How To Get Your Ex Back When He's Moved On To A New Girl

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Olivia

December 31, 2013 at 4:52 pm

Hi. My boyfriend and I broke up last week. This is the second major breakup in our almost 4 years of dating. We have been having a lot of problems since I left for college over 3 hours away, but we had a great summer together. About two weeks ago he said we needed a break, but he said he didn’t want anyone to get in-between us. I know he texts and snapchats others. Girls, but I trust him. During our break he would text me asking if I was happy that we split up. I would reply saying I’m okay, but not happy. He texted me at midnight Merry Christmas and he came over on Christmas and I gave him his Christmas presents which were a lot of nice things. He didn’t know what to get me so he got me chocolate and I said he owed me a dinner out, he agreed. The next day I texted him, trying to get back to officially dating. He said that we were done for good that he didn’t have the same feelings for me anymore. My one friend told me that he had hung out with the girl he had been texting. This was during our short break. Now I am just completely heartbroken. I know I have made a lot of mistakes already by bringing all his things to his house and having a major breakdown and saying that I didn’t want to live. His Dad was recently diagnosed with testicular cancer and had surgery yesterday. I went over to get my things that I left. He was upset because he was about to leave for the hospital. I gave him a full body massage and we kissed a little. He tried not to but it happened. We hugged a lot and he was nice, except saying that we were done. And today I went back over because I was feeling really depressed. I layed Down in his bed telling him I was scared what I might do, but he just kept telling me to go home. I ignored him and wouldn’t listen. I feel so dumb now. He carried me out to his couch while he watched a movie. We talked and he kept saying our time was done. I had to leave because I had a doctors appointment and he told me to text him later about How it went and we hugged and I left. Is there anyway to get him back?

olivia

January 5, 2014 at 11:24 am

What do I do?

Melissa

December 31, 2013 at 6:32 am

Hi Chris,

It’s me again…. though you probably don’t remember because you see so many comments everyday ;P

My story is the one where I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and he left me for someone he met online… We did the gift exchange yesterday and we both cried and he kept saying how beautiful I looked and how good I looked also (I’ve lost some weight since the break up)

He told me he was going to see her Jan 10th but today I found out he decided to go earlier which will be this Thursday.
A part of me is hopeful because maybe he’ll be able to compare her and I and maybe he won’t like her in person like he did online.. but another part of me is very worried he will fall for her even more.

I know I shouldn’t even want him back since he left me for someone he was talking to for only a week before breaking up with me but a part of me understands… I was his first everything. I can see why he’d want to explore other things.

All of this to ask.. Is there a point holding on to hope? I’m definitely doing NCR. I just want to know if there’s a point. I’m so scared of him coming back from there and him texting me and letting me know he’s going to block my number and we are completely over and to never talk to him again.

admin

January 1, 2014 at 11:00 pm

I get a lot of comemnts haha.

I think there is a point to it but the thing to remember is to have backup plans in place in case things don’t go well you can still kind of make progress if that makes any sense.

Liz

December 30, 2013 at 5:25 pm

Hi Chris. Me and my ex were only dating a a few months intil he broke it off. He was ignoring me for three days and I tryed to call and text him like crazy intil third day I texted “I dont know what I did wrong but I love you and I want us to work out.” He replied ” Its not you its your parents your mom and dad has been getting on to me about our relationship and I cant handle it.” (My dad only called him once and my mom has sent a little merry Christmas text. My dad said that he only called him and asked him nicely whats going on because he had seen me crying about him. Or at least that is what he said.) I texted him back and said ” I talk to them to stop calling and texting you just please I love you and I want this to work out.” After that I read your guide saying how to get your ex boyfriend back and how to get your ex boyfriend back that has a new girlfriend, and it did help. But the morning he broke up with me one of his best friends devin told me he had a new girlfriend the night before he broke up. I asked devin if she was a rebound and who is she and he said ” I dont know her name and I dont know if she is or not.” Then later on that night my ex messaged me on facebook at four in the morning saying. “Guess were done. Well good luck in life. Im deleting my facebook and changing my number in the morning so yeah.” I woke up at 7 and saw that and made a mistake saying, “I have heard from devin thar you already found someone else. I tried to talk to you about working things out and you didnt reply back so I guess that means you didnt want to. Do you want to get back together and work things out with me or not?”. Its now 11 and I havent heard anything back from him (he hasnt deleted his Facebook yet). If he does delete his facebook and change his number, can I still apply the no contact rule? Did I just totally screw up my chances by that facebook message? Is there anything else I could do? Please help me I really miss him and I dont know what to do without him/:
Kat

