How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

3,819 thoughts on “Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend”

Mindy

October 1, 2013 at 5:02 pm

My ex and I have continued to live together for two years after he broke up with me. For the first year, there seemed to be some hope for a reconciliation but I continued to make some of the same behaviors that had led to the demise of our relationship (I had not yet gotten my priorities straight). During the second year, I made a lot of changes in my behavior and we continued to hang out with one another a lot. He invited me to his family’s house for holidays, etc. Neither of us dated anyone else. During the second year, my ex also made a new female friend. They began to spend a lot of time with another and became close. I believe that the new girl is going through a divorce or is recently divorced. Nonetheless, three months ago, their friendship turned romantic. She lives about 3 hours away in a town where he owns a home and he now spends every weekend up there. It was only after their relationship turned romantic that he stopped calling and texting me every day. He also began to move a lot of his things to this home 3 hours away (he works in the town where I live). This is not a typical rebound relationship because he was friends with this woman for over a year before their relationship turned romantic and we were technically broken up for two years. However, the relationship might be a rebound relationship for the other woman. At any rate, I still want my ex back. I did cry and sort of fall apart for a while when I found out he had begun seeing this “other party” as he refers to her (I told him I did not want any details). I also made the mistake of writing him 3 letters over the past 2 years, in an effort to explain, apologize, and promise to change (yes, I now know that was a bad move). But here we are. I honestly believed I had a good shot of getting my ex to open up to me again until the new girl got under his skin. With these particular circumstances, what approach do you recommend for me? Thank you.

admin

October 2, 2013 at 12:49 am

Well, at this point I definitely think NC can help.
Mindy

October 2, 2013 at 10:48 pm

If we don’t live together there wouldn’t be much chance of showing him the improvements I needed to make for our relationship to work. We’re older and don’t have mutual hangouts where we’d just run into each other. It’s hard to show positive changes via text or email.
admin

October 3, 2013 at 2:00 am

I hear you.

Your situation is kind of tricky isn’t it… Maybe the best thing for you to do is move on and try again at a later time.

Jackeline

October 1, 2013 at 3:10 pm

So my x boyfiend, broke up wit me a month ago, and now has A new girlfriend. They only dated for a few weeks had their first break up then made up again. My situation is that my friend had been texting my x and he’s admitted to my friend that he still loves me but, how do i get him back?! We had the NC period for almost a month. Also, his new girlfriend has a baby and still sees her baby father, does it mean knowing she has a baby, is it more likely that he breaks up wit her?

admin

October 2, 2013 at 12:42 am

I think you message him the way I suggest in PRO or on this site.

Bex

October 1, 2013 at 10:48 am

Hi Chris

I tried NC when we broke up 30 days
– once over I tried texting, with no response
– I asked to go see him and I talked to him but he was just being polite
– Next week I find out he had set up a new lover to be with while he was with (though he claims he never cheated). In my anger I deleted him off fb. He is practically living with her now.
– Is it possible for me to still get him back? I know he still has feelings for me but he is starting to lose patience.
– what shall be my next step?

Thanks Bex

admin

October 2, 2013 at 12:28 am

He is dating someone else now?

And you already tried a full 30 days of NC?

What cause you two to break up?
Bex

October 2, 2013 at 4:12 am

– I did about 3 weeks NC as my things r still in the flat that we share because I have not been able to organise the storage. Looking to move out next weekend.
– He said at the time that it was problems with us but I think it might have been an excuse to be with her. He said he still loves me, which I believe.
– he said he never cheated, not sure if true because this started immediately after we broke up
– now I think they are living and working together most days.
– I still think he has made a mistake
– what do you think my next step should be?

Thanks
Bex
admin

October 3, 2013 at 12:47 am

Well, you are short a week of NC! You were supposed to do 30 full days.
Bex

October 3, 2013 at 8:11 am

Shall I restart NC?

