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Nikki
January 28, 2015 at 8:02 pm
My ex-boyfriend and I dated for 5 months, he is Brazilian and I am American, he is 40 and I am 28. Our relationship was always pleasant really no arguing or drama just fun times with friends, going out, learning each other’s language, etc. I returned from a work trip Friday and he took off from his second job as security to spend time with me since I had been gone all week we went to the club and had a great time with his best friend and his girl. Saturday we spent the day together and hung out with his best friend and his girl, he even mentioned us having dinner and watching the fight at the house next weekend. We went to a Go-Go that night which he originally didn’t want to go to but decided to anyway. We went out and everything was fine until a guy sat down beside me and started talking a different dialect of Portugese and I kept telling him I didn’t understand. When my ex got back from getting us drinks he didn’t want to sit next to me because he said that he is my boyfriend and I shouldn’t have turned my back to speak to another man. Things escalated and we eventually left but his best friend and his girl kept telling me that they knew that I didn’t do anything wrong and that I am good person and no matter what happens they still want to be my friend. I tried to call him on the phone as I got in my apartment as he wanted to hand me back the jacket I had given him but I refused to take it, during our phone call he said we would talk later and hung up. The following two days I sent two texts apologizing for the way I reacted but also that I was saddened at his thought that I would disrespect him. That night we had been drinking and the next day I told him how I do not like arguing and I like the fact that we are always happy together and smiling and I wanted to go back to that. He refused to respond to me but his friend did contact me and told me that if I needed help during the snow storm I could always call him and he could help me out. On the third day he contacted me and told me he accepted my apology and wanted us to both live our lives, when i asked him if he wanted to work on things he said “no i am fine”. I asked him if we could talk over the phone instead of texting this out he said “not now”. He told me he could bring whatever I had left at his house and I told him I didn’t need anything back and I hadn’t left anything. When I asked him what was the problem all he could say was you were there that night you know what happened (kind of like these events occurred to him the same way they did when he had been drinking that night).All of his friends and family loved how positive we were together and everybody really liked me and always would express to him how I was a good person, even to that night his best friend kept telling me that he couldn’t get through to him but that I was a good person and he wanted to remain my friend. I am in the beginning of the NC period and I am still confused as to how this argument ended everything and why is he still in the mindset of how things were that night. He has always been sweet and kind and protective of me but now he seems cold hearted. I am starting this process because I would love to be back with him as we helped each other grow, gave each other new experiences, danced, cooked different foods, taught each other sports and cultural differences. Do you think me taking these steps will genuinely help or is my case just completely different?
admin
January 29, 2015 at 2:35 pm
I hear the brazilians are extremely jealous.
Brazilians and Latin men…
Very territorial.
I think he overreacted a bit but whats done is done.
I do think these steps can be very helpful for you.
nikki
January 30, 2015 at 1:58 pm
So I broke the no contact rule last night because he kept saying he wanting to bring me a watch that I left that I told him to throw away and when I told him just throw it away because clearly you will never understand how much I care for you and love you. He responded: no you don’t. I feel like he did this because I had not been begging and pleading or saying anything to him for two days and he just wanted me to tell him how much I care for him and love him and all that which is why he provoked me by saying “no you don’t”. Why wouldn’t he just throw it away after I told him twice that I didn’t want him to bring it to me? I have to start NC all over again now don’t I?
admin
January 30, 2015 at 4:47 pm
He is probably getting frustrated with situation.
nikki
January 30, 2015 at 4:58 pm
I am confused. Can you clarify what you mean by frustrated with the situation? He contacted me last night wanting to return stuff and i told him to throw it away and I haven’t been contacting him. If he broke up with me and wants nothing to do with me how can he be frustrated at the situation he created?
admin
January 31, 2015 at 3:22 pm
Men are really weird.
Often to cope with a situation they will put themselves in the victim roles (even if they were the ones at fault.) Often you will get blamed for it.
nikki
January 29, 2015 at 3:52 pm
Do you think that since his friends supported me and all continually told him what a good person I am that they will help at all? And during the no contact period should I not have contact with the friends either?
