The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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livvy

August 21, 2013 at 7:44 pm

Hi chris- your website is so helpful.
My ex and i broke up yesterday but it was quite amicable- i realised he needs some space and that the break up wasn’t to hurt me, and explained to him im not angry. I explained that I’m busy for a bit anyway and that we should meet up in a month and he agreed. Do i use the NC rule? Any ideas for what we could do together when we meet up?

admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:47 am

Absolutely you should go NC. What do you plan on doing during it to improve though?
livvy

August 22, 2013 at 3:24 pm

well i have self confidence issues so i’m focusing on my healthy eating and exercise more. I’ve figured out a few problems that I know solutions to as well. I’m hoping that they can be worked on if he agrees to get back together ( as they’re to do with friends and spending time together therefore need him involved in order to change them). Thank you so much for this website, it is so brilliant to actually see a little bit into a guys world! Any other tips for improvement during the NC?
admin

August 23, 2013 at 6:46 pm

Socialize more, work on becoming more confident, things like that.

I talk a lot about what to do during/after NC in Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my ebook. Now, I realize that you do have to pay to get it. However, if the price is that big of an issue just email me and we can do something about it to make it more affordable for you. If you aren’t interested then no hard feelings. I will still be here.
sophie

August 25, 2013 at 7:34 am

Oh god! My mate and i went out to town last night, I (drunkenly) rang him a couple of times with no pick-up by the seems of it- i reckon i may have left voicemails. I sent a fairly innocent enough text saying ‘come dance with me’ to him. I got no reply at all. Does this mean i gotta start my NC again? 🙁 Has this ruined my chances?
admin

August 27, 2013 at 3:06 am

yup, start NC over. That wasn’t your best move probably.
livvy

August 23, 2013 at 9:02 pm

I will consider a purchase! One question i have is i know youre not supposed to contact them during the NC, but what if they contact u during it and realise they made a mistake? My ex is quite a young lad and him and his mates go out and drink at the weekends to the point where I could see him trying to get in touch… Am i to just give in immediately or am i supposed to wait the 30 days?
admin

August 25, 2013 at 6:49 pm

I think if you sense that he wants to say “come back to me” or “I made a mistake” you should break NC but that rarely happens.

Anna

August 21, 2013 at 4:25 pm

Hi Chris,

Have been following your site for a while now. I completed the NC period successfully and have been doing a little texting. We are going to hang out for the first time (not quite ideal but it is his son’s birthday, whom i became close with, so the three of us are going to hang out Friday night. Was just wondering if you had any tips for how to behave during the meetup that you hadn’t already listed? Should I still limit it to one hour? Should the vibe be flirtatious or just friendly? Should I casually bring up good times from our relationship or should I steer the conversation towards new things that have been going on?

Thanks!

admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:35 am

I want you to say these four words “LEAVE HIM WANTING MORE”

You want to hook him in your interaction and then leave after an hour. You want him to actively miss you and want to see you again.

Molly

August 21, 2013 at 1:09 pm

My ex and I only dated for 5 months or so. I am a student and live at home and he is 25 and has an apartment with a roommate and a full time job. From the beginning of our relationship, my circumstances and where I am in life were a problem for him. He would often make me feel bad about it without meaning to, saying things like “so have you thought about moving out?” or telling me his experiences and how I should look at things. I would try to show him what I needed by telling him how proud I was of him with his work and everything, but I was never shown that same respect or appreciation. However, I really thought he was the one and so did everyone else. I went on vacation for a month when everything was going really well. We talked everyday and I couldn’t wait to get home to him. When I got home, he took me away on a romantic weekend. He met my friends after 5 months of complaining he hasn’t met any of them. Then two days later calls me and tells me we are just in two different places in our lives and he doesn’t have strong enough feelings for me. I was and am still shocked. How could things be going so well and then BOOM. And don’t I at least deserve to be broken up with in person? Then he texted me yesterday on my first day of

Molly

August 21, 2013 at 1:12 pm

School saying good luck on my first day and that he had been thinking a lot about me. Obviously I was shocked and hurt and mad and like why are you texting me?? I just responded with thanks! Hope alls well. Do you think he wants to come back? I know if he does there are serious issues that need to be addressed and changed. But I would love any opinions. Is he regretting his decision??
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:09 am

Hello Molly,

So, you are in one of those BOOM (que sad music) breakups. A breakup that seems to come out of nowhere huh? Those are the worst :/.

Try not to focus so much on him. Lets focus on you and how you can improve. I say implement the NC period for sure. During that time look to evolve. I talk about this extensively in Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. If you are looking for a step by step guide somewhere down the road then you should get that one.

For now, just focus on trying out NC and making it through alive hahaha.