Bit tricky as I need to ask him for a day I can move out. I obviously do not want to walk in on him and his g/f having a great time.
admin

October 4, 2013 at 12:32 am

Maybe start NC AFTER you get all this stuff sorted out.
Bex

October 2, 2013 at 4:58 am

I’m not living at the flat anymore though. I moved out the day he broke up with me. I’m staying at my mums until I can find somewhere else

kristine

September 29, 2013 at 2:03 pm

what will i do if my ex said he doesn’t wish to talk to me but i still love him so much and want him back? 🙁

admin

September 30, 2013 at 12:54 am

Give him space and then reach out when things have died down a bit.

nidhi

September 29, 2013 at 5:29 am

hey im nidhi i was in relationship with a guy from last 4 years . his whole family knows me and our relation . we both are studying . im in 12th and he is studying CS . our time doesn’t use to match and so from last few months we used to talk 3 to 4 times a day only . last month during my exams he said me dat he needs break for studies dat to for 5 years , on hearing dis i started to convince him alot and had a talk with his mom . on 24th sept i asked his friend abt him and weather he is wid another girl . his friend informed him dat i asked such questions . the very next day my boyfriend met me and said he is with another girl from 14th sept . i cried alot even begged him .. i had a talk with his mom and dad and they said that he will come back to me as no one can bear him . but im literally missing him alot and find difficult to concentrate on studies . i want him back at any cost and im ready to do anything . please help me … and suggest some idea to get him back …

admin

September 30, 2013 at 12:35 am

Have you checked out ex boyfriend recovery PRO yet? That could be really helpfu.

For now, are you implemented a NC rule?
nidhi

September 29, 2013 at 5:32 am

i even started to get change the way he want …. everyday i cry for him …. just tell me will he realise his mistake and will he come back …. please rply …. ;(

Vivian

September 29, 2013 at 4:12 am

Can I ask your opinion from a male’s point of view?

If my ex asks me (after my NC period is over, of course) if I am seeing anyone, what should I say? He is currently seeing someone. And I am only dating, but not really seeing someone yet. I’d like to answer in the best way possible, to make him want me back. What is the best answer? If I say I am dating, will that hurt my chances? Or should I say I am not seeing anyone?

Thanks!

admin

September 30, 2013 at 12:33 am

You should be honest with him.

You should say you went on a few dates but not dating anyone right now.
Vivian

September 30, 2013 at 1:42 am

I am on day 19 of NC. He has been seeing this girl for at least 6 weeks. He started seeing her within a week of us breaking up. We have been together for 3 years, and were close to getting engaged. So close that we had picked out an engagement ring and I had gotten fitted for it. This girl is not just some random girl. She has been his friend for awhile and she knew about us. I am afraid that although there are signs of a rebound, that she might be more than that. They still seem to be going strong – she updates her Facebook with places that they go to together. I am starting to lose hope. Also, the reason why I am only on day 19 of NC is because I made all the classic mistakes after he broke up with me and kept contacting him. I really feel that he has moved on and does not want to hear from me when I do contact him after I complete NC. And I don’t understand why he is with her. Not to be mean, but she is a total tomboy and the complete opposite of me. I am definitely more attractive; she is practically a boy. I can see that maybe they share the love of sports? Also, she has an awful reputation and most people cannot stand her. Is it possible that he is truly happy and really has moved on so quickly? Should I lose all hope?

Thanks.
Vivian

October 6, 2013 at 12:26 am

I mentioned that my brother might move to Dallas in January to open a few businesses. My ex told me that I should move with him there when I mentioned that I would miss my brother.
admin

October 6, 2013 at 11:47 pm

I don’t think he meant it in the context that he wants you to get away from him though. I think he may have just been trying to be supportive.
admin

October 1, 2013 at 3:28 am

Most men like their women to be feminine. I am not in to tomboys but your ex may be different. You know him better but what do you think?
Vivian

October 7, 2013 at 2:04 pm

Thank you for always responding to my questions. I truly appreciate it.