Kitty
January 28, 2015 at 6:06 am
Hi Chris I have been nc with him for 2 weeks he broke up with me but I just found out 1 year ago that incident he actually slept with someone and pied to me. So now I wanna move on don’t want patch back anymore shd i just send him a msg ti said I’m picking up my stuffs at his place tml?
admin
January 28, 2015 at 5:02 pm
You should, if you want to move on go get your stuff and that can be the last you ever see him.
Kitty
January 28, 2015 at 11:42 pm
So meaning if I go and pick up my stuffs it will he the end of our relationship he won’t come back to me anymore? If I want him to come back I need to leave my stuffs at his place and do the 30 days nc? Even when now he is already moving on and chasing another girl?
Ali
January 28, 2015 at 1:56 am
Hi, i just stumbled on this site… but my ex broke up with me 2 days ago and to be honest we’ve been having rough patches in the relationship since maybe end of november where we’d have talks and he’d be super close to breaking up with me saying “im 50/50 about loving you” or something like that. and id tell him id work on improving for him as well as letting him know i want him to help me work out our problems instead of ignoring it. and itd usually work for a little bit. then he moved into his new place the start of this month and it was all good i helped him unpack and clean and it was great. we cooked together and did things together and i honestly felt like he loved me… then 4 days ago he started acting weird and distant. he wouldnt give me a hug in the morning like he usually does, and he wouldnt say i love you until i repeated it to him once more. and then sunday morning he broke up with me. we made plans that day to hang out and then id stay over at his place for half the week. but that didnt happen seeing as he texted me to come outside my house and i see him with all my stuff packed up in bags beside him. he told me he was done. and that he didn’t feel anything for me anymore. that he didnt feel like he loved me. and that he felt like he wasnt ready for a long term relationship.
i kinda freaked out and told him that he wasn’t trying hard enough to communicate with me and that he always thought of the negative things. even the small stuff and he wasnt thinking about the good things enough. i asked him if he felt anything when i was with him the last few days and he said yes. from time to time he did. but now he just felt like it was done.
the key things i want to mention is he told me that we’d see each other again sometime. and that we could probably start talking again after a year or so. i asked him if he thought we could ever end up together again and he said maybe but it wont be for a long time like 5 years…. but he said he just didnt see a future with us right now… and this happened before… he broke up with me one other time 5 months into our relationship he broke up with me because we had a big communication. and after that first time i gave him around a month of no contact then i asked to see him again and he agreed to it. we talked stuff out and he realized what a mistake he did and asked to get back together to which i said yes (even though i wasnt really expecting it. i was only hoping wed stay friends). but this time im treating it really differently… it feels like this is so important. we had the same view of the future and had so much interests in common and i felt like we didnt have proper communication in the end… again. all im saying is… should i still try to get back with him even after we already broke up the first time and got back together?? i honestly really want to fix this miss communication because what we had planned together was so in common i cant really fully get over that. felt like we didnt talk enough. plus all our friends and family. even relatives know us and even expected us to stick together way longer… and all his friends are also my friends now so idk what to do… i dont want to avoid trying to do something about it. but i dont know if its the right decision after the first break up… and him being indecisive and immature by not listening and agreeing to comminicate..
admin
January 28, 2015 at 4:54 pm
50/50 about loving you?
No, thats not how love works.
That makes me mad.
Have you attempted NC yet?
Ali
January 29, 2015 at 6:42 am
yes im in the process of NC now actually but hes been doing stupid stuff… and its only been 3 days… like missing out on his classes in college that kick people out if they dont attend… and going out to bars alone.. on a weeknight and apparently already meeting up with “two nice ladies” as per my friend telling me as well as him starting to spread rumors that ive been too clingy… which was never a case… all im saying is its getting me pretty discouraged to try again… but i the NC rule is there for a reason so maybe in a months time he smartens up.
Ali
January 28, 2015 at 2:26 am
oh i just want to add that i also asked if a break would be better and he said it probably wouldnt work. and i honestly just want to know if trying to get back with him a second time would even have a chance of working?
Nick
January 27, 2015 at 8:45 am
Okay, I will be as concise as I can. Long distance relatioship due to work and studies. We were together for 2 years and were lovely. No fights, we always talked about all and always there was something dodgy, we fixed it and came back more in love than before. There were pressure from her family (i think because of religion) but i never knew the reason, and they really didnt show that to me. She stresses too much and I always gave her time, and twice she came back after a few days regretting treating me badly. This happened twice, the first time took a week, which i spoke to her as long as she did. She was stressed about what apparently her family was saying about me. But all good!