Nessa

August 21, 2013 at 12:02 pm

Hi,
I broke up with my bf for almost 3months ago. He did everything to make me feel good in this relationship, he adored me and bought me gifts and I was not happy, not because of him but because of some childhood abusive things that I suddenly started to recall from my past… I did not understand that I needed my own space and needed some professional help. After a while I had been upsett and make him feel guilt of my bad feelings he dumpet me. Really soon after that I got some professional help and I feel I’m back on the good track and I know what I can do in order to make him feel good around me (not by pouring all of my bad feelings on him for the first)… The problem is that we’ve had some contact all the way, mostly because of the practical reasons, we lived together… And I’ve send some letters, gifts and basically done everything wrong otherwise too! We also talket on the telephone over a week ago and he said he loves me but cannot see himself with me ever again and he want’s me to find a new guy… I’m not happy about that. We had some future plans together, build a house and we shared same values and interest but still had our own lives… He was really good to me. I have no problems in finding a new guy, I take a good care of my health and I exersice (been doing that long before I met him at the first place). And right now I do look alot better that I did before the break up (he doesen’t know it thow) !!! I do get attention quite a bit from guys, but I want him beside me… How can I do that..? After the break up all he wanted was time and I’m kind of sure that I didn’t give it too much to him… He do not think I’m desperate or anything. We have planned to meet up because his son has 3yrs birthday so that I can meet him and give him a present… Do you think I could have a chance to get him back and how could I persuade to make him feel good about the thought of being with me again?
Sincerely, Nessa, Norway

admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:00 am

I do think there is a chance, that doesn’t guarantee your success.

Definitely read this article and (pretty much every article on the site b/c there is a lot you can learn from them all.)

Of course, if you want a true step by step plan I recommend checking out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.

Right now though I say you start your NC rule.
Nessa

August 28, 2013 at 3:10 pm

Okay, so you lost our previous conversation. Hmm. Can you see it when I comment here? 🙂 Well the point was that I’ve been in NC 3 and half weeks now with my ex. He has contacted me two times for some practical stuff and thats that… Does it still count..? Or do I have to start all over..? I feel that my ex really cares for me, but he don’t want to get back with me even thou he knows I’ve been working with my flaws…
admin

August 29, 2013 at 3:49 am

Oh, you don’t have to start over

CHILD PLEASE…

(sorry, I just was in the mood to do that.)
Nessa

September 10, 2013 at 9:01 am

Okay, so I’m meeting up with him on thursday in order to give a present to his 3year old son… He was not too exited but agreed we can meet. I have a feeling that he has started to hang out with his first love (she lives in another city) and I think they are hitting off. But I’m just guessing… How should I act and what can I do when I meet them..? I’m sure I can not ask about her…
admin

September 11, 2013 at 1:53 am

Yea, don’t ask about her.

Treat him like your gay best friend. That’s the best way I can describe it hahaha.
Nessa

August 29, 2013 at 7:43 am

Haha, thanks, I feel like a teen now 😀
admin

August 29, 2013 at 5:48 pm

Feeling like a teen is awesome. I wish I felt like one every day 🙂
Nessa

August 22, 2013 at 10:00 am

Alright, thanks. I read quite a bit of your articles last night and I saw how horrible mistakes I’ve already done 😀 hahah, you snooze you loose… I’ll start with the NC and we’ll see how it goes! 😀 Have a nice weekend!
admin

August 23, 2013 at 6:29 pm

Sorry for the late response. I was in a really bad mood yesterday (like incredibly bad) so I decided to take a break from this site. It wouldn’t be a good idea for me to answer comments when I am angry. Good luck with your NC period. If you need any help just let me know.
Nessa

September 2, 2013 at 11:44 am

Hi, I’m past 3weeks of my NC period. Doing fine, but atm I’m having a little hard time not to contact him b/c I feel that he is mentally too far away now… I don’t think he has anyone new thou… How should I make the first contact next week or the week after that? The plan was to see his son and give him a present. So I thought if we’d go to a playground and play, just the three of us. Is that fine? 🙂 thanks!
admin

September 3, 2013 at 3:00 am

I would contact him first with the first contact text on this page to gauge where he is at.
Nessa

August 27, 2013 at 4:28 pm

Hehe, no problem. I have been on a small vacation my self so I didn’t see your comment before now 🙂 I hope you’re on a better mood what ever it was that caused you to get angry 🙂 BTW, my NC was working good until now that my ex send me message, but again it was just some practical stuff and thats that. We just send a couple messages and nothing else… I hope that’ll still do 🙂
admin

August 28, 2013 at 3:50 am

Dangit, you know I was telling someone else that the one downside to having tons of comments is the fact that some of the ones you answer get lost in the fray. That literally just happened I can’t find our previous conversation at all.
Nessa

August 21, 2013 at 12:22 pm

i’m 26yrs he is soon 29yrs. We lived together a year and dated on off a year before we moved together…

Bianca

August 21, 2013 at 12:23 am

I just got out of a year and a half relationship with, in my opinion, the most handsome guy I’ve ever seen. He was a great boyfriend and even though we were on and off, we always found a way back to each other. I was always extremely jealous and I didn’t trust him because of his past, but he was always loyal, he didn’t cheat. I hate to say this, but I cheated on him early in our relationship. It really was like you said, out of emotional reasons, but we talked about that and he forgave me. The problem right now is that he doesn’t feel the same way about me, but everytime we see each other and hang out, it feels so perfect and so real. We used to see each other a lot in high school, but now we go to different schools and he works so it has been much harder to see each other and truly feel the happiness that we share together. I love him so much, he is the only person who I can rely on to be there for me without fear of judgement or impatience. I admit that I’ve lost feelings for him too, but I still want to be

Bianca

August 21, 2013 at 12:24 am

with him. Yesterday he told me that he wants to do his own things and that he has feelings for someone else, but I can give him everything she can. I haven’t been strong in our relationship and I haven’t been showing him that I can be a good girlfriend or wife. I love him so much, I want to be everything for him. I know that I can be. I just don’t know how this would work if he doesn’t feel the same way about me. I don’t know if he’s just saying that, because he has said things like that before and swears that it was only because he didn’t think it would work and didn’t want to get hurt anymore. Today in the morning he said he would come to my house friday, it’s his only day off. I want to have faith that he will come because we always could talk things out, but I’m afraid he won’t come. If he doesn’t then I will start this process, but I don’t know if there’s any hope. Do you think there’s hope for us?..
admin

August 21, 2013 at 5:05 am

I think there is hope but realize hope doesn’t mean you will have success.