So I’m currently debating whether I should wait before contacting him. Because of the car accident, we had contact after 21 days of NC. He contacted me on what would have been the 24th day of NC. So, this Thursday would have been the 30th day, but do you feel that it’s too soon? If I started over, it would only be 6 days since we last had contact. I haven’t been snooping on his Facebook so I have no idea if he’s still seeing that girl that he’s been seeing since we broke up, but I’m almost sure that he still is. I just don’t want to contact him too soon and get on his nerves. The last exchange we had was on Friday when he asked if I was in pain and I responded with yes, and he didn’t respond and I didn’t text him again either. What do you think? Should I let more time pass or just contact him on the 30th day (in 3 days)? Thank you so much.
admin

October 8, 2013 at 1:57 am

Contact him on the 31st day haha.
Vivian

October 5, 2013 at 6:40 am

Hi Chris,

Thank you for your concern. I am fine. Just a little sore from the car accident. This woman completely slammed her car into mine on the freeway (I was at a complete stop at the exit) and she just kept going. Her car was totaled but my car is sturdy; I’m sure if I was driving a different kind of car, it would have been really bad. Anyway, thank you for asking!

My ex sent that text I told you about this morning asking if I was in pain, I answered “yup” and I haven’t heard from him since. I will complete the NC period and then decide what I want to do. As much as I want him back, there is a part of me that tells me that I’m better off without him and when I think of him and this girl that he moved onto so quickly…sometimes I wonder if I can ever get over that. Also, he told me I should move to Dallas (we’re in Los Angeles). Why would he be so nonchalant about that? Does that mean he’s completely over me? He just wants me to move away and wouldn’t care or miss me?
admin

October 6, 2013 at 12:09 am

Gosh, it is absolutely ridiculous that people can get away with that kind of stuff. That is the type of stuff that upsets me.

Tell me why he thinks you should move to Dallas?
Vivian

October 4, 2013 at 5:16 pm

The texts also led to our personal lives and I mentioned that my brother might move to Dallas and my ex told me that I should move with him to Dallas. It doesn’t seem that he cares if I leave the state or not. Does it seem like he’s over me?

And also, now what do I do? Go back to NC again? Do I start all over?
admin

October 5, 2013 at 4:25 am

No we can give you a pass on this one I think.
Vivian

October 4, 2013 at 4:28 pm

I was in a bad car accident yesterday morning and I accidentally called my ex. I didn’t realize it and then hung up. But he called me back and asked why I called. Since I was so flustered, I told him that I just got in an accident and he gave me advice and told me what to do and make sure I did this, etc. We hung up and he kept texting me after, making sure that I did everything I was supposed to. He was texting me throughout the day about the accident. This morning, he sent me a text asking if I was in pain. All I responded with was “yup”.

So yesterday would have been my 23rd day of NC, but I broke it because of the car accident incident. Is this a good sign that he’s concerned? For all I know, he is still with his new girl.
admin

October 5, 2013 at 4:24 am

First off are you ok? You weren’t majorly hurt were you?

I think we can give you a pass tbh. Just make it through 30 days and you can proceed with the plan. But yes its a good sign he is concerned.
Vivian

October 2, 2013 at 5:21 pm

My ex sent me an email last night saying “happy birthday”. It was obviously my birthday yesterday, haha. Yesterday was the 21st day of NC. He is still dating that other girl that he started seeing within a week of us breaking up. Am I looking too much into this happy birthday email? Probably. It’s only because I am pretty much losing all hope. Does his simple email mean anything at all? This is his first sign of communication since I started NC and our last text exchange ended with me insulting his new girl. That was 21 days ago.

Thanks.
admin

October 3, 2013 at 1:43 am

Its a good sign but I wouldn’t respond to it still.

Elise

September 28, 2013 at 5:35 pm

Hi Chris,

Fristly, I would like to thank you for your article that help me have a hope to get my ex back.

