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emily
June 25, 2014 at 7:19 pm
I have had a year of NC with my ex (he was and still is my first BF). He broke it off for some crazy reason…school and work. I didn’t argue or plead. I did hastily defriend him on fb a few days later though.
Anyhow, I sent him a message on fb a few days ago. Just simply asking how he was and that i’d seen his uncle at church. He responded fairly quickly. I’d say nutrally. We’ve been messaging here and there. Is it a good idea to possibly move into texting him? Or would that be off putting? Also…what is a good time frame for asking him to meet up? I thought to give it at least a month.Thoughts?
admin
June 26, 2014 at 3:23 pm
You should read the page on trying to get an ex back after a year or more apart.
Beatrice
June 25, 2014 at 6:40 pm
I need some advice.
My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We have been together for almost two years. Our relationship was getting bad, I was controlling and somehow dependant of him. I realize everything that happened. He told me he does not have the energy and motivation to keep up. We, then, both agreed to be friends/dating, still have the intimacy together, but not as a couple and just enjoy our time together not 7 days a week like we used too, but 1-2 times week. I really like this decision because I was very dependant of him and it is an opportunity for me to be able to live on my own. The thing is, I want to get back with him, if things goes well between us and we are capable of starting a new relationship, I want that. But my boyfriend seems distant about this option, he seems to not want this at all. It is just one step at a time and we’ll see how it goes but I don’t know what to do or say to make him understand and want a new relationship with me.
There is still love on both ends.
admin
June 26, 2014 at 3:21 pm
What have you tried so far? NC?
Beatrice
June 27, 2014 at 2:52 pm
Yes, a little bit, but we still see each other. A couple of times a week and enjoy our time together as a couple, but not a couple since he does not want to be in a relationship anymore. He says he is not ready to go back in a relationship again, but just enjoy ourselves. But what I want is to be back with him, I don’t know what to say or do that could change his mind.
admin
June 29, 2014 at 4:58 pm
Basically you are just friends without the benefits though? Just using each other for emotional intamacy?
Beatrice
June 30, 2014 at 1:24 am
Actually, it is friends with benefits. It is just that I would like this to be a couple relationship while he just wants to be like this for now, and I don’t what to say or do to make him change his mind about us.
Sara
June 25, 2014 at 2:53 pm
Ok so my boyfriend and I broke up. I got upset cause I couldn’t see him one evening and it was about time. That week he knew his grandpa was ill. We were gunna try and talk about it but then decided to stay friends. He texted me cause he said he is moving to away and wants to see me before he goes. We are hanging out this weekend. At one point we talked about moving together but right now I know he is going to work on his relationship with his father cause his family is so small. He said he wants to talk about things and I talked to my best friend and my friend who set us up and they said this is my one shot to not hold back when we talk. How should I go about this and what should I say without sounding too emotional? Also I should not text or fall until we hang out on Saturday right?
admin
June 25, 2014 at 5:22 pm
What is it you are wantin gto accomplish?
Sara
June 25, 2014 at 6:50 pm
That i would move if he wanted me to. We talked about it once and it was serious. This is my chance to talk to him and to not hold back. So how should I go about it? We see eachother Saturday
Sara
June 25, 2014 at 2:56 pm
Also his grandpa recently passed away
Lucia
June 25, 2014 at 2:17 pm
I met up with my ex for the first time in 4 months this weekend. We went out for dinner, had a few drinks and ended up sleeping together.
The next morning things were fine we went out for coffee, shopped around a bit. When we said goodbye I said we needed to work things out.
He is a MAJOR commitment phoebe and he struggles to say yes or no to something, we decided to call our breakup a break about 1 month after I moved out, but it was my idea.
Now he’s invited me to his place next week. How do I get him to want to try again?
Rose
June 25, 2014 at 7:00 am
So ive been meaning to ask, so i finished my NC with my ex and it still didnt go well because he was still angry when he talked to me. And after having him act cold to me I started to act like a desperate ex. And so I defriended him on facebook so I wouldnt create unneccesary scenarioes in my head, and accidentally unfollowed him on instagram. I’m wondering that would he notice these two things ive done? And if hed check my instagram from time to time. I want to create the sense of mystery about me and show all the happiness i can have without him. To make him think the frass is greener on the other side.