After that, again, so i gave her time once more. This time, i did not speak to her AT ALL. and in less than the first time, she came back saying she loved me. I gave her space anyway but we return to talk again, all was good again, all of the sudden, i text her to say something silly about a common friend and she flipped saying I was invading her space…i thought all was okay…she started talking to me all weird and after 1 week said wanted to break up, that she didnt love me…I was shocked, but i stopped talking to her. She said was going to do all this things like giving my stuff back and deleting me and remove her from our bank account so on and so forth…its been a month and none of those things happened. She deleted me form a gamesite, but nowhere else…
I slowly started to talk to her after 3 week since the “break up” line, once every 2 or 3 days, she replied with short answers but happy faces, i happened to know from a close source that she looked sad, im confused. We live 2 states away…what is the best way to start working on it..? I dont want to look needy or scare her. We really had the BEST of times.
Thanks,
admin
January 27, 2015 at 3:17 pm
Hi Nick, You should really check out my other site for men, Ex Girlfriend Recovery.
Marilyn
January 27, 2015 at 7:21 am
Hi, my ex broke up with me 2 months ago. We have a cat together and I have forbidden him from seeing the cat so I can move on an so can the cat. But ever since he left, the cat has changed and vet has been diagnosing the cat is going through depression. I have exhausted all my money and time to make the cat better but to no avail. I’m single now and I can’t lose the cat. I contacted the ex to inform him on the situation and he was the one who suggested to see the cat. Did I do the right thing? Will this dampen my chances of us getting back? I’m just really worried about the cat. The cat looks lost and always stay in my ex’s favorite spot.
admin
January 27, 2015 at 3:14 pm
Seriously, your cat is depressed?
Is that even possible?
I don’t mean to sound rude but I have never heard of that.
Marilyn
January 28, 2015 at 5:58 am
I understand, it’s mind blowing for myself as well but it has happened. And I have read through numerous forums and articles and this does happen. It’s even more with dogs. I’m clueless myself. But I can’t let an innocent creature be sad that way. As much as I am happy with life right now, watching her go down this road is just heart breaking. It’s really puzzling.
catie
January 27, 2015 at 2:50 am
Hi! This helped me boost my confidence on getting my boyfriend Back.he and I dated for almost 2 months. He was always the initiator.he told me he loved me first and wanted an apartment together. We moved in and after 2 months he moved back in with his parents and said he needed space. Heartbroken, I didn’t give him the space he needed. We talked things out and had a lovely night together until 3 days later he started to avoid me. The break up was Harsh” I feel trapped. I don’t love you anymore and I want to be alone.” Do you think meant it? Should I even try this method? Help!
admin
January 27, 2015 at 3:03 pm
Hi!
I am really happy this helped boost your confidence.
Definitely try this method out.
Chloe
January 26, 2015 at 5:46 pm
Right, a couple of weeks ago me and my boyfriend broke up I guess mutually but we were drifting apart at the end of our relationship and it got to the point where he ignored me so I text him then asking if he was okay and he replied with no and I asked why and he replied you and that’s when I asked what I’d done and if I could walk home from school with him to talk about it and his reply was nah bro, which really annoyed me anyway a week later was Christmas and I stupidly inboxed him on Facebook saying merry Christmas and he read it a day later and obviously ignored it but since then I haven’t spoken to him at all and have done the no contact rule, I do see him in school walking past me and I always feel like I should say something but I don’t I try and smile but I don’t aha but when he sees me it’s like he looks away or acts as if I was a stranger and we were nothing and it does upset me but the no contact rule is a great thing because I have thought through a lot and become a better person but what I want to know from him is what I did? Because I don’t know what I’ve done to then avoid when trying to get back with him, but deep down I know he doesn’t want me back is it still worth trying? Thanks for all tips.
admin
January 27, 2015 at 2:30 pm
Any reasons for the two of you drifting apart.
