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Kristin
December 28, 2013 at 5:50 am
My boyfriend of over 5 years and I broke up about a month ago. We were still casually dating and very much romantically and physically involved with one another. Randomly I found out that he had been seeing other women while I thought we were trying to work things out and I got very hurt. I know we have the same life goals and care for one another. I did no contact for about a week and he reached out…he reached out again for the following two days and I gave in and responded. I love him so much and miss him…I told him how I felt, we were able to talk on the phone but I haven’t seen him in person. Now, he won’t respond to texts and I think the NC rule should be implemented again. Have you ever seen NC go wrong? I’m scared of sending the message that I don’t want to be with him. I look great, I’m doing great in my career, and I’m honestly very happy with myself…why is no contact so beneficial again? I would live some help!!!
Kayla
December 28, 2013 at 5:39 am
Hi Chris
My ex- broke up with me back in October, I was/am still extremely crushed by this, since we had such a great connection, and truly bonded over so much. This break up came out of no where, and he used the “it’s not you it’s me” type reasoning for ending things. We’ve ran into each other a couple times at mutual friends events. We haven’t had any contact, and it’s been over 30 days since we’ve last seen/talked to each other.
I did first contact step, and got no reply.
What could be his rational for ignoring it? Is there any hope? I’m afraid if I try again I will appear clingy, and we still have quiet a few mutual friends, so I really don’t want any bad blood or rumors between us.
Any other advise?
Thanks!
Belen
December 27, 2013 at 9:30 pm
Hello Chris,
Thank you for giving your point of view from a guy.
I work with this guy and we dated for 3 months exclusively, he never felt he was good enough for me, he told me he was intimidated by me.
His family and friends really liked me and his mom told him not to be dumb and mess things up with me.
2 weeks ago I found out he was planning to go out on a date with a girl that started following him on instagram and she was commenting in everything.
They been talking for 3 weeks. You think I still have a chance with him? He use the phrase “It’s not you, it’s me”.
We see each other every day, but we work for different departments, but sometimes I have to communicate with him for work. How can I do the No contact rule?
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:24 pm
Could you perhaps do a limited contact type of thing.
HH
December 27, 2013 at 7:35 pm
Dear Chris,
So my ex and I have been broken up for about 3 1/2 months and the first 2 months we talked about every 2 weeks with me initiating it. Then I did the 30 days of nc and then texted him something that made me think of him and i got a decent response and then for yesterday i texted him to see if his Christmas went well cuz i didn’t hear anything from him on Christmas. So after i texted him we basically talked on and off the entire day and he has been liking my post on fb for the past few weeks on a weekly biases. But during our talk I used the remember the good times. I just feel like I am being friend zoned or if he really wanted to be with me he would be with me again or try to chase after me….i don’t know I am just frustrated and I just want to lay it out for him and tell him how I feel….Any input on this?
Thank you so much
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:04 pm
I wouldn’t lay it out until you are sure he won’t freak out with a huge emotional conversation.
HH
December 29, 2013 at 8:56 pm
Sorry this the same person…just a different email I think…I have to many of them lol cant remembered which one i used last
But the other day I asked him what he thought about getting back together for coffee to catch up when he got home….cuz he is on vacation and he responded yeah we could for sure do that, and he doesn’t know at the moment but we could figure something out when he gets back sometime…..Am I on the right track with him?
And also maybe making a page about the friends zone and how to tell if you is be nice and is an awesome idea cuz i still feel friend zoned
HH
December 27, 2013 at 9:16 pm
have i been friend zoned with him? especially for the first 2 months keeping contact
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:12 pm
Maybe I should make a guide about the friendzone..
jasline
December 27, 2013 at 3:00 pm
Hi Chris,
my ex boyfriend and I broke up a year ago. For the first few months he did contact me. But I was with a new guy. After not long I broke up with my new guy and decided to return back to my ex and started to realised he started seeing a new girl. Before they two were together, I met up with my ex trying to get him back before It’s too late. But things does not turn out well. Now that they are still together. And I wrote him some letter to encourage him in life, nothing about our past. He still reply to my msg as well. Both he and his gf are together coming to a year. Yet I have my stuff at his house and not yet collect back. Should I ask for my things back? Should I continue to wait for my ex?
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:50 pm
Yes, you are entitled to your things
jasline
December 28, 2013 at 12:17 am
What if I asked for my stuff and that comes to the end for us. how should I ask him about my stuff? How should I get him back?