Jane
June 24, 2014 at 8:41 pm
Hi. My ex and I had been together for a year. Just like any other relationship, we have our ups and downs. Most of them are extreme ups and downs. Anyway we have 2 very different personalities and likes.. mind you.. we did try our best to work it out. He broke up with me on our 9th month. He said that he is tired.. he told me that i can’t accept who he is. I asked him to try to minimize his vices. He smokes and drinks a lot. I don’t have any vices at all. All I want is for him to live a healthy lifestyle because he have these series of asthma attacks and sometimes his body just shuts down.. he once told me that if he already gave his decision, it is final..so i felt hopeless that time. I tried to talk to him that time and we were able to get back together.. after 5 months, he broke up with me again..we had a big fight.. stupid as i am, i told him stupid hurtful things out of frustration and anger. He told me that i stepped over the line this time. He was drunk that day and I apologized and tried to explain to him that I really didn’t mean it. He said it is over. He told me that he “loved” me. he broke up with me a day before my birthday. so cruel. He sent me a message on a social network site and greeted me on my birthday and told me that he hope I was really doing fine. 3 days after, I saw him pass by our house then he texted me. Said he is sorry that he broke up with me a day before my birthday and hope i was really ok. Then i broke the NC rule. I called him the next day. I asked for forgiveness and like beg him to give me another chance to make it right. He said that his decision is final. He told me that the text message he sent was just to check if i was ok. that’s really confusing. One of our common friends tried to convinced him to talk to me about whatever happened to us because he mentioned that he still loves me and his feelings never changed. our friend also asked him if he has plans. But his reply was always..my decision is final. i dont have plans talking to her. That i did not understand. If he still loves me, why is he acting that way? He also said that i hurt his ego. I admit my mistake and was trying to apologize..sometimes he tell his friends that we are casually talking.. but in reality, we do not talk to each other. What is the purpose of telling others that we are talking if we’re really not talking to each other?
I tried to divert my attention and tried to improve myself. I looked for the things that will make me happy. So i manage not to talk to him for weeks now. this is the 24th day since he broke up with me. He looks like he is really enjoying himself and looks like nothing happened. He is like getting drunk every week and he is keeping himself busy. He sent me a message again telling me to change the settings of my account in a social network site because my posts keeps filling up his notifications. My post doesn’t have anything to do with us or our relationship. But I didn’t reply..
What do you think about my chance on getting him back? can I still redeem myself even if i violated the NC rule and was guilty of being a gnat? yes i don’t deny it! I have read some of your post here and have realized that i have violated basically everything.. what are my chances? I don’t get why he is acting that way..saying he loves me then hurt me at the same time. is that normal for a guy?
oh and by the way.. his stuffs are still with me..i dont know what to do with them. and i really cant talk to him because of NC rule..
hope you can help me..
admin
June 25, 2014 at 5:09 pm
You are allowed to break NC to exchange your things.
Jane
June 25, 2014 at 7:21 pm
What do you think about my chance on getting him back? can I still redeem myself even if i violated the NC rule and was guilty of being a gnat? what are my chances? I don’t get why he is acting that way..saying he loves me then hurt me at the same time. is that normal for a guy?
Kay
June 23, 2014 at 10:25 pm
My boyfriend just broke up with me last night…stating that he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship and wasn’t happy anymore (things got a lot more stressful for us near the end)
He is turning 21 in august and I am already 25. Im worried that his age won’t allow this process to work. Will it still work regardless?
admin
June 24, 2014 at 6:52 pm
Yes it will work on him!
Gina
June 23, 2014 at 10:05 pm
Hey Chris it’s me again I am currently doing the no contact rule but, you see my boyfriend will be entering UNI in September and what if I finish the no contact rule and go ahead with your game plan but he feels that’s it’s been a month now what? The point of u trying to talk to me. You see Chris that’s the kind of guy my ex is and am really scared about this whole no contact rule and carrying on with it. By the time I finish it will be around mid July. Am really worried I don’t wanna do anything that will make things worst I need your help ASAP pls 🙁
admin
June 24, 2014 at 6:49 pm
You should read my updated version of this page.
Karla
June 23, 2014 at 8:50 pm
Hi there,
Love your advice and have been following the guide religiously. My guy and I had been dating for 4 months when he broke things off. He basically said he just wasn’t feelings things anymore, and he had no idea why because I had all the qualities he was looking for.