I met my ex on a dating website. He is in Austria and I am in Vietnam. He decided to visit my country to meet me just after some months. After the first meeting, we decided to start our relationship. We had very beautiful time together although each year we meet only 7-10days! we were engaged 7 months ago and planned to apply for a place in the university to obtain the visa to his country. 5 months ago, he complained that I made no progress to apply for a place in the university as well as arrange my job in my country to come his country. Then I got angry, complained, blamed him with angry words. The he suggested us taking a break for a while. I made no contact with him more than one month, then sent him a email to say sorry for my mistake. He said that he still thought of me, but suggested a longer period of break. I respected his wish and kept silence the next 3 months. During this time I got acceptance from the university and decided to prepare for visa by myself. However, i was in urgent case and contacted him for help! I wrote to him with very cool words to show that I hesitated to contact him! He helped me but very cool. Three weeks later I wrote another email to explained once more my angry words and cool actions and sorry once more for my mistake. Then, he wrote to me a very short email mentioning that he saw no chance to continue our love and that he found another girl and tried to find his peace and happiness! I was shocked with his email with much emotions, cried, sent a lot of long emails and sms to beg him not to leave me… He did not reply to me. Yesterday, after calm down, I wrote to him to say sorry and regret for all of my mistakes, appreciated his love for me during last time and what he did for me. I suggested that we both should forgot the old things and just think our our beautiful moments. I beg him to keep for me a definite place in his heart and I would do the same! I also told him that I will come his country sooner or later and wish to meet him again! Then we replied to me. He wrote that our love definitely stoped some months ago and we should be proud of the time when we were together, and advised me to be sad is not a solution, but concentrate my power for other challenges in my life. and my family that geting angry with the whole world is not the solution, and advised me to try to get back my smiles and focus on me and my family. After reading his email, I felt better, but still very sad. Now I read your advice, I feel a small hope. Actually, I love him so much and really want to get him back! what should I start over no contact rule or skip it? What I should do the next? The problem is that I am still in Vietnam, and he is in Austria! I expect to got visa on November 2013 or latest in Feb 2014! It is so long! I know it is an disadvantage for my plan to get him back! Do you think I had a chance? What should I do? Please help me! Thank you very much!

admin

September 30, 2013 at 12:12 am

Have you read my long distance post?

Ame

September 28, 2013 at 10:36 am

I just found out my ex that I was with for over 14 months has got bk with his ex we’ve only been split a month is this a rebound or does it mean I was a rebound should I carry on with my no contact or give up? I feel destroyed x

admin

September 29, 2013 at 11:47 pm

Too early to tell if its a rebound BUT it does look promising for being one.

Rissa

September 27, 2013 at 11:09 pm

My ex and I dated for about two and a half years. I broke up with him because I felt unappreciated. We never fully cut contact. I ended up hurting him and he retaliated as expected. We decided we would work on things and everything was great. He said he had fallen in love with me all over again and all these things. We got in a huge fight and he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me or anyone he just wanted to do whatever he wanted and talk to whoever he wanted. At least not right now. He told me he couldn’t make any promises about coming back to me. I begged and cried then decided to give him his space. I had a suspicion he was interested in another girl and before cutting contact he swore to me they were just friends. I haven’t talked to him in a little over a week. Him and this girl both blocked me on social networks (Instagram)…..I have no idea what to do.

admin

September 28, 2013 at 3:36 am

Probably the girl forced him to do it.
Rissa

September 28, 2013 at 3:37 pm

What do I do though? Do I have a chance at getting him back?
admin

September 29, 2013 at 11:59 pm

Yes you do!

What specifically do you want help with? General stuff takes too much time for me to explain so I prefer more specific things.
Rissa

October 2, 2013 at 7:52 pm

I don’t believe she is a rebound because of him blocking me and stuff and also because throughout our relationship he flirted with her. They have known each other for a while and have a lot of common “friends”.
Rissa

October 1, 2013 at 5:40 pm

I read it and It’s possible but I honestly don’t know. We haven’t talked so I don’t know how he’s feeling. He was very cold and distant the last time we talked. He was giving me mixed signals then all of sudden it just changed and he started being different. I figured space was just what he needed but then I started seeing signs that they were seeing each other a week after I ended contact and he’s completely cut me out of his life since then.
Rissa

September 30, 2013 at 1:45 am

I want to know how to make him miss me and to come back and see that this girl isnt a better option than me. He blocked me on social networks so I can’t show him how “well” I’m doing on there and I never see him in public. This girl used to be my friend and she’s pretty perfect. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up in November and I was hoping to spend it with him. It seems like they’re getting pretty close. She’s close with his older brother and all his friends so I’m sure they hang out a lot.
admin

October 1, 2013 at 3:27 am

Could she be a rebound? Have you read that page?

japu

September 27, 2013 at 9:09 am

dear admin, i brok up with my boyfriend nd now he’s comittd with my best friend ( actually she was my best friend ) . she is so mean (mastermind) . actually she planned fight b/w me nd my boyfriend nd finally when v brok up she got comitted with him . erlier when me nd my boyfriend hav ny small fights she use to come b/w us but at dat time i thought dat she must be helping us to get togeter but now i came to know in reality she use to tell him lie frm elier only she had crush on him nd now finally she grabed him . 🙁 …plz suggest me wat to do .. i still love him alot

admin

September 28, 2013 at 2:52 am

Do you think he is dating her to kind of get back at you?