December 30, 2013 at 9:55 am

Ok, so a week ago my boyfriend broke up. Throughout this week he has been saying he still loves me and wants to be with me in the future but for now he needs time for himself. Yesterday we went for a hike and we were acting just like a couple again and he told me he loved me. Now today, he told me he has a girlfriend. My entire mind was blown. I love him so much and we saw a future together. How do I get him back?!
erica

December 29, 2013 at 2:18 am

Hello, me and my ex boyfriend were together for only like two weeks and he showed so much care with in those two weeks and was in love with me I don’t know how but yeah. There was this boy I really liked and told my ex about before we started dating and I haven’t seen the boy for three months. Then the after the two weeks of dating I was him again and of course I imediatly brake up with the first boy. And went to the other boy and me and the other boy dated for four months. This boy was really annoying and I couldn’t take it no more so I broke up with him. But when I was with him my ex boyfriend would text me and still call me at first we got in mad fight but then we agreed to stop fighting and he still liked me after four months and I started to like him again so when I broke up with the other boy I went back to him butbwithbmy luck he had a girlfriend and I told him how I felt and he believed me and I’m he’s sick of his girl friend because they fight all the time and I’m he wants to come back to me but he won’t let her go. I have no idea what to do but I’m going crazy over him!

admin

December 29, 2013 at 6:55 pm

Are you currently in NC?

Jaiden

December 28, 2013 at 3:23 pm

My ex and I were in a relationship for about 6 months. During these 6 months (although it felt longer), I was the first girl to meet his parents. The first girl he ever bought stuff for. The first girl he ever take out on dates. And basically the first for a lot of things. We broke up because we argued over little things a lot and he said he was done with my attitude. When we broke up, he told me that he’s not just gonna jump to another girl he just wanted to enjoy himself. There was a day after the break up we were talking normally enjoying each other’s company. the next day and so on, he cut me off. But one day I asked him if there will be a day when he will wake up and like me again. He said yes. I asked him is that day before May (because our anniversary is in May) and he also said yes. From there we never spoke again but I do see him at school everyday. We have different classes but all in the same hallway. I also see him during lunch He have a girlfriend now, she’s a grade above him and they sit together during lunch. Im wondering if it’s a rebound relationship. It’s been a month and some days since our break up. Or is it possible he really moved on.. I really misses him and love him. I cry almost every night wishing he’d come back.
Selve

December 28, 2013 at 7:28 am

Hello Chris :),

My story is that I was with this guy for 3 years, and I decided one day to leave him because we were fighting a lot. He tried to get me back several times after that without success, now it’s been 3 1/2 months and he got a new girlfriend. We hang out separately but at the same places, since we live in the same area. I dated a guy after him but realized I only wanted my ex back, I really miss him. Him & I are still in contact as I loaned him a lot of money and he is trying to pay me back. Will the No Contact rule work in my situation? I appreciate your help Chris! 🙂