Have you started your NC period?
Bianca

August 21, 2013 at 10:46 am

No, I haven’t.. He’s been planning to visit me, so I don’t want to make it for nothing..

Ash

August 20, 2013 at 11:05 am

Hey Chris.I just love what you do!Thank you!

SO i have a question.My ex boyfriends says he knows very well what i am doing.(I don’t talk to him anymore.Didn’t for 10-11 days)And he started saying things he never used to.Like he called a friend randomly ”babe”. First he never said something like that ever before.And he never called me like this.And then he said to someone that he will ra*e her as a joke but he never said stuff like that.He never said something like this to me.I don’t understand.Did he change so fast?Even his friends are suprised by his behavior.And then he said to someone that he is dissapointed with me?Is that good?And why does he still talk about me to others?

admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:28 am

That is very strange. I don’t think people can change overnight. I think maybe he is just affected more than he is letting on by the breakup.
Ash

August 21, 2013 at 9:28 am

But he is the One who broke up.And he was angry when i deleted our Stuff Or the Stuff i made for him.He still has the Necklace he bought for us.And he is stalking my Facebook .He was quite angry when he saw that i deleted him from there.And he Says to everyone that im happy and has everything under control.
admin

August 22, 2013 at 2:37 am

You say those things and to me they just sound like he really has feelings for you still.
Ash

August 20, 2013 at 1:36 pm

And a mutual friend is teelling him some sh*t about me.That i’m leaving my friends because of him.Which isn’t true at all.But he doesn’t believe me.He believes her.What should i do?I want to clear this problem but i don’t want to break my NC
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:34 am

Just let it be. Drama subsides with time always. Try to look at in terms of the long run instead of the short run.

laura

August 20, 2013 at 9:10 am

Hi its me again, I left a msg nearly a moth ago explaining how my bf left me after 3 years and just as we were supposed to move in together, i text him last night after 16 days NC purley because i wanted to post all his things back to him. I sent him a really casual text, hoping he was well and asking for his address, he replied almost straight away but didnt even ask how i was, or show any gratitude for me posting his things, just giving his address and saying there’s no rush! I dont understand how someone can be so heartless! do i need to now continue with moving on and start from scratch 30 days NC or can I continue just for the 2 weeks?

admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:14 am

Continue for the 2 weeks and don’t take it personally. He wasn’t trying to be heartless he was just being straightforward with you.

kristin

August 20, 2013 at 7:32 am

My boyfriend just broke up with me after we dated for 3 years. We both just graduated high school and are heading to college within the next month. His reasons for ending it were that he wanted more independence and freedom in college and that “he didn’t feel the same as he used to” and that I complained to much and it didnt make him happy but I blame myself for being away from home to much this summer. I tried to convince him that we could work things out but he said it was over. I was very angry at him and continued to text him even when he wanted space, now were just texting regularly and he wants to be “friends” because we’ve been each others best friends for the past couple years. I am in love with him and miss him and want him back but don’t know what to do. any ideas?

admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:13 am

Initially the NC rule is the best way to go. Being friends is great and everything but generally speaking you don’t want to be friendzoned forever.

Ann

August 19, 2013 at 6:03 pm

I had a relationship end on bad terms while I was in the hosptial due to a heart attack. I basically was very upset etc for weeks trying to rap my brain around why a man I was seriously considering marrying would act in such a way. Then I got phone calls from his would be friend of my bf’s who I never meet(2 1/2 years relationship and never once says a thing about) while in the hosptial asking how im doing… what woman in her right mind calls like that. Later I find out he started having relations with this woman. At that point I could care less what he said. It wasnt intill later on I found out this new gf is causing him real issues ( she is a alcoholic jealous nut calling his family etc) and he to blind to see it. It was extremely hard to not step in but I stayed away. Now its been 6 months and we slowly talking again as friends. Ive done alot what you have said on the ws. This is my first time reading this. I will have to add from personel experiance the NC works highly. But at this point after getting my life back on track after my heart attacks its better to just move on.

admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:26 am

First off, I hope you are ok after the heart attack. That should be your number one priority. Are you eating healthy now?

I think you can go ahead and give it a try. However, if it conflicts with your health in any way I would say to just move on. Not guy is worth your life not ever.

