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Ella
November 29, 2013 at 6:57 pm
I was in 8 year relationship with lots of good times and sadly lots of bad times. I decided to leave him after thinking he was not for me. We continued talking to each other and still loved and cared for one another but we both accepted that things weren’t working out ( I wanted more love, care, affection etc and although he was giving, I just felt it wasn’t enough as I wanted more) so we agreed to be good friends as we shared history and special times together plus we had a great friendship. Months past and he took me out to celebrate my birthday, it was great seeing him and I got the butterflies as always. A few more months past and he told me he was out on a date! My heart broke, my anxiety kicked in as I realised how much I loved him and wanted him back (I always though we would and never thought another girl would come into the equation. He has been with her for 6 months and tells me that he still loves me as a friend but he is now with her so cannot see me as it wouldn’t be fair on her (I totally get and respect) but I love him so so so much. He said that if he wasn’t with her things would be different, he also said tonight that he loved her when I asked but based on his tone, Im not sure if it was fact or fiction?? Tonight I text him asking him to rethink and reconsider our relationship, focus on the good times and resolve the bad by accepting the fact, I made a mistake as only now I realise that there was lots of positive emotion from him but a lack of realisation from me…..I also asked him to tell me if he really loves her and if so to tell me and put me out my misery, however no reply…..I don’t know her, don’t want to hurt her but I want my 8 year relationship back. What to do? What to think? Please advise all. I left him a year ago but as soon as the new girl came on the scene, our relationship has wilted.
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:47 am
Have you been able to try a NC yet?
Ella
November 30, 2013 at 5:02 pm
yes, initially for over a month. Today he told me that he is happy with his new gf. He told me he has moved on and so should I. He told me that we weren’t working and doesn’t want me back not because I did anything wrong but just how he doesn’t love me anymore
Liv
November 29, 2013 at 5:24 am
So I went through no contact and texted him the first convo and it went well. A few days later I hadn’t texted him again yet, and I saw a picture posted by another girl with him, like they were together, which really annoyed me, because I knew the girl, and it just sucked to see. So the next day I texted him with the second conversation starter, bringing up an old, good memory. And the new girl texted me back, apparently, with this “Uhm. Me and (my ex) switched phones tonight. This is (new girl). Sounds like a fun night though.”
And I didn’t respond. I don’t know if it was really her, or him being immature, but its been a week now and there hasn’t been anything between any of us. What do I do?
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:18 am
Does the new girl have rebound signs?
Liv
November 30, 2013 at 4:37 am
I know that they had fooled around with each other in the past, way before me, and they had been friends before and since. And she has always wanted him, but he started dating me for a while, and then ended it abruptly. I then saw them together with their friends a week after we broke up, and then I saw that picture after I got through NC. So, I think yes, but I’m not really sure.
Sara
November 29, 2013 at 4:53 am
Hi chris,
Was wondering if you can help me as I’m confused to my bones,
My ex boyfriend and I were in a rocky relationship since we dated, due to the fact he couldn’t fully commit, so I ended our relationship last April (cause I’m pretty much sick of it) despite the fact that I’m still in love with him and him disagreeing on our separation. during summer I dated a guy I had a crush on (as a rebound). However my ex kept on showing up everywhere I hangout, but I still ignored him (which I kinda feel bad about). Eventually he found out I was dating someone else. So he went out on a date with my friend (prior to this he signed up on a dating site and was asking few other girls,) so I was wondering if he is just rebounding my friend? It hurts a lot especially the fact that my friend knows I’m not over him yet, anyways I have applied the NC, after 30 days I texted him to know how he really feels for my friend to give me a piece of mind, but he hasn’t responded yet. What should I do? I really want him back!
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:18 am
Ok your problem is you sent a relationship text. You aren’t supposed to do that yet.
brit
November 29, 2013 at 3:23 am
i was with my lil girls father for 6 years. in love since 16 i ledt him 6 months ago. i have been wanting him back for about 4 months now”an he has aone girlfriend but that has already ended an he is with a new one! i went crazy on both of them. how do i make him.want me again?
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:12 am
🙁 sorry abou tthe breakup.
Could the new gf be a rebound?
Emily
November 29, 2013 at 12:51 am
hello and happy thanksgiving!
I just got finished with second text convo with my ex and they’ve been pretty positive. when I mentioned things we did, he would say they were such fun times. he asked me how my thanksgiving is going and he said his was ok but that he was with his gf’s family! I kinda freaked since they’ve only been dating a month but it seems like it’s getting pretty serious between them. should I be worrying? he seems like he’s happy to talk with me and seems distant when I end the conversations which gave me some hope, but now I’m worried. for example, when he told me he was with his girls family, I decided to cut off the conversation and he said, ” alright :/ enjoy you’re day, hope you’re well” so I’m so confused! I appreciate your help!