Thank you
emilia

December 27, 2013 at 3:36 pm

My ex left me without giving me much of a reason 3 weeks ago.. We got in a fight & I told him he seemed unhappy and if he wanted to break up to grow a pair and do it 😡 so he did. I’ve been in NC for 19 days.. I caved and checked his facebook last night and the week after we broke up he became friends with a girl and from their comments it looks like somethings going on.. I was feeling much better until I saw this now I feel back to square one. I was planning on texting him next week after the 30 days but now I’m having second thoughts.. My friends all say “There’s no way he met this girl within a week and they are already talking he must have left you for her” I Know you are not psychic but what do you think? If I got dumped for another chick I don’t want to make myself look dumb by texting him..
Miranda

December 25, 2013 at 9:27 pm

Hey there!
I need your advice what to do….my boyfriend left me in february this year…we have been apart now about 10 months…all this time we have been in contact sending messages or calling. This July he said that he is seeing someone….he said that they have met about 8 times. After he told me that he started to be closer with me….i was thinking that he didn`t date that woman anymore because he was so close with me…..but…last friday he told me that he has another woman…and it`s the same he was dating with in the summer. He told me that he loves me so much!!! We were together over 2 years and before that he loved and wanted me over 6 years. I said to him that i hope that you have made good decicion. And i said to him that i wont contact him and i dont want him to contact me and i dont want to see him. He was crying so much when he told me that he has another woman. What i do know….he send me message friday and saturday but i didn`t answer him nothing…..i haven`t contact him….in this case will the No Contact work????

admin

December 26, 2013 at 6:12 pm

I think it can.
Miranda

December 26, 2013 at 8:41 pm

Thank´s 🙂 He hasen`t contacted me yet…and im going grazy. I´m scared that when im not contacting him…he will get closer with his new girlfriend. I will be strong and i wont contact him. I hope that his new woman is a rebound. He was dating with the new woman…at the same time he send me everyday many messages and we had sex many times when he was dating with this new woman. I think that he dosen´t know what he want´s…I hope that this NO CONTACT will help me to get him back. How long it will take that he will contact me….it seems now hopeless….i haven´t heard from him for 5 days.
admin

December 27, 2013 at 6:57 pm

NC will help but its not the answer to your prayers. You have to do more than that.
Miranda

December 27, 2013 at 9:20 pm

Hello! I know that i have to do more than the NC….But what do mean is the MORE THAN THAT? Now im focusing to myself and trying to do the NC. I know that now and after i send him the first message….i have to be logical..not emotional. Thank´s 🙂
admin

December 28, 2013 at 7:23 pm

Hahah you should really take an hour or two and read this site or grab the E-Book b/c what you do after NC is just as important as NC.
Miranda

December 28, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Thank´s 😉 i have read this site many times….and i think that i get the idea 😉
It has been 6 days of NO CONTACT…and he hasen´t contact me 🙁 I feel my situation is hopeless because he hasen´t contact me 🙁
admin

December 29, 2013 at 6:37 pm

But you are still so early into NC.
Miranda

December 29, 2013 at 7:25 pm

Thank´s 😉 Im so early into NC….im a woman and i think that this is hell 😉
I hope that it´s a good sign that he send me a smileface…but i was waiting something more….yea i know…im a woman …i want everything and fast 😉
I know…i have to be patient. I know that he has been looking everyday that have i been in online in the whatsapp messenger…i only have been there yesterday…..do you think that it´s better that i DONT go online in to the whatsapp messenger or do i use the whatsapp messenger like before? Thank you for everything!
Miranda

January 6, 2014 at 3:41 pm

Chris….Now it´s been 3 days that i haven´t had any messages from my ex-boyfriend….is it normal? Is he now stubborn because i don´t answer to his messages. Do i still keep up the no contact or send him message? Because now i feel that he has forget me…please help me …
Miranda

January 4, 2014 at 2:28 pm

Hey Chris 🙂
What do you think that is it a good sign that my ex send me two messages in one day? I hope that it is a good sign but then…i start to think that he has the new girlfriend and when he sends me messages that he is only playing with me. Friday he didn´t send any messages to me…i hope that today he will send message.
Miranda

