How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

3,819 thoughts on “Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend”

Lorde

December 14, 2013 at 7:57 pm

Okay so I go to school so the no contact rule cant exactly take place. So me and my ex broke up at the end of September and since then, he’s had two girlfriends. He’s with one now, but he seems like he still likes me. I told him I still liked him 2 weeks ago and he’s been acting different. He’s kinda nicer and talks to me more and the other day he hugged me and poked me. Poking is exactly what he used to do to me when he was kinda liking me so my friend asked him if he liked me and he just smiled and walked away. I don’t know if I should get back together with him because number one he has a girlfriend and number two we already went out twice. Plus, he seems jealous of me and 3 of my guy friends because he thinks I like at least two of them. I hang out with one of them alot and the other one he just thinks I like him or we like each other. Yesterday, we were walking the halls and we were literally side by side talking by ourselves, and he was just watching. The other day he moved over to where I was sitting in the classroom with my friend and just sat there. I looked at him and stopped talking. He looked at me. I blinked. He blinked. I laughed. he laughed and walked away. My friend says she wants us to get back together but I dont know. The only thing she keeps telling me is third time’s the charm.
Alexis

December 14, 2013 at 4:21 pm

We’ll I was with my ex for about 10 months and it. Was a good relationship because we always told each other things and we always hung out but he started getting clingy so I broke up with him the n a week later we get back together and he started acting clingy again and I kind of was telling my friends he was a. Stalker when he really wasn’t I was just being rude and then he found out so we broke up again. But we were talking the whole summer after that like we were best friends but then this year it was awkward because we had a class together and we didn’t talk but we sat close to each other and he would always look at me and talk to me and defend me if someone said anything mean. But recently he was talking to some girl and he was saying he had a gf. So I checked his page and there was his girlfriend but I’m like why is he flirting with me and he has a gf . I didn’t say anything but I’ve missed him since we last broke up. Like a lot.
Vivian

December 13, 2013 at 8:56 pm

My ex broke up with his rebound. What is really bothering me is that he was so nice and sweet to her right off the bat. They starting dating a few days after we broke up and he ended it with her about 3 months later, after I started your contact texts 🙂 anyway, he complimented her and bought things for her and he rarely did any of that with me. We have gone out a few times so I know I should just be happy that at least we hang out now and he broke it off with her. But I am really bothered by how great he was to her. Is there any reason why the rebound was treated so much better? I was with him for 3 years and we were going to get engaged right before he broke it off.

Thanks!

admin

December 14, 2013 at 9:58 pm

Have you read my latest guide?

Em

December 13, 2013 at 1:08 am

Hi!

I was with my ex boyfriend for 11 months – 11 magical, somewhat difficult months for me. I was going through a lot of personal stuff, and i was using him as a punching bag (metaphorically). I know we’re meant to be – everyone always said and still says how “perfect” we are, and him breaking up with me has completely destroyed me. It happened about 5 months ago, and we haven’t spoken since (except for once when i asked for my stuff back). I really miss him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and i don’t know what to do… my personal life has improved since i’ve had time to focus on me, but i’d do anything to be with him… I’m trying to get over him, and some days are so much easier than others, but i feel so empty without him… he doesn’t have a girlfriend, and has never been the kind to need someone. I don’t think i could ever imagine anyone else. Any help would be so appreciated.

admin

December 13, 2013 at 7:23 pm

“somewhat difficult” that made me laugh hahaha. 11 magical… somewhat difficult… Hahaha. I can’t help it but that made me giggle.

Alrighty, are you doing NC right now?

