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Laura Abbey
March 20, 2015 at 11:48 pm
Hi Chris, my ex broke up with me after almost a year of relationship and I was devastated and refused to let go, he said he wanted to focus on work and school and I was not letting him succeed because of the way I nagged, I offered to change but he said no and tried to talk niecly to me. I left him alone and 3 days later showed up at my job to tell me how much me missed me, I had been so upset that I had contacted a guy I used to date just to get my mind off things, when my ex showed up at my job to say those things I recieved a text from the other guy and he read it , he then took my phone and read all our messages which I was just writing out of hurt and wanting to get my mind off him… my ex cried and told me he wanted nothing to do with me that he thought he had wanted me back but now that he read those messages he wants nothing, I tried to explain but he just told me it was over. What should I do should I try no contact? I have called and messaged him several times and he doesn’t want to talk
admin
March 22, 2015 at 4:43 pm
You definitely should!
Melanie
March 20, 2015 at 6:05 am
My boyfriend and I were together for nearly a year and he broke up with me in August. The breakup was pretty brutal to be honest. When I asked him if he loved me he said that “he thought he did.” Which was obviously horrible to hear especially since he was the first one to drop the ‘I love you’ bomb when we were dating. To say I was surprised is an understatement. I started to breakdown and told him to leave and that we were done. He was crying when he left so I can’t tell if it was because he really did love me or he just felt guilty. Who knows. But I didn’t speak him for nearly 7 months. My friends were pretty surprised by my Will power but I just knew I had to follow the no contact rule. I also had no intention of getting back together with him. But yesterday I had fully realized the the way out relationship ended just left me with a crap ton of anger and resentment so I decided to reach out. I also knew that even if he had felt the need to reach out to me he wouldn’t have, because my ex may have said he didn’t love me, but he certainly knew when to give me my space. I asked about his family and said that I didn’t want our last conversation to be so hostile. As I had expected, he was glad I reached out because he felt horrible about how things went down. It was very casual and we just caught each other up on our lives. I did all this before I read this article so I’m clearly on the right track but I’m just wondering if it seems worth it for me to continue the steps. Because a part of me has been feeling that he does love me. And that part of myself has been nagging me basically since we broke up. Sorry for the long post, this stuff needs explaining haha Any advice??
Lila
March 19, 2015 at 7:15 am
My ex and i were together for 2 years. We finally ended things because he said our relationship wasn’t progressing and he didn’t thinki i was the once. Ouch. So a year later it has been on and off again torture. i do no contact, he pops back up, same thing different day. So finally he gets mad at me because i’m a writer and he stumbled upon some blogs i had written about us (i NEVER used his name and the only people who would ever know are people who already knew) but he was pissed. He said that he kept trying to end things but that I wouldn’t leave him alone! really? he is the one who texted me after i tried to move on. Sure sometimes i initiated things but so did he! I am so pissed, but of course i still miss him and want him back. So I’m currently doing no contact (12 more days til I reach 30) then i am gonna try for 60 days. If he wants me to leave him alone then i probably should wait as long as hummanly possible right? Is there any hope for us? I know he cares about me but i don’t think he ever let himself really fall in love
Ploy
March 18, 2015 at 10:07 pm
Hi Chris,
Ive been seeing my ex for almost a year before we broke up this time. Last year we were seeing each other then he decided to go to work in australia, i broke up with him a few months after he went there because it was so hard for me. The we start seeing eaxh other again after he got back. Our relationship has been tough, hes a strange person but hes cool for me but sometime im trying to control the relationship for too much that we fight a lot. This time was big fight, its been a stressful time at work and i have no idea and bring that home with me, we started fighting over stupid thing like he was saying that im being negative and i can seem to get over it for days and the last day i brought up a fight all day and i couldnt even control my anger because of the stressful project im working on i even say hes being selfish and stuff but some of them are true so he gone. The day after i sent him a message of how sorry i am over what happened but he said that he cant be with me anymore or we should just be friend. Im giving him some space for now but i dont know what should i do or where im going right now. I still love him tho
Taylor
March 18, 2015 at 8:47 pm
So I read this having just been broken up with recently, and it has some great advice, but I’m still a little unsure about my relationship. We dated 2.5 years and had been fighting a lot, but talked it out after one particularly bad one and agreed to make changes to our relationship. Two hours after talking he comes back over and dumps me…I was crushed and then I see him out a few days later with another girl. I know you say wait 30 days, but we agreed to talk after 2 weeks. I realize I made a lot of mistakes, and have been seeking professional help for some of my issues, but Im not sure how he could go from telling me he wants to marry me to two weeks later kissing another girl. I’m just not sure how to make him realize that as I get better with my issues, I know our relationship can go back to what it was, and why he kissed this other girl…
admin
March 21, 2015 at 3:09 pm
Well, I think priority number one is figuring out what you want.