Kitty
January 26, 2015 at 4:21 pm
Hi Chris, I just broken up with my bf of 3 years. He is 5 yrs younger than me but his career and maturity are about same level as me so when I just started the relationship I didn’t know he is so much younger. Well anyway during the break up he keep emphasise that itβs over! Quoted by him: Too many things happened and things happened at the wrong timing and wrong situation, but itβs okay itβs over, it’s reli over i’m clear. Before this break up he was still sharing with me about getting wedding banquet in june etc. We started quarrelling becos i found out he have been chatting with a girl and went out for lunch tgt. So i called this girl up which happen to be my galfrd’s frd and ask her about what happened so he is unhappy but he has bad record of flirting with girls before and the last time he begged me to patch back with him which I did. So this time round he is angry becos he said this is just a friend and he felt he has no freedom no space and couldn’t go clubbing or night spot drinking with his frds. And when we are having fight there is this period he found out that i was playing dating app and he texted me but i ignore him for 3 days and he was very sad and painful and after i contact him on the 3rd day he told me its over, so i tink must be he is reli sad and decided to move on. The sudden change was shocking and his words was so hurtful even i explained how much i love him and hope for a chance for us he said no its over. so right now I decide to go with your no contact advice, it have been a week he didn’t contact me at all. Well I am thinking right now he should be dating ard or hanging out with new girls. I will be just cool. Do u tink there is hope for us to get back together again?
admin
January 27, 2015 at 2:18 pm
Sure, I think there is definitely hope.
However, you need to really follow the steps outlined on this page.
Why specifically were you on a dating app.
Kitty
January 27, 2015 at 3:14 pm
My frd ask me to check it out i was on dating app just for fun. Seeing how it works becos I caught him played it before as well. But I didn’t chat with anyone from there I just delete off my account after 1 hr but his frd saw me inside and screenshot it to him. Btw currently he is seeing someone. Looks like he has moved in completely. He is a stubborn and egotistic person.
Kitty
January 27, 2015 at 5:53 pm
He is in love with a girl now
Jessica
January 26, 2015 at 5:26 am
Hey, My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. I missed him for awhile after the breakup and finally just gave up until he asked me back one day but next morning, he told me he wanted someone else. I was heartbroken and was just speechless. I was in pain and anger so I moved on.I tried the no contact technique. Seeing other guys, however my ex was complaining recently about a guy I dated saying “He’s ugly, why are you dating him? he’s gross” I knew the fact he was jealous, but I didn’t really care. Now it got as far as phone calls with him. My friend which is his sister, sometimes called me to chat and my ex is on the other phone line listening. The phone calls weren’t all that great. We argued and were insulting each other. We pretty much were still talking about the past. Now what’s frustrating is that I get that he’s jealous but it’s difficult to have a nice conversation with him when all he does is talk about the past and the things he thinks of the breakup. What would you do if you were in my situation? oh by the way, we’re both adolescents so is it because of our maturity the reason why we can’t cool down? or…
admin
January 26, 2015 at 4:11 pm
Maturity yes but I have seen evern the most mature people go crazy in relationship sos its not just that.
Coco
January 25, 2015 at 8:31 am
Hi Chris,
My ex boyfriend contacted me after the no contact period and he seems to have feelings for me. He hasn’t asked me back or anything, he just told me how much he misses me and cares about me… Will he ever ask me back? Or is this something to just help him move on?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:43 pm
What have YOU done so far to make him ask you back?
Brittany
January 25, 2015 at 4:56 am
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up. We live 30 mins away and with us both having children from previous relationships, crazy work schedules,and other reasons,we were only seeing each other about once a week. We have been together for 3 years and I suggested moving in together. He made a bunch of excuses as to why it wasn’t the best timing for it. I told him if we didn’t move in together that I would leave him because I would not go another year without our relationship having any advancement.He told me he needed time to think and within that time there was a lot of back and forth bickering and disagreeing which ultimately led to a break up. Is it too late for us to reconcile? If we do, how will our relationship work if we still won’t be living together and only seeing each other once a week? Is there some sort of compromise in this situation? It kind of seems like an all or nothing ordeal. I love him and I want to be with him but it is hard dealing with all this distance between us when we have been together so long.