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:41 pm
Hahah ask him “hey can I get my stuff back.”
jasline
January 1, 2014 at 2:58 pm
LHmm I really not Sure shld I let go or shld I be patient and wait for him.
MT
December 27, 2013 at 1:57 pm
we were unofficially a couple. he did acid once, went aloof for a week and then he says hes not over his ex, i started with NC the next day, and he’d message everyday. i had to use limited contact because he’s in my college. then he ends up telling a friend that he messed up things that he couldnt get so involved. he sees me in college, he’s all over me. and then he ignored me. so i ended up telling him that i like him and that i miss him to which he said ookay.
he talks sometimes, sometimes is all over me. and sometimes doesnt message at all. he calls once a week though. he’s done acid for three days and hasnt talked to me. i didn’t initiate either
what do i do?
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:47 pm
Unofficially?
What does that mean?
MT
December 29, 2013 at 11:12 am
we werent dating, or we were.
but i wasnt his girlfriend he wasnt my boyfriend
LucyL
December 27, 2013 at 4:24 am
So my fiancĆ© and I have been together for a little over three year. We actually just got a house that we could move in together. Two days ago we got into a fight and I said some things that I shouldn’t have. We ended breaking up. I’ve actually text him one saying I was sorry for the things I said out of anger. He didn’t respond. Where do I go from here now? I love him so much.
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:30 pm
Have you NC him yet?
Steph
December 26, 2013 at 10:18 pm
Hi
My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago, after 3 years of relationship and plans of wedding. Everything seemed to be great and fun.
His reasons were he’s not that much attracted to me and also he doesn’t feel the urge or need to get married. He stills in contact with me after all this time and flirts a lot with me. We talked about us a few times and he says he loves me and see a future together, but is not motivated yet to get back together. A few weeks ago we made out at some party and he admitted he doesn’t know why he is playing games because he loves me. I tried to talk about it and he ignored me.
I know he has been partying a lot, meeting new people, texting like crazy with new girls but he told me he doesn’t want anything serious with anybody but me (when? I don’t know).
We work together so I haven’t been able to not talk to him. When he notices I’m fading away and not into him anymore, he starts to text me , sends me funny pics, tells me how pretty I look, sends me articles about how a good marriage should be, etc. etc.
I’m tired of getting my hopes up and down. I know I need to cut him off 100% (or the most I can) but I’m afraid he won’t come back. I feel he won’t because he hasn’t feel like it in all this time even if he says he misses me, I don’t see him doing something radical to get me back. We even had some dates but that’s it.
I see us fading away more and more.
Everyone says it’s a crisis he’s having and he’s trying to grow…. I see it too, but I have offered him my help on it and he doesn’t want it.
I feel I’m letting all my hopes go, even if I love him and I know he does love me too, he just doesn’t want to come back.
I have tried being nice, being totally cold with him, nothing has worked yet š
Both of us are 32 years old.
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:11 pm
Are you leaving him wanting more? Have you done NC yet?
Steph
December 28, 2013 at 6:08 pm
Yes, I leave him wanting more. I know he expects me to come back , he expects that I share with him my stories on a daily basis and I don`t do it anymore. I don’t reach for him anymore, he’s the one who contacts me but small stuff, like wishing me good day, sending funny stuff, leaving me candies at my office… but not contact after work or the weekends. I feel him taking 3 steps towards me but at the same time he goes back 4 steps, ’cause he realizes he’s getting too close.
He sees my pictures and tells me how beautiful I am looking (I changed my looks,lost a bunch of weight, I’m going out and doing my social life).
Have not been able to do the NC rule because we work together and we have to talk.. I did the NC rule the first two weeks but we started talking again because of our jobs. It’s pretty stressful and I know both of feel it.
Remembering about how we solved our fights before, I was the one who 95% of the times initialized the contact because he tends to ignore the harsh situation until we feel comfortable again, there’s no tension and we talk about it in another mood.
I have the idea of talk to him tomorrow to define he really wants to work on this or not. I’m pretty sure he stills wants to party and have the best hot woman he can get. And I will have no more choice but to start the NC rule and applied the most I can.
What do you think?
Thanks so much for reading me.
Shannon
December 26, 2013 at 9:58 pm
hi Chris!
my bf broke up with me last night saying that he needed to be honest with hmself and that heās unhappy with the relationship. He also said heās been thinking about sorting his life out and heās had a lot happen recently in family.