January 3, 2014 at 4:24 pm

HELLO! My exboyfriend send me yesterday two messages…the first one he send me was BÖÖÖÖ and the second one was GOOD NIGHT AND HAPPY NEW YEAR.
I hope that this NO CONTACT WILL WORK LIKE I HOPE. Tomorrow is 12 Day of NO CONTACT. I didn´t think that he will send this soon messages 😉
Miranda

December 31, 2013 at 6:12 pm

Happy New Year!!!!! 🙂
Today i went to the whatsapp messenger and my ex send me message when he saw that i was online….he didn´t write anything….there was only smileface without mouth….i don´t know what he meens with that….but i don´t care…then i care when he start´s to write to me.
Miranda

December 30, 2013 at 8:39 pm

..But if i log on to the whatsapp messenger he will see that i am online even if i didn´t go to his chat. I think that it´s better that i don´t go there so often.
Thank´s 🙂
admin

January 1, 2014 at 10:36 pm

Hmmm I think itll be ok still though. Making him wonder isn’t always a bad thing.
admin

December 30, 2013 at 8:14 pm

Obviously the ultimate decision is up to you. I think itll be ok just don’t log on to his chat.
Miranda

December 30, 2013 at 4:23 pm

NC went pretty “good” before ex send me the message..there was only the smileface….because now im waiting more messages…but he dosent send…this drives me crazy. It´s been 9 days NC…i didn´t realize that this is this hard.
Miranda

December 28, 2013 at 10:29 pm

….now he send me message….he didn´t write anything….he only send me a smileface…i didnt answer anything to him…
admin

December 29, 2013 at 6:46 pm

I guess that is a good sing.
Miranda

December 29, 2013 at 5:43 pm

..im thinking that is he only playing with me…because before he didnt send anything and the first time this week when i went to the whatsapp messeger and he saw that i was online in there .. he send the smileyface. Now im going grazy because ..i´m thinking that why he dosen´t send more messages….just only the smileface…yea yea…i know…im a woman 😉
Miranda

December 26, 2013 at 8:52 pm

….and when he told me that he has a another woman…at the same time he was crying and saying that he is scared that i will find a new man into my life….

ashley

December 23, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Me and my Bf of 1 and 1/2 years recently broke up, we have a baby shes just turned 7 months. We broke up because I worked 12hr days when I would come home from work I wiuld nag because I was exhausted, this pushed him to leave alot when I would come home. I would sleep alone most of the times he left, the last straw was when I had to kiss work because he didnt come home on time so I forced him to pack his stuff and leave that same morning. After that our relationship went way down hill, I barely heard from him and so I would get uoset and send him mad text messages, this only pushed him farther. As time went on I found out in FB he had a new Gf, he blocked me and my family I seen it through my friends page. I was so crushed, he never told me and even during that time he told me he loved me and wanted to work things out. At that time I couldn’t accept the fact he wanted me but still was with the other girl. He told me he wouldn’t break up with her until I showed him I would stop with all my crazy messages. Now he moved out of state for a job, im trying to make things work now because I truly miss him and think about him all the time and im alone with our daughter, but now he said theres no chance because of everything I text him,I really said some bad stuff I was really hurt. How can I make this right now?

ashley

December 23, 2013 at 5:17 pm

This all happened at the end of oct, I have read your guidelines above

Pao

December 21, 2013 at 2:20 am

I dated my ex for 2 years. He broke up with me because we were fighting at the time. I fought for him for 3 months and he didn’t want me. I backed away and then he wanted me but a guy started likin me and I just talked to that guy to get my head out of things but we were never a thing. My ex and me were always on and off for about 4 months after the break up. Now he doesn’t want me at all! And I am going crazy because I love that guy more than anything in this world. He is currently talking to a girl which is one of my supposed to be “friends” and I have to deal with seein her everyday and I can’t do this. I want him back more than anything please help.
Mélissa

December 20, 2013 at 11:09 pm

Hello,

First off – I’d like to say, all of you are so strong. So strong. I’ve read this and felt relief but also dread. I’ve been googling “how to get over your ex” and that didn’t work for me so I googled “how to get your ex back”. This works perfectly.