tina
January 25, 2015 at 3:51 am
Hi!! Please take the time and reply to my message I need help! Me and my ex have been dating for 2 months. It was my birthday yesterday and he came out to the club with his friends. He met my friends for the first time and I introduced him to everyone!! Im his group of friends there was this one girl he was constantly staring at…later after the club I went with my sister and my friends to another club he didnt come. But he texted me go have fun with those guys and dont call me tomorrow.. I introduced him to all my guy friends .. so I got pissed off because he didnt even wish me a happy birthday!!! Can u believe that?!?!?! He didnt even get me a card .. didnt even mention my birthday.. so I got so mad when I saw that twxted from him.. I was very drunk soo I cussed at him and told him never to call me back.. I tried calling him the day after (today) and he ignored all my calls and texts.. do you think he will call me if I dont contact him going forward?? Do you think he really doesnt want to talk to me anymore??
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:39 pm
I can’t guarantee that, that will happen but usually I have found that it will.
sapna
January 25, 2015 at 2:22 am
Hi my friend broke with me a week ago we didn’t have fight he just said that he is busy at work and it is not fiar on me to wait till he is free o see me, because in his past relationship when he while he was busy his wife cheated on him and i think he thinks that history repeat it self he never told that he is insecure becase of that but i think that is the reason the next day of our breaking up i text him once that we should give the relationship another chance but he said no and wished me good luck and told me that he hopes that one i find Mr right after that i did,
t contect him i am trying the no contact role but i text him today because a month ago he bought my a lottery ticket an last night i found out that i won some money on that i just let him know that i won some money and said hope all is well and his reply was (lucky you, spend it wisely) is that good reply or just he is been polite should i contact him in a few weeks or not
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:36 pm
He is probably terrified of being cheated on again and like you said doesn’t want history to repeat itself.
Elizabeth
January 24, 2015 at 4:18 am
Hi Chris-
I’m new to a small town and met a guy on my first wknd. We started texting and went on a few dates – which were super fun. He says how much fun he has with me, and how attractive I am to him and how I make him laugh – all good things. We’ve slept together (and it’s really good sex) and the last time we had a heart to heart i said that i wasn’t in it to be his wknd hook-up….which is when he said that he was being really cautious about me because I’m only here for a year and he has still feelings for his ex (they broke up 3 mths ago).
I said that I didn’t want to go any further if he’s thinking about someone else. I initiated no contact, and then saw him out on a Friday night (about 4 days later) – he walked me home and said that he really wanted to be friends and hang out and then he kissed me (which was confusing). He texted me the following Monday and asked how my wknd had been – I responded and then he sent me back a closed type of response about his. I haven’t responded since and that was 4 days ago. He’s the kind of guy that says/does what he wants and the fact that I’m not getting much from him makes me wonder if he’s completely lost interest…
Should I keep doing no contact? Should I reach out as friends and try to slowly build the relationship that way? Should I forget him entierly?
Thanks for your help!
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:52 pm
Yup keep doing NC.
REach out AFTER NC.
Elizabeth
January 27, 2015 at 8:52 am
OK – I caved (before I saw your response) and messaged him and it was a really positive conversation. And because I knew he wasn’t going to be somewhere he usually is on a Sunday afternoon, I met some friends there (all guys) for drinks – which I put on Facebook. Then the afterthought set in that maybe he thought I went there to see him and got the stalker vibe – which is the opposite of what I was trying to achieve. Are guys that clever? Really, my friends invited me and I just wanted to go out and have fun with them!
Salvageable if I keep doing NC??
Elizabeth
February 2, 2015 at 4:42 am
Hi Chris – Just waiting for an answer on my message below where I went to the bar he normally goes to and whether that’s creepy? Like I said, its a small town with 3 bars worth going to.
I found out that he was hanging out with his ex and her brother last Saturday. (He said before that they’re still good friends but that he doesn’t want to get back together with her…Although he didn’t tell her about me either) I’ve been in NC since last Sunday when I broke down and messaged…and he hasn’t reached out either.
Just reading this message makes me feel pretty pathetic. π
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:42 pm
Hmm… is it a frequented place by the whole town?
Is there like other bars people go to?
Elizabeth
February 3, 2015 at 1:39 am
There is literally like, 3-4 bars in this town… But this one is a beer garden…and really, the only place to drink outside on a nice sunny day…
The fact that you are asking these specifics makes me think that he did get the stalker vibe…shit.
