’m not sure where to go from here or what to do when he gets back from school next month.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:39 pm
How old is he?
Euphoria
June 12, 2014 at 5:33 pm
Hi I need your advice. My ex and I were together for a year but we were on and off because I brought insecurities into the relationship, always accusing or doubting him, and he got fed up with it and broke up with me. It’s only been 4 days since the break up and we spoke briefly. I cried and told him
I got it together but he said he’s getting a new girlfriend and IF I get my issues together he’ll try again with me but right now his mind is made up and he wants to focus on himself right now. I’m heartbroken because I want him back now 🙁 I cant stand the thought of him being with someone else besides me. I’m scared she’ll replace me and he’ll move on and forget all about me. I’ve made the necessary changes in my life to be a better person but still there’s no getting through. What should I do?
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:38 pm
What made you so insecure in the relationship?
Carolyn
June 12, 2014 at 5:53 am
Hey Chris,
My boyfriend and I broke up before I read this and so I had already taken some steps to move on. I knew it wouldn’t be a good idea to contact him while I was emotional mess (kind of like your 30 day rule), however I have zero self-control so I removed him as a Facebook friend, blocked him on yahoo messenger, filtered his emails, and blocked him number so I don’t received his calls and texts. I am sure he is aware I blocked him on messenger and removed him from Facebook and I’m scared this may have been too extreme for you no contact rule. The reason I fear this is because I had a moment of weakness and unblocked him only to find out I may have been blocked as well. Please let me know your thoughts.
admin
June 15, 2014 at 3:33 pm
Hmm… probably too extreme but not like you did irrepariable damage.
Barbs
June 9, 2014 at 3:11 pm
Hey,
So I’m completely lost on what to do/think. My boyfriend of 2.5yrs broke up with me in January. We lived together abroad and had a holiday planned in february so I stayed until then where everything continued as usual. I then moved out and moved home (back to Europe where we come from) Now almost 5 months after I left, we text almost everyday. I made it clear a few months ago that I was still in love with him and that I wanted us to reassess when he came home. He agreed to call it a break but we haven’t spoken about it since. I’ve tried to be distant but it’s hard when we talk so often. I am very sure I want us to try again.
He comes home in just under 2 weeks and has asked me to pick him up at the airport so we can go out for dinner before he goes to his family. Is he sending mixed signals, or just trying to be friendly? He has always struggled to show his emotions, how do I get us to talk about this without him shutting down?
admin
June 10, 2014 at 3:29 pm
What was the reasoning for the break up?
Barbs
June 18, 2014 at 5:43 pm
Some days he would offer one reason, other days something else. He was tired of the relationship and possibly also of me. Other times he said he couldn’t discuss thing with me (ironically he refused to discuss that further)
Alize
June 9, 2014 at 2:22 pm
Hi Chris,
I broke up with my boyfriend around 3 months ago, I really want him back, I realized I made a lot of mistakes and didnt have the best attitude, so I talked to him but he was not willing to get back together, said he was afraid of what would happen, that we could end up worst, not talking to each other ever again, he started seeing all the bad things in our relationship, he told me he couldnt really think about getting back together, had a lot of work etc.. a bunch of excuses.
At the end we decided to keep going out and see what happens, but now we have gone out like 4 times in the last 2 weeks, and I feel that he is too distant, we get along just great, but its as if now he sees me as a friend.. Its heartbreaking, I dont know what to do 🙁 please help me..
admin
June 9, 2014 at 3:37 pm
has he inititated anything physical?
Alize
June 9, 2014 at 3:48 pm
No, nothing. This last times we have gone out we’ve gone get lunch or dinner/drinks, the only physical contact is when we hug goodbye 🙁
I really dont understand, he used to be the one to always be looking for me, who always wanted to talk to me, who really loved me, and now its so different, I feel so sad all the time, but try to not show it to him anymore, I try to be happy when we talk or meet.
admin
June 10, 2014 at 3:33 pm
Hm…
Keep working on him. Sometiems these things just take a lot of time.
Alize
June 13, 2014 at 5:24 pm
But how will I know when I should stop having some hope?
Do you think that if he loved me he would forgive me and give me a chance?
I just dont want to lose him, but I dont want to force things and be chasing him all the time.
Marie
June 8, 2014 at 11:26 am
Hey chris…
I need your help!
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago and immediately after it I begged him to give me another chance so we agreed to make a pause for about a month. So there is one week left.
He told me he doesn’t love me anymore and he hates me because I’m so annoying and everything is much more important to him.
We broke up in December because there he also told me he hates me and so I waited one week and then I broke up and the day after he wanted to come back.
But now I’m not sure because we arranged that pause and he knows that he HAS to think about me in a positive way because I begged him to try everything to miss me.
He also told me that in march his feelings were coming and going and then I annoyed him so much that he didn’t feel anything till now.