From there we can formulate a game plan on how to proceed.
T
March 21, 2015 at 5:20 pm
I want to show him that our relationship doesn’t have to be arguments all the time, and that my anxiety from other parts of my life was interfering with us, but now that Im seriously addressing it, it will stop. After 2 weeks I already feel much better about things. I want to win him back because like you mention-we have the same values and we have talked about sharing a life together and how the things we want we want together. I’m just trying to understand what to do and say. He said he loved me and 2 hours later breaks it off and says his heart isn’t in the right place. Yet 2 weeks ago my friend spoke to him and he said he was committed to doing long distance when I move in a few months because he loves me.
Taylor
March 23, 2015 at 6:14 pm
So he reached out to talk and when we did he said that he wants to be done now because he’s tired of putting my happiness before his. He said he’s missed me at times but he’s been happy doing whatever he wants when he wants without worrying about me. Mentioned he always will care about me and that he never wanted to hurt me. He was very emotional when we talked and I told him I would be willing to fix things but he stood by his decision. He told me there wasn’t anyone else. Said maybe his feelings will change down the road but he doesn’t expect me to wait. Should I just enter into the 30 days NC and work on being “the ungettable girl” and follow your guide from step 1?
Madeleine
March 18, 2015 at 5:10 pm
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me yesterday. We were in a long distance relationship and things were tough, but nothing that we couldn’t overcome. He told me he wasn’t happy anymore and that we needed to work on ourselves apart because it wasn’t working when we were together. My heart is broken. I was literally all packed to see him in 3 days. He said I couldn’t come visit him because it would just “reset the cycle” we were in. I’m devastated. He says I need to work on myself in order to fix our relationship. He’s still texting me, but it’s making things hard. He says he still loves me and that he he didn’t want our relationship to end, but that it had to. I don’t know how to implement the NC rule when he’s still talking to me at this point. Do I just all of a sudden stop texting back? Please help, I love that man more than anyone else.
R
March 22, 2015 at 7:30 am
(I know this is aimed to girls, but whatever)
I dated my long-distance girlfriend of 4 years (about 2.3 years of being physically close) and she broke with me about 2-3 weeks ago. At first, I went into denial. Days later, I accepted it because I felt that I could change her mind. However, things didn’t get any better since she just met someone and she started to hang out with him and get “way too close” to him. They barely known each other for about 2 weeks and I was surprised for the way she handed out the situation. She is always shy, introverted and you get the idea… I was totally crush. So for the next couple weeks, I did the bad moves: begging, needy, stalking… and on top of that, I was getting sick physically and mentally.
Today, I was being ‘extra’ needy and giving assumptions about that she was talking to him all the time instead of me… Yeah, and I even admitted I did wrong and she did got really pissed about it. After several minutes, things calmed down when we changed the topic and she insisted me that she does’t regret what she has done (break up) and we are not able to get back together. She told me it is for our good. This is when I stumble upon this website… So really HOPE I am not too late to start NO Contact Rule. We end the conversation in good terms, however. She said “See ya” and I said “bye (name)” and that was it. This is where I start my NCR.
However, the only way we did communicate each other the last couple months was Facebook Messenger and I plan to still read her messages (if she ever) leaves on my FB. But I made it a way that she won’t notice that I’ve seen her message. Should I really do that? Or should completely shut down all means of communications with her? I really hope this is the best for us, and I hope that if she ever dates that guy it becomes a rebound relationship. (Actually, she kinda broke up with me almost at the same time she met that guy. And from what his other friends says about him, he’s a player. I hope that’s good news.)
admin
March 22, 2015 at 5:40 pm
Lucky for you I created a site for men called Ex Girlfriend Recovery.