Gaby

August 19, 2013 at 2:56 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up after a year and 1/2. I’m still confused as to who broke it off. We had a fight and I told him to leave, he came back a week later after i asked for his help only to tell me that we were done and that he was only here for help. He stayed for a week but during that week, we barely talked, he asked not to be touched and even avoided talking about what had happened. This hurts me because my children are very fond of him and call him daddy. This was hard for me because I didnt want my children to get attached to someone if it wasnt the real deal. Anywho, he told me the reason it couldnt work out was because I didnt give him stability, and I always told him to leave when we would argue. I know that was my biggest mistake, but I just didnt know what else to do. Last Thursday I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling and I got the rejection. It was hurting me more to have him there and not being to hold or kiss the man I love than to just have him gone. He told me he loved me, there was no doubt in that and he didnt want anyone but me, but he needed stability and i didnt give him that and that he just wasnt happy anymore. I love this man, and either with or without me I want him to be happy. I know this is the man of my dreams and im so scared that he is not coming back. My kids ask me all the time where is daddy and I just break into tears. I feel so guilty and crushed. We havent talked for a week, no text, call, nothing. I know you talk about your no contact rule, but im a strong believer that with distance only two things happen, they will either miss you or forget you. Any advice will help, even some comfort. Im still going to try the tips you give but im so afraid of the rejection. Please do help!
Thanks

admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:11 am

If you are worried about rejection you can try the minimal contact rule I suppose. Or just limited contact where you are only allowed to text him once a week and that is it (try that for 30 days.)

rosie

August 19, 2013 at 2:54 pm

I cheated with my boyfriends and broke up with both.

Im applying nc rule with my ex boyfriend that i want to get back with.

Right now i Need your opinion whether i should or shouldn’t hang out with my other exboyfriend (the one that i cheated with). As before broke up we planned to go to concert together.

admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:10 am

Hmm… that is tricky. I would say do not hang out with him. However, I wouldn’t want to miss out on a concert…

Professionally speaking: do not hang out with him.

Personally: go to the concert but don’t take any pictures that could wind up online that could make your ex jealous (this is a case where its a bad idea to use jealousy.)
Rosie

August 20, 2013 at 7:16 am

most probably my ex boyfriend’s friends will be there. How if they see me again with another guy?

of course I need to go out with him (going together and hang out) if I proceed with the plan.

by the way,

need your advice whether i should go out for a date during NC period? What if my ex’s friend see us?

I don’t want same thing happened when one of his friend took a picture of me with my other ex boyfriend and sent to him. My ex was sad and angry of course.
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:11 am

Yea, I can understand that. You are in a tough position b/c you want to go but you don’t want to upset your ex.

I guess in the end which matters more to you? The problem is that getting your ex back isn’t a forgone conclusion.
rosie

August 22, 2013 at 12:42 pm

Omg, at first i dont put any hopes but yes, after 22days of nc rule, my ex boyfriend that i want to get back with is texting me..asking how do i do..sort of thing..

Seems like ur guide n advice is useful n true..well another 8 days to go.

Btw to reduce risk, it is better i focus on on thing which is to get back my exboyfriend. I need to prove to him that i am a loyal gf n changed..

Oh ur ebook is already out!
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:41 pm

Yup, you can find the ebook here: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/ex-boyfriend-recovery-pro/

Courtney

August 19, 2013 at 12:08 pm

Hi Chris! First off, this is really cool of you to let us all get a glimpse into our exes brain through you- so thanks! 🙂 I have been dating a guy on and off for the past year. A few months ago he said he wanted space to, “figure things out.” He says that he knows eventually I want to get married and have kids and he is not sure that he ever wants that and he wanted time to figure things out because he said it wasn’t fair to me to keep getting closer and more serious and then not want to get married. I’ve always believed that if you love someone you want to be with them, so I basically feel like he says this stuff because he wants to have fun and keep me on the back burner. We have great chemistry and when I am with him I can tell that he cares. I just don’t understand the break stuff and I have a really hard time with it. I want to give him his space, but I am also afraid of losing him, sadly I think the fact I haven’t been able to give him his space is pushing him further away. I have been a real a*hole about it and I have drunk texted him horrible things this past weekend. I decided to start NC today, but maybe I should shoot for longer than the 30 days. Do you still think there is a chance or is he saying this stuff to keep me on the back burner? Have I ruined everything by not giving him his space so far? I am working on myself I started new workout classes and I am doing more with the girls. I have never loved anyone or saw myself marrying any guy I have dated, but I see a future with him. I am just afraid I ruined all of it.

admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:56 am

Actually you will find that 30 days will be like torture. So, I say you just stick to the 30 days for now!

It is possible he is keeping you on the back burner but we can hopefully work to flip the table on him and have him chasing you for once. I know you are afraid you ruined things with him but you haven’t. Just give it some time.
Courtney

August 22, 2013 at 11:53 pm

Hey Chris! I am about to buy your guide, mainly just to support you because you are doing all of this for free and I think that is awesome and two I know it will have tons of great advice for now and for the future. I am on Day 4 of NC. I am actually getting more angry with him than missing him, don’t get me wrong still miss him, but definitely more angry. A part of me feels like I shouldn’t contact him even after the 30 days because if he truly misses me he will contact me, right?! I just don’t want to be on the same cycle I have been with him the past year. I want him to come back because he wants to not because I sent the perfect text to him. I just don’t want to be the one contacting him if he is the one that wanted space I guess. Does that make any sense? I want him to be the one chasing me I guess I just don’t see how he is chasing me if I do NC and still have to contact him at the end of it.