I did the 30 day NC, during which he did not reach out. When I reached out with a lighthearted text, he responded right away and seemed to be very positive. I only sent one (positive) text back, and then did not respond to his response in order to end the conversation. I then waited a couple of days and sent a funny story text that kind of tied into a remember when text. Again, he responded immediately, within 5-10 mins of me sending the text. I let us text back and forth a few more times, and then I ended it with a generic response. I waited another week and then just sent him a text asking about the name of a place we had been to together. Again, quick response, but no further effort to extend the conversation.
I’m just feeling confused at this point because he does respond right away to my texts, and is never angry or negative. However, I don’t feel like he is trying to extend the conversation, nor has he initiated any texts. Thoughts? Also, if I am to text him again, how long should I wait? I don’t want to feel as if I keep texting him if he is not reciprocating.
Thanks for any advice!
admin
June 24, 2014 at 6:46 pm
I wonder why he broke up with you all of a sudden? I don’t buy his reason at all.
Karla
June 26, 2014 at 2:03 am
That’s why the breakup was so confusing. Things were going really well. He specifically mentioned that there wasn’t anyone else in the picture, but he did also mention that he has a habit of pushing people away when they get too close. He said he didn’t think that was what he was doing, but I think he is either scared or feels like he does not deserve to be in a happy relationship.
Diamond
June 22, 2014 at 9:08 pm
PLEASE MAKE A GAME PLAN FOR ME I WILL PAY UOU. 100$ please I want my bbaby back
admin
June 23, 2014 at 2:12 pm
Grab my E-Book for $39 and you will have a gameplan already written for you.
Jessica
June 22, 2014 at 6:41 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend and I were dating for 5 months. He ended things.
I had an issue that his mother didn’t accept me and constantly told him he needed to find a good Vietnamese girl or at least a pretty white girl, because she doesn’t want black babies running around. He never addressed it with her Which hurt the most but I didn’t want to bring it up and pester him, he has to handle it himself, I can’t step into that.
He thought it wasn’t a problem. I ended up in the hospital one night we were together and the doctor thought it might be a tubal pregnancy, turned out to be a uterine cyst ruptured. After that he became distant for 2 -almost 3 weeks. I had to text and asked him to talk once I got back to town or else we wouldn’t have heard from each other.
Even that evening he came and we chatted for hours, he acted like his normal, touchy, loving self. I tried several times to bring up what was wrong but he wouldn’t talk. 2 hours later when we were in the car ready to go home he said we needed to talk. He said he saw no future with me. Which was confusing because a month before he wanted to get a place together and a pet! 2 days later after reading a post on my Facebook about how I’ve finally sat down and realized what happened and how hurt I felt he messaged me. It went on for a day. Telling me he was hurting when he ended it. He didn’t want to keep going that’d just be lying to himself and me. He never wanted to say why he ended it. He just apologized.
I told him I don’t want him to feel sorry for what he felt I was just confused while looking back. Then he said the pregnancy scare, even though it was tubal and we wouldn’t have been able to have it, made him think and he saw something missing. He couldn’t see a future with me. And that at the time he was into having fun in his life he didn’t care to address the problem with his mom being racist, but he realized that if he genuinely thought we’d be together in his subconscious he would’ve stood up to her.
So I’m lost in figuring out how I should go about getting him back. We were happy together, even when we fought we sat down and discussed our perspectives to work it out. But after our exchange of messages for clarification I don’t know if its possible. He’s very rational and will override his emotions for what he thinks is right/best after analyzing.
admin
June 23, 2014 at 2:10 pm
Wow, thats incredibly racist of that mother…
Daylynn
June 21, 2014 at 12:46 am
Hi Chris,
I’ve known Robert for a month. I met him through a friend but we didn’t meet in person right away. We used Skype to see each other. Well we met in person after a couple of weeks of getting to know each other. Then after a week of dating, we broke up because it was going a little too fast. I’m just wondering how I handle this because I personally feel that it could work out if we were later to get back together. However, I don’t if that will ever happen.
Anne
June 20, 2014 at 7:51 pm
Hello,
I sent my ex boyfriend an appology saying::
I’m so sorry for everything that I have put you through. I realize now that when I was upset and negative all the time, towards you, not because of you, it caused you to feel unloved, attacked, not good enough and worst of all frustrated because even though you tried to help, you couldn’t make things better. At the time I was not thinking very well and I never intended to hurt you. I’m sorry. I can now see that my words and actions were way out of line. What I did was wrong and I truly regret it. The way I spoke to you was unkind and unloving and it will not happen again. I am so sorry for using you as my only source of love and support and for not thanking you, appreciating you and admiring you for being the amazing man that you are. You are so wonderful and I’m so sorry I hurt you.