Simba
March 18, 2015 at 4:21 pm
We just recently broke up, noticed some stuff is missing in the stuff he gave me back, should I break my NC period to ask him not to throw out some of the stuff I’m missing as some of it is important but just looks like empty boxes/ rubbish. Im reluctant as could be reason to meet up when the appropriate time comes, and he might suggest posting it or leaving it with a friend/ relative who lives closer. However if he were to throw things out, I have less chance of getting him to agree to meeting up.
admin
March 21, 2015 at 3:04 pm
How important is this stuff?
autumn
March 18, 2015 at 2:39 am
Ok so my boyfriend of a year broke up with me and of course I was heartbroken. I did the worst thing I could do witch is beg for him to take me back . I then realize I was only hurting myself . I do want to date him again but it just feels like if I don’t talk to him first than he isn’t gonna talk to me . He s said that he didn’t want a girlfriend for a couple of years . What does this mean and what do I do ?
admin
March 18, 2015 at 9:23 pm
I doubt he means that he doesn’t want a girlfriend for a few years.
autumn
March 19, 2015 at 12:10 am
What do I do ?
Reba
March 17, 2015 at 6:50 pm
*I meant our shared pets!
irene
March 17, 2015 at 4:50 pm
Hello christ,thanks for being a friend in deed.
Please I need ur help. I have been dating dis guy for two years.but last year december he broke up with me cause all through the while we where dating we had sex jst once.now dis is because I was cheating.yeah I was,,,,now I cheated cause he was keeping too many babes nd well I had to do same instead of dying in silence. So wen he asked for brakeup I beg nd cried but he refused. I travelled for a week nd wen I was back I noticed he had gone back to his EX. Well I know he LOVEs me so I used dat advantage to get my way back to his life but the painful truth is dat he is still dating his ex nd things aint dsame anymore between us. But since I knw him, I was having my way not ontill today.we had another misunderstanding,,,we where talking about the past nd he got angry all over again. Since den he has refused to answer my calls or even respond to my messages on BBM. Pls wat do I do. Should I let him go? But bear in mind that I so so love him nd he loves me too. But.. Thanks christ.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:59 pm
I would go into NC.. you might be coming on too strong right now.
Robert
March 17, 2015 at 3:24 pm
Hello
I know it’s a little ridiculous because I’m over 40, my boyfriend broke up with me 3 month ago after almost a year, last month I sent him a message and he didn’t respond, just wanted my stuff back. I was so upset that I sent him a mail with everything I felt including how much I loved him and how much he hurt me and I was apologized for hurting him if he felt like this,he didn’t!
After that we spoke on the phone for 2-3 minutes and he was cold and cruel, said it is over between us and there is nothing to talk about.
I didn’t say anything in the mail or on the phone about me wanting him back, just wanted to see him and say goodbye properly
I went to his place to get my stuff, his friend was there and I couldn’t say anything …..after a few days I sent him another mail a goodbye mail.
I wrote it nicely I didn’t say anything that can hurt him I chose my words carefully and I was grateful for many things
He didn’t respond he didn’t say anything …..
I miss him very much , I don’t know if I want to get back to him, I just want to see him
Do you think I could or should send him a text message?
And what should I do if he doesn’t respond back and ignoring me again?
10x
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:53 pm
Sorry for the breakup.
Well, usually I recommend no contact after a breakup so I am not sure that bodes too well for your text.
Robert
March 19, 2015 at 9:39 am
The contact I made was 2 month after the breakup
He contact me after 1 month, asking for his keys , I left them in his mail box
Then after another month I made to contact, just to get my stuff back, he didn’t replay I did talk to him after and he was curl and mean
So I didn’t understand your answer
What to do if I contact him again and he doesn’t replay and ignore me again
Ava
March 17, 2015 at 1:55 pm
Hello Chris. I am at the texting shared memories. I sent him funny pics of us and our shared animals that are now with me
He didn’t seem hostile, but he said “it wasn’t right to send me those pics”. I’m assuming they are affecting his emotions? I also slipped in a compliment in that conversation. Can you give me some feedback on this? We’ve been apart since Feb 10th. Completed NC for 30 days. He texted me during, but I did not answer. He got a little angry, so But, I respectfully told him I would discuss anything business related. He was fine then, we discussed a few things and that was that. Now we’re here and hopefully working towards reconciliation. We’ve been together 5 years, have a house together, he and his son were family. How does it look so far? Also, for the meet up, I bought tickets before we broke up to a basketball game for us to go to. Do you think this is a acceptable for our “first date”?