Janine
November 28, 2013 at 2:50 pm
I was with my ex for a year. I was falling in love but I found out through a friend that he was active on an online dating site. I confronted him and he admitted it. He told me he would never love me and his feelings just weren’t evolving. How can you know you’ll never love a person? There was no warning sighs and we almost always had amazing times together. So that was really hurtful. I tried to stay “friends” with him after we broke up but it was really FWB which I know made me look pathetic. Anyways I’m starting NC now. The crazy thing is that I want him back so bad. There is no denying we have a connection. Unfortunately he’s dating a new girl right now. I know I have to decide for myself but I guess I’m wondering if it’s even worth it to try to get someone back who said they would never love you?
admin
November 29, 2013 at 1:52 am
Good for you for trying the NC rule!
I think its worth it to try b/c remember NC isn’t only for them. It is also for you.
Life_Bliss
November 29, 2013 at 1:17 pm
y u not replying on my thread ?
🙁
admin
November 30, 2013 at 4:34 am
I am sorry have I not replied?
Melissa
November 28, 2013 at 12:15 pm
HI,
I found about my ex whom I dated for 4 years is dating with a girl I suspected him being with whilst we were together. He used to be her teacher and I got an inkling something was going on but he denied it and said that she is so small etc. I feel abit upset because there was a good chance that this was happening whilst we were together. We experienced some problems late last year, we took a break and got back together but he did not want anyone to know that we back on track. Anyway, when I found recently that they were dating, I felt betrayed. Part of me wanted to call him and ask him why he disrespected me and not tell me the truth, but I thought about my options and I decided not to contact him because it would be futile. I learnt alot from what happened and I know coming across as unaffected by this is better than opening a can of worms.
admin
November 29, 2013 at 1:50 am
Well, have you tried any type of NC yet?
Deanee
November 28, 2013 at 6:12 am
Hi! Im still inlove with my ex . it’s been 2 years we didn’t see each other he migrated to canada last 2 years and I don’t know if he’s moved on already or what. What am I gonna do?
admin
November 29, 2013 at 1:30 am
So, I would be right in assuming that your relationship is a long distance one now?
Deanee
November 30, 2013 at 11:55 am
ahmm. we’re not in a relationship. but yes we’re in long distance .
admin
November 30, 2013 at 7:14 pm
You might want to check out the how to get a LDR ex back guide I put together.
Lola
November 27, 2013 at 5:56 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, Chris!:)
admin
November 27, 2013 at 7:30 pm
Your so sweet Thank You!
Lola
November 30, 2013 at 4:22 am
You’re welcome, you’re so sweet to all of us:)
admin
November 30, 2013 at 5:10 am
Hey thanks for reading the site. I owe you guys!
Stefanie
November 27, 2013 at 4:59 pm
Hi Chris, great site!
We broke up last week after I realized he liked another girl. We dated for almost a year and a half. the last 5 months were really messy we kept breaking up and get back together. however in the end I know I still have lots of feelings for him. He and the other girl are flirting and such, but they are not official yet. He is still a little bit shaky about his decision leaving me for the other girl. He still texts that he misses and wants to talk to me. I really want him back but I don’t know is the 30 NC is a good choice at the moment. Should I do 15 days instead? And how do I prevent him from making me a booty call?
admin
November 27, 2013 at 8:39 pm
15 days will work!
Callie
November 26, 2013 at 7:55 am
i’ve been with this guy for 8 months in a long distance relationship. he lives in Illinois and I live in California (I moved away) and yea I did read the long distance guide. we broke up a few months ago. at first, we ended it mutually, then I realized that I still wanted to be with him but, it was too late and he started going out with another girl a week after. i got pissed and did things that I should not have done and he hated me for two months. i did not contact him at all for a month and he just recently apologized for sending me so many hate messages. he starts asking me how I am doing and helps me with all my problems, and literally became that same sweet guy he was when we were in a relationship. he is still with that girl from two months ago tho so what do i do?
admin
November 26, 2013 at 8:13 pm
Have you read the LDR post yet?
Brittany
November 26, 2013 at 2:28 am
IM DESPERATE! someone please help me.