So were not even friends anymore on facebook but were still a couple he said, but I see him adding girls on profile that I don’t even know but he knows from the past.
But also! he is logging in to my account every single day, it must be him because he is the only one who knows my password, and two weeks ago I asked him if he feels something but he said no… he said there is a 51% chance that the feelings are coming back.. and now I want to know if our pause was senseless because we arranged it. So we had a plan…
And also I’m really desperate because I really don’t want to lose him and I don’t know what I should do next, because after the month he wanted to text me, what when he says he doesn’t love me anymore?
🙁 Please help me..
admin
June 8, 2014 at 8:26 pm
51% why did he pick that?
Pam
June 8, 2014 at 8:30 am
Hello. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 6 months. His job requires him to travel quite a bit. We used to visit one another on weekends or I would go on extended vacations to wherever he was staying at and kept in touch via phone calls and texts. Most of our arguments were about little things. For instance, one time he got mad when I offered to carry a bag for him so he could eat an ice cream and he yelled and said that carrying the bags was “a man’s job”. He would get upset if I didn’t call/text back after a certain period of time (like one or two hours) and wondered what I was doing when I didn’t call (if I was with someone else). Upon visiting him last month, we argued again about little things. And when I returned back home, he sent me a text saying maybe it would be better if we were just friends. This was shocking because when I suggested that a few weeks before, he said “that wasn’t an option for him” (because he loved me so much). Frankly, I am hurt. I don’t think he made a real effort to resolve the issues in our relationship. Practically every little thing upset him and it was difficult for me to remain calm or comforting. He would also get upset if I started to get emotional or cried. Well it’s been more than 30 days since our breakup and even though we argued quite a bit, I believe that we had a chance to work things out. Despite the arguments, there were a lot of times when he could be quite endearing and romantic and I honestly believed it when he said that he loved me (just had a hard time showing it sometimes). In the last 30 days (before reading the “no contact” rule), I actually did try to contact him several times by text, phone calls and emails. Little messages reminding him of the love and all the fun that we’ve had together. He messaged me back a couple of times stating that he knows that it won’t work out between us and got upset again when I reacted emotionally during one of our conversations. Within the last couple of weeks, he hasn’t returned any of my messages. I’m trying the no contact rule now to see if it helps the situation. Despite our arguments, I really do love him and believe that we can work things out, but even if we can’t I have offered him my friendship. I would very much like him to remain a part of my life because, as I’ve said, there were times when he could be quite nice and kind. At this point, he is unwilling to even be friends.
admin
June 8, 2014 at 8:21 pm
NC sounds ideal for this.
Shaquilla
June 7, 2014 at 11:21 pm
So my boyfriend broke up with me over text and I was so sad crying and stuff because it was my fault I was selfish stubborn and needy and he was so hurt that he couldn’t take it no more we were on a break at first and he realize how much he missed me but he called me a manipulative person because of how I was and tomorrow we are going to meet up and discuss everything and he texted me saying don’t assume were not going to get back together and I really want to be with him because he’s a great guy always treat me right but I want to let him know that I’m not gonna be those things anymore so hopefully everything will be fine when we talk
admin
June 8, 2014 at 8:18 pm
What would make him say you were manipulative?
Erin
June 7, 2014 at 7:50 pm
Hi Chris,
I wrote you earlier on how to contact ex bf page. Reminder: relationship was two years, half ldr, bu due distance, less feelings and career conflict, 55 days of NC. I mailed him shortly again (second time) and wrote simply “Hi, I was driving to blah and i saw the same color same car as our one (was a joke since it was a rare car) and at the same time the song A we used to listen started playing on the radio. I thought of you and the first time we bought the car and engine had a problem so we stuck in the middle of nowhere at night coming back from a hike. it was funny and made me laugh a lot when i remembered that day”
After sending it, I started feeling so bad like i shouldn’t have done that. i feel like i sound needy and idiot and he wont answer and he will be bothered. what should i do to get rid of the feeling? i have a strong feeling that he will never answer and that scares me not because i cannot get him back never ever but because i underestimated myself and looked stupid. help me pls.
admin
June 8, 2014 at 8:10 pm
Why did you feel bad?
Did he respond to it?
Erin
June 9, 2014 at 5:49 am
it s gonna be the second day soon and he did not reply back..I dont know why i feel bad. i feel myself like a stupid needy girl chasing after him. or at least leave that impression.
Erin
June 9, 2014 at 9:57 pm
Chris,
So it has been two days he hasn’t answered. I saw he went to visit his best friend to a different city and they posted photos on Facebook and I saw, he changed his Facebook photo and liked couple comments (I am not friends with him. Though we have more than 50 common friends and when most of them like something, it appears on my wall. It has been the first time I stalked his FB profile after 2 months.) So what now? Should I leave it? Or try to communicate in ten days or so?
admin
June 10, 2014 at 3:45 pm
Ten days… also, spruce up your first contact messages maybe.