He replied with:
i’m very glad to hear that you are feeling better. you dont need to be sorry. i hope you dont think of me poorly, i do not of you. though i dont feel the same way anymore and i dont see that changing. and i dont want to get back together. i am just trying to be direct, fair and honest. i’m sorry if i am being blunt.
question: i did the 30 days NC. is there anything i can do to get him back? is there any hope left? What should i do?
puowheJ
June 23, 2014 at 7:13 pm
So I did a word count and u said sorry 4 times… = desperation
The words u used are not that positive… And they act as reminders of what you did wrong.. Saying sorry wont help and promising it won’t happen again will not either… It’s desperation again
On a scale of 10, 10 being positive, 5 neutral and 0 negative, ur apology is at 3. His response is a 4. When u give something negative just don’t expect something positive will come back. You need to aim what ur saying in a more positive light and remind him of the good quality about you.
Anne
June 25, 2014 at 1:19 am
you’re right! thank you for that.
I am thinking of responding with this now and re-starting the NC
what do you think?
So I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what you said and you’re right. Things haven’t been the same between us, we both feel it and I’m actually glad that you were honest enough to bring it up. I think the decision to split up is the best thing to do. I’m sorry for acting crazy before and not realizing how right you were before. A lot
of exciting things have been happening in my life lately, will love to tell you about it sometime after we have some space. I hope that we can still be friends. Thank you for everything~
Amy
June 20, 2014 at 2:42 pm
PLEASE HELP!!!
Today my ex texted. He It’s been 25 days of NC. He asked how I was doing. He wished my girl a Happy Bday. Then he said hope we can still be friends. Should I text him back? He broke up texting me I want more then he can give me. He has to focus on career and his son ( I told him it seemed he doesn’t care) To make the long story short I REALLY regret it! He was SOO GOOD to me and my girl. Should I text him back or wait
JO.MANEERAT
June 20, 2014 at 1:35 pm
My 4 and a half years LD Boyfriend broke up with me last week, I was in shocked as there was no sign he would do that. We had a plan to get married next year and then he just said that he thinks he doesn’t want to get married ever again ( he had a bad marriage before he met me), he said that he can’t take it anymore with the long distance. He had mentioned before that if I ever leave him it would kill him but why did he decide to break it off with me? just 2 days before that he still called me sweetheart. He just text telling me he is so sorry but it’s for the best for the both of us. We text back and forth over 50 times , he kept saying sorry and I kept saying I can’t break up with him and sounded very desperate. The other day I text again said I want him to reconsider it and I kept begging and remind him that how much I love him , told him to think that how could he live by himself till the end? I don’t want him to wake up one day and regret it. He wouldn’t confront me or talk to me on skype and he kept his phone off. Text me back said that it’s over..told me to stop sending text if not he would change his phone number. That was I started to realize that he is not into me anymore. I stopped and trying to think about what to do next. Then yesterday he text and said He hopes that I’m ok and we will see each other again as friends.
I know he still cares , he is just scared that I might hurt him one day so he decided to break it off now before I hurt him in the future, that sounds silly. But I have no idea what to do. I don’t have high hope but deep down in my heart I don’t think I can stop loving him ever. I started the NC rule as I didn’t reply to his last text but this only been 2 days of NC. Do you think he will realize that he made a mistake and come back to me? Or should I just move on?
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:35 pm
You might wanna check out the LDR post.
JO.MANEERAT
July 1, 2014 at 7:27 am
Hi, After I started NC about a week ago, he text me a few times asked if I was ok. Then last text on 29th June said that he is worried about me and care about me and wants me to take care of myself, I didnt reply. Lastnight he called on my cell twice but I didnt’ answer then he left a voice message say that he is just calling to make sure that I’m ok. I just started NC for a week what should I do he seems to try contacting me everyday now but he wouldn’t admit that he wants to get back with me or anything and I’m not quite sure if he does. Today he didn’t call me but he called my sister and my best friend and nobody answered as they were told not to. What do you think I should do or just keep doing the NC?