I have been with my ex boyfriend for about 10 months. Our relationship was great we spent 24/7 with eachother. But I needed some space from him and I broke up with him and he decided to stop chasing after me ( I tried to leave him before). when we broke up I went about a whole month with out talking to him and in this month I had sex with another guy. One day we started talking again, he told me he was broken and he cried and even said he wanted to committee suicide after we broke up. I told him while we broke up I had sex with another guy. He continued to talk to me, and we even hung out again. Then about a week later he got a girlfriend, and told me to leave him alone. We had plans of seeing each other again and he told me no and to leave him alone. I checked his facebook and him and his new girlfriend have a bunch of pictures together, their always with each other and they go to the same school so see each other all the time. I just wont my boyfriend back and I honestly see myself marrying him. I love him with all my heart and seeing their posts breaks my heat. I made a horrible mistake and will do whatever I have to get him back. Please help me!
admin
November 26, 2013 at 7:48 pm
Have you started NC?
Lola
November 25, 2013 at 2:49 pm
Please help me!
My boyfriend and I broke up 2years ago but we still loved each other. Well, he always told me he still loved me but I was too far down to act on it. So now 2 years later I’m still sure I want to be with him and I’m finally ready to start over BUT now he has a new girlfriend and thanks to her he isn’t allowed to talk to me anymore, so he doens’t.. I tried everything to make him talk to me again, but nothing works. Please help me!
admin
November 25, 2013 at 8:47 pm
Have you tried NC yet?
Lola
November 25, 2013 at 3:16 pm
Also, we live pretty far away from each other, so I never walk in to him by accident..
admin
November 25, 2013 at 8:42 pm
Have you read the guide to long distance?
Kelsey
November 25, 2013 at 1:55 pm
Ok so me and my boyfriend were together for 5months but he started to act strange and started becoming distant when I confronted him about it he said it was nothing just stress from work, but then a couple of weeks later he broke it off and I was devastated he got a new girlfriend within a week of breaking up with me I kinda suspect that he was cheating on me with her but I don’t know for sure hes not the type to do that.I’m still madly in love with him and want him back so bad,We started talking again last week and we’e civil towards each other even tho i really want him back and just want to slag his girlfriend off I manage to hold myself back cause I don’t want him to hate me,but things aren’t going so well for them at the moment and he is leaning back towards me is this my chance to get him back? I love him to pieces and want him back I just really don’t wanna mess it up with him
admin
November 25, 2013 at 8:39 pm
Have you done NC yet?
Sarah
November 25, 2013 at 6:24 am
My ex boyfriend was my first love we went out for a year and 7 months I’m a senior and it’s his first year in college. Our relationship was perfect well you know the actual love happy relationship we made eachother a promise that we were never gonna leave eachother he would tell me baby I love you so much we already planned out our future together and everything. He was crazy about we were madly in love eachother he lost his virginity too me and everything. It’s just I wasn’t allowed too date **** between me and my parents were just too complicated an they didn’t know about the relationship except my older sister long story why. Well he broke up with me because he wanted too focus more on ourselves so I was like ya okay an I was crying my eyes out. Long story short he would tell me things like oh I wanna be with you in the future an then no I think me and you should stop talking he wouldn’t make up his damn mind an then it just keeps happening again and again. His family does not like me long story but he told me last night that him and his ex made out when I found out I was crying my eyes out but at the same time I ****** hated him cause that girl cheated on him when they were going out when they went out she was always gone they didn’t have any type of kissing holding hands or anything like that cause she was always out in Compton it was just last night the first time ever when they made out an he said he has feelings but not strong feelings but he plans on going back out with her later on an he’s not gonna talk too other females because he wants too be with her an he tells me **** I just see you as a friend my feelings are completely gone but I still care for you as a friend and I will never ever forget about you I don’t regret going out with you like whatever that’s some BS he tells me he would never take back a cheater but her family loves him an she’s known him for 3 years it’s been 4 months since the breakup an I’m gonna move on but I just feel like I wanna cry all night he acts like me and him had nothing I hate him but thankyou for whoever took time too read this no one understands how much I can’t stand him
By the way he broke up with me over the damn phone an ever since we broke up I haven’t seen him in person-_-Well yeah me and him had our arguments and he said he doesn’t wanna take anymore chances cause he thinks it’s gonna happen again when he already knows the fact that I’ve changed like okay your gonna give some girl a chance that cheated on you an **** another chance but if she cheats don’t come crying back too me -_- cause I just regret everything so many promises he said too me just full of regrets 🙁
admin
November 25, 2013 at 8:10 pm
Have you been in the NC yet?