Sandra

December 12, 2013 at 8:33 pm

Me and my ex had a mutually agreed break-up, because of the distance, although in our relationship elements like physical attraction, care, trust and respect were never missing. After these 10 months, we both decided to stay friends, but he cannot cope with being just friends, despite the civil break-up (and we were also friends before we got romatically involved). Therefore, we limit ourselves to birthday wishes and the occasional “like” on FB. Deep-down I miss him, although I’m aware that distance complicates things a lot. His new grilfriend is from his city and his group of friends, and she has always been in love with him, but he had never made her a priority in the romantic department. Until now: about 2-3 weeks after our break-up, he is officially and happily in a relationship with this girl whom he has never been “that into”. And what did I do? Briefly, I told him I understood his choice and wished him well. He didn’t even have the courage to reply, at least to give a small aknowledgement/explanation, especially given the fact that I was ok with things. In the meantime, I’ve been taking care of myself, and my professional and social life, on which he is surely updated via Facebook and mutual friends and aquaintances. 😉

admin

December 13, 2013 at 7:07 pm

To me it sounds like you are being extremely smart about things…

Have you read my latest guide?

Alexia

December 12, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Do u think it is possible for my ex and I to get back together. We were together for 14 yrs and we have a 9 yrs old son. I broke up with him on Oct 11 and “about a week and a half later he started talking to his 1st baby mama who he has not spoken to in 14 yrs. she also has his child but he wasn’t involved in their lives.
They seem to be getting really close and he’s buying her all these Christmas presents and spending all his time with her. She got pregnant when she was 14 and he was 16 a few months before he met me. The break up was bad cause I couldn’t believe he jumped to her. I haven’t spoken to him at all in 2 weeks. Is it too late to get him back?

Alexia

December 15, 2013 at 4:18 am

Any thoughts

Lola

December 11, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Hey Chris, how are you?

5 months of (absolute!!) No Contact. There’s a little more than a week left till my ex’s B’day, and to remind you, I am planning on going to his work to give him a gift. He is dating another girl for about 6 month now, and I heard that they are going to be moving in together in a few months…

Logic tells me that I should just cancel the whole trip to his work, but my heart just keeps hoping against all hopes that him seeing me in person (after almost a year of us not seeing each other) will spark something in his heart… maybe some desire or curiosity…
Maybe after they move in together he’d be still thinking about me and that B’Day surprise…

Question: In your experience, Chris, is there a possibility that a guy who is obviously seriously dating another girl and making plans to move in with her, when seeing his old flame (we dated for 8 months), may against his own will start feeling something towards his ex?

Thank you in advance for your response

admin

December 12, 2013 at 1:47 am

5 montns WOW!

With regards to your question… well, I want to be honest with you I think it is possible but highly unlikely.
Lola

December 12, 2013 at 3:34 am

Got it:(. Thank you for your honesty, Chris – we expect nothing less from you:-). Thank you.

Alison

December 10, 2013 at 8:33 pm

I’ve known my ex for 4 years. He lives in another country to me. We were together for 17 months, then he broke up with me after 3 days in college. its been 15 months since we broke up, and i still love him. he recently got a new girlfriend. i just don’t know what i to do.

admin

December 12, 2013 at 1:21 am

Have you read my latest guide?

Joanna

December 10, 2013 at 2:44 pm

Hi! My situation in short: it’s been exactly 2 years since our breakup – we were together for a little more than 1 year. No contact since May 2013. I’ve recovered, feel happy, confident and strong and have figured out that I really do want to get him back, because I miss him as a person and we really did have a special bound. I’ve read about all of your paiges on this site to prepare my moves. In May this year I ran in to him in a club, and he told me he had a new girlfriend. From what I know they are still together but a common friend of us told me (on his own initiative) that my ex still thinks about me and still talks about me.
Questions still there:
– Is it too late?
– Is there a chance that he is rebounding after 2 years? (no relations before this girl)
– I can’t expect him to leave his new chick for me but let’s say this could actually happen: could it be that IIII become the rebound?

Would love some respond or links where I can read more. Thanks!

admin

December 10, 2013 at 7:20 pm

1. No
2. Not likely.
3. Depends on how long the timeframe between his leaving the new chick and dating you is.
Joanna

December 10, 2013 at 2:46 pm

O yeah, the most important question. Is there a way that I can know if he truly DID move on with her, or if it is a rebound? What kind of signs should I be watching out for?
admin

December 10, 2013 at 7:19 pm

You should read my rebound relationship page.