Disclaimer: I am an overemotional girl going through a break up right now- so I guess it is better to be rash with questions to you than gnat texting him. haha
admin

August 23, 2013 at 5:41 pm

Wow THANK YOU COURTNEY! Please let me know what you think of Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.

That makes a lot of sense. That is typically the way to do things (get him chasing you.)

Sometimes (guys who are really stubborn) won’t contact you during NC even though they really miss you.
Courtney

August 26, 2013 at 5:36 pm

Hey Chris,
I haven’t read it yet, but hopefully I can order and read tonight.

So new development. I definitely think he would be the too stubborn guy you are mentioning to reach out even if he missed me. He definitely threw me for a loop this weekend though. Today has been a full week of NC. Yesterday, I went to church (one of the things I wanted him to work on during our time a part was his relationship with God- I told him he needed to fix that relationship before we even had a chance of fixing our own). So I pull in the parking lot and see him. I thought it was so strange bc he knows I go there even if he forgot I’ve checked in on fb there before. I go sit down and he comes and sits two rows in front of me. I didn’t recognize the two guy friends he was with but they definitely seemed to know who I was. I just didn’t make eye contact or look in his direction. He kept looking back I could see in my peripheral vision, but I didn’t so much glance that direction, nor did he come up and speak to me. 1) do you think he went in order to see me? 2) if he did, what does that mean? He didn’t speak to me or anything. So confused! It was literally the last thing I expected!
admin

August 27, 2013 at 3:47 am

Hello Courtney!

Let me know what you think of the book once you order it. I am really interested (and can take criticism I promise.)

I think he definitely went to see you. I think he is just curious about what you are up to. Haha but I think it was an awesome thing to have happen!

Mollie

August 19, 2013 at 11:29 am

Hi,
So me and my ex were engaged for just under 9 months and had been together for 2 years. Everything was going great, everyone could seehow happy we were and we had an engagement party and he confessed his love for me. Now a few months after the engagement party he says he is still in love with a girl he liked 3-4 years ago, we broke up on mutual friendly grounds saying he needed to work out things with her. I miss him terribly and he keeps changing from loving her to thinking we have a chance again after all this. When he asked the girl out all those years ago she said no and they lost contact until a few months ago and now he’s saying that he thinks that his heart belongs to her, they haven’t talked much and don’t know much about each other so I’m wondering, is he just in love with the old her? He says he still loves me too and I believe him with the way he acts around me. We’ve been broken up for a month or so but when we are together (sometimes its unavoidable) the chemistry builds up and he can’t stay away. I want him back terribly but I don’t know if I’m wasting my time, I’ve never felt this way before.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!

admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:50 am

Seems to me like you have a lot of chemistry with your ex fiance. What signs has he exhibited that say he is interested in you?
Mollie

August 20, 2013 at 5:23 am

Well, firstly there is the constant texting, he still tells me he loves me, if we are together he can’t keep his hands to himself, also he has never had a sexual thought about this other girl. Oh and another thing when I was forced to stay at his house with his family this past weekend I said id leave him alone after this weekend a.nd he said no he didn’t want me to and that he would find ways to make me stay (we sleep in seperate rooms as his parents are very strict about that sort of thing)
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:01 am

Hahah those are actually fantastic signs!
Mollie

August 22, 2013 at 4:43 am

Yes he is the jealous type…
Well I feel much better about it today so hopefully I can stick it out.
admin

August 23, 2013 at 5:42 pm

You will find that emotionally some days are better than others. Don’t worry, I am the same way.
Mollie

August 21, 2013 at 4:24 am

Well that’s good to hear, at least it means that I’m not delusional… I’m just worried if I cut him off for 30 days he will think I’m not interested anymore and go out with this girl (who isn’t a Bad person, I have nothing against her).
Oh and another sign is when I said someone on a tv ad was good looking he got all jealous.
admin

August 22, 2013 at 1:32 am

Hahaha that is funny that he got jealous over an ad on T.V.

Well, it is a possibility but I have found that NC is the most effective method to getting an ex back.
Mollie

August 21, 2013 at 3:05 am

Today I started the NC period and I didn’t tell him I was going to obviously, however he sent me a good morninv text, then one later in the day when I hadn’t replied and another one just now saying he is worried about me, and if I don’t want to talk that’s fine but just let him know I’m ok.
I haven’t replied but I’m struggling not to at least let him know I’m ok. Should I still continue not contacting him?
admin

August 21, 2013 at 5:11 am

I will give you permission to reply with a “I am doing fine, thank you” then complete the NC without any more hiccups.

miley

August 18, 2013 at 5:18 am

After he had his accident he called me to let me know he was ok on saturday, sunday, tuesady. He posted our songs on faceboo. During those days as we broke up july 9 last spoke on the 29 of july. He called me thursday asking if i would consider reconciliation. I told him you broke up with me bc you are in a relationship with her and im not gegoing to be second choice. Today he posted a pix of him with his gf on fb. I felt humilliated that those songs werent for me but for her and he still called thursday wanting get back together

miley

September 4, 2013 at 10:21 am

This makes me wonder how will react to see me out on a date….
admin

September 5, 2013 at 12:16 am

Might be intersting…
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:04 am

Well you want him back right? Isn’t that the whole point of this?
MILEY

August 19, 2013 at 7:04 pm

HELP!!! I think I blew it!! he called me thur the 15th to ask if I was willing to get back together. grrr I’m so upset bc I told him you are with someone else!! he hung up on me and on saturday he posted his gf’s picture and him hugging her on facebook!!! is there any hope??? our anniversary is tomorrow and his birthday on wednesday. the NC has been in effect since last thursday I’ve been good bc I didnt call him after seeing the photos on FB!!! we dated for almost three years. he told my friend it is hard for him to fall in love with his gf. is there any hope!!
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:36 am