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:53 pm
Looks good so far.
That is an acceptable/exciting first date.
I like it.
Ashley
March 15, 2015 at 11:38 pm
Hi Chris, i lost my dad 2 years ago and am still grieving his loss which made it hard to completely open up in my relationship. almost a week ago out of the blue my ex boyfriend broke up with me we had a few small fights and that turned into him thinking That I thought he was different than when we started out. He was really hurt. He took everything i said to the worst degree. He also said i shut him out or wouldnt let him in for awhile and felt he couldnt make me happy.. I met up with him the next after he broke up with me on the phone and said we need to meet in person, i told him it doesnt have to be like this, I can open up and he still stuck to his word and wanted to end it.. I unfollowed him on all social media but he still has me on everything and even liked my selfie 2 two nights ago. Do you have any advice?
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:51 pm
I am really sorry to hear about your father.
I am close with mine and I know I would grieve for years.
How long have you been in NC with your ex for exactly?
Megan
March 15, 2015 at 7:31 pm
So i read this a little while after u was broken up with. We had only been dating for two months…but he understood me better then anyone and he kept me level headed. He made me so very happy, but he has been through so many bad breakups he just couldnt see past the possibility of me hurting him.Which makes me feel horrible and helpless. I fear there is no hope, but I hope and pray there is. He is also bipolar, so i dont know if he was having a moment. I fear he is with his ex, that he still loves. I feel like i just wasnt good enough in his eyes.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm
How long after he broke up with you did you read this?
Bipolar is a pretty tough disorder to deal with. May I ask how old the both of you are?
Cam
March 15, 2015 at 3:59 am
My boyfriend and I had been dating for a total of 3 years. I say it like that because right in the middle of it we had a six month break up due to me being immature and wanting to explore new things. Almost a year and a half into our second half of our relationship he breaks up with me. We have been in a long distance relationship since about August and it really has torn us apart. When i come to visit we fight a lot and when I am away we also fight. We love each other very much , and he made a point of saying that over and over when he broke up with me about two weeks ago. What confuses me is that not two weeks before he had given me a promise ring and we were talking about a life together. Now he says that he has had doubts for a long time and it honestly just confuses me because he is not the type of guy to lead a girl on. Of course when he broke up with me I did everything wrong, I pleaded and begged and we sort of got back together for a day but with me being so far away we were not able to fix anything. I have just came to town 2 days ago and i went to see him in person so he could tell me all this to my face and he cried about the break up but insisted that it is what he wanted. I am trying the NC but frankly i am a little scared since i am only in town for the next week and i feel that with the distance it will be much easier to forget and move on for him. Should i do anything while i am in town and can have that physical contact?
Cam
March 17, 2015 at 9:02 pm
I have another concern… i hope you can answer. So he told me he made a mistake and he is very stupid for what he did but when i asked where we stood he doesnt know if he wants to be in a relationship but he says he misses me. i dont know what to do.
ren
March 15, 2015 at 3:48 am
So my boyfriend of two years broke up with me a month ago and I didn’t take it very well at the start, and said a few things I regret which lead to him blocking me on all social media and everything else. The other night he had unblocked me on Instagram and liked a photo of mine, then one of his close friends followed me. The next day he messaged me on Facebook having a huge go at the fact I had startd speaking to a guy he did not like that I had known prior to our relationship. He had logged onto my Instagram and snapchat (I had forgotten to change my passwords after the breakup) and got super angry at me. I then asked for him to asner one question “are you jealous and do you miss me?” His response was “I don’t need to answer your shit”
Do you think he is jealous, we went about 2-3 weeks without talking. Originally he had ended our relationship because I was a very clingy, suffocating person. However, over the past month we haven’t been together I have matured so much as a person.
admin
March 15, 2015 at 5:28 pm
Yup, sounds jealous to me!
ren
March 16, 2015 at 11:45 am
Do you think he would consider taking me back if I do NC??
admin
March 18, 2015 at 7:12 pm
I think it would be a step in the right direction but you will have to do more than just NC to win him back.
Tiffany
March 14, 2015 at 2:25 am
Chris,
I read your article and have a question. Does your guide apply to certain age group? I am 34 and my exboyfriend is 38 and I think none of us is at the stage of our life that we want to play game. Does your guide apply to my situation below because I am asking my exboyfriend for not a second but third chance?