Please, don’t judge me but my ex broke up with me literally a week ago. We were together for 5 years. Had a lot of ups and downs but always came out strong. Together.
I was so blindsided by this break up. We were absolutely fine and nothing was wrong with him. He hadn’t changed. He was perfectly fine.
But one problem: he met someone online a week before breaking up with me. A year ago, my boyfriend posted his Facebook link on his tumblr (a blog) for people to add him. I had no issues with it as jealousy has never been a big thing for me. I trusted him completely. This girl added him they didn’t speak for an entire year until two ago when he posted about going to a concert of his favorite band and they started speaking through Facebook message. She lives 8 hours away in another country. She’s 17 and still in high school. My boyfriend is 20.
He became very infatuated with her and broke up with me after a week of getting to know her. I was a mess (of course) and texted him for 3 days straight and he was being very short and mean and told me he needed space. He said he needed to think about things.

So I gave it to him. I didn’t speak to him for 4 days and wrote him a 4 page letter. He read it and replied apologizing prefusely saying he was now in love with this girl and he has plans to go see her on the 28th of February.
I was on Facebook and saw he was in a relationship with her and she was already saying “I love you” to him… So I obviously deleted him.

Today we spoke and he promised me that if he ever misses me and it doesn’t work out he would come back to me, he requested I still keep on touch and to call him if I ever need him. But if I do that – he won’t miss me.

What I am scared of is going on with the NCR and when he contacts me I’ll ignore him and that’ll make him not want to be with me.
Does him and this girl have any chance of working?

I feel so stupid but we were about to start a future together and I am a mess and I know it’s only been a week but I’ve never been through this.

Thank you.

Eva

December 26, 2013 at 5:53 am

Sounds a lot like a situation I had. An ex broke up with me because we were arguing… he was stressed, there was no sex or intimacy whatsoever. A few weeks later he met someone else online in a different country (but didn’t tell me) and I deleted and blocked him to spare my feelings… and as far as I know he visited her not long afterwards.

Just recently I found out that he’s moved there to be with her. It wouldn’t be so bad if he’d told me himself but to find out from other people was just horrible.

I can’t believe I fell for all his crap… he said he loved me more than he’s ever loved anyone and that I was the love of his life. Ugh… I’ll never make that mistake again!

ana nomus

December 20, 2013 at 7:54 am

My boyfriend and I had just had our 6 month aniversery when out of the blue he dumped me. I figured it was because of this girl that constantly msgd him but he said it was grades. After a late period (sevral) I told him I might be pregnant and he spilled he left me for another girl. I love him but my parents, his closest friends, and I didnt see that comeing. Im trying the first step to ignore him for 30 days. It was hard since we both attend school together but the 30 days are almost up. During that time he has been more affectionate with this girl and even changed his profile ppicture to the two of them. I would love some help with the next step from after the30 day period. Thankyou much :/
Jass

December 20, 2013 at 6:42 am

Me and my ex were together about 3 years. Things started to get rocky and he broke up with me and said he needed space. Well I didn’t give him his space and it ended pushing him away more. So now I found out he is dating a new girl and it broke my heart to pieces. He said he loves me but how do you love someone but you just move on that easy and not taking this is hard as me. He tries to act and throw in my face that the new girl is better than me. I was wondering if I can honestly get my ex back and does he love or even care for me because he acts like I ain’t nothing to him.

admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:39 am

You can but a ceratin amount of this is out of control… That is the most honest answer I can give you.