He says he cares for me and he doesnāt mean to hurt me and that iām the nicest person heās ever met and i deserve to be happy; heās always thought heās not good enough for me and he broke up with mebefore because of this and his family problems getting to him. he says he hasnātbeen happy in a while and he doesnāt know what else to do. he says hes sorry etc but i dont want to be without him. Is it worth trying again to get him back?
He also texted me yesterday and favourited a selfie picture of me on twitter. he said he still cares for me and thinks im beautifulā¦ but wonāt get back with meā¦ Do i just have to wait again and see if he changes his mind??
admin
December 27, 2013 at 7:07 pm
I wouldn’t just wait. I would work on leaving him wanting more in your communication.
Shannon
December 27, 2013 at 8:43 pm
other than NC how would i do that?
Sandy
December 26, 2013 at 8:54 am
Hi Chris, I know that you are probably a very busy man, but I would appreciate it if you could help me out! My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago and I have been crushed ever since. We were together for a year and 3 moths.
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:27 pm
What have you done so far to get him bakc?
Kelly
December 25, 2013 at 10:44 pm
Hey, so my ex boyfriend and I are now on friendly terms. We agreed to talk a few times a week and be good friends (I used ur advice and talked to him logically and told him I deserve the respect for us to be friends and for us to talk and if it’s meant to be, we can let things flow and try to work things out in the near future) I don’t wanna rush things I wanna give us both the time we need to decide if we wanna get back together. I missed him I really love him and want him back but I know I have to take things slow and talk a few times a week and let things flow. Let go and let God is what I say. You have given me amazing advice before, and I am so thankful for this website!! Our 2 year anniversary would have been on the 23rd and I used that day for us to reminisce. I thank you for this website!!! Do I sound like I am going along the right path to getting him back? Or what advice do you have for me? Btw Merry Christmas! š
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:17 pm
I think you are on the right path.
stephanie clark
December 25, 2013 at 10:18 pm
My ex broke up wit me three months ago and we have a son together..he has a new gf and she has already started problems…I dnt txt him about anything else except the baby…he has asked me several times if I wanted to be his gf on the side and I said no…we were together for 2 1/2 years and I love him so much…I just dnt kno how to get him to notice me like he used to…I have lost weight n changed my appearances…but he says tht he misses me n still loves me….wat could tht mean??
admin
December 26, 2013 at 6:16 pm
Keep doing what you are doing. You are making progress.
michelle
December 25, 2013 at 6:43 am
So my boyfriend of a year & five months broke up with me 2 days ago because we got into a pointless fight & we yelled at each other. He said he is “tired of the fighting” and says he just feels like he needs to be alone. I asked him what he meant, he said he wanted to be single. I proceeded to ask him why & he gave me some confusing answers. At first he said he needed time to figure things out, then I got him to admit that it’s because he doesn’t want to have to answer to anyone as to where he goes and with whom. I also asks dif it was for him to be able to talk to other people & he said partially. He said he cares a lot about me but he just doesn’t know how right now. He has broken up with me a couple times before & has changed his mind everytime. Knowing him as well as I do, he really wants to be able to hang out with his friends without having to feel like he isn’t making enough time for me. He also wants to be able to go places without having to explain why he went. He said he still wants to be my friend, and that he would like to be able to hang out with me at least once a week or every 2 weeks. I have really tried to learn ways to effectively communicate with him when we have arguments but I sign feel like he has been trying as much. I want to make this work because I honestly cant see myself as just his “friend” & I do believe we can fix this but he his anger is bad at times & he lets his anger make his decisions for him. This week we were supposed to go to a concert together but he said he didn’t want to because he was afraid of something happening. I aske him what he meant and he said he was afraid of something happening. I persisted for a better explanation and he said he thinks I’m going to do anything to make something happen. Meaning sex. Never, have I ever made any physical advances on him after w shave broken up or he has rejected me emotionally. Honestly, I’m too afraid to make a move knowing the possibility of rejection is high. I feel like he is lying & deep down inside he is afraid that he will either feel something for me again or he will make the physical advance. What should I do? Do I even go to the concert with him? Do I initiate NC right away? I asked if there was any possibility of us getting back together in the future, and he said he doesn’t know because he doesn’t know what is going to happen. He says he care about me more than a friend & but says he doesn’t know in what way. Which is just confusing. I don’t know whether I should be his friend & risk him getting comfortable with that.