Freddie

September 26, 2013 at 11:23 pm

Hi he has contacted me telling me he has a girlfriend and he constantly thinks of me . It’s torcher he says that she lovely and is going to try and make it work
What should I do .

admin

September 27, 2013 at 6:11 am

He told you that he thinks of you while he is with his girlfriend yet he wants to stay with his gf. If only SHE could see that text.

Have you tried any jealousy tactics?
Freddie

September 27, 2013 at 7:07 pm

How do I do that

Joy

September 26, 2013 at 11:17 am

Me and ex have dated for 3 yr and he broke up with me after 5months I started calling again but where I ask him about his new girl he stopped picking my calls.what do I do now I still love him .he was my first boy friend

admin

September 27, 2013 at 5:42 am

When was the last time you talked to him?

margrette

September 26, 2013 at 11:01 am

while dating my ex i found some flirty texts to another girl while sleeping over. he had said “we should hangout again soon” and she had said “if things dont work out with your girlfriend give me a call” i got really upset and told him i was going to go home he begged me to stay and said nothing was going on with this girl. anyway i stayed the night because we had to leave early the next morning because we were going camping, so we went camping and i still had a bad feeling so while we were sitting by the campfire i kept glancing over his shoulder and saw this girl was texting him still, but he showed me her texts and it was just her texting him and he wasnt responding. we had a good time camping and even spent the rest of that weekend together, when we finally had some time apart and i called to ask him what he was doing he would act really sketchy about where he was or what he was doing, i had a feeling he was hanging out with her behind my back, and heard he was from mutual friends. i just couldnt trust him anymore so i broke it off and sortly after he began dating her. i later heard from a mutual friend they were hanging out but he never cheated on me and he told our mutual friend he cared about me and didnt know what to do. i fee like i should of fought for him instead of letting her have him. right after we broke up i sent him some nasty text messages i regret and accused him of not caring about me. he responded to paragraph with “yes i did i dont say things i dont mean” and that was it, about 3 weeks later i texted him saying i missed him and everything that happened with us still bothered me. and no response…what should i do?

admin

September 27, 2013 at 5:40 am

Give him some more time. There is a lot of anger probably still from both sides. Let it settle down before you try anything.

Mimi

September 25, 2013 at 6:49 am

My ex and I dated for seven months..we had a huge crush on eachother in high school but never dated until now. Basically, his dad sleeps with multiple women, and he met a woman at the bar, and eventually she started bringing her daughter over. I found out later that he had been hanging out with her and texting her while we were still dating. He asked for a break due to our “arguing”..and I disagreed and went to get my things from his house. He ripped my 70 dollar bathing suit and threw away 2 pairs of my jeans and a purse. I didn’t find out they were dating until a month after we broke up..her and her mom are from las vegas, just moved here to south carolina. When I confronted him to let him know I knew it was her the whole time, he got really mean and was saying he didn’t want me for himself, and that he was over me and I am replaced. This is AFTER him telling me I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and him telling me multiple times he was falling for me which lead to him telling me he loved me, then all this happened. Everything was great until she came along, so would she still be considered a rebound, or a replacement?

admin

September 26, 2013 at 2:41 am

Hmm… yes I think the signs of a rebound are definitely there.
Mimi

September 26, 2013 at 5:35 am

I’m not a big party person. They would smoke out there too and I couldn’t handle the smoke…so it’s a rebound even though they’re still together? Is it normal for him to be as mean to me as he was?
admin

September 27, 2013 at 3:44 am

Yes I am not a smoker either so I totally get that.