Haha there is hope. Whether he likes it or not he has real feelings and this new girl isn’t his top priority. He is probably just using her.

that is my two cents anyways.
miley

September 7, 2013 at 1:11 pm

You are right!!! He has made it clear he has moved on but why parade this relationship like its such a big deal?
admin

September 7, 2013 at 11:56 pm

To get a rise out of you like I said.
miley

September 4, 2013 at 10:18 am

What i ve noticed is that whenever we talk and he alludes to gettingback together and I say no or do not answer his calls he posts chronicles of his relationship with his “friend” as she has been introduced on fb.
Yesterday je called 4 times and when I didnt answer he posted a pix of himself with gf and his kids, a “let me love you ” song and a “at thisoment im happy to have you in my life” post two months dating fresh out of a 2 and a half relationship with me.
Is it me or is he trying too hard to either prove he is in a relationship or he is happy with her so please leave me alone?
Whats your take? Im confused…..lol
admin

September 5, 2013 at 12:15 am

I am leaning more towards the “trying to prove he is in a relationship.”

I could be off though but that is what I think.
miley

September 1, 2013 at 5:06 pm

Thank you!!! My heart is broken and i neef time to heal but it hurts so much. Id rather give up than hold on to wishful thinking. Even if he came back things will never be the same.
admin

September 2, 2013 at 2:34 am

Well, I am always around so feel free to pick my brain!
MILEY

September 1, 2013 at 1:03 am

he made sure he posted a picture of themselves together. he is trying very hard to prove hes in a relationship with her.

at this point i give up hope.
admin

September 1, 2013 at 4:51 am

Maybe you should focus on healing from the breakup if you are giving up. I am here for you either way.
MILEY

September 1, 2013 at 1:00 am

yes, his-friend with benefits as he referred to her as. she asked for a transfer and move in with him after dating 1 1/2. he says he’s not ready but what he says and does are two different things.
miley

August 31, 2013 at 1:43 am

He left me for this woman a month and a half ago. They got ino a spat the next day shes posing loving with someone elsr and he takes her back. I might as well give up hope so much for 2 1/2 years .
admin

August 31, 2013 at 2:30 am

So, is he still with this woman?
miley

August 28, 2013 at 6:24 pm

Agreed an intense relationship
MILEY

August 27, 2013 at 7:08 pm

we talked three times last week. on Friday he called to ask me a silly question and left at that.
on Sunday I sent him a congratulations text for his birthday. turns out she was using his phone and saw the text. she confronted he admitted and deleted from Facebook.
yesterday he calls me and tells me she wanted to move in with him but he wasn’t ready. later that night she posted a cozy picture of herself with another guy.
this morning we are talking and he starts questioning me about my twitter account.
i told him have you seen your girlfriend’s Facebook page? maybe you should before questioning me….he got mad and hung up!!!
HELP ME NOW WHAT????
admin

August 28, 2013 at 4:06 am

Whoa, that is a lot of drama.

Calm down and take a break that’s what.
MILEY

August 21, 2013 at 8:12 pm

we talked today. he says he loves/misses me and blames me for the failed relationship. what surprises me is that he claims to know this girl for 3 months and has been dating her 1 1/2 months and he has taken her to his house, slept over, involved her with his job, posted pix of them as “friends” on facebook and met his family. i suspect this has been going on longer and if so was he dating her during our 2 1/2 yr relationship?
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:51 am

What makes you think he was dating her during the 2 yr relationship?
miley

August 20, 2013 at 5:38 am

Im waiting for him to announce hes in a relationship or sometjing else to hurt me on our aniversary or he wont say anything at all. Not sure if hes moved on or playing games…im staying with nc and wait to sre if absence makes thr heart fondet..
miley

August 20, 2013 at 5:31 am

Rebound relationship posted on fb to make me kealous. Im commited to 30 dsys off fb and NC. Today is our aniversary and im feeling ….not good.
admin

August 21, 2013 at 4:02 am

Oh no :(. How can we help?
MILEY

August 19, 2013 at 7:16 pm

I could not stand the heat and deleted my facebook page …for at least 30 days
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:36 am

Hahaha, if that is what you feel is best.
miley

August 19, 2013 at 7:35 am

Yes, i did ang got rid of my fb. He had 2 he was spying on me with. It hurts to see him parade and idolize her like he did with me all in less than 2 months
miley

August 19, 2013 at 7:50 am

I was on it but he had an accident and I contacted him thats why he called back and told me do you want to work things out but hes with someone and i dont feel right he has his cake and eat it too.
admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:37 am

I think you are right not to feel right hahaha.
miley

August 19, 2013 at 2:27 am

From what im hearing they have been talking off onsince May but started dating a week after the final breakup on the 9 of july. He sounds happy, says have a lot of chemestry and hes taking her to meet his family and spend his birthday on sunday. I really thonk i should give up!!!!! Help!!!
admin

August 19, 2013 at 4:03 am

Have you started your NC period?
miley

September 7, 2013 at 1:41 pm

I get the impression that this is a charade. Hes the only one posting pix of them together not her.
admin

September 7, 2013 at 11:56 pm

Well, if it is a charade it is really sick.