Thank you
nana
June 20, 2014 at 1:04 am
Well ive finished NC with him about 2 weeks ago. I went through first contact and it went well. My remembering the good times was neutral, he just said it was a bit awkward talking about things we’ve done in the past together. He asked me to hang out with him not long after. I couldnt make it the day he asked me to see him so he just said next time, and I asked him to drive to my house (15 minutes away from each other) and he said he didnt want to. So i brought up a fight in a way saying that I would do that for him but he wouldnt do the same for me. So he said he takes back his offer… I said sorry for arguing with him the next day and he said it was hard to believe my sorry when we are like strangers now. I asked him to hang out this weekend and he said he is going to busy with his college orientation. Im not sure what step Im on or what I should do..
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:33 pm
Well, you shouldnt have started a fight…
Nana
June 22, 2014 at 2:43 pm
Yeah i know that now and wi wont anymore. But im not sure what step to take now.
Ashley
June 19, 2014 at 10:39 pm
Hey. So I broke up with my ex about a month and a half ago. I’ve been doing NC since May 20th and tomorrow it would end… He let me borrow his book but I have to give it back to him, i know he loves it… How do I start contacting him? Should I just tell him i finished reading the book and ask how he wants me to give it back to him? Answer ASAP please
Diamond
June 19, 2014 at 8:29 pm
What if you already sent him the begging and emotional text ? I started the no contact after the last text. And he still haven’t replied, it’s only been 4 days though so I guess I have 26 more. He broke up with me because he is addicted to drugs and when he’s high his mentality is changed and he has no emotions. Which is why it was easy to leave me, we were together for a year was 1year and 6 months my birthday is the 6th. What should I do if he says happy birthday ? Or what do I do if he doesn’t ?
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:27 pm
You simply do nothing… your in NC remember.
Sue
June 19, 2014 at 12:05 pm
Hi Chris
I’m loving reading your advice but would like to know if you have any for my situation.
Basically I met this guy (through work) about 6 months ago and we started chatting via text/emails. After a few weeks we met for a date and got on really well. However, we live an hour and half apart from each other and although this guy tells me he really likes me and thinks I am a lovely person he feels that the distance is a problem FOR HIM!! Now, having said this he was still keeping in contact with me every day and I have driven to his house on a couple of occasions to cook for him and just so that we could spend time together.
I sent him a text 3 weeks ago asking him is he fancied me coming up to cook his favourite meal for him again and after a couple of days of not hearing from him I received a text out of the blue saying that he would love it but would be going out on a date the following weekend (with a woman who only live half an hour away)and would have to see how it went!!! Well you can imagine how I felt, absolutely gutted to say the least. So when I sent a text asking him if he wanted me to walk away and say goodbye his immediate response was no wait and see what happens on the date as it might not work out and that he still wanted to keep in contact via text although it would not be appropriate to meet up while he was on these ‘dates’. Now I am totally confused as to what he actually wants from me because he doesn’t want to severe all communication and has in fact just sent me another text today after five days of not hearing from him.
I really really want him back even though he is messing with my head as I think we can make the distance issue work.
Please let me have your advice on this as I really want to work it out.
admin
June 21, 2014 at 7:13 pm
Did you read my long distance relatoinship guide?
Sil
June 19, 2014 at 12:07 am
Hi chris,
My long term boyfriend (5.5 years) just broke up with me.
Let me tell you some of the background. During the last years we have broken up about 4 times I think. Recently since the last 8 months he went through really tough personal times: he quit his job cause it was too stressful, his father(who was always absent) got really sick ( he got HIV) an he was in charge to take care of Jim in many occasions, his stepdad that was there since he was one year old left his house and mother for another woman and broke all contact with him ( he is 26 years old and still lives at home) and his brother left to another country, then his dad died and left all the inheritance to his other siblings and left him nothing and recently his grandma for diagnosed with a brain tumor. And he has been unemployed for all that period . I guess he really has has a rough 8-9 months.
About our relationship: we have broken up several times. Most of the times it was about trust issues about his female friends and my bad attitude towards it. And from my perspective he did not emphasize enough my ‘place’ with them.
So I have the bad habit of arguing through texts when he hates it. I just picked fights over text until he got really angry, and unfortunately I did not change that.