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:52 pm
Yup, go NC right away.
michelle
December 25, 2013 at 6:46 am
I also forgot to add that he also said that he honestly has not been happy in the relationship for a couple of weeks now. He said he would tell me we were good now because he was trying to convince himself that we were okay.
michelle
December 25, 2013 at 6:44 am
*I feel like he hasn’t been trying as much as me.
Alexis
December 24, 2013 at 9:35 pm
Hello Chris,
my ex-boyfriend is currently experiencing the effects of the NC. He called once yesterday, texted me twice, and called three times today. I hate to sound like a villain but…Muahahahaha lol. Well I have one question, It’s Christmas and new years is around the corner. Am I allowed to wish him a happy holiday although we are in the NC period?
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:40 pm
Nope I wouldn’t recommend it.
Tiffany
December 24, 2013 at 8:52 pm
Hi Chris,
Your website has really helped me in so many ways. Within 10 days, I have gone through the NC Rule, in which I got back in shape and lost weight, changed my wardrobe, and continually kept busy hanging out with friends and work.
On the 4th day of my NC rule, my ex called me twice, and I am proud to say I resisted and didn’t pick up. Six days later, he called again and I didn’t pick up, but this time he left a voice message, saying his mom had Christmas presents for me and my family. The next day, I went to work, but all I could feel was bad because I was ignoring him and the fact his mom got presents for me. To make matters worst, she came to my workplace that morning to buy something. She didn’t mention the gifts, but it made me sad to see her all happy to see me and I wasn’t answering her son’s phone calls. I even had gifts for them already wrapped at home, but that was before the break-up and I wasn’t planning on giving it to them because I started the NC rule.
Anyways, I broke down and texted him to see if he was free after work, so that I could pick up the gifts as well as drop my gifts off to them too. He called after he finished work, and said I could. So I went over with the gifts. It turned out to be more than just dropping off gifts. We ended up going out to dinner and had good conversations. He was proud of me for getting promoted at my job a few days ago and how I’ve lost so much weight with looking good. He paid for the dinner and afterwards mentioned that he wanted to see if we could rent a movie and watch it back at his house. Of course, I went along with it.
We went back to his place and watched the movie in his room. Before the movie started, he got a text message. He didn’t bother to look at his phone and said it might be his best guy friend telling him to come over and hang out. So I just let it go and trusted him. During the movie, I controlled myself, even though I wanted to touch him and hold him, but I didn’t. And what ended up happening is that he started touching me, massaging my back, my legs, and my feet while watching the movie. In turn, I gave him a massage too. At the end of the movie, I told him, I wanted him to open my Christmas gift to him, because I knew I wasn’t going to be able to see his reaction on Christmas Day. It was a very personal gift. He loves the Marvel character, Magneto, and I framed a nice poster for him. He was really happy with his gift and he couldn’t stop smiling when he looked at it. He told me he felt bad because he didn’t get anything for me. All I said was don’t worry about it, it came from the heart. And then I joked about it, which got some laughs out of us.
After he put the gift away, we just laid on his bed and we fell asleep for a bit next to each other. Then he woke up and started kissing me, but at the same time he moved my hand down his crotch (which I’m sure you know what I mean). It kind of hurt me inside, because I knew sex is what he wanted to do. I resisted because I knew I would feel like I was a booty call or used the next day. Because I resisted things kind of went south. He decided he was tired and that I should go home. š He got up and went to the bathroom and I checked his phone. He has it locked now and the text message was actually from his girl co-worker. I was hurt that he lied, because he knows I don’t like her because she flirts with him and my intuition gut feeling is telling me that he might have a thing with her since I’ve been gone with the NC rule. š
So I started getting my things to leave feeling hurt and sad, but not to where he could notice. He walked me to the door and gave a big hug while thanking me again for the gift. I kissed his neck while he hugged me and then he did the same. Before I let go, I whispered in his ear, “Just give me a chance to make things right, that’s all I askā¦” then I let go. He grabbed my hand, kissed the side of my right lip twice, then the left side twice, and then my forehead. I walked to my car while he watched me, and then he said goodnight from his porch, and I said goodnight before getting in my car. I drove home…
From reading your online articles, it seems he still does care a lot about me. Dinner, touching, movieā¦ but I’m lost on what to do now. Should I be worried that he might be looking to move on with his girl co-worker, because they text-flirt every night plus at work? It hurts to know thisā¦ Should I go back to the NC rule? And was I right about the whole feeling like a booty call? Please help me, I’m having a really hard time deciding what is right to do this holiday season, since this will be the first time I won’t be spending it with himā¦. I’m proud that I’ve come this far, but now I need advice on what is my next stepā¦ I would appreciate all the help.