Arabella

August 18, 2013 at 12:21 am

Me and my bf been together for 2 years. We broke up a couple of times before but after one week we would always get back together. He never said “I love you” in these 2 years and that made me being cold most of the time with him. He said he cant express his feelings,he’s not romantic etc. He had a 8 years relationship before me and that woman cheated on him, I always thought he cant express his feelings because he was hurt. He treats me nice and we have alot of things in comun. Our friendship is great, our sex is awesome. We never moved together although we had talked about it. 3 months ago I decided to end up the relationship making him to decide to commit or not. After 3 days i told him i want him back and he said no. Since then we’re broken up.First he said he needs a break, then he said he wants just to be friends and that he wants to be with someone else,and last week he said he’s thinking to get back together but he’s afraid it might not work. We talk and see eachother once in awhile, but no sign from him that he wants to come back. He says he’s very confuse and he doesnt know what he feels, just that he cares and thinks about me and that he misses me. He hasnt been with another girl since we broke up, and he mentioned a few times that he wants to have sex, and I refused. Now he thinks i’m playing hard to get and that I never loved him. 3 weeks ago I went out with the girls and posted pictures from 2 different clubs and in “response” to that he changed his profile picture with us from facebook and replaced it with one with himself. 🙁 I still have his apt key and some of my stuff there,he didnt ask for the key back.
What are my chances to get him back and how do I do that?

admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:34 am

Did you read this page? This has a lot of great information on how to get your ex back!

Heer

August 17, 2013 at 2:57 pm

I’ve a weird problem…
We broke up a month ago but we still fought.In the start i said i want to close my account on YT (We were both editiors) So he wanted me to stay.A week ago i said to him i can’t be friends and started my NC.But somehow he thinks i do it for his attention.But i just wanted to give him space.So he is now dissapointed.He says i do not have patience.I don’t know what to do.Today it is the 7 day of my NC but i think i lost him

admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:11 am

For some reason I don’t think running back and begging for him will work very well. Do you?

Not trying to sound mean or condescending here but just wondering if you think that approach would actually work?
Lara

August 18, 2013 at 6:48 am

Im Not going to Veh him ,im doing my NC.But he Kinde Thinks im doing this for his attention.He also tries to make me jealous
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:05 am

The fact that he is trying to make you jealous just means that he really cares about what you are thinking.

Sophie

August 17, 2013 at 1:41 pm

Hi there – this guide is so helpful. You really made me feel positive, even if it doesnt end in getting back together, at least I have a way to keep myself busy thanks to ur guide!
I was wondering if u could offer an opinion on this?
my boyfriend of 11 months broke up with me a couple of days ago and as of today i’m stopping texting him ( the no contact rule) altho hes coming to get his stuff on monday. He broke up with me as he wasn’t sure if he wanted a long term relationship. We’ve both had a lot of sad things happen in the last 3 months ( the time he said he’s been thinking about ending it on- and off) and I was wondering do you think it’s worth trying to get him back?
we spoke the other day and i could still see he cares and loves me, but felt he needed to do it. He told me it’s the hardest thing he’s ever had to do.
Do you think he will want to get back into contact?

admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:08 am

Hahaha I would be shocked if you two don’t communicate in the future at some point.
Sophie

August 18, 2013 at 7:05 pm

thank you for that 🙂 Very happy you replied so quickly! What kind of thing would you suggest about doing together if he agrees to meet me? He works full time and spends a lot of the weekend out with his mates… he’s a football fan, maybe something like that? as neither of us drink coffee :/
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:42 am

Maybe a lunch date?
sophie

August 28, 2013 at 4:17 pm

Do i have to wait until 30 days are up since the breakup to ask him out? I only want to chat and watch the football with him… but I’m scared if i ask too soon he may get angry and snippy.
admin

August 29, 2013 at 3:56 am

Yes, you do unfortunately.
sophie

August 27, 2013 at 6:10 pm

I was thinking asking him out for a drink in town at the weekend or lunch at the weekend. My friend tried to convince me to ask him out now ( his week off) before I go home but i dont think that’s a good idea! He told me good luck for my exam today. I am hoping to go for a lunch date or something casual
admin

August 28, 2013 at 3:59 am

If you are going to go out I would shoot for a lunch date.
sophie

August 26, 2013 at 3:41 pm

What do you mean by PO’d?
I accidently replied to the wrong conversation up there! I acicdently drunk texted him but it was innocent enough so does it still count as breaking NC?
Any tips for after the meet-up?
admin

August 27, 2013 at 3:52 am

Sorry Sophie, I go through so many stories a day that it can be confusing when people reply to the wrong conversations hahaha.

I would say don’t sweat the drunk text haha.