Erin
June 12, 2014 at 4:04 am
I guess I wont try to contact again Chris. I feel like I am just not giving enough value and respect to myself given I know his behavior and attitude towards his exes while we were dating. Also I saw he is exchanging comments and likes with some certain girls on Facebook. So I thought better leave him alone. I just got wrong signal from the first email he asked me how I was doing and the he answered the second in a day as he did for the first. so i thought it will work for this third message. (all have one week in between) Unfortunately, the dynamics of ldr’s are way more different than the normal relationships. so he probably already moved on and has no pain or sadness in himself. Guys do get over faster than women in my opinion. Anyways, thanks for your support thou. I will start working on myself even more by picking more activities.
sara
June 7, 2014 at 6:10 am
i broke up with someone 5 months ago, but realized a week after i did it that i was being irrational. he was always very firm in remaining friends. i noticed him hanging with this girl a lot recently and asked him if he wanted to be with her. he said yes so i proceeded to block him on everything because i felt awful. i unblocked him 2 months after and they were together and i just didn’t say anything to him, but he figured it out and messaged me to which i did not respond, but he continued to do it. i was sort of ok after i started talking to him again, but it it hit me really hard again when he started sending me pictures of her cat. then i said i can’t do this and he tried to stop me from cutting him out again, but it didn’t stop me. once again, 2 months later, i unblocked him and of course he started messaging me again. he had actually sent me 3 different messages that i refused to respond to, but then he said “i think about you more than i should” and i broke down. we then talked almost everyday for 3 weeks and he asked to meet up. he mentioned the girl he was with, but only referred to her as a friend and talked about this other girl for a while. i didn’t think he was with her anymore. my mistake. i feel like there are certain things you shouldn’t say to people unless you want to be with them. due to the nature of the meeting, i ended up being suspicious. afterwards he messaged me telling me how great it was to see me blablabla and i just asked him if he was still with her. after i got the answer, waterfalls started streaming down my eyes. he begged me to just stay his friend (he kept asking to why we can’t just be friends) and even messaged my best friend whom he had never met before. i don’t want to be with anyone else. we’ve known eachother for so long and i’ve never felt that way about anyone. he’s so important to me and i want to win him back, but at this point, i feel like it’s a lost cause. am i too late?
admin
June 7, 2014 at 4:56 pm
Hes not dating the new girl is he?
sara
June 7, 2014 at 5:31 pm
he is
Nana
June 6, 2014 at 9:35 pm
What do i do when he says it’ll still be awkward but he guesses we can try to be friends but then he hasnt replied since yesterday even though he was online. I messaged him again today but he still doesnt reply.
admin
June 7, 2014 at 4:46 pm
Stop messaging him for a while. I think your pushing too much.
Nana
June 7, 2014 at 10:39 pm
How long?
Nana
June 11, 2014 at 3:12 pm
What do i say now to him sonce he told me that ir feels a bit weird when i talk about the past with him? Cause i tried going to the sexond step.
Hannah
June 6, 2014 at 6:10 pm
So, where to start. My ex boyfriend and me only broke up on June 2nd, it did not end badly I could just tell he was getting distant, when we broke up it was over text, but we are in a LDR so understandable, I guess? he started it off, and I could tell something was up so I asked him what was wrong and it kind of just happened, at the time it was a mutual decision…I totally regret that now. but we keep having contact and we are working on things…but I just CANT seem to do the NC thing, as we have been talking almost daily, for the 1 year and 7 months of our relationship.. he said the reasons we broke u was, me being slightly clingy, and also im very impatient..im changing that all because I just want things to work, and as does he kinda. because he said he regrets it, and hes thinking about what he wants…should I just give it time? and what do I do if he says no? because he wants to keep contact, as do I..?
admin
June 7, 2014 at 4:43 pm
Absolutely give it some time.
Jen
June 6, 2014 at 3:00 pm
How do I know if I’m making progress? I’m doing the priming method from 2.0 but it’s going very slowly. I’m not even sure it’s working, our conversations seem positive but they usually only last an hour or two, then he’ll stop responding or I’ll stop responding. There have been a couple of times where he’s stopped responding for a few hours or even a day and then pick back up, is that a good sign? I’m just so afraid that if I try to bring up a memory from our relationship he’ll get freaked out and I’ll have to start over.
I’m not acting desperate, I talked to him 3 days in a row this week but only because he would answer late. However, I am truthfully extremely desperate. It’s been a few months and I still feel like he broke up with me yesterday, so please give me your best advice on what to do next so I don’t mess up.
admin
June 6, 2014 at 5:48 pm
1 -2 hours isn’t bad… but youll know if its working if the conversations consistently extend in time.
Jen
June 8, 2014 at 12:54 am
K but if they aren’t extending what do I do?
NA
June 7, 2014 at 2:34 pm
Sorry, How can I ask Q here? I can’t find any separate box for writing!