Thank you and Merry Christmas,
Tiffany
admin
December 26, 2013 at 5:39 pm
Right now I would say yes, go back into the NC rule.
Tiffany
December 24, 2013 at 9:13 pm
Hey Chris,
Forgot to mentionā¦
After we broke up, he told me he just wants to be friendsā¦ which is not what I want to be. That’s why I was even more motivated when I started the NC rule. Just didn’t want to leave out any details that way you can help me betterā¦
Hope to hear from you soon.
Tiffany
Shannon
December 24, 2013 at 11:05 am
hi Chris!
my bf broke up with me last night saying that he needed to be honest with hmself and that he’s unhappy with the relationship. He also said he’s been thinking about sorting his life out and he’s had a lot happen recently in family.
He says he cares for me and he doesn’t mean to hurt me and that i’m the nicest person he’s ever met and i deserve to be happy; he’s always thought he’s not good enough for me and he broke up with mebefore because of this and his family problems getting to him. he says he hasn’tbeen happy in a while and he doesn’t know what else to do. he says hes sorry etc but i dont want to be without him. Is it worth trying again to get him back?
Shannon
December 26, 2013 at 2:15 pm
He also texted me yesterday and favourited a selfie picture of me on twitter. he said he still cares for me and thinks im beautiful… but won’t get back with me… Do i just have to wait again and see if he changes his mind??
Lisa
December 24, 2013 at 4:40 am
Hi Chris,
First, thanks for creating such a helpful site. It’s very informative.
Anyway, my boyfriend broke up with me rather recently. Our relationship was short, only a little over two months, however we were very close. We were drawn to each other for very genuine reasons having to do with our personality traits (nothing superficial). Our relationship was very good, we never got into fights and he said he had fun during all the times we hung out. We both admitted to not being very good with relationships; I am particularly inexperienced when it comes to relationships and this affected our break up because I played silly games like hard to get with him (like I always did when I was single and flirted with guys) and he got confused and thought I didn’t like him or want to be with him. I also became lax on planning dates, when I used to be more spontaneous before we dated. For his part, he never mentioned that it was bothering him and bottled it up until the break up. Anyway, I was surprised when he said he wanted to break up. We had had a great time together just two days prior. Now, grantedly, I had been a jerk the night we broke up, being cold over something silly. But we had never had a fight until that night. I took the breakup kind of hard and there was a lot of crying on my part involved during it, as well as me getting angry and him getting frustrated (I know, not good, but he had never seen me mad or that upset and I had never seen him frustrated before the breakup). However, he called me on the phone to clear up some things about the breakup and it was an enjoyable conversation, we both laughed and talked for about 45 minutes and then we both said goodbye). I feel like we had a lot of potential to be together for longer and I miss talking to him. I have not talked to him for two weeks since the call and I don’t plan to speak to him for a while. Is this the right move or will he forget about me? He is a kind, polite and open minded guy and I realize all the things that went wrong with our relationship. I am currently working on being a better, more experienced and mature person, actively hanging out with friends everyday and thinking about when I should meet up with him again. Does our relationship stand a chance and when should I plan on meeting up with him or contacting him?
Thank you for all your help!
Lisa <3
admin
December 24, 2013 at 7:21 pm
Do you think you can get him to meet up with you?
Lisa
December 24, 2013 at 9:15 pm
Yes. Based on his kind and open minded personality, I think that if I asked if he wanted to meet up/catch up, he would say yes. The only situation I can think of where he might say no is if he gets a new girlfriend during the NC period who is uncomfortable with the idea of him meeting his ex.
Lisa
December 28, 2013 at 3:38 am
Chris, if i don’t see him for a full month (it has been three weeks since our breakup), will he forget about me during that time? He has not tried to contact me and probably will not, because I told him I wasn’t going to contact him for a very long time.
admin
December 28, 2013 at 7:43 pm
No not at all.
Lisa
December 29, 2013 at 4:35 am
Chris, I feel like he has already forgotten about me. A few days ago a friend showed me pictures of him with his arm around another girl. He looks like he’s moved on already and I don’t see the three weeks of NC having any effect. When should I contact him/what should I do?
admin
December 29, 2013 at 7:00 pm
He hasn’t forgotten you trust me.