We dated for about a 2 weeks then I broke up with him because I was scared that I might have fallen in love with him and I had not been with anyone or felt that way about anyone else in a long time before I met him and I was also dealing with other emotional issues. Two weeks after we broke up, I asked him for a second chance because I loved him. I expressed the reason why i broke up with him and he finally gave me a second chance even though I knew it wasn’t easy for him. We dated for another 2-3 months. We were so happy together and I got scared again, I broke up with him again. It has been 7 months now and I realized I am deeply in love with him and I hasn’t been able to move on to have feelings for anyone else at all. I regret and feel stupid for letting him go. I came see him about 3 weeks ago and tell him how I feel and that I am not giving up on him and I feel that he still has feelings for me. He said he would need to thing about it. Right now I am getting the feeling that he is angry so I am giving him some time and space by not contacting him at all. It has only been two days since I last texted him. Would the guide in you e-book be applicable to my situation because the last thing I want to do now is to “play game” with him or to act like that. I need to earn his trust back so I feel like I have to be completely honest with him. But a lot of articles/blogs out there mention that being honest about your feelings with my exboyfriend in this situation may not help me to convince my exboyfriend that he can trust me enough now to give me another chance. Please respond!!!
admin
March 15, 2015 at 4:34 pm
I think its ok to be honest with him but I think being honest with him at the right time is essential.
Tiffany
March 17, 2015 at 3:35 am
Chris,
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I’m going to wait a week, do you think that a week would be long enough for him to get over the anger? I am thinking about hand writing him a letter after a week of no contact.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:42 pm
I think it is a step in the right direction certainly.
It may take longer than a week though.
Tiffany
March 23, 2015 at 1:16 am
Chris,
I gave him the letter two days ago and still no word from him. He smiled when he saw me and took the letter. At the end of the letter I asked him to give me a chance to prove to him that I love him and would do whatever it takes to rebuild his trust and the relationship. Does the silence mean he doesn’t want to hurt my feeling for saying no or is he trying to make me sweat because I am. Please help me. Should I just give up? Honestly I don’t want to but maybe I should just let go of him.
K
March 13, 2015 at 5:02 pm
Hey Chris,
I’ve read your Ebook twice now to make sure I am prepared for this recovery. I feel silly for even buying it to be honest with you because I feel like I’m in such an odd predicament so I don’t know if its going to benefit me or not. You sound like you know what you’re talking about but in my head i feel like its a sense of desperation for me even though you say desperation is not an attractive quality. My ex and I recently broke up about three weeks ago. We have been together nearly 3 years and we’ve lived together the majority of that time. We are super in sync, we are the best of friends that only talk to each other about whatever going on, and we love each other very much. He’s a monogomous person who doesn’t like to play the field, and he’s the best guy I’ve ever dated. One of our biggest problems is that he sometimes doesn’t feel adequate enough for himself so he doesn’t think he’s good enough for me. 2/3 of him tells him he needs to be on his own to try and see if he will do better in life without worrying about me or anyone else for that matter, and the other part of him is telling him to work on things while being with me. He sent me a text the Tuesday before we broke up (out of nowhere) a picture of a male engagement ring with the text message saying “oh btw when you get me a ring”. We’ve talked about marriage, our kids names, and everything. He initiates and has an input in it all so I know we are serious. We have been planning to move to Whashington next year also. He then broke up with me after Valentines Day saying he is lost and confused about what he wants in life. He then told met he has to know if he wants me to go out of state with him or not because it wouldn’t be fair to me for us to go and not work out up there for some reason. The unfortunate part was that he had me buy our plane tickets two days before we broke up to go see his family and go to a video game convention together with friends. So I went and we stayed with his family for a week. (I had my own room) Everyone of his family members and friends were shocked by the news that we didn’t come together. They thought he wanted to propose and that they do not think its a permanent thing. He just needs time to figure out where his heads at, is what they say. As positive as I want to be to that idea of hope, they know him and they can see its a weird situation so that leaves me in fear of the unknown. I feel like I can survive this if it is over but I really do not believe its over between us. Our relationship had so much potential to grow, we both got too comfortable though. But with that said, on the trip we had a few hiccups where I wanted to talk about it and got emotional. Then he would pretend like nothing is wrong and try and make small talk with me throughout the trip, (which I was nice in response to but short with him). His best friend had a talk with him while we were there and he said that my ex needs time to miss me because he hasn’t been without me in a long time. He’s having a quarter life crisis is basically what i THINK I’m dealing with. His friends and family find his behaviors odd right now because he’s been quiet and almost mopey but when he’s around me in the same room he acts like everythings all okay. This is my second day of no contact by the way. we just got back from our trip and I want nothing more than to have him miss me. He says he’s being selfish and he knows it but he doesn’t have answers. He said he might get out of this rut that he’s in but he doesn’t know. He told me that he missed me so much that he cried in front of his mom when he took his things to his moms house. He still has heart emojis and Mrs. (his last name) for my contact name in his phone still. He still has his XboxOne, games, Tv, and shoes at our apartment. Why would he leave? I ask myself that, and I KNOW where I went wrong.