Where do you plan on having the meet up again?
sophie

August 24, 2013 at 11:03 am

he agreed to meet up with me in a month. i dont know what to do if he contacts me during it- im scared if i ignore him he may not want to see me again. I can tell there are feelings still there as he’s gone and changed his twitter bio to make it seem like he doesnt care anymore which to me just indicates that it still plays on his mind?
I’m very confused as he was very kind about the breakup- even letting me stay over and took a day off work the next day. We dont have mutual friends though so i cant know anything from his side for a month 🙁 what should i do?
admin

August 25, 2013 at 11:31 pm

I think that you would benefit from staying in NC. He may be initially a little PO’d but trust me when I say that he will want to see you in person eventually!

Mikki

August 17, 2013 at 12:29 pm

I did long distance with my ex for a year before moving from Michigan to Louisiana to be with him for a short period. During this time I was unemployed and my insecurities definitely got the best of me. I became very needy and made him feel like I didn’t appreciate him enough. We lived together for two weeks after our break up and he helped move me home. He was still trying to do all of the things a good bf would do. He acted as though we were still dating during this time wanting to cuddle, go on dates, and trying to have sex. After he returned home, he tried to have normal texting conversations as if we were still together. After a few days of this I calmly told him I needed to have no contact so that I could move forward. I would still like to be with him but I don’t know if he would ever be interested in another LDR with me given how I was when we lived together. It’s annoying bc in LDR I’m fine and he’s the one with insecurities. No contact has been going well. I’ve been staying super busy and found some new hobbies that I love. Should I try getting him back later even though we will be long distance again?

admin

August 18, 2013 at 4:05 am

I am proud of you just for trying NC. A lot of people don’t have the courage. You should try getting him back later even if you are in long distance. Your chances will be better in person though.
Mikki

August 19, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Do you have any long distance advice? I definitely can’t see us being in the same place any time soon. We had been planning a weekend trip to DC in October and after we broke up he said he still wanted to go with me. Would that be a weird meet up if we kept our plan?
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:04 am

It is on my to do list. To put together an epic post for long distance relationships. It’s tough though because I am trying to get this ebook out that I have spent two months on (really excited it should be live this week.) However, once I finish that all up I am going to tackle LDR.

I know you want it now, now, now but I am doing the best I can for you guys and the ebook I put together is like an exact step by step plan that will help A TON!
Mikki

August 23, 2013 at 1:48 am

I’m 20 days into no contact and he’s texted a few times, just random little things, a link to an article I would like to read and a reminder that we’re missing an event we had wanted to go to. One of the nights he texted me, I stupidly tweeted about being out with another guy (just as friends!). Like I said before the distance has always made him a little insecure and now I’m afraid I’ve blown it by my tweet which definitely hits on his insecurities. I want to finish my 30 days NC, but now I feel really stupid about blowing my chances.
admin

August 23, 2013 at 7:18 pm

No, in fact you may have just made him realize how much he wants you.
Mikki

August 21, 2013 at 3:45 am

I can’t wait to read them both! I’m just really concerned because this is his second long distance relationship that hasn’t worked out so I don’t know how likely it is that he’d want to get back into one with me. But I feel like he feel in love with me once long distance so maybe he can do it again! Lol
admin

August 21, 2013 at 5:10 am

I agree, besides you mine as well try everything before you throw in the towel.

Marina

August 16, 2013 at 2:18 pm

Hi Chris..

I broke up with my boyfriend.. after a few month he contacted me and said he missed me.. we started seeing each other.. but after a week I found out ne moved on to another women..
I of course was upset and asked for an answer calmly..
I never contacted him or chased him or begged him for anything..
Its been a few month but I never lost my hope to get him back.. What should I do?
Thank you

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:26 am

Tried the NC rule yet?
Marina

August 19, 2013 at 1:59 pm

Yes..I tried the NC rule.. Now not sure how or if I should communication in any way to let him know that I am still interested to start over .. What would be your advice? What are my future actions should be? Many thanks
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:02 am

Well, you start with a text. Go the the first contact text section on this page and it should explain everything from there on.
Marina

August 23, 2013 at 8:11 pm

Thank you for all your advices.. I texted my exbf and he did not text me back.. its been over a week.. Prior to that we met at the party and he was all over me and we ended up kissing and more.. So next day I sent him a short text.. and then silence from him ..
Not sure now what to do..
admin

August 25, 2013 at 6:48 pm

Stay in NC for a little while. The problem is that you are chasing him instead of the other way around.
Marina

August 21, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Thanks much for directions.. I read the contract text section.. but not sure what are my first words should be.. and what if.. He does not respond..
admin

August 22, 2013 at 3:42 am

It is a possiblity. But eventually you will have to start contact with him.

Make sure that first text is so interesting itll be impossible not to respond. I have a lot of good ideas in Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO if you are interested.

Zahra

August 16, 2013 at 1:52 pm

i’ve just come out of a relationship (i ended it) and it wasn’t very clean, because i had a rebound (who was a good friend of my ex) and now i really miss him and really wan him back but obviously he doesn’t really want to give me a second chance… he doesn’t have a phone and is rarely on facebook, but he’s going away sailing for 2 months anyway… which would be good for the whole no contact thing.. but there are just heaps of factors that make it hard to follow all these things that you’ve said.. we’re both still in school by the way, so even when he gets back it’s inevitable that i’ll see him eventually.. any advice?

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:25 am

He will be gone for two months and there is nothing you can do to change that. So, look at it as if you are preparing for the test. You have two months to do everything you need to do to evolve before he comes back and you can try seeing him again.

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