Yes a rebound could be still together it is entirely possible though if they are together longer than a 7 months it is less likely to be a rebound.
Mimi

September 26, 2013 at 7:05 am

You think it’s signs of a rebound when he told me I was replaced?
admin

September 27, 2013 at 3:50 am

Was he replacing you with another version of you?
Mimi

September 25, 2013 at 6:53 am

They have been dating 4 months now and I haven’t heard from him.
Mimi

September 25, 2013 at 7:15 am

I just read your Rebound page, but I still want your input on everything, thank you! 🙂
Mimi

September 25, 2013 at 7:22 am

I meant to tell you I did contact him after we broke up because I didn’t understand why he didn’t want to work things out. It was before I found out about her. I did say some mean things (not about her) but to him, and he just got meaner. Before that, he tried to be friends with me before they started dating ( I think he was trying to have us both, not sure) but I told him I didn’t want his friendship. He also mentioned how I don’t like hanging out with him in the garage(their party area) and I guess she does. I just want to know if you see him ever trying to contact me?
admin

September 26, 2013 at 2:45 am

May I ask why you didn’t like hanging out with them in the party area?

ihopeitainthopeless

September 24, 2013 at 9:12 pm

Hi Chris,

I have an ex I’ve been on and off with for 5 years. We broke up a few months ago due to him wanting to expand his business into another state but we were arguing a lot and didn’t want the distraction of us fighting. He said a few months break would be good for us and we could finally end up settling down. He kept telling me that but I basically read it as all the other times we broke up and I was tired of doing the on/off thing so I just lived my life, had fun, went out with my friends, went to the gym etc. He ended up not liking this though and started dating a girl that is really good looking and he was friends with before we broke up. Everyone was bringing up that they were dating but he denied it the whole time, for a month or two actually, and I ended up believing it because we were hanging out, he was showing up at my house and power calling my phone every time I would not answer his texts for a day or two. (Basically a few times a week) Well, two weekends I go ended up finding out they are really together but he’s still been hanging out with me and complaining about how insecure she is about me and how she wants to be treated like a princess. I did not insult her, I actually stuck up for the girl, I assumed if I made any bad comments about her I would just look bitter. He was still hanging out with me all the time, we were messaging all day, we were publicly at the same club a couple times at the same time as her friends were and he didn’t even care if she found out. Anyways, I ended up at the same night club as him on Friday and he kept yelling at every guy that would talk to me and we met on Saturday during the day to talk about it and he told me he wants to leave her but he doesn’t want to rush back into us when we have issues to work out. Saturday night comes and I end up at the same night club as the two of them. I completely ignored them and was having a good time, I assume that made my ex mad because when the club was closing down he came up to me and started yelling at the guys I was with that I was his ex and I was off limits. Mind you, this was all in front of her. He went up to her and started hugging her infront of me looking over to see if I was watching and once he was saw I wasn’t paying any attention to it, he came over again and was making a scene. I am assuming she didn’t like this much because the next day she posted a picture of them kissing at the club the night before. Anyways, he started saying some really hurtful things the next day about how she is a lot better then me etc so I sent her a few messages between us from Saturday during the day that said she wasn’t that important to him and that we had kissed and been hanging out. He power called me right after and sent me some angry messages but I ignored them. Did I mess it up and just push them more together? The picture of them is still on her profile…

admin

September 25, 2013 at 1:19 am

Yes, you messed up. BUT as long as you keep your distance for a while you may be able to salvage the situation.
ihopeitainthopeless

September 25, 2013 at 3:30 pm

Do you think realistically if we have still been hanging out this whole time and he’s been complaining about her insecurities about me, now that she knows all this and stayed with him, they might just increase or have I just pushed them together even more? He is definitely not one to have any patience for anyone that tries to put rules/restrictions on him but I can’t help but worry this might not be a rebound. They got together a month after and it’s already been two-two and a half months.
admin

September 26, 2013 at 3:12 am

I think it pushes them away more.