Sarah
November 26, 2013 at 5:42 am
No 🙁 I can’t help it him and his ex who cheated on him are dating and I asked him today do you still care for me and he said yeah but as a friend and as a person that’s it nothing more then that an my friends kept texting him idk why cause they don’t know why he wants too give someone who cheated on him a chance an he just acts like we had nothing like I don’t mean shit I want him back soo bad no one understands :”(
admin
November 26, 2013 at 8:08 pm
I think this site is full of people who understand…
Sarah
November 26, 2013 at 8:48 pm
I know but what should I do? Please give me advice I want him too regret this I want him back soooo bad 🙁
admin
November 27, 2013 at 7:18 pm
Well have you followed any of the advice on the site so far?
nicole harris
November 24, 2013 at 11:38 pm
Hi i havr a shit load of trouble but ill sum it up like this. Im married on my way to divorce. Iv been off and on for 13 years with my now ex. We have been back together for alnost 2 years before i found iut he cheated on me. Long story short he chose her andsaid he dont kbow y he nevwr commited to me. Well just about 2 weeks ago everythibg came crashin and he finally decided to leave me. I was doing the NCR before i even read this but he was contacting me. I ignored him but he than got my niece to call me with him onbthe phone. He said he miss me, he really love me and hes gonna keep tabs on me.i asked him y and he could only say u know y. And i dont. What do i do. I love him and do want him back but only if i knew he wuold be serious with only me. Scorpio men are so hard to predict.i know right now im going crazy
admin
November 25, 2013 at 7:37 pm
Hey we are all going crazy! How long have you been in NC for?
Janet
November 24, 2013 at 8:19 pm
not in contact
Lizzy
November 24, 2013 at 6:32 am
I need help , so me & my boyfriend had been going out for a year & something then out of now where he started to act strange & my friends would tell me thing but I tryed not to believe them , but in the end it was true.. He was talking to this other girl one of my friends. & the same exact day we broke up like nothing he said he needed time & space to think that he was fustrarted? I told him it’s wa all a lie that he just wanted to be with the other girl & then later on in the day.. He didn’t text me back or anything the other girl did saying leave him alone he wanted to break up with me & all this stuff.. So yeah. & here I am missing my BESTFRIEND , my other half & he doesn’t even care case he’s got a new girlfriend..
He asked her out finally like two days later. It broke me so much. You have no idea.. His family like me & still talks to me! They don’t like her, thank god. But now she just says stuff bout me j everything when I don’t even care bout them now. Yes I have my moments here & their were I just want him back but I force myself to stay away & to say true to the NO CONTACT RULE .. I just need help I want my other half back.. So bad
admin
November 24, 2013 at 7:46 pm
Well tell me what you are doing during the NC to evolve?
Ashley
November 24, 2013 at 1:29 am
My and my ex we together for 6 years we had our ups and downs! Both of our sides parents came in between… My mom hated him and I swear his family hated me! But we had a baby it was great we loved each other he bagged me for 2years to have one so we did …the I became to a point listening to my mom say he’s no good he doesn’t help and he wasn’t as much as I needed! So we broke up! He moved out…oh let me add that we had a little break up b4 our really bad break up it was like a break…. He met this stripper I saw it on Instagram I freaked out on him and he stopped talking to her and we started dating again ….now this time! We broke up he was really hurt called me all the time crying sending me flowers and all but hey I was so mad that he met and got with this nasty stripper so I met someone a week after I left him he was hurt but I didn’t care cuz he hurt me bad! So a month goes on and I find out he’s with the stripper and yes now she’s pregnant….. I’m so hurt I really am I thought I loved him so much and now it makes me sick that we won’t raise our baby together… I just want him back with his real family she was a rebound so y r they having a baby? Y doesn’t he care to want me or this baby am I wrong to want him back?
admin
November 24, 2013 at 7:22 pm
Have you tried a no contact rule yet.
Ashley
November 24, 2013 at 11:05 pm
Yes we have been apart for almost a year now and nothing! It’s like he doesn’t care anymore how can I show him that we should b a family again…. I miss his so much I hate looking at my baby and thinking he’s not going to b with us raising her! In the first couple months he tried to get back with me so hard but I was in La la land with this new boyfriend I met that showed me a fairy tale but now I’m realizing that my fairy tale was with my ex I really do love him and want nothing more but us back! But he got that stupid stripper pregnant I’m pissed but I really believe we r meant to b a family! Like does he not love me anymore? Has it been to long? Is he really that serious with his stripper! I can’t c him being that happy with her….
admin
November 25, 2013 at 7:34 pm
Do you think he has commitment issues?
Eva
November 23, 2013 at 10:24 am
We broke up a few months ago .my so called best friend ruined my reltaionship so instead of sorting it out …we just broke up and now that he has a new girl I miss him damm much …he texts and rings me up …I act grumpy at times but he admitted he still loves me … What should I do ?please help
admin
November 23, 2013 at 8:31 pm
Well get him back hahahaha