Marisol168

December 20, 2013 at 4:44 am

My ex and I were on and off for ten months. Around June this year he told me that he has a gf. I was shocked and depressed for a month or so. They’ve been together since then. And I’ve been miserable ever since. I tried the NCR but I texted him two weeks after I started. I really want him back and I’ll do whatever it takes. The only problem I have, is that I have to see his gf everyday at school and it completely sucks!!! And I have to pretend to like her so I can stay friends with him. And they think they’re in love when all they do is text! I need help!!! :'(

anonomous

December 21, 2013 at 10:23 pm

i am in almost the exact situation as you are in.
admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:34 am

Well, first things first. Go ahead and read my latest guide.

D

December 20, 2013 at 12:33 am

Me and my ex were together for 2.5 years. We are both 18 and our love blossomed since we were children – he liked me at 11 and it was only at 15 I decided to take him up on a cinema date. Since then, we’ve been inseparable. However, this year has been tough. On my birthday (1st November), he ended things. I pined for him, turned up at his house, chased him and wrote him a 4 page letter for about 3 weeks. I left content after seeing him, knowing that he knew how I felt and that if he ever did come back, I knew how to make it work. He ended things because he was unsure about us, wanted some time to grow up and discover himself. However, 2 weeks ago I got a ‘I love you’ text but I didn’t respond with the same, I just said that it didn’t matter how he felt if he wasn’t prepared to act on it. We didn’t talk for another week and last Monday he turned up at my house saying he wanted to try things again. We talked over everything, how to take it very very slow and work on ourselves too. But after a few days, he had doubts again. He said in the time we were apart, he used another girl to distract himself from me and now e likes her. He said he loves me so much, misses me and wants to be with me but can’t whilst he has feelings for someone else – he’s known her 2 months!!!! So we’re no contacting again. It seems the prospect of me moving on frightened him last time, but perhaps we should have given it longer so he could eradicate the feelings he has for this girl which have arisen unnaturally. I went to see him tonight and things were great, he loves me but it’s like he’s trying to convince himself it’s not right! He wants to be with me but has feelings for this other girl. How can I make him realise she’s not the one?

admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:24 am

You can’t… HE has to realize it. All you can do is influence him. I recommend reading my latest guide on this topic.

Emily

December 19, 2013 at 10:51 pm

Hi chris me and my boyfriend recently broke up, he said he didn’t feel the same about me anymore we were in a relationship for 3 years but he started having feeling for my friend, i still feel the same about him i just wan to know do you think there is a possibility that we can be together again?

admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:20 am

There is a possibility sure!

Kimmybabe

December 19, 2013 at 6:53 pm

Well, me and my boyfriend broke up 2 years ago, because he cheated on me. For a month I followed the NC rule, and boy it worked. He literally begged me to come back to him, and still does it until now. He had girlfriends along the way, but his friends tell me that his girlfriends get pissed because when he’s drunk he always calls my name, saying he loves me. Ha, during the NC rule, I realized that I did not need him in my life. Thanks!
N/a

December 16, 2013 at 5:33 pm

He contacted me first but my pride wouldn’t let me talk to him and now I regret it because he seems to be happy and I just want him back!!
B

December 15, 2013 at 1:16 am

Hi Chris,

This website has truly been eye opening and somehow I have enjoyed reading it. Here is my situation: My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me last weekend by telling me that he has feelings for another girl. The whole time he was sobbing, but he said he had to follow his heart. This other girl was his best friend during our whole relationship and she even went out of her way to befriend me. The thing is was all go to school together at tiny college. We are about to go on winter break which is perfect for the no contact phase since were from different states. They however are from the same state and live relatively close to each other. Anyways, next semester I will be in one of his classes. We also had booked spring break together the morning before he broke up with me. I am just confused because this girl completely home wrecked but he was crying while he broke up with me. I didn’t even cry until after. What is going on? Our relationship was really really good, and I honestly thought we were really happy together. Obviously, there were a few rough bumps but they were minor and they were caused by her. What do you think he’s thinking and what are the chances their relationship will last (they’re both graduating but he’s coming back for graduate school most likely)? And what are the chances you think I can get him back with you advice from above?