Elizabeth
February 8, 2015 at 2:50 am
hi chris. It’s been two weeks and I haven’t heard from my guy. I’m wondering if he just got sick of me pushing him away and has given up. I don’t have any guy friends to talk to about this so I’d appreciate some tough love. Do you think he thought i was too difficult to deal with and now gave up?
Elizabeth
January 24, 2015 at 4:22 am
Sorry – I should clarify that his text with a ‘closed type of response’ was still super friendly!
Kitty
January 23, 2015 at 7:02 pm
Dear Chris, I didn’t get a reply from u on a question I asked earlier which is do u think it’s appropriate to courier his stuffs back to him or its rude to do so? Also i would like to listen to your advice and what exactly I should do if during no contact period he wants to pick up his stuffs or return my stuffs what should I reply? π
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:20 pm
Well, if it is his stuff then he is entitled to it and you can break nc.
Ntando
January 23, 2015 at 1:43 pm
Hi Chris
My ex and I are doing or were doing long distance. Since I can’t meet up with him after all these steps,will a Skype date also b sufficient? We used to spend hours on Skype when we were together.
Thanks
Kitty
January 23, 2015 at 4:58 am
Dear Chris, I just started my no contact period with my ex bf and what if during this period he msg me to meet up to collect my stuffs at his place or he would like to collect his stuff at my place. Should I reply? Or continue to no contact and no reply until 30 days end? Please kindly advise need your view on this hehe π
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:31 pm
You are allowed to reply to this (the only instance where you are though.)
Kitty
January 25, 2015 at 1:25 pm
What reply should i give when he ask to pick up my stuffs?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:47 pm
Something like,
“Ok, pick up your stuff at (you pick the place) at (you pick the time.)
Jasmine, from Sweden
January 23, 2015 at 3:18 am
I followed all of these steps. Eventually when I visited my ex (after the no contact period) i went to his place to get my things back, we ended up talking and in the end he literally begged for me to take him back. I did. One week late he broke up with me AGAIN. We had a fight about something he had lied about to me earlier, but I really need to get him back again, although he’s lost all hope in us now. I’ve promised myself to let go of the past if I can only have one more shot with him. Can I do the no contact rule again, and try again with him? Is it gonna be any harder this time? His birthday is in 3 weeks as well, maybe if i do the no contact rule once more and show up with a belated birthday present? Please tell me what to do, i can’t live without him! I know he wants to be with me too, but he’s sick and tired of all the drama, how do I make him feel like he needs me again?
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:32 pm
Wow, congrats on getting him back but I am sorry he broke up with you AGAIN.
What was the fight about?
Jasmine, from Sweden
January 25, 2015 at 12:38 am
well basically I found out that he was flirting with my friend when we had broken up, which he had denied. But during our second chance together I received proof that he had lied about that so we started fighting and just had this massive jealous fight about everyone the other had been with during our single-period. it was so immature but he’s got a lot going on in his life right now and he can’t afford all the drama messing it up for him. How do I make him feel like I won’t be a burden like that again? Is it even possible to get him back once more?
Rina
January 23, 2015 at 1:14 am
me and my bf broke up a month and a half ago we were together for 16 months..it all happened because my trust issues it was mostly my fault he tried convincing me but I was too stupid now he says he wants some time and I really want him back but I pushed him away because I was sooo needy I was sending texts 24/7to him…so what can I do to get him back? is it to late now?
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:24 pm
It’s not too late. Though I think your mission righ tnow is not to be so desperate with those texts.
Kitty
January 22, 2015 at 2:07 pm
Hi dear, I just broken up with my bf of 3 years. And he keep emphasise that it’s over! Quoted by him: Too many things happened and things happened at the wrong timing and wrong situation, but it’s okay it’s over. Before this break up he was still sharing with me about getting wedding banquet in june etc. The sudden change was shocking and his words was so hurtful so right now I decide to go with your no contact advice. Well he said that it’s over, whereas for my stuffs at his hse and his stuffs over at my place just leave it first. So I was just wondering should I courier it back to him to let him feel the pinch and also letting him know that I won’t ask for patching up again and I have moved on and no contact? Is it appropriate? Looking forward to your reply.