Like two months ago I caught him contacting an acquaintance through Facebook telling her she was pretty and asked for a photo with a kiss. When I confronted him he said ‘it was nothing’ and it had ‘no other intentions’ I obviously need believed that crap but I was to scared of losing him so I did not break up with him and asked for some actions and time to trust him again, like checking his cell phone or other things.
I have almost gotten over that however that doubt had not left. Additionally I have been really stressed at work and I always co plain about it and whenever I saw him i was really tired and almost always fell asleep.
Additionally since he was unemployed I payed for almost everything and u guess i insisted a lot on him choosing a profession ( since he has always been really doubtful about that)
So for the last week he was really petty whenever I told him my problems at work or any opinion with comments like ‘not everybody thinks like you’ ‘ you are always complaining and too negative’ so I got the message and for the last couple of days tried to improve that ( which obviously was not enough time) and unfortunately ingot really paranoid and over text I started apologizing for my behavior and told him how difficult it seemed to be with me and that u was afraid he met someone else who did met his expectations Etc
And I still don’t know why… Maybe for the stress in my job and family… U was in the worst mood. And on Sunday then he was the one in the worst mood and I perceived it and questioned him about it… He denied it but on Monday when we were texting I perceived it still and questioned/ nagged him about it. So he finally broke and told me something like ‘yes there is something wrong with me!! Are you happy now??’ So he asked to meet me after work.
So I went and that when he broke up with me with a ‘you are too negative and your familly fights all the time it is too stressful! I am not happy anymore and please don’t ask me to fight for the relationship this time!’ So I was comprehensive and tried to cry the least and just told him that I understood him and that I apologized for my behavior that the last days I had been tryin to change. So he responded that I didn’t change at all. So I calmly asked him for his expectations on the relationship and he responded ‘none! You are kit happy anymore too what do you want’ so I told him ‘I expect to overcome this and yeah there are some times I want to hit you and even hate you but I have never stopped loving you… But I see you have already made your decision so I guess there is nothing more I can say’
So he ran to his house for my things and automatically asked for his stuff back with a text ‘you give me my stuff later’ and when I got home ( it took me like half hour) he had already removed from Facebook the relationship with me.
So I am obviously still in shock for the apparent urgency.
Then since I borrowed his credit card for a monthly payment plan instill owe several payments so i asked for the total amount. The next day he just sent a text with a ‘you owe me that much and please don’t forget to send this things…’ Since I don’t have that amount i told him and he calmly replied that it was ok since they are monthly payments. And I told him to pick up his thing with my doorman this weekend ( but I had previously offered to deliver them but changed my mind) the thing is he did not even started with a ‘hello’ he just went straight to the debt. I don’t know… I am obsessing owe things I guess.
I have told you the bad but well I love him deeply I even think he is the love of my life I never cared about him being jobless. Whenever we were ok he was the sweetest man he was thoughtful and always listened and supported me through my crisis and I think most of times with his advice I was a better version of me. We had common goals on terms of future marriage and kids.
I don’t know if I should give up or if this is worth saving and if it is if he would want me back. I have obsessed these two days over my mistakes And his urgency to cut me out of his life.
Will this method work??
I seriously need advice
Thank you!!
admin
June 20, 2014 at 7:33 pm
Of course this method can still work.
Together 5 years.
What are your ages?
Sil
June 21, 2014 at 4:35 pm
We are both 26 years old. And I have not started the NC period yet.
The next day he broke up with me he sent a really cold message informing me how much I owed on his credit card but telling me I shouldn’t worry about paying right away and asked for some of his things back.
The next day he sent me the most random text asking me about a jar something like “What about the jar?” Which I did not respond.
The next day he sent a text telling me “Hi I know it is awful to talk about this but could you please pay this monthly payment before “x” day. Just take care of this payment and then don’t worry” which i responded “I’ll take the date into consideration don’t worry” and he then Responded “Thank you, sorry for bothering you I hope you are doing fine and still taking your allergy shots. Sleep well” I just responded “Ok, thank you. You too”
Then yesterday he called and I swear I accidentally picked up since I was at work. He called to ask for advice since he has already landed a job. So I just gave him advice since I used to work there and whited him success and good look.
I guess I will be leaving his stuff tomorrow with the doorman and getting the money to pay all the debt within next week or so since I will! borrow money from my mom.
I guess I should start the “official” NC period right after I pay and leave his things right?? And I am also wondering should I unfriend him on Facebook??
Thanks so much