Grace

December 10, 2013 at 3:24 am

My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. We had lived together and were planning to marry and spend the rest of our lives together. Family issues caused me to have to move in with a family friend. Stress and emotional issues with my family caused moodiness and controlling behaviors to form within me which eventually drove him to the breaking point. I didn’t apply the NC rule and we stayed in touch. He eventually called me after breaking down and begged me to take him back. I did, but soon outside opinions made him sway his decision. We then took a break as he put it. We stayed in contact, but then over break didn’t talk for a week. I found last week he has been dating another girl and didn’t tell me. After he found I knew, he confessed with no apology or regard for my feelings. I have not spoken or seen him since. It has been five days. We’ve been through so much. I was his first everything. Do you think he will come back to me? I think our responsibility is to fulfill our commitments to each other. It hurts, but I love him. Flaws and all.

admin

December 10, 2013 at 7:09 pm

Boy you seem like a good girlfriend haha.

Have you read my latest guide?

alex

December 9, 2013 at 7:41 pm

We broke up 3 years ago, I did the no contact, we are still in contact but he has a live in girl friend right after

admin

December 10, 2013 at 6:41 pm

Have you read my latest guide?

Karen Lovett

December 9, 2013 at 1:53 pm

My boyfriend and I have gone together on and off for 10 years. I finally got really mad bc he had a chance to marry me 3 times. One time we actually found a ring. He paid some money down on it. It never happened. He was goodlooking, sweet and could also be mean, verbally abusive and unkind. He had luekemia and is now healded. I got tired of him never wanting to livein or marry me. I told him so. I didnt contact him for 4 months. He sent me pictures, then one day he stopped. I texted him and he is now with a woman he says whom he is living with, who owns a store and can be with him whenever he wants, and travels. My job didnt allow that. I had too many issues with roommates, my daughter and grandson. He calls himself, the teacher, and loves the way she is new and fresh at what they do in bed especially. He is a great communicator and most likely tells her the wonderful stuff he told me. Is there a chance of getting him back? I was his Christmas everyday…and now she is!

admin

December 9, 2013 at 7:53 pm

Would you be willing to do a no contact rule.

Oh, and you might want to check out my latest guide.

mirabel

December 9, 2013 at 6:41 am

I have an Ex boyfriend whom i dated 4 six yrs before breaking up wit him. I moved on wit my life and dsame wit him too. But since then, i avnt bn mysef in my new relationship. I never feel true hapiness of soul wit this new guy cos he never understand me.but i like this guy because he tried in providin my needs. I now fond out that i truley luv my Ex bcause I cant stop thinkin about him. We do still keep in contact sometimes but he is now in relationship with someone else. I really wants my Ex back because I love him. Pls help me on how to go abt it. Thank you. Pls Reply

admin

December 9, 2013 at 7:35 pm

Have you read my latest guide?

Kendall

December 6, 2013 at 5:33 pm

Hi Chris!

I have been broken up with my ex for 3 months now however we have been talking once every few days since then (but we have not seen each other because we live a few hours away from each other) Recently, I heard he has been dating someone else. A few weeks ago, I confronted him about it and said how I was happy for him but confused why he didn’t tell me. He said that he did not want to hurt me in any way thats why he didn’t tell me and apologized. He continued by saying he needed space from me because he needs time to get himself together. We have been in NC for over 2 weeks. After the 30 days should I text him? Or I just continue giving him space as he said he needed?

admin

December 6, 2013 at 8:14 pm

Yes you should and I also have something special coming up that can be hlepful for you.
Kendall

December 6, 2013 at 5:43 pm

P.S. I am very in love with him and need to get him back!!

fariza fathima

December 6, 2013 at 4:09 am

i had a long relationship which was about 1 and a half years we still havnt moved on i heard that he proposed a girl who is more beautiful and who talks to him a lot .they used to call eachother but even now he is saying that he only love me and he dont love her she is only like his sister but some are saying that he gave treat to them as he got her but when i askd him he agreed that he used to call her long back

ainee

January 10, 2014 at 2:43 pm

This person is surely lying to u.. he man did the same.. lies n lies every time 🙁 even kasmein stuff..
Juliet marie