Lisa
December 30, 2013 at 2:05 am
For a relationship that was overall very good, (we only fought once during our breakup) I feel like he is being kinda harsh during the NC period. He has unfollowed me/blocked me on social media (except not Facebook). He seems to want to erase me. What does this mean and what should I do?
Lisa
January 2, 2014 at 3:32 am
After we broke up, I bought a new phone and switched phone numbers. Should I say who it is in the first contact text (although he might be able to tell who it is by the nature of the question)?
Cooper
December 24, 2013 at 4:02 am
I was dating a guy for two months and everything was going well. He always made time to see me and we were finally getting to really know each other. He was going on vacation so before he left I wanted to just see where things were at and he said that we were a couple and bf/gf. I saw him two days later and he was quieter than normal but still affectionate and I just attribute it to him being tired from a long day at work. Three days later, which happened to be the same day he was going for two weeks on vacation, he called me to say that he had spoken to a coworker the day after we hung out and something changed. He said he had thought about it for two days and that he thought he should not be excited to go away, instead, he should want to not go away and spend time with me. I was completely caught off guard. I don’t know if he just got scared or wasn’t that into me. It was a short relationship (only 2 months) but I was finally starting to really open up and like him. I’m not quite sure what to make of these events. Any advice? fyi I’m 23 and he’s 28, and he described his past relationships as either short or on/off. help!
admin
December 24, 2013 at 7:17 pm
I have a weird question.
Do you think the age difference factored into his decision?
Cooper
December 24, 2013 at 4:11 am
Just to add, he had a very toxic relationship several years ago where he was cheated on and subsequently cheated on the girl. Oddly enough they stayed together via on/off relationship. When he called and said he wanted to end it, I asked him if he still liked me and he said yes. But he didn’t like me so much that he would cancel his vacation just to be with me, which I told him would be crazy since we have only been dating for two months. He is not a good communicator either, which doesn’t help. Could he have ended things just so he could be single while on vacation? I thought at 28 he would be more mature than that. We rarely fight and have a healthy sex life. We cuddled all the time and he was very touchy even just sitting on a couch watching tv. Please help me understand all of this!
SadFace
December 24, 2013 at 12:33 am
I appear to have reached a bump in the road.
We have spoken. He gave immediate neutral/positive replies. I left it a few days before messaging again.. His responses even more positive. We arranged to see a movie after christmas. However, today a mutual male friend of ours (closer friend to him so he won him in the ‘custody’ over him after the break up) has asked him whether it was for me ans him to speak and even meet to hang out. Ex told the friend it was fine for us to talk and meet, however later on the evening he send me an essay long lecture about how he cant believe that i did that (everything between the mutual friend was strictly platonic so he misunderstood the intention)
He moaned for how he tried to reach out and still have me in his life but i didnt respond (NC rule) and that i can burn bridges if i want and aaid i can forget about the movies.
I have not responded and planned on leaving him hanging for tonight and possibly responding in the morning….but it feels i might make it even worse, further pushing the possibility of us reconciling eventually.
How do i recover from this ‘drama’?
admin
December 24, 2013 at 7:09 pm
He is just whining b/c things didn’t go his way.
Obviously this is your life and not mine so whatever your decision is, is your entirely but I would still ignore and finish out the NC rule.
simone
December 23, 2013 at 11:10 pm
Hi. So my boyfriend dumped me a week ago after saying he didnt love me anymore… but I dont know if I believe him or not. We had some problems that were entirely my doing, but I didnt see them until this week of reflection.
And I asked him to hang out and maybe see a movie boxing day. Any advice?
The thing is that the issues we had that were my fault, I dont ever want to be that person to him or anyone. So I want to change I just didnt see where i was. And I want him back in a better relationship. He makes me feel like a complete person, as in he does not just any guy, and I could see a future with him.
Weve been talking, because weve had a break before where he ignlred me and I was a mess and he didnt want to do that again. So hes been replying to me but ive jjust been telling him that things that I now realise ( like that I was pushing him away because I could only believe he lived me if he stayed. Due to some past relationship and family issues).
So I dont really knkw what to do. Like do I ask if hes sure he doesn’t love me? Or if he can see any chance of getting back together in the future?
admin
December 24, 2013 at 7:01 pm
No, nothing that would make you seem desperate.
Did you read the entire guide on this page? I lay everything out pretty clearly.