*Gained 60 pounds dating him (I’ve lost 40 since we broke up)
*Lost all confidence in myself and sexual appetite (I’m finding this again)
*Didnt go out as much with friends (I’ve made some plans already)
*Became extreme homebodies (I’m in the gym now a lot and doing other things)
If you have any insights for my specific situation I would be happy to hear from you.
admin
March 15, 2015 at 4:11 pm
1. Definitely the right idea with the weight loss. Congrats! I bet you are feeling much more confident.
2. This probably has a direct correlation to 1.
3. Perfect!
4. I am really impressed.
My only advce would be to have one heck of a first contact text prepared.
Gwen
March 13, 2015 at 1:59 am
I have really enjoyed your in-depth articles, absorbed them, and now are ready to apply them.
I entered into a relationship with my best friend of 10 years. Due to the stress of my divorce, etc. and our individual pasts, we cycled through arguments. These arguments became very heated because of a power struggle where we both needed to be “on top” and would escalate. Last argument, he told me to get our (for the 10th time in the past year during our relationship), and here we are.
Nothing else has worked and I have decided to start NC. NOT to get him back, but, as recommended, grow as a person. I had been talking to a therapist. He has not, but he was open to listen to discoveries I made about myself and my goals as a result.
However, other than doing what it is supposed to do, I truly wonder in the back of my mind if it will reset the parameters in our relationship and we can start a new cycle. Mainly because I have been having some deep introspection and also he has said and continues to say:
1) I don’t know where we are
2) It’s not you, it’s me
3) we aren’t broken up, just taking a break
4) I’m not sure that I’m as IN love with you as I should be for this
5) We can still talk
It’s all those phrases above that lead me to believe that the NC rule will benefit him also and give him some perspective. Am I wrong to believe that? Don’t worry, my mere existence isn’t hinged on the possibility of us getting back together. He broke my heart, but I know (and I told him) I’ll be ok.
Also, while I didn’t necessarily tell him about the NC rule, I did tell him I got rid of all his information so I wouldn’t be tempted to contact him. Was that not wise?
Lastly, for any advice to readers that might be having problems with NC, I took drastic measures. I deleted all his texts, number, emails and email address. I decided to also take a break from all social media sites. I deactivated my FaceBook account and changed passwords to impossible things I would never remember BUT I wrote those passwords down on a piece of paper with all his information. Folded it up in another piece of paper, put in envelope and wrote on envelope “do not open until [date ending NC]”. I handed this envelope to a trusted friend and told them to keep it and do not give to me prior to that date no matter HOW badly I beg.
Let see how I do. Unfortunately I’m only on Day 1 🙁
admin
March 13, 2015 at 8:47 pm
Not a bad idea with the envolope thing and the trusted friend.
I might use that in the future.
Kelly -J
March 11, 2015 at 7:18 pm
Hi chris!! So basically after he said that he was “dead”, i waited like 2 weeks to contact him again! I used the “jealousy txt” he didn’t answer BUT he did unblocked me on fb the same day! !! I don’t understand why? I was blocked for like 6 months ! Do you understand why he unblocked me ? He didn’t talk to me ever since he unblocked me but why? I find that weird lol… Thanks!!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 7:33 pm
Probably because you got him thinking with that text.
Kelly -J
March 11, 2015 at 7:20 pm
Sorry i don’t know why but my last comment is separated from the rest of my situation 🙁
Kelly -J
March 15, 2015 at 7:57 pm
Yeah,probably. I don’t know if he’s going to contact me… What should i do? Should i wait for him to initiate contact or just move on ? Thx Chris!