December 29, 2013 at 6:22 am

I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago. We had been together for 2 years. He meant the world to me but we had a lot of stress in our relationship since he moved and distance was an issue. We made the best with what we had but i was going off to college and really wanted to focus on that. He said he understood and after we Broke up we didn’t fight and it’s Luke when we first started off as best friends. It was hard to break up with him but I thought our love was so strong that I would we able to be with him later on. He and I would wrote letters to each other and in one he said that a piece of his heart would always belong to me. We kept in touch until 4 weeks ago because I was studying for my finals. When I check instagram and he had a new gf. I’m broken and I want him back.I miss his smell his lips and his everything. I don’t know if I should let him go or keep fighting to get him back? Should I not talk to him for those 30 days? I’m scared he will forget I even exist anymore. Help
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:55 pm

I have something coming out this weekend that I think you will find very helpful.

Lexi

December 6, 2013 at 2:46 am

This is my story. Me and my ex were together for 1 month. we were perfect together, we never got in fights or anything. But one day he told me it was over it broke my heart. After me and him broke up i tryed to kill myself. He was my 1st real love. The day after we broke up he texted me saying he was sorry and he loved me. I tryed everything to get him back. We broke up December 16th 2012. Me and him talked for 1 month then he told me he migth date me again, i waited 4 weeks and nothing so i asked him out and he told me he wanted to stay singel for a while and the next day i found out he had a new grilfriend. After they broke he was going to ask me out on Valintes day but didnt because he found someone bettter. Hes play me for almost a year now. Idk why i love him. Hes my true love! please help me get him back! please!!!!

admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:51 pm

I may have something coming out for you that can be really helpful.

Second Time

December 6, 2013 at 1:44 am

Well I found out that he cheated on me with the girl he is with now. The latter part of our relationship, which I had already assumed but he told me this. So now he texts me saying how he has to live with the guilt of what he did to me but now they are together after we had not even been broken up for 3 months before they became “official”. He tells me he’s trying to work on being faithful. (How do you do that with the girl you cheated on me with?!) he tells me and other ppl that he loves me and always will but doesn’t want to be with me bc of his guilt… Or something… As I said before she works for him and lives with him and his 3 roommates so now knowing this I’m starting a 45 day no contact to see if I even want him back and also to really get back out on the dating scene. When he told me about his infidelity, I wasn’t even really upset or sad. I was just kind of disgusted. I’m curious to know your thoughts on his current situation and what you think about my plan, moving forward.

admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:48 pm

Can I ask if you even want him back now?
Second Time

December 10, 2013 at 2:35 am

I don’t even know to be honest. All of me says no. But part of me wonders.

Ps love your newest post!

BrokeninLA

December 6, 2013 at 12:57 am

Hi there-

I’m 3 months out of my 6 year long relationship. I’m still very broken up about it. We were off/on for those 6 years and every time we were off…I was the one who initated the breakup. This time he did. And 2 weeks after he broke things off, he had a new girlfriend (someone he works with). I’m trying to reconcile all these emotions but it’s been very difficult. We were best friends for years before we even started dating, we have a lot of the same friends and I’m mourning the loss of not just my boyfriend, but my best friend. He cut off all contact with me. We saw each other 1 month ago and he told me he loved me and held me and kissed me. He said he was going through something and didn’t know what it was. Then he dissappeared again entirely. He won’t respond to any of my methods of contact (I haven’t contacted him in 2 weeks now). I’m so confused and hurt. I want him back. It seems he and this new girl have moved full steam ahead and are in a full-blown relationship now. I don’t even know if he thinks about me anymore. It’s weird to me that you can be with someone for 6 years and then just replace them without a second thought. But it seems that’s what he’s done. I’ve been focusing on me: working out, going out, even trying to date new guys…but I’m still in love with me ex. My question is: am I a fool to think he will ever come back? And is the new girl just a rebound? I’m so confused….

admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:46 pm

I have something coming up this weekend for you that will help you tremendously!