But… your phrasing kind of confused me. Lets see if I have this right. Complaining about her insecurities to you?
ihopeitainthopeless

September 26, 2013 at 3:29 pm

Hi Chris,

A bit of an update for you. I posted a dinner picture on Instagram and I guess maybe he assumed I had gone on a date? He messaged me on Whatsapp out of the blue and said ‘What in the hell are you doing, these are the last messages I’m ever sending you. I hate your guts, stay out of my life. I don’t care what you do or anything . Go screw whoever you want. I hope you are happy” I assumed to continue with no contact and set myself to offline. I guess that made him more mad and he put his display picture as a picture of her in the hallway in his building…is it a good sign that he isn’t indifferent and cares to assume I am on a date? I’ve already purchased Ex Recovery Pro but some assistance on the situation would be greatly appreciated lol
admin

September 27, 2013 at 5:50 am

Well, jealousy and anger usually go hand in hand don’t they.

He is clearly jealous. I mean, the two of you are broken up and you have the right to see anyone you want.

Carry on with no contact. Take this as a sign that he is thinking about you and you are clearly on his mind. And this is a very good thing.
Ihopeitainthopeless

September 26, 2013 at 7:49 am

Yes! Sorry. Complaining about her securities TO me. Lol
admin

September 27, 2013 at 5:35 am

No problem!
ihopeitainthopeless

September 24, 2013 at 9:15 pm

Wow that was long post LOL. Sorry, forgot to add this whole past few weeks he said that it would not last with this girl, he knows I am the one he wants to marry and we will never have a connection/chemistry like we did with eachother. Please note, even though he’s 30, I’m his first real girlfriend, he had two girl friends before me and they were 6 months each and he pretty much just partied a lot.

Jasmine

September 24, 2013 at 11:52 am

3yrs ago, while we were still in our early 20s.. I broke up with my bf for another guy. I guess I got tired of leading this relationship. I shattered his heart when I left. And he was bound for training overseas. Gf left and he had to be alone overseas with constant training pressure. It was hell for him. He deleted me off facebook. I used to check up on him before he deleted me. At that time, there wasn’t instagram or twitter so we basically cut off all contact with each other.
When he was overseas, I texted him for his address and sent him a care package. We started texting for a while, but I could tell he was still angry over the way we broke up. So, we stopped all contact again.
A couple of months later, he flew back and I saw him in a club and we chatted physically for a while. We kissed and he was still telling me he missed me dearly. We met up for a movie and dinner, he introduced me to his friends in the club and all that. But I was still with the other guy at the time, so we didn’t keep in contact after that.
I heard rumors about him being a womanizer (he’s very good looking) and sleeping around. He told me there were many wooing him while we were chatting. So I guessed that part is true. But what disturbed me.. a friend told me that those chats we had while he was overseas.. that person I was chatting with WASN’T him. He actually passed the phone to his friends and they were making a fool out of me. I guess he was still very very pissed with me..
But right now, 3 yrs later.. I am thinking of trying it out with him again. He changed, I changed. I had gotten out of 2 relationships since then. We could make it work this time.. Problem is..He just got into a serious relationship. I saw pictures on his instagram and I heard friends telling me the new gf is a very sweet girl. How do I even start a conversation with him now? Should I even try to get him back?

admin

September 25, 2013 at 12:52 am

When you say just got into a serious relationship do you mean that he just started dating the girl or has been dating her for a while?
Jasmine

September 27, 2013 at 6:53 am

🙁 even you have no answer for me?
admin

September 28, 2013 at 2:47 am

Sorry been so busy lately.

Well, right now there is not a whole lot you can do except focus on what you can control and that is YOU. Just keep improving yourself and evolving as a human being. Realize that this girl is still in rebound territory.
Jasmine

September 25, 2013 at 2:01 am

I guess they have been dating for a couple of months now.. What should i do..? 🙂

Jessica

September 23, 2013 at 3:16 pm

I was with my ex for over a year we lived together and everything. I was his first gf the first person he did anything at sexual with. About 5 months I broke up with him because I didn’t know what I wanted. He cried for three days then started telling this girl that lived below us all the things he told me, he was kissing her goodnight and telling her he loved her after two days of really knowing each other, me and him got in to a huge fight about it when I wanted him back. He moved on from and was talking to the girl he talked to before me, he would go everyday to see and stay the night with her, before he’d goto bed with her he’d text me that he still loves me and we were still sleeping together for about two weeks but we never got back together, now after a week of being with her they live together and have been together for over four months. He’s bestfriends with my cousin and I’m still bestfriends with his family, I love him and want him back but I don’t know what to do.