bri

December 5, 2013 at 12:58 am

Here’s my story, so I went out with this guy for 8 months. It was a seriouse and perfect relationship. We were both very in love with eachother. We met eachothers others family, I was his longest relationship. I really thought we would make it to a year.. we always would be with eachother and I just knew he loved me, it wasn’t fake it couldn’t be. I could tell by the look in his eyes and the feeling was just so real. He gave me his sweaters everytime it was cold even if it meant he would be freezing.. he bought us matching shirts and bracletts with eachothers names on it. We wrote eachother letters and got eachother gifts on our birthday.. you think he still has all those things? Anyways I guess I’m trying to say we were reay close and In love.. but now he has a new girlfriend 🙁 we go to school together , I always catch him looking at me and ever since he got with her he doesn’t talk to me or say hi that much.. but before he got with her he told me he loved me still and missed me and my kisses and that he couldn’t be like that with anyone else and he missed how everything was.. also I should add he said he doesn’t know what he wants. Recently I had gotten with another guy (which only lasted a few days cuz I have feelings for my ex still) & he told my friend that my ex’s friend told him my ex was pissed and mad asf when I got with him but he has a gf? (Btw I don’t have feelings for the other guy we are good friends) could it be possible he still has feelings for me? What can I do to get him back I would really like that 🙁 ♥ today in p.e he switched to my p.e period and I saw him looking at me for the whole time and even my friend saw. Thank you for taking your time to help me!:)

admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:28 pm

Maybe you can attempt some sort of limited contact rule.

Olivia

December 3, 2013 at 4:34 pm

I was in an almost 3 year relationship that ended about 9 months ago. My Ex left me for his Ex. I wish I would have found this website earlier because in the beginning I did at least half (if not more) of the things you suggest I shouldn’t. From March until May I was always trying to talk, clear the air, become friends, keep in touch with his family, initiate basic conversation stuff like that. Most of the conversations ended in arguments because obviously we both still had built up feelings. In May one massive argument lead to no talking until Mid July. In July I found a bunch of his stuff still at my house. I boxed it up and left it outside his house and texted him telling him it was there. I wasn’t looking for any kind of response. I just figured be the better person,instead of throwing it out. He blew up at this telling me I had no right coming near his house, and that he “cant keep doing this with me”. I left it alone and slept it off. The next morning he texted me continuing the argument from the night before. This escalated to the worst argument we EVER had. I took this as a no contact period naturally. I went about the rest of the summer focusing on me. August, after not seeing each other for 5 months and not speaking for almost 2 months he shows up at my job randomly because he was in the neighborhood and “wanted to see how I was”. I stayed low keyed the rest of the month, only wishing him a happy birthday and keeping the conversation short. September rolled around and he reached out to me. He asked about how I was, my family, my job and wrote me a long whole apology about how I didn’t deserve anything that he’s done to me. This whole time he is still with his new gf. I responded and we were getting alone fine. I thought we reached a point where we could be friends but I wasn’t opposed to the idea of getting him back either. From September until early November we took turns initiating conversation and talked at least 3 times a week. No arguments, a little flirting, everyone’s happy. We even hung out once after not seeing each other in months and I watched him dodge a call from his girlfriend while we were hanging out. We hung out and laughed exactly like we used to. Next day asks me to hang out again but I didn’t. I laid low. About 3 weeks ago he stopped talking to me. I was kind of confused and naturally pissed. I assumed his gf found out he’s been talking to me and they fought about it and he didn’t want to cause problems with her. So I thought now would be a great time to just cut him off completely. 3 weeks go by no hey, how are you, happy thanksgiving, NOTHING. I didn’t say a word either. Last night out of no where he texts me. I ignored it. Woke up to another text (I know it was killing him that I didn’t answer last night because I always answer). Which brings me to now. I guess my question is, even though we’ve been on and off talking, is it too late to try NC and bring the conversations back into my control? If he’s still putting in effort months later is there still a shot?

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:14 pm

Nope I think you can still try it.
Olivia

December 3, 2013 at 4:49 pm

PS: I know you say that if he leaves you for someone else then he isn’t worth getting back. But I’m just curious (:

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