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:42 am

Sounds a lot like a rebound to me.
Jessica

September 24, 2013 at 3:47 am

Yeah but do I wait for him?
admin

September 25, 2013 at 12:34 am

I don’t think you should ever wait around for anyone. You should do something proactive while “waiting” for them.

Shanaya

September 23, 2013 at 10:42 am

we were in relation for just 3 months… but i love him a lot.. actually we broke up because i got to know dat he was dating sum1 else… i was very angry n so broke up… now he is with her but i want him back… n even he have some feelings for me… we talk daily but just as friends … i want him to be my boy.. i love him alot… but he want me to do something special for him… what should i do…??

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:34 am

Have you grabbed Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO yet? You can learn a lot from that.

For now though you might want to start a NC rule.

Amy

September 23, 2013 at 3:54 am

I dated my ex for 8 months and due to commitment issues from past relationships I broke up with him because he was so serious about me and it scared me especially since I have a daughter so a lot involved. He deleted & blocked me from Facebook immediately and we didn’t talk for a few weeks, he started dating someone else (I didn’t know that) but we ran into each and started talking againg and he broke things off with her and we got back together. However it didn’t work because he was scarred from the last time and very jealous because he thought since I had broke up with him last time that had to be for someone else (it wasn’t) there was never and still isn’t anyone else. We ended up breaking up again and then a week later started talking again but little did I know he had started talking to girl from last time again once we had broken up so we got into a fight and didn’t speak for a week and then ran into him with her, he then came and seen me and told me was confused and scared of being hurt, but that he loved me just worried about risking his heart again, we talked for a few more days and then he came over and told me that he loved me but just didn’t trust me and didn’t know how to fix how he felt. He cried the whole time he was talking to me and went on & on about how much he loves me and my daughter and did’t want to be unfair to us. I told him that I didn’t want to be the reason he felt that way and that I hated seeing him like this so that he should walk away, it killed me but couldn’t handle seeing him so upset. He cried while hugging me bye and said he knew that I loved him and hadn’t meant to hurt him. I held it together and cried when he left. I did text him 2 weeks later with no response and then went into NC. I did NC for the full 30 days and went to the gym, ate healthy, got my hair done and went out with my friends and kept my facebook page happy, even though he deleted his after we broke up and has never reactivated. I text him after the 30 days following your guide but still no answer (he is still dating that girl). Then I went out this past weekend and ran into both of them, I was with a bunch of friends so stayed and had a great time but was told he wouldn’t stay with her and just watched me all night and then she ended up coming up to me and trying to fight me and got thrown out (I did not participate in such stupidity) since then I have stayed with no contact. I will say she is a beautiful girl but I know love is what matters…what should I do next?? Please help me

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:23 am

Wow…. that is an interesting situation.

Haha you are golden. Stay in NC until the situation blows over a little bit and then maybe you can send some outreach to test the waters.
Amy Gordon

September 25, 2013 at 4:39 pm

That’s what I’m doing, absolutely NC!! And still keeping everything positive. Do you think I still have a chance? I have read all your stuff and try to follow!
admin

September 26, 2013 at 3:15 am

As long as you stick to the stuff I talk about you will raise your chances. I mean, so far two people today have contacted me telling me they got their exes back so it is definitely possible.

Kelly

September 23, 2013 at 12:00 am

I dated this guy for 2 years, we were together all day everyday literally inseparable, and then I broke up with him I have no idea why, I was stupid and I thought I could do much better even though he treated me like a princess . A few months later he got a new girlfriend and now they have been dating for about 3 months. Me and him still talk as friends, but I still love him and you can tell we both are not completely over each other. How can I get him back? I really hurt him. Hes a senior enlisted to go into the marines as soon as he graduates and I want time with him again more than just a friend before he leaves, please help.

admin

September 24, 2013 at 2:08 am

You need to work on reigniting his feelings.

However, you also need to take into account that he will be leaving to go to the marines so a ending tag is already placed on the relationship unless